Dr. Heavenly on Lies in Relationships, Deiondra Sanders & Chanel Scott Talks Jacquees Drama & More!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What's it's way up with Angela yee, and you know
this is what I love talking about relationships. Okay, we
got Deana Sander's here.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Thank you for coming, Thank you for having me and
joining us. Doctor Heavenly is back again.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Hey, and we had Chanelle Scott here, who is the
mastermind of this whole event that you guys are doing.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Yes, we're having candid conversations about relationships and it's centered
on a card game. But I just released Navigating Past
Pain and Trauma and conversation starters on sex and Relationships
for couples.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
I like how you said sex, sex and relationships and relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Let's start up with this question.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Do you think that you can I'm gonna ask the
ladies this, Could you be okay with being in a
relationship with somebody where the sex isn't that great but
you love him like everything else is perfect? So angel
I'm not even gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I've been abstinent for about four years and I did
an eight year stint, so the sex gotta be good. Okay,
I just can't wait. Yeah, I just that's just not
something that I'm willing to compromise on. So I don't
know about the other ladies. But because I've been waiting, Yeah,
I'm waiting for that.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
But you can teach somebody to be good to write.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Angelo, I'm fifty nobody.
Speaker 5 (01:22):
I don't know if you could teach though, but I know,
don't let turn it off, Daddy. I was in a
relationship before prior a few years ago, and it just
wasn't it. And I tried sexual counseling. I tried counsel
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I'm talking about We tried everything, and it just it
never got better.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
And that was the reason for the ending of the relationship.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
No, it wasn't the but that was like a major
But I tried to teach it just it just wasn't there.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
What happens in sexual council.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
It was just it was different stuff that they taught
us to like do different intimacy in the beginning, talk
about different stuff. Start off having like certain kind of
foreplay and you know, just try different. I just really
help my family, I don't see that try different like
positions and stuff like that. So it was just like
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really just to try to bring the intimacy and the
chemistry back.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
So he knew that the sex wasn't good.
Speaker 6 (02:25):
Oh yeah, we had talked about it. I was like, yeah,
something's just not.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
And it's nice that he was open to it.
Speaker 6 (02:32):
Yeah, you know, I love people. That's very open system.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
You know.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Well, doctor Heavenly, what about you? I mean you've and
people love your relationship. How it's kind of like with
you and Damian he would he can. It's kind of
like the way y'all handle each other is a lot
of trust there.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Yes, right, absolutely, because.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You know, Doctor Heavenly has no problem saying with on
her mind and we don't never see him like be like, girl, what's.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Morom with you?
Speaker 4 (02:55):
But he's not paying attention because it supreme concentration is
a mind. If you watch him, he's looking at his space.
He's not really listening to what's going on because he
didn't want to be involved.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Okay, that's what that's fair.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
So talk to me about that, like, were you guys
the chemistry was automatic or was it something that had
to be learned?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Because it was definitely automatic. It was automatic.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I had prayed, I put it on my vision board,
and when I saw my man, I was attracted him
because God brought him for me.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
When God created the moon and the stars, he created
that man for me.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Real talk, right, So yeah, were there ever any times
in your marriage that you felt like cause listen and
now I'm sure you can say this too, Like people
go through rough passes, especially when you've been together a
long time. Was there ever a rough past that you
didn't think you were going.
Speaker 6 (03:43):
To get through?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Well, you know, my marriage is perfect. I've been very
clear about that.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
But honestly, yes, absolutely, Yeah, Yeah, it's been rough times
for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
And thirty two years.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
I've been married twenty seven years, but I've been with
him thirty two years. So yeah, it's been some rough time,
some rough days, months, years probably, but I think the
love sees you through.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Okay, and Deanga, I want to ask you, how are
you feeling? Because I know that baby's here adorable by
the way. I just wanted like, and he's good, he's
having a good time. But I know you've talked about
postpart and you've been really open about that. So how
are you feeling like today? Is it a day by
day thing or what's the process like for you?
Speaker 6 (04:23):
I think it's a day by day thing.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
I feel like I have had better days recently since
I came into my all moment. It's just it was
kind of hard to navigate because it's like a lot
of stuff.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
I would think, why do I feel like this? Is
it okay to.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
Be having these kind of thoughts like should I be
happier considering my new blessing and a lot of emotions.
I feel like I feel it a hundred times more
than what I normally would. So I just didn't know
how to control.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I couldn't imagine that because imagine if you had social
media when you first.
Speaker 6 (04:59):
Yes, So it's just a it's a day to day thing.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
But I will say I've had a lot more better
days now and I just pray every day now and
just take it one day at a time to just
you know, be the best version I can for snow.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Now for you, Now, what made you put this event together?
I know you have the current game and I even
want to tell to you about why you chose who
you chose to be on this man.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
So we have relationships Matter the show and then I
also have authored a book Relationships Matter, and so I
always like to have the live experience to give our
view as an opportunity to engage, to engage us in person.
And so I invited a Deandra because DeAndre has experiential knowledge.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Right.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
No one wants to hear from someone who's never been
through anything. So those people who are going through what
she's going through, she can walk them through it as
she goes through it. And then also wanted to paint
the picture to watch her go through it and grind out. Right,
she didn't just stop living, She's grinding it out. This
has work for her. So and then also doctor Heavenly
she's been married for twenty seven years, doing the husband
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for thirty two with TV experience right right, right, So
for those people who are married, because I always like
to get different demographics and write and get the different
perspectives because there's something for everyone. When you come to
my event, she can talk about the marriage and the
ups and the downs and be candid and transparent, because
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you can't if you've never gone through what I'm going through,
then I can't really hear from you because you can't
empathize with me. People who have never had those experiences,
those are the one that say, oh girl.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Get over it, let it go. So we say it's easy.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
To say when it's not your experience. So I wanted
to get people on the platform who could speak to
the different topics.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
As far as accidents, How is that helping you?
Speaker 3 (06:41):
It's horrible.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Forgive me, you know what.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
It allows you to speak to me, see more clearly,
make better decisions, and be more intentional. Yeah, it does,
Like I mean, and while I'm operating now, it's just
not abstinence. Now, when you're gonna do this, you got
to operate in purpose, right, You got to be in
You gotta do something with the idle time. You just
can't be sitting around talking about down practicing absence.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Can you masturbate? That's what I'm saying. Do you have
a rose? You can't. I do have a rose. I
got a couple of different toys.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
I don't use them all the time, but I do
have I do have them. But to be honest, because
I don't have anyone in my life, I don't think
about it that often. Not that often.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
You know.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
You gotta stay off the internet and you be good.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
That's a curious Okay, So DeAnda, how has this helped you?
Like just as far as your journey, like you said,
you've been going through a lot and we've seen it.
And listen, I felt for you because I can't imagine
having a baby and then having people weighing in and
then you're talking about postpartum.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
But some people can.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Be really cruel online and not really like you said,
if they haven't been through it, it's hard for them
to empathize.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
But how is it helping you?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Like being with I think sometimes other women who have
different perspectives that can also be like, girl, this is
what I went through.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
I feel like this has helped me a lot just
getting advice and just hearing from them. I've learned a lot,
just like you said, different perspectives. Also, it's helped me
just getting back busy. So for a long time I
kind of set out and took care of snow. But
now that I'm back, it makes me feel a lot
better and I feel like I'm starting to walk in
my purpose, like Chanelle said, So it's a great feeling
to just know that I'm helping other women by just
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talking about what I've dealt with. I get so many
messages where women are like, yes, talk about postpartum. We
didn't know what that was back in the day, you know,
but I knew I felt something. So I'm just hoping
that my story can just help women to know, like
you know, it's okay, You're not alone. If you need
to get help, you know you can get help. That's
okay too.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
And you're doing more in that space too, right to
help other women. Yes, So what's the plan with that,
because I know you have a whole Yes.
Speaker 5 (08:41):
So right now, I'm actually working on a pre and
postpartum journal that I'm very excited about. I'm such a journaler,
Like all my notes are like how I feel today
and stuff like that, so journaling is really big to me.
I'm working on a journal that us women can just
really sit there and write out all our thoughts about
when we feel like we have no one to talk about.
Because it's a lot of times where I felt I
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felt like I wish I would have had someone or
even just people to be like, you know what this is.
This is okay, it's okay to feel like this, that's okay,
but why do you feel like this? And then after
you feel like this, you know, let's see how to
change the way, you know, from a negative to a positive.
So I'm just working on my journal to help people
be able to express theirselves in a non judgmental way
and to you know, help them get through however they're feeling,
(09:24):
Oh I like this, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I like that you're open for different things, right, like journaling, counseling,
because I also feel like a lot of people are
not that open, you know, and in particular like to
bring that to a guy and for him to be like,
I'm cool with that. Have you guys done counseling ever?
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Doctor? Heavenly I have.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
I've done counseling. But my husband doesn't listen to a counselor.
So it's rough because you know, doctors are the worst patients,
you know.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
So he's not gonna listen to another person. He says, oh,
I know more than he does. So counselor didn't work
for us.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
So you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
So ten years on reality TV and sometimes, like people
I know who done reality television, sometimes they can overwhelm
your life. Like even when you're not filming and people
are watching things that you recorded months ago, so you've
already lived through it, but now you got to relive it.
Does that affect things at home everywhere? It's like you
get a little obsessive with things.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
Not for us, because, like I say, Damon is not
involved he's not on social media.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
He does not watch the show.
Speaker 4 (10:21):
And I know couples on the show that argue about
the show, but it ain't Damon and I because I
tell you, he stays out of it, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
What I mean.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
And he allows me to be me. I go where
I want to go, you know what I'm saying, do
what I want to do. I don't go in his practice.
He didn't come in mind. So we got a relationship.
But it's a business relationship too because he allows me
to do what I do too when we meet up
at night.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Okay, I think recently you also apologize for the women
I'm married to medicine. Yeah, for coming at the Real
Housewives of Atlanta, and you were like, that isn't right.
We're part of the same family, and you know, I
think sometimes there's things you do and then you do apologize, Yes, sir, Yes,
And I think that's important too, And that's important in
relationationships also because I think sometimes accountability is a difficult thing,
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like so difficult, especially I think women have that problem
more than men. Do you think to apologize i'ship.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I think men have more of a problem, in my opinion.
What do you think I.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Think we have a hard time we want to justify.
There are moments well we don't take accountability, but we
always have a reason as to why. We can always
match it back to well, you know you did this
and this is what provoked me to do that.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I see a lot of that.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Right for sure, because I feel likely sometimes men will
apologizes they just want to move past.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
I feel like we're like, but you know this, this
and that and and I hear a lot of women
even admitting that, like, you know, I messed.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Up on us.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
Have some testosterone because I will apologize just yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Sorry, I might do it tomorrow, but today I'm sorry.
Speaker 5 (11:51):
So I think a lot of men apologize and they
don't know why they're apologizing either, because they don't they
don't view it like they're not open minded to view
it from our standpoint.
Speaker 6 (12:00):
Also, I think women were more open minded.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Now you have the ring on.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
You, because I feel like this was presented like, okay,
perspective from a single you know, so you're not single.
Speaker 5 (12:15):
You know it's in God's hands do and trying to
figure it out.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Okay, we're not listen, We're all for that.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
And I know that sometimes things happen, it gets public,
it gets blown out. We don't know what's going on
behind the scenes, you know, in people's lives. Now, how
do you get people to open up in a space
like this, Because also I think sometimes we're taught that
like to keep our relationship, you know, close to us.
People will tell you, even on television, you know my
husband want to do it. You know, we don't want
to mess up our relationship by bringing too many people
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in and letting people in.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
What are your thoughts.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
About I leave by being transparent. Typically, most people do
come to my events or to my shows and they're like,
I don't want to share too much.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
But then when I begin to share.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
I'm like, oh, it's like it it removed, It releases
something removes the anxiety, and then everybody wants to share.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Like as an influx of people wanting to share because
they see other people being transparent and they can identify
and relate to the experiences. And so then they're like, oh,
well I went through that, and I want to talk
about it. I want to get your perspective on it
as well.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
This journey of celibacy, it's gonna be Yeah, listen, I
got to because what is it gonna like?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
When does it? When? Do you say?
Speaker 5 (13:25):
Like?
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Is it a time limit that you have for yourself?
Is it an experience? Is it something that has to happen?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Like, you know, I'm very intentional about dating, and I
just haven't met anyone. You know, I don't do the
casual dating. So I mean, if you see me out
on a date, just know that I like him. Just
know that I've vetted him and I like him, and
it's just a matter for me of just connecting with
the right person.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
What are some good first date questions that you should
ask somebody?
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Wow, I would, I would ask them what are they
looking for? Like, what are your intentions? Are you in
a position where you want to be in a relationship
but not necessarily with me, But because men, they don't
make a decision based off the person, it's just where
they are in life positionally, if they're ready to settle down.
So I would love to know if they are ready,
if they're in a place where they have done all
the things that they want to do. Are they where
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they need to be financially because most men hinge it
on whether I'm financially secure or not. And you ask
you know, do you are you looking to be in
a relationship? You know, And we talked earlier about not
wanting to teach a man. How do you feel about
a guy who maybe isn't financially where he wants to be,
but he's on the journey to try to get there.
Are you down to like, Okay, you know what I'm saying,
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as long now he has to be for me, as
long as he's purpose driven, ambitious and has a plan
and a vision. Now obviously, and people people get upset
when I say this, he's not working at McDonald's at
my age. Right, Maybe when I was twenty we might,
but not now.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Right.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
You have to have a vision. You have to have
a plan, and then you.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Have to have a vision for us.
Speaker 5 (14:59):
You know.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
If you don't have that for us and it ain't
a whole lot we can do well.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
So we looked at you, DeAndre, what do you think.
Speaker 5 (15:07):
My thoughts used to be? I was open as long
as you had a plan and a vision. But I
had that one.
Speaker 6 (15:15):
Child, that one I felt like I had to take
care of.
Speaker 4 (15:21):
And after that one, I was like, you know what,
I I can't do this. Once you get to come, yeah,
it's like, you have to come with something. I understand
the plan and a purpose, but you gotta start. You
gotta be walking in it at least halfway.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Absolute.
Speaker 5 (15:36):
You gotta have started to walk in it for now,
because that's what you be talking. Yeah, yeah, it can
just beable. You know.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
I tried to, oh, I'll help you. As months went
on and I just saw the money spent.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I was like no, yeah, because those type of men
are takers and they take. There's no limit to taking.
So you got to be mindful when you connect with
those type of people. You know, most men who are
not takers, they'll say hold on, you know, you don't
have to do this all out, take care of this,
or they'll let you know, I don't have the money,
so maybe we can do this. Well, then you have
that man who's just like okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 6 (16:07):
Well you know you still have men that say that.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
But it was the type of situation where I still
wanted to live how I wanted to live, so I
have him to come along too. Yeah, it was like that.
So I was like, I'm not gonna I'm gonna still
live my life, so just come with me. So I
definitely wouldn't say he was a taker, but that was Yeah,
that was hard. So after that, now it's like you
have to come with something.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
It's kind of your fault.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Like you yeah, you're enabling a situation.
Speaker 5 (16:32):
You know that that's true, but you know, I sometimes
you don't have to be here. Well we can work
towards it together, but you least got to be.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
But you wouldn't count that more when you have more.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Right, if you live a normal life, then you don't
really have that issue often, but when you have more,
you have to consider all your friends don't have what
you have, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
So that's if he's taking you to a game and
you know normally you a beat courtside or and then yeah,
can do that. You know what I'm saying, Are you
going to suck it up and sit.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Send and those blease?
Speaker 5 (17:04):
Oh yeah yeah I'm not. I'm not like that, Like
I'll definitely sit. It's the thought that counselor Okay, it's
just the fact that if I want to go on
a boat, then I got to pay for the boat.
So it's kind of like, you know, it's just at
first it's okay, but as it happens for months and
it become a problem over time, you know, one or
two things that's okay, But yeah, I definite wouldn't mind
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sitting in the thiefs that he got.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Its the thought that counsel me.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I feel you on that though, because it is hard
when you're a woman that actually has like a lot
of like I know, I get a lot of perks
and things like that, and so it's kind of like, okay,
you want to come like you can handle all of
those things. And sometimes, like you know, it can be intimiating.
I mean, your father is like a legend, you know,
to people. But that's also intimidating for a guy because
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they might also be like, how do I live up
to that?
Speaker 2 (17:52):
And should I even bother trying? Because I can?
Speaker 1 (17:54):
You know, absolutely so I don't know, but now doctor heavenly,
but you I think it's great that you have such
a solid situation, like y'all met so long ago in school,
still together to this day, managed to survive ten years
on reality TV, and like I said, I don't see
no cracks in the foundation. What are some things that
you would like to do that you haven't done yet
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when it comes to your relationship.
Speaker 4 (18:17):
I think the first question was how we do it,
and I think you have to be versatile.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Just like I told her. I could be Michelle Obama,
I could be Mama D When I'm a boss, no, no, no.
When I'm a boss at work, I know how to.
I have to turn it all because.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
You know, we have the gender roles, we do have
the foundational roles. So I have to turn the boss
off and be a wife and a mother and that's difficult,
and it's very difficult for a lot of women. I
struggle with it still, but I know that at the
end of the day, if he's a leader, if he's
worth merrit, he's a leader and I can follow him.
Now I try to steer him the other way, but
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I allow him, allow him to lead.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
And that's the issue. That's a trust thing. To trust somebody.
That's hard to do. I don't know if I could
do that for anyone else.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Right where you can trust enough that they know what
they're doing, that you can lean on them for help,
because that's like giving up a little bit of like,
you know, control, and I know sometimes we can be
control freaks.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Yeah, that's why you well, she's been married for so long,
But that's why you have to vet your partner, right,
you got to be able to respect him. If you
can't respect him, and if you can't trust them to leave,
then that's.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Not your person, right period. You should you google him Google.
People don't like that.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
Marriage registries, target Amazon to see if there's a baby registry,
the s a registry, all.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
That today, right, you gotta check off all three.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Now, let's just say you find something I know somebody's
happened to. She googled a guy and found something that
was a little concerning to her. Do you now go
and ask, like, leg, I don't google you and I've
seen you know this come up and hear his explanation,
because sometimes there's things that could come up and you don't.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Know what what came up that what came up.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
I think she said there was like some type of
domestic violence, you know, situation, and she did end up
asking him about it, and he was, you know, he
basically was like, she accused him of something. It didn't
really happen like that and whatever.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
Of course, but yeah, I'm like something like that, I
don't think I would ask. I would just look for
signs if we argue or something. But I mean, because
a man's gonna say that, Yeah about.
Speaker 6 (20:26):
That, something like that, I don't think. I probably would.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
Just watch how he handles her, how he engages her,
watches temper.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Yeah, and you know you brought us something good like
watch for clues.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
If you guys are arguing.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Arguing is also something that is going to happen in
any relationship. But I think it matters a lot like
what are the rules when it comes to arguments?
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Right?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
And so for you ladies, what would you say when
it comes because I think arguing effectively is also a
real thing, like how do we when we get into it,
how do we handle that? And so is that something
that maybe Deanga have you said like a standard like
okay when we argue?
Speaker 5 (21:04):
Because the DeAndre before the baby it's different than the
DeAndre now dealing with postpartum. I really wish I did
set standards and arguments now because it's just it got
to a point where I really couldn't control like my
emotions with certain stuff. So I would do things or
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say things that I knew there wasn't me, you know,
like I would have never done that pre snow. So
I do wish that certain standards were set going forward.
I would like to do that because arguments when you
just can't really when when you couldn't control your most
like you're capable of saying you know anything and that,
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and that's not good because I've never been that type
to really, like, you know, do stuff like that or
say stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Right now, you're right about that because those where its
stay forever.
Speaker 5 (21:55):
It's yeah, and then that's that's something I always remember,
like I never in my past relations, I never really
take down like that because like you said, they say
forever and people don't forget that. So I do think
that standard should be set on how you are you
because people argued so many.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
It should be.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
However, I been with my man thirty two years. I
think it's a double standard, just like for everything else.
And I know it ain't right, but I said, whatever
the hell come to my mind, but.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
He been not. You know what I'm saying is that
a lot of different things.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Whatever comes to your mind could be so because sometimes
you do gotta you know, I mean.
Speaker 4 (22:27):
I respect them, So it's certain things I'm not gonna say.
But I'm saying I probably am a lot worse than
he ever could be. I know how to do it better.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
I kind of I can't really you know what I do,
and tell me what to think about this because this
probably is also not that great. But I also refuse
to like engage in a conversation when i'm mad.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
That's good, that's good. I think that's a good thing.
I don't think you can do.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
To process doing that my whole Like, if I know
I'm mad, I can't have the conversation right now, and
I'm sure I could do that, and I will say
to you, I don't want to talk about this because
I want to say nothing crazy. Yeah, that's goodste I
feel like that's not good because you need to like
get it out.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
You need to process your emotions so that you don't
say something that you're gonna regret later, you know, think
about it all over it, and then go.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Back when you have calmed down and have the conversation.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
You can save a relationship because I can tell you
I'm gonna say something right when I'm mad, like I
can't hold it. That's one of those situations. I gotta
get it off.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
Have you ever said something that you wish you whitness?
Speaker 5 (23:26):
Like?
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
I think as the older I get, I think about
what I'm saying right. So if I do say it,
it was very intentional and I'm not gonna regret it.
That's what I meant to say. When I was younger,
I would say whatever comes to my mind, and then
I would be like, well, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry,
But now I think through what I'm gonna say.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
For sure, Doctor Heavily is like, you know what, I
think through it, and I said it, but I might
not mean it later, but I meant it when I
said it, right, So for sure.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Now, Danga, you also said the truth tell set you free?
What did you mean when you post.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
And the truth?
Speaker 4 (24:03):
You realize you don't need to say a lot of stuff.
You need to keep yourself things that happened.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
You ain't got what I'm saying is she got her supports.
You do not telling me and everything. You don't need
to know the truth about everything. And sometimes you got
the straight up lie.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
Thinking about that, you know what, not necessarily, but just
tell the truth.
Speaker 5 (24:26):
Let's okay, get a problem, I'm too honest.
Speaker 4 (24:32):
Yeah, sometimes it's it's a lie. It's a lie about timing.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Is everything? Okay, that's a fact. And if it doesn't
edify the.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
Relationship, some somethings people just don't need to know. You
have to say, okay, does this edify my relationship? And
if it doesn't edify the relationship, then you don't need
to tell them like.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Is this the biggest you? I don't think we should
answer that. I don't know if you want what is
it okay to lie about? It's it's okay to lie
about a lot of ship.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
List anything that you know is gonna be an argument.
Just refrain from the conversation or lie like everybody say
no communications because something. This is one thing men like
to ask bodies you got.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
I am.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
I would just say to my first, my last, and
my only laugh for years, Yeah, it's okay to lie.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
I don't think you should ever ask somebody like how
many bodies have you had?
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I don't think so, you know, I don't don't count exactly,
don't want to.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
Know, right, But men men want to know. As a woman,
I'm like, already assumed that you have your fair share,
But men asked that crazy question really doesn't edify.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I've had to ask.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
What did you say when somebody asked you that?
Speaker 2 (26:00):
What you said?
Speaker 5 (26:00):
I told you, I'm too honest. I need to learn
how to lie. But I'm way too honest.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
You got to just do that that video gre girl
said I did it all. I've been doing this and that,
and I'm way too honest. So I mean I told
the truth.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
So you gotta be like, oh, and then the twins,
I don't think, man, because I also listen.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
I don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
I'm not asking no man, And I feel like, probably
have no idea.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
They don't. They don't. They've lost count for sure. Yeah,
and they never forgot people. Oh what about that? We
need to give them tested first.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
The first got to be you gotta be straight up questions.
That's going to cancel the whole relationship. What's your credit
score if you don't know, it's low? Right, Okay? The
first wait, we ain't get down to be playing with.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
It should have a In fact, it should be on
an app when we ask these questions, just like an
a dental dental appointment.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
You asked all the questions up front before you even
get to the next step conversation, before you.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
You're back outside. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
I don't know about the first date.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
I want to.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
I want to once we decide whether we're going to
take it to the next level. I think that's the
time to ask.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
That a determining factor question. If we don't think we.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
We gotta have a conversation first to get acquainted, to
find out if we even have an incompatibility, because.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
We may have chemistry.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
You can have chemistry and not have compatibility, right, So
once we decide okay, we have chemistry compatibility.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
Just.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
I'm impatient two to three weeks if you see an
ample enough time getting to know that person, and then
once we decide okay, we are going to take it.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
But you don't hand six in two weeks. No, I'm
just paying that thirty four. I'm like, I'm not in
that category.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
Now.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
I'm want to ask you this because it did happen
on Married to Medicine, and I made this a topic
quiet when she's dating King and she wanted him to
move in, but he was like, I'm not moving into
your house.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
She has a beautiful house.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
She does, and you know, he was like, we could
get something together and you could wrench your place out.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
You like that, absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
But she was like, well, this house he means a lot.
This is the house that like.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
What I say is what I sit on My blog
is do like poor she did, keep your house and
then get another one too, so you always have something
to fall back on. The equity still going over here, Renda,
I give it to your mama, give it to your
your brother, whoever. But we build something together because I
don't ever want to be in a situation you say
this is.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
My house or get out of my house? Right, don't
And he doesn't want it either. We know how we are.
That's a real man. Yeah, for sure, that's the mainly thing.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
To Absolutely, I always say that my house is my
house is for me. If I ever connected with someone,
we would definitely have.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
To get the movie something else.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Now, what about separate bank accounts?
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Absolutely? Yeah, are you kidding? You don't even know about it.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
I think we need to have a joint on his money.
That's another double standard. But he doesn't need to know
what I had.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Or you can create one where you guys make the
posites but have.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
A joint one.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (29:12):
I think you should definitely have a joint one, but
definitely have you need.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Access to all of your husband's money. You need to
see what the hell he doing with right right?
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (29:20):
To see it and access it. Absolutely, you have your
own account. It's a double stand another one. Sorry double.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
I appreciate you honestly and clearly it's working for you,
so I can't even know. You don't even know. He
gonna hear this, but I love him though you don't
even know what we have. He don't know. Wow, that's wild.
Speaker 4 (29:43):
But he trusts me and trust me. I'm doing my
business right, so he knows that.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Now, DeAnda, How honest are you with your family about
when things are happening here? That's another thing, right, when
something happens, you get into it, do you like? Because
sometimes we tell people things, but then we stay with
somebody and they be like, Dann, why did I you
know what she did?
Speaker 2 (30:09):
So what do you think?
Speaker 1 (30:10):
What are your thoughts about that? Because sometimes it's like, damn,
if we're going to stay together, why am I you know?
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Telling?
Speaker 5 (30:15):
I don't really tell my family much stuff when it happens,
but I mean stuff is always online so they see it.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Anyways.
Speaker 6 (30:23):
My family, we're kind.
Speaker 5 (30:24):
Of the type of people where we're very close, but
we all have our own lives. So if I want
to talk about it, then they'll be there to listen
and give me advice or talk to me about how
they feel. But if I don't bring it up, then
they don't bring it up either. They just you know,
they'd be like, you keep referencing stuff. I understand from
when people said I was like spassing and crashing out
all that crazy.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
There was an issue with Jackui's doing the album with
Daye Loaf, and then he was like, you can't be.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
They have a child together.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
So I love that for you, though, Jack West is somebody,
what are you saying my daughter?
Speaker 3 (31:05):
I got a confession. That is what caused me to
contact Deandro.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Okay, I did the interview with you.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
I just didn't like the commentary and I said, oh no, no, no,
we gotta we gotta work. We got to get in purpose,
We got to grind right. I need you to have
your vision and your project and think that you're working on.
And that's how we started this relationship.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
No honestly with Jacques, well, Jacques did lip service and
he spoke so highly of you, you know, and then
shortly after things kind of went left and so and like,
I do think it's strange to be like she can't
be on set while we you know, doing a video
if you guys are together and things like that. I
don't even want to bring up things that are bothersome
to you. So I don't even want to take it there.
(31:46):
But you know, doctor Heavenly has no idea. Yeah, because
you know, if you're with somebody and they're at work
and you want to be there. But then I also
see this side of well, it's a business thing, and
I don't want to to understand that. Yeah, I'm never
much but but but but it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Was to make her comfortable that.
Speaker 4 (32:05):
Was an issue because yeah, they're gonna be there.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
She don't want this woman around the hose, right, I mean.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
That's respect, But why does she have to be comfort
Why are you uncomfortable?
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Is the question. But I don't even know who Jacquar is.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
You're talking about the young lady that he's doing the
Why is she so uncomfortable with his fiance? Like I
feel like, and there's rules that there was something going
on between them years.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
And it's gonna be with Jacquin Jacquin.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
She likes Jacque's six Drugs and rock and roll. We
already know what it is. You know what it is
down to get in your lane and let Jacquez do what.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
He do heavily is crazy. I mean, but I'm.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
That having just had a baby and going through postpartiment,
so you been elevated faithful.
Speaker 3 (32:58):
But but listen, he did interview with the young lady.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Well, they had a project together.
Speaker 5 (33:03):
I don't think he's not unfaithful. That wasn't I yeah,
that wasn't anybody.
Speaker 4 (33:08):
I'm just saying, we like that you're a he's a singer.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
She's a rapper singer. She's a rapper, but she's got
a melodic tone to her. So, but you know, it's
tough when things play out online and everybody's wing in
and people are, you know, saying different things, and then,
like you said, they made it look like he was
crashing out. But that's when the conversation about postpartum depression
comes up, because and also sometimes not even feeling like,
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you know, so confident, you know, at a time like that.
Speaker 5 (33:43):
I think also too, I wouldn't really say it was
a crash out. I think the problem is because my
family were so vocal. You know, my daddy, he's vocal
on his interviews, my brother's vocal on his interviews. I
think it's the fact that people are just now starting
to get to know me and say like, oh, she's vocal.
This she's never been like that, yeah, because I didn't
know how to work Twitter like that. Like now it's
like I think that that's a platform so I can
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say what I want and people are gonna take it.
Speaker 6 (34:06):
So it's not that all I'm crashing out.
Speaker 5 (34:08):
It's like, oh, I'm speaking up and y'all are finally
just getting to see how vocal the type of person
now that I am.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
But social media is never gonna you know, see things
the right way they you know, because I also think
even in that relationship, you have to deal with g
Z drama as well.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
And then this it was it was like a well
to feel defend more espectually.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
With him sitting beside dage Love, I wanted him to
just descend like it's a way to make sure she's
as well.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Definitely, I don't know who I heard the names before.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
Clearly, yeah, I don't know the song that I couldn't
tell you what she slapt me.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
You know, but I think you're talking about defending your women,
and that is also something I'm married to medicine.
Speaker 6 (34:58):
And that's okay, that's what I feel as well.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Oh yeah, Okay, that's why, because you're speaking with them,
but you need to defend me. You don't want to
make me feel, but defend me when it's no matter what.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Team, right, Okay, that's where I well, okay, so let's
talk about this happened on Marriage to Medicine.
Speaker 2 (35:21):
If y'all you know, do you guys want the spirit?
Today's probably nobody, just like I know.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
All right, So let's talk about that with King King okay, right,
and doctor g Okay pressing charges against him because in
the episode, you know, King is defending QUAD and and
in that defense it does get physical.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
We did not get physical. Didn't it cut off like
it did? It did not? Okay.
Speaker 4 (35:45):
There was no touching, no, okay. But there were words
and he said some derogatory things about QUAD to this
man's face. And some of the stuff y'all saw, some.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
Of you didn't see. Okay. So when you're defending your woman,
you know what I'm saying. All yeah, I don't care.
Speaker 4 (36:00):
What she said, but to me, she was with them people,
she was missed with them, She was missed with the
man she was talking talking because she was drinking and
she knew the buttons to push it she knew how
to get this man to act up, and she did it.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
But you don't tell her to shut the f up. No,
you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (36:15):
I mean, and my period, my husband is my wife
is very vocal. But if you have a problem with
my wife, come talk to me. And that's all King
was saying, and I agree with it.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
Talk to turn men in the contexts like that and
expect anything more than what you got is unrealistic.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
And I didn't do it. I don't put my name situation.
I did not do none of that.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I'm don't think about Then pressing charges against that was
a bit move, Okay.
Speaker 2 (36:45):
Can I say that he did?
Speaker 4 (36:47):
Yeah, I don't see because if you think about that,
and I have double standards, but contest to charge me.
A lot of people trying if you didn't touch me,
I don't think you should have been, like if you're scared.
But it wasn't even about him scared. He just said
he his ego was fractured.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
Right, because and I feel like he feels like not
part of that. Maybe he feels maybe kind of like
people are against him because he.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
Didn't know what it was was. He didn't want King
to film anymore.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
So he felt like if I put this down and
I called TOR and he can't film, because we've done
that before. That's happened before, where somebody who's not a
cast member, if you go to HR, thatd be like, okay,
well there's no reason for this person to be on set.
But then we complained, you know whatever, whatever, and then
King was allowed to film. What they came up with
was we would have different time slots, okay, so he
could come at one time, they could come in another.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
She sh this so much, y'all gotta watch it.
Speaker 4 (37:43):
Yeah, it's amazing, and then you have the reunion. Has
not happened yet and it's even more stag there. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (37:52):
Oh so she didn't come to the reunion. She did not.
She didn't want to face the truth. I want to say,
this is going to be quite entertaining to see all
of this life.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
Absolutely, yes, it's gonna be amazing.
Speaker 1 (38:06):
No, but fishing enough for your event just to have
these different perspectives, because look, whether or not I agree
with certain things and whatever, it's a great conversation, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (38:16):
And for uh and.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Doctor Heavenly, always outspoken and always yes, and.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
I agree to disagree.
Speaker 4 (38:24):
I'm firmly I'm not gonna be in the middle. You're
gonna know exactly what I'm thinking and how I'm thinking,
and you have to respect that because, I mean, we
might not agree on.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
It, but that's my stance. I don't think a man.
Speaker 4 (38:33):
Should ever be able to tell me to shut that fuck,
even if I might need to right right listen to
my husband. That's why he's here.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
Definitely. Yeah, Yeah, we're thinking much, DeAnda. Do you feel
safe and protected now in your situation? Like you sink?
What happened? She's got the ring on. I don't know
that's from him.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
I always do it with somebody else. I don't talk
to you. Yeah, listen, I can't wait for this.
Speaker 5 (39:03):
You know, we we we're trying to figure it out. Okay,
we're trying to figure it out. I think that's one
of my biggest things, though, is I want to feel,
you know, saphering protective, but you know, we're trying to
figure it out.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Okay. I mean I hope you do.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
I hope that he understands where you're where you're coming from.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
How old is he young? He thirty? How old is
dig What are you laughing?
Speaker 6 (39:32):
At I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
Yeah, I'm not sure.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Yeah, no, go ahead, but you know, And but that
does happen, right when it comes to work relationships too,
and you're in a relationship, how do you allow somebody
to work with.
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Someone that you're not comfortable? And what capacity she rapping
on his song or something?
Speaker 1 (39:49):
They have an album together, they put out a project together.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Okay, yeah, you don't rap, you can't rap. Get over there.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Do you feel like there was in any way like
he was concerned about you being there?
Speaker 2 (40:09):
Is there any justification for that?
Speaker 1 (40:11):
Like do you feel like, Okay, well maybe I was wild,
Like was there any reason that he should have felt
that way?
Speaker 4 (40:17):
No?
Speaker 5 (40:17):
I don't think so. I don't think it really was
a concern like that for him. I think it's just
as far as for her to feel more comfortable because she,
you know, was gonna fee uncomfortable if I'm near Wait
a minute, what And.
Speaker 6 (40:30):
I feel like that because of you know, just what does.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
She matter that.
Speaker 3 (40:38):
That's the point to make her comfortable?
Speaker 5 (40:41):
And yeah, I mean, you know, I just feel like
that it just should have been handled differently.
Speaker 6 (40:54):
I just really just don't like how she moved like
it's another.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
It's so much.
Speaker 6 (40:59):
Stuff that I see that I hear the stuff that
she does.
Speaker 5 (41:03):
She knows what she does, even how she did something
on the interview they did saying she never met me,
like she's met me. I want to introduce myself to her,
trying to be you know, a good fiance.
Speaker 6 (41:12):
And she didn't even want to sleep.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
Really, so you've made the effort that sounds like she's hip.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
It's kind of like or if she wants to you said,
what either they having sex or she wants to have sex.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
Well, I don't know about I mean, I think she's
in a relationship. I from my understanding, and I know
they maybe had a past or something like that.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
Yeah, yeah, okay, so that's really what the energy.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
It's probably just from that, like they had to pass tell.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
Me what's going on, because but he's a he's in
a new relationship and he has a fiance and that
should be respected. You know, you don't tell your fiance no,
you can come, because I'm trying to make another female comfortable.
You got to meet in the middle somewhere, but do whatever.
That's only that's right because we done in your relationship.
We don't know what's going on. Behind closed doors. Don't
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listen to nobody.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
But I'm just.
Speaker 6 (42:02):
Praying about it.
Speaker 2 (42:03):
Listen to yourself with God.
Speaker 6 (42:04):
What you feel shows me what's up.
Speaker 5 (42:06):
And you know, just praying about it and taking the
day you walk away. My daddy said to because when
I just go off on people, my Daddy say, the
thing is, my family know me, so they.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Know this relationship. That's all I asked.
Speaker 5 (42:30):
My family is the type of they're gonna support whatever
I want to do.
Speaker 6 (42:34):
He's gonna say.
Speaker 5 (42:35):
What he how he feels, like he said how he
felt in the beginning when I first intimated him to it.
Speaker 6 (42:40):
You know, that's between me and my daddy.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
I want to say now, Daddy might was right.
Speaker 5 (42:48):
I justn't want to say now, Daddy, But my dad
is a type to if I'm with it and it
makes me happy, he gonna support it all the way.
And then you know, if it ends up making me sad,
he gonna be there to pick me up. You know,
my family is very supportive of any of any decisions
that we all make.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Okay, okay, all right, but we love that.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
But listen, I know right now everybody is coming out
to this event. Yes, so this has happened in March
twenty third.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Yes, Absolutely, Sunday, March twenty third in Atlanta, Georgia at
Curate and anyone who wants to attend can RTP for
complimentary tickets at Relationships Matter Live Dot even Oh, it's
free free.
Speaker 4 (43:28):
Some people need to come out of Yes, y'all got
some questions? Ask us anything about our relationship?
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Yes, transparent, candid conversations about relationship.
Speaker 6 (43:37):
Keep it to a minimum with mine.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Though I would give you that, like say here, answer
these questions.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
I didn't answer them. I answered more than.
Speaker 1 (43:56):
Well, we need to just show up doctor heavenly not
knowing who people are and asking them questions and get
into that.
Speaker 2 (44:01):
I like that. I don't know who the hell that was.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
But people trying to say you was being shady by
taking pictures with Angela Ukley.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Like, no, she's a beautiful woman.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Now, not about her about like maybe she doesn't get
along with somebody.
Speaker 4 (44:14):
I don't know, you really don't. I don't know Jack,
I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
In the show.
Speaker 1 (44:18):
I know Angela, I don't know her Man.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
I don't know. I know the ladies, I know the
old school ladies. I don't know anything. I don't know
what's going on in the show.
Speaker 3 (44:28):
She's just taking pictures like, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Want any beef between the ladies in Atlanta. You get
I see a future start right here. And you're looking
at the mic like I'm the gam mama, I'm the
new mom.
Speaker 1 (44:39):
Hi, okay, now says look look at the dentist doctor
heavenly like let me see. Well, anyway, I appreciate that
for you, and like this is what matters the most
right here. All right, well, thank you guys, and again
marsh Whening there. How can they get tickets one more time?
Speaker 3 (44:59):
Relationships matter Live dot even bright dot com.
Speaker 1 (45:02):
All right, I'm man, I need to be in Atlanta
for this.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
I always have a good time with you. Trying to
send some of you a little bit.
Speaker 1 (45:08):
But that's okay, No, never, I'm just trying to listen
her YouTube. That's where it's unsensitible. Yes, it's not bad.
I'm not saying it's bad.
Speaker 2 (45:21):
I say positive things the whole time.
Speaker 4 (45:23):
The only thing that goes viralens or sentence that I
might see that might not be well.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
We love a viral moment. Yeah, you lead into it,
you know, but I love all the ladies in Atlanta.
Speaker 4 (45:31):
I love all the ladies on marriage to Medicine, and
tune into our reunion as well. And we're gonna bring
all our friends to you and we're gonna have a
good time.
Speaker 1 (45:40):
Okay, all the friends that come in. He's Toya coming.
Speaker 2 (45:43):
I don't know. I don't know, honestly, I don't really
talk to Toy that much.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Oh my god, I cannot wait to see this reunion, y'all.
I gotta find out what happened with this med gala
with this money.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
Okay, go ahead, girl.
Speaker 4 (45:56):
It's a mess, but God stood, and we are all
ladies who we're positive ladies. While you're doing each other in,
we're gonna move forward in a positive way.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
That is gonna learn all the time.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
We don't even got a censor, doctor, heavenly, all right,
it's way up, way
What's it's way up with Angela yee, and you know
this is what I love talking about relationships. Okay, we
got Deana Sander's here.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Thank you for coming, Thank you for having me and
joining us. Doctor Heavenly is back again.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Hey, and we had Chanelle Scott here, who is the
mastermind of this whole event that you guys are doing.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Yes, we're having candid conversations about relationships and it's centered
on a card game. But I just released Navigating Past
Pain and Trauma and conversation starters on sex and Relationships
for couples.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
I like how you said sex, sex and relationships and relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Let's start up with this question.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Do you think that you can I'm gonna ask the
ladies this, Could you be okay with being in a
relationship with somebody where the sex isn't that great but
you love him like everything else is perfect? So angel
I'm not even gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I've been abstinent for about four years and I did
an eight year stint, so the sex gotta be good. Okay,
I just can't wait. Yeah, I just that's just not
something that I'm willing to compromise on. So I don't
know about the other ladies. But because I've been waiting, Yeah,
I'm waiting for that.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
But you can teach somebody to be good to write.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Angelo, I'm fifty nobody.
Speaker 5 (01:22):
I don't know if you could teach though, but I know,
don't let turn it off, Daddy. I was in a
relationship before prior a few years ago, and it just
wasn't it. And I tried sexual counseling. I tried counsel
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I'm talking about We tried everything, and it just it
never got better.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
And that was the reason for the ending of the relationship.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
No, it wasn't the but that was like a major
But I tried to teach it just it just wasn't there.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
What happens in sexual council.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
It was just it was different stuff that they taught
us to like do different intimacy in the beginning, talk
about different stuff. Start off having like certain kind of
foreplay and you know, just try different. I just really
help my family, I don't see that try different like
positions and stuff like that. So it was just like
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really just to try to bring the intimacy and the
chemistry back.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
So he knew that the sex wasn't good.
Speaker 6 (02:25):
Oh yeah, we had talked about it. I was like, yeah,
something's just not.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
And it's nice that he was open to it.
Speaker 6 (02:32):
Yeah, you know, I love people. That's very open system.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
You know.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Well, doctor Heavenly, what about you? I mean you've and
people love your relationship. How it's kind of like with
you and Damian he would he can. It's kind of
like the way y'all handle each other is a lot
of trust there.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Yes, right, absolutely, because.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You know, Doctor Heavenly has no problem saying with on
her mind and we don't never see him like be like, girl, what's.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Morom with you?
Speaker 4 (02:55):
But he's not paying attention because it supreme concentration is
a mind. If you watch him, he's looking at his space.
He's not really listening to what's going on because he
didn't want to be involved.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Okay, that's what that's fair.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
So talk to me about that, like, were you guys
the chemistry was automatic or was it something that had
to be learned?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Because it was definitely automatic. It was automatic.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I had prayed, I put it on my vision board,
and when I saw my man, I was attracted him
because God brought him for me.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
When God created the moon and the stars, he created
that man for me.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Real talk, right, So yeah, were there ever any times
in your marriage that you felt like cause listen and
now I'm sure you can say this too, Like people
go through rough passes, especially when you've been together a
long time. Was there ever a rough past that you
didn't think you were going.
Speaker 6 (03:43):
To get through?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Well, you know, my marriage is perfect. I've been very
clear about that.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
But honestly, yes, absolutely, Yeah, Yeah, it's been rough times
for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
And thirty two years.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
I've been married twenty seven years, but I've been with
him thirty two years. So yeah, it's been some rough time,
some rough days, months, years probably, but I think the
love sees you through.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Okay, and Deanga, I want to ask you, how are
you feeling? Because I know that baby's here adorable by
the way. I just wanted like, and he's good, he's
having a good time. But I know you've talked about
postpart and you've been really open about that. So how
are you feeling like today? Is it a day by
day thing or what's the process like for you?
Speaker 6 (04:23):
I think it's a day by day thing.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
I feel like I have had better days recently since
I came into my all moment. It's just it was
kind of hard to navigate because it's like a lot
of stuff.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
I would think, why do I feel like this? Is
it okay to.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
Be having these kind of thoughts like should I be
happier considering my new blessing and a lot of emotions.
I feel like I feel it a hundred times more
than what I normally would. So I just didn't know
how to control.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I couldn't imagine that because imagine if you had social
media when you first.
Speaker 6 (04:59):
Yes, So it's just a it's a day to day thing.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
But I will say I've had a lot more better
days now and I just pray every day now and
just take it one day at a time to just
you know, be the best version I can for snow.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Now for you, Now, what made you put this event together?
I know you have the current game and I even
want to tell to you about why you chose who
you chose to be on this man.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
So we have relationships Matter the show and then I
also have authored a book Relationships Matter, and so I
always like to have the live experience to give our
view as an opportunity to engage, to engage us in person.
And so I invited a Deandra because DeAndre has experiential knowledge.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Right.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
No one wants to hear from someone who's never been
through anything. So those people who are going through what
she's going through, she can walk them through it as
she goes through it. And then also wanted to paint
the picture to watch her go through it and grind out. Right,
she didn't just stop living, She's grinding it out. This
has work for her. So and then also doctor Heavenly
she's been married for twenty seven years, doing the husband
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for thirty two with TV experience right right, right, So
for those people who are married, because I always like
to get different demographics and write and get the different
perspectives because there's something for everyone. When you come to
my event, she can talk about the marriage and the
ups and the downs and be candid and transparent, because
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you can't if you've never gone through what I'm going through,
then I can't really hear from you because you can't
empathize with me. People who have never had those experiences,
those are the one that say, oh girl.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Get over it, let it go. So we say it's easy.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
To say when it's not your experience. So I wanted
to get people on the platform who could speak to
the different topics.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
As far as accidents, How is that helping you?
Speaker 3 (06:41):
It's horrible.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Forgive me, you know what.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
It allows you to speak to me, see more clearly,
make better decisions, and be more intentional. Yeah, it does,
Like I mean, and while I'm operating now, it's just
not abstinence. Now, when you're gonna do this, you got
to operate in purpose, right, You got to be in
You gotta do something with the idle time. You just
can't be sitting around talking about down practicing absence.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Can you masturbate? That's what I'm saying. Do you have
a rose? You can't. I do have a rose. I
got a couple of different toys.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
I don't use them all the time, but I do
have I do have them. But to be honest, because
I don't have anyone in my life, I don't think
about it that often. Not that often.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
You know.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
You gotta stay off the internet and you be good.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
That's a curious Okay, So DeAnda, how has this helped you?
Like just as far as your journey, like you said,
you've been going through a lot and we've seen it.
And listen, I felt for you because I can't imagine
having a baby and then having people weighing in and
then you're talking about postpartum.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
But some people can.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Be really cruel online and not really like you said,
if they haven't been through it, it's hard for them
to empathize.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
But how is it helping you?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Like being with I think sometimes other women who have
different perspectives that can also be like, girl, this is
what I went through.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
I feel like this has helped me a lot just
getting advice and just hearing from them. I've learned a lot,
just like you said, different perspectives. Also, it's helped me
just getting back busy. So for a long time I
kind of set out and took care of snow. But
now that I'm back, it makes me feel a lot
better and I feel like I'm starting to walk in
my purpose, like Chanelle said, So it's a great feeling
to just know that I'm helping other women by just
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talking about what I've dealt with. I get so many
messages where women are like, yes, talk about postpartum. We
didn't know what that was back in the day, you know,
but I knew I felt something. So I'm just hoping
that my story can just help women to know, like
you know, it's okay, You're not alone. If you need
to get help, you know you can get help. That's
okay too.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
And you're doing more in that space too, right to
help other women. Yes, So what's the plan with that,
because I know you have a whole Yes.
Speaker 5 (08:41):
So right now, I'm actually working on a pre and
postpartum journal that I'm very excited about. I'm such a journaler,
Like all my notes are like how I feel today
and stuff like that, so journaling is really big to me.
I'm working on a journal that us women can just
really sit there and write out all our thoughts about
when we feel like we have no one to talk about.
Because it's a lot of times where I felt I
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felt like I wish I would have had someone or
even just people to be like, you know what this is.
This is okay, it's okay to feel like this, that's okay,
but why do you feel like this? And then after
you feel like this, you know, let's see how to
change the way, you know, from a negative to a positive.
So I'm just working on my journal to help people
be able to express theirselves in a non judgmental way
and to you know, help them get through however they're feeling,
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Oh I like this, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I like that you're open for different things, right, like journaling, counseling,
because I also feel like a lot of people are
not that open, you know, and in particular like to
bring that to a guy and for him to be like,
I'm cool with that. Have you guys done counseling ever?
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Doctor? Heavenly I have.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
I've done counseling. But my husband doesn't listen to a counselor.
So it's rough because you know, doctors are the worst patients,
you know.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
So he's not gonna listen to another person. He says, oh,
I know more than he does. So counselor didn't work
for us.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
So you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
So ten years on reality TV and sometimes, like people
I know who done reality television, sometimes they can overwhelm
your life. Like even when you're not filming and people
are watching things that you recorded months ago, so you've
already lived through it, but now you got to relive it.
Does that affect things at home everywhere? It's like you
get a little obsessive with things.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
Not for us, because, like I say, Damon is not
involved he's not on social media.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
He does not watch the show.
Speaker 4 (10:21):
And I know couples on the show that argue about
the show, but it ain't Damon and I because I
tell you, he stays out of it, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
What I mean.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
And he allows me to be me. I go where
I want to go, you know what I'm saying, do
what I want to do. I don't go in his practice.
He didn't come in mind. So we got a relationship.
But it's a business relationship too because he allows me
to do what I do too when we meet up
at night.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Okay, I think recently you also apologize for the women
I'm married to medicine. Yeah, for coming at the Real
Housewives of Atlanta, and you were like, that isn't right.
We're part of the same family, and you know, I
think sometimes there's things you do and then you do apologize, Yes, sir, Yes,
And I think that's important too, And that's important in
relationationships also because I think sometimes accountability is a difficult thing,
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like so difficult, especially I think women have that problem
more than men. Do you think to apologize i'ship.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I think men have more of a problem, in my opinion.
What do you think I.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Think we have a hard time we want to justify.
There are moments well we don't take accountability, but we
always have a reason as to why. We can always
match it back to well, you know you did this
and this is what provoked me to do that.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I see a lot of that.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Right for sure, because I feel likely sometimes men will
apologizes they just want to move past.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
I feel like we're like, but you know this, this
and that and and I hear a lot of women
even admitting that, like, you know, I messed.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Up on us.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
Have some testosterone because I will apologize just yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Sorry, I might do it tomorrow, but today I'm sorry.
Speaker 5 (11:51):
So I think a lot of men apologize and they
don't know why they're apologizing either, because they don't they
don't view it like they're not open minded to view
it from our standpoint.
Speaker 6 (12:00):
Also, I think women were more open minded.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Now you have the ring on.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
You, because I feel like this was presented like, okay,
perspective from a single you know, so you're not single.
Speaker 5 (12:15):
You know it's in God's hands do and trying to
figure it out.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Okay, we're not listen, We're all for that.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
And I know that sometimes things happen, it gets public,
it gets blown out. We don't know what's going on
behind the scenes, you know, in people's lives. Now, how
do you get people to open up in a space
like this, Because also I think sometimes we're taught that
like to keep our relationship, you know, close to us.
People will tell you, even on television, you know my
husband want to do it. You know, we don't want
to mess up our relationship by bringing too many people
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in and letting people in.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
What are your thoughts.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
About I leave by being transparent. Typically, most people do
come to my events or to my shows and they're like,
I don't want to share too much.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
But then when I begin to share.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
I'm like, oh, it's like it it removed, It releases
something removes the anxiety, and then everybody wants to share.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Like as an influx of people wanting to share because
they see other people being transparent and they can identify
and relate to the experiences. And so then they're like, oh,
well I went through that, and I want to talk
about it. I want to get your perspective on it
as well.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
This journey of celibacy, it's gonna be Yeah, listen, I
got to because what is it gonna like?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
When does it? When? Do you say?
Speaker 5 (13:25):
Like?
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Is it a time limit that you have for yourself?
Is it an experience? Is it something that has to happen?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Like, you know, I'm very intentional about dating, and I
just haven't met anyone. You know, I don't do the
casual dating. So I mean, if you see me out
on a date, just know that I like him. Just
know that I've vetted him and I like him, and
it's just a matter for me of just connecting with
the right person.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
What are some good first date questions that you should
ask somebody?
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Wow, I would, I would ask them what are they
looking for? Like, what are your intentions? Are you in
a position where you want to be in a relationship
but not necessarily with me, But because men, they don't
make a decision based off the person, it's just where
they are in life positionally, if they're ready to settle down.
So I would love to know if they are ready,
if they're in a place where they have done all
the things that they want to do. Are they where
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they need to be financially because most men hinge it
on whether I'm financially secure or not. And you ask
you know, do you are you looking to be in
a relationship? You know, And we talked earlier about not
wanting to teach a man. How do you feel about
a guy who maybe isn't financially where he wants to be,
but he's on the journey to try to get there.
Are you down to like, Okay, you know what I'm saying,
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as long now he has to be for me, as
long as he's purpose driven, ambitious and has a plan
and a vision. Now obviously, and people people get upset
when I say this, he's not working at McDonald's at
my age. Right, Maybe when I was twenty we might,
but not now.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Right.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
You have to have a vision. You have to have
a plan, and then you.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Have to have a vision for us.
Speaker 5 (14:59):
You know.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
If you don't have that for us and it ain't
a whole lot we can do well.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
So we looked at you, DeAndre, what do you think.
Speaker 5 (15:07):
My thoughts used to be? I was open as long
as you had a plan and a vision. But I
had that one.
Speaker 6 (15:15):
Child, that one I felt like I had to take
care of.
Speaker 4 (15:21):
And after that one, I was like, you know what,
I I can't do this. Once you get to come, yeah,
it's like, you have to come with something. I understand
the plan and a purpose, but you gotta start. You
gotta be walking in it at least halfway.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Absolute.
Speaker 5 (15:36):
You gotta have started to walk in it for now,
because that's what you be talking. Yeah, yeah, it can
just beable. You know.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
I tried to, oh, I'll help you. As months went
on and I just saw the money spent.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I was like no, yeah, because those type of men
are takers and they take. There's no limit to taking.
So you got to be mindful when you connect with
those type of people. You know, most men who are
not takers, they'll say hold on, you know, you don't
have to do this all out, take care of this,
or they'll let you know, I don't have the money,
so maybe we can do this. Well, then you have
that man who's just like okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 6 (16:07):
Well you know you still have men that say that.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
But it was the type of situation where I still
wanted to live how I wanted to live, so I
have him to come along too. Yeah, it was like that.
So I was like, I'm not gonna I'm gonna still
live my life, so just come with me. So I
definitely wouldn't say he was a taker, but that was Yeah,
that was hard. So after that, now it's like you
have to come with something.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
It's kind of your fault.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Like you yeah, you're enabling a situation.
Speaker 5 (16:32):
You know that that's true, but you know, I sometimes
you don't have to be here. Well we can work
towards it together, but you least got to be.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
But you wouldn't count that more when you have more.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Right, if you live a normal life, then you don't
really have that issue often, but when you have more,
you have to consider all your friends don't have what
you have, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
So that's if he's taking you to a game and
you know normally you a beat courtside or and then yeah,
can do that. You know what I'm saying, Are you
going to suck it up and sit.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Send and those blease?
Speaker 5 (17:04):
Oh yeah yeah I'm not. I'm not like that, Like
I'll definitely sit. It's the thought that counselor Okay, it's
just the fact that if I want to go on
a boat, then I got to pay for the boat.
So it's kind of like, you know, it's just at
first it's okay, but as it happens for months and
it become a problem over time, you know, one or
two things that's okay, But yeah, I definite wouldn't mind
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sitting in the thiefs that he got.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Its the thought that counsel me.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I feel you on that though, because it is hard
when you're a woman that actually has like a lot
of like I know, I get a lot of perks
and things like that, and so it's kind of like, okay,
you want to come like you can handle all of
those things. And sometimes, like you know, it can be intimiating.
I mean, your father is like a legend, you know,
to people. But that's also intimidating for a guy because
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they might also be like, how do I live up
to that?
Speaker 2 (17:52):
And should I even bother trying? Because I can?
Speaker 1 (17:54):
You know, absolutely so I don't know, but now doctor heavenly,
but you I think it's great that you have such
a solid situation, like y'all met so long ago in school,
still together to this day, managed to survive ten years
on reality TV, and like I said, I don't see
no cracks in the foundation. What are some things that
you would like to do that you haven't done yet
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when it comes to your relationship.
Speaker 4 (18:17):
I think the first question was how we do it,
and I think you have to be versatile.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Just like I told her. I could be Michelle Obama,
I could be Mama D When I'm a boss, no, no, no.
When I'm a boss at work, I know how to.
I have to turn it all because.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
You know, we have the gender roles, we do have
the foundational roles. So I have to turn the boss
off and be a wife and a mother and that's difficult,
and it's very difficult for a lot of women. I
struggle with it still, but I know that at the
end of the day, if he's a leader, if he's
worth merrit, he's a leader and I can follow him.
Now I try to steer him the other way, but
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I allow him, allow him to lead.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
And that's the issue. That's a trust thing. To trust somebody.
That's hard to do. I don't know if I could
do that for anyone else.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Right where you can trust enough that they know what
they're doing, that you can lean on them for help,
because that's like giving up a little bit of like,
you know, control, and I know sometimes we can be
control freaks.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Yeah, that's why you well, she's been married for so long,
But that's why you have to vet your partner, right,
you got to be able to respect him. If you
can't respect him, and if you can't trust them to leave,
then that's.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Not your person, right period. You should you google him Google.
People don't like that.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
Marriage registries, target Amazon to see if there's a baby registry,
the s a registry, all.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
That today, right, you gotta check off all three.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Now, let's just say you find something I know somebody's
happened to. She googled a guy and found something that
was a little concerning to her. Do you now go
and ask, like, leg, I don't google you and I've
seen you know this come up and hear his explanation,
because sometimes there's things that could come up and you don't.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Know what what came up that what came up.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
I think she said there was like some type of
domestic violence, you know, situation, and she did end up
asking him about it, and he was, you know, he
basically was like, she accused him of something. It didn't
really happen like that and whatever.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
Of course, but yeah, I'm like something like that, I
don't think I would ask. I would just look for
signs if we argue or something. But I mean, because
a man's gonna say that, Yeah about.
Speaker 6 (20:26):
That, something like that, I don't think. I probably would.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
Just watch how he handles her, how he engages her,
watches temper.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Yeah, and you know you brought us something good like
watch for clues.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
If you guys are arguing.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Arguing is also something that is going to happen in
any relationship. But I think it matters a lot like
what are the rules when it comes to arguments?
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Right?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
And so for you ladies, what would you say when
it comes because I think arguing effectively is also a
real thing, like how do we when we get into it,
how do we handle that? And so is that something
that maybe Deanga have you said like a standard like
okay when we argue?
Speaker 5 (21:04):
Because the DeAndre before the baby it's different than the
DeAndre now dealing with postpartum. I really wish I did
set standards and arguments now because it's just it got
to a point where I really couldn't control like my
emotions with certain stuff. So I would do things or
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say things that I knew there wasn't me, you know,
like I would have never done that pre snow. So
I do wish that certain standards were set going forward.
I would like to do that because arguments when you
just can't really when when you couldn't control your most
like you're capable of saying you know anything and that,
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and that's not good because I've never been that type
to really, like, you know, do stuff like that or
say stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Right now, you're right about that because those where its
stay forever.
Speaker 5 (21:55):
It's yeah, and then that's that's something I always remember,
like I never in my past relations, I never really
take down like that because like you said, they say
forever and people don't forget that. So I do think
that standard should be set on how you are you
because people argued so many.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
It should be.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
However, I been with my man thirty two years. I
think it's a double standard, just like for everything else.
And I know it ain't right, but I said, whatever
the hell come to my mind, but.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
He been not. You know what I'm saying is that
a lot of different things.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Whatever comes to your mind could be so because sometimes
you do gotta you know, I mean.
Speaker 4 (22:27):
I respect them, So it's certain things I'm not gonna say.
But I'm saying I probably am a lot worse than
he ever could be. I know how to do it better.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
I kind of I can't really you know what I do,
and tell me what to think about this because this
probably is also not that great. But I also refuse
to like engage in a conversation when i'm mad.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
That's good, that's good. I think that's a good thing.
I don't think you can do.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
To process doing that my whole Like, if I know
I'm mad, I can't have the conversation right now, and
I'm sure I could do that, and I will say
to you, I don't want to talk about this because
I want to say nothing crazy. Yeah, that's goodste I
feel like that's not good because you need to like
get it out.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
You need to process your emotions so that you don't
say something that you're gonna regret later, you know, think
about it all over it, and then go.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Back when you have calmed down and have the conversation.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
You can save a relationship because I can tell you
I'm gonna say something right when I'm mad, like I
can't hold it. That's one of those situations. I gotta
get it off.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
Have you ever said something that you wish you whitness?
Speaker 5 (23:26):
Like?
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
I think as the older I get, I think about
what I'm saying right. So if I do say it,
it was very intentional and I'm not gonna regret it.
That's what I meant to say. When I was younger,
I would say whatever comes to my mind, and then
I would be like, well, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry,
But now I think through what I'm gonna say.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
For sure, Doctor Heavily is like, you know what, I
think through it, and I said it, but I might
not mean it later, but I meant it when I
said it, right, So for sure.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Now, Danga, you also said the truth tell set you free?
What did you mean when you post.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
And the truth?
Speaker 4 (24:03):
You realize you don't need to say a lot of stuff.
You need to keep yourself things that happened.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
You ain't got what I'm saying is she got her supports.
You do not telling me and everything. You don't need
to know the truth about everything. And sometimes you got
the straight up lie.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
Thinking about that, you know what, not necessarily, but just
tell the truth.
Speaker 5 (24:26):
Let's okay, get a problem, I'm too honest.
Speaker 4 (24:32):
Yeah, sometimes it's it's a lie. It's a lie about timing.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Is everything? Okay, that's a fact. And if it doesn't
edify the.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
Relationship, some somethings people just don't need to know. You
have to say, okay, does this edify my relationship? And
if it doesn't edify the relationship, then you don't need
to tell them like.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Is this the biggest you? I don't think we should
answer that. I don't know if you want what is
it okay to lie about? It's it's okay to lie
about a lot of ship.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
List anything that you know is gonna be an argument.
Just refrain from the conversation or lie like everybody say
no communications because something. This is one thing men like
to ask bodies you got.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
I am.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
I would just say to my first, my last, and
my only laugh for years, Yeah, it's okay to lie.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
I don't think you should ever ask somebody like how
many bodies have you had?
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I don't think so, you know, I don't don't count exactly,
don't want to.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
Know, right, But men men want to know. As a woman,
I'm like, already assumed that you have your fair share,
But men asked that crazy question really doesn't edify.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I've had to ask.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
What did you say when somebody asked you that?
Speaker 2 (26:00):
What you said?
Speaker 5 (26:00):
I told you, I'm too honest. I need to learn
how to lie. But I'm way too honest.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
You got to just do that that video gre girl
said I did it all. I've been doing this and that,
and I'm way too honest. So I mean I told
the truth.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
So you gotta be like, oh, and then the twins,
I don't think, man, because I also listen.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
I don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
I'm not asking no man, And I feel like, probably
have no idea.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
They don't. They don't. They've lost count for sure. Yeah,
and they never forgot people. Oh what about that? We
need to give them tested first.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
The first got to be you gotta be straight up questions.
That's going to cancel the whole relationship. What's your credit
score if you don't know, it's low? Right, Okay? The
first wait, we ain't get down to be playing with.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
It should have a In fact, it should be on
an app when we ask these questions, just like an
a dental dental appointment.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
You asked all the questions up front before you even
get to the next step conversation, before you.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
You're back outside. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
I don't know about the first date.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
I want to.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
I want to once we decide whether we're going to
take it to the next level. I think that's the
time to ask.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
That a determining factor question. If we don't think we.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
We gotta have a conversation first to get acquainted, to
find out if we even have an incompatibility, because.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
We may have chemistry.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
You can have chemistry and not have compatibility, right, So
once we decide okay, we have chemistry compatibility.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
Just.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
I'm impatient two to three weeks if you see an
ample enough time getting to know that person, and then
once we decide okay, we are going to take it.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
But you don't hand six in two weeks. No, I'm
just paying that thirty four. I'm like, I'm not in
that category.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
Now.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
I'm want to ask you this because it did happen
on Married to Medicine, and I made this a topic
quiet when she's dating King and she wanted him to
move in, but he was like, I'm not moving into
your house.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
She has a beautiful house.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
She does, and you know, he was like, we could
get something together and you could wrench your place out.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
You like that, absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
But she was like, well, this house he means a lot.
This is the house that like.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
What I say is what I sit on My blog
is do like poor she did, keep your house and
then get another one too, so you always have something
to fall back on. The equity still going over here, Renda,
I give it to your mama, give it to your
your brother, whoever. But we build something together because I
don't ever want to be in a situation you say
this is.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
My house or get out of my house? Right, don't
And he doesn't want it either. We know how we are.
That's a real man. Yeah, for sure, that's the mainly thing.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
To Absolutely, I always say that my house is my
house is for me. If I ever connected with someone,
we would definitely have.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
To get the movie something else.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Now, what about separate bank accounts?
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Absolutely? Yeah, are you kidding? You don't even know about it.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
I think we need to have a joint on his money.
That's another double standard. But he doesn't need to know
what I had.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Or you can create one where you guys make the
posites but have.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
A joint one.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (29:12):
I think you should definitely have a joint one, but
definitely have you need.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Access to all of your husband's money. You need to
see what the hell he doing with right right?
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (29:20):
To see it and access it. Absolutely, you have your
own account. It's a double stand another one. Sorry double.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
I appreciate you honestly and clearly it's working for you,
so I can't even know. You don't even know. He
gonna hear this, but I love him though you don't
even know what we have. He don't know. Wow, that's wild.
Speaker 4 (29:43):
But he trusts me and trust me. I'm doing my
business right, so he knows that.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Now, DeAnda, How honest are you with your family about
when things are happening here? That's another thing, right, when
something happens, you get into it, do you like? Because
sometimes we tell people things, but then we stay with
somebody and they be like, Dann, why did I you
know what she did?
Speaker 2 (30:09):
So what do you think?
Speaker 1 (30:10):
What are your thoughts about that? Because sometimes it's like, damn,
if we're going to stay together, why am I you know?
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Telling?
Speaker 5 (30:15):
I don't really tell my family much stuff when it happens,
but I mean stuff is always online so they see it.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Anyways.
Speaker 6 (30:23):
My family, we're kind.
Speaker 5 (30:24):
Of the type of people where we're very close, but
we all have our own lives. So if I want
to talk about it, then they'll be there to listen
and give me advice or talk to me about how
they feel. But if I don't bring it up, then
they don't bring it up either. They just you know,
they'd be like, you keep referencing stuff. I understand from
when people said I was like spassing and crashing out
all that crazy.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
There was an issue with Jackui's doing the album with
Daye Loaf, and then he was like, you can't be.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
They have a child together.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
So I love that for you, though, Jack West is somebody,
what are you saying my daughter?
Speaker 3 (31:05):
I got a confession. That is what caused me to
contact Deandro.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Okay, I did the interview with you.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
I just didn't like the commentary and I said, oh no, no, no,
we gotta we gotta work. We got to get in purpose,
We got to grind right. I need you to have
your vision and your project and think that you're working on.
And that's how we started this relationship.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
No honestly with Jacques, well, Jacques did lip service and
he spoke so highly of you, you know, and then
shortly after things kind of went left and so and like,
I do think it's strange to be like she can't
be on set while we you know, doing a video
if you guys are together and things like that. I
don't even want to bring up things that are bothersome
to you. So I don't even want to take it there.
(31:46):
But you know, doctor Heavenly has no idea. Yeah, because
you know, if you're with somebody and they're at work
and you want to be there. But then I also
see this side of well, it's a business thing, and
I don't want to to understand that. Yeah, I'm never
much but but but but it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Was to make her comfortable that.
Speaker 4 (32:05):
Was an issue because yeah, they're gonna be there.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
She don't want this woman around the hose, right, I mean.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
That's respect, But why does she have to be comfort
Why are you uncomfortable?
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Is the question. But I don't even know who Jacquar is.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
You're talking about the young lady that he's doing the
Why is she so uncomfortable with his fiance? Like I
feel like, and there's rules that there was something going
on between them years.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
And it's gonna be with Jacquin Jacquin.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
She likes Jacque's six Drugs and rock and roll. We
already know what it is. You know what it is
down to get in your lane and let Jacquez do what.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
He do heavily is crazy. I mean, but I'm.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
That having just had a baby and going through postpartiment,
so you been elevated faithful.
Speaker 3 (32:58):
But but listen, he did interview with the young lady.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Well, they had a project together.
Speaker 5 (33:03):
I don't think he's not unfaithful. That wasn't I yeah,
that wasn't anybody.
Speaker 4 (33:08):
I'm just saying, we like that you're a he's a singer.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
She's a rapper singer. She's a rapper, but she's got
a melodic tone to her. So, but you know, it's
tough when things play out online and everybody's wing in
and people are, you know, saying different things, and then,
like you said, they made it look like he was
crashing out. But that's when the conversation about postpartum depression
comes up, because and also sometimes not even feeling like,
(33:40):
you know, so confident, you know, at a time like that.
Speaker 5 (33:43):
I think also too, I wouldn't really say it was
a crash out. I think the problem is because my
family were so vocal. You know, my daddy, he's vocal
on his interviews, my brother's vocal on his interviews. I
think it's the fact that people are just now starting
to get to know me and say like, oh, she's vocal.
This she's never been like that, yeah, because I didn't
know how to work Twitter like that. Like now it's
like I think that that's a platform so I can
(34:04):
say what I want and people are gonna take it.
Speaker 6 (34:06):
So it's not that all I'm crashing out.
Speaker 5 (34:08):
It's like, oh, I'm speaking up and y'all are finally
just getting to see how vocal the type of person
now that I am.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
But social media is never gonna you know, see things
the right way they you know, because I also think
even in that relationship, you have to deal with g
Z drama as well.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
And then this it was it was like a well
to feel defend more espectually.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
With him sitting beside dage Love, I wanted him to
just descend like it's a way to make sure she's
as well.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Definitely, I don't know who I heard the names before.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
Clearly, yeah, I don't know the song that I couldn't
tell you what she slapt me.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
You know, but I think you're talking about defending your women,
and that is also something I'm married to medicine.
Speaker 6 (34:58):
And that's okay, that's what I feel as well.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Oh yeah, Okay, that's why, because you're speaking with them,
but you need to defend me. You don't want to
make me feel, but defend me when it's no matter what.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Team, right, Okay, that's where I well, okay, so let's
talk about this happened on Marriage to Medicine.
Speaker 2 (35:21):
If y'all you know, do you guys want the spirit?
Today's probably nobody, just like I know.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
All right, So let's talk about that with King King okay, right,
and doctor g Okay pressing charges against him because in
the episode, you know, King is defending QUAD and and
in that defense it does get physical.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
We did not get physical. Didn't it cut off like
it did? It did not? Okay.
Speaker 4 (35:45):
There was no touching, no, okay. But there were words
and he said some derogatory things about QUAD to this
man's face. And some of the stuff y'all saw, some.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
Of you didn't see. Okay. So when you're defending your woman,
you know what I'm saying. All yeah, I don't care.
Speaker 4 (36:00):
What she said, but to me, she was with them people,
she was missed with them, She was missed with the
man she was talking talking because she was drinking and
she knew the buttons to push it she knew how
to get this man to act up, and she did it.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
But you don't tell her to shut the f up. No,
you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (36:15):
I mean, and my period, my husband is my wife
is very vocal. But if you have a problem with
my wife, come talk to me. And that's all King
was saying, and I agree with it.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
Talk to turn men in the contexts like that and
expect anything more than what you got is unrealistic.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
And I didn't do it. I don't put my name situation.
I did not do none of that.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I'm don't think about Then pressing charges against that was
a bit move, Okay.
Speaker 2 (36:45):
Can I say that he did?
Speaker 4 (36:47):
Yeah, I don't see because if you think about that,
and I have double standards, but contest to charge me.
A lot of people trying if you didn't touch me,
I don't think you should have been, like if you're scared.
But it wasn't even about him scared. He just said
he his ego was fractured.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
Right, because and I feel like he feels like not
part of that. Maybe he feels maybe kind of like
people are against him because he.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
Didn't know what it was was. He didn't want King
to film anymore.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
So he felt like if I put this down and
I called TOR and he can't film, because we've done
that before. That's happened before, where somebody who's not a
cast member, if you go to HR, thatd be like, okay,
well there's no reason for this person to be on set.
But then we complained, you know whatever, whatever, and then
King was allowed to film. What they came up with
was we would have different time slots, okay, so he
could come at one time, they could come in another.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
She sh this so much, y'all gotta watch it.
Speaker 4 (37:43):
Yeah, it's amazing, and then you have the reunion. Has
not happened yet and it's even more stag there. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (37:52):
Oh so she didn't come to the reunion. She did not.
She didn't want to face the truth. I want to say,
this is going to be quite entertaining to see all
of this life.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
Absolutely, yes, it's gonna be amazing.
Speaker 1 (38:06):
No, but fishing enough for your event just to have
these different perspectives, because look, whether or not I agree
with certain things and whatever, it's a great conversation, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (38:16):
And for uh and.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Doctor Heavenly, always outspoken and always yes, and.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
I agree to disagree.
Speaker 4 (38:24):
I'm firmly I'm not gonna be in the middle. You're
gonna know exactly what I'm thinking and how I'm thinking,
and you have to respect that because, I mean, we
might not agree on.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
It, but that's my stance. I don't think a man.
Speaker 4 (38:33):
Should ever be able to tell me to shut that fuck,
even if I might need to right right listen to
my husband. That's why he's here.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
Definitely. Yeah, Yeah, we're thinking much, DeAnda. Do you feel
safe and protected now in your situation? Like you sink?
What happened? She's got the ring on. I don't know
that's from him.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
I always do it with somebody else. I don't talk
to you. Yeah, listen, I can't wait for this.
Speaker 5 (39:03):
You know, we we we're trying to figure it out. Okay,
we're trying to figure it out. I think that's one
of my biggest things, though, is I want to feel,
you know, saphering protective, but you know, we're trying to
figure it out.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Okay. I mean I hope you do.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
I hope that he understands where you're where you're coming from.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
How old is he young? He thirty? How old is
dig What are you laughing?
Speaker 6 (39:32):
At I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
Yeah, I'm not sure.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Yeah, no, go ahead, but you know, And but that
does happen, right when it comes to work relationships too,
and you're in a relationship, how do you allow somebody
to work with.
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Someone that you're not comfortable? And what capacity she rapping
on his song or something?
Speaker 1 (39:49):
They have an album together, they put out a project together.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Okay, yeah, you don't rap, you can't rap. Get over there.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Do you feel like there was in any way like
he was concerned about you being there?
Speaker 2 (40:09):
Is there any justification for that?
Speaker 1 (40:11):
Like do you feel like, Okay, well maybe I was wild,
Like was there any reason that he should have felt
that way?
Speaker 4 (40:17):
No?
Speaker 5 (40:17):
I don't think so. I don't think it really was
a concern like that for him. I think it's just
as far as for her to feel more comfortable because she,
you know, was gonna fee uncomfortable if I'm near Wait
a minute, what And.
Speaker 6 (40:30):
I feel like that because of you know, just what does.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
She matter that.
Speaker 3 (40:38):
That's the point to make her comfortable?
Speaker 5 (40:41):
And yeah, I mean, you know, I just feel like
that it just should have been handled differently.
Speaker 6 (40:54):
I just really just don't like how she moved like
it's another.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
It's so much.
Speaker 6 (40:59):
Stuff that I see that I hear the stuff that
she does.
Speaker 5 (41:03):
She knows what she does, even how she did something
on the interview they did saying she never met me,
like she's met me. I want to introduce myself to her,
trying to be you know, a good fiance.
Speaker 6 (41:12):
And she didn't even want to sleep.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
Really, so you've made the effort that sounds like she's hip.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
It's kind of like or if she wants to you said,
what either they having sex or she wants to have sex.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
Well, I don't know about I mean, I think she's
in a relationship. I from my understanding, and I know
they maybe had a past or something like that.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
Yeah, yeah, okay, so that's really what the energy.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
It's probably just from that, like they had to pass tell.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
Me what's going on, because but he's a he's in
a new relationship and he has a fiance and that
should be respected. You know, you don't tell your fiance no,
you can come, because I'm trying to make another female comfortable.
You got to meet in the middle somewhere, but do whatever.
That's only that's right because we done in your relationship.
We don't know what's going on. Behind closed doors. Don't
(42:00):
listen to nobody.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
But I'm just.
Speaker 6 (42:02):
Praying about it.
Speaker 2 (42:03):
Listen to yourself with God.
Speaker 6 (42:04):
What you feel shows me what's up.
Speaker 5 (42:06):
And you know, just praying about it and taking the
day you walk away. My daddy said to because when
I just go off on people, my Daddy say, the
thing is, my family know me, so they.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Know this relationship. That's all I asked.
Speaker 5 (42:30):
My family is the type of they're gonna support whatever
I want to do.
Speaker 6 (42:34):
He's gonna say.
Speaker 5 (42:35):
What he how he feels, like he said how he
felt in the beginning when I first intimated him to it.
Speaker 6 (42:40):
You know, that's between me and my daddy.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
I want to say now, Daddy might was right.
Speaker 5 (42:48):
I justn't want to say now, Daddy, But my dad
is a type to if I'm with it and it
makes me happy, he gonna support it all the way.
And then you know, if it ends up making me sad,
he gonna be there to pick me up. You know,
my family is very supportive of any of any decisions
that we all make.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Okay, okay, all right, but we love that.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
But listen, I know right now everybody is coming out
to this event. Yes, so this has happened in March
twenty third.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Yes, Absolutely, Sunday, March twenty third in Atlanta, Georgia at
Curate and anyone who wants to attend can RTP for
complimentary tickets at Relationships Matter Live Dot even Oh, it's
free free.
Speaker 4 (43:28):
Some people need to come out of Yes, y'all got
some questions? Ask us anything about our relationship?
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Yes, transparent, candid conversations about relationship.
Speaker 6 (43:37):
Keep it to a minimum with mine.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Though I would give you that, like say here, answer
these questions.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
I didn't answer them. I answered more than.
Speaker 1 (43:56):
Well, we need to just show up doctor heavenly not
knowing who people are and asking them questions and get
into that.
Speaker 2 (44:01):
I like that. I don't know who the hell that was.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
But people trying to say you was being shady by
taking pictures with Angela Ukley.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Like, no, she's a beautiful woman.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Now, not about her about like maybe she doesn't get
along with somebody.
Speaker 4 (44:14):
I don't know, you really don't. I don't know Jack,
I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
In the show.
Speaker 1 (44:18):
I know Angela, I don't know her Man.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
I don't know. I know the ladies, I know the
old school ladies. I don't know anything. I don't know
what's going on in the show.
Speaker 3 (44:28):
She's just taking pictures like, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Want any beef between the ladies in Atlanta. You get
I see a future start right here. And you're looking
at the mic like I'm the gam mama, I'm the
new mom.
Speaker 1 (44:39):
Hi, okay, now says look look at the dentist doctor
heavenly like let me see. Well, anyway, I appreciate that
for you, and like this is what matters the most
right here. All right, well, thank you guys, and again
marsh Whening there. How can they get tickets one more time?
Speaker 3 (44:59):
Relationships matter Live dot even bright dot com.
Speaker 1 (45:02):
All right, I'm man, I need to be in Atlanta
for this.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
I always have a good time with you. Trying to
send some of you a little bit.
Speaker 1 (45:08):
But that's okay, No, never, I'm just trying to listen
her YouTube. That's where it's unsensitible. Yes, it's not bad.
I'm not saying it's bad.
Speaker 2 (45:21):
I say positive things the whole time.
Speaker 4 (45:23):
The only thing that goes viralens or sentence that I
might see that might not be well.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
We love a viral moment. Yeah, you lead into it,
you know, but I love all the ladies in Atlanta.
Speaker 4 (45:31):
I love all the ladies on marriage to Medicine, and
tune into our reunion as well. And we're gonna bring
all our friends to you and we're gonna have a
good time.
Speaker 1 (45:40):
Okay, all the friends that come in. He's Toya coming.
Speaker 2 (45:43):
I don't know. I don't know, honestly, I don't really
talk to Toy that much.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Oh my god, I cannot wait to see this reunion, y'all.
I gotta find out what happened with this med gala
with this money.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
Okay, go ahead, girl.
Speaker 4 (45:56):
It's a mess, but God stood, and we are all
ladies who we're positive ladies. While you're doing each other in,
we're gonna move forward in a positive way.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
That is gonna learn all the time.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
We don't even got a censor, doctor, heavenly, all right,
it's way up, way
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