A Final Whine for 2025

Happy New Year! Jana, Kathryn and Kristen share their intentions for 2026 and discuss how gratitude can be a powerful tool in relationships. 
Make your resolutions with the ladies and take on the New Year with the energy of a new puppy!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Wind down with Jana Kramer and I'm Heeartradio podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
All right, tell us the big reveal Christmas present at
the Breastthouse.

Speaker 3 (00:11):
It was the best Christmas of all time. Preston calls
it no more lonely Christmases. We got a puppy, Yeah no.
And I was really reluctant. You know, Tyke was eighteen
and a half. George lived to be twelve. But letting
go Tyke still makes me emotional to even talk about.
And so I was afraid I could never love another man.

(00:34):
You can, and I do. And he's really sweet and
he's fluffy and it's great. And we got him a
couple of weeks ago, and it was really tricky because
we picked him up and then we took him straight
to school. So he went to Jana's dog trainer. Because
one thing I know is that I am a little
bit at capacity, and so part of my hesitation was

(00:57):
just like adding another heartbeat into the mix and another responsibility.
And I know Love is terrified of dogs, as you
both know, and so like she had opened up her
heart to a certain kind of dog. She was like,
I can do this kind of dog or that kind
of dog. I think because her experiences have been good
with those kinds of dogs, and so we're just building trust,
one tiny little popprint at a time in our house.

(01:17):
And it's sweet. And of course Lyon has no healthy
fear of dogs. So we're at a dog park and she,
you know, goes up to like a foaming at the
mouth German shepherd and she's like, ah, dogdy, you know,
and I'm like, okay, okay. So we're just trying to
find a sweet little balance. And it's a boy, which
is great, so that legend can had a baby.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
It's a boy and a baby.

Speaker 3 (01:34):
It's a boy, Legend gets another dude in the house.
We're just trying to balance. They been asking, they had
been a little bit, but I really just firmly said,
it just can't happen right now. I said maybe in
the spring. It's too cool to potty train. I can't
deal with a puppy. I'm just very much we've been
putting them off so and I was a little nervous
would they be sad if they didn't get to go
pick it out and all the things. But ultimately Preston

(01:56):
was like, we have to do some due diligence here.
This This is a really it's my first dog with
Preston too, so that's kind of cool, like it was
our first puppy experience as a couple.

Speaker 4 (02:06):
Surprising is so fun. We did that with our old
dog who since passed, and we surprised them and they
just ough.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
It's so fun to do that.

Speaker 3 (02:14):
Way to share the video with you, guys, it's really special.
I love that.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
Do we have any New Year's resolutions? And what are
we doing for New Year's guys?

Speaker 3 (02:26):
Oh? Friends, I don't like goals.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
I don't really have resolutions either.

Speaker 3 (02:33):
I don't I haven't had a minute to sit with
myself to know what the resolution is on. Two little
words keep popping in my brain often, and that is
more time, and so I'm just prayerful over what that
means and if that just I think I have ideas
of just like maybe more time for myself, maybe more

(02:54):
time with my family, because Preston's been like really gone
a lot, and when he's home, he's still gone. So yeah,
more time is something I'm marinating on and being prayerful about,
but I don't know what it is yet.

Speaker 4 (03:05):
Mine last year was joy, which I still kind of
want to take that in again to this year. But
I think it's going to be positivity.

Speaker 3 (03:12):
Oh good.

Speaker 4 (03:12):
Not that I'm a super negative person necessarily, and explained,
I just really want to try and stay in the
positive at all times, because I can be super positive,
but then when I get negative, I feel like I
go to negative.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Or do I think that you're more negative?

Speaker 1 (03:28):
It just depends.

Speaker 4 (03:28):
Like if I'm mad at Nick or if I'm frustrated
with anything, sometimes I can just like dwell on it
for a minute and just be negative. I just don't
like and I don't like that when other people are negative,
you know what I mean, Like if Nick's being negative
about something, I'm why are you meaning so negative? And
then I'll catch myself to doing it too. So I
just want to stay in the positive because you can
find positives in all situations. It's just hard to do

(03:52):
at times, and I would like to stay in the positive.
I did find a lot more joy this year, I
feel like and seeing the joy in those situations, but
just stay in the positive.

Speaker 3 (04:01):
My question is did you grow up with that modeled
for you positive the negatiative?

Speaker 1 (04:06):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (04:07):
Yeah, I did too, and I think that's why it's
a hard rewire for it. It is like they're always
finding the one thing.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
Yeah. Yeah, And I mean I see this in random people.

Speaker 1 (04:16):
I know.

Speaker 4 (04:16):
I'm just kind of like when you see it on
the outside, I'm like, why are we being so negative?
Like right, move on, you know, right? And so I'm like, oh,
that's what it looks like to other people when you're
like dwelling and being kindive, you know. So I'm just
positive is my word for the new year? Yeah, how
about you?

Speaker 3 (04:32):
I like that.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
Well, I did this thing, and I'm really proud of
myself that I actually have done it throughout the whole
entire year. So I started, I'll say, so it's it's
the year, right, and January. Every single month I did
like a diary of my year, like the highest close
of it. So January, February, March, abley, June, July.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
So I'm so good at that.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
So November or whatever and now December and so but
I I really it was one of those things where
it's been such a good reflective moment to kind of
look back and see, Okay, what where maybe relationally I
need some we might need some help, or where you know,
where this area might be lacking or what's really great

(05:11):
and like, hey, what really worked for us? So like
I look back in like February, it's like February was
a stressful month, wanting a break and feeling like I
was doing this alone where it was sick with COVID
group strap and and so I am saying, like highlights
was the amazing Valentine's there that Alan made for me,
incorporate the kids. I really needed a break of a
get getaway, like kind of knowing where I'm at. So
like for next February, I'm like, I know now that

(05:32):
I need something. I need a trip during that month
or something that brings me a little bit alike, because
it's very gloomy and dark and you know here in Nashville.
So and then just kind of looking back and looking
back at you know how March was. You know, we
went to the Bahamas, but then the next day I'm
flying to film movie and like the how things can
so quickly turn to from you know, from a minute,

(05:55):
And so I think it's it's been really nice to
Now I'll look back and go through it and go, Okay,
these were some really high high is these where some
this was a low and this is what I can
take in to do better next year, or to also
go okay in the moments where I feel like I'm
never going to work again or this is not happening,

(06:17):
It's like, no, can't you see back in March when
this happened very last minute that it's you're okay. And
so to take a pause and to take a breath
and to not get to and I think that's my
thing is to yeah, to look back and go enjoy
today because tomorrow is going to probably change drastically.

Speaker 4 (06:35):
I think it's also really like you said, like with
the February thing, like recognizing like, okay, come February, I'm
usually pretty antsy and excloom me and I need to
get out and like planning ahead for that. So it's
not like we're not letting ourselves get to that point, yes,
because then we have something to look forward to, you know.
I mean, I think that's really important. That's smart to do.

Speaker 2 (06:52):
I'ry no, you should try it. So, yeah, it's like
the year, so what you do it. So what I
do is every once it becomes a new month, so
it'll be you know, at the end of January, I'll
say the highs and lows of the month, and then
if you want to put a goal or if you
want to put you know what you want to work
on or yeah, it just kind of holds each month
accountable as opposed to being like joy for the year,

(07:13):
which is great, you know what I mean, Like it's
so good, but it's such a hard thing to do
when we're not looking at it at least by month.

Speaker 4 (07:20):
Absolutely, it would be so much easier because I'm listening
to what you're saying and I'm like, okay. For me,
I'm like, okay, So instead of getting negative about what's
going on here, how do I see the positive in that?
You know, and getting more specific and really digging in.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
Yeah, I like that. And it's almost like too for you.
It could be instead of maybe writing the highs and lows,
it could just be like, what were you really grateful
for that month? Right? So then it's really stamping on
highlighting joy.

Speaker 1 (07:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (07:45):
And me and Alan we've been doing this thing where
we've got every week we have this journal where because
again I think in marriage, it's so easy to just
be like you're not doing this dah, or just like tensions,
especially around holiday seasons and travel and a lot of that,
so what we've been doing is and sometimes we don't
know what the other person is thinking, so and it's

(08:08):
been really really good for us. So we both have
a journal and once a week we'll go I'll grab
his and he'll grab mine whenever. I don't know when
he does it, but we just like he's been mostly
doing on Mondays and I'll write in his like just
be like, hey, thank you and just like just a
grateful list of like the things that I'm really grateful
for with him, or just writing him a little note,

(08:28):
and it's just really nice to go, oh, Okay, I
didn't It's just sweet to remember that he was so
appreciative of everything that I did and that felt really nice.
And and then I can sit down too, and instead
of maybe calling out the negative stuff, I can be like, hey,
like you rocked it with this, and I really appreciate
you being like so patient and mind and yeah, yeah,

(08:50):
it's easy to really nice.

Speaker 1 (08:52):
I know.

Speaker 2 (08:52):
So that's something that we also, like, I've been able
to look back on and it's been nice, and it
also centers me to a place of gratitude for him. Yes,
And I think sometimes as women we can not go
to gratitude first, and we might be more go to
like frustration and so.

Speaker 4 (09:11):
We're focusing on the things they're not doing versus the
things they are doing.

Speaker 1 (09:14):
How lot of the time and helpful starting with that positivity, guys.

Speaker 3 (09:20):
So for what it's worth, I always take all of
January to collect my resolution. So if you are like
me and haven't resoluted, that's totally fine. I give myself
the month of January to put Christmas dicreations away, take
a deep breath, let the winter silence telp me determine
where we're headed.

Speaker 2 (09:48):
But I will just say though, if you guys did
write something like I bet you the men will show
up Like men show up more when they're rewarded by
behind this and when they feel like we I ap
appreciate that because most men want that, like you were
great and you're amazing and you're doing awesome and you're
being so handsome and they need that, like but they

(10:08):
really do because they want to like make us proud. Yes,
for sure, you know, so the Burton Ernie story. Maybe
back when you don't have to get a book, but
put a little sticky note on the side and just
be like, I'm really grateful for you and list a
few things. Yeah, and then they might be like, they'll
show up even more for you.

Speaker 1 (10:26):
Yeah, absolutely try it. You're not going to I would, Yeah, yeah,
I would.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
Preston won't do that. But we have our own little
system and I think it's but you do it to Preston. No,
Like I have a little system with him that is
sweet and it works for him, but he's not you guys.
Anything that smells like homework or a journal or a paper.

Speaker 1 (10:41):
He's no, you do it for him.

Speaker 3 (10:44):
Yeah, but I like it's weird, like right different, Yeah yeah,
well that's fair, not written like yeah yeah, yeahyeah, yeah yeah.
We're working on and I've been apologizing more. I said
I'm sorry three times last week.

Speaker 1 (10:57):
Are you proud of me?

Speaker 3 (10:58):
I am? And now heartfelt I'm sorry. That's great, not
like I'm sorry, I'm sorry like a sorry, Yeah, I'm sorry,
you suck. No, I really was, like I love you
and I'm really sorry.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
Period.

Speaker 3 (11:17):
That was it. It's like ripping off a band aid.
Why don't you do it? Kind of feels good? You know.
Those little resolutions are sneaky, but we're trying. Time. Is
anyone doing a physical New Year's resolution? This year.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
I mean I always could work out more for sure,
But is that what you mean, like.

Speaker 1 (11:38):
Yeah, walks with me?

Speaker 4 (11:40):
I will, Okay, yeah, I'll start walking for sure.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
I need to.

Speaker 4 (11:43):
I'm not as like lethargic on the medicine anymore.

Speaker 1 (11:48):
We should do which.

Speaker 3 (11:49):
Is not an excuse, but maybe we tack on a
little something to the wind down days. So yeah, but
I really enjoy I want to do like a once
a month walk out Percy or Radner.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
Oh, I love that.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
Yeah, right absolutely, And that doesn't see your idea because
he used it.

Speaker 1 (12:08):
I kind of figured that's what his idea want. I
knew it too. We got to go back to this lot. Okay, wow,
that was the part two. We're going to go pin this.

Speaker 4 (12:23):
We're going to come back to this, or or at
least we are so for me, that doesn't I don't
even know, and we don't.

Speaker 3 (12:33):
Have to know.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
We have to. Well, I'm going to keep us going back.

Speaker 4 (12:38):
That seems less like like once a month plan whatever
on the calendar feels better than just like come walk
with me every day, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (12:45):
Not better, it's easier.

Speaker 4 (12:47):
For some reason in my mind, it's like planned, and
it's scheduled and it's whatever and let's go, and it's
like I love it.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
Well.

Speaker 2 (12:52):
So it's so hard because so one of my neighbor's
Joy that I walk with and Joy, yeah, love love
to actually want to have her on because she's a
resentment coach hotly.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Yeah, she listens to us like, man, you'll need some coaching.

Speaker 2 (13:06):
No, she's she's a life coach, but she she deals
around like resentment. She's lot forses and stuff. She's great,
I really have just like I just think she's great.
And so so we've been walking a bunch and she's
kind of like she works from home, so I'm able
to be like, hey, I'm going for a walk in
twenty one to go, you know what I mean. So
she's but then one of the other neighbors saw us

(13:27):
walking and was like, hey, let us let me know
next time you're walking. And it's like, right, we're not
like every nine like, I can't schedule mostly a walk
right because it's just like and it just changes.

Speaker 4 (13:39):
And that's what makes it hard because everyone just like
I'm like, can you come in town. I'm like, yeah, no,
I can't be there in ten minutes. Yeah, I mean
it's gonna take me twelve to get there, and yeah,
that's what makes it. But if we did like a
but I'm saying if we have once a month or
where we could plan a time and we had a like.

Speaker 2 (13:52):
That is more sustainable. I can't be like Tuesdays. What
about like that's I would cancel every single one, right.

Speaker 4 (13:58):
And that's where it gets hard. So we all understand.
That's why it's easier when you have your people in
your neighborhood. Yeah, for sure, but I love the idea.
Let's do the once a month at Bradner.

Speaker 1 (14:09):
Which Happy New Year.

Speaker 3 (14:12):
I'm really glad someone's okay.

Speaker 2 (14:17):
All right, Well on that note, happy to year, guys.
It's going to be the best your yet. Let's shed
the snake.

Speaker 1 (14:21):
And grab onto that horse bite bite