August 25, 2025 • 37 mins
Jana got an unexpected message from someone in her past, but this time, she’s handling it completely differently! How do you establish firm boundaries with people you have history with??
Jana opens up about “performance depression” after a big project, which leads the ladies to find a way to love the quiet “in-between”.
Plus, school is in session… how are we dealing with strict teachers??
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Wind Down with Jana Kramer, an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
All Right, hey guys, do it?
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Hye yi, Hey girls, I have a pack to not
cry for this everyone. I will say I did get
a lot of feedback and a lot of women are like,
I'm crying with you. It is such a maddening feeling
to feel like you don't know your own body. Yeah,
and that's where I'm at. I actually have my first
eboo treatment today to help. Very exciting, and I was nervous.
(00:32):
I'm not medically nervous often. I called Jana and I
was like, have you you did this? Tell me it's
going to be it?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
What does it do?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
It takes your blood out, it then oxidizes your blood
and then puts it back into your system.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
That's cool. I mean everyone's asking about, like where do
you do these talk screens and all that, because I
mean I even go to Nate, but I've never done that.
I've never done a Yeah, it's kind of screened.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I mean I've had done a lot with Nate, and
you know, I never did this, and it was it's
like a weird divine thing to me that I even
did this, because I wouldn't do it if Preston hadn't
done it, if he had Preston. So I'm just praying
that it all happens. But I'm on like day three
of charcoal. Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
I think it's one of those things too, where so
Nate wants me to do a stem cell and I've
been looking into all of it and it's just it's
a lot everything. It's it's a lot because you're like,
where are the stem like they say where it's coming from,
but also.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Like you get stem cells from like other stem cells.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
Yeah, so stem cells will. But it's the thing I
am butting heads against with it is it's it's quite
expensive and it's supposed to help too, but they say
it's from I have like the whole pamphlet pamphlet of it,
but you they give you an IV of it, you've
done it.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I did it. Yeah, that's cool, umbilical.
Speaker 5 (01:55):
That's That's what I was about to say.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Like women are Actually that's where I'm like.
Speaker 5 (02:00):
And what's it supposed to help with a lot of everything?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Everything everything?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
If you think about it, it's our bodies helping our bodies.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Well, I know that's why people will keep the stem
cells from yeah, babies, Yeah we did it. We didn't,
but I didn't really know a whole lot about it
at all, especially then.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Yeah, I didn't use theirs, so that makes me feel like,
that's what.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
That was kind of my next question. We use other
people's are your own?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
You know, when you're on like the cutting edge of
stuff and it feels in alignment and it feels like, well,
that makes more sense to me than anything else. But
then it's also not popular yet, so it's like I'm
very hesitant to share, yes, because and.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
I know it is expensive.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
What led us to it was Preston's Bell's palsy, So
he had gotten Bell's palsy twice, and even head of
neurology at Vanderbilt was like, this is just bad luck.
And that is a really you know, it's like biblical
right when hope is deferred and makes a heart sick,
and it's like, well, I just don't know that you
can do anything worse than to one that's already dealing
(03:01):
with something, especially something when he's on stage and his
face is literally every single night so you can't hide it, sure,
but man like to just be like, oh, well that
it is what it is like that just a really
hard feeling. So Nate was the only one that was like,
I don't agree with that, and I think there's something
we can do. And so that's why the stem cell
(03:21):
thing was brought to us, and then we both did it.
I guess if we're both going to die, we're died together.
I just needed more information. But I've been told that
you should get this a certain type of blood work
drawn first, because if you're something about cancer, if you're
susceptible or you've got the cancer type of gene in
your blood work, it stem cells, don't it, it'll actually
(03:43):
make the cancer worse.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
Oh well, that's terrifying.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
So that's why I'm like, let's get the bull, he'll
do all that. Yeah, it's just crazy, it's crazy.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I also just like really am prayerful that, Like did
you see the recent thing about b venom. Yes, yes,
Like I'm just getting prayerful that like the cures for
things instead of feeding, like helping with cancer and stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
But they're also like nicotine nicotine, same way like naked patches,
the patches they're said, like it's very similar situation what
they're saying about bevin on with nicotine patches. Well it's nicotine,
but you use the patches can help with a lot
of diseases. They're finding it's crazy, I know, not like
smoking it. I don't sure. I don't really know, but
you yeah, but you know it's fascinating.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Yeah, they're not saying like they're saying, don't.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Go some cigarettes. If you've got I don't even need
to go to this.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
But it's like even like cannabis, right, like if it's
used like that cream or like whatever, maybe you know
that it's not cancer curing but helpful for people.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
It's like sometimes it's safe thing though it's kind of
it was very popular and now it's not.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
And I think that helped more with like the nausea
and like stuff like that that were like the But
I think it's fascinating because it's stuff that we can
find in nature that God's already given us.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Are we curing and the venom is just yeah, it's
very interesting. Cells are from us.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Wild's cool. Any other updates?
Speaker 3 (05:12):
I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I feel nervous.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I feel nervous for what, just to cry. I don't
think I'm going to cry today. I feel pretty good today.
But I don't want to drink myself either.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
So so I've got this thing called a shoot now.
Alan told me it was I don't have it anymore.
It was like all of kind of last week. It's
called performance like depression or something where it's like you
go from being at you know, a high level of
performing and working and doing, and then it's like and
(05:47):
then you're done and you're back home and it's it's like,
what is my purpose?
Speaker 2 (05:51):
What am I doing?
Speaker 4 (05:52):
What is I And it's like this, And Alan was
explaining how like a lot of times with athletes or
musicians or when you're off something and then you just
go into this like oh like sadness. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
I actually am like really fascinated with that because I
can see, even as you're saying it, how I deal
with that in my own home.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
Right, Like when he comes off of a tour, like
you have these people that you know are praising you,
like that was a great job, you did great, this
is amazing. You feel on top of your game, you're
doing great, and then you come back home and you're
just like it's it's all done and gone and.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Stripped away and grab the dice in and start washing
the counters, right, interesting, how do you feel today?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I just I just know that I always I need
something and I'm even though last week I was like, oh,
I'm great, I'm so proud and happy, which I am,
but I also am like I need to know what
is next, and it's so hard not knowing what's next.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Do you have any movies lined up at all?
Speaker 4 (06:52):
I have two three offers, but it looks like they're
all going to punt to next year. So it's just like,
I'm fine, but you know what I mean, It's just
like I don't have any adults. I have like no
idea anything in my life, and I think that stuff.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Oh, I get excited for what God's got in store
for you, Cramer. This is always right when he comes
and drops a big one.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
I hope.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
So and she goes away. If she travels, then it'll
really fall in her lap.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
But it's it's good like I am. But I did
tell the other day ago, I was like, Babe, I
need to I need to go somewhere with Yeah, we
gotta go to the lake. We gotta get something. So
that's why I go to the Bahamas. You should for
sure get a movie deal.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Quick.
Speaker 4 (07:29):
No, But I'm like I got a you know, the
Labor Day weekend coming up. It's like, all right, we've
got a long weekend. Let's go to the lake or something. Yeah,
it's good to travel or do something. Are you doing
something by Well, I'm going to find something. I'll figure
I'll find an airbnb. Hopefully that's the plan. But that's
my only update. I have another update. It's more of
(07:50):
like a whine about and I don't know if I'm
going to do it because I don't want to put
somebody on blast.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Oh I want you to do you have any updates?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Get caned?
Speaker 5 (07:58):
Not really.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
We're just like school, you know. I mean, Ramsey's like
real unhappy in her class, so that's been a struggle.
Speaker 5 (08:04):
She asked me to homeschool last night.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I'll take her.
Speaker 5 (08:06):
It's like that's hard though it's fourth grade.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Her teacher's mean, you know, she's just a yeller and
she's got no friends in her class already, and.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
It's like second week of school.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Yeah, I mean it was kind of one of those
you kind of already knew, like you know, in that school,
like you hear her yelling down the you know, down
the hall, like you kind already know going into it,
who the really you know, the big yellers are and
so it's not just her, I mean, it's everyone. But
she's like, I'm afraid to raise my hand and say
an answer because if we get it wrong, she'll yell
at us. And I'm like, I'm going to talk to
(08:37):
that principle. She's like, no, she'll be meaner to me.
And I'm like, what do you do in that situation?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Are you going to say?
Speaker 5 (08:42):
And that's so that's what I was. I'm curious.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
I don't I've left it in her court at this point,
I said, think about it for a little while. If
you can think of it, remember examples of what happens,
let me know. I said, I'm you know, I'm happy
to talk to the principle because she asked me if
I could talk to the principal to get her out
of the class, and I said, I don't don't know
that they're going to just let you out of the class.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Just a piece of that, because she doesn't have any
her like friends exact, so that's probably why she'd already
on top of it, doesn't like, yeah, for sure, I
have some friends in there, and it would probably be better.
Speaker 5 (09:12):
Yeah, and bond with right right also.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
And this might be a little confrontation or not like debatable,
but to me, it's also kind of a part of learning,
Like you're gonna have coworkers you don't like, You're gonna
have bosses you don't like, You're gonna have people that
you have to deal with in life that are going
to be meaner than other people. So I do think
it's a part of learning how to handle that. Ye,
so you know, so it's kind of a fine line.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
So I would talk to the teacher, That's why I
would That's what I would do, But I'm afraid she'll
target her.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
I feel like people like that then get.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
But about how you I think it's all about how
you express it to the teacher, Do you know what
I'm saying? Like, So it's and I even had this
not no, I mean not I've loved every single one
of Joy's teachers, but there was a conversation where it's like,
my daughter, because she's got the you know, dyslexia, harsh
(10:03):
treat harsh teaching doesn't work good for her. She shuts in,
And it's just more of like a getting to know
the teacher and maybe what like what works Ramsey? Like,
what is it for her? It's like, is it the
you're not asking someone to be soft? Like I don't
look at you and Nick and go, you guys are
soft parents like you're hard, like you know, like you're disciplined,
(10:24):
they're respectful, you don't take crap. So I think with this,
it's just opening a conversation with the teacher and just
going like, hey, you know, I have the some of
these concerns because this is what's coming home. I obviously
don't want her to be targeted or to whatever, but
I think I think in those situations that helps because
it's not like you're if you came at the teacher
and like a, sure, you're yelling at my kid and
(10:45):
she's the But if you come at it in a
good way, I think that opens up an actual relationship
maybe between the two.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Yeah, that's a good idea, and maybe we'll do that
with conferences when they come up or whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
I also she's really yelling.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Well, so i'm she's rams is very sensitive to yelling.
Not that Ramsey's lying, she's just very sensitive to yelling.
And now it's like you're being mean I'm like, I'm
actually not being mean. I'm just not saying what you
want to hear. Yeah, so that's not being mean, right.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
And only the other day sorry, I said to Alan too.
She goes, you're being so harsh and I was like,
you just said eat your chicken.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
But He's right. I feel like my posture changes around
Allan sometimes I'm like yeah, but I'm like harsh.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
I was like, where'd you get that word from?
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yeah, I don't like, I just wonder if it's well
same because like, Love is a very sensitive human and
her teacher this year and I know it's just two
days a week, but I love her. But she is
definitely not the Moshi teacher she's used to and I
think this is going to be really good for her.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, but it's not cozy.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
Right, I know.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
And Ramsey is definitely sensitive to that because, like, I mean,
I could be getting on to her and be talking
like this to her and she'd be like cry and like,
you're yelling at me. I'm like, I'm not yelling at you,
saying with sports the coach is yelling at me, and
I'm like, well, he technically is yelling because he yelling
across the field volume. But he's not like yelling at you,
but she's like, but he's yelling.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
It could be a lot of that too, So I
guess I will probably just need to talk to the teacher.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
I hate it a friend in the class too, right,
But I will say, like Jolie's kindergarten and Jason's, they
had the same one. She apparently I just found this out,
but they're like, oh, she's the strict kindergarten teacher. I
was like what really, I was like, I would have
never thought of her as like it's like these these
teachers get like labeled. I'm like, she was amazing for Jason,
(12:33):
like they needed that. Yeah, but I would have never
thought that that she was the strict one.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Like what, I think that that there's a difference because
we had that too for a kindergarten teacher who is
the sweetest woman, but she was strict and she didn't
let him get away with anything. But she never raised
her voice. Exactly agreed, she never raised her voice. I
think this teacher is probably loud. I need to meet her.
I mean, honestly, haven't even met her, so I need
to meet her. She's probably just loud and boy, you know,
she's probably just that personality that's like super loud in
(13:00):
a lot, you know, I don't know, or maybe she
just yells at them.
Speaker 5 (13:03):
I'm not sure.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
I have a hard time think like I mean, but
again I don't I don't know. I mean, is different.
But it's literally the second week of school.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah, I don't know. But he doesn't start that. I mean,
you kind of start the way you're gonna be. I mean,
my kids have had so many different kinds of teachers
that just it's just you know, yeah, don't.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Let's call her on the show.
Speaker 5 (13:33):
She won't be targeted at all.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Will not say her name. So yeah, so there's that.
But that's really our only update in our house. It's tough, though, Yeah,
I feel bad. When she asked a homeschool. I was like,
if it got real bad, like if a kid truly
begged me to do I mean I thought about it
with Ammy, but she didn't want to do it. If
a kid really wanted to, absolutely, I mean it would
(13:56):
be like where they go somewhere a couple of days
a week, for sure. Yeah, but you know I would
if she really wanted to. But I don't even know
that she knows, Like that's a new one for her
to ask to homeschool, you know.
Speaker 5 (14:07):
What I mean, Like she doesn't really know.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
I mean, she just.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Really her friends.
Speaker 5 (14:10):
But I don't even know that love realizes.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
I mean, I don't even think she realizes love homeschools,
you know what I mean. So I don't even know
that she knows many people. She knows a friend that
was going to homeschool this year and she ended up not.
So I don't know if that's where that came from.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Yeah, but I think it's cute when they start getting
inventive though, I know, like I have a solution for you?
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, really do you?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (14:29):
Yeah, I know, I know. Oh yeah, that's that.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Whin about it? Ladies, got anything?
Speaker 5 (14:47):
You have one?
Speaker 2 (14:48):
I know?
Speaker 4 (14:48):
But I really don't want to say it because I
because it would it would become a thing and one
of these people would go in and I don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
I think it.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
How do I say this isout like blowing anyone's life up?
Speaker 5 (15:02):
Oh gosh, we let's not blow anyone's life up.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Maybe we should pin it said, maybe we should blow
someone's life.
Speaker 4 (15:09):
No, it's just one of those things where I okay,
let me let me take it really high up.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
I can go as high as you can.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
So someone from my past like, literally, how do I
say this? Okay, I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna bait.
I'm gonna just let someone from my past had texted me,
uh with the dudes again this weekend at a golf
(15:42):
we're doing like a golf weekend, you know, can we call?
And can I call and say hi? Because he wants
me to say hello to all these people that I
knew back.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
In the past.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
Guy from the past, a guy from the past got
it harmless, but also as important was.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Someone that I was with in the past. Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
And like I remember in the past when I was
like before, if we.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
Weren't playing a drinking game in the.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Past, like I would be like, yeah, like I'll say
how to these dudes?
Speaker 4 (16:20):
I haven't seen them in forever, you know, And and
I and I did many years ago because I've been
like in the past, because I'm like, he doesn't care
because he has met this person before and it was
no big deal and it's yeah, but I'm like, do
you think your wife would want you texting me and saying,
(16:40):
you know, can I can I call you around? These
dudes agree, because it's more like, what we're not friends,
We don't talk, We never talked. I can't remember the
last time I've I don't talk to you. I have
not spoken to you since I've gotten married to Alan.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
I'll tell you that.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Well. Yeah, and your association with him was once in
the past romantic in nature.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Right, I mean innocently.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Sure, No, no, like, but I'm saying like, if I'm
the wife, right, I don't want to know that he
knows you and can still contact you if for any reason.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
But you're calling me because you want me to.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
Talk to again.
Speaker 4 (17:21):
That's these you know, people that I've known many moons ago.
Why like it makes me feel like it makes me
feel like I'm being like used in a way uh
where it's oh because you I don't know how to
say this without it.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Sounds there a connection like we're all we're all of
y'all like a group of friends or something like.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Those were all his friends.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Okay, So there's like a connection to where it would
make sense for them to say, have you talked to
Jane lately?
Speaker 3 (17:55):
But like that's kind of where I'm at, Like, why
are you bet up because I feel like, oh, because
you guys are on are all away from your wives,
and you want to be like, hey, jan FaceTime with me, right,
That's what I'm saying, and I don't like it. And
I would like to also say that's not you anymore exactly,
because like before, I'd be like.
Speaker 5 (18:11):
Hey, guys, everything going right, and.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
I'm like, I don't want it.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
I don't want to answer your I know, and I
like that, and so I blocked him.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
Good good, I love.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
This and there's a piece of me.
Speaker 5 (18:25):
I don't know why.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
It just it just bothered me because I'm like, you
don't get to text me.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
I'm a married woman, you're a married person.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
You're you're all married, right, It's very very clear every
single one of you dudes that want to FaceTime me,
Like from that, it's like you guys are all married,
and like the jig is up. You know, Yeah, we
can be friendly, you can like miss whatever, say it
like and instagram whatever, but like you, why don't FaceTime?
Speaker 3 (18:50):
So what?
Speaker 4 (18:51):
It just felt dirty and gross and I'd agree. I
just I really didn't like it because I know and
I know if I brought that up to Alan, he'd
be like why would they, Because I would be pissed
if like someone from his very very very far past
texted him to FaceTime with him around a bum hitting
me right, and I can't believe that years past, Dudo
(19:12):
over there would have like let me and it's like, oh.
Speaker 5 (19:18):
Man, next time, so like but I don't know, it's
like I'm.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
Not your only fans freaking contact. But that's what that's
what it felt like to me.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Almost. That sounds stupid, No, that's the.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
Way I took it, because what I was trying to
say is like it would be like, oh, yeah, because
you dated or you hung out with her once, like
that's why it comes up. It's like, yeah, I mean
not coming up because they're like, oh, you know, who's
got a really great backstroke and could totally speak to this, right.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I was going like giving kind of the benefit of
the doubt, the reason where y'all like once all like
one group.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
And I read the message and it's not you know,
it's like I know for me to ask, but a
handful of guys day tomorrow we're on our yearly golf
trip and they all clearly love you. A FaceTime you
at lunch to borrow if that's even remotely appropriate.
Speaker 5 (20:08):
He's not appropriate if you have to be cool and
be like, oh I know her, I can't get her.
Speaker 4 (20:12):
And then he's like crazy and appropriate to FaceTime right now,
and I just blocked him because I'm like, no, it
is crazy and appropriate, like if.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
You have to ask your answer question. He's recognizing that
it's so, and.
Speaker 4 (20:22):
I mean that was yeah, so yeah, And then like
the last time, like I scroll up, boys are talking
about you.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
This is back a year. They love you. Hi, you
know what I mean, like you know, yeah, agreed, good
for you. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
So that's just like bothered me because I'm like, don't
don't text me that that's right?
Speaker 2 (20:42):
And also or does that make me sound bad?
Speaker 3 (20:46):
No? No, no no, especially if he married all people
protected marriage a little more in that way.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah, you know, I just I don't know. I feel
maybe feel the.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
End of the day, no matter what the intention is
behind it, and made you feel comfortable. So at the
end it's so it's not because I know and clearly
made him uncomfortable too. I mean he said, is it's
wildly inappropriate? That is yeah, he knows that it's not appropriate,
or it feels like it's not appropriate.
Speaker 5 (21:10):
So if you feel a certain way, then.
Speaker 4 (21:12):
Again, he's just trying to be cool around his boys, right,
that's what it sounds like. Also, find something else it
is inappropriate, and my husband wouldn't like that.
Speaker 5 (21:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
And also if you have to ask if it's inappropriate,
you answered your own question. Yeah, next, yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Right. Anyways, that's my wine about it.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
And I think that that was you'd blow anything up
because I couldn't even guess who we're talking about, right,
So there we go.
Speaker 5 (21:33):
Don't blow anyone's lives up. No, no one's going to
figure it out because I.
Speaker 4 (21:36):
Don't want these I think it was, and I think
it is.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
So.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
It's innocent, probably behind it totally. Yeah, but it just
didn't care.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
I just didn't like it exactly. Yeah, totally.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
They might not.
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I would care.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
I would care. I would care to well, I know
that matters.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
My husband would care if I picked up the song
call because I think Janna two years ago would have
gladly picked up the phone.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Why my god, how's everything been going?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (22:03):
I know.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
And that's what I like about the story the most
out of everything, Yeah, is that you're like, actually, no,
and I waved then.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
Because I just yeah, respect, respect, out their respect. Sophie
Turner has been quite the headline because she was about
mommy shaming right the other day.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Yep, last week's yes, said.
Speaker 4 (22:29):
Sophie Turner sured how a San Diego Comic Con celebration
during the early seasons of Game of Thrones went really south,
real quick, and unfortunately ultimately led to a broken engagement.
We were going to have a great night, the actress said.
On seth Myers, I really can't name names. I get
that or I'll get in a.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Lot of trouble.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
But I brought but I brought my best friend from
my school days with me, and she saw this actor
that she loved. So, with the after party being a
tribute to the HBO series in which Sophie plays says
a Stark, her friend asked her to greet the actor.
I didn't know this actor, she admitted, so she simply waved.
Later on, I see this girl looking at me and
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she's a famous actress. I was like, Oh, I have
to go and tell her how much she means to me.
So I dance over and goes, So I dance on
over and she goes, can you stop affing flirting with
my fiance. The twenty nine year old recalled, I think
they broke their engagement off that night because of my wave.
I didn't realize I held this power.
Speaker 5 (23:28):
Okay, I think she's being funny.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
I think she's being facetious there, right, I do too,
But also we all know that because clear.
Speaker 4 (23:37):
No, would you be okay if a famous attractive actress
waved at your husband? Listen again, My husband dated a
famous actress, and I would love to meet her so
she can wave all she wants to my husband and
I will stand right there by her side.
Speaker 5 (23:50):
We are so opposite. I just it's so weird to me,
Like it was a wave.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
I don't think that breaks up.
Speaker 5 (24:00):
No, Clearly she was already about yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
No, not Sophie.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
No.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
The other actress is already insecure about something, and they're.
Speaker 5 (24:09):
Choice.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
I think if somebody yeah, right, like waves, there's.
Speaker 5 (24:13):
No wave breaking up.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
It's just such a tricky world we all live in,
you know.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
Like, so that would make you mad if no, I
don't know if it makes me mad, but I don't
think I'd also love it.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
But I'm also at home with kids, do you know?
So like there's this there is to me like I do.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Sacrifice quite a bit, sure of my own dreams and
aspirations to be able to hold down everything we do
at home so that my husband can go do these
big things. And it does provide for a family. But
there's also some things that he does that don't provide
for a family, that just provide him with a bucket list,
check mark, you know, that are epic and make great
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content or whatever, but they're also really cool thing.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
So I don't I don't know.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
I just need the waves to a minimum, probably, but
maybe that's just my stay mom. I feel like Catherine,
you wouldn't care.
Speaker 5 (25:13):
No, I'd be like, oh my gosh, she just waved it.
Let's go talk to her. I'm pretty sure she waved
at me.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Talk to her.
Speaker 4 (25:22):
My big thing about any of that stuff is I
just don't want to be the last person to know
a story in a room. So it's like, amen, yeah, no,
I'd agree with that, is that you had something with
that person.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
I would like to know either before or we met.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yesterday, we were at school, we had our first day
of school, and there happened to be this other event
happening near the school.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
And so I come over.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
My husband is talking to this very attractive youngerish well
I'm guessing she's younger woman, and he's like, oh, it's
so good to see you, you know, and then he
says this word that always sinks, this phrase that sinks
my every time, which is you know, oh yeah, well
I've would have I known you for twenty years. And
I'm like, oh boy, yeah boy, you know, because it
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was the wild West for my bachelor husband.
Speaker 4 (26:09):
And so but listen, I'll just say it's not easy
on the opposite side too, like I've had those things
without because that's our big thing. Like you asked me,
I it's so easy to say no, but right, I
don't want to lie to him.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
No, you said, listen, I just need to know what
I'm dealing with, right yeah, That's always my thing, Like
no one can help their past.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
I also have a past, right right, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
My thing is always no past comes welcomed into the future,
and so the past is fine. I just also love
to know what I'm dealing with. So as we're I mean,
I don't in record time this time, So our question
always is is their history?
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Uh huh?
Speaker 3 (26:50):
So I'll say, like the minute we walked away, I
was like, you know, because I'm being kind but not
too kind. Yeah, you know, because I'm just going as well.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
And so did you ask?
Speaker 4 (26:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (26:58):
The minute we walked out, I was like history. He's
like no, no, maybe, and I was like nothing. He's
like nothing. I was like okay, great, and I want
to turn back around and be like, hey girl, I
like your skirt just in.
Speaker 5 (27:09):
Case, and I like him friends regardless, No, no, no,
hard to ask for me. But that's where we differ.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
And I like that about us.
Speaker 5 (27:21):
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Yeah, it doesn't work for someone someone else.
Speaker 5 (27:25):
Well, here's my question.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
So if you're in a room and you run into
someone that you have had a past with and he
doesn't ask, do you walk away and tell him great question?
Speaker 2 (27:36):
No, I thought there was.
Speaker 5 (27:40):
Gonna be hesitation, great question. If he doesn't ask, That's
what I was worrying.
Speaker 4 (27:44):
I don't want to offer the information if it's not necessary.
But I will tell you my husband is very smart.
Nine percent of the time, have you had.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
A going want to ask or he doesn't ask because
he knows?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Probably? Yeah, we like doesn't want to know?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Right? Sure?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
You know what I mean? This blissed like he sometimes
I'm just like why ask Like.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
We were watching him movie. We're watching a movie and
he's like it said something and I was like yeah,
I like he's a good actor. And he's like, oh boy,
and I was like I knew it was coming. He's like,
have you been with him?
Speaker 2 (28:27):
And I was like, Alan.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
Like the worst when I'm Alan, I feel it.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
But it was more and that one I was like no.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
I was like, it's kind of a long story. But
then I had to go into the story right because
he's like, well, what's the story And I'm like, well,
Jesse tried, like before I actually met you, she put
us on a group message because she was like trying
to wingman me. And then so we're in this group
message and you know, we ended up not getting We
end up not going on on a date. And he's like, oh, so,
but you would have gone on date. I was like,
(28:58):
can we send this conversation?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
It's like.
Speaker 5 (29:01):
Because y'all really didn't even like go on a date.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
Yeah, but there was a somewhat story there, so I
had to somewhat story. The somewhat story, you have to
clear it. And I like that, yeah, it's peace of mind,
it builds trust. Yeah, But like the other times it's
like and I don't think there's ever been a where
it's he's been around someone and I haven't said, like,
(29:25):
he hasn't not asked.
Speaker 5 (29:28):
So yeah, he always asks.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
I'm trying, And there are many times where I'm like,
this would be so easy to just sure. I mean,
we had we had one that was a real tough
one for me because I knew that he was going
to ask and I may or may not have had
to work with the person coming up, and I was like,
this is going to be a tough one. And of
course he asked, and I told my therapist. I was like,
and I know, I told you guys this too, But
(29:51):
I'm like every part of my being wanted to lie
to him because he would have never found out because
it was a million years ago, like so many years
ago that it's like it was never known about. I
never spoke about it, never talked like he would have
never find out, but I knew, yeah, you know, and
I just was like I had to and I was like,
(30:12):
oh yes, but it was so long that that piece
it doesn't matter how long ago it was, No, it
doesn't not when I'm allan, what a time. So Kylie
(30:39):
Kelsey has been talking about her post part of body,
and I feel like because she just had her third
and I think it's one of those the third, fourth note, fourth, one, two, three, four,
third and I love four four four sorry, And I
love people talking about it because I feel like it
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wasn't until Roman that I didn't put as much pressure
on my postpartum where I felt like I put more
pressure on the first two. What about you guys, this
one's just been the hardest really, yeah, Okay, see, this
one's been I think the easiest for me. Well, I
would say this one's been my obess. I'm the postpartum body,
(31:22):
not postpartum hormones.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
I'll say that.
Speaker 4 (31:24):
So, like, physicality wise, it's been the easiest to get
over that piece of it. But I'm also like, I'm
agreeing with like we're Kylie's like, it's just like my
stomach's never gonna look the same. Oh that's why it's like,
and I'm fine with that. I've had three kids. Cool, yeah,
you know, And I love that people are talking about
that because I love when I see a sweet little flat,
you know, stomach girl. But I'm like I'm a mom,
(31:46):
I've got three kids, and my belly will always look
a little different. That's okay, it's great. I do think
this last one I felt most well supported in postpartum,
but the hormones have been tricky, and it is probably
because of our age. I think we are postpartum balancing
while we're also premenopausea premenopausing staging.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
So I think it's just been like it's a little
bit of a mix. Yeah, I mean, I honestly never
really stressed about it. I mean, but the reality is,
like I wasn't with the third. I think I was
larger when I got pregnant than the other two, like
starting out like I'd gained some weight back or whatever.
So I mean, I've struggled a little bit, like with
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my weight and stuff, but my body going back never
stressed me out.
Speaker 5 (32:35):
It truly never did.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
I think for me, I always was pleasantly surprised how
my body kind of went back to normal. I guess
in my mind I thought the worst. I guess like
it will never go back. I'll always just be thirty
pounds heavier or you know, or whatever. But generally after
every single baby, I bounced back relatively quickly to what
(32:59):
my weight was was before. Now, did I want to
lose some weight from what that weight was before, Sure,
but just from having a baby, I kind of usually
always kind of mostly went back. But yeah, it's different.
I mean, you know, your belly's different, and as I've
lost weight this time, my belly's a lot different because
I gain weight in my belly. So now it's just
like mushy, you know what I mean. And that's kind
(33:23):
of like after having a baby. Yeah, it just gets
kind of and it kind of just seems like that
now again. But it just never truly bothered me that much.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
I think I just was always so proud of what
my body did that I didn't feel the urge to
push it back to do whatever it wasn't going to do. Yeah, Like,
I just was so freaking proud. I mean, it's really
miraculous what we're up to. Absolutely, I think my boobs
this time really hurt my feelings as we know. Oh yeah,
have you made your consultation?
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Yes, twice and had to move it twice.
Speaker 3 (33:51):
But I'm trying. Yeah, absolutely, But then I'm taking that
as a sign too. You know, of course you'll love it.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
Hi, I'm twenty nine years old and want to get
married and have kids one day. I've been dating someone
for a little over a year. He's kind, supportive, and
everything I thought I wanted. But lately I've started wondering
if we're truly compatible long term. There's no big drama
in red flags, just this quiet feeling that something's missing.
Is it normal to question a good relationship just because
it doesn't feel magical all the time. How do you
know when it's just a rough patch or it's a
(34:19):
sign it's not the right fit?
Speaker 5 (34:24):
Well tough.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Two out of three have been divorced. Almost one out
of three was turn things around. There are so much reality.
There's so much reality in rough patches in marriage.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
I mean, it just is.
Speaker 3 (34:40):
I was having a reflective moment even yesterday because I
thought we're about to celebrate year ten and year seven
was our hardest, but like, I can't get to year
ten without seven and seven mattered so much in so
many ways. But it was not easy and it wasn't
pretty sure. So I don't know, is so young still
(35:01):
hard because I felt this way a lot in my
first marriage. The way she's talking like it's fine and
we're best friends and things, and she's not married yet, right,
But I'm saying like I kind of went into marriage
because I was like, well, there is no big red
flags and everything is fine, but it wasn't long term fine. Yeah,
(35:25):
I mean I think you have to know that, Like
you were saying, every relationship is going to have difficulties
and there's going to be rough patches.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
So do you want to go through the rough patches
with this person?
Speaker 4 (35:39):
Yeah, that's a good point, yeah, because like literally there
is no perfect relationship. You're going to have fights, there's
going to be lots of ups and downs, there's a
lot of non romantic day to day kind of like
yeah mundane, yeah, getting.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
We really are selling her well.
Speaker 5 (35:56):
But it's sure she's not married yet.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Yeah, it's like you have you know, like you've really
got to think that way, Like it's already kind of struggling,
is you know, can you withstand.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
It but don't settle though too.
Speaker 4 (36:09):
So there is a little piece of you that is
that little quiet feeling that you're saying something's missing. I
would lean into that and ask yourself what is the
piece that's missing, because without hiring yourself toe, I'm so
grateful for my two babies.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
I wish I would have leaned into that feeling a
bit more. But you know, yeah, just ask yourself what
that what that is?
Speaker 4 (36:34):
And if you think you can find because the thing
is you're going to find someone else has a bag
of different issues. That's just the reality of it. It's
like you cannot find the perfect dude. You're not going
to be the perfect person. They can find another person,
a woman like you that just has just different issues.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
So can you handle his? Yeah? Can you guys grow together?
They takes some.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Definite silent time, Like I think, I wish I would
have been more silent and more prayerful too, really listen
to what I already knew, and I that would be
my one.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
Big mistake. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Oh girl, Well keep.
Speaker 5 (37:17):
Us, give us posted twenty nine year olds us.
Speaker 4 (37:20):
Let us know if you're gonna get to hear back
from all these people that I know. All right, ladies,
until next week.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Bye. So you
Wind Down with Jana Kramer, an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
All Right, hey guys, do it?
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Hye yi, Hey girls, I have a pack to not
cry for this everyone. I will say I did get
a lot of feedback and a lot of women are like,
I'm crying with you. It is such a maddening feeling
to feel like you don't know your own body. Yeah,
and that's where I'm at. I actually have my first
eboo treatment today to help. Very exciting, and I was nervous.
(00:32):
I'm not medically nervous often. I called Jana and I
was like, have you you did this? Tell me it's
going to be it?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
What does it do?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
It takes your blood out, it then oxidizes your blood
and then puts it back into your system.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
That's cool. I mean everyone's asking about, like where do
you do these talk screens and all that, because I
mean I even go to Nate, but I've never done that.
I've never done a Yeah, it's kind of screened.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I mean I've had done a lot with Nate, and
you know, I never did this, and it was it's
like a weird divine thing to me that I even
did this, because I wouldn't do it if Preston hadn't
done it, if he had Preston. So I'm just praying
that it all happens. But I'm on like day three
of charcoal. Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
I think it's one of those things too, where so
Nate wants me to do a stem cell and I've
been looking into all of it and it's just it's
a lot everything. It's it's a lot because you're like,
where are the stem like they say where it's coming from,
but also.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Like you get stem cells from like other stem cells.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
Yeah, so stem cells will. But it's the thing I
am butting heads against with it is it's it's quite
expensive and it's supposed to help too, but they say
it's from I have like the whole pamphlet pamphlet of it,
but you they give you an IV of it, you've
done it.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I did it. Yeah, that's cool, umbilical.
Speaker 5 (01:55):
That's That's what I was about to say.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Like women are Actually that's where I'm like.
Speaker 5 (02:00):
And what's it supposed to help with a lot of everything?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Everything everything?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
If you think about it, it's our bodies helping our bodies.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Well, I know that's why people will keep the stem
cells from yeah, babies, Yeah we did it. We didn't,
but I didn't really know a whole lot about it
at all, especially then.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Yeah, I didn't use theirs, so that makes me feel like,
that's what.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
That was kind of my next question. We use other
people's are your own?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
You know, when you're on like the cutting edge of
stuff and it feels in alignment and it feels like, well,
that makes more sense to me than anything else. But
then it's also not popular yet, so it's like I'm
very hesitant to share, yes, because and.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
I know it is expensive.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
What led us to it was Preston's Bell's palsy, So
he had gotten Bell's palsy twice, and even head of
neurology at Vanderbilt was like, this is just bad luck.
And that is a really you know, it's like biblical
right when hope is deferred and makes a heart sick,
and it's like, well, I just don't know that you
can do anything worse than to one that's already dealing
(03:01):
with something, especially something when he's on stage and his
face is literally every single night so you can't hide it, sure,
but man like to just be like, oh, well that
it is what it is like that just a really
hard feeling. So Nate was the only one that was like,
I don't agree with that, and I think there's something
we can do. And so that's why the stem cell
(03:21):
thing was brought to us, and then we both did it.
I guess if we're both going to die, we're died together.
I just needed more information. But I've been told that
you should get this a certain type of blood work
drawn first, because if you're something about cancer, if you're
susceptible or you've got the cancer type of gene in
your blood work, it stem cells, don't it, it'll actually
(03:43):
make the cancer worse.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
Oh well, that's terrifying.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
So that's why I'm like, let's get the bull, he'll
do all that. Yeah, it's just crazy, it's crazy.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I also just like really am prayerful that, Like did
you see the recent thing about b venom. Yes, yes,
Like I'm just getting prayerful that like the cures for
things instead of feeding, like helping with cancer and stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
But they're also like nicotine nicotine, same way like naked patches,
the patches they're said, like it's very similar situation what
they're saying about bevin on with nicotine patches. Well it's nicotine,
but you use the patches can help with a lot
of diseases. They're finding it's crazy, I know, not like
smoking it. I don't sure. I don't really know, but
you yeah, but you know it's fascinating.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Yeah, they're not saying like they're saying, don't.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Go some cigarettes. If you've got I don't even need
to go to this.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
But it's like even like cannabis, right, like if it's
used like that cream or like whatever, maybe you know
that it's not cancer curing but helpful for people.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
It's like sometimes it's safe thing though it's kind of
it was very popular and now it's not.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
And I think that helped more with like the nausea
and like stuff like that that were like the But
I think it's fascinating because it's stuff that we can
find in nature that God's already given us.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Are we curing and the venom is just yeah, it's
very interesting. Cells are from us.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Wild's cool. Any other updates?
Speaker 3 (05:12):
I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I feel nervous.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I feel nervous for what, just to cry. I don't
think I'm going to cry today. I feel pretty good today.
But I don't want to drink myself either.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
So so I've got this thing called a shoot now.
Alan told me it was I don't have it anymore.
It was like all of kind of last week. It's
called performance like depression or something where it's like you
go from being at you know, a high level of
performing and working and doing, and then it's like and
(05:47):
then you're done and you're back home and it's it's like,
what is my purpose?
Speaker 2 (05:51):
What am I doing?
Speaker 4 (05:52):
What is I And it's like this, And Alan was
explaining how like a lot of times with athletes or
musicians or when you're off something and then you just
go into this like oh like sadness. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
I actually am like really fascinated with that because I
can see, even as you're saying it, how I deal
with that in my own home.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
Right, Like when he comes off of a tour, like
you have these people that you know are praising you,
like that was a great job, you did great, this
is amazing. You feel on top of your game, you're
doing great, and then you come back home and you're
just like it's it's all done and gone and.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Stripped away and grab the dice in and start washing
the counters, right, interesting, how do you feel today?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I just I just know that I always I need
something and I'm even though last week I was like, oh,
I'm great, I'm so proud and happy, which I am,
but I also am like I need to know what
is next, and it's so hard not knowing what's next.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Do you have any movies lined up at all?
Speaker 4 (06:52):
I have two three offers, but it looks like they're
all going to punt to next year. So it's just like,
I'm fine, but you know what I mean, It's just
like I don't have any adults. I have like no
idea anything in my life, and I think that stuff.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Oh, I get excited for what God's got in store
for you, Cramer. This is always right when he comes
and drops a big one.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
I hope.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
So and she goes away. If she travels, then it'll
really fall in her lap.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
But it's it's good like I am. But I did
tell the other day ago, I was like, Babe, I
need to I need to go somewhere with Yeah, we
gotta go to the lake. We gotta get something. So
that's why I go to the Bahamas. You should for
sure get a movie deal.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Quick.
Speaker 4 (07:29):
No, But I'm like I got a you know, the
Labor Day weekend coming up. It's like, all right, we've
got a long weekend. Let's go to the lake or something. Yeah,
it's good to travel or do something. Are you doing
something by Well, I'm going to find something. I'll figure
I'll find an airbnb. Hopefully that's the plan. But that's
my only update. I have another update. It's more of
(07:50):
like a whine about and I don't know if I'm
going to do it because I don't want to put
somebody on blast.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Oh I want you to do you have any updates?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Get caned?
Speaker 5 (07:58):
Not really.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
We're just like school, you know. I mean, Ramsey's like
real unhappy in her class, so that's been a struggle.
Speaker 5 (08:04):
She asked me to homeschool last night.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I'll take her.
Speaker 5 (08:06):
It's like that's hard though it's fourth grade.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Her teacher's mean, you know, she's just a yeller and
she's got no friends in her class already, and.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
It's like second week of school.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Yeah, I mean it was kind of one of those
you kind of already knew, like you know, in that school,
like you hear her yelling down the you know, down
the hall, like you kind already know going into it,
who the really you know, the big yellers are and
so it's not just her, I mean, it's everyone. But
she's like, I'm afraid to raise my hand and say
an answer because if we get it wrong, she'll yell
at us. And I'm like, I'm going to talk to
(08:37):
that principle. She's like, no, she'll be meaner to me.
And I'm like, what do you do in that situation?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Are you going to say?
Speaker 5 (08:42):
And that's so that's what I was. I'm curious.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
I don't I've left it in her court at this point,
I said, think about it for a little while. If
you can think of it, remember examples of what happens,
let me know. I said, I'm you know, I'm happy
to talk to the principle because she asked me if
I could talk to the principal to get her out
of the class, and I said, I don't don't know
that they're going to just let you out of the class.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Just a piece of that, because she doesn't have any
her like friends exact, so that's probably why she'd already
on top of it, doesn't like, yeah, for sure, I
have some friends in there, and it would probably be better.
Speaker 5 (09:12):
Yeah, and bond with right right also.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
And this might be a little confrontation or not like debatable,
but to me, it's also kind of a part of learning,
Like you're gonna have coworkers you don't like, You're gonna
have bosses you don't like, You're gonna have people that
you have to deal with in life that are going
to be meaner than other people. So I do think
it's a part of learning how to handle that. Ye,
so you know, so it's kind of a fine line.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
So I would talk to the teacher, That's why I
would That's what I would do, But I'm afraid she'll
target her.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
I feel like people like that then get.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
But about how you I think it's all about how
you express it to the teacher, Do you know what
I'm saying? Like, So it's and I even had this
not no, I mean not I've loved every single one
of Joy's teachers, but there was a conversation where it's like,
my daughter, because she's got the you know, dyslexia, harsh
(10:03):
treat harsh teaching doesn't work good for her. She shuts in,
And it's just more of like a getting to know
the teacher and maybe what like what works Ramsey? Like,
what is it for her? It's like, is it the
you're not asking someone to be soft? Like I don't
look at you and Nick and go, you guys are
soft parents like you're hard, like you know, like you're disciplined,
(10:24):
they're respectful, you don't take crap. So I think with this,
it's just opening a conversation with the teacher and just
going like, hey, you know, I have the some of
these concerns because this is what's coming home. I obviously
don't want her to be targeted or to whatever, but
I think I think in those situations that helps because
it's not like you're if you came at the teacher
and like a, sure, you're yelling at my kid and
(10:45):
she's the But if you come at it in a
good way, I think that opens up an actual relationship
maybe between the two.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Yeah, that's a good idea, and maybe we'll do that
with conferences when they come up or whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
I also she's really yelling.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Well, so i'm she's rams is very sensitive to yelling.
Not that Ramsey's lying, she's just very sensitive to yelling.
And now it's like you're being mean I'm like, I'm
actually not being mean. I'm just not saying what you
want to hear. Yeah, so that's not being mean, right.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
And only the other day sorry, I said to Alan too.
She goes, you're being so harsh and I was like,
you just said eat your chicken.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
But He's right. I feel like my posture changes around
Allan sometimes I'm like yeah, but I'm like harsh.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
I was like, where'd you get that word from?
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yeah, I don't like, I just wonder if it's well
same because like, Love is a very sensitive human and
her teacher this year and I know it's just two
days a week, but I love her. But she is
definitely not the Moshi teacher she's used to and I
think this is going to be really good for her.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, but it's not cozy.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
Right, I know.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
And Ramsey is definitely sensitive to that because, like, I mean,
I could be getting on to her and be talking
like this to her and she'd be like cry and like,
you're yelling at me. I'm like, I'm not yelling at you,
saying with sports the coach is yelling at me, and
I'm like, well, he technically is yelling because he yelling
across the field volume. But he's not like yelling at you,
but she's like, but he's yelling.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
It could be a lot of that too, So I
guess I will probably just need to talk to the teacher.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
I hate it a friend in the class too, right,
But I will say, like Jolie's kindergarten and Jason's, they
had the same one. She apparently I just found this out,
but they're like, oh, she's the strict kindergarten teacher. I
was like what really, I was like, I would have
never thought of her as like it's like these these
teachers get like labeled. I'm like, she was amazing for Jason,
(12:33):
like they needed that. Yeah, but I would have never
thought that that she was the strict one.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Like what, I think that that there's a difference because
we had that too for a kindergarten teacher who is
the sweetest woman, but she was strict and she didn't
let him get away with anything. But she never raised
her voice. Exactly agreed, she never raised her voice. I
think this teacher is probably loud. I need to meet her.
I mean, honestly, haven't even met her, so I need
to meet her. She's probably just loud and boy, you know,
she's probably just that personality that's like super loud in
(13:00):
a lot, you know, I don't know, or maybe she
just yells at them.
Speaker 5 (13:03):
I'm not sure.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
I have a hard time think like I mean, but
again I don't I don't know. I mean, is different.
But it's literally the second week of school.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah, I don't know. But he doesn't start that. I mean,
you kind of start the way you're gonna be. I mean,
my kids have had so many different kinds of teachers
that just it's just you know, yeah, don't.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Let's call her on the show.
Speaker 5 (13:33):
She won't be targeted at all.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Will not say her name. So yeah, so there's that.
But that's really our only update in our house. It's tough, though, Yeah,
I feel bad. When she asked a homeschool. I was like,
if it got real bad, like if a kid truly
begged me to do I mean I thought about it
with Ammy, but she didn't want to do it. If
a kid really wanted to, absolutely, I mean it would
(13:56):
be like where they go somewhere a couple of days
a week, for sure. Yeah, but you know I would
if she really wanted to. But I don't even know
that she knows, Like that's a new one for her
to ask to homeschool, you know.
Speaker 5 (14:07):
What I mean, Like she doesn't really know.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
I mean, she just.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Really her friends.
Speaker 5 (14:10):
But I don't even know that love realizes.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
I mean, I don't even think she realizes love homeschools,
you know what I mean. So I don't even know
that she knows many people. She knows a friend that
was going to homeschool this year and she ended up not.
So I don't know if that's where that came from.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Yeah, but I think it's cute when they start getting
inventive though, I know, like I have a solution for you?
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, really do you?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (14:29):
Yeah, I know, I know. Oh yeah, that's that.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Whin about it? Ladies, got anything?
Speaker 5 (14:47):
You have one?
Speaker 2 (14:48):
I know?
Speaker 4 (14:48):
But I really don't want to say it because I
because it would it would become a thing and one
of these people would go in and I don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
I think it.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
How do I say this isout like blowing anyone's life up?
Speaker 5 (15:02):
Oh gosh, we let's not blow anyone's life up.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Maybe we should pin it said, maybe we should blow
someone's life.
Speaker 4 (15:09):
No, it's just one of those things where I okay,
let me let me take it really high up.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
I can go as high as you can.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
So someone from my past like, literally, how do I
say this? Okay, I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna bait.
I'm gonna just let someone from my past had texted me,
uh with the dudes again this weekend at a golf
(15:42):
we're doing like a golf weekend, you know, can we call?
And can I call and say hi? Because he wants
me to say hello to all these people that I
knew back.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
In the past.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
Guy from the past, a guy from the past got
it harmless, but also as important was.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Someone that I was with in the past. Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
And like I remember in the past when I was
like before, if we.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
Weren't playing a drinking game in the.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Past, like I would be like, yeah, like I'll say
how to these dudes?
Speaker 4 (16:20):
I haven't seen them in forever, you know, And and
I and I did many years ago because I've been
like in the past, because I'm like, he doesn't care
because he has met this person before and it was
no big deal and it's yeah, but I'm like, do
you think your wife would want you texting me and saying,
(16:40):
you know, can I can I call you around? These
dudes agree, because it's more like, what we're not friends,
We don't talk, We never talked. I can't remember the
last time I've I don't talk to you. I have
not spoken to you since I've gotten married to Alan.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
I'll tell you that.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Well. Yeah, and your association with him was once in
the past romantic in nature.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Right, I mean innocently.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Sure, No, no, like, but I'm saying like, if I'm
the wife, right, I don't want to know that he
knows you and can still contact you if for any reason.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
But you're calling me because you want me to.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
Talk to again.
Speaker 4 (17:21):
That's these you know, people that I've known many moons ago.
Why like it makes me feel like it makes me
feel like I'm being like used in a way uh
where it's oh because you I don't know how to
say this without it.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Sounds there a connection like we're all we're all of
y'all like a group of friends or something like.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Those were all his friends.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Okay, So there's like a connection to where it would
make sense for them to say, have you talked to
Jane lately?
Speaker 3 (17:55):
But like that's kind of where I'm at, Like, why
are you bet up because I feel like, oh, because
you guys are on are all away from your wives,
and you want to be like, hey, jan FaceTime with me, right,
That's what I'm saying, and I don't like it. And
I would like to also say that's not you anymore exactly,
because like before, I'd be like.
Speaker 5 (18:11):
Hey, guys, everything going right, and.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
I'm like, I don't want it.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
I don't want to answer your I know, and I
like that, and so I blocked him.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
Good good, I love.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
This and there's a piece of me.
Speaker 5 (18:25):
I don't know why.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
It just it just bothered me because I'm like, you
don't get to text me.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
I'm a married woman, you're a married person.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
You're you're all married, right, It's very very clear every
single one of you dudes that want to FaceTime me,
Like from that, it's like you guys are all married,
and like the jig is up. You know, Yeah, we
can be friendly, you can like miss whatever, say it
like and instagram whatever, but like you, why don't FaceTime?
Speaker 3 (18:50):
So what?
Speaker 4 (18:51):
It just felt dirty and gross and I'd agree. I
just I really didn't like it because I know and
I know if I brought that up to Alan, he'd
be like why would they, Because I would be pissed
if like someone from his very very very far past
texted him to FaceTime with him around a bum hitting
me right, and I can't believe that years past, Dudo
(19:12):
over there would have like let me and it's like, oh.
Speaker 5 (19:18):
Man, next time, so like but I don't know, it's
like I'm.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
Not your only fans freaking contact. But that's what that's
what it felt like to me.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Almost. That sounds stupid, No, that's the.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
Way I took it, because what I was trying to
say is like it would be like, oh, yeah, because
you dated or you hung out with her once, like
that's why it comes up. It's like, yeah, I mean
not coming up because they're like, oh, you know, who's
got a really great backstroke and could totally speak to this, right.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I was going like giving kind of the benefit of
the doubt, the reason where y'all like once all like
one group.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
And I read the message and it's not you know,
it's like I know for me to ask, but a
handful of guys day tomorrow we're on our yearly golf
trip and they all clearly love you. A FaceTime you
at lunch to borrow if that's even remotely appropriate.
Speaker 5 (20:08):
He's not appropriate if you have to be cool and
be like, oh I know her, I can't get her.
Speaker 4 (20:12):
And then he's like crazy and appropriate to FaceTime right now,
and I just blocked him because I'm like, no, it
is crazy and appropriate, like if.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
You have to ask your answer question. He's recognizing that
it's so, and.
Speaker 4 (20:22):
I mean that was yeah, so yeah, And then like
the last time, like I scroll up, boys are talking
about you.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
This is back a year. They love you. Hi, you
know what I mean, like you know, yeah, agreed, good
for you. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
So that's just like bothered me because I'm like, don't
don't text me that that's right?
Speaker 2 (20:42):
And also or does that make me sound bad?
Speaker 3 (20:46):
No? No, no no, especially if he married all people
protected marriage a little more in that way.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah, you know, I just I don't know. I feel
maybe feel the.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
End of the day, no matter what the intention is
behind it, and made you feel comfortable. So at the
end it's so it's not because I know and clearly
made him uncomfortable too. I mean he said, is it's
wildly inappropriate? That is yeah, he knows that it's not appropriate,
or it feels like it's not appropriate.
Speaker 5 (21:10):
So if you feel a certain way, then.
Speaker 4 (21:12):
Again, he's just trying to be cool around his boys, right,
that's what it sounds like. Also, find something else it
is inappropriate, and my husband wouldn't like that.
Speaker 5 (21:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
And also if you have to ask if it's inappropriate,
you answered your own question. Yeah, next, yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Right. Anyways, that's my wine about it.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
And I think that that was you'd blow anything up
because I couldn't even guess who we're talking about, right,
So there we go.
Speaker 5 (21:33):
Don't blow anyone's lives up. No, no one's going to
figure it out because I.
Speaker 4 (21:36):
Don't want these I think it was, and I think
it is.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
So.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
It's innocent, probably behind it totally. Yeah, but it just
didn't care.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
I just didn't like it exactly. Yeah, totally.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
They might not.
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I would care.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
I would care. I would care to well, I know
that matters.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
My husband would care if I picked up the song
call because I think Janna two years ago would have
gladly picked up the phone.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Why my god, how's everything been going?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (22:03):
I know.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
And that's what I like about the story the most
out of everything, Yeah, is that you're like, actually, no,
and I waved then.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
Because I just yeah, respect, respect, out their respect. Sophie
Turner has been quite the headline because she was about
mommy shaming right the other day.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Yep, last week's yes, said.
Speaker 4 (22:29):
Sophie Turner sured how a San Diego Comic Con celebration
during the early seasons of Game of Thrones went really south,
real quick, and unfortunately ultimately led to a broken engagement.
We were going to have a great night, the actress said.
On seth Myers, I really can't name names. I get
that or I'll get in a.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Lot of trouble.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
But I brought but I brought my best friend from
my school days with me, and she saw this actor
that she loved. So, with the after party being a
tribute to the HBO series in which Sophie plays says
a Stark, her friend asked her to greet the actor.
I didn't know this actor, she admitted, so she simply waved.
Later on, I see this girl looking at me and
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she's a famous actress. I was like, Oh, I have
to go and tell her how much she means to me.
So I dance over and goes, So I dance on
over and she goes, can you stop affing flirting with
my fiance. The twenty nine year old recalled, I think
they broke their engagement off that night because of my wave.
I didn't realize I held this power.
Speaker 5 (23:28):
Okay, I think she's being funny.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
I think she's being facetious there, right, I do too,
But also we all know that because clear.
Speaker 4 (23:37):
No, would you be okay if a famous attractive actress
waved at your husband? Listen again, My husband dated a
famous actress, and I would love to meet her so
she can wave all she wants to my husband and
I will stand right there by her side.
Speaker 5 (23:50):
We are so opposite. I just it's so weird to me,
Like it was a wave.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
I don't think that breaks up.
Speaker 5 (24:00):
No, Clearly she was already about yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
No, not Sophie.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
No.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
The other actress is already insecure about something, and they're.
Speaker 5 (24:09):
Choice.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
I think if somebody yeah, right, like waves, there's.
Speaker 5 (24:13):
No wave breaking up.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
It's just such a tricky world we all live in,
you know.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
Like, so that would make you mad if no, I
don't know if it makes me mad, but I don't
think I'd also love it.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
But I'm also at home with kids, do you know?
So like there's this there is to me like I do.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Sacrifice quite a bit, sure of my own dreams and
aspirations to be able to hold down everything we do
at home so that my husband can go do these
big things. And it does provide for a family. But
there's also some things that he does that don't provide
for a family, that just provide him with a bucket list,
check mark, you know, that are epic and make great
(25:00):
content or whatever, but they're also really cool thing.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
So I don't I don't know.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
I just need the waves to a minimum, probably, but
maybe that's just my stay mom. I feel like Catherine,
you wouldn't care.
Speaker 5 (25:13):
No, I'd be like, oh my gosh, she just waved it.
Let's go talk to her. I'm pretty sure she waved
at me.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Talk to her.
Speaker 4 (25:22):
My big thing about any of that stuff is I
just don't want to be the last person to know
a story in a room. So it's like, amen, yeah, no,
I'd agree with that, is that you had something with
that person.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
I would like to know either before or we met.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yesterday, we were at school, we had our first day
of school, and there happened to be this other event
happening near the school.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
And so I come over.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
My husband is talking to this very attractive youngerish well
I'm guessing she's younger woman, and he's like, oh, it's
so good to see you, you know, and then he
says this word that always sinks, this phrase that sinks
my every time, which is you know, oh yeah, well
I've would have I known you for twenty years. And
I'm like, oh boy, yeah boy, you know, because it
(26:07):
was the wild West for my bachelor husband.
Speaker 4 (26:09):
And so but listen, I'll just say it's not easy
on the opposite side too, like I've had those things
without because that's our big thing. Like you asked me,
I it's so easy to say no, but right, I
don't want to lie to him.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
No, you said, listen, I just need to know what
I'm dealing with, right yeah, That's always my thing, Like
no one can help their past.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
I also have a past, right right, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
My thing is always no past comes welcomed into the future,
and so the past is fine. I just also love
to know what I'm dealing with. So as we're I mean,
I don't in record time this time, So our question
always is is their history?
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Uh huh?
Speaker 3 (26:50):
So I'll say, like the minute we walked away, I
was like, you know, because I'm being kind but not
too kind. Yeah, you know, because I'm just going as well.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
And so did you ask?
Speaker 4 (26:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (26:58):
The minute we walked out, I was like history. He's
like no, no, maybe, and I was like nothing. He's
like nothing. I was like okay, great, and I want
to turn back around and be like, hey girl, I
like your skirt just in.
Speaker 5 (27:09):
Case, and I like him friends regardless, No, no, no,
hard to ask for me. But that's where we differ.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
And I like that about us.
Speaker 5 (27:21):
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Yeah, it doesn't work for someone someone else.
Speaker 5 (27:25):
Well, here's my question.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
So if you're in a room and you run into
someone that you have had a past with and he
doesn't ask, do you walk away and tell him great question?
Speaker 2 (27:36):
No, I thought there was.
Speaker 5 (27:40):
Gonna be hesitation, great question. If he doesn't ask, That's
what I was worrying.
Speaker 4 (27:44):
I don't want to offer the information if it's not necessary.
But I will tell you my husband is very smart.
Nine percent of the time, have you had.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
A going want to ask or he doesn't ask because
he knows?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Probably? Yeah, we like doesn't want to know?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Right? Sure?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
You know what I mean? This blissed like he sometimes
I'm just like why ask Like.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
We were watching him movie. We're watching a movie and
he's like it said something and I was like yeah,
I like he's a good actor. And he's like, oh boy,
and I was like I knew it was coming. He's like,
have you been with him?
Speaker 2 (28:27):
And I was like, Alan.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
Like the worst when I'm Alan, I feel it.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
But it was more and that one I was like no.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
I was like, it's kind of a long story. But
then I had to go into the story right because
he's like, well, what's the story And I'm like, well,
Jesse tried, like before I actually met you, she put
us on a group message because she was like trying
to wingman me. And then so we're in this group
message and you know, we ended up not getting We
end up not going on on a date. And he's like, oh, so,
but you would have gone on date. I was like,
(28:58):
can we send this conversation?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
It's like.
Speaker 5 (29:01):
Because y'all really didn't even like go on a date.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
Yeah, but there was a somewhat story there, so I
had to somewhat story. The somewhat story, you have to
clear it. And I like that, yeah, it's peace of mind,
it builds trust. Yeah, But like the other times it's
like and I don't think there's ever been a where
it's he's been around someone and I haven't said, like,
(29:25):
he hasn't not asked.
Speaker 5 (29:28):
So yeah, he always asks.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
I'm trying, And there are many times where I'm like,
this would be so easy to just sure. I mean,
we had we had one that was a real tough
one for me because I knew that he was going
to ask and I may or may not have had
to work with the person coming up, and I was like,
this is going to be a tough one. And of
course he asked, and I told my therapist. I was like,
and I know, I told you guys this too, But
(29:51):
I'm like every part of my being wanted to lie
to him because he would have never found out because
it was a million years ago, like so many years
ago that it's like it was never known about. I
never spoke about it, never talked like he would have
never find out, but I knew, yeah, you know, and
I just was like I had to and I was like,
(30:12):
oh yes, but it was so long that that piece
it doesn't matter how long ago it was, No, it
doesn't not when I'm allan, what a time. So Kylie
(30:39):
Kelsey has been talking about her post part of body,
and I feel like because she just had her third
and I think it's one of those the third, fourth note, fourth, one, two, three, four,
third and I love four four four sorry, And I
love people talking about it because I feel like it
(31:00):
wasn't until Roman that I didn't put as much pressure
on my postpartum where I felt like I put more
pressure on the first two. What about you guys, this
one's just been the hardest really, yeah, Okay, see, this
one's been I think the easiest for me. Well, I
would say this one's been my obess. I'm the postpartum body,
(31:22):
not postpartum hormones.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
I'll say that.
Speaker 4 (31:24):
So, like, physicality wise, it's been the easiest to get
over that piece of it. But I'm also like, I'm
agreeing with like we're Kylie's like, it's just like my
stomach's never gonna look the same. Oh that's why it's like,
and I'm fine with that. I've had three kids. Cool, yeah,
you know, And I love that people are talking about
that because I love when I see a sweet little flat,
you know, stomach girl. But I'm like I'm a mom,
(31:46):
I've got three kids, and my belly will always look
a little different. That's okay, it's great. I do think
this last one I felt most well supported in postpartum,
but the hormones have been tricky, and it is probably
because of our age. I think we are postpartum balancing
while we're also premenopausea premenopausing staging.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
So I think it's just been like it's a little
bit of a mix. Yeah, I mean, I honestly never
really stressed about it. I mean, but the reality is,
like I wasn't with the third. I think I was
larger when I got pregnant than the other two, like
starting out like I'd gained some weight back or whatever.
So I mean, I've struggled a little bit, like with
(32:31):
my weight and stuff, but my body going back never
stressed me out.
Speaker 5 (32:35):
It truly never did.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
I think for me, I always was pleasantly surprised how
my body kind of went back to normal. I guess
in my mind I thought the worst. I guess like
it will never go back. I'll always just be thirty
pounds heavier or you know, or whatever. But generally after
every single baby, I bounced back relatively quickly to what
(32:59):
my weight was was before. Now, did I want to
lose some weight from what that weight was before, Sure,
but just from having a baby, I kind of usually
always kind of mostly went back. But yeah, it's different.
I mean, you know, your belly's different, and as I've
lost weight this time, my belly's a lot different because
I gain weight in my belly. So now it's just
like mushy, you know what I mean. And that's kind
(33:23):
of like after having a baby. Yeah, it just gets
kind of and it kind of just seems like that
now again. But it just never truly bothered me that much.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
I think I just was always so proud of what
my body did that I didn't feel the urge to
push it back to do whatever it wasn't going to do. Yeah, Like,
I just was so freaking proud. I mean, it's really
miraculous what we're up to. Absolutely, I think my boobs
this time really hurt my feelings as we know. Oh yeah,
have you made your consultation?
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Yes, twice and had to move it twice.
Speaker 3 (33:51):
But I'm trying. Yeah, absolutely, But then I'm taking that
as a sign too. You know, of course you'll love it.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
Hi, I'm twenty nine years old and want to get
married and have kids one day. I've been dating someone
for a little over a year. He's kind, supportive, and
everything I thought I wanted. But lately I've started wondering
if we're truly compatible long term. There's no big drama
in red flags, just this quiet feeling that something's missing.
Is it normal to question a good relationship just because
it doesn't feel magical all the time. How do you
know when it's just a rough patch or it's a
(34:19):
sign it's not the right fit?
Speaker 5 (34:24):
Well tough.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Two out of three have been divorced. Almost one out
of three was turn things around. There are so much reality.
There's so much reality in rough patches in marriage.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
I mean, it just is.
Speaker 3 (34:40):
I was having a reflective moment even yesterday because I
thought we're about to celebrate year ten and year seven
was our hardest, but like, I can't get to year
ten without seven and seven mattered so much in so
many ways. But it was not easy and it wasn't
pretty sure. So I don't know, is so young still
(35:01):
hard because I felt this way a lot in my
first marriage. The way she's talking like it's fine and
we're best friends and things, and she's not married yet, right,
But I'm saying like I kind of went into marriage
because I was like, well, there is no big red
flags and everything is fine, but it wasn't long term fine. Yeah,
(35:25):
I mean I think you have to know that, Like
you were saying, every relationship is going to have difficulties
and there's going to be rough patches.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
So do you want to go through the rough patches
with this person?
Speaker 4 (35:39):
Yeah, that's a good point, yeah, because like literally there
is no perfect relationship. You're going to have fights, there's
going to be lots of ups and downs, there's a
lot of non romantic day to day kind of like
yeah mundane, yeah, getting.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
We really are selling her well.
Speaker 5 (35:56):
But it's sure she's not married yet.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Yeah, it's like you have you know, like you've really
got to think that way, Like it's already kind of struggling,
is you know, can you withstand.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
It but don't settle though too.
Speaker 4 (36:09):
So there is a little piece of you that is
that little quiet feeling that you're saying something's missing. I
would lean into that and ask yourself what is the
piece that's missing, because without hiring yourself toe, I'm so
grateful for my two babies.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
I wish I would have leaned into that feeling a
bit more. But you know, yeah, just ask yourself what
that what that is?
Speaker 4 (36:34):
And if you think you can find because the thing
is you're going to find someone else has a bag
of different issues. That's just the reality of it. It's
like you cannot find the perfect dude. You're not going
to be the perfect person. They can find another person,
a woman like you that just has just different issues.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
So can you handle his? Yeah? Can you guys grow together?
They takes some.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Definite silent time, Like I think, I wish I would
have been more silent and more prayerful too, really listen
to what I already knew, and I that would be
my one.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
Big mistake. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Oh girl, Well keep.
Speaker 5 (37:17):
Us, give us posted twenty nine year olds us.
Speaker 4 (37:20):
Let us know if you're gonna get to hear back
from all these people that I know. All right, ladies,
until next week.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Bye. So you
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