September 4, 2025 • 17 mins
At what age do Jana and Allan hope their kids get married?? We discuss the possibility of them marrying young and the challenges that might involve.
Jana opens up about the dilemma of how much to share of her personal life on social media.
Plus, has Allan ever faked sleep to not deal with the kids??
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'mheart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Sean low hopes his and Catherine Judici's kids get married young,
build your life after that. So former Bachelor Sean Lowe
has dreams that his three children will each meet the one.
My hope is that they'll find some high school sweetheart.
Actually want them to get married young, Lo said on
Mattie Pruitt Stay True podcast. I think society today says
(00:27):
you got to establish a career and make sure everything's
settled and then get married. He goes or she said
I got married at thirty and said I got married
at thirty and Catherine was twenty eight. I'd rather see
them get married young, and that's the foundation of things
to come. Like get married and of course spiritually maturity
is a big part of that. Get married to someone
who loves the Lord as much as you do, and
(00:47):
then build your life after that.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
That's kind of my hope.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
If you had an ideal age for the kids to
get married, what age would that be?
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I would see twenty in.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Ova twenty eight, Yeah, yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Think because then you'll.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Certainly no sooner than I think maybe thirty twenty eight
to thirty.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
What is your reasoning, because I.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Think there's a lot of lessons and life experience between
the age of eighteen and twenty eight to thirty that
I think ultimately you probably I'm not saying you have
to learn them, but I think it's probably more beneficial
to go through that and then choose your life partner.
I'm not saying you can't be with someone throughout that period,
(01:33):
but get married. Yeah, I think twenty eight to thirty.
I don't think there's any right or wrong. But I
think if it was Troy or any of the kids
that are grown up here, the young ones, I'd be
like twenty eight and over, like, live your life a
little bit, learn the lessons of life and experience, and
then make that commitment to the marriage.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
No, I actually like I've always agreed and thought on
that like twenty eight and over. But there's also a
piece of me actually I would say thirty and over.
But there's a piece of me that I actually kind
of like what he said about having that foundation and
then getting because then you have someone that has just
(02:19):
been there for you from the very beginning, and that
that grit and that support, and I don't know, I
think there's something really beautiful about that piece too, and
then staying together that long through through different careers and
(02:41):
evolving as a person, because I think obviously you change,
right like I think my version of And that's where
this is where like the Devil's Advocate part plays in,
because you know, the people that I dated in my twenties,
like Lord, I, I think I would have wanted something
different then in a partner, and I knew what I
(03:02):
wanted in a partner at forty. But I also think,
you know, sometimes I think you miss the beauty of
that long marriage because you want because you think you
have to have all of it figured out or yourself
figured out, and it's like, I'm still figuring myself out.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
I think that's a problem. I think.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
It's a catch twenty two because it's the fairy tale,
isn't it that you your life grows with a relationship
with someone else throughout the phases and the decades, and
ultimately you've not lived through your twenties. But there's also
the fact that because you've not been that single person
in your twenties, you're not experienced, you don't know, you
don't resonate with the party, and in the single life,
(03:44):
and this, and that you've never had it really me, No, no, no,
I mean in general, okay, like if you're in a
relate then then you don't have that phase of your twenties,
so therefore you don't miss it.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
There's a different there's a different side to it. By would.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
So I go out, there's a lot, there's a lot
to learn and a lot of mistakes to be made,
and I think my opinion is that that people should
should live life a bit and make those mistakes and
have those learnings before they go and commit to someone
for the rest of their life. I'm not saying the
fairy tale is not there and that doesn't happen.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Well, it still happen even later on that too.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
I think it's I think those type like one of
my one of my best mates, Craig and Lynn have
been together sincew are like fifteen and that's them still together.
Kids like fairy tale and that's that's all they know
and it's incredible.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
But I just think it's just probably unrealistic in this
day and age.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Now, But I would, Yeah, I would rather the kids
go and experience life and before they all they tiring
out and then have kids live that life.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I think if you find someone that is truly I
just never had anyone that I like. Yes I got
married in my twenties, but it wasn't to the right people.
But I think if you found the I would. Again,
it's hard because it's like some people marry their high
school sweetheart and they have a beautiful life together and
they're still together and that's so precious, you know, and
I I love that piece of it. But I I would.
(05:22):
I think I think I would encourage obviously later in life.
But again that was my that was my journey, and
I know my kids are going to have different journeys.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
In our kids, like one of them might be a
point where one of them might go and marry young
and that same for the rest of the life that
the one might bounce between this and it's.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Just but waiting to accomplish something before settling down. It's
like I'm still trying to accomplish things. Imagine if like,
don't that's the thing. I'm like, don't don't wait to
accomplish things to fall in love. Like there's never a
good time for kids. There's never a good time to
you know, uproot things and fight go for your dreams,
(06:02):
but like, don't life is so short too? Do that
love deep dream you know, like like the sign it
any of those stores, dream big, love life, paith over fear,
you know. Caitlin Bristow is happier than ever, not detailing
(06:30):
her dating life. Privacy is so hot. A decade after
handing out roses as a bachelorette, Kaitlyn Bristow is keeping
her current relationship offline. Privacy is so hot, Like I
am turned on by being private. There's something really special
and sacred about it. She was talking to us Weekly.
She was engaged from off the show, and then she
was with Jason Tartik. They got engaged in twenty twenty one,
(06:54):
confirmed their split a couple of years later. She said, Obviously,
I've had two very publical writs public relationships, and I'm
an over share and an open book, and it's very
hard to not share certain things in my life. But
it feels so right relationships from Bachelor franchise or people online,
like it starts to feel a bit performative at times,
and I feel like that was where it was going
(07:16):
for me last time, and it did not feel good.
I can one hundred percent see why she wanted to
be private because I really believe that I don't want
to like, how do I say this?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I think.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
He wanted you know, he's got he started his podcast,
which aad great like do the things that he wants
to do too. But when two people are fighting for
the not fighting for the spotlight, but having that online persona,
it can be difficult maybe for one of the people
in the relationship. So I could understand why she would
(07:58):
want the nexturallyationship or the relationship that she's in right
now to be to be private. I mean, we kept
our relationships, I mean somewhat private for a minute. But
you're definitely more of a private person I am. Yeah,
you're not posting stories all the time about our life
and at times, you know, and I wouldn't I wouldn't care,
(08:21):
you know, But that's it's also like not who you are,
which is why I've probably posted less because trying I'm
trying to balance who you are and but also trying
to you know, make a living off of social media.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
Yeah, I think it's I think privacy is as powerful
bost and foremost because then you can you're in control
of what you share, rather than if you're in the spotlight.
Then you don't have as much control over what you
can what you can and can't share. There's also the
fact that is what you used to I'm going to
(08:56):
imagine Caitlin and the other guys used to sharing the
the relationships are used to be in the spotlight. So
is it more difficult to go from being someone who
has constantly shared the life and becoming private? Is it
more difficult to be a private person and then share
parts of the life. I can vouch for the like
(09:20):
being the more private person and then being in a
scenario where I share more of my life now. But
I still think I've got control over it. I think
that's the main thing. It's difficult, But can you still
maintain a certain amount of control over what you share
and what gets out there so that the privacy somewhat
still remains powerful.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I think for me, I was so excited to share,
Like there was definitely some people that I didn't obviously
share because I didn't you know, I wasn't one hundred
percent certain about the relationship and no, no, like people
before you know what I mean, it wasn't long enough,
Like you can't just be posting your dates with people.
(10:03):
You have to be obviously private about things, right, and
so I wanted to make sure you know that this
was going to be real and stuff. But I also
I couldn't wait to share because I was so happy
and I was so in love. I am so in love,
and so it's I love showing that piece of it
(10:25):
because I had shared so much sadness and marriage falling apart,
and so it was so nice to want to, like
I want, I wanted to share to give people hope
that it was out there, and that's what I still,
you know, want to do. And also, you know, I
like sharing. When I say about the social media thing,
it's because I can't just always be posting ads and
(10:46):
Amazon stuff. It's like, I like sharing my life. I
think I've gotten a little bit more private. But I also,
you know, I want to show people that you know,
you can you can go for devastation to happiness and
true joy and love.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
Yeah, I think you can still inspire people, and which
you the look at the amount of messages that you
get from people saying how inspiring you are in the
life that you've built, and so I think it's I
think that's importance to it. But again I think as
long as you can stay in control of and maintain
some privacy, then you remain powerful.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
But I think a lot of times too with the
privacy thing is like I was more private because I
didn't want to be embarrassed again or have the comments.
And so I think that's why I like being private
on certain things and then other things, or why maybe
I don't didn't share certain things because I didn't want
(11:45):
I didn't want the comments of things. So you know,
I can understand maybe her waiting to until she's one
hundred percent certain because if not, imagine, I mean, I like,
this is really kind of embarrassing to admit. But like,
you know, I had posted about someone after getting divorced,
and then I had found something out and I would
(12:07):
have if I would have not posted, I would have
broken up with them. But because I'm like, I can't,
I just posted about them on Instagram. I like, I can't,
How could I I'm gonna be so embarrassed, Like how
bad is that? Like I was more worried about like
what people would think about me than like actually looking
out for myself.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Yep, that's messed.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Up, it is. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
Next one, Dad confesses this is a funny one dad
confesses to fake because.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
You do it.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Wow, I'm getting, I'm getting God, Okay.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
Parents in Confession of the Week, the Sleeping Beauty betrayal
confession that dad confesses he fakes sleep so their child
goes to the mother being in sleep as I want off.
Maybe harmless and something we all probably do in our
moments of desperation, but if you're habitually relying on deception
to get your partners to do more of the childcare,
as a deeper problem, Essentially, this guy is baking sleep
(13:06):
so that the baby goes to the mother or the
mother gets up to deal with the baby when the
baby is making noise. That's just called laziness, pure an
utter laziness and selfishness.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Have you ever pretended to fake sleep?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Not once? No, not once?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
And I know that because you ninety nine point nine
percent of the time when Romin was a baby was
the one that was getting up.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
If anything, I probably.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Think from a sea sex, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I know, but like month two he's like, stay in bed,
I've got him, and he's like you're recovering, and I'm like, Alan,
it's been two months since the sea section.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
But also like where's I think there needs to be
a level of self awareness and knowing what's going to happen,
and it mentions it You're like, so when you fake sleep,
the kid goes to the mother, then the mother suffers
some deep sleep deprivation and becomes.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
All the time on the day.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
So defin back files, this is an interesting question though.
What if one of the older kids wakes up, Alan,
will you handle them in the middle of the night
or do they want Jana, They want you, I know,
but I think it's one of those things too where
it's I'm like, can you also be the one to
(14:23):
get up because it's it? Of course I they're my
kids when they're sick, like I will be there for them.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
I think I've cleaned vomit during.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
The night, and that's because I've been like, can you
I'll make laid up the vomit, Like why is this
just on me? But I mean you've obviously there is
a different amount of because there are technically my kids.
I mean there are you know, your step kids, but
there is there is that. I don't think there's a
(14:55):
good enough balance there where as opposed to if it
was like their dad dad.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
I think it's yeah, I think it's not great. Yea,
but I also think that when I go to sleep,
my empathy goes to sleep.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
A lot of things go to sleep.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Mm hmmm, and my sleep's disrupted time.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
But yeah, when the when the big kids got up,
you tend, they tend to go to you, which wakes
you up.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
She just woke her up. She's up now.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Yeah, I know it would be nice.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
Don't don't give me that face like I don't contribute
when it comes to that.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
I mean, the only time that you did was because
I was like yelling at you because I'm like, can
you help me clean up vomit? I cannot do vomit.
I'm just gonna say that I don't. I cannot do it.
If they are coming.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Down saying they just threw up yelled at me.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
I didn't know. I didn't yell at you, but I'm
just like, it wasn't just me, no, no, no, because
I was like, are you gonna help me? And you
said no, and I was like, why is this just
on me? And I was like if they're a was
there are you about me?
Speaker 4 (16:04):
It wouldn't go well, I'm not saying my response was
at that point.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
And I think the last time they threw up, you
did pop right out of bed.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
Yeah, but I don't think it's I think it's ever
been a point where I've pretended to sleep. No, no, no,
think I've ever pretend to sleep for any situation.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
You pretend to stay asleep?
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Sure?
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Probably really? Yeah, I need my sleep. Yeah, so women
need it more than men and putting it on record and.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
Talking about sleep deppreviation. The snoring is better than it
because of those things.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
Yeah, so I'm very happy about.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
That last night, though.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Ye, I don't think it was high enough. Anyways, no
fake sleep was in here.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Next week we'll find some more parenting confessions. Done Dune done,
thanks for always changing his pooy dipper in the morning.
You're the best love you
Speaker 4 (17:16):
M
Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'mheart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Sean low hopes his and Catherine Judici's kids get married young,
build your life after that. So former Bachelor Sean Lowe
has dreams that his three children will each meet the one.
My hope is that they'll find some high school sweetheart.
Actually want them to get married young, Lo said on
Mattie Pruitt Stay True podcast. I think society today says
(00:27):
you got to establish a career and make sure everything's
settled and then get married. He goes or she said
I got married at thirty and said I got married
at thirty and Catherine was twenty eight. I'd rather see
them get married young, and that's the foundation of things
to come. Like get married and of course spiritually maturity
is a big part of that. Get married to someone
who loves the Lord as much as you do, and
(00:47):
then build your life after that.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
That's kind of my hope.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
If you had an ideal age for the kids to
get married, what age would that be?
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I would see twenty in.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Ova twenty eight, Yeah, yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Think because then you'll.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Certainly no sooner than I think maybe thirty twenty eight
to thirty.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
What is your reasoning, because I.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Think there's a lot of lessons and life experience between
the age of eighteen and twenty eight to thirty that
I think ultimately you probably I'm not saying you have
to learn them, but I think it's probably more beneficial
to go through that and then choose your life partner.
I'm not saying you can't be with someone throughout that period,
(01:33):
but get married. Yeah, I think twenty eight to thirty.
I don't think there's any right or wrong. But I
think if it was Troy or any of the kids
that are grown up here, the young ones, I'd be
like twenty eight and over, like, live your life a
little bit, learn the lessons of life and experience, and
then make that commitment to the marriage.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
No, I actually like I've always agreed and thought on
that like twenty eight and over. But there's also a
piece of me actually I would say thirty and over.
But there's a piece of me that I actually kind
of like what he said about having that foundation and
then getting because then you have someone that has just
(02:19):
been there for you from the very beginning, and that
that grit and that support, and I don't know, I
think there's something really beautiful about that piece too, and
then staying together that long through through different careers and
(02:41):
evolving as a person, because I think obviously you change,
right like I think my version of And that's where
this is where like the Devil's Advocate part plays in,
because you know, the people that I dated in my twenties,
like Lord, I, I think I would have wanted something
different then in a partner, and I knew what I
(03:02):
wanted in a partner at forty. But I also think,
you know, sometimes I think you miss the beauty of
that long marriage because you want because you think you
have to have all of it figured out or yourself
figured out, and it's like, I'm still figuring myself out.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
I think that's a problem. I think.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
It's a catch twenty two because it's the fairy tale,
isn't it that you your life grows with a relationship
with someone else throughout the phases and the decades, and
ultimately you've not lived through your twenties. But there's also
the fact that because you've not been that single person
in your twenties, you're not experienced, you don't know, you
don't resonate with the party, and in the single life,
(03:44):
and this, and that you've never had it really me, No, no, no,
I mean in general, okay, like if you're in a
relate then then you don't have that phase of your twenties,
so therefore you don't miss it.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
There's a different there's a different side to it. By would.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
So I go out, there's a lot, there's a lot
to learn and a lot of mistakes to be made,
and I think my opinion is that that people should
should live life a bit and make those mistakes and
have those learnings before they go and commit to someone
for the rest of their life. I'm not saying the
fairy tale is not there and that doesn't happen.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Well, it still happen even later on that too.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
I think it's I think those type like one of
my one of my best mates, Craig and Lynn have
been together sincew are like fifteen and that's them still together.
Kids like fairy tale and that's that's all they know
and it's incredible.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
But I just think it's just probably unrealistic in this
day and age.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Now, But I would, Yeah, I would rather the kids
go and experience life and before they all they tiring
out and then have kids live that life.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I think if you find someone that is truly I
just never had anyone that I like. Yes I got
married in my twenties, but it wasn't to the right people.
But I think if you found the I would. Again,
it's hard because it's like some people marry their high
school sweetheart and they have a beautiful life together and
they're still together and that's so precious, you know, and
I I love that piece of it. But I I would.
(05:22):
I think I think I would encourage obviously later in life.
But again that was my that was my journey, and
I know my kids are going to have different journeys.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
In our kids, like one of them might be a
point where one of them might go and marry young
and that same for the rest of the life that
the one might bounce between this and it's.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Just but waiting to accomplish something before settling down. It's
like I'm still trying to accomplish things. Imagine if like,
don't that's the thing. I'm like, don't don't wait to
accomplish things to fall in love. Like there's never a
good time for kids. There's never a good time to
you know, uproot things and fight go for your dreams,
(06:02):
but like, don't life is so short too? Do that
love deep dream you know, like like the sign it
any of those stores, dream big, love life, paith over fear,
you know. Caitlin Bristow is happier than ever, not detailing
(06:30):
her dating life. Privacy is so hot. A decade after
handing out roses as a bachelorette, Kaitlyn Bristow is keeping
her current relationship offline. Privacy is so hot, Like I
am turned on by being private. There's something really special
and sacred about it. She was talking to us Weekly.
She was engaged from off the show, and then she
was with Jason Tartik. They got engaged in twenty twenty one,
(06:54):
confirmed their split a couple of years later. She said, Obviously,
I've had two very publical writs public relationships, and I'm
an over share and an open book, and it's very
hard to not share certain things in my life. But
it feels so right relationships from Bachelor franchise or people online,
like it starts to feel a bit performative at times,
and I feel like that was where it was going
(07:16):
for me last time, and it did not feel good.
I can one hundred percent see why she wanted to
be private because I really believe that I don't want
to like, how do I say this?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I think.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
He wanted you know, he's got he started his podcast,
which aad great like do the things that he wants
to do too. But when two people are fighting for
the not fighting for the spotlight, but having that online persona,
it can be difficult maybe for one of the people
in the relationship. So I could understand why she would
(07:58):
want the nexturallyationship or the relationship that she's in right
now to be to be private. I mean, we kept
our relationships, I mean somewhat private for a minute. But
you're definitely more of a private person I am. Yeah,
you're not posting stories all the time about our life
and at times, you know, and I wouldn't I wouldn't care,
(08:21):
you know, But that's it's also like not who you are,
which is why I've probably posted less because trying I'm
trying to balance who you are and but also trying
to you know, make a living off of social media.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
Yeah, I think it's I think privacy is as powerful
bost and foremost because then you can you're in control
of what you share, rather than if you're in the spotlight.
Then you don't have as much control over what you
can what you can and can't share. There's also the
fact that is what you used to I'm going to
(08:56):
imagine Caitlin and the other guys used to sharing the
the relationships are used to be in the spotlight. So
is it more difficult to go from being someone who
has constantly shared the life and becoming private? Is it
more difficult to be a private person and then share
parts of the life. I can vouch for the like
(09:20):
being the more private person and then being in a
scenario where I share more of my life now. But
I still think I've got control over it. I think
that's the main thing. It's difficult, But can you still
maintain a certain amount of control over what you share
and what gets out there so that the privacy somewhat
still remains powerful.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I think for me, I was so excited to share,
Like there was definitely some people that I didn't obviously
share because I didn't you know, I wasn't one hundred
percent certain about the relationship and no, no, like people
before you know what I mean, it wasn't long enough,
Like you can't just be posting your dates with people.
(10:03):
You have to be obviously private about things, right, and
so I wanted to make sure you know that this
was going to be real and stuff. But I also
I couldn't wait to share because I was so happy
and I was so in love. I am so in love,
and so it's I love showing that piece of it
(10:25):
because I had shared so much sadness and marriage falling apart,
and so it was so nice to want to, like
I want, I wanted to share to give people hope
that it was out there, and that's what I still,
you know, want to do. And also, you know, I
like sharing. When I say about the social media thing,
it's because I can't just always be posting ads and
(10:46):
Amazon stuff. It's like, I like sharing my life. I
think I've gotten a little bit more private. But I also,
you know, I want to show people that you know,
you can you can go for devastation to happiness and
true joy and love.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
Yeah, I think you can still inspire people, and which
you the look at the amount of messages that you
get from people saying how inspiring you are in the
life that you've built, and so I think it's I
think that's importance to it. But again I think as
long as you can stay in control of and maintain
some privacy, then you remain powerful.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
But I think a lot of times too with the
privacy thing is like I was more private because I
didn't want to be embarrassed again or have the comments.
And so I think that's why I like being private
on certain things and then other things, or why maybe
I don't didn't share certain things because I didn't want
(11:45):
I didn't want the comments of things. So you know,
I can understand maybe her waiting to until she's one
hundred percent certain because if not, imagine, I mean, I like,
this is really kind of embarrassing to admit. But like,
you know, I had posted about someone after getting divorced,
and then I had found something out and I would
(12:07):
have if I would have not posted, I would have
broken up with them. But because I'm like, I can't,
I just posted about them on Instagram. I like, I can't,
How could I I'm gonna be so embarrassed, Like how
bad is that? Like I was more worried about like
what people would think about me than like actually looking
out for myself.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Yep, that's messed.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Up, it is. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
Next one, Dad confesses this is a funny one dad
confesses to fake because.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
You do it.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Wow, I'm getting, I'm getting God, Okay.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
Parents in Confession of the Week, the Sleeping Beauty betrayal
confession that dad confesses he fakes sleep so their child
goes to the mother being in sleep as I want off.
Maybe harmless and something we all probably do in our
moments of desperation, but if you're habitually relying on deception
to get your partners to do more of the childcare,
as a deeper problem, Essentially, this guy is baking sleep
(13:06):
so that the baby goes to the mother or the
mother gets up to deal with the baby when the
baby is making noise. That's just called laziness, pure an
utter laziness and selfishness.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Have you ever pretended to fake sleep?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Not once? No, not once?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
And I know that because you ninety nine point nine
percent of the time when Romin was a baby was
the one that was getting up.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
If anything, I probably.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Think from a sea sex, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I know, but like month two he's like, stay in bed,
I've got him, and he's like you're recovering, and I'm like, Alan,
it's been two months since the sea section.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
But also like where's I think there needs to be
a level of self awareness and knowing what's going to happen,
and it mentions it You're like, so when you fake sleep,
the kid goes to the mother, then the mother suffers
some deep sleep deprivation and becomes.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
All the time on the day.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
So defin back files, this is an interesting question though.
What if one of the older kids wakes up, Alan,
will you handle them in the middle of the night
or do they want Jana, They want you, I know,
but I think it's one of those things too where
it's I'm like, can you also be the one to
(14:23):
get up because it's it? Of course I they're my
kids when they're sick, like I will be there for them.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
I think I've cleaned vomit during.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
The night, and that's because I've been like, can you
I'll make laid up the vomit, Like why is this
just on me? But I mean you've obviously there is
a different amount of because there are technically my kids.
I mean there are you know, your step kids, but
there is there is that. I don't think there's a
(14:55):
good enough balance there where as opposed to if it
was like their dad dad.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
I think it's yeah, I think it's not great. Yea,
but I also think that when I go to sleep,
my empathy goes to sleep.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
A lot of things go to sleep.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Mm hmmm, and my sleep's disrupted time.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
But yeah, when the when the big kids got up,
you tend, they tend to go to you, which wakes
you up.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
She just woke her up. She's up now.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Yeah, I know it would be nice.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
Don't don't give me that face like I don't contribute
when it comes to that.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
I mean, the only time that you did was because
I was like yelling at you because I'm like, can
you help me clean up vomit? I cannot do vomit.
I'm just gonna say that I don't. I cannot do it.
If they are coming.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Down saying they just threw up yelled at me.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
I didn't know. I didn't yell at you, but I'm
just like, it wasn't just me, no, no, no, because
I was like, are you gonna help me? And you
said no, and I was like, why is this just
on me? And I was like if they're a was
there are you about me?
Speaker 4 (16:04):
It wouldn't go well, I'm not saying my response was
at that point.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
And I think the last time they threw up, you
did pop right out of bed.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
Yeah, but I don't think it's I think it's ever
been a point where I've pretended to sleep. No, no, no,
think I've ever pretend to sleep for any situation.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
You pretend to stay asleep?
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Sure?
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Probably really? Yeah, I need my sleep. Yeah, so women
need it more than men and putting it on record and.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
Talking about sleep deppreviation. The snoring is better than it
because of those things.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
Yeah, so I'm very happy about.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
That last night, though.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Ye, I don't think it was high enough. Anyways, no
fake sleep was in here.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Next week we'll find some more parenting confessions. Done Dune done,
thanks for always changing his pooy dipper in the morning.
You're the best love you
Speaker 4 (17:16):
M
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