Cuffing Season 2025

In this lively episode of We Talk Back, AJ Holiday and TamBam share weekend updates before diving into cultural commentary on media figures like Amanda Seales and the intricacies of celebrity relationships, including Georgia Rain’s campaign for David Banner. The conversation spans judicial missteps in the courtroom, body image in the film industry, and the rituals of cuffing season. With humor and honesty, the duo unpacks the biological, cultural, and emotional layers of seasonal dating, from holiday pressures and winter blues to trial relationships and Valentine’s Day expectations. They also highlight the importance of companionship, self-awareness, and playfulness in navigating modern relationships. Let’s discuss. Tap in and join the conversation.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
and the Black Effect Network.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
What's up, Y'all's your girl a j holiday.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
Y'all, It's official, Tam Bam. I love y'all so very
very much. And I missed y'all even though it's only
been seven days, but I still miss y'all. How'd you?
How's your weekend?

Speaker 1 (00:35):
I have been having some great weekends. I might say, Okay.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Tell everybody, why why? Who's telling?

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Absolutely not. I've just been doing adult things on the weekends,
you know, consistent adult things, nice little outlet though.

Speaker 2 (00:59):
That's good, that's good. I wow, my week ain't been.
Ain't been like yours. I'll say that I've been getting
a lot of TV and that's it I need. Like
I've been slacking on my gym, and I can see
it in my arms right now. So I'm starting.

Speaker 1 (01:17):
To get your wings back.

Speaker 2 (01:20):
So now I'm starting back. I started back yesterday getting
back into the gym because my birth month came and
I was bullshitting all July. I mean, I had Fitness
is a never ending process, Like you stop a little
while your body all changes quick.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
It's automatically.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
So I watched I watched Amanda Seals versus twenty Conservatives.

Speaker 1 (01:43):
Oh, I gotta finish Cannis Owens first and then that's
next on my list.

Speaker 2 (01:47):
It was so good. Let me tell you something, Amanda
Seals may not be everybody's favorite person. Yeah she was.

Speaker 1 (01:56):
Uh, it wasn't nobody that could handle her her mouth.
You're not about to out talk her, and you're not
about to out with her. You're not about to out
uh intellect, intellect her nothing, none of that. She she's
a great orator. Orator, right, so she knows how to
fucking speak, and she knows how to put the words together.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
And I put you down without even really trying.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
I was like, well, I think that's the problem people
have with her. I also think that's the problem black people.
When I say people, I mean black people in particular
have with a canvas os also for whatever reason, I
feel like black people have a problem with you being funny,
smart and black for real and being able to articulate.
Is like they just annoy your ears for some reason.

(02:41):
But I like those my people. I understand why people
don't like I have had my own personal experience that
I've talked about on here with the Mandaciels. But nonetheless,
she's a sweetheart. And I understand some people are just
kind of socially awkward. Sometimes they might say some shit
they don't got no business saying, like sometimes located shut
the fuck up, always gotta talk one of those people.

(03:04):
So that might get on people nerves, right, But.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
For me, she just seems and this is just big.
I don't have a personal experience with her at all.
It was around her one time, wasn't it. I don't
know anyway, she just seems very combative to me. But
in a debate, that's perfect energy, right, you know, all

(03:31):
this and I don't I ever don't feel like it
ever turns off. You know, that combative energy, always ready
on go, you know. But like relax, That one one
radical versus twenty conservatives was so good. I enjoyed it.
Y'all should watch it on YouTube. And then I watched
the Katrina documentary that Ryan Cooler put out. That was

(03:52):
really good too, Like it was Katrina from a different
perspective than what the New News gave us all those
years ago, and it was that was good. I was
in here crying watching that, so I see that. That's
all I did over the weekend. Was watched a bunch
of documentaries I think I watched. I started the Tsunami

(04:12):
and Thailand documentary. I just I think I was just
on my natural disaster kick or something. I don't know,
but that and it worked. So that was it.

Speaker 1 (04:24):
I did watch some TV this weekend too. I started
rewatching His Dark Materials because I wanted my my people
to see it, and it was that's one of my
favorite You.

Speaker 2 (04:33):
Ever watched that?

Speaker 1 (04:34):
His Dark Materials. Y'all should watch that too. It's it's
really how I think life is like the Unseen worlds,
and everybody has a spelled damon d A E M
O n as opposed to demon. So everybody has like
a damon, which is like a essentially your subconscious mind

(04:57):
that stays with you, stays with you your whole life,
but it runs around and talk as an animal, like
an animal spirit essentially. But it's a real, real good movie.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
I have to see it. It's a movieries.

Speaker 1 (05:08):
There is a movie, but then it's the series. I
suggest people to watch. The movie is like a little
quick synopsis of the series, but the series is way
way way better.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
See if my little friend want to watch that.

Speaker 1 (05:21):
I hate when I started watching TV because you don't
know when to start.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, that's all I did was watch TV.

Speaker 1 (05:29):
Get your eyes off that team.

Speaker 2 (05:30):
I tried to watch Wednesday, but for whatever, this season,
I just won't grasp. It won't grab me like the
first Wednesday, all.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
With the little yeah Adam's family.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah, it just won't. I don't know, I don't know.
It just ain't doing it for me.

Speaker 1 (05:47):
They might got some little sneaky shit in there.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
Oh I wouldn't. I lie. I also went to the
movies and I saw uh weapons with the kids, the
seventeen kids they got kidnapped from the school. This is
a scary movie, and it's supposed to be based on
loosely on the true story, but it ended up being

(06:10):
kind of funny, honestly, honestly, like I was laughing at
the end. I wasn't horrified like I thought I was
supposed to be. But yeah, y'all go see that too.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Shame all right, I'm doing all right. So I know
Tammy and I have been on this show and we
have spoken about this particular fine ass specimen of a
black man when we talked back David Banner, y'all know
Michael Blaxton, ex girlfriend, and I don't want to like
that's not just what she's known as, because she's a dancer,

(06:44):
she's a singer. She's an entertainer. Georgia Rayne, super fine ass,
Georgia Rayne. So she campaigned, Okay, she was fasten from sex.
She had been celibate for I don't know, over one
hundred some days, or she just wasn't having sex for
a very long time. I don't know when it started
when it stopped, but she said the only person she
wanted to get him cookies to was David Banner. So

(07:06):
she started campaigning for this nigga like I don't know,
February or March or something like that, Like y'all please
tell my man to meet me at such and such
like real live campaigning like this was from August eighth.
She said, after one hundred and fifty days of waiting
in the sun, rain and streets with my bagpack, my
man never picked me up. She kept saying, David Batty,
come get me. Okay, she said, I waited for my

(07:29):
man for one hundred and fifty days. Hashtag David Banner,
you tricked me one time too many. I mean you
tricked me again, but I'm tired. No wait wait, I
mean you can trick me again, but I'm tired. I
gotta put me first. I'm going back outside. I almost
missed my summer playing with you. Monday, I'm outside real girls.

(07:51):
So it was just like a bunch of different random
ass posts like that every couple of weeks. My man
got into Monday to come get me. She like standing
in the rain under a tree waiting for David Banner
with her bags and like the last picture she posted, Okay,
this was on This is three days ago, so over
the weekend she is posted up. After one hundred and

(08:12):
seventy nine days, my man came and got me. David Banner,
thank y'all for telling him. I was outside with my
overnight bag. And then she added some of her friend
some of her people tell but they saved her, saved
the relationship. I don't know were they really dating or
she really campaigned for David Banner and he came through.

Speaker 2 (08:30):
Is she fine? Yeah, she's fine. I'm looking at it.
I don't know her music, but now I don't want
to go see what it is because she is beautiful.
She looked like what he would want to date in
my mind, you know, Afro chocolate. Yeah, but I don't.
I'm kind of what they want. I know, I love
me some David Banner.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
They don't be knowing what they want. She dated Michael
Blacksmith for many years and you see what he ended
up with, Asian persuasion. Okay, this girl is super fine.
She don't got no kids. So, like, all the flavors
is out here. So when y'all men say like this,
all the women ghetto asked, that's a damn lie. It
is so many different types of black women out here.

(09:13):
If you really wanted one, okay, natural bust down, lace
front dress.

Speaker 2 (09:20):
Right one, it's all out here, Yeah, pick one. Congratulations
to her forgetting not mad.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
No, it's just like he's bars. Let's keep me at
her house, different band, call me.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
Right if that don't work out, if you get back outside,
all right.

Speaker 1 (09:43):
So a Georgia jubb, A Georgia jub A Georgia.

Speaker 2 (09:48):
Judge flubs verdict reading tells defendant he is guilty, y'all.
This Fulton County judge was spoke while reading a defendant
verdict in the Georgia courtroom Friday telling him he was
guilty when the deemed him not guilty.

Speaker 1 (10:02):
Now, you know, he wanted to tell that black man.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
He was guilty. He won him so badly. Sub consciously
he wanted to tell that man he was guilty. And
he talking about he messed up reading no, you that's
what you wanted to say.

Speaker 1 (10:15):
So.

Speaker 2 (10:15):
Alton Oliver was on trial over the twenty twenty two
killing of a full ten county deputy and phase six counts,
including three of murder. Video from inside the courtroom shows
the moment the judge accidentally told Oliver he was guilty. Now,
after confirming with the jury that the paperwork was correct,
the judge read the verdict we the jury finally defend

(10:36):
it guilty as to all six counts. Oliver and his
legal team sat in silence, but people in the courtroom
started audibly questioning the judges reading. Prought to him to
double check the paper. He said, did I say not?
The judge asked the room to room, to which number
of people replied fuck no.

Speaker 1 (10:54):
They we heard people say fuck no.

Speaker 2 (10:58):
Right. He apologized and re read the statement, this time correctly.
People in the courtroom laughed and applauded. Laugh. Ain't shit
funny about that?

Speaker 1 (11:06):
Not at all times?

Speaker 2 (11:06):
Right? Life? Talk about did I not say not? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (11:10):
He played on somebody life and this lifetime and the next.
Because I'm pretty sure they wanted to give us as
twenty consecutive life terms. Y'all think that shit only count
for this lifetime. One thing, the people know who are
in power, They know how the world actually work. Right,
Why else would you give somebody four consecutive life term
sentences if it doesn't go into another lifetime. It doesn't

(11:31):
make sense. So when people come back with the same
transgressions and end up doing the same shit, they got
you stuck in a fucking cycle lifetime at the lifetime,
at the lifetime, at the lifetime, but maybe all that
fifth lifetime you might be regular. Don't be out here
committing crimes because they gonna sentence your ass to twenty
lifetimes of bullshit. You be stuck.

Speaker 2 (11:54):
That's crazy. But shout out to my brother for getting
out not guilty.

Speaker 1 (11:58):
And I gotta read into that case. I wondered, like,
what was the like the whole I didn't even hear
about that.

Speaker 2 (12:04):
Right, I don't even know what it was, right because
it was three counters of murders. So he killed three
people in a depth including a depth deputy, and got off.
What happened.

Speaker 1 (12:13):
I don't think he killed three people. They can give
you like three council murder. Yeah, but that they they
just trumped the charges up. They just add all these
different charges. You can have manslaughter and murder and attempted
murder altogether at the same time.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
It's yeah, but no, it's three people died.

Speaker 1 (12:31):
Yeah, I don't think he killed three people though.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
But he was accused of killing three people.

Speaker 1 (12:37):
They said he has three murder chargers, but he killed
a deputy one person.

Speaker 2 (12:46):
Right, But so what they were saying is it's three
motherfuckers dead and we accusing you of it. I want
to know what happened.

Speaker 1 (12:54):
No, they he only killed one person. How they gonna
count three councilor murder? He would they do that? They
will put up They will put twenty charges on you
for the same type of ship. They all kind of
like be similar, like the same type of charges.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
Three murder charges for one person?

Speaker 1 (13:10):
Are they they just the trump just the just to
just to boost your fucking time up essentially, so count
one murder not guilty. Count two murder not guilty, Count three.
There's no way he killed three police officers and was
found not guilty. Like, what was the situation?

Speaker 2 (13:29):
So I can kill one person and they can charge
me three times? Yes, the one one person?

Speaker 1 (13:36):
Let's see, I mean, let's see. I mean did they
shoot multiple people and a rare moved to defend George
her Dah. Yeah, we're gonna have to come back to this. Yeah,
I need because if y'all know about it, let us
know we might have to come back to this. I

(14:01):
think it was a black man he killed.

Speaker 2 (14:05):
Dang.

Speaker 1 (14:06):
Anyway, we'll come back to that, not today. Yeah, I'm
gonna be happy, all right. So y'all know Belly is
like top five black film all time. Right, So, yes,
Tarot Hicks, you know, chocolate brown, brown, little fine, little

(14:27):
fine shit. She recently did an interview on the show
and they asked her about the infamous y'all remember because
everybody fell in love with DMX that day when he
snatched snatched khass up and had her in the damn
yaew her to the matches. Yes, had her in a
little wheelbarrow, right quick, girl, I just I can close

(14:48):
my eyes right now and see that he like with
his butt and his leg up one leg hiked up
on the side, and he just right, yeah, sorry, did
you have a moment that was me? This weekend acting knowledge?
When women we be acting, we really be acting having sex. Okay,

(15:10):
not for real acting, because I'd be dead ass fucking serious.
But when I think about it after the fact that
you'll be doing too much, you are not that fucking
sexy bitch. Bet I'll be so sexy.

Speaker 2 (15:23):
On the dick.

Speaker 1 (15:26):
In my mind and probably making the ugliest for a
long time.

Speaker 2 (15:31):
Like looking at his dick like that. I know my
dick ain't doing all of that.

Speaker 1 (15:37):
This fucking showing out for a nigga. Anyway, She said
that it was a body double. It wasn't even her
and she didn't even know about the scene until the
movie premiered, So imagine like you just you a mom acting.
She was like, I would have never done a scene
like that. I got kids, like I'm a mom, I'm
a wife, like I would have never done a scene
like that, And the the director just slid that shit

(16:01):
on the end on her with a body double. So
she was getting that ass toward by DMX.

Speaker 2 (16:06):
I mean, how though, how was that not her, That's
what I'm saying, Like, how did they do that? Especially
the technology was not as advanced back then as it
is now.

Speaker 1 (16:15):
It might have been they slapped her face on this
person she turned over in the bad she was all
sweaty and glistening.

Speaker 2 (16:23):
Yep, I remember that that was her. That was her
to me, and it's still hurt of me. I'll give
what you say. That was forever we.

Speaker 1 (16:31):
Saw them Teddy's Girl.

Speaker 2 (16:36):
But then she also said that she was upset about
it because she started getting offered nothing but that included
you know, sexual explicit scenes and she you know, had
no she didn't want to do any of those. So
it kind of cause think about what we seen her
in since, right, you know.

Speaker 1 (16:59):
So yeah, and I can imagine like all the black films,
was probably trying to get her naked and they shit, yep,
running out. Yeah, so she got typecasted after that. That
is fucked up.

Speaker 2 (17:10):
Yeah, that is This is why you gotta be careful
like what you get nicked for when it comes to
like acting in film, like you know, because she said
back then you couldn't you didn't have any say soul,
Like how right?

Speaker 1 (17:26):
How do you not have any scuse. I guess if
you give me a script, right, I do what's in
the script. We filmed this movie, and in the day
that I'm off, you deviate outside of this script and
ask some shit in there like that, Like how do
you not get sued for that?

Speaker 2 (17:39):
Right? And have me looking like I'm fucking on there
and I didn't even know.

Speaker 1 (17:43):
Yeah, you got to read them contracts, cause.

Speaker 2 (17:46):
Read the fine print. And now they don't even have
to get a body double day.

Speaker 1 (17:50):
AI AIU exactly. So, Yeah, I was talking to my homegirl,
you know, for so and she just was saying, like
how crazy like the industry is right now, like when
those people went on strike, the writers and all that stuff,
like it was definitely for good reason. Like they are

(18:12):
literally trying to replace people because you look at social media,
like people are creating whole movies, whole storylines with AI characters.
Right there are so many AI artists right now, Like
I almost want to create one. Mm hm, bitch, I'm
about to be a singer like might as well I
could write I'm about to put an AI artist out.

Speaker 2 (18:32):
Have you seen like those little short stories they be
like on Facebook or TikTok and you don't never get
to see the end. They'll show you on my nerve.

Speaker 1 (18:42):
I'd be stuck trying to find the other part. Yes,
it's always like some rich man family abusing the lady,
like what happened?

Speaker 2 (18:53):
So bad? But you cannot find that MP.

Speaker 1 (18:56):
You think those you think that's AI.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
Some of it.

Speaker 1 (18:59):
I do, because it'd be like it'd be so cheesy, right,
but it'd be entertaining. But it's like so cheesy, like
did somebody really put this together?

Speaker 2 (19:09):
Ain't no way, like.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Y'all paid acting? Now that is AI, because I would
always think any way they paid people to do this.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
Yeah, I think it's AI for sure.

Speaker 1 (19:19):
Interesting.

Speaker 2 (19:20):
Yeah, and shits, we have me in the choke. Ho
shame I won't click on another.

Speaker 1 (19:26):
One, Yeah, because now they start just popping up on
your timeline and one time you click on some ship,
it just they just.

Speaker 2 (19:33):
Can now in front of you. They're forcing it on you.

Speaker 1 (19:38):
All right, y'all. It is August, all right, We are.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
At the end of August too.

Speaker 1 (19:43):
Yeah, the year is almost over and you know what
time it is.

Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, cuffin season it's a foot.

Speaker 1 (19:55):
So yeah, that's what we're getting into this week.

Speaker 2 (19:59):
Yeah, are you ready? To get cuffed. Are you cuffed?
Are you preparing for cuffing like we're gonna talk about?
Oh no, I know AJ and that came up with
a new cuffing program. So this shit is funny, y'all.
So y'all stay tuned.

Speaker 1 (20:17):
We'll be right back with it, all right, y'all. So
today is August the twenty first. Okay, so we are
officially twenty one days into cuffing season. Scouting started August first. Okay,

(20:39):
So August first, the thirty first is scouting. Okay, Still summertime.
You're supposed to be outside linking talking, I mean, if
you want. Of the people who can't talk to people
in real life. Maybe you're on social media. I don't know.
But you're supposed to be setting up your roster right now,
right Okay, you're scouting right now?

Speaker 2 (21:02):
Okay, right, So have you been scouting? No?

Speaker 1 (21:09):
I haven't been scouting. Okay.

Speaker 2 (21:12):
I might be off the bench. I don't know, bitch.
I might be.

Speaker 1 (21:15):
I might be on the bench. Okay. It might be coughed,
would it be? I might be cuffed? Yeah, I might
be a little bit early this year.

Speaker 2 (21:24):
You got it out the way, didn't you.

Speaker 1 (21:27):
I'm usually cuffed.

Speaker 2 (21:29):
I just.

Speaker 1 (21:31):
Wintertime, smertime, when time be trying to get uncuffed.

Speaker 2 (21:34):
But I'm saying, you.

Speaker 1 (21:35):
Know you got recuffed. You uncuffed and recuffed very quickly.

Speaker 2 (21:44):
You know.

Speaker 1 (21:45):
I talked to one of my guy friends and he
was like, you move fast, And I'm like, why not?

Speaker 2 (21:52):
Right? Why slow?

Speaker 1 (21:55):
When a man wife died, he already know he who
he about to marry again? Okay, talking about why should I?
I don't even have time to be moving slow? Y'all
got time because I don't, right, So if it ain't working,
you gotta get out of there. But if it is working,
why not just go ahead and try it out, see
if it works long term, and start again if you

(22:16):
need to. I never scared to start all over, That's
my thing.

Speaker 2 (22:20):
Yeah, Scar.

Speaker 1 (22:21):
I't mean saying places because they're scared to be alone
and they're scared to start all over.

Speaker 2 (22:26):
Yeah. I just never really lock in all the way
with somebody, especially once it start getting cold. I like,
I always end up with massed pajamas with my mama.
So we're gonna see what half.

Speaker 1 (22:40):
Of this year, so right, this comf of season is
for you. Right now, it's scouting. Who do you have
on the rostapasta, anybody on the vegenda? Okay in August,
I actually do have some uh not agenda yet, but
they're on the agenda. It's someone that I do I

(23:02):
got my eye on or they got me eyed in.
Actually yeah, it's more than one. Made the best man
win period. But no legenda yet.

Speaker 2 (23:16):
No agenda y'all.

Speaker 1 (23:18):
So we're here to help y'all try and build a roster.

Speaker 2 (23:21):
Right.

Speaker 1 (23:22):
So, I think there's like a certain different archaea types
you should probably be looking for or probably already have,
right to try to wean out. Who's who? I think
we all got a foodie. No, the nigga who gonna
take us to eat at least?

Speaker 2 (23:38):
Well, it says, I'm confused right here, because the food
always down to eat, never down the pay. This is
one we want to get rid of. Yes, okay, because
I'm about to say, never down the pay. How we
get there? I don't, But let me tell you something.
Why are we talking about a nigga never down the pay?

(23:58):
I had this guy that I thought was like coming
like that right based on his social media he looked
like he liked that, you know, and I actually know
him in real life. I met him in DC a
couple of years back or whatever. So he asked me
he can call me one morning. Who was like, you're busy.

(24:21):
I was like, I'm at work. He's like, check your text.
So he was like, can you shoot me fifty dollars
real quick? Oh? So I was like is it I
think this is a test. So I said, so I
a apple, payd him fifty dollars. Like there you go.
He's like, I give it back. I know it's like,

(24:42):
shoot me fifty dollars. I give it right back. So
it's only fifty dollars, right whatever. Some time went by,
I ain't heard from him, and he I said my
fifty dollars back. So I messaged him like, hey, I
want to get my nails done. Can you see my
fifty dollars? And he was like, if I had it,

(25:03):
I would send it with zeros on the end.

Speaker 1 (25:05):
You ain't pardon me.

Speaker 2 (25:10):
I was appalled.

Speaker 1 (25:12):
So wait a minute, I'm always appalled when a man
asked for money, because didn't you know, like, I'm not
gonna say I just be asking men for money because
I really don't, right, but I do expect you to
give me money because I do stuff for whoever I'm
with too, So it's just hey, girl, get out of here.

(25:35):
It has to be like, I'm just asking for reciprocity essentially, right,
I'm not a real gold digger. I am a gold
digger at heart, okay, but I don't be really digging
for gold. But I'm trying to figure out the thought
process of a grown man hitting me up whom I've
never asked for money. He never started this shit with you,

(25:56):
never ask you for anything, and all of a sudden
you think you can that sad me. Do I look
like a fucking lick? Apparently, And I was like, oh,
this is a test. It was a lick.

Speaker 2 (26:09):
It was a lig He probably called he hit probably
and he fine too. So he probably hit up like
ten bitches and said let me get fifty dollars and
all of us was like, oh, he testing.

Speaker 1 (26:22):
I don't know teverybody just for you, nigga. Better never
test me like that is the quickest way to get
rid of me. Ask me for money. I'll ask people
a ride too many times. I'm out of there. So
he's the flexer, good ig presence, questionable funds.

Speaker 2 (26:39):
Oh yep, he's definitely that.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
Okay, So he is off the roster. Okay, he's he's
not in the starting lineup.

Speaker 2 (26:51):
This is vacation Bay. Oh, that's all right that I
listen the trip it disappears after definitely have a birthday
vacation Bay, Like he's taking me, but after that we'll
do nothing else. But he'll take me on the trip,

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but he ain doing ship else.

Speaker 1 (27:15):
Man, what type of shit is that?

Speaker 2 (27:18):
Right?

Speaker 1 (27:19):
That's supposed to last? To whe of y'all get a
like a real relationship.

Speaker 2 (27:23):
I guess right, mm hmm, I mean I appreciate the
truths Uh. Then there's the sneakyling knows their role, no
question asked. You can't coach flings be turned into boyfriends sometimes,
but it's not all. It's not often though.

Speaker 1 (27:39):
I don't know. You sleep with somebody long enough or
often enough. People men be falling in love too.

Speaker 2 (27:45):
Yeah, they do the homebody Netflix snacks and vibes. I
don't see he can turn it to a boyfriend. I
feel like I like a nigga who don't like to
be outside. But I don't like that. You don't want
to do nothing else but sit in the house. Now
you're gonna have to date me? Right? Well?

Speaker 1 (28:04):
I mean listen. The homebody might be I don't know.
Maybe he has a very busy week and on the
weekends he just wants to relax and chill and he's
hoping that you would like to be included in those activities.

Speaker 2 (28:18):
Yeah, but that's not enough. That's not enough. I mean,
you can get you can get tied without niggas. They
ain't never been on no dates. Y'all got a kid
with a man who ain never took you on a date?

Speaker 1 (28:32):
No, no, I like vacation, bib, y'all listen, my first
date was on vacation. For this current situation, I don't
even call a situation my current whatever it is.

Speaker 2 (28:48):
You can't even state for today. Want what you got going?

Speaker 1 (28:52):
I can? But do I want to? I don't know.
I don't want to. I don't want I don't like
shit to go sour. I try not to. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (29:01):
Girl, what.

Speaker 1 (29:04):
Me and my man? My man? What? What's the girl?
Tianna Taylor?

Speaker 2 (29:10):
She was, what's the guy?

Speaker 1 (29:11):
You know? I know? Aaron Pierre's Yes, Aaron Pierre, She said,
he handles her like a cup of tea. I am
being handled like a cup of tea.

Speaker 2 (29:21):
Y'all.

Speaker 1 (29:22):
You know you had a hot cup of tea. You
gotta walk real slow, gentle, be real careful. That is
how I'm being carried right. I love it all nice, Okay,
cup of tea, cup of tea?

Speaker 2 (29:32):
Me please?

Speaker 1 (29:33):
Yeah, yeah, you like me? Take me somewhere right.

Speaker 2 (29:39):
Make me feel special. That's what I always telling me. I
need to be made to feel special. And nothing happens
until then.

Speaker 1 (29:45):
I don't know, because what choice do you have but
to love who you who this person is, Yes, you
don't have no.

Speaker 2 (29:55):
All right? The next one, the bread winner, my favorite.
You're generous. Maybe boring, though I don't care nothing about that,
because I can be the lively one. You can be
boring because I got all the energy for both of us.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
I don't want a rich stuffy nigga. It don't want
to be like a hybrid stuffy. It don't say stuffy
and say boring. Stuffy is boring, like do the same
shit every day. He might go to the gym. This
is a routine. Okay, I don't care about it. He
got a little bag.

Speaker 2 (30:23):
Yeah that's good. Go take your ass to the jib
or come home and eat your sandwich and go to
bit and do it. Again, nigga, that's what I want.
I don't want you to be in too. Let me
be the spontaneous one. Let me add that adventure to
your life. You go to work. Lastly, the toxic, all

(30:46):
star fun, dramatic and unforgettable. That's usually who I end up.

Speaker 1 (30:50):
With, though, driving your ass fucking nuts through the winter exactly.

Speaker 2 (30:57):
Yeah, calling you like I always had am and then
I always do a little toxic. I like a little
midget of toxic.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
Yes, what type of toxic though, because let me not
even say that I don't like toxic. I lied. I
don't like nothing toxic. I lied real fast.

Speaker 2 (31:18):
I like a little little little taste of toxicity for
whatever reason, just a little, you know, just a little
something like that, because it has spice things up a
little bit. Don't make it boring, you know. So just.

Speaker 1 (31:35):
I said, this girl post and she has uh, I
forgot her Instagram. Damn she she's a she's a ex wife, right,
she has two kids, but now she's a lesbian. And
she was like I always knew I was a lesbian.
I don't know why the fuck I went and had
two kids, got married all that bullshit, and not here
I am. But she posted some shit this morning and
she was like, I can't stand with a motherfucker. Want

(31:56):
to ask you, Uh, when y'all first started talking, what's
your toxic traits? Maybe just hold on up, finish show
you don't rush it. Just hold on, baby, just hold
on a minute. God damn, don't rush. I'm gonna show you, right.

Speaker 2 (32:11):
I'm gonna show you that.

Speaker 1 (32:18):
Hey the other day I told her nigger, I said,
I'm about to start beating you now. Little time I
passed by, but it start who your ask but to.

Speaker 2 (32:29):
Show you take your mind? Now? So what's the psychology
of cuffing? So?

Speaker 1 (32:42):
I mean it's cold outside those high and your mama
asking you why you're still single? So it's just walking
the cuffing season, right, So I feel like the winter times,
the winter months when it's more cold outside, you got
the leaves falling, it's like renewal time, right, people start

(33:05):
getting lonely, you know what I'm saying. Dropping. Yeah, we
do hibernate just like animals essentially, So why would you
not want to hibernate with someone? So people start, like
during cuff of season, trying to find somebody to lay
up with in the wintertime.

Speaker 2 (33:22):
And that's how summer babies are made.

Speaker 1 (33:25):
Mm hmm. So shorter days, shorter moves. Listen, summer babies.
I told y'all my dates is August twenty eighth through
through October third. I think I think from my gemini for.

Speaker 2 (33:41):
You to have your gemini. M h yes, you know.
I think that's why a lot of us want to
get cuffed is we don't want to be rewatching game
of throws by itself this sun this winter. So in
the fall slash winter, the days are shorter and sunlight
is limit it. Less sunlight equals lower serotonin vitamin D,

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which can affect your mood. People naturally spend more time indoors,
leading into less social interaction and.

Speaker 1 (34:08):
More feelings of isolation. Okay, so thus a cuffing partner.

Speaker 2 (34:17):
So is cuffing season biology culture or is it just
a vibe?

Speaker 1 (34:22):
I think it's just it's I think it's biology and
it's a vibe. I don't know that as like culture.
So are we saying like culturally black people like dump
everybody in the winter time and then try to find
somebody before Valentine's Because that's what cuff and season is
leading up to Valentine, so you can have somebody through
this through through the winter months, and.

Speaker 2 (34:43):
It's for Christmas. For me, I just be like, Lord,
bless me with matching jamas this year, you know. So
I feel like, I mean, you.

Speaker 1 (34:52):
Asking for the wrong thing. You get your matching pajamas
with your fucking mama.

Speaker 2 (34:57):
God, please, I need to get more right.

Speaker 1 (35:01):
You need to write that exactly what he looks like
with them pajamas on? What that back looking like in
that plaid pajama?

Speaker 2 (35:08):
Okay, jack pajamas.

Speaker 1 (35:10):
Maybe he just got the bottoms on shirt off.

Speaker 2 (35:12):
Right, okay? And I got on the shirt and he
got on the bottoms just one pajama, said not too amen?

Speaker 1 (35:20):
I like that photo shoot?

Speaker 2 (35:21):
Yeah? Amen? So glad.

Speaker 1 (35:23):
So holidays equals pressure cooker. Okay. So Thanksgiving, Christmas, New
Year's and family centered gatherings often bring questions like so
when you trying to get married or where's your boot?
When you're gonna have some kids, you're gonna get all
like we dread that shit happening at family functions because

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most of them are in the wintertime.

Speaker 2 (35:48):
I'm saying last Thanksgiving, as me, my mom, and my sister,
it was just the three of us last year and
we said and had Thanksgiving dinner, and we said that
this year, if you ain't got a man and you
can't come to Thanksgiving. So Tanya, she's already set to
be at Thanksgiving, she might be there by herself. Mama

(36:09):
said she just gonna find her a blind nigga who
ain't got nowhere to go and bring up to the table.

Speaker 1 (36:16):
You better rent you a nigga. And I don't know
for me somebody to come with you. Huh, you got
somebody that'll come.

Speaker 2 (36:25):
I don't want just somebody to come to Thanksgiving with me,
that's insane. I wanted to be someone like that. I'm
really like, I want to present to my family, you know,
not just.

Speaker 1 (36:37):
I don't know. I done had a couple of random
niggas that Thanksgiving before just because they didn't have no
place to go eat either, like come to my mama house.
And I wasn't even fucking with them like that.

Speaker 2 (36:46):
But that's not the same though.

Speaker 1 (36:49):
They wanted to fuck with me, but I wasn't fucking
with them, and that me inviting them to dinner at
my mom's house couldn't mean a lot to them. Yeah,
but nigga just come eat because I realized.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
You what little do they know?

Speaker 1 (37:01):
It's it's a suit case everybody and my mama generous.
You'll be a mama to everybody. Yeah, you'll have one.
Y'all need to be your mama.

Speaker 2 (37:15):
So not you? Not you thinking you special? Don't think
it's somebody different over here every Sunday this big Mama's house.

Speaker 1 (37:24):
But Retina Bay is an option, y'all know. They have
services like that. Y'all seen the niggas post it every
year too. Eight different packages. Have you know?

Speaker 2 (37:33):
Have you seen online where they can AI boyfriend and
he'll come up and kiss you in a video? Is uh?
Where you can pay to have an AI boyfriend and
you like create a video of yourself and they'll have
him walk up and kiss you and like like so
you can post it for your social media or whatever.

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And it's a fake boyfriend.

Speaker 1 (37:58):
That is nuts? Where where are we going at with
the world.

Speaker 2 (38:01):
I keep trying to promote that to me and I'm like,
how did this get in my algorithm? Because I'm not.

Speaker 1 (38:06):
What though, I'm not that pressed put a nigga that
I got an AI nigga walking up and kissing me?
They do? They do be fine, but I'm not that pressed.
So winter blues equals cuddle effect. The cuddle effects so
colder weather, more nights in, less parties, less socializing, loneliness.

(38:30):
Plus the craving for physical comfort makes people prioritize companionship.
So cuff and season thrives because it's not just about sex.
It's about warmth, affection and having someone to binge watch
shows with. Okay, nobody wants to be out here paying
four hundred dollars heating bill and sleeping cold. Okay, get
you a man this winter.

Speaker 2 (38:50):
Or a woman or whatever you like or whatever it is.

Speaker 1 (38:53):
I'm always speaking from a woman's perspective. Some women don't
like man man.

Speaker 2 (38:58):
I forgot.

Speaker 1 (38:58):
I'm always speaking from a head or sexual woman perspectives. Yeah,
we add all of that shit in there. I'm always
speaking from a CIS perspective.

Speaker 2 (39:08):
Cis. Yeah. So Valentine's Day is the deadline? Is that real? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (39:17):
Like all of this is leading up to that. So
all of this is leading up to right these August September, right,
it is leading up to you having somebody for the
holidays and then Valentine's ultimately, like that should be your man,
your may a man by Valentine.

Speaker 2 (39:33):
And then breakup by March.

Speaker 1 (39:35):
You don't have to break up. That's a problem with
your young niggas.

Speaker 2 (39:38):
But it's people couple up quickly during the winter, but
breakup Spike in March. April wants to March. April wants
the weather warms back up. Cuff and Season is basically
a trial relationship with an expiration date.

Speaker 1 (39:55):
Interesting, I'm not participating in.

Speaker 2 (40:00):
They say love contracts me expiring right after the super Bowl. Yeah,
because that's right after like Valentine's Day.

Speaker 1 (40:08):
I don't know, so I didn't. I didn't think that
Cuff and Season. Oh maybe, I mean, yeah, seasons do
come to an end, right, But I thought it was
like to actually find somebody to just But really they
just want you to find somebody to lay up with the.

Speaker 2 (40:23):
Whole time, and then it's back the whim whammy.

Speaker 1 (40:29):
Whim whammy. I like that song. Put this whammy on him. Yes,
do you have any like real life draft stories, Like
have you ever actively, like intentionally try to set up

(40:49):
You said you got one person in the pocket right now?
I got two people, okay, two and impossible.

Speaker 2 (40:57):
Impossible? I do I have two in impossible right now
quality quality guys right now.

Speaker 1 (41:04):
Mm hmmm. No cuci given to either yet mm hmmm.

Speaker 2 (41:09):
No. And one of them is actually older than me,
I know when whammy, Oh shit, I know that's not
normal for me.

Speaker 1 (41:23):
So by what four months?

Speaker 2 (41:25):
No, he's a few years older than me. What, Yes,
I know.

Speaker 1 (41:31):
We're swapping right. Listen to the other you were young places.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Oh I'm talking about you young right. Well, one of
them is my like, right below my age, and the
other one.

Speaker 1 (41:43):
Is like, guess a fucking childish. He like twelve years
younger than me. But he the one I like the most.
It's crazy right under my age. You're what whatever that is?
He said, We're right up under there?

Speaker 2 (42:03):
Win though, because I mean, so everybody out here choosing,
like I imagine that even though these guys are pursuing me,
they might be pursuing other women at the same time.
You know, do you feel like you when you're dating
that man is only dating you. I would like to

(42:24):
think that, but you could never be sure.

Speaker 1 (42:26):
You know, it just depends, you know what I'm saying, Like,
people do find time to fuck off and do like
low bullshit. But and I'm never just trying to take
up all of somebody's time. I got shit to do too, right,
But I'll ask questions. I do want to know because
I usually if I'm entertaining somebody, I try to hone
in on that person. I don't really had an attention

(42:47):
span for multiple people now, So it's motherfucker's like, I
owe an apology to it right now because I ghost it.
And if you're listening, because I know you probably are,
am I bad. I'm just I can't do more one person.
I can't I cannot entertain. I can't talk to more
than one person at the same time. I pick a
person and then that's where I'll be and if it ends,

(43:09):
then you know I'll start all over.

Speaker 2 (43:12):
So you know, I can entertain multiple guys. But once
I start uh busting and wide open, then I kind
of lock in on that one person. I can be
thinking about my kouchie and my brain and heart are
like on the string or something like that.

Speaker 1 (43:27):
Yes, unless you're a prostitute, unless you're a call hopper,
like your kouchie run straight to your heart. So if
I let you hit this pussy like yeah.

Speaker 2 (43:35):
Then now we locked in. And that's why I'll be
trying to take my time on that, because I know
you'll find yourself locked in with the wrong type of
nigga if you don't like vet these niggas.

Speaker 1 (43:46):
Yeah for sure. Oh you ain't telling me nothing, y'all. Yeah,
it's all I've been doing my whole life, long ass
relationships with the wrong person, long ass relationships. Be mad
as tell at my dan so be hey, man, life
is lessons, that's all of this. So now you gotta
go through those things and know exactly what you want,

(44:07):
exactly what you don't want. But you're willing to tolerate
all the things, because that's all relationships is. There's how
much you could tolerate, tolerate from somebody else. That's it.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
I find myself. But this year, one thing I'm not
gonna do that I always do is I be upset
on Valentine's Day and bitter. I'm not doing that this year.
This year, well next year when Valentine's Day comes around,
if I'm not with the guy, I'm not gonna be
like I remember one year I went nigga knocking on

(44:41):
people doing.

Speaker 1 (44:41):
You're told me that you told us that you ain't
that crazy.

Speaker 2 (44:45):
That is fucking that, y'all.

Speaker 1 (44:46):
Let y'all.

Speaker 2 (44:49):
Yeah, it's not anything saud a little Roman.

Speaker 1 (44:52):
Oh, y'all Roman taking their Bucky's up.

Speaker 2 (44:59):
Midstroke.

Speaker 1 (45:00):
That was so much fun, though, bitch probably think it's
her other nigga other do it vice versa.

Speaker 2 (45:05):
Right, I started right gonna lie but that, but that
is kind of nuts. So if I am still single,
which I doubt i'll be, I'll definitely channel my soft
girl era. If y'a ain't listening to that episode, y'all
should go back and listen. But I'm just gonna be
nice to myself and not mean to others. Amen, somebody,

(45:29):
yeah man?

Speaker 1 (45:29):
Amen? So okay, I was me and one of my
girlfriends had a conversation and she was like, you know
what I like the next relationship I get in, Like
I'm really giving, it's gonna be based off like a
rewards system. Right, It's gonna be like crazy, give a

(45:52):
nigga credit card. Look, I even created I might post
it online. Let's see, does anybody need a rewards card
to pass us out to their possibles.

Speaker 2 (46:04):
For this season? He get to stay up his loyalty card.

Speaker 1 (46:08):
Yeah, because I feel like, really, that's what you have
to do, so you can kind of keep track. You
could kind of keep tracked like it's not quiet. You
gotta keep track of the good deeds and the bad deeds,
like you just have to, because how else are you
gonna like? We need help picking obviously, right, because the

(46:29):
men love to tell us online how we picked the
wrong person, right, Not that we got bamboozled into picking
the wrong person. We just outright picked the wrong niggas.
So I guess all women always pick the wrong man,
or it's just the wrong man out here. I don't
know which one it is, but I want to help
the girlies try to pick the right one. So, yeah,

(46:50):
you gotta put these niggas on a point system. Now,
this thing, this actually says to the point system breakdown.
This one actually says answering what you're doing wyd within
ten minutes. Listen. If he's sending you too many wyds
with no real plans, that's negative five points. Yeah, automatic,

(47:11):
we're not entertaining wyds for cuffing season, all right. If
the man actually wants to see you, he will make
a plan to do so.

Speaker 2 (47:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (47:19):
If he's not making any plans, baby, stop responding to
them text messages. That should get annoying a nigga died
wyd you to death.

Speaker 2 (47:26):
Let me tell you something I won't go for like
cause I you know, i'd be liking younger man. But if,
like if our first conversation, if they say type shit
more than twice, I'm not talking to you type shit.
If you say it more than two times, baby, Oh,
hold on my mama calling me. I'm gonna call you
right back, and I'll never call back cause I need you.

Speaker 1 (47:47):
That's hyn lingo. Yeah, it's like who y in for me?

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Like shit, I see you coming out to the gym.
You're looking fine as hell. Type shit. Boy, don't say
if you say it one time, okay, twice, I'd be
like boom, But if you say it more than twice,
you got.

Speaker 1 (48:04):
To go type shit. I hate that all right, So
negative negative five points for wid text messages every time
he send one. You taking off five points to get
every nigga starts with a hundred. Okay, bringing snacks when
they come over, Like, I love a man who is thoughtful. Right,

(48:28):
So if I'm cooking, if I'm bring something a bottle
of yeah something, don't come. Don't ever go to a
woman's house empty handed.

Speaker 2 (48:36):
I love when a man if he comes over and
he just take my trash out without having me to
ask him to do it. You just grab it out
the church can and take it. I hate if I
see my trash canting full and you sitting there and
you don't get up and try to take my trash.
Get your ass up and take my trash.

Speaker 1 (48:52):
Shout, nigga yo, you chirpping see me. I'm trying to
take the trash out before company actually even get there,
like while we got trash in there.

Speaker 2 (49:00):
No, I'm saying, not just when you first get there.
I mean like if a trash has accumulated while you've been.

Speaker 1 (49:06):
Oh right, yes, what are you doing?

Speaker 2 (49:09):
Right?

Speaker 1 (49:09):
Take that with you. You're going outside, aren't you right?

Speaker 2 (49:12):
Take it?

Speaker 1 (49:13):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (49:15):
Don't and don't have me to ask. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (49:18):
Ten points for that too, right, consistent, good morning text,
no skips, fifteen points all right, So every morning you're
the first person on his mind, even if he got
auto generated messages to five out the bitches. You want
the roster of him. Okay, he gets some points for that.
He's thinking about you. He's so considerate that he put

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auto messages already in place for you.

Speaker 2 (49:43):
Can you do that.

Speaker 1 (49:45):
Yes, you can schedule text messages.

Speaker 2 (49:47):
Oh I need to do that.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
You're gonna send all your niggas good morning sunshine, the fuck.

Speaker 2 (49:53):
Them NIGGAS'MU say my mom are really serious about her
good morning texts. I'm gonna make sure she get one
because she don't play about.

Speaker 1 (49:59):
That, y'all like cat in heat. I'm sorry, dammy.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
Did you hear her?

Speaker 1 (50:04):
Uh huh okay, sorry, like going that money? Is that
you're a pussy you're talking about or because you look
it down you look at down between your legs and
you said about Caddy heat.

Speaker 2 (50:18):
I'm like the.

Speaker 1 (50:19):
Actual cat like, I don't know what she thinks my
feet can do for her, But baby, whatever freaky shit
you w into, I'm not with it.

Speaker 2 (50:25):
She's she can watching you all weekend and now now
you talking about you, you are with it. I saw
you with it all weekend. Yo.

Speaker 1 (50:43):
Uh staying the night and making the bed after oh
hot twenty get twenty points for that nice clean man
that smashed you all night. She'd take the sheet off
and put him in the wash machine. You get thirty
points for that.

Speaker 2 (50:57):
I don't expect you to make the bed and she's
still still the last. I don't even I guess I
don't expect you to make my bed.

Speaker 1 (51:05):
I don't either, because men can't even make the bed
not good. I don't know they do not make the bed. Well,
I'll let you, but I am just not coming.

Speaker 2 (51:12):
Out my mind. My pillows need to be set up
a certain way, and you're just not gonna do that.
You just don't know how that needs to be done.
So just leave it alone.

Speaker 1 (51:19):
Right, I'm gonna go ahead and make it up, but
I'm gonna make it up after you don't feel no
type of way. Yeah, so I'll give I'll give you
some points from making the beds up, remembering your favorite
show and watching it together.

Speaker 2 (51:34):
I love that. That's a love language for me.

Speaker 1 (51:36):
Okay, so you get twenty five points for that.

Speaker 2 (51:39):
I love a nigga who love a movie. If a
nigga be like I don't watch TV like that and
my mama calling me, I'm gonna call you right back.
What I don't watch TV like that? So that wouldn't
be like, yeah you get that, you get that message? Yeah,
my mama call it. We texted what do you me
and your mom wall call it. I'm not talking to you, no,
more because I love a movie.

Speaker 1 (52:02):
Driving across town in traffic just to chill.

Speaker 2 (52:06):
Ummm, unless we got a confortable and we're on the
ocean line and we're gonna see like scenic shit. I
don't like being in the car.

Speaker 1 (52:16):
Thirty points supposedly for that. I mean just to chill. No,
but like if we're gonna go, like do a nice
thing like this weekend we went to.

Speaker 2 (52:26):
If a nigga driving you across town just to chill,
he might be dropping off the work girl, be careful
with him. Don't trust it.

Speaker 1 (52:38):
Shave you a decoy so the police don't look so hard.
Now you're in a shootout, mistaken identity, posting a soft launch,
the hand, the drink, the shadow pick. Don't post me
before I post you? No, but do I care? I

(52:58):
don't hear. I don't care, but don't have the expectation
of me also posting you.

Speaker 2 (53:06):
Don't post me till our way and day because I
ain't posting you to mine. I might show a watch,
a watch.

Speaker 1 (53:13):
Or a foot a ring engagement.

Speaker 2 (53:16):
Oh yeah, I'll do that, but I'm not posting the
old nigga because I always we know some holes lurking
like ooh, I want that. That's how you be probably Ooh,
I want that. I do want that, but not with
your nigga. I want my own nigga. But it beholds
that be wanting yours just because it's you.

Speaker 1 (53:35):
Yeah. I never liked when I was engaged. I didn't.
I didn't really post like an engagement type thing. I
remember I posted one picture it was him and I
and I just had to ring on in the picture
like hand just but I never went online to say
I said I do and all that weird chit, and
one of my friends at the time told me is
not real unless I post.

Speaker 2 (53:56):
It, that's not true.

Speaker 1 (53:58):
I'm like, what can I? I mean, I didn't get
married though. That was the fucking poster, right, she.

Speaker 2 (54:05):
Put an omen over your shit. Yeah, I just think that.
I don't. I don't like public displays of affection on
like social media. Yeah, like social media, I don't like
to do that.

Speaker 1 (54:23):
I don't want to because in the actual public I'd
be all over a nigga.

Speaker 2 (54:26):
Yeah, but on social media, I don't want to do
that just because if it don't work in my head,
if it don't work out, now, everybody want an explanation,
what happened. Why a you gonna take all these pictures down?
And I'm emotional. If we get into a bad fight,
You'll come all the way off, you know, just because
I'm mad at the time. And then next week we
I'm back cool, and now I got to unarchive all

(54:47):
these pictures. I ain't got time for me.

Speaker 1 (54:48):
Right, I mean, I literally have deleted my entire social media.
I was off of social media from twenty twelve to
twenty sixteen because of that, because of deleting, you know,
breaking up and niggas started deleting, deleting our pictures off
of his social media, and I started deleting him, and

(55:10):
I'm like, this is hurting my feelings, deleting these pictures. Yeah,
because in his mind he just didn't want nobody to
know who he was in a relationship with. But now
you you started it. You started with the post and shit,
I didn't, Okay, I didn't start that shit.

Speaker 2 (55:25):
You. I added my ex recently on Facebook because I
kept seeing like, I kept seeing him. He's still friends
with my family and stuff like that. I'm still friends
with him. So I was like, fucking, I'll ad him.
And I looked at his page and he's married to
get he's married now to someone else and they have
hid and my pictures are still on his page.

Speaker 1 (55:48):
Yeah, some people don't delete. It is a part of
their timeline. Literally, That's what I'm saying. Like, when my
ex said that shit like you deleted our pictures, I
felt like you were deleting those moments because why did
you ever and post them? And then you don't even
have these pictures no more? They literally lived on social media.

Speaker 2 (56:04):
When I with me and my nigga. If you don't
get this bitch off your page, why do you still
have this bitch on your page. There's a new sheriff
in town. Take her down the fuck.

Speaker 1 (56:16):
I don't care about shit like that. I don't.

Speaker 2 (56:20):
Yeah, you ain't gonna have your ex.

Speaker 1 (56:22):
So how many points a nigga losing If you're digging
somebody and you go on this page and he still
got his ex girlfriend up there.

Speaker 2 (56:26):
If we're like together together now, I'm a request that
he deleted them. I'm not gonna expect him to know
that that's a requirement for me, but I will ask
that he deletes them. And if he doesn't, like, oh,
I don't want to delete them, then I don't feel
like you still attached to that person, like you're not
ready for this relationship if you still like cause I

(56:48):
got like I got a dick pic folder. When I
get a man, I'm a hide it in the calculator.

Speaker 1 (56:55):
But you.

Speaker 2 (57:01):
Just appease me. That's all I'm saying. Like you got
to really get rid of their bitch, just hide it.

Speaker 1 (57:07):
I made a mistake once to telling the nigga that
I had a video of somebody eating my pussy in
my phone. Boy, he was so livid. And it's not
that it was just there. I knew it was there
somewhere where it was in the phone. I wasn't sure
at that time. You know what I'm saying. I knew
I never deleted it though. Man, he was upset about
that ship ups that nigga was about to.

Speaker 2 (57:28):
Put your hand between the Washington drying Yes.

Speaker 1 (57:32):
So maybe all right, yeah, maybe you gotta get rid
of that stuff, man, Yeah, you get rid of it.
I think I think I'm gonna get me a new
number this time. I think I might change my cell
phone number I have. I have had the same number
this one since I was eighteen, same phone number. Like

(57:52):
I'm accessible. I don't want to be accessible no more. Yeah,
I don't want no problems, bitch none.

Speaker 2 (57:59):
I just locked a bunch of people.

Speaker 1 (58:03):
With no problems. Uh, surviving Thanksgiving dinner with the family
fifty points. I feel like that's easy.

Speaker 2 (58:09):
With my family though, they would just be so happy
for me to bring a nigga. They would be like
so nice to him, they'd just be happy to have
I guess.

Speaker 1 (58:18):
It'd be my sister drunk ass got a million and
one questions for a nigga, and she's still gonna be fun.
You know what I'm saying. That's still gonna be fun. Uh.
Magic pajama photo for Christmas? You get seventy five points
for that.

Speaker 2 (58:34):
Yeah, you get a hundred points for that with me
because I've been waiting on that for a long time.

Speaker 1 (58:39):
And Valentine's dinner reservation with flowers a hundred points.

Speaker 2 (58:44):
Yeah, both of those that undone for me. Yes, But
it's all crazy because these last Valentine's I could have
like gone out with a guy, but I didn't want
to because it would have been fake.

Speaker 1 (59:01):
Yeah, you want to go with somebody who actually like
and you're gonna get dicked down afterwards, like I don't
want to just go because I don't want to be
by myself. Yeah, I'm still gonna let you smash. I'm
still not getting Dick on Valentine right.

Speaker 2 (59:14):
So so so.

Speaker 1 (59:18):
Bronze Tear this is one in three months. Okay, this
is the Bronze Terror loyalty program.

Speaker 2 (59:24):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (59:25):
You get answered texts, occasional leftovers, shared next Netflix passwords
and the restrictions for this particular package. No holidays, no
Instagram tags, no meet the Pearans.

Speaker 2 (59:39):
I gave somebody my HBO Max password and then he
kissed me off, and then I went and changed the
password and he gonna message me. He's like, you changed
your HBO Max. I'm like, you can't log in.

Speaker 1 (59:57):
Edie you Patty and Hell. I still got my homegirl
HBO Max, who I haven't spoken to her months because
we haven't beefing, But she still got my Disney so
we haven't removed each other.

Speaker 2 (01:00:07):
If you're not gonna be having a bit chump in
your house watching Game of Thrones on my HBO, you've
been a good hell loggin right.

Speaker 1 (01:00:18):
Silver Tear this is three to five months benefits, weekend sleepovers,
rides to the airport. That's love. Okay, your favorite snacks
and their fridge restrictions. Still no family introductions. Valentine Day
is to be determined, okay, gold teer. This is six

(01:00:38):
months plus benefits, magic pajamas with Christmas picks, family holiday dinners,
birthday acknowledgments, restrictions, risk of being cut once spring starts
like you still on a chopping block. And this is
Platinum Tear. Platinum Taar is the all star cuff and
season loyalty rewards. So the benefits are keys to the apartment, bitch,

(01:01:03):
I'm ready to cut a pair of keys right now,
really to them damn kids to the apartment, shared Uber
eats account, maybe even a vacation trip. Restrictions me expired
when the weather breaks and the streets reopened.

Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
I ain't never been ready to give a nigga a key, never, ever,
never a key. I remember somebody asked me for a
key one time, and I was like, I started hypervillion
late and I was like, what does she talk about?

Speaker 1 (01:01:38):
Was he paying some bills?

Speaker 2 (01:01:39):
Yeah, he paid the rent.

Speaker 1 (01:01:42):
I got herd on the nigga.

Speaker 2 (01:01:48):
Why you need to keep them by shit? It's crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:01:54):
Like cause it's kind of like both of ours that's
like asking for my passwords to my phone. Why you
need right won't be able to pull up? When the
why would you need to get in here without my
ex like, I'll let you in. Maybe you want to
surprise you, Maybe you want access to come and you
come home like flowers everywhere, all that good stuff. Coordinate

(01:02:17):
with my mama, Coordinate with my homegirl, Coordinate with my sister.

Speaker 2 (01:02:21):
Got a key, ask put the flowers in? This bitch?

Speaker 1 (01:02:25):
Is you crazy?

Speaker 2 (01:02:29):
Shame? But you don't live here?

Speaker 1 (01:02:33):
Huh?

Speaker 2 (01:02:33):
If you don't live in this motherfucker, I don't see
why you wouldn't need a key. No.

Speaker 1 (01:02:36):
I never give no keys out in real life unless
the man is living there, right. I think the only
person who ever had a key tell place I lived
is my ex fiance and my ex ex ex ex
boyfriend from when I was in my twenties. He definitely
had a key to my fucking house. Nigga locked me
out my own house. I got home and all you
could hear through the window was was it yous a hole?

(01:03:01):
Or it was like some song like it was either ludicrous,
it was like some whole song like he was like,
had I already went through all my shit in my
house is essentially what happened. And I get home from
work and now he's not opening the fucking door. Maybe
he didn't have a key. Maybe I just left him
with the key. Maybe he didn't have a key at
the time, but eventually he definitely had a key in

(01:03:23):
my place. But ye had a nigga win come to
the door. He like, blasted music. I get in there.
He got my fucking college trunk open. Bitch, you know
how much stuff. I still got that trunk right now
in my other bedroom. You know how much shit in there.
A whole bunch of shit. My life is in that trunk.
And imagine somebody just really violating his shit and going through. Yeah,

(01:03:44):
he found my very short list. It was mad because
his name was the first name on the list. I'm like,
because you're not the first person that had sex with fuck,
why would your p up at the top of the list.
And it's not based off of performance either, it's just
the chronological Mayyo. Business ain't for.

Speaker 2 (01:04:07):
Your eyes, right, you shouldn't have been in my chest anyway, nigga, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:04:11):
Who does that? I don't like that, man. I don't
go through people shit. I do not go through. That's
one thing I'm not going to body and my ship.

Speaker 2 (01:04:18):
I had to. I learned the hard way.

Speaker 1 (01:04:21):
Yeah I'm hurting my own ship. Yeah yeah, I would
to have a good day. I would have good days, Like,
who the fuck wake up? That's the toxic shit who
wakes up to ruin their own day? Can you the
man or woman? You will find some shit don't got
nothing to do with your eyes exactly, and you create
a whole scenario around it to create a problem with
your significant other.

Speaker 2 (01:04:42):
I hate a bitch that'll go on vacation and go
on a nigga phone while y'all on vacation.

Speaker 1 (01:04:47):
You're a weird though.

Speaker 2 (01:04:47):
Why are you doing that?

Speaker 1 (01:04:49):
Like it's a weird nigga? Can't he never relax?

Speaker 2 (01:04:52):
You know? He?

Speaker 1 (01:04:53):
Fucking bitches right? You wouldn't be looking up trip right here?
This is a makeup trip, bitch. Okay, he's booked this
trip because he don this fucked up shit to you.
And now here you are and you're ruining the makeup trip.

Speaker 2 (01:05:05):
What at least wait you there? How are you gonna
ruin vacation? I hate that. That's so dumb, baby.

Speaker 1 (01:05:10):
Put it a bitch messaging you from vacation before. Yeah,
by her nigga, I ain't know, I ain't know that
was your man.

Speaker 2 (01:05:18):
She posted me on her story and everything. She's like
this another one right here. I was like, now see
how I get in it?

Speaker 1 (01:05:34):
All right, y'all. So that's cuff and season. Kay, So
hopefully y'all got some takeaways from this episode. Put these
niggas on the rewards program. Men. Put these women on
a rewards program, a loyalty program, right, add it up,
tally it.

Speaker 2 (01:05:48):
Up, do all the things ship.

Speaker 1 (01:05:51):
Yeah, wean them out, wean them out and get you
one good one or maybe two good ones.

Speaker 2 (01:05:57):
Okay, I think you know, like start with two and
then made the best man or woman win, you know.

Speaker 1 (01:06:03):
Period yeah, period, period, period.

Speaker 2 (01:06:07):
Any last last? That was your last last?

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
Yep, that's my last last?

Speaker 2 (01:06:11):
All right, y'all. If y'all enjoyed this episode.

Speaker 1 (01:06:15):
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Speaker 1 (01:06:27):
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