January 31, 2024 • 36 mins
Let's dive into the world of New Year's resolutions and dissect the oh-so-overused phrase, "New Year, New Me". Together, our duo will uncover the absurdity of expecting a complete overhaul of one's existence just because the calendar changes.
Maya Murillo and Curly Velásquez are the hosts of the Super Secret Bestie Club with production support by Karina Riveroll of Sonoro Media in partnership with iHeart Radio's My Cultura Podcast network. If you want to support the podcast, please rate and review our show!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
New Year, New me, I can't get out of bed.
The New Year knew me. I can't get out of bed.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Fuck your sids me.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
I can't get out of.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Bed, and we don't care about your news.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'm sad. I'm sad. I'm yeah sad, sad. Happy New Year.
Everyone four is our year. Guy.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya And welcome to
the Super Secret Prestie Club Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here. Whoa wow,
look at us. It's a new year. It's a brand
(01:00):
new ding suns out. It's a little after twelve.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
For someone else, bank people.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Okay, oh it's a picture this it's two thousand and one.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
How old are you two thousand and one?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't know, like two.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
You wake up and there's a new pop star on
the horizon, and here we are. New Year knew us.
It's twenty twenty four. At this point, guys, we are
already in the mix. We have all probably gone back
to work. We are all back to trying to figure
out piece our lives together in this new year, on
this piece of rock that's just flying through space and
(01:52):
time into absolute darkness, into the abyss.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Did you know they found light years away found a
planet that had.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Like city lights? No way they did, Yeah, city lights?
City lights?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Anyway, listen, I've been a.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Little sad girl lately, Like since this year started, I've
been very much like a little depressing, you know, a
little like hibernation mode and antisocial. And you know when
I saw this TikTok today, it's totally normal. So today
we are talking about the unrealistic expectations of new year,
(02:35):
new me of the new year, expectations that you're just
supposed to be like changed, you.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Know in January.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
First new attitude, new car, new personality, change your name,
change your last name, change your identity, moved to Jamaica.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Start a fishing business. Podcast a fishing podcast. Oh and
that's it, that's what we're supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
About your fishing business. Yeah, did you already tell them? Like,
you know, you're probably waking up feeling a little bloated.
You've eaten a lot over the holidays.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
It's just crazy to me that, you know, for New
Years in comparison to like the holidays we had experienced,
Like five days ago before the New Year's I was
like sitting on the floor eating like a full baked ham,
honey baked ham, and crying on the kitchen floor, Like
(03:36):
and then I'm supposed to be like automatically changed by January.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
First and wanting to.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Start new tradition and wanting to go to the gym
and all this shit, Like no, like I'm still digesting
that honey baked ham.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah. Absolutely. It's like the whole world is like, okay, guys,
it's okay to adul sleep and dress cozy. There's happy music,
everything is good, like, oh, we have time off, and
then suddenly it's like run it up, get back in there,
get to work.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
You were just you were saying in like the LNN
yesterday that like we're also kind of broke from the holidays.
I spent so much freaking money on my nephews this year,
and I'm happy about that and grateful, but like, I
don't have freaking money left over to get a personal
trainer for this new like body that I want, Like,
(04:33):
what's wrong with the body that I have? Now she's fine.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
She's fine. I know. I literally was like we got
to wrap up our energy and our spirits and our
bank accounts because it's just it's a lot. It's like
a lot of stuff that happens. And then it's like
once the CLI like strikes twelve, you're just supposed to
literally instead of turning into a pumpkin, you're supposed to
go from a pumpkin into like a whole ass carriage
(04:59):
that's gonna take cinder relative the ball toimeter through zoom, cullmate.
And it's just a lot of pressure that I'm not
ready for. You know, New Year's is a lot. New
Year's is a lot of lot. It's like some of
us fought with our significant others, some of us texted
our ex boyfriends, some of us peter ourselves in bed,
and by some of us, I mean I did none
(05:20):
of those, but because you know one of those that's
in bed by like twelve ten, I'm like, good night, world, I'm.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Out, Yeah, what did you do for New Year's? This year?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Literally was here with my parents. I got COVID, I
was healed the day of it was tested negative, and
then I was like twelve to ten and I was like,
I'm out, Goodbye world.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I stayed in Joyce was watching the apartment, watching one
of my neighbor's apartments, and so I just went over
to that apartment and you know, we watched there's no
LA Countdown. There's New York, there's London, there's all these places.
There's no LA countdown. And we're like the last ones
to get the countdown. Like even Phoenix Air's ownA my hometown,
(06:01):
it gets the countdown before us. We're the last ones
and we're like happy night. Everyone's like I'm ready past
Dad on the floor. It's already Jeduary? Is there a
January second for us? Like even like on YouTube, the
countdowns are like this. This guy was like, hey, he's
welcome to my countdown. It's almost New Year's and we're like, dude,
(06:23):
where's the freaking party. You know, where's the people who
just want to like watch a fun countdown?
Speaker 3 (06:29):
I don't know. I ringing in the New Year was
a little boring this year.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
It was fun because I was with like one of
my besties and we had a lot of fun. But
usually I go out and I just didn't want to
go out this year.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, I always have, like, to be honest, my whole life,
I've always had like anxiety about the New Year's. Like
I don't know why I have this, knock on wood,
but I've always had this spear of like something big happening,
like there was I think, to be honest, it started
because I was growing up with like Y two K,
So that was like when I was like a preteen,
right was coming. There's always been a lot of like
(07:02):
doomsday around kind of like the New Year's for me
growing up, like you know, Y two K, and then
twenty twelve and.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Then it was like god, you're so right.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Yeah all these things. So I have like this anxiety
around New Year's where I'm very much like just stay home,
Like if you're one of my loved ones and you're
something that I love and you're like I'm staying in.
I don't know why I have, Like I'm always relieved
that my parents aren't leaving. I'm always relieved that, like
you know, my sister is going to stay home with
her family, Like just stay home. That makes me feel
(07:34):
so much better. It certainly does activate me, I think
in ways where I'm like it just feels like a
lot of energy on one night, and I'm like people
are going to be out and drinking and drunk and
fighting and this and driving and.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
And the ubers are expensive and they like take forever
to show up. It's like four o'clock in the morning.
You're waiting on the side of the street and you're.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Like where are you.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
All? So does the new year activate you in any
type of way, like positive or negative?
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Like what do you feel when it's January first?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
And are you one of those people that is like, Okay,
I feel like this new energy is around. I'm gonna
like clean my house, I'm gonna do this and that,
like what do you what's your new year?
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Kind of like moment?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Well, honestly, as you know, I'm like an anomaly, I think,
and I'm also double scorpio, So like transformation for me
is very like I'm always trying to natural.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Yeah, it's just always transforming or like it's.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Very like so like I do a thing where like
every Monday, I'm like, Okay, on Monday, I'm gonna do
this right, Like on Monday, I have to. I almost
feel like if I do something on Monday, it's gonna
set the tone for the week. You know it's gonna
like somehow bleed.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
And already have it.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
You're already on like your own schedule, on my own schedule.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
I will say that there's things about the new year
where people I'm like, okay, and the new year, I
should be doing this, this is what I want to do,
and like it's very easy to as a procrastinator, it's
very easy to go, you know what, next year, I'm
gonna do this. Next year, I'm going to call this person.
Next year, I'm going to do big, big things. And
then you know it's January eighteen, and you're like.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Oh yeah, well, because anyone around this time is when
I think yesterday actually was a national holiday that was
like national throw out your New Year's resolutions. Like by
this time, by the seventeenth eighteenth end of the month
(09:44):
is when people get burnt out from the resolutions and
kind of stop doing that. Oh wow, yes, Like it's
it's been studied. I don't know where, but like I'm
sure it's been studied somewhere, but like I have it
as like what.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
How many how many? I think thirty days.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Yeah, So it just is like I think for me,
I always my mom and I are super super into manifesting,
and so we're always like, what's your word of the
year or what's your thing of Like we have a
debrief of like last year, of the end of the year,
and then we have like a whole different mantra for
(10:21):
the next year. And I find myself at the end
of the year forgetting what my word of the year
was or like my mantra or whatever, because I can't
control the outcome or.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Anything of this year.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Or really, like I really have noticed with my manifestation
process is that I have to not have labels on anything.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I have to go with the flow.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
And I'm like, for sure, like take things into control,
but like, you know, you want to leave room. And
I was telling my mom this the other day, like
there was something that she get that she gets every
single year, like this project. She didn't get signed on
to this project this year, And I go, you know what,
let the producers and the writers of your life write
(11:10):
something up, write something else new, like this is the
fifty ninth season of your show, Like let them create
something else. So I think that's what I'm doing this year,
is I'm like, show me, show me what's gonna be,
what's gonna happen because every year when I have like
a kind of strict schedule or resolution, I always get
(11:31):
so freaking sad because I never accomplish it or it
goes a different way, and.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Then I'm like dang, you know.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
So sometimes it makes me feel you know, unaccomplished, or
I'm also like really bad with commitments sometimes. So I
think for me, it activates me by it makes me
a little bit sad because I feel everybody is being
super productive right out of the gate, like they're going
(11:59):
to the gym and they're doing all these things that
they have like their projects together, like and I kind
of am still digesting everything that happened over the last
couple of months, because it was a couple of months.
You know, It's not like it's just I think it's
so unrealistic to be expected to just change out of nowhere,
(12:22):
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, especially because I feel like, you know, the holiday
seasons can be so activating for a lot of people,
whether you're sober, having to see family that doesn't agree
with your lifestyles or you don't agree with their lifestyles
or whatever it is, and then suddenly you go to
this emotional time, and then you kind of just expect
it to be like, you know, happy and everything is perfect.
(13:00):
I will say that, like I actually don't have New
Year's resolutions usually. I'm not that type of person. Years ago,
there was a thing of like what is not what
are you gonna start doing, but more of like what
do you want to stop doing? You know? I think
when I was in Catholic school when I was younger,
(13:21):
like you know, there's like lens where they go what
are you going to give up? There was teachers that
would say like what are you going to take on?
Like what are the things like? So I think that
like I kind of and I honestly like, if I'm
super honest with you, when I commit to something, it's
it's for life. And so it's very hard. And so
it's very hard for me to commit to things because
(13:41):
if I don't, like I end up feeling really terrible
about myself and I'm just like not the same. So,
like you know, with my sobriety, right, I committed and
I'm like, Nope, that's something that I'm doing forever, Like
I'm not.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
There's no and no dry January. Everyone's doing dry January.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
If I break it, I would be really disappointed in
myself right like with even with my I am a
gym goer, Like I go to the gym a fair
amount of time during the week, and for me, it
helps my mental health and I feel like if I
don't go, it is something that I feel like, I'm
like you are, I know it's going to mess with
(14:20):
me a lot, you know. So I don't actually have
a lot of these like New Year's things, But what
I do have trouble with is just the fact that
somehow life is just supposed to like pick up quickly
all of a sudden, like I don't you know. I
think we hung up with mine on the USA yesterday
and from radio Yeah, and the USA was like, it's
(14:43):
still winner, Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
I saw TikTok today and I'm quoting it. The TikToker
is self experimenting. This is a TikTok by self experimenting.
And they said it's the middle of wind her still
right now, it's January eighteenth when we're recording this, and
we're supposed to be tired. It's normal for you to
(15:07):
be gaining weight because biology and survival. It's okay if
you're feeling antisocial. We just got out of a month
and a half of holidays and we're still recovering from that.
Give yourself grace. We are the only animal that tries
to force themselves to believe that the cycle of nature
doesn't affect them aka hibernation.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
Yeah, yeah, like, hello.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Howd up on your algorithm? It knows?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Oh my gosh, it does know.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
The other day I was talking about like, I got
this clip from my friend of j Lo singing without
auto tune, and then we were having this conversation of
like just kind of like people who can't sing or
like I don't know, just stuff like that. And then
on my TikTok I started getting a bunch of people
who were like not that great of singers, and I
(15:57):
was like, oh.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
So your phone listening see you all the time?
Speaker 3 (16:01):
It is all the time?
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Yeah, to find a soul may yeah, I mean someone
who's funny and cute and.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Hello, hear hey Siri, can you send me a man
with money and a good heart? Thank you? Okay?
Speaker 3 (16:19):
And it's like, cannot complete that.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Sorry, I didn't get that.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
I didn't get that. What didn't you get?
Speaker 2 (16:27):
What didn't you get? I'm going to Alexa it.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Just is also a little bit activating when we're just
supposed to have expectations of like a new body image,
like we're you know, there's nothing wrong with going to
the gym, or and if you feel energized by this
new year, and like the collective feels energized, and that
makes you want to go to the gym, that is beautiful.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
But I think for people like me who kind of
I get shy at going to the gym and I
get very afraid to go on walks by myself, it
can be a little intimidating to be expected to just
like go to the gym and do all these things.
Like I have a walking pad and I watched a
(17:12):
crime doc on that walking pad and walked.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
I walked for an hour straight.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Because I was so focused, and I was like, and
that is good enough, girl, Like if we did that
every single day, that's good enough.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Like and then I had terrible dreams.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
That makes me want to get a walking pad.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Oh my god, it's so much fun.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I just keep it out and the remote on top
of the walking pad so that I can just I'll
even leave my shoes by the walking pad, like I
have to make it. I have to like make it
as easy as possible for me to like do it,
otherwise I won't do it.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Yeah, but I think in saying that too, like just
the anxiety of feeling like number one, I also get
anxiety going to the gym too. I go to like
a quieter, private gym, which is not a luxury that
a lot of people have as well. Right, Like, so
I understand that I don't go to the gym where
there's a lot of people. I don't do well with
(18:07):
a lot of people. So I can't imagine that if
that was my option, where I was like, oh, I
have to go to this gym and everyone is going
and I need to get fit and da da da dah,
and I just have anxiety Like that would just make
things worse, you know, that would just make me feel
like I'm behind. And I feel like that. I feel
like that already on the daily, just by being on
social media, just by seeing all these other people. And
(18:28):
I think that sometimes you know, having to see what
people are doing with their new years, like new Year,
knew me, new body, blah blah blah blah, and you're
like mm and that's fine much.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, Like it's fine if that if it energizes you
in that way. For people who are maybe a little
neurospicy or like ADHD, anyone who has kind of like
a different brain that is like for me, there's just
some things like with cleaning and stuff that I don't
do normally, you know, like I keep certain things that
(19:04):
you're supposed to keep in the cupboard out on the counter,
and it may look messy to you, but it's the
way that I can like access it needed.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
By the way, she's not talking to me, she didn't mean.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
You know, I am talking to you. It makes sense
to you, but.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
I am talking directly to you. No, you know, I
think with all of this, like I think, what I'm
I definitely want to put out there is that if
you are feeling this way unmotivated, if you're feeling like
you want to sleep. And I had another conversation with
a friend today that was, like everyone is waking up
(19:43):
at twelve or in the afternoon and still expected to work,
like our bodies are just a little bit slower.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
It's fine, Yeah, I mean that kind of goes into
kind of like the whole thing about constantly wanting to
be better than the version that you are now. The
whole thing about never really being satisfied with who you are,
it kind of gets a little bit like pushed forward
at this time. And again, like this is not to
say that you know, it's it's always a good idea
(20:12):
to be motivated towards becoming somebody that you want to be,
that you like, but like, are you also honoring where
you are right now? Like are you also honoring the
person that you've become over the last year and that
you're like, you know what we did really good? And
instead of being like, ah, this is the time that
I'm going to break out of my old habits, is
(20:32):
there a moment where you look back and you know,
you go, you know what, job well done? Like you know,
I talk about like getting older a lot, right, And
one of the things that I do is I look
at old photos sometimes and I'm just not happy, Like
I'm like, oh my god, what was I thinking with
that outfit or my hair or this? And I'm really mean.
And one of the things that a good friend of
(20:52):
mine was saying, like was like be nice to that
to that version of curly, Like you're actually standing on
that curly shoulders, like you were here because of him.
He's the one that took those chances to get you
here to where you're at right now. Who like, did
you know sacrifice and worked hard so that you could
be you know kind of like enjoying a podcast and
(21:16):
talking to your best friend and having amazing people listening
to us. Like, but how do we honor that? So
instead of me being like, this is the year that
I'm gonna do that, it's like, Okay, how do we
honor the journeys of like where we've like been so far?
Because I can tell you that, like, like twenty twenty
th THEES sucked, Like it was hard for me, But
(21:37):
I like who I am now more so than I
liked who I was at the beginning of twenty twenty three.
I like this version. Now. I have more silver in
my hair, I'm a little bit calmer, I have more patience.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
And you have to like give it up for that
version of Curly in twenty twenty three throughout that whole year.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Who got you through? He got you through? Make it to.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
January eighteenth, twenty twenty four, at three.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Three three pm, WHOA thirty three?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
You know, Like I think there's a level of of course,
it's always so so good to want to make your
life better, healthier, successful, Like we should always be thinking
of that. But I think we can't get there or
fully appreciate when we get there, unless we appreciate the
version of us yesterday or a couple of weeks ago.
(22:31):
You know. I think we're always talking about the versions
of us as little kids, which is fine, and our
inner child will always be there with us. But I
think I started to notice that I'm like, oh, man,
the version of me from last year or the year before,
twenty twenty or twenty eighteen is still crying because of X,
Y and Z, you know, Like why can't I honor
(22:52):
her and thank her for all of these lessons? And
there was I was talking to my friend Zach Day,
who's a beautiful musician, and we were just talking about like, man,
if I knew everything that I know now back then
when I was like twenty five, like I would just
be so much better off. And then I was like,
(23:12):
and I said this before, I think yesterday on Loko
Toto's podcast, Like no, like I earned this wisdom, I
earned this experience this as a thirty year old, like
I was meant to learn all of that stuff.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
So I know what I know.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Now you know, so honor, please bring honor to whistle.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
Come with me, Jimmy than the Undertaker. We are meeting
our matchmakers.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
That's one of the best songs in the Home movie,
by the way, it is like the end where they
play you will bring honor to us, You'll bring everything.
It's really big and grand and you're.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Like, I like when the Grandma sings and she's like, yeah,
(24:16):
be for beauty, and then it's like and cricket just
for luck and Davin you can blow it.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Yeah, I love that my favorite. And the whole thing
is like Moshue when he's like little, he's like breaking
his thing. He's calling telling the ancestors to look alive. Yeah,
he breaks the ear. I feel like when I become
an ancestor, when I go into the spirit realm, that
is going to be me. I'm gonna be like, everybody,
(24:47):
wake up.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
We're gonna be fun ancestors. We're gonna have like deep
reefs like.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
How is your little how's your little descendant doing?
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Oh, she's fine.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
She I guess they never could break the trade of
binging binge eating when they're happy, said angry or have
any sort of emotion.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
Oh well, maybe the next generation break.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
I feel like mine would be really cool because I
would just like I feel like my descendants will have
hopefully they'll have a lot of videos to watch, a
lot of things to get to know me more. Yeah,
and I hope that they go, oh wow, like my
great uncle or what whoever, Like he was a drinker,
a smoker, he was like a he did drugs, he
(25:33):
slept with a lot of people, he lived it up,
he did this whole big thing.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
My grandma was a whore.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Yeah, I know that. I know that wherever he is,
he's not judging me.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
You know, I would be like, so I can be
a whore too.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
So absolutely, you're supposed to enjoy this life. And you
know that's the thing. To enjoy the moment that you're in,
Honor the past, honor the present, towards the future, and
don't judge yourself for it.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
And we all know, like to get a little bit
not super political, but like colonial A lot of this
new new, new new is a very colonizer mindset, right,
Like it's commercialism, materialism, capitalism, Like we're supposed to throw
out the old and bring in the new by this,
(26:24):
by that, and it's not good for environment, it's not
good for like, So just make sure when you are
getting caught in that like that you remember. I think
it is very But if you want to honor like
you're our indigenous ancestors, is to honor those versions of
ourselves from the past. And yeah, don't fall into this
(26:44):
like commercialists, capitalism like shit that is like the New Year,
because you know.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Like.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
The gym memberships and stuff like they get you, you know,
they get you.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I feel like for me, like transfer, I always look
to nature for the answers on what to do with life,
right and transformation is something that is absolutely a part
of nature and we are a part of that. You
see it with the butterflies. You see it with the seasons,
You see the leaves, the trees, how they change.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
If the butterflies aren't fucking right now, then I'm not
fucking right now.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Yeah, lady buys all that stuff. So it's not to
say that like transmission isn't a good thing. It's a
must and you have to and that's the most beautiful
thing about being alive is transforming. I think that it
becomes a problem for me when people don't allow for
the nuances of what that means, right, Like, it becomes
a problem when you're like everybody has to do it now,
(27:41):
and you're like do it when you feel like it,
do it when you feel like do it. I would
put the pressure on everybody to do it because to me,
you know, I'm very big on like, what's the point
of life if you're not going to try a bunch
of things and do things? Like what's the point of
living at the at the best buffet and the universe
only eating one dish?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Exactly? We need to be sleeping right now so we can.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Get ready to go out and literally just be naked
and with other people and just like go to a
bath house, go to like get swipe on that tinder,
you know, like get ready girls, get ready gays and
days let's go.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
But yeah, you know, at your own pace, it's your
own thing. Like this life really, at the end of
the day, it's really for you. It's truly all for you, Like,
and that's a privilege, right because in a lot of
places that's not afforded to a lot of people. And
also there's a lot of instances where your life is
not just for you like you have children, you have
other commitments as an adult, and I understand that. But
(28:43):
I think, in as much of it as you can,
in the space that you have, in the lane that
you're in, whatever that means to you, with the understanding
that this is for you, how can you live in
a way that is not selfish or detrimental to other
people's livelihood and other people's ins But how can you
celebrate each day? Do it? Enjoy yourself. And by the way,
(29:06):
if you are the type of person who was like
New Year, new me, but go off, do you girl?
Speaker 3 (29:11):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
If I know there are people, I think Capricorns for
sure have the best birthday because the ones born in January,
because it's like it's my birthday, it's the new Year.
I think they get off. They go and get it
like love you guys, love it.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Well.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
Go to the astrology ption of the podcast. Okay, here's
what I want to say it. The New Year doesn't
really start until March astrologically, with the vernal equinox around
the twentieth to the twenty first of March.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Spring.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
You know when Jesus is coming back in springtime because
he got tired of being a capricorn, he wants to
be in aries. No, that's that's when the year really starts, no, truly,
like and everybody is also like the year does start
with your birthday as well, like everybody's birthday, you know.
So chill, chill until March. Come around March and you're
(30:15):
not doing anything, then I'm gonna bully you because think
of spring. Like springtime, everything is growing. People are animals,
and insects are they're they're populating, they're you know, in
their like little like procreation moment, like things are being created.
In wintertime, things are dead, like look at all your trees.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yeah, basically, wait till spring to take anything.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
Seriously, yeah for real. So who do you think is
adopting the New Year, New Me? I think I said
it before. I think for sure Capricorns are they're they're
already like ahead of us.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
They are already like they're.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
We're just starting the year, not technically, but you know,
January first, whatever, and they are already in March.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
I feel like I feel like Earth signs like I
know me, like I'm definitely I'm not like necessarily like
a new year, New me. But like I said earlier,
like I am a person that's like okay, now what
next thing? Next thing? Like, you know, I'm always like
on my transformation thing. I'm always like new style, new haircut,
new glasses that like always. So I feel like Virgos Capricorns.
(31:29):
It's not to say that we're not reluctant, it's not
to say that we're like, ugh, we don't want to
do this, but it's kind of like almost like a thing.
I think Scorpios are probably like they just live in
the transformation era. You know. I almost feel like fire
signs would be a little bit like let's let's get this.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Let's yeah, but on our own time, like don't push me.
If you push me, if you say I have to
be in a certain place or have to be doing
a certain thing, like fuck you.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
The way to get fire signs, according to my Angelo,
to do stuff is to tell them that they can't
do it.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yeah, for sure, I wish someone would tell me I
can't do it.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
Oh, my Angela would say like that people told her
she can't write a book, and then she wrote a
bunch of books because somebody told her that she couldn't
write a book.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
Maybe That's why I don't have any motivation right now.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
Maybe I need to get mad. That's why I really
get pumped up when that happened.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Maybe we need to sign up all the fire signs
and be like, you guys can't have New Year, New meat.
And then they'll all be like.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Oh yeah, do you think you can get a gym membership?
Speaker 3 (32:38):
You can't. Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
You think you can clean your room and organize all
your clothes and then donate them to people who need
them because they've just been stuck in your closet.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
You can't. Oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
One of my new One of the things with me
is a burbo this year is I definitely want to
get a new bed. That's like my thing that I
want to do this month.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Who and which signs are still crying about that thing
that person did? Set ors didn't say to them, Oh
who texted their ex on January first? Happy New Year?
Which one of those signs texted their ex? Probably aries?
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Really?
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Probably I would always do that. I would always text
my ex Happy New Year.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
Look if one of my favorite things about not drinking
anymore is that even though I joke about texting your eggs,
it is never in a drunk state of mind. Will
you will never ever, ever ever get a drunk text
for me, or a drunk phone call or a call
or text late at night. It's just not in mind.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
You'll get a drunk text, you'll get a high text,
you'll get a sober text, You'll get everything from me
all at once, everywhere, everything all once, gets.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
Like a text for me being like, hey, how are you.
I hope you will like randomly at a three on
a random Thursday of I don't know, March or some shit,
but never ever ever.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Sorry, sorry, And that concludes the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Well, maya, it's now the beginning. It's now the beginning
of twenty twenty four, ohre.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
And just take your freaking time, my dudes, Like, just chill,
sleep a little bit. If you want to create a
plan for this year, that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
If you already like.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
You're on one and the new year knew me, energy
is exactly what you need to get started. I love
that for you. I also love sleeping in for you
as well and taking some time for yourself. I also
think it's important to check in on your friends, the
ones that may be a little bit anti social to
be like hey, when you're ready, let's know, Hey, like,
(35:02):
hope you're doing well, thinking of you, Hope your new
year went great. Love you because some people are like
stressing out, you know.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
Yeah, absolutely, I feel like you know, like we always say,
life is so short. Live it up, have as much
fun as you can. It doesn't matter if it's a
new year or not. If you want to take something
on or you want to get rid of something, you
can do it anytime that you want. All you have
to do is take one step at a time, and
(35:32):
before you know it, you look up.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
You're pregnant, and.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
You've had twenty years of a career and you were
singing at your renaissance tour.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
I get pregnant this year, talk about pro creation, talk.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
About new year and new me. Well, my working people
find you on social media.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
You can find me at my in the Moment, at
a Ya in the Moment, everywhere you have the Internet.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (36:01):
You can find me at the Curly v Show on
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New Year, New me, I can't get out of bed.
The New Year knew me. I can't get out of bed.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Fuck your sids me.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
I can't get out of.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Bed, and we don't care about your news.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'm sad. I'm sad. I'm yeah sad, sad. Happy New Year.
Everyone four is our year. Guy.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya And welcome to
the Super Secret Prestie Club Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here. Whoa wow,
look at us. It's a new year. It's a brand
(01:00):
new ding suns out. It's a little after twelve.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
For someone else, bank people.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Okay, oh it's a picture this it's two thousand and one.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
How old are you two thousand and one?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't know, like two.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
You wake up and there's a new pop star on
the horizon, and here we are. New Year knew us.
It's twenty twenty four. At this point, guys, we are
already in the mix. We have all probably gone back
to work. We are all back to trying to figure
out piece our lives together in this new year, on
this piece of rock that's just flying through space and
(01:52):
time into absolute darkness, into the abyss.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Did you know they found light years away found a
planet that had.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Like city lights? No way they did, Yeah, city lights?
City lights?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Anyway, listen, I've been a.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Little sad girl lately, Like since this year started, I've
been very much like a little depressing, you know, a
little like hibernation mode and antisocial. And you know when
I saw this TikTok today, it's totally normal. So today
we are talking about the unrealistic expectations of new year,
(02:35):
new me of the new year, expectations that you're just
supposed to be like changed, you.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Know in January.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
First new attitude, new car, new personality, change your name,
change your last name, change your identity, moved to Jamaica.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Start a fishing business. Podcast a fishing podcast. Oh and
that's it, that's what we're supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
About your fishing business. Yeah, did you already tell them? Like,
you know, you're probably waking up feeling a little bloated.
You've eaten a lot over the holidays.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
It's just crazy to me that, you know, for New
Years in comparison to like the holidays we had experienced,
Like five days ago before the New Year's I was
like sitting on the floor eating like a full baked ham,
honey baked ham, and crying on the kitchen floor, Like
(03:36):
and then I'm supposed to be like automatically changed by January.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
First and wanting to.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Start new tradition and wanting to go to the gym
and all this shit, Like no, like I'm still digesting
that honey baked ham.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah. Absolutely. It's like the whole world is like, okay, guys,
it's okay to adul sleep and dress cozy. There's happy music,
everything is good, like, oh, we have time off, and
then suddenly it's like run it up, get back in there,
get to work.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
You were just you were saying in like the LNN
yesterday that like we're also kind of broke from the holidays.
I spent so much freaking money on my nephews this year,
and I'm happy about that and grateful, but like, I
don't have freaking money left over to get a personal
trainer for this new like body that I want, Like,
(04:33):
what's wrong with the body that I have? Now she's fine.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
She's fine. I know. I literally was like we got
to wrap up our energy and our spirits and our
bank accounts because it's just it's a lot. It's like
a lot of stuff that happens. And then it's like
once the CLI like strikes twelve, you're just supposed to
literally instead of turning into a pumpkin, you're supposed to
go from a pumpkin into like a whole ass carriage
(04:59):
that's gonna take cinder relative the ball toimeter through zoom, cullmate.
And it's just a lot of pressure that I'm not
ready for. You know, New Year's is a lot. New
Year's is a lot of lot. It's like some of
us fought with our significant others, some of us texted
our ex boyfriends, some of us peter ourselves in bed,
and by some of us, I mean I did none
(05:20):
of those, but because you know one of those that's
in bed by like twelve ten, I'm like, good night, world, I'm.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Out, Yeah, what did you do for New Year's? This year?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Literally was here with my parents. I got COVID, I
was healed the day of it was tested negative, and
then I was like twelve to ten and I was like,
I'm out, Goodbye world.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I stayed in Joyce was watching the apartment, watching one
of my neighbor's apartments, and so I just went over
to that apartment and you know, we watched there's no
LA Countdown. There's New York, there's London, there's all these places.
There's no LA countdown. And we're like the last ones
to get the countdown. Like even Phoenix Air's ownA my hometown,
(06:01):
it gets the countdown before us. We're the last ones
and we're like happy night. Everyone's like I'm ready past
Dad on the floor. It's already Jeduary? Is there a
January second for us? Like even like on YouTube, the
countdowns are like this. This guy was like, hey, he's
welcome to my countdown. It's almost New Year's and we're like, dude,
(06:23):
where's the freaking party. You know, where's the people who
just want to like watch a fun countdown?
Speaker 3 (06:29):
I don't know. I ringing in the New Year was
a little boring this year.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
It was fun because I was with like one of
my besties and we had a lot of fun. But
usually I go out and I just didn't want to
go out this year.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, I always have, like, to be honest, my whole life,
I've always had like anxiety about the New Year's. Like
I don't know why I have this, knock on wood,
but I've always had this spear of like something big happening,
like there was I think, to be honest, it started
because I was growing up with like Y two K,
So that was like when I was like a preteen,
right was coming. There's always been a lot of like
(07:02):
doomsday around kind of like the New Year's for me
growing up, like you know, Y two K, and then
twenty twelve and.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Then it was like god, you're so right.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Yeah all these things. So I have like this anxiety
around New Year's where I'm very much like just stay home,
Like if you're one of my loved ones and you're
something that I love and you're like I'm staying in.
I don't know why I have, Like I'm always relieved
that my parents aren't leaving. I'm always relieved that, like
you know, my sister is going to stay home with
her family, Like just stay home. That makes me feel
(07:34):
so much better. It certainly does activate me, I think
in ways where I'm like it just feels like a
lot of energy on one night, and I'm like people
are going to be out and drinking and drunk and
fighting and this and driving and.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
And the ubers are expensive and they like take forever
to show up. It's like four o'clock in the morning.
You're waiting on the side of the street and you're.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Like where are you.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
All? So does the new year activate you in any
type of way, like positive or negative?
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Like what do you feel when it's January first?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
And are you one of those people that is like, Okay,
I feel like this new energy is around. I'm gonna
like clean my house, I'm gonna do this and that,
like what do you what's your new year?
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Kind of like moment?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Well, honestly, as you know, I'm like an anomaly, I think,
and I'm also double scorpio, So like transformation for me
is very like I'm always trying to natural.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Yeah, it's just always transforming or like it's.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Very like so like I do a thing where like
every Monday, I'm like, Okay, on Monday, I'm gonna do
this right, Like on Monday, I have to. I almost
feel like if I do something on Monday, it's gonna
set the tone for the week. You know it's gonna
like somehow bleed.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
And already have it.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
You're already on like your own schedule, on my own schedule.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
I will say that there's things about the new year
where people I'm like, okay, and the new year, I
should be doing this, this is what I want to do,
and like it's very easy to as a procrastinator, it's
very easy to go, you know what, next year, I'm
gonna do this. Next year, I'm going to call this person.
Next year, I'm going to do big, big things. And
then you know it's January eighteen, and you're like.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Oh yeah, well, because anyone around this time is when
I think yesterday actually was a national holiday that was
like national throw out your New Year's resolutions. Like by
this time, by the seventeenth eighteenth end of the month
(09:44):
is when people get burnt out from the resolutions and
kind of stop doing that. Oh wow, yes, Like it's
it's been studied. I don't know where, but like I'm
sure it's been studied somewhere, but like I have it
as like what.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
How many how many? I think thirty days.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Yeah, So it just is like I think for me,
I always my mom and I are super super into manifesting,
and so we're always like, what's your word of the
year or what's your thing of Like we have a
debrief of like last year, of the end of the year,
and then we have like a whole different mantra for
(10:21):
the next year. And I find myself at the end
of the year forgetting what my word of the year
was or like my mantra or whatever, because I can't
control the outcome or.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Anything of this year.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Or really, like I really have noticed with my manifestation
process is that I have to not have labels on anything.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I have to go with the flow.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
And I'm like, for sure, like take things into control,
but like, you know, you want to leave room. And
I was telling my mom this the other day, like
there was something that she get that she gets every
single year, like this project. She didn't get signed on
to this project this year, And I go, you know what,
let the producers and the writers of your life write
(11:10):
something up, write something else new, like this is the
fifty ninth season of your show, Like let them create
something else. So I think that's what I'm doing this year,
is I'm like, show me, show me what's gonna be,
what's gonna happen because every year when I have like
a kind of strict schedule or resolution, I always get
(11:31):
so freaking sad because I never accomplish it or it
goes a different way, and.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Then I'm like dang, you know.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
So sometimes it makes me feel you know, unaccomplished, or
I'm also like really bad with commitments sometimes. So I
think for me, it activates me by it makes me
a little bit sad because I feel everybody is being
super productive right out of the gate, like they're going
(11:59):
to the gym and they're doing all these things that
they have like their projects together, like and I kind
of am still digesting everything that happened over the last
couple of months, because it was a couple of months.
You know, It's not like it's just I think it's
so unrealistic to be expected to just change out of nowhere,
(12:22):
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, especially because I feel like, you know, the holiday
seasons can be so activating for a lot of people,
whether you're sober, having to see family that doesn't agree
with your lifestyles or you don't agree with their lifestyles
or whatever it is, and then suddenly you go to
this emotional time, and then you kind of just expect
it to be like, you know, happy and everything is perfect.
(13:00):
I will say that, like I actually don't have New
Year's resolutions usually. I'm not that type of person. Years ago,
there was a thing of like what is not what
are you gonna start doing, but more of like what
do you want to stop doing? You know? I think
when I was in Catholic school when I was younger,
(13:21):
like you know, there's like lens where they go what
are you going to give up? There was teachers that
would say like what are you going to take on?
Like what are the things like? So I think that
like I kind of and I honestly like, if I'm
super honest with you, when I commit to something, it's
it's for life. And so it's very hard. And so
it's very hard for me to commit to things because
(13:41):
if I don't, like I end up feeling really terrible
about myself and I'm just like not the same. So,
like you know, with my sobriety, right, I committed and
I'm like, Nope, that's something that I'm doing forever, Like
I'm not.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
There's no and no dry January. Everyone's doing dry January.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
If I break it, I would be really disappointed in
myself right like with even with my I am a
gym goer, Like I go to the gym a fair
amount of time during the week, and for me, it
helps my mental health and I feel like if I
don't go, it is something that I feel like, I'm
like you are, I know it's going to mess with
(14:20):
me a lot, you know. So I don't actually have
a lot of these like New Year's things, But what
I do have trouble with is just the fact that
somehow life is just supposed to like pick up quickly
all of a sudden, like I don't you know. I
think we hung up with mine on the USA yesterday
and from radio Yeah, and the USA was like, it's
(14:43):
still winner, Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
I saw TikTok today and I'm quoting it. The TikToker
is self experimenting. This is a TikTok by self experimenting.
And they said it's the middle of wind her still
right now, it's January eighteenth when we're recording this, and
we're supposed to be tired. It's normal for you to
(15:07):
be gaining weight because biology and survival. It's okay if
you're feeling antisocial. We just got out of a month
and a half of holidays and we're still recovering from that.
Give yourself grace. We are the only animal that tries
to force themselves to believe that the cycle of nature
doesn't affect them aka hibernation.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
Yeah, yeah, like, hello.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Howd up on your algorithm? It knows?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Oh my gosh, it does know.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
The other day I was talking about like, I got
this clip from my friend of j Lo singing without
auto tune, and then we were having this conversation of
like just kind of like people who can't sing or
like I don't know, just stuff like that. And then
on my TikTok I started getting a bunch of people
who were like not that great of singers, and I
(15:57):
was like, oh.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
So your phone listening see you all the time?
Speaker 3 (16:01):
It is all the time?
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Yeah, to find a soul may yeah, I mean someone
who's funny and cute and.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Hello, hear hey Siri, can you send me a man
with money and a good heart? Thank you? Okay?
Speaker 3 (16:19):
And it's like, cannot complete that.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Sorry, I didn't get that.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
I didn't get that. What didn't you get?
Speaker 2 (16:27):
What didn't you get? I'm going to Alexa it.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Just is also a little bit activating when we're just
supposed to have expectations of like a new body image,
like we're you know, there's nothing wrong with going to
the gym, or and if you feel energized by this
new year, and like the collective feels energized, and that
makes you want to go to the gym, that is beautiful.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
But I think for people like me who kind of
I get shy at going to the gym and I
get very afraid to go on walks by myself, it
can be a little intimidating to be expected to just
like go to the gym and do all these things.
Like I have a walking pad and I watched a
(17:12):
crime doc on that walking pad and walked.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
I walked for an hour straight.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Because I was so focused, and I was like, and
that is good enough, girl, Like if we did that
every single day, that's good enough.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Like and then I had terrible dreams.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
That makes me want to get a walking pad.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Oh my god, it's so much fun.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I just keep it out and the remote on top
of the walking pad so that I can just I'll
even leave my shoes by the walking pad, like I
have to make it. I have to like make it
as easy as possible for me to like do it,
otherwise I won't do it.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Yeah, but I think in saying that too, like just
the anxiety of feeling like number one, I also get
anxiety going to the gym too. I go to like
a quieter, private gym, which is not a luxury that
a lot of people have as well. Right, Like, so
I understand that I don't go to the gym where
there's a lot of people. I don't do well with
(18:07):
a lot of people. So I can't imagine that if
that was my option, where I was like, oh, I
have to go to this gym and everyone is going
and I need to get fit and da da da dah,
and I just have anxiety Like that would just make
things worse, you know, that would just make me feel
like I'm behind. And I feel like that. I feel
like that already on the daily, just by being on
social media, just by seeing all these other people. And
(18:28):
I think that sometimes you know, having to see what
people are doing with their new years, like new Year,
knew me, new body, blah blah blah blah, and you're
like mm and that's fine much.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, Like it's fine if that if it energizes you
in that way. For people who are maybe a little
neurospicy or like ADHD, anyone who has kind of like
a different brain that is like for me, there's just
some things like with cleaning and stuff that I don't
do normally, you know, like I keep certain things that
(19:04):
you're supposed to keep in the cupboard out on the counter,
and it may look messy to you, but it's the
way that I can like access it needed.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
By the way, she's not talking to me, she didn't mean.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
You know, I am talking to you. It makes sense
to you, but.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
I am talking directly to you. No, you know, I
think with all of this, like I think, what I'm
I definitely want to put out there is that if
you are feeling this way unmotivated, if you're feeling like
you want to sleep. And I had another conversation with
a friend today that was, like everyone is waking up
(19:43):
at twelve or in the afternoon and still expected to work,
like our bodies are just a little bit slower.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
It's fine, Yeah, I mean that kind of goes into
kind of like the whole thing about constantly wanting to
be better than the version that you are now. The
whole thing about never really being satisfied with who you are,
it kind of gets a little bit like pushed forward
at this time. And again, like this is not to
say that you know, it's it's always a good idea
(20:12):
to be motivated towards becoming somebody that you want to be,
that you like, but like, are you also honoring where
you are right now? Like are you also honoring the
person that you've become over the last year and that
you're like, you know what we did really good? And
instead of being like, ah, this is the time that
I'm going to break out of my old habits, is
(20:32):
there a moment where you look back and you know,
you go, you know what, job well done? Like you know,
I talk about like getting older a lot, right, And
one of the things that I do is I look
at old photos sometimes and I'm just not happy, Like
I'm like, oh my god, what was I thinking with
that outfit or my hair or this? And I'm really mean.
And one of the things that a good friend of
(20:52):
mine was saying, like was like be nice to that
to that version of curly, Like you're actually standing on
that curly shoulders, like you were here because of him.
He's the one that took those chances to get you
here to where you're at right now. Who like, did
you know sacrifice and worked hard so that you could
be you know kind of like enjoying a podcast and
(21:16):
talking to your best friend and having amazing people listening
to us. Like, but how do we honor that? So
instead of me being like, this is the year that
I'm gonna do that, it's like, Okay, how do we
honor the journeys of like where we've like been so far?
Because I can tell you that, like, like twenty twenty
th THEES sucked, Like it was hard for me, But
(21:37):
I like who I am now more so than I
liked who I was at the beginning of twenty twenty three.
I like this version. Now. I have more silver in
my hair, I'm a little bit calmer, I have more patience.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
And you have to like give it up for that
version of Curly in twenty twenty three throughout that whole year.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Who got you through? He got you through? Make it to.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
January eighteenth, twenty twenty four, at three.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Three three pm, WHOA thirty three?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
You know, Like I think there's a level of of course,
it's always so so good to want to make your
life better, healthier, successful, Like we should always be thinking
of that. But I think we can't get there or
fully appreciate when we get there, unless we appreciate the
version of us yesterday or a couple of weeks ago.
(22:31):
You know. I think we're always talking about the versions
of us as little kids, which is fine, and our
inner child will always be there with us. But I
think I started to notice that I'm like, oh, man,
the version of me from last year or the year before,
twenty twenty or twenty eighteen is still crying because of X,
Y and Z, you know, Like why can't I honor
(22:52):
her and thank her for all of these lessons? And
there was I was talking to my friend Zach Day,
who's a beautiful musician, and we were just talking about like, man,
if I knew everything that I know now back then
when I was like twenty five, like I would just
be so much better off. And then I was like,
(23:12):
and I said this before, I think yesterday on Loko
Toto's podcast, Like no, like I earned this wisdom, I
earned this experience this as a thirty year old, like
I was meant to learn all of that stuff.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
So I know what I know.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Now you know, so honor, please bring honor to whistle.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
Come with me, Jimmy than the Undertaker. We are meeting
our matchmakers.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
That's one of the best songs in the Home movie,
by the way, it is like the end where they
play you will bring honor to us, You'll bring everything.
It's really big and grand and you're.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Like, I like when the Grandma sings and she's like, yeah,
(24:16):
be for beauty, and then it's like and cricket just
for luck and Davin you can blow it.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Yeah, I love that my favorite. And the whole thing
is like Moshue when he's like little, he's like breaking
his thing. He's calling telling the ancestors to look alive. Yeah,
he breaks the ear. I feel like when I become
an ancestor, when I go into the spirit realm, that
is going to be me. I'm gonna be like, everybody,
(24:47):
wake up.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
We're gonna be fun ancestors. We're gonna have like deep
reefs like.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
How is your little how's your little descendant doing?
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Oh, she's fine.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
She I guess they never could break the trade of
binging binge eating when they're happy, said angry or have
any sort of emotion.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
Oh well, maybe the next generation break.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
I feel like mine would be really cool because I
would just like I feel like my descendants will have
hopefully they'll have a lot of videos to watch, a
lot of things to get to know me more. Yeah,
and I hope that they go, oh wow, like my
great uncle or what whoever, Like he was a drinker,
a smoker, he was like a he did drugs, he
(25:33):
slept with a lot of people, he lived it up,
he did this whole big thing.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
My grandma was a whore.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Yeah, I know that. I know that wherever he is,
he's not judging me.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
You know, I would be like, so I can be
a whore too.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
So absolutely, you're supposed to enjoy this life. And you
know that's the thing. To enjoy the moment that you're in,
Honor the past, honor the present, towards the future, and
don't judge yourself for it.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
And we all know, like to get a little bit
not super political, but like colonial A lot of this
new new, new new is a very colonizer mindset, right,
Like it's commercialism, materialism, capitalism, Like we're supposed to throw
out the old and bring in the new by this,
(26:24):
by that, and it's not good for environment, it's not
good for like, So just make sure when you are
getting caught in that like that you remember. I think
it is very But if you want to honor like
you're our indigenous ancestors, is to honor those versions of
ourselves from the past. And yeah, don't fall into this
(26:44):
like commercialists, capitalism like shit that is like the New Year,
because you know.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Like.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
The gym memberships and stuff like they get you, you know,
they get you.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I feel like for me, like transfer, I always look
to nature for the answers on what to do with life,
right and transformation is something that is absolutely a part
of nature and we are a part of that. You
see it with the butterflies. You see it with the seasons,
You see the leaves, the trees, how they change.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
If the butterflies aren't fucking right now, then I'm not
fucking right now.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Yeah, lady buys all that stuff. So it's not to
say that like transmission isn't a good thing. It's a
must and you have to and that's the most beautiful
thing about being alive is transforming. I think that it
becomes a problem for me when people don't allow for
the nuances of what that means, right, Like, it becomes
a problem when you're like everybody has to do it now,
(27:41):
and you're like do it when you feel like it,
do it when you feel like do it. I would
put the pressure on everybody to do it because to me,
you know, I'm very big on like, what's the point
of life if you're not going to try a bunch
of things and do things? Like what's the point of
living at the at the best buffet and the universe
only eating one dish?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Exactly? We need to be sleeping right now so we can.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Get ready to go out and literally just be naked
and with other people and just like go to a
bath house, go to like get swipe on that tinder,
you know, like get ready girls, get ready gays and
days let's go.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
But yeah, you know, at your own pace, it's your
own thing. Like this life really, at the end of
the day, it's really for you. It's truly all for you, Like,
and that's a privilege, right because in a lot of
places that's not afforded to a lot of people. And
also there's a lot of instances where your life is
not just for you like you have children, you have
other commitments as an adult, and I understand that. But
(28:43):
I think, in as much of it as you can,
in the space that you have, in the lane that
you're in, whatever that means to you, with the understanding
that this is for you, how can you live in
a way that is not selfish or detrimental to other
people's livelihood and other people's ins But how can you
celebrate each day? Do it? Enjoy yourself. And by the way,
(29:06):
if you are the type of person who was like
New Year, new me, but go off, do you girl?
Speaker 3 (29:11):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
If I know there are people, I think Capricorns for
sure have the best birthday because the ones born in January,
because it's like it's my birthday, it's the new Year.
I think they get off. They go and get it
like love you guys, love it.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Well.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
Go to the astrology ption of the podcast. Okay, here's
what I want to say it. The New Year doesn't
really start until March astrologically, with the vernal equinox around
the twentieth to the twenty first of March.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Spring.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
You know when Jesus is coming back in springtime because
he got tired of being a capricorn, he wants to
be in aries. No, that's that's when the year really starts, no, truly,
like and everybody is also like the year does start
with your birthday as well, like everybody's birthday, you know.
So chill, chill until March. Come around March and you're
(30:15):
not doing anything, then I'm gonna bully you because think
of spring. Like springtime, everything is growing. People are animals,
and insects are they're they're populating, they're you know, in
their like little like procreation moment, like things are being created.
In wintertime, things are dead, like look at all your trees.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yeah, basically, wait till spring to take anything.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
Seriously, yeah for real. So who do you think is
adopting the New Year, New Me? I think I said
it before. I think for sure Capricorns are they're they're
already like ahead of us.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
They are already like they're.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
We're just starting the year, not technically, but you know,
January first, whatever, and they are already in March.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
I feel like I feel like Earth signs like I
know me, like I'm definitely I'm not like necessarily like
a new year, New me. But like I said earlier,
like I am a person that's like okay, now what
next thing? Next thing? Like, you know, I'm always like
on my transformation thing. I'm always like new style, new haircut,
new glasses that like always. So I feel like Virgos Capricorns.
(31:29):
It's not to say that we're not reluctant, it's not
to say that we're like, ugh, we don't want to
do this, but it's kind of like almost like a thing.
I think Scorpios are probably like they just live in
the transformation era. You know. I almost feel like fire
signs would be a little bit like let's let's get this.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Let's yeah, but on our own time, like don't push me.
If you push me, if you say I have to
be in a certain place or have to be doing
a certain thing, like fuck you.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
The way to get fire signs, according to my Angelo,
to do stuff is to tell them that they can't
do it.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yeah, for sure, I wish someone would tell me I
can't do it.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
Oh, my Angela would say like that people told her
she can't write a book, and then she wrote a
bunch of books because somebody told her that she couldn't
write a book.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
Maybe That's why I don't have any motivation right now.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
Maybe I need to get mad. That's why I really
get pumped up when that happened.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Maybe we need to sign up all the fire signs
and be like, you guys can't have New Year, New meat.
And then they'll all be like.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Oh yeah, do you think you can get a gym membership?
Speaker 3 (32:38):
You can't. Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
You think you can clean your room and organize all
your clothes and then donate them to people who need
them because they've just been stuck in your closet.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
You can't. Oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
One of my new One of the things with me
is a burbo this year is I definitely want to
get a new bed. That's like my thing that I
want to do this month.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Who and which signs are still crying about that thing
that person did? Set ors didn't say to them, Oh
who texted their ex on January first? Happy New Year?
Which one of those signs texted their ex? Probably aries?
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Really?
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Probably I would always do that. I would always text
my ex Happy New Year.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
Look if one of my favorite things about not drinking
anymore is that even though I joke about texting your eggs,
it is never in a drunk state of mind. Will
you will never ever, ever ever get a drunk text
for me, or a drunk phone call or a call
or text late at night. It's just not in mind.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
You'll get a drunk text, you'll get a high text,
you'll get a sober text, You'll get everything from me
all at once, everywhere, everything all once, gets.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
Like a text for me being like, hey, how are you.
I hope you will like randomly at a three on
a random Thursday of I don't know, March or some shit,
but never ever ever.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Sorry, sorry, And that concludes the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Well, maya, it's now the beginning. It's now the beginning
of twenty twenty four, ohre.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
And just take your freaking time, my dudes, Like, just chill,
sleep a little bit. If you want to create a
plan for this year, that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
If you already like.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
You're on one and the new year knew me, energy
is exactly what you need to get started. I love
that for you. I also love sleeping in for you
as well and taking some time for yourself. I also
think it's important to check in on your friends, the
ones that may be a little bit anti social to
be like hey, when you're ready, let's know, Hey, like,
(35:02):
hope you're doing well, thinking of you, Hope your new
year went great. Love you because some people are like
stressing out, you know.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
Yeah, absolutely, I feel like you know, like we always say,
life is so short. Live it up, have as much
fun as you can. It doesn't matter if it's a
new year or not. If you want to take something
on or you want to get rid of something, you
can do it anytime that you want. All you have
to do is take one step at a time, and
(35:32):
before you know it, you look up.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
You're pregnant, and.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
You've had twenty years of a career and you were
singing at your renaissance tour.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
I get pregnant this year, talk about pro creation, talk.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
About new year and new me. Well, my working people
find you on social media.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
You can find me at my in the Moment, at
a Ya in the Moment, everywhere you have the Internet.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (36:01):
You can find me at the Curly v Show on
Instagram and TikTok on all media platforms.
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