Mistakes Were Made

In this episode of We Talk Back, hosts AJ Holiday and Tam Bam dive into an honest and hilarious conversation about self-care, discipline, and the complexities of modern relationships. They share personal weekend stories, offer candid takes on hygiene and confidence, and critique the unrealistic standards of the modeling industry. The discussion expands into topics like emotional health, body image, and the ups and downs of dating in the digital age — including their experiences with dating apps. With humor and vulnerability, AJ and Tam highlight the importance of communication, self-worth, and self-awareness in relationships, closing with their signature “Dumb Bitch Stories,” where they reflect on love, growth, and lessons learned the hard way.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Peaks to the plan. This Ch'allamagne of God. Here.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
Before we get into today's episode, we've got to celebrate
the Black Effect Podcast Network. It's turning five years old, man,
five years of powerful voices, unforgettable moments in the community
that keeps growing.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
This is the power of the platform. Now let's get
into it. Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production
of iHeartRadio and the Black Effect Network. Talk Talk to We're.

Speaker 3 (00:24):
Just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
What's up, y'all, it's your girl, a j Holiday, what's
up Tandam.

Speaker 3 (00:36):
Hey, y'all, it's big Tamavam. I love y'all so so
very much. I miss y'all. I'm glad y'all came back
this week. How is your weekend? AJ girl.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
I didn't do much this weekend. I really laid in
the bed all day Saturday and it felt really good.
Ooh him in the best days. Yes, I'm in a
good mood this week.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
I don't.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
I'm not letting shit bother me. Is mother little shit
got me? Uh, I would be going nuts otherwise, but
I'm not. Yeah. So I got some much needed rest
and I miss the sun. That's about it. I don't
be getting enough Vitamin D.

Speaker 3 (01:19):
I have to take it orally because I'm just not
getting enough.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, I do take I take some, you know daily
when I remember, daily when I remember, but usually usually
I take my vitamin D. But you know a lot
of times i'd be having to put my vitamins in
the bed with me, so the bed. Yeah, so as
soon as I wake up, I just roll over and
take them.

Speaker 3 (01:44):
And we are not our parents. They at least put
it beside business, put it in the billow case.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
I don't got no nightstand. Oh I do, but it's
like on the other side of the bed. But this
is laziness, right, because really I should just get the
fuck up out the bed and go in the cabinet
and take the vitamins.

Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yeah, like adult.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
It eating a bed until I feel my shit moving
to get on to get up.

Speaker 4 (02:09):
To use the bathroom, because it's usually like as soon
as I take all this stuff.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
Probably thirty minutes later I use a bathroom. So I
take all the shit and then I scroll until I
got to take a ship.

Speaker 3 (02:20):
And you scroll while you taking a shit.

Speaker 1 (02:23):
Exactly, legs numb, just get up. Yesterday, I was watching
this YouTube thing. This like mindset change, because my only
goal right now is discipline. I was telling my mama
how like our whole family just lack discipline. I don't
ever recall. And this is how you be successful, right,
doing the same shit every fucking.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
Day, get a routine.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
That's the hard part, any fucking discipline about shit. I
wanted your free spirit. Yeah, I know that too. I
don't like being tied down to a thing either, because
it's like I get bored real fast. Like I can
get a routine going, but I'm gonna get bored with
that ship real quick.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
Me too, Yeah, so me too. It's like, but remember
the food analogy that I gave in season one. Niggas
get tired of the srip. Niggas want to slice a
pizza good day.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
Literally, man, I just gotta Yeah, that's my only goal.
I gotta get more disciplined. Like I really should not
have laid into bed this Saturday. But sometimes when your
body tell you to be still, just do it.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
If you don't, it will do it for you. You will.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
And last week, multiple days last week, I just I
was feeling real exhausted, like real life exhaustion. I'm like sick,
but like just the tire. Yeah. Like you know how
you be like tired but you can't go to sleep.
It's that feeling all day long.

Speaker 3 (03:54):
Yeah, and that sucks.

Speaker 1 (03:56):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
Let me tell you, I relax. What you me tell you?
I would have did tell my mother. I tell y'all,
my mom was moving. Why I drove a big truck. Y'all.
I drove a forty foot truck. Y'all couldn't tell me
I didn't have big nuts. I was backing that sit
up like a grown man. I was like one hand, yeah,
I was yeah, one hand in that motherfucker. I rolled

(04:18):
down the window.

Speaker 1 (04:19):
I was like, howdy to my sister. Now she thinks
she can go get a CDL.

Speaker 3 (04:25):
Child my CDL Like I was whipping that shit. I'm
so proud of myself for doing that because I was
so scared that shit ain't no hoe and either in
my girl.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
I have a lot of anxiety when I drive big
like commercial vehicles, but I've definitely driven a big ass
box truck before.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
I'm bitch, See that's crazy. A mountain is crazy because
what the fuck I just drove it, like about four
miles each way. You feel accomplished, super accomplished. It wasn't
the space in between. It was the turns. It was

(05:11):
the turns and backing that bitch and stuff like that.
That's what made me feel like a boss, yo. But
that was it. That was my weekend. Moving. Moving is
so stressful. Oh my god. If you could get through
a move with a person and not argue with them,
at least once you are a boss, you the true boss.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
I have never had anybody help me move and not
argue with them, like now that I think about it. Anytime.
Usually if I'm moving myself, I'm cool. If it's mover's
doing it, I'm cool. But if I'm asking somebody for
help to move me, it's almost always a fight. It's
usually a nigga too, and it's the nigga. You fucking
why is that?

Speaker 3 (05:55):
I don't know, but you're gonna fight with that motherfucker.
Every time I got into it with a nigga, I wasn't.
I got into hot with higher help. I had to
apologize to him.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
Oh no, I ain't get it. Never got into what
hired help. But like man, he.

Speaker 3 (06:10):
Told me, he lost, Like he told me, he put
the screws in the bag. And clearly the bag is empty.
Where are the screws? So I was like kind of
getting a little spicy with that, nigga. But turns out
the part that I was talking about didn't have no screws.
But why did you say? Why'd you say you put
him in the bag. Why you didn't say there was
no screws?

Speaker 1 (06:29):
You know, because when you're moving a whole bunch of shit,
you forget what what had a screw and what didn't
you know what I'm saying, But that's why you shaid,
tape the screws to whatever you unscrew.

Speaker 3 (06:37):
That's what I do. I always put him in a
ziplock bag and tape it to whatever it is. In
that particular bag he took down being over zealous fast.
He took it down before I was in there, and
I was like, well, where are the screws? He said,
I put it in the other bag. Oh, So I.

Speaker 1 (06:53):
Was like, assume there was screws for it? Yeah, because
he said that.

Speaker 3 (06:57):
Yeah. Yeah. So I end up apologizing though I did.
I was like, I'm sorry for the manner in which
I spoke to you.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
Girl. The one time I actually hired movers. Actually, I've
had people move like up, like like my bed right now.
I had somebody had to move that shit in here
because it was that fucking heavy. But the one time
I actually hired movers to move all my shit is
when I was moving from Saint Louis to Atlanta. I mean,
he's from Atlanta to Saint Louis and the guy I
hired was supposed to be a moving company. Why the
fuck does nigga showed up by himself. He showed up

(07:28):
to move a two bedroom townhouse by himself, So doesn't
that mean I had to help him? Right? Plus I
get his nigga a bicycle, and he still wanted to
charge me the full price of the move.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
Because you gave him a bike because you had to help. Yeah,
you wasn't gonna.

Speaker 1 (07:49):
Move all this stuff in the alloted time I needed.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
Like how you just gonna move my couch.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
Exactly? I had to, So basically you were hired to help.
I'm not giving you the same price as somebody who
comes as a moving company with multiple people in a
fucking truck, are you s right? And I don't have
to do nothing but standing there and supervise. So I
already packed my whole house up, and now I gotta
help you put the shit. Girl. I was living you
hear me? Yeah, And I gave you a bike right.

Speaker 3 (08:18):
Look out in here. Shit, I would I would pay half.
I'm gonna pay you half exactly. Yes, we had to
argue about it, but that's what went down. Like you
are you stupid people?

Speaker 1 (08:29):
People will really try to get over on you, man,
Oh yes they will.

Speaker 3 (08:33):
You don't do something, they will get over on you.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
Yeah, you gotta say, you know. That's another one of
my goals is to fucking say something. There's times in
my life, my life where some shit was happening and
I just didn't say nothing about it. I'm gonna give
you all a perfect example.

Speaker 3 (08:47):
I got one too.

Speaker 1 (08:48):
Did I tell a story before? When I was in
I was in public. So when I lived in Charlotte,
the public's on South Tryon and the guy in the
seafood department he had his bare hands and the cooler
like fondling the fucking shrimp, like just mushing it around
with his hands, bare hand when you set it in

(09:08):
the in the fruit and vegetable section. I could see
him diagonally. I'm watching him like, why the fuck is
you doing that? Because in my mind, you just jacked
off in your hand and you fucking stirred it up
in the shrimp with no gloves on, right, right, So
I wanted to walk up and confront him about it.
He saw me see him, and he stopped. I circled

(09:28):
back around and I saw him doing it some more.
That's how I know he was putting something in that
fucking shrimp, right, because it's the cook shrimp, not the
raw shrimp. It's like, you know, like the boiled, peel
and eat shrimp.

Speaker 3 (09:40):
He was, Oh, so it's already cooked and you got
your dirty hands in it.

Speaker 1 (09:44):
Yes, that's so. I'm like, wait, what like nobody's washing
the cook shrimp. You know what I'm saying. So I
waiting until I left the store and I ran into
like a black woman who was a manager, and I
told her what I saw instead of addressing him directly.
So from that point on, from that point on, I said,
if I see somebody doing some shit, I'm asking wody

(10:05):
doing it right then and there. I'm not gonna be
passive aggressive and go tell tell a fucking manager just anything.
That's an example, Mitch, I'm saying something you'll ask because
why the fuck is you doing that? I need to
know because I never got the answer, Like I never
I needed him to say. I needed him. I needed
to see him like get scared, right, because then I
would know he was on some bullshit. But I'll never

(10:26):
know now.

Speaker 3 (10:29):
No. I was at Domino's Pizza and I walked out
because the same little like shelf or like where they're
making the slide and the pieces down where they're making it.
She got her cell phone sitting on it. What you're dirty?
Do you know how dirty your cell phone is? And
you got it on the feet they shelf that the

(10:49):
pizzas are sliding down because you can't put your phone
away because you a young millennial, are gen zer and
you ain't. I know you're not supposed to have your
phone out right now, but yet you got it sitting
up there where the pizzas are being made.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
Are the pizzas in the box of the the.

Speaker 3 (11:05):
The raw dough, yeah, the raw dough like sliding that
at That's where she got her cell phone.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
You ain't asked, You ain't saying to her about it.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
I took a picture of her, ask and send it
the Dominoes, the d M Dominoes when I was like,
why the fuck you doing this? So I'm sure this
is I'm sure. I was like, I'm sure this is
what you train people to do. You know what Domino
said back Now, the motherfucking thing. They ain't opened my
DM yet. I should have said, you know.

Speaker 1 (11:35):
You gotta at them on Twitter. Girl, You would have
had to have posted that picture on Twitter and at them, because.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
It ain't too late.

Speaker 1 (11:44):
This is recently.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
I'm be like, y'all ignored my d M. So I
guess I have to bring it here, and it's the goal.

Speaker 1 (11:52):
You just want to respond at this point, right, yeah.

Speaker 3 (11:54):
At this point, I don't want no more pizza from
your motherfucking ass. Goodness. Oh and another thing, let me
just say this one so we can get into scene
this because we've been talking ten minutes already, y'all. So
you know how they had those Asian reflexology massage pallors, right,

(12:15):
and then you can get like a discounted massage, right,
especial massage all over, like especially in New York that everywhere,
you know, and it don't be like some of them,
be like real, like I'm assuming a real massage pallor
and nothing shady, right, so my back was hurting so
bad the other night, and I was like, let me

(12:35):
see if one of those are over here. I'm in Columbia,
South Carolina. So I found one. It was like one
point two miles away. I was like, oh, this is perfect.
So I called and I asked and had appointment. They said, yes,
you can come at seven thirty. So I went there
and it just looked a little. I was like, you know,
I'm not gonna judge my back hurt. I might get

(12:56):
the best massage in my life. Right, So I go in.
The bitch don't speak no English, right, she don't speak
no English whatsoever. Okay, this is America. There's a lot
of people in this country who speak a different languages. Whatever.
This bitch gonna ask me to pay her right then
before the massage. For the massage, I was like, that's
some whole shit. Yeah, that's why I was like, this

(13:17):
is very prostituted. So I was like, hmm, okay. I
was like, it ain't but sixty dollars. I'll give it
to her before. It's fine. So I give it to
her before and then she pointed at the tip right
in a tip. I was like, all right, now, I
was like, I'm not gonna give you a tip before
the service. Not only did she not only did she

(13:41):
point at the tip spot, did she pointed to the
sign that said twenty to thirty percent is highly recommended.
Her suggested she's gonna point to that sign and I
was like, girl, no, I'm not giving you until she's like,
no English. I was like, what language do you speak?

(14:01):
And she had like she don't understand that because I
would send you a translation, bitch that I'm not sitting
on old tip. No tip, no, like no.

Speaker 1 (14:10):
Way is universal?

Speaker 3 (14:12):
Right, So she got I guess she was kind of mad.
So she started digging my el her elbow and my
motherfucking back. That shit hurt the whole sixty dollars wasted, y'all.
That bitch hurt my back. I was like, oh, I
know hours universal, bitch, you know what our me? Oh

(14:33):
that hurts, and she like, yeah, bitch, no tip. I
was gonna hurt the whole motherfucking time. Shame. I should
have said something, but I just yeah, I'll never go
back there. Then she kept answering the phone during my massage.
Not a black Asian giving a service on sorry, And

(14:55):
then she and she was putting the old speaker for all.
I was like, this is the most gato beside I've
ever had my life.

Speaker 1 (15:01):
Man Asian people when they talk, it's sound like an argument.
God damn, calmed down. That's just like the regular tone.
It's not like an argument every.

Speaker 3 (15:12):
Time they talk about right, let's get this in your.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
Shame all right? Oh let me but let me just
add this all right quick. Speaking of getting hurt, y'all,
I went to the dentist last week. Floss, y'all, floss,
get a water pick when I tell y'all, the bitch
hurt me so bad last week at the fucking dentnist office.
I canceled. I had I need to get a feeling.
I canceled it. I ain't coming back for some months.

(15:40):
I need a break from you.

Speaker 3 (15:40):
Bitch.

Speaker 1 (15:41):
She really like hurt me. But I had like a piece,
like a callous like you know, like a little callous
build up in between my bottom, Yeah, plaque build up.
That shit has been there since the last time I
went to the dinnist. The last dinnist couldn't get it out.
This bitch did so.

Speaker 3 (15:59):
She did a great job.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
I'm now cleaning my teeth because it's right smooth.

Speaker 3 (16:02):
Between mm hmm, but don't feel nice like when you
rub your tongue after it's freshly clean.

Speaker 1 (16:10):
But ooh, like to get underneath your teeth because that's
the importance of flossing, because all that food gets underneath
your gum line. Yeah, you gotta get up underneath there,
so get the water pick. Anyway, Yeah, that was it.
Do your dinnis appointment?

Speaker 3 (16:26):
Yes, a couple of weeks ago.

Speaker 1 (16:28):
Have you have you done yet? I didn't mind mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (16:31):
It ain't time for mind yet.

Speaker 1 (16:33):
I just went your nasty asses, go get the clean.

Speaker 3 (16:37):
We get like it's this nigga, y'all. He fine as
hell from Charlotte and that's my nigga. But he got
a laughing yellow, laughing taffy right at the bottom of
his teeth. That's what it looked like. You know.

Speaker 1 (16:48):
I associate that type of ship with all types of
like illnesses, like I don't know, because you can really
die from class and stuff. Yeah, you can die from
gum disease. For like, why are you you don't see
that you don't feel that that is that comes from
not brushing. Also, just not brushing your teeth.

Speaker 3 (17:08):
Not good and then just letting us sit there. Why
does she did look like a mouthguard? All right?

Speaker 1 (17:17):
All right, let's get in a stupid internet news. All right.
So there is a model. I don't know if you
guys saw this, So you saw this tammy this model
on she took to TikTok, Instagram, whichever platform of her
choice to go off on Angel Reese and Sunny Lee
being Victoria Angels this year and the Runway show. She said,

(17:42):
instead of real Runway queens, let modeling be its own thing.
How do you feel about that? So she's a model
and she's upset because Angel I don't know what Sunny
Lee does. What is what is her with professional? She in?

Speaker 3 (17:57):
I don't know. But she's a gymnast.

Speaker 1 (18:00):
She's a gymnast. Okay, so she's actually an Olympic gymnast.
So she and Andel Reese were both in the fashion
show in New York City, and this one model didn't
like it. She didn't like that they were on the
right way.

Speaker 3 (18:17):
But I just don't understand. Like I said, I don't
want to downplay modeling, but it ain't like she doing
brain surgery. Like it's all you gotta do is put
on some ship walk. Like, so you're a model now
you know.

Speaker 1 (18:37):
It's like I can do your job, you can't do mine.
Can you shoot basketball? Can you? Can you cook dope?

Speaker 3 (18:48):
Can you cook dope? That's the inside, y'all.

Speaker 1 (18:56):
But yeah, like, girl, are you an Olympic gymnast? Because
soon he can do your job, but you can't. Okay,
you cannot play basketball like Angel Rees Okay, but she
can model like you because she's hella tall. Fine, she
got a little bump bump in the back, and she's pretty.

Speaker 3 (19:13):
I mean. And then you know, the modeling world is changing.
It's more inclusive. You have lines like Fincy that have
models of all sizes, in all shapes and all walks.
So like, girl, you don't. It's not a monolith people.
Anybody can be a model as long as they are
hired to walk their ass down that shit with whatever
they put on. So sorry, booth, she.

Speaker 1 (19:36):
Said, it says with nearly four years in industry, her
name is I guess her last name is. Her name
is Avery Hussleman. Husslemen argue that such crossovers undermine the
hard earned opportunities for trained models. No one would let
a model play in the Wnba. Yes you could if
you could play, Okay, you could do both. Obviously, no

(19:57):
one would let models go compete for Olympic gold, she
said in the two minute rant. So my question for
you casting, why are we letting Angel Reese and Sonny
Lee walk the Victoria's Secret run Way. She extended her
critique to influencers, calling the decisions beyond unfair to those
who've worked their butts off to break into VS castings.

(20:21):
Here's the thing y'all get yelled at, screamed at, like
that's the bunt of y'all fucking job. Because we watched
who wants what's the tarbing show? American Model?

Speaker 3 (20:30):
We wished.

Speaker 1 (20:31):
All I saw was abuse, That's all I saw. Okay,
pretty faces getting abused. Motherfuckers forced you to cut your
hair off to fit whatever.

Speaker 3 (20:40):
You know, tough industry. Honestly, they be getting you gotta
have feet, skin, Yeah, you gotta have some thing spin.

Speaker 1 (20:47):
I'm pretty sure Angel Reese didn't get hazed. So maybe
that's the hard work she's referring to. You know what
I'm saying, Like, I'm not saying that it's easy.

Speaker 3 (20:57):
Yeah, because I mean I guess that they have to
walk mm Hm, you know a certain way and pose
a certain way, But I still don't feel like it's
so much that anybody couldn't do it.

Speaker 1 (21:13):
Now the bitches up there in knock Kneed. Now you
get Charles and miss what's her name up there, that's
a little bit more.

Speaker 3 (21:21):
It just depends on who line they walking for. Ship
her girl. It's a dock deed bitch right there that
need representation for out of here? Uh Halseleman. So like
go By, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (21:42):
Did you did you see the Turkey leg Hut ship
that's going on?

Speaker 3 (21:47):
What is going on with that? Because I saw people
comparing them to James Saint Patrick and what was her name?

Speaker 1 (21:56):
Tasha Saint Patrick here, just tearing the whole shit down basically, yeah,
like so so right now, so I don't know have
you seen the Okay, let me let me back up
a little bit. So the Turkey Leg Hut owners, the
husband and wife they are no longer together, Okay, So

(22:18):
it's Nick Nikia Holmes and I can't even remember what
the husband's name is. I don't they're not together, and
I want to say he's in jail because I'm I'm
pretty sure he torched the place in a couple other businesses, right,
but apparently she's with another guy. So this is a
headline from the Daily Mail. It says Nikia Holmes Homes

(22:39):
forty five, is accused of hindering the apprehension of a
known felon identified as Jonathan Salazon, who was wanted for
allegedly beating his ex girlfriend with a tire iron and
holding her captive for six hours. And this video out there,
and there's before and after pictures of what this girl
would normally look like on a day to day basis
and how she was looking after he abused her. Right,

(23:03):
so then he said. Deputies said season was captured after
fleeing holmes holmes home in the Bridgeland area of West
Harris County. That's uh Houston, where he had been hiding.
According to Harris County court records, Holmes has been charged
with one count of hindering apprehension, of apprehension or prosecution

(23:24):
of unknown felon, a serious offense that prosecutors say unfolded
at her own home. She was taken into custody by
the Harris County Sheriff's Office and booked into jail before
being released Thursday morning. So Deputies with the Harris County
Sheriff's Office said they were staking out Holmes's residence in
the Bridgeland area of the city when they received a

(23:47):
tip that wanted suspect was hiding inside. So anyway, you're
what an abuser? This man is wanted by the police
for beaten the shit.

Speaker 3 (24:00):
Almost death that woman. He beat her with a tire iron, like.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
He tried to feel recognizable, yes, and then there's video
of him like she's he's like kicking kicking her ferociously
on a sofa, Like there's video out there of him,
you know, doing this abuse and it's and it's crazy, like,
how could you I could not be with a man
who would do something like that to another woman.

Speaker 3 (24:25):
No, because when.

Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yeah, and her mug and her mug shot, her lip
looked a little swollen.

Speaker 3 (24:37):
It might have started already.

Speaker 1 (24:39):
Yeah, you might have popped your ass a little quick,
little one too.

Speaker 3 (24:41):
I'm gonna taking something. If you hiding a nigga in
your house, all right, if you listening to the sound
of my voice, this is God speaking through me. If
you are hiding a nigga in your house right now
from the police, I need you to get him out
of there right now. You're going to jail. You're going
to just like that girl who had Derek Groves ass

(25:02):
from New Orleans hid up in her her Atlanta apartment.
What is going on with y'all? Ain't no dick that good?

Speaker 1 (25:11):
Yes, now you're going to jail.

Speaker 3 (25:12):
You're going to jail. Imagine in your house arguing with
a nigga, You hiding nigga. You need to be the
most quietest motherfucker around, but you here arguing like you legal,
because that's not That's how he got caught the police.
Somebody called the police because they was over there arguing.

Speaker 1 (25:33):
Yeah, and somebody called the police here, and like the fuck,
what is happening?

Speaker 3 (25:38):
I don't want no dick that good?

Speaker 1 (25:40):
What is a esteem?

Speaker 3 (25:41):
Like?

Speaker 1 (25:42):
You know what I'm saying, Like this is I always
you always have to go back like what is this
person's the girl with turkey? Like hut girl? You know
what I'm saying, Beautiful that God abused beautiful girl too.
What what's up with y'all? What's up with the steam
that you allow a person like this to have access
to you?

Speaker 3 (26:00):
Right?

Speaker 1 (26:02):
You know what I'm saying. You can have all the
money in the world like you see people with certain
like type of niggas is like, why something you are
not loving on yourself and you looking for something outside
of you.

Speaker 3 (26:14):
Right when you have devil a convicted feeling that's hiding
from the police and your shit, or a nigga who
bet a woman nearly all to death with a time
I'm praying for y'all.

Speaker 1 (26:27):
Yeah, I couldn't doubt that the ex husband probably used
to put hands on her eyes too, because he seemed
a little like little sassy. You know what I'm saying.
I'm really afraid of the sassy men because I believe
often times they really don't even like women for real,
so that's why they be so aggravated. Niggas be battling
the sexuality.

Speaker 3 (26:44):
So they just be mad.

Speaker 1 (26:46):
So maybe she's used to meaning abusive relationships too, I
don't know, but it ain't nothing to think about it.

Speaker 3 (26:53):
She got some time to think about it because she's
about to sit in there jail. No, she already she
already bond out.

Speaker 1 (27:01):
Mm hmm. They bonded out.

Speaker 3 (27:05):
Terrible, terrible, you know what. I just want her to
turn it around and open up another restaurant, because her
restaurant was so successful. Everybody liked it all across the country.
People were supporting that restaurant, you know. So I just
want her to get it together. We're gonna pray for
your sister, that you find your way back, all right.

Speaker 1 (27:22):
When I used to eat, hold on, when I used
to in poetry, I always wanted to open a turkey
I won't tell y'all name, but I wanted to open
a place like only selling turkey wings. That's one of
the things I missed, turkey wings. Like, oh yeah, girl
with all that onions and peppers on its fucking turkey wings.

Speaker 3 (27:41):
Yeah, I'm here for it, all right. So I don't
know if y'all saw this, but there was a woman
she shared an emotional moment when she realized her husband
did not want her, and it's said it quotes her sister.
He looked at other girls, other girls like he was
embarrassed to me. And she posted a video of her
and her husband there almosten they seem to be on
a cruise, and she said, this is a day I

(28:03):
realized he doesn't want me, and he just looks a
little frustrated he's not paying her much attention. But she
looked like she might be a little annoying right here.
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (28:13):
If Yeah, she's tugging on his beard and shit. So
it's a couple of different things, right, And two things
could be true.

Speaker 3 (28:20):
Right.

Speaker 1 (28:20):
He could very well may have been acting distant that day.
We don't know. That's the only video she posted of
him acting a way. There's other videos of him looking
like he's having fun, right, right, So maybe she was
a little bit intoxicated in that video and being annoying
and obnoxious, or like some people, like adults, like to
be in the moment, like I like to be in

(28:42):
a moment, especially on vacation. Like, bit, why is your
phone even working on the cruise? Okay, that's the first
thing you spent money for Wi Fi to post content
for people who don't even fucking like you in real life, and.

Speaker 3 (28:52):
They're not here.

Speaker 1 (28:54):
They not here, you know what I'm saying. So maybe
he doesn't want the phone in his face his entire tripe,
just wanted to.

Speaker 3 (29:02):
Relax, or maybe he don't like her motherfucker dance. But
it says that he married her that.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
Same year, right, like the video crying and she was
saying how like her home even his homeboys told her,
you know, about him. She didn't go into detail really,
and I think she already had kids prior to him,
and she was saying how she sustained from having sex
for two whole years, so when she met him, she
really thought that God had sent him.

Speaker 3 (29:29):
M hm.

Speaker 1 (29:29):
You know what I'm saying. Because she was just trying
to clear her energy and then now this man pops up.
She was like, I wasn't looking for nobody. He just
came out of nowhere, and she just thought he was
the one now to be married and feeling like he
doesn't like.

Speaker 3 (29:40):
Her, Well, you know what, they might just be going
through a rough patch. I've never seen one marriage that
existed where they was just in love the whole time,
not a single one. So I mean, y'all was coming
a little early, but y'all might be able to make
it through shit.

Speaker 1 (29:57):
I don't know. The most disturbing part about this is
the comments, Like the things that people are saying is,
you know, specifically the men saying how she needs and
I saw one of our friends in the comments talk
about how she need to lose weight and get herself together.
The thing is, y'all, niggas don't be looking at y'allself.

Speaker 3 (30:16):
Because niggas get there.

Speaker 1 (30:18):
Yes, she has gained some weight since the wedding, because
I went through her Instagram page. It is Kiky, the
real Missus Jones. Okay, so missus Jones is not happy
with mister Jones. And she had on her wedding dress
in one of the videos and it wasn't zipping up
in the back. No more so she has gained weight
since the actual wedding. Right leationships do that just sometimes

(30:39):
to both of them, ne to get together and work out, right,
But to have people in the comments saying that that's
the reason why this fat ass nigga don't like her.
That bothers me a little bit. Okay, yeah, because they
both can stand and so can I. Right let me
two is a couple pounds. They both can stand it.
So to make that the reason why her husband probably
doesn't like her is very mean.

Speaker 3 (31:00):
Yeah it is, okayah, but even don't do it, even
if to get in shape, do it for you. Fuck
doing it for somebody else, like.

Speaker 1 (31:11):
When you when you got a partner, like why wouldn't
you want to do it? Also do it for your partner?
You know, I was having a conversation with one of
my friends recently, and he's having a whole lot of
health issues and it just sounds like he's trying to
blame his ex wife a little bit. And I actually asked, Hi,
I'm like, are you blaming your ex wife for your
current condition because tensing that she was. Yeah, Well he

(31:33):
ain't fat no more because he's hell sick.

Speaker 3 (31:36):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (31:37):
He was saying, like when he was bigger, but he didn't,
he didn't lose the weight like willingly, Like he got
really sick and dropped hell of weight right, like unrecognizable.
I'm sure I haven't seen him in person yet. Yeah
he hasn't. Yeah, exactly, not healthy weight. So in the
midst of a conversation, he was saying, how you know
they would work out together, but then she she would stopped.

(31:59):
She wasn't being consistent. I said, Okay, what does her
mean consistent have to do with you being consistent?

Speaker 3 (32:04):
I guess me.

Speaker 1 (32:04):
You are in a partnership. It is like, you know,
when you kind of fall off a little bit, your
partner should be there to pick you up a little bit.

Speaker 3 (32:10):
Right, invite the first version.

Speaker 1 (32:12):
But she's skinny, nigga, you need to work out more
than anything. Not to say skinny people don't need to
work out, because just because you're skinny doesn't mean you're healthy, right,
But you were clearly unhealthy because now it has since
caught up.

Speaker 3 (32:25):
With you and called illness. Mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (32:29):
So now you want to blame her for not being consistent.
You weren't consistent. You lack discipline, You lacked discipline.

Speaker 3 (32:35):
You're saying, like, y'all, I did that seventy five hard
and I did so good, and then I went and
did seventy five fact, and now I'm just that yeah again,
Like it's so hard to keep that weight off, y'all.

Speaker 1 (32:46):
Oh my god, but at least, shit, you've done it twice,
bitch in the last couple of years. I've done in
no time. And one thing I haven't done is gained
some extra weight. But a bitch, do not do not
be losing. No, I won't say that. As a matter
of fact, I have actually lost like fifteen pounds in
the last couple of years. Am I have lost weight?

(33:08):
It just be looking different every time in coming goes. Yeah,
it don't come bright the same it did not, bitch.
Be careful, you gotta be careful. Because I really be
working on that little pocket of fat underneath the bro
like the bra fat. I really hate that shit.

Speaker 3 (33:25):
Yeah, that little bulls right there in.

Speaker 1 (33:27):
The side of the titty like this little yeah.

Speaker 3 (33:29):
I want it tight right there. No, that missed. It
makes me so mad because I ain't got no titties
as it is, how I got the nerve to have
a little piece of titty on the side.

Speaker 1 (33:41):
Fat pocket, I hate it, said fat pocket.

Speaker 3 (33:49):
I always want. I'm about to get my body done fucked.
I'm just tired of like yo yo dying and yoyo weight,
like gaining weight, losing weight, and wait so hard.

Speaker 1 (34:01):
You commit, though you will commit, but I think what
happens is like you started looking super fun and a
bit when I stopped this shit. That's what I'm saying.
Like that, that's what a discipline kicks in and that
and then like this is just a lifestyle, you know
what I'm saying. I am tired of eating. I'm tired
of trying to figure out the fun I'm gonna eat
and I barely eat. That is my problem. I don't
eat enough.

Speaker 3 (34:22):
And see I don't get tired.

Speaker 1 (34:25):
I'm tired to think about what the fuck I'm a
cooked to night. That shit really be taking up too
much space on my damn brain. So I eat cereal
for dinner a lot, which is ain't nothing but fucking carbs,
get butter and jelly sandwiches. You a kid, fucking girl,
I don't learn. I don't perfect them my boba from
the house. I'll be drinking boba tea all fucking date.
They're not about starch and sugar. So yeah, I just

(34:48):
need to cut the sugar in the bread and I'll
be good and eat more protein. But then it's just
like salmon doesn't taste good to me anymore.

Speaker 3 (34:56):
I love salmon. Can this be our episode? We didn't
talk forty minutest's I got a dumb bitch story.

Speaker 4 (35:02):
That why he's fucking stupid. It's a playplay episode, y'all.
Let me go turn the light on. We'll have her
actual topic for y'all ass next week.

Speaker 3 (35:19):
Next week, listen, I want to talk about ghosts and
ancestors and I want to invite this I want to
invite this person on who like really be about their life.
So if y'all scary, y'all probably don't want to tune in, But.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
Like they summons ghost interesting, Why you have to add that?

Speaker 3 (35:47):
I just I just trug more when they're black.

Speaker 1 (35:52):
You see, you judge people more when they all right. Yeah,
I believe him.

Speaker 3 (36:01):
Yeah, look at them, I believe him. You know.

Speaker 1 (36:05):
That was an ongoing argument between me and one of
my She's still a friend of my mind, but we
don't talk no more. But Sloan Bella, remember the lady
Sloan Bello on YouTube, the one yeah like yeah, presenting
all the diddy shit. She was saying that this shit
was gonna happen before it happened and all that shit.
So she's like a psychic on YouTube.

Speaker 3 (36:22):
Mm hm.

Speaker 1 (36:23):
So I would tune into slom Bella. My homegirl was
tune into this black girl on TikTok. I don't even
know her name, and the.

Speaker 3 (36:30):
Bitch would want to argue with me about who was
more tapped in, Like girl what?

Speaker 1 (36:36):
First of all, like, once you get to a certain
level of spirituality, you realize that color like skin tone.
Because she was saying, like this white bitch throwing like
somebody feeding her information. She's not really like getting information,
you know what I'm saying, Like it's not really just
coming to her. She's she's all in Hollywood and somebody's
giving her the information and she's presenting it on YouTube.

(36:58):
That was her theory, right, And I'm like, nobody was
checking for slowing Bella. But she's been on YouTube, Ben
had clients, but it wasn't until the Diddy situation that
she like really like blew up on YouTube. But she's
been on YouTube for fucking years, right, and so has
this other girl been on TikTok? But why do you

(37:18):
want to argue with me about who's more tapped in?
Because this is a white woman versus like basically what
you saying, Like, I trust him because he's black. You know,
you have discernment, right, That's that's the power of discernment.
You know when something feels right to you. So it
felt wrong to her, and it felt right to me.
I didn't think anything was wrong with Sloan Bella, like

(37:40):
I didn't. I don't think she's a fraud whatsoever. Sometimes
people reincarnate different, bitch. Next time, I hope, I was
about to say, I hope I come back as a
rich white man. But what if black people in power?
When I come back, I come back cast a white nigga?

Speaker 3 (38:05):
Like wait a minute, and that's what you get, and
that's how the cookie crumbles, right. All right, coming to this,
we're gonna hear something from President Malik. Everybody, President Malik,

(38:25):
State of the Union, teach for President everybody, and.

Speaker 1 (38:30):
He don't come ons and this shit fucked up. That's
gonna be the real ship. President Trump is probably the
closest thing we're gonna get to a nigga president. They
was trying to talk to you about Obama, but we
got a real nigga in office. And I mean like
a real nigga who do real shit. I'm talking about
a real nigga because it's a difference between black people
and niggas.

Speaker 3 (38:49):
Because it's definitely some niggahit going on.

Speaker 1 (38:52):
Some nigga shit going on.

Speaker 3 (38:54):
Okay, all right, so I listen. I think I got
a couple of dumb bitch stories we haven't shared, so
I'm just gonna read a couple of them and then
we're gonna go to fuck home today. Okay, let's what's
gonna happen. All right, Listen to this one.

Speaker 1 (39:09):
All right?

Speaker 3 (39:10):
This is from Oh I can't say it's anonymous. It
says hey AJ and Tampam, I hope you guys read
this sooner than later. I'm in a by and Nate.
I don't know if this is the dumbest story or what,
but yeah, it probably is. All right. I've been with
my husband and that's in quotations for almost eight years,
and I put it in quotes because we've never officially married.

(39:33):
We have two kids together and I have two for
my previous marriage. We have been through a lot of
everything and we've gotten through it together and I love
him at a deep level. There was always there has
always been something missing, and me, being an Aquarius woman,
I'm going to seek it. The sex is great between us,
and at this point I think it's an intellectual thing

(39:57):
more than sexual. When he was in prison and for
the last two years, I had sex with this man
who I believe was going to be a late night creep.
I know I'm not in love with him, but I
can't seem to stop thinking about him. I continuously delete
him from my Snap friends and then add him back
once a month or two passes. I feel so bad

(40:19):
talking to him because I don't think my old man
is cheating, but it feels so good. On top of that,
old dude knows that my old man is home, and
he's okay with having what I can give what I
can give home. I'm at a crossroads here. Oh yeah,
we fucked more than once.

Speaker 1 (40:36):
Okay. She said it's an intellectual thing, so meaning like
she is more intellectually like yoked with the other guy
or her husband.

Speaker 3 (40:48):
No, she ain't say the other guy was smarter. She
just said, oh no, she says she do like talking
to him, so I'm assuming like the conversation is better.

Speaker 1 (40:57):
So she likes talking to the side guy.

Speaker 3 (40:59):
Yeah, but she also had sex with him.

Speaker 1 (41:03):
Listen. One thing I have realized is that I cannot
be with somebody that I deem right. Somebody else may
deem them smarter, but if I deem you less smarter
than me, it's gonna be a fucking problem.

Speaker 3 (41:15):
Right.

Speaker 1 (41:15):
You gotta be as smart of me, as as smart
as me, or smarter, right, because it is It's like
I for me, I'm not gonna say I'm a what
was it a sapial sexual. I'm not necessarily a sapio sexual.
But I do love intellect like, I like figure, I
like to converse, I like to you know, bunks ideas

(41:37):
off of people. I don't want to always be the
one talking. I want you to teach me something. I
want to be able to teach you some shit. Now,
I have realized that some black men in particular don't
like smart women like they want to be able to
be the one to teach you all the shit right.

Speaker 3 (41:51):
And if you know anything off them that you know
is the problem besides how to make a biscuit right.

Speaker 1 (41:57):
So I can't. I don't want to be the problem
solver all the time in my relationship, but I'm naturally
a problem solver right when it comes to like mechanics,
like I'm fixing shit, you know what I'm saying. So
I want my partner to also be able to do
those things. Yeah, I can't. I cannot deal with somebody
that always asking me fucking questions if you throw't fucking.

Speaker 3 (42:21):
Google that shit, Google free all right, listen. So I
responded to her in the DMS and I said, hey, boo,
this is definitely a dumpish story. I said, you're gonna
get your head knock between the washer and dryer. Friend,
I said, so, why y'all not married after eight years?
Do you even want him? Still? Are you not scared?
And I said, you said he home from prison. What

(42:43):
nigga play like that? I ain't say that part. Then
I said what do what he? Oh, I don't know
what the funk. I was trying to say what and couldn't. No,
I said what does he? And could he do? No?
What could he do to you if he finds out
you giving his poom pum away tam And then she responded, Okay,

(43:06):
I don't know. He makes a lot of excuses. I
can tell you that I'm not getting on the knee
or asking again. Yes, I've asked him like two times before,
and he always.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
Asked him to marry.

Speaker 3 (43:18):
Yes, goodl do that. I love him and I love
the bond that we have, but I want more life
is sure, and then responded, no, definitely not scared. He's
a sweetheart, just not what he's not when he's drunk.
He went to prison for fighting my brother. We've all

(43:40):
made amends and treated the situation like adults. Okay they okay, waitit, wait.

Speaker 1 (43:45):
A minute, let's back up. Don't don't don't forget where
you're at. She says she's gotten on knee.

Speaker 3 (43:51):
On the knee twice, she said, I've asked, but I
didn't get on the knee.

Speaker 1 (43:56):
Okay, okay, okay, okay, I'm sorry friend, all right, So
she has asked him twice and I would like to
know what his response was. Is he saying, Wade, he's
trying to wait till you get his money, right, like
he always.

Speaker 3 (44:07):
That's what she said. She didn't go straight up, no,
she ain't going too detail.

Speaker 1 (44:13):
So when she started, she said that that's my husband.
So under God's eye, she's saying that's her husband. He
havn't like officially Okay, I mean, ah, you know, huh,
y'all live together. You know what it says, he's living
someplace else, kids together. But listen, there's there's a lot
of perks. People act like marriage is not like because

(44:36):
of the society we live in, right, and something happened
to a nigga, Yeah, I need to have paperwork on
that ass if something happened, right, but maybe he doesn't
have anything to leave it. That's what y'all really should
be working on instead of getting married. I do not
understand people who in marriage only costs as much as
a marriage license. Right, it does not cost thirty forty

(44:58):
fifty one hundred thousand dollars. These weddings m hm right.
So if y'all really wanted to be married on costs
nothing for real? You know what I'm saying to get
the marriage license.

Speaker 3 (45:06):
Right, But listener, if you leave here, if we together,
you leave here, and you ain't leave me with no money.

Speaker 1 (45:12):
Cremation, cremation, girl, you you gonna fuck grinding up in
one of those unmarked graves like let.

Speaker 3 (45:18):
This sainty cream. Maybe Nigga for fifteen hundred, I might
have went up. I won't put you in no power box,
but I'm definitely gonna put you in the canus.

Speaker 1 (45:31):
I'm about to start selling caskets, man, I'm might have
started a wholesale casket business because one thing for sure,
niggas is always dying.

Speaker 3 (45:37):
Oh you should do custom caskets.

Speaker 1 (45:40):
Yes, girl, I'm about to start ordering shit in bulk.
I seen them. Listen, Ali Baba got everything, bit.

Speaker 3 (45:44):
But dad's a yo shit diamond studied, all right, listen
to this, all right? So she said I actually told
him I had sex with pop. I ain't gonna say
that when he was in jail, this person, while he
was in jail to be sentenced, that's his little nickname
I gave him. I won't say it though, but he

(46:05):
doesn't know how many times we had sex or that
I still talk to him. I keep telling him that
I want to keep to date other people, and he
just and he just keeps telling me, that's what you
think you want.

Speaker 1 (46:19):
Girl.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
Don't play with that nigga. You girl there anything that's scary,
ain't funny. That ain't funny. That's not joke. I mean
it was funny, but it's not a joke. All right.
Today one of my high school boyfriends hit my DMS
and I'm like, what the fuck. We had a long
conversation and he wants to call me back, but he's

(46:40):
in a relationship too. All I know, Tam Bam, is
that I want to be happy. Everything is finally falling
in place with my life and career. I'm am, I
tripping a need to calm down or take this man
as he is, or just jump off the.

Speaker 1 (46:57):
Porridge, Nah dog, get out, get jump get off the house,
jump off the porch. I feel like you need to
break up with this guy. Okay, you don't like him,
you don't like him.

Speaker 3 (47:07):
Uh, you comfortable, that's what That's what it sounds like.
You're just comfortable with him. He's secure. Yeah, he's someone
who's secure.

Speaker 1 (47:15):
I need to know how much money we talking about,
Like it's a lot of other things. I want, like
to calculate to understand why she wants to be with
the guy who was in prison. And I understand he
went to jail over your ass, right, because I'm pretty
sure the brother him and the brother probably started fighting
over something between you and him? Or why was it
over a spades game? Like what the fuck was this

(47:37):
fighting about? I want to know that too. I'm sure
it had something to do with her be like, yeah,
it don't be enough information. I'd be wanting.

Speaker 3 (47:44):
You need to let my bitches. We need to let
the girls call us, like I'm gonna try to get
out this week because I have so many questions. All right,
So this one, this is another one from a listener.
So I know y'all do dumb bitch stories, but do

(48:04):
y'all give dumb bitch advice? Because I had a question.

Speaker 1 (48:08):
We give good bad advice all the time.

Speaker 3 (48:10):
Right, So take it or leave it, because I don't
know which way it's gonna go. It's a crapshoot or
bad good advice. I So I know Tam mitchin she
had a young thing. I wanted to know what's the
age difference, because I'm thirty two and I met a
twenty one year old. I was going to a board
mission when I found out his age. But he conversates
better than the forty something girl I was talking to,

(48:33):
and I actually shot my shot at him because he's
so fine. He was my maintenance man. He fixed my fridge,
so I didn't shoot my shot there the first time.
Because I was sick and looking raggedy, I couldn't stop
thinking about him, so I tried to have the office
share his number, but they would not. No, they're not
gonna give you the babies man pulled up a bit

(48:56):
hold on where she? Where was that at? I made
it seem like I had a question for him, but
they didn't want to share, so I busted by fridge
light so they could send him back. I left my
number on the fridge and we've been talking ever since.
The first question I asked was how old is are you?
He said twenty one. I was going to slowly stop

(49:17):
talking to him, but the convo is so so good.
I'm attracted to him, but he's eleven years younger. I
usually don't do this, so if y'all want to include
this in your show.

Speaker 1 (49:26):
I was always saying what they usually don't.

Speaker 3 (49:30):
I don't him, I don't do this all the time.
It's and she said, she loves us. We love you two, girlfriend,
we love you so much. But girl, you wanted that
dick badge. You was in there with a hammer and
you're refrigerator busting a light out, about to cut your

(49:51):
motherfuck itself, you got eggs.

Speaker 1 (50:00):
Yeah, okay, thirty something in twenty one to eleven years,
you know. So she's thirty two, he's twenty one. You know,
women already mature way faster than men. So I personally
think that's like, kind of that's too far, eleven years.
And it's not because the eleven years really isn't the

(50:20):
problem because if he was in his thirties and she
was in her forties, he would probably be a little
bit more mature. I know she said that he converses,
well are they, But he isn't a different life cycle,
you know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, he's working, he's

(50:40):
probably still trying to figure himself out. He hasn't. I
think men need to reach the stage where they're making
the money they want to make right. So unless you
just feel like getting knocked down, I hope you ain't
just trying. You're not trying to make this your man.

Speaker 3 (50:56):
Yeah, that's the only thing like, and you're not if
you just haven't. I mean, I'm twenty one is so
young to me, but y'all know that far to me.
She thirty, she thirty one, thirty two. If I was
fucking a twenty one year old, I need to go
to jail. That's how I feel. But for her, I mean,

(51:17):
it's just she's just having if she's trying to take
him serious, like she said, the conversation is so good.
Stop talking to that nigga and do it to him
and send him back with his two belt.

Speaker 1 (51:28):
Yeah, we could literally have a twenty one year old
son right now.

Speaker 3 (51:33):
And if some thirty year old bitch was punksting on
my twenty one year old boy even about it, you
couldn't sit about it. You couldn't do a motherfucking thing.
You can't do nothing. It's a grown woman and a
grown man. By law.

Speaker 1 (51:49):
I'm gonna make her feel like some type of way
because first of all, why because I'm a No, you
ain't gonna know shit, Why you get that, nigga, I
still live at home. Why you can't find a man
your age? Would be my not for not for the listener,
but that would be my question for my if somebody
smashing on my son, Like, I want to know what's

(52:10):
going on with you and your your dating pool. I'd
like to know because I would think that you would
want to a forty to fifty year old man as
opposed to a twenty ye old nigga.

Speaker 3 (52:18):
Well, I don't think she like trying to take him.
You're taking serious. I hope you're not trying to brunch
some sandwiches because it ain't like twenty one and he
rich like Drayman twenty one and he broke.

Speaker 1 (52:34):
He's a little different, you know what I mean, And
so he needs to like, he needs space to grow,
and he probably needs space to grow with somebody his age.
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (52:43):
Right there, is you in there making tiktoks with that nigga?

Speaker 1 (52:46):
No, I want to Does she have kids?

Speaker 3 (52:52):
I don't think so. She didn't say, but I'm sure
she don't. She leave messages on the refrigerator. Ain't no
kids in there, mama? Oh no, molder or print the right.

Speaker 1 (53:04):
Girl, have fun, strap up, don't fall in love them
young cher and be burning girl?

Speaker 3 (53:12):
Yeah maybe having OUI okay, and then the last one.
All right, hey, y'all, I'm back with another story and
would love to reign anonymous. Did we do this? I've
been messing around with this dude for a while now,
and sometimes we'll have sleepovers. So the last time he
stayed at my house, he had fell asleep before me,

(53:34):
so I decided to get ready for bed as well.
I go to charge his phone like I normally do,
and the notification center pops up. I usually don't go
through that when that does happen, but something was telling
me to do this this time, and I see tender notifications.
I started thinking to myself, should I wake him up
out of his sleep and be on bullshit or just
play it cool and wait till the morning. I decided

(53:56):
to play it cool. But as soon as he opens
his eyes, I was like, so you got tender. He
goes to say he doesn't be on the app and
having a chance to delete it, So I say, if
you don't use it, then why do you have an
active account and getting notifications? Also, it doesn't take long
to delete an app. I'm just trying to figure out
why this is on your phone. Then he flips on me,

(54:16):
saying I shouldn't have went through his phone. But mind you,
he's been through mine like four times or more in
the past. It wasn't a problem when he was doing it,
but now that I'm caught him, he can't take accountability
and trying to turn it on me. We haven't spoke
all day since that morning, and here we are on
day two and still haven't heard anything. The silence is
most definitely a response. That's just showing me that he

(54:38):
don't mind losing me over an app. I know he's
probably trying to do the silent punishment treatment and have
me questioning if I was wrong for going through it.
But mind you, I don't even have the password to
his phone. I just seen a notification center. It's having
tender still installed on the deal. It's having tender still installed.
A deal breaker for y'all. I want to hear y'all opinions.
Thank you lated so much.

Speaker 1 (55:00):
This has happened to me so a guy who I
was dating, right, I don't know. She didn't say it
was her boyfriend or not, or what the actual status.

Speaker 3 (55:07):
Is I was messing around with this dude for a while. Now.
See that's why you gotta sit around. You gotta like
have rural boundaries because it like clear cause you.

Speaker 1 (55:18):
Check yes and no, are you my boyfriend? Like we
literally got to get these niggas letters.

Speaker 2 (55:22):
Now.

Speaker 1 (55:23):
So I was dating somebody and I remember we were
sitting at his uh island at his house, and I
was like setting up his brokerage account and shit and
the cell phones right there he's sitting, He's showing me
his bank accounts all type of shit, and what's the
p the I call it pieces of fish? But plenty
of Fish alert popped up, and I feel like that's
worse than damn Twitter cause it's from so much recycled
peen and pea on.

Speaker 3 (55:45):
Uh, it's just like more hook up and fish.

Speaker 1 (55:48):
Yeah, like you doubt you DTF if you on plenty
plenty of fish. So yeah, the alert popped up. I'm like,
damn you on plenty of fish. And you know, like
I'm always like calculating the city I live in too,
Like it ain't that many bitches around.

Speaker 3 (56:02):
Here, you it ain't much fish like my good ones.

Speaker 1 (56:07):
If I well, I should not be fucking with you
if you're on a date nap, that's that's just it.
I'm not competing with a bunch of fucking on a
dating app in the city I live in. That's not
that fucking big.

Speaker 3 (56:23):
So if I got tender on my phone right now
and I'm dating someone, that's a problem.

Speaker 1 (56:27):
So dating and this is my boyfriend is two different things.
Oh yeah, I'm saying. No, that's what I'm saying. This
is somebody with no title that I'm fucking with, right.
I didn't get mad about it, but it did give
me pause, like, is this somebody even want to be
fucking with? And you on a dating app? Because I
feel like men be on a date and apps really
like fucking different bitches every week. I really feel like that.

(56:52):
So yeah, I definitely continue to fuck with him for
some time. It is one of the reasons why I
stopped fucking with him, you know what I'm saying, Because
I just feel like he was super DCF. So you
just gotta you gotta I mean, don't be calling that nigga. Okay,
when somebody giving you the silent treatment like that shit

(57:13):
is very manipult loud. Yeah, don't be trying to get him,
get it, get a response from him. The best way
to get a nigga back if you want him back
right is to go ghost too. Just no contact either.
You don't bothered. You have to You have to pretend
like you're not, even though you might be. You're gonna
have to try really, really hard to be not bothered

(57:35):
because I.

Speaker 3 (57:35):
Didn't give get the best nigga win.

Speaker 1 (57:40):
Yeah, and it's not like you really went through his
phone or the phone is sitting there and I see
the alert pop up, like I can't help I've seen it.
Now at this point, turn your alerts off to whear
shit not coming up on your phone? Girl, my ex
we oh, I sent you this ship. Remember I sent
you this girl page one day m hm, because as
you follow her, you knew her and she had she
donet have popped up on both of his niggas cell

(58:02):
phone like the call. Yeah, I wasn't going through his phone.
The phone is on the counter. One day, the phone
like fell off the back of the couch and it
was on the floor, so I went to look at
it and pick it up. I thought it was my
phone initially, so I don't ever go through people shit.
But when you need to know something. The universe has
a way of telling you, So do with that information

(58:26):
what you will. But he's definitely fucking people off of
a tender okay. And if he ain't locked in with
you yet, he's looking for somebody else. He you not
the one for him. Get out of there, Get out
of there.

Speaker 3 (58:38):
But see, I think a little differently because I be
talking to niggas on apps. I'm single. I'm single, and
until until we decide we're in a committed relationship, you
have no control over that, you know, So don't be
looking at my phone trying to see who else I'm
talking to because it might be a better nigga than you.
You better tie it.

Speaker 1 (58:59):
Up, you know, So who's next?

Speaker 3 (59:02):
I just feel like, man, your business, if y'all business,
y'all not, if you that's what you really need to
have a conversation with about what y'all are, because if
y'all just we ain't going steady, We just fucking around.
If y'all just fucking around, then you don't really got
no leg to stand on questioning nigga about his phone?

(59:23):
What's going on in it? Yeah, So that's my advice
to you. Find out who y'all are to each other,
y'all exclusive? Do you want to be exclusive? And if
y'all been fucking around for a long time and y'all
just been messing around a long time, and he says
he don't want to be exclusive, then leave him alone
because he just fucking that's it.

Speaker 1 (59:45):
Yeah, that's what they probably fucking raw. Like I can
feel it in my spirit that she'd be getting hit okay, right,
getting hit raw. That's why.

Speaker 3 (59:55):
That's why she feel like, oh you m M. But
that No, that don't mean no, you just giving the
wrong pussy.

Speaker 1 (01:00:03):
It should mean something, right, we be giving men passes
on that type of nasty ass activity, right because usually
I won't say all women right, if we fucking somebody
else were gonna at least use a condom with the
next person.

Speaker 3 (01:00:15):
Right, Okay, at least at the level.

Speaker 1 (01:00:19):
Be hitting multiple women raw. And sometimes a nigga just
never know. So you gotta be careful. So if you
like outside like that, and I'm not saying you outside
because you're on a dating and app, I understand like
you're you are, you are seriously trying to find a partner, right, right.
That's the difference between men and women on those dating apps.

(01:00:39):
Most men on those dating apps keeping your relationships already
and on a dating app trying to find some other pussy.

Speaker 3 (01:00:47):
Right.

Speaker 1 (01:00:48):
Yeah, so even though they may not have you know,
established like yes we are together, it's something going on
in that relationship. Where like even with this guy, right,
the one who I said the plenty fish popped up on,
I didn't trip on him. I couldn't. But my Niggaho
phone who's living in the house and me fell off
the couch, and this bitch is on both of these
cell phones trip city. Oh absolutely, that might have been

(01:01:12):
the last day he was here.

Speaker 3 (01:01:14):
Yeah, fair to my recollection.

Speaker 1 (01:01:16):
Yes, but if it's just somebody that y'all messing with,
like I just when I hear like fucking it's not
your man, you so you can't you can't really trip
on him. So if you want your buddy back, you
smashed buddy. Even if y'all go on dates and stuff
like that and out to eat and y'all spend a

(01:01:37):
lot of time together and he's at your house and
you at his house, you gotta if you want a relationship,
you have to let him know that, right, And if
he's not for that, get the fuck up out of there,
and maybe you go create you an account online and
actually find somebody who seriously also wants to be in
a relationship with you because.

Speaker 3 (01:01:56):
He in it. Period. Yeah, that's the end of our
tap talk. That's how we got that was that was
three of them. But we had an hour, bitch, that's it.
That's all we got for today.

Speaker 1 (01:02:07):
So maybe next week we can definitely set it up
to where people can call in. I'll figure it out.

Speaker 3 (01:02:13):
Okay, Yeah, let's talk, y'all.

Speaker 1 (01:02:15):
Bitches want to come on the show next week.

Speaker 3 (01:02:17):
Yeah, let's talk, but y'all talk back to us next week. Period.

Speaker 1 (01:02:22):
We can do about five yep, about four or five.

Speaker 3 (01:02:25):
That'll be fun.

Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Hit us up, y'all. All right, Well, if you enjoy
this bullshitting ass episode. I enjoyed it, y'all, tune in
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Speaker 3 (01:03:00):
To chat and we'll set up a call. All right, y'all,
it's official. Tam bam. I love y'all so very very much.
I appreciate y'all for tuning into us and being our
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All right, gang, I love y'all. Remember speak now.

Speaker 1 (01:03:31):
And never hold them dumb bitch stories because I'd be
liking those things. Man, I really, cause I ain't a
dumb bitch no more. I'll have y'all know y'all ain't
through with me yet. I was one like last year,
but not barely but still borderline dumb bitch. Okay, you

(01:03:52):
gotta get the fuck out.

Speaker 3 (01:03:53):
Buy it there man, du to y'all. Bye.

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