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October 27, 2025 13 mins

Thriving at thirty? Christa is back to share her thoughts on common 30-something pitfalls likehangovers, the pressure to meal prep, and putting up guilt-free boundaries.

Plus, what she says she IS thriving at, and why you won't find her on a dating app. Sorry fellas!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to Untraditionally, Laala, Hello, gorgeous,
Welcome back to the bonus episode of Untraditionally Lala. I
have my new bestie, Christi b Allen. Most of you
will know her from. Well, you're an actress, You've got
many talents. We talked about all of it on the

(00:20):
regular episode that was on Wednesday. So for the bonus
because you made your excellent debut on thirteen, going on
thirty and then Revenge, which is one of my most
favorite series. But thirty, flirty and Thriving. I remember when
I turned thirty and I was like, I'm flirty and
I'm fucking thriving, and then shortly after my life went

(00:44):
to shit. But it's okay as it finds too, Yes,
it tends to. So that's one of the most iconic
movie lines ever. And I have a list of things
that I'm going to ask you, and you're going to
tell me which ones you're working on, which ones you're
thriving at. And I want to start because if you

(01:05):
do this, then I need to set my game up
meal prepping on Sundays.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh absolutely not, absolu not are you opposed to it. No,
I just personally, I've never been a drawn to meal prepping,
Like who wants to eat the same thing every day?

Speaker 1 (01:23):
I don't get the meal prepping. I'm also very weird.
I used to be addicted to leftovers, and now if
it's not like fresh, then I don't really want Do
you cook girl? Now the worse? Can I cook?

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (01:39):
If I have to cook for my family, I can definitely,
like do work in the kitchen. I don't enjoy it.
And now with Postmates, why would I do something that
I don't have to do?

Speaker 2 (01:47):
Sponsored by Postmates?

Speaker 1 (01:49):
Sponsored by the Postmates I wish, hey, yeah, get the
plug please sponsor this episode. Do you like eating out?
Are you an order in type of chick?

Speaker 2 (01:59):
I listen. If left to my own devices, I would
never leave my house, okay, but when friends pull me
out of the house, I'm quite happy to be out. Okay.
But I love to cook. I just I don't cook
a whole lot for just myself.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
Like it is so hard to cook for one person,
and then you add kids into the mix and everyone
wants something different and it's just like post.

Speaker 2 (02:21):
Mates, that's gotta be hard. Yeah, dating apps definitely not
really Is it because you're famous? Oh, it's just I
don't know. There's one theory that dating apps mess with
the algorithm of the universe, like you're supposed to meet
who you're supposed to meet, not force it together.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
Oh okay, so you're more about like the organic connection
in person old school.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
Yeah, I like a magical meet cute, cute, love it.
But I also yeah, it's just like overwhelming the apps.
I've been on them before, okay, but the apps feel
like another inbox that needs tending to. It feels like
another task totally. They just start piling up, you know,

(03:08):
and you feel bad if you don't respond to them.
So it's an unclosed loop in your brain. I don't know,
it feels like a task.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
You're right, So then do you tend to be the
aggressor or do you fall back? If you're like out
at dinner and you see a cute guy across the
bar and you're into it, do you give him a look?
Do you approach? Do you wait to see if the
universe is like wanting this to happen and have him
come to you?

Speaker 2 (03:35):
What's the game plan? I have historically never been the aggressor.
I don't make any effort whatsoever. I let them come
to me, and then they make a massive effort. As
we've talked about, wow, and that I thought was working
for me, but clearly does not. Okay, So I'm trying

(03:56):
to flip that and be a little more of the aggressor. Okay,
So I flirted with the guy at a party the
other day.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
And how did it go?

Speaker 2 (04:02):
Well, we exchange numbers and then I let him take
me to coffee, and that's about as far as we've
got enough.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
I'm always the aggressor. Really, don't come to me. If
I'm interested, I'll let you know. Otherwise leave me. B
How doesn't work out? Not well? A lot of sex
is happening, but not much more than that.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
But celibate. I was celibate.

Speaker 1 (04:26):
Here's the thing. I was celibate for quite a bit
of time. And then I always tell people cut me
some slack because I was also attempting to get pregnant
and was pregnant for nine of those months and then postpartum.
So people were like, you were celibate for over over
a year and a half. I'm like, well, cut me

(04:48):
some fucking slack. I was carrying a baby and then
who wants to have sex right after.

Speaker 2 (04:54):
They have a baby.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Nobody? Yeah, so now and what happens with me is
like once you rip the band date off, I'm like
all in. I'm like, okay, this is fun. Who's next.
I'm definitely safe, But I like to be the aggressor
because I don't if I'm not into it. I don't
want to have to pretend to be nice. Yeah, I
will let you know if I'm interested.

Speaker 2 (05:14):
I like the strategy. Yeah, I might start using it. Yeah,
you know.

Speaker 1 (05:18):
It's working for now, but the universe is going to
do its thing. I have no control over my life. Yes,
she'll take care of God. We give it up to God.
Nine pm bedtime. I don't need to work on that
at all. Yes, my favorite.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
In fact, if you want to flirt with me, tell
me you want to be home and in bed by
nine pm.

Speaker 1 (05:38):
I'm like, oh so hot, marriage material. If you want
to get in bed with me, you know, let's just
go really wild. Let's say seven pm, get in the bed,
watch our favorite show, and eat Gouda cheese and crackers
without spilling a crumb in my fucking bed. Okay, there
are rules. There are rules to the fun you are

(06:00):
my soulmate.

Speaker 2 (06:01):
Yes, yeah, that's hot.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
That's so hot. Hangovers in your thirties.

Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh no, absolutely not. I had one glass of wine
the other night and I was like, no, why why
why is your next day?

Speaker 1 (06:15):
For what?

Speaker 2 (06:15):
It's not even that fun.

Speaker 1 (06:17):
I know every time I look at someone and here's
where I always get the drooly mouth and not like
I'm going to like give in to it, right, but
I my mouth will water. If I'm on a rooftop
like during the day and someone's like, I'll take a
glass of rose, I'm like, I totally get that. But
then I tap into I know where this goes. It's

(06:37):
like one will lead into two. Tomorrow is shot, Sunday.

Speaker 2 (06:42):
Scari yes, tomorrow the next day the next like it's
just not worth it.

Speaker 1 (06:46):
No, the hangovers as you get older are like days
of recovery.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
And I like what you said there, because what you're
actually tapping into is how refreshing it might taste. Yeah,
you know, it's a cold glass is something on a
hot day.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
So yeah, we're like, we're like, you start feeling like
uninhibited and your cheese get a little warm.

Speaker 2 (07:05):
Yeah, so perhaps you know, we could all be more
mindful about what we're seeking. Mm when we reach for
a glass of alcohol, are you seeking connection? Are you
seeking presence? Are you seeking intimacy? And maybe find a
way to find that elsewhere?

Speaker 1 (07:22):
Well, let me tell you something. I've now done this
thing where I'm like, Okay, the equivalent of a glass
of rose for me is a diet cocone ice. The
equivalent for me if I'm like out at a nightclub,
if I've ever been in one of those in the
past few years, but nighttime where people are getting buck wild,
I'm like, Okay, I guess I'll have a red bowl

(07:43):
and get really buck wild with a shot of pineapple juice.
Oh yeah, that's when. That's like the equivalent to like
a vodka soda for me.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
So I find my equivalents, and once I tap in
mentally to like, this is what we're doing, this is
what it is for you, I start feeling the same
everyone else is feeling. Except tomorrow I'm gonna be up
at seven am ready for breakfast in my coffee.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
It's all a mental game anyway, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (08:07):
It truly is.

Speaker 3 (08:08):
It's all just a placebo effect if you ask me, right,
therapy thriving, thriving.

Speaker 2 (08:26):
I love my therapist. I recommend her to everyone. She
is a goddess.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
And do you feel like she speaks Christa She does. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:39):
And it was working with my therapists that made me
recognize one of the most powerful forms of love is
understanding and that I mean that is her business. Like
she sees you, right, she understands your pain and really
it's not you know, it's not training, it's not performance.

(09:02):
She really understands where you're coming from. And she deals
with a lot of people in you know, very really
varied circumstances like different industries and whatnot.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yeah, love therapy.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
Okay, so you're killing it. So if people are going
to murder me for this, I because of my past experiences.
I've had very bad experiences with therapists. That is a
trauma that I'm having to heal from and learn that
not every therapist is like that, and I will get

(09:37):
over it where I can trust somebody again.

Speaker 2 (09:42):
I will send you mine. Yeah, please do wonderful.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, I would love that. So I need to work
on it that. In my thirty flirty and thriving, I'm
flirting with the idea of therapy not quite thriving right?
Tracking your steps? I'm an I don't need to know.
I would track my sits. I always win at sits
ten thousand sits a day.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
Bitch. Wait, that's amazing.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
I always meet that number.

Speaker 2 (10:14):
I know so little about this. Does it actually track
when you sit down?

Speaker 1 (10:17):
Here's the thing is most people track it on their phone,
and I'm like, do you know what I My phone
is hardly ever on me unless it's necessary, So like,
it's not going to track my steps because I don't
even know where it is half the time.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
I love that You're the only person I know that
is not glued to their phone.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
No, I really don't love the phone. It just feels
very unnecessary.

Speaker 2 (10:39):
That's why you're so present.

Speaker 1 (10:41):
I try to be. You know, life is short. You
blink and it's over, So we need to be present,
saying no without guilt. I'm working on it. Are you
good at it? The boundary?

Speaker 2 (10:52):
Yeah, I'm thriving in that department. Wow? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (10:55):
How old are you again?

Speaker 2 (10:56):
Thirty three?

Speaker 1 (10:57):
Thirty three? I just turned thirty five. Well you're a
what's your sun sign?

Speaker 2 (11:00):
Scorpio?

Speaker 1 (11:01):
That's right, you're rising Pisces. Because I remember we had
I think your sun is my rising because I'm a
Scorpio rising, but my sun is Virgo. So the constant
conflict I feel between who I came into the world
as and who I project to the world is like

(11:23):
very intense. Yeah, what's your moon? My moon is Aquarius.
Oh I love that very watery. Yes, a lot of
tuias air. Aquarius is air. Then I think I'm not that.

Speaker 2 (11:38):
I think I was like aliens because they're so.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
Then I think, but then I think I might be Pisces.
I need to look into that because I know that
I'm a water sign for emotion.

Speaker 2 (11:49):
Well, if you're you're rising as Pisces, that's that's water.

Speaker 1 (11:52):
Oh my rising is Scorpio.

Speaker 2 (11:53):
Oh, you're rising a scorpio. Also, I know that.

Speaker 1 (11:55):
My I know that my moon, which is emotion right, yes, water,
so it's not Aquarius. I think maybe that's what I'm
thinking about, is our We have a Pisces that's the same,
and then the Scorpio.

Speaker 2 (12:09):
Okay, yeah, those into things, they'll get you.

Speaker 1 (12:14):
Oh, I know, I cry about everything. It doesn't even
mean anything to move emotion. The last one I want
to know about because you have gorgeous skin, face masks,
and serums.

Speaker 2 (12:25):
Oh, thriving, thriving too.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
Yeah, did you try the Haley Beaber one on Amazon?
The metacube, Oh, I love meticube so good. But then
I saw you have to leave it on for one
to three hours and I was like, oh, okay, I'm
one of those last night. Actually you can tell, just
going to pop in today.

Speaker 2 (12:43):
It's so sweet. But no, there's there's a metacue one
specifically that has what is it called. They're called like ampules.

Speaker 1 (12:51):
Or said, the tap, like the things that go into
the skin. Yes, yeah, the best.

Speaker 2 (12:56):
The pink one. Yes, it's extraordinary it.

Speaker 1 (13:00):
Yes, I only recommend.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
Yes, I love that mass. We are thriving in this department.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
We are thriving, and it's really the only one that
matters you.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
Guys.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
the Bonus for Untraditionally La La. Thank you for joining
me again. I will now release you into the wild.
I'm going to catch you guys on Wednesday and again
next week.
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