May 25, 2023 • 21 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
All right, so welcome to part two of wind Down. Everyone.
Welcome my fiance Alan Rosso. We get to keep him forever.
He's like, what did I sign up for? He's like,
it's me and my three wives. Is so Mark, that's Mark,
(00:31):
that's our we call him Daddy. He's like the podcast Dad.
Mark is a huge soccer fan, and so he was
the one who said I think you should date a
soccer player. Oh yep, sorry that it just.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
That just seemed like right to me. It just seemed right. Okay,
I don't know why that was in my head, but
it seemed right and it turned out to be very precious.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I mean, you're of a psychic Mark.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Maybe I AM could.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Have used you about nine years ago, Big Mark.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Okay, the old magic gate ball didn't that much to say.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
So do you have any questions? Mark? I know you
have to go soon.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
I mean I have a lot of questions. I'm trying
to think a word to begin. I guess we'll start
with how long have you known? How long have you
known that you were going to be taking a knee?
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Oh, she told you that I took a.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Knee, not that she told me.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Pretty much.
Speaker 5 (01:38):
Yeah, from the moment I met really wow.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Yeah, yeah, you knew very quickly she was the one
I did you. Wow. That's lovely.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
I feel like I have lots of questions about you
and and I hate to double up if if this
has been cover on the pod before, but we haven't.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Honestly, he's very private, so like we don't. I don't.
I haven't even said like his anything like really truly.
I mean I've really respected his privacy on things, but
I mean he can he can.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Should I also respect his privacy on things, And I'd
ask these questions.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I think people want to get to know him, and
I think he's open to I would like to. Yeah,
so let's try it.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Well, h are you have you been married before?
Speaker 4 (02:24):
I have you?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Okay? You have kids?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
Yeah, I've got a little boy who will be sixteen
this year and a stepdaughter who will be twenty four.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Twenty four?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Oh wow, and you were married for.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
I was married for.
Speaker 5 (02:42):
Eleven years together for together for yeah, like sixteen years
fifteen sixteen years.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Wow, Okay, I mean I don't need to get into
that stuff. I mean that seems like your business. So
it's a blended family, but not like in it, you know,
where the kids will be playing together, like there's a
big age gap there.
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Yeah, there's a few age gaps. Yeah, but they all
got on.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Well yeah that's good. And Janna's met the kids adult
and teenager and everything hit it off.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Well yeah, yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
They were out here about three weeks ago, three four
weeks ago, so here for like ten or eleven days, so
it was nice.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
And how are we going to handle logistics here of
London to Nashville.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
I go back for about ten days a month, so
I've got fast and foremost I go back to see
my kids and then I've got some business stuff back
in London as well, So yeah, roughly.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
A soccer coach, football coach, right, and.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
A football coach.
Speaker 5 (03:47):
Yeah, but I've got a protein bar business as well,
which I go back for.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Oh wow, but during the season, the football season, you
wouldn't have to be there full time.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
And the moment, I mean, I stepped away from from
my last club about nine ten weeks ago, and at
the moment, I'm just weighing up the options of where
to go next, whether it's whether it's Yukia, whether it's America.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Oh wow, Oh so okay, that's great. So we were
undecided if to where the like you know, the marital
home might be or maybe would be an international you'd
have multiple.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Well, I think if we're going to go international, we
need to talk to the rest of the couch because
the rest of the couch is a little codependent.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Yeah, it feels fair. We're not moving, are we.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
I think we'll have a home in both both sides
of the wall size.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I can't wait to visit the other home. I think
home bases. You know, we have definitely the new Nashville home.
And then you know, I've always said to him, like,
wherever the job takes you, like I just want you
to be happy and successful in your career, Like we'll
be fine regards less, which is again very new for me,
because but I just I trust him and I trust
(05:04):
what we have, and I'm like, I'll, you know, we'll
figure it out. Like I think you make work what
you you know you really want.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
And if I'm correct, you two. This is another example
of a dating app success story. No wrong, no, oh,
I read that somewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, he DMed me.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Oh so it was app based, but not like Riya,
this is like Instagram DM.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
We did not meet on Rya.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
He so what why what drew you to her in
the first place? Were you a fan?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
It was a big one tree killer Mark.
Speaker 5 (05:42):
Well, no, my friend got a job here and Memphis
as a as a head coach, and we discussed me
possibly coming out to work with him.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
So I was looking a lot.
Speaker 5 (05:54):
On my phone on the Memphis and Nashville area, and
as your phone does, it thinks of algorithms and spits
things out on your phone, and this little face popped up.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
That's cute.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
And then did you like if if it's me, I'm
doing my homework at that point, I'm looking in I'm
googling her. I'm seeing who she is and what she's
all about. Did you do that before you asked her out?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
That didn't look into it too much? Now I think,
do I feel background check?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:25):
No, that's just what girls do. That's what I did.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
That's what I done. Did you know that she was
a musician, that she was an actress, this stuff and
if she was a musician, yeah, okay, gotcha, And that
I was a man? Yeah, okay, that's good.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah. So you knew those things.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
And then yeah, I mean, I mean, obviously I knew
once I looked up Push she was. I knew about
being an actress in the music industry and that she
looked like an amazing mom and had a couple of
amazing kids.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
So I knew that.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah, and his message was very respectful.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Sorry, go ahead, that's what I want to hear. I
want to hear that initial message roughly.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
Yeah, roughly, I don't. I actually can't. I actually can't remember.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Because I don't know that that's could be educational for people,
Like how do you do that? Like a stranger to
another stranger, dming them with romantic interests, Like it's more
than just a hey, right, it's like a hi, Alan,
I'd like to get to know you better. Like what
is it? What's the vibe?
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I think it was.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
I mean, I'm quite a traditional person enemy so I
think it was. It was very respectful and monoly, and
I think it was along the lines of you look
like an amazing person, a great mom, and it would
be it'd be good to connect something along those lines.
So don't quote my words on it, but it was really.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Like it was really handsome and like not slimy. It
was the part that was it was very appropriate and
just like courtship.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Like so this was immediately shared with you two when
she got to steer Mark.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Mark. We're all marying Allan, all of us. But it
also was something where I saw it and I'm like, oh,
he lives in London, like I'm not. And at that
point I was very happy being single and like I
was good, and so I kind of let the message
go for a bit and then for some reason, I
(08:19):
kept thinking, I'm like, there was this football player coach
I think like he and so I kept going kind
of back to the message and then I gave him
we kind of what stopped a few times, but then
I went away again for a few weeks, and then
he would text and but he stayed pretty stayed pretty persistent.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Yeah, was the first date here or there.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Well, so he was like, hey, you know, if you
want to come over here, and then I was like
hm hmm, like if you want to me, Like yeah,
I don't know this guy, you know what I mean,
Like I do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (09:03):
For sure?
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Come here? And I've kids and I'm like I'm not
doing that, you know, And so he had.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
A Yeah, I was.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
I was already in the US, so I made a
short trip to Nashville from where.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I was and yeah, he was again very respectful, very
And then the second we met at the One hotel
in Nashville, and when he turned around, it was like
I was living my I told the girls. I was like,
it was like we were in our own version of
like a Christmas movie, because like the lights were already
up in the hotel, and like he's wearing this long
like pea coat and just like I just see like
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his behind, you know, his jacket. But I knew it
was him, and so I was like, I'm walking into
the hotel and then I go hi, and he turns
around like a slow mo It was like a slow
mow thing with like a little the end the ends
of his peacoat kind of like in the wind. And
he's like, you know, he says, I can't impersonate his
(09:58):
accent to save my life. But he was just like hello, Joanna,
because that's how he says my name. And I was
just like, oh, I'm done, done, done so.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
And did you feel the same, Alan when you saw
in person? You were pretty pleased.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
I told you pretty please, pretty please?
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And was it just drinks? The first day was drinks
at the bar hotel bar, and.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Did we get fits?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
So what happened was we give no, Well, what happened
was is we were sitting down, we got a drink.
He's like, what would you like to drink? And I
was like, I'll take a gossip wine, I think I said,
and he got a drink. But then someone approached me.
They're like, oh my god, I'm wake one Tree Hill.
And I was so embarrassed. I was so embarrassed, embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
That's a big deal. That's like an after easy act, Like,
oh my gosh, she has fans.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
So after I paid that girl twenty bucks, she left
Alan and Jane alone.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It was just for the effect, you know, we got.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
To that effect.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, no, And but then we ended up I'm kind
of trying to find a different place to go, and
then we ended up going up to his suite. But
we've just stayed in the sweet department and we ordered
we ordered a take in member because we didn't want
I wanted I didn't want anyone to see us because
it was like, you know, even though I felt mad
(11:16):
attraction in a connection, you have to be careful. There's
people around Nashville that talk, and so I just wanted
to keep it quiet in private. And so we had
a lovely time. And then I saw him the next
day and the next day, and then we faced the
next day. Do you mean that you saw him the
next morning or I had I got I had a sitter,
(11:38):
and I had to go home. And that's the responsible
Christian thing to do, was to go home in Jesus name. Amen,
I just want to clarify for the folks, Yes, I
went home. No, I know, they need to know.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
And then she last, yes, I understand. And then he
went back to England a couple days later, and then
that was my when, like then I started flying there.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Yeah. I need to go soon. But I do have
one more question. I want to set the scene for
the for the listeners that he's very handsome as you
as you all have googled by now, I'm sure. But
he's in a black T shirt, he's in black jeans,
and he's in flip flops. And I'm not sure how
I feel about the flip flops. Janney, your thoughts.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
The most American thing about him?
Speaker 2 (12:32):
They're his house slippers.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Yeah, you don't mind that. Huh.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
No, I like a guy in flip flops. He actually
never he's usually he's always in trainers, so it's like
it's weird to actually see him in flip flops.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
It was wrong with flip flops.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
I'm not I know, if I were walking around my
house and flip flops, I would get my wife would
be like, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (12:52):
What do you do?
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Really, let's let's put those away.
Speaker 4 (12:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, I just think guy's feet aren't attractive. Does he
have nice feet?
Speaker 6 (12:59):
No?
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Cute man feet?
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I confirmed just now when you said the flip flops,
I had to take a good gander.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
I forget like a long life of playing football. I
feel like there's some damage done to those and some
broken toes, and yeah, I bet I knew.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
I was sitting with them underneath the table.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
So I actually have a question period. Mark had asked
a question. So the one part one of the podcast,
I was like, you know, the announcement is I engaged?
And he was just he was taken back a little
bit given the short time period in which we got engaged.
(13:39):
Does that bother you at all? Like how quick we
got engaged? Or I mean I guess not because you,
but I'm like And then also a two part to
that is when you looked up my past, did any
of that bother you with my past, like divorces and
marriages and relationships?
Speaker 5 (13:57):
No, I think I mean sounds of the first question.
I don't know if it was your question, mark over
it yours.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Well, yeah, I was wondering what the rush is? Necessarily,
why not wait a little longer.
Speaker 5 (14:11):
I'll try, and I'll be blunted about this. So I
think I think you see, you see people who wait
for years and years and years to get engaged and
get married.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
And I mean.
Speaker 5 (14:22):
I've got friends who've waited years and then they get
engaged and they split up a year later, six months later,
or they get married and a split up three four
years later, and they've waited years to do it. I've
got friends who did it within weeks and have been
together for over twenty years. So I don't I'm not
so sure there's a set of way to do things.
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If something feels feels right in your heart and your soul,
then I think you should you should follow it. We've
got a relationship that's we trust each other and it's
built on respect, and for each other.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
And yeah, I didn't. There was no there was no
rush to do anything. That's all. It just it felt
it felt right.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Well, I think that's lovely. I think that's great if
you when you know, you know, as they say, right, so, yeah,
I mean why not? And she also meant you're not
going to get you're not going to actually tie the
knot for a while yet. So it's not in that sense.
Is you're not really rushing into anything?
Speaker 4 (15:22):
No, well not not, so.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
It's just a commitment.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
What about the past stuff.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Yeah, that's a good question, Joan. I kind of wish
i'd asked that one.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
I was, I was really I was taking your energy
of like, Okay, what would Mark? What would Mark ask?
Speaker 1 (15:37):
A good one? That's a good one.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
Yeah, that's a good question. I think.
Speaker 5 (15:41):
I mean, everyone regardless of how what the past has been.
Everyone has a past, but it's how they've they've learned
and grown and managed those situations. And and I don't
I don't judge Janna on anything from the past. I
don't judge anyone on anything from the past, as long
as they as long as they show up for me
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and the people that I love and the people that
are important to me. Then it shows that they've they've
grown from from any sort of decisions or mistakes that
might have been made in the past.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
And for me, that's attractive.
Speaker 5 (16:14):
And it's just one of the many things that it's
hugely attractive about Jana. A's how she she has had
all these upsets in the past, but she she moves forwards.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
She's a little warrior mm hm. And that's and that's attractive.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
I think you're getting a good version of Jenna.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
I think you are.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Has everyone crying in the room.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
I've got tears.
Speaker 6 (16:45):
I think Cat's okay, our little warrior here.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Yeah, I'm happy for you. I think it's great. I
think I think you're getting a great version of Jana.
She's done a lot of work on herself. She's been
through a lot of stuff, and I wish you both happily.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
Ever, Aft, thank you so much, Thank you Mark, thanks
for popping on.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Pleasures to meet you.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
My pleasure, pleasure to meet you. I hope we'll see
your own Bye. Mark gets you on the show frequently.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Talk talk football. We love you, Mark girls. Do you
have you guys?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Bye?
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Mark Girls, Do you have any last things you want
to say to Alan, I'm just glad we get to
keep Allen forever. I wrote that.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
When she sent the picture, I was like, you guys,
we get to keep Allen.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
I did because I love him. Yeah, it's wild though, right,
Like I.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
We have really can I just we have just really
put up with a lot of douchebags, and I just
am so thankful we have like a man in our
world now who's just like respectful and seize you for
who you are and like can handle his own. Like
my favorite thing about Alan is that Alan is such
a secure person in himself, so like he gets to
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come in and like finally you get someone to like
step in and partner up with you instead of attaching
to and clinging to and like it just I can't.
I just love him so much.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Well, and I think, like, you know, I can go, Okay,
what's my part? I you know, in the past, like
I attached, I clinged, you know, for because I was
still had a lot of work I to do too.
So I think where we're at is we both did
the work and then we found each other. Yea, Yeah,
timing was perfect. Remember our little Christmas party Queendom. Yeah,
(18:44):
I'll never forget it. Oh my goodness, I did I did?
I have a video? I forget it, you guys, I
have a video saying I know this sounds crazy, but
I'm going to marry him. And we were all like
asking a million questions and you were just smiling. You're like,
I was just like, I know, I just know I'm
going to marry them. I know that was there was me.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
I was like, oh, she said she's gonna marry I
marry him, the hopeless romantic. We all we all had
our personalities then, like everyone I know.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Sarah's like, I mean all of you guys, Yeah, like,
how is this gonna work? Pamulan's like getting out the
globe and spending and I'm like, I know, I just
I don't know why or how or what, but I
will marry this man. And then I started googling what
a Scottish bridesmaid could look like and I really went
with it for a minute. Yeah, we have not discussed
(19:34):
those details yet, but.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Maybe next year, are you guys, you're gonna be one
of the brides that doesn't have any bridesmaids after all
this time?
Speaker 2 (19:40):
No, no, I'll have well TVD Queendom goes to the Kingdom, remember,
but in the UK. But also why GBD, Well, I
mean I want her to make your own decisions to
what the wedding looks like. Hey, we make decisions together,
I know, but she has allan Now we have to
start to like, it's fine, we have to start to
(20:01):
have let your girl go. You have to we're all
marry now. I do have one question, would you be
upset if the wedding wasn't in England or Scotland, or
like if I was like, we're doing it up in
the hills at Tennessee. I love it.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
I'm here for it. I just want I just want
you guys to be happy. I love you so much.
This has just been so fun for me.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Me too, But I love Scotland.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
Well, she's gonna have a vacation home there. I was
kind of counting that we'll go back and forth because.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
You don't realize you're marrying Queendom. He's already figured that out.
And I love the relationship that you have with Sarah
and Julie and Pam and Kristen obviously Catherine. It's it's cute.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
Yeah, that's all great, every one of them.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Any last words any last words, my love. Okay, I
love you, you accent. You're welcome wind owners all right,
We'll see you next week for another announcement.
Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
All right, so welcome to part two of wind Down. Everyone.
Welcome my fiance Alan Rosso. We get to keep him forever.
He's like, what did I sign up for? He's like,
it's me and my three wives. Is so Mark, that's Mark,
(00:31):
that's our we call him Daddy. He's like the podcast Dad.
Mark is a huge soccer fan, and so he was
the one who said I think you should date a
soccer player. Oh yep, sorry that it just.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
That just seemed like right to me. It just seemed right. Okay,
I don't know why that was in my head, but
it seemed right and it turned out to be very precious.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I mean, you're of a psychic Mark.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Maybe I AM could.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Have used you about nine years ago, Big Mark.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Okay, the old magic gate ball didn't that much to say.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
So do you have any questions? Mark? I know you
have to go soon.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
I mean I have a lot of questions. I'm trying
to think a word to begin. I guess we'll start
with how long have you known? How long have you
known that you were going to be taking a knee?
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Oh, she told you that I took a.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Knee, not that she told me.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Pretty much.
Speaker 5 (01:38):
Yeah, from the moment I met really wow.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Yeah, yeah, you knew very quickly she was the one
I did you. Wow. That's lovely.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
I feel like I have lots of questions about you
and and I hate to double up if if this
has been cover on the pod before, but we haven't.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Honestly, he's very private, so like we don't. I don't.
I haven't even said like his anything like really truly.
I mean I've really respected his privacy on things, but
I mean he can he can.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Should I also respect his privacy on things, And I'd
ask these questions.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I think people want to get to know him, and
I think he's open to I would like to. Yeah,
so let's try it.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Well, h are you have you been married before?
Speaker 4 (02:24):
I have you?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Okay? You have kids?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
Yeah, I've got a little boy who will be sixteen
this year and a stepdaughter who will be twenty four.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Twenty four?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Oh wow, and you were married for.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
I was married for.
Speaker 5 (02:42):
Eleven years together for together for yeah, like sixteen years
fifteen sixteen years.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Wow, Okay, I mean I don't need to get into
that stuff. I mean that seems like your business. So
it's a blended family, but not like in it, you know,
where the kids will be playing together, like there's a
big age gap there.
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Yeah, there's a few age gaps. Yeah, but they all
got on.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Well yeah that's good. And Janna's met the kids adult
and teenager and everything hit it off.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Well yeah, yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
They were out here about three weeks ago, three four
weeks ago, so here for like ten or eleven days, so
it was nice.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
And how are we going to handle logistics here of
London to Nashville.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
I go back for about ten days a month, so
I've got fast and foremost I go back to see
my kids and then I've got some business stuff back
in London as well, So yeah, roughly.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
A soccer coach, football coach, right, and.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
A football coach.
Speaker 5 (03:47):
Yeah, but I've got a protein bar business as well,
which I go back for.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Oh wow, but during the season, the football season, you
wouldn't have to be there full time.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
And the moment, I mean, I stepped away from from
my last club about nine ten weeks ago, and at
the moment, I'm just weighing up the options of where
to go next, whether it's whether it's Yukia, whether it's America.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Oh wow, Oh so okay, that's great. So we were
undecided if to where the like you know, the marital
home might be or maybe would be an international you'd
have multiple.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Well, I think if we're going to go international, we
need to talk to the rest of the couch because
the rest of the couch is a little codependent.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Yeah, it feels fair. We're not moving, are we.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
I think we'll have a home in both both sides
of the wall size.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I can't wait to visit the other home. I think
home bases. You know, we have definitely the new Nashville home.
And then you know, I've always said to him, like,
wherever the job takes you, like I just want you
to be happy and successful in your career, Like we'll
be fine regards less, which is again very new for me,
because but I just I trust him and I trust
(05:04):
what we have, and I'm like, I'll, you know, we'll
figure it out. Like I think you make work what
you you know you really want.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
And if I'm correct, you two. This is another example
of a dating app success story. No wrong, no, oh,
I read that somewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, he DMed me.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Oh so it was app based, but not like Riya,
this is like Instagram DM.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
We did not meet on Rya.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
He so what why what drew you to her in
the first place? Were you a fan?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
It was a big one tree killer Mark.
Speaker 5 (05:42):
Well, no, my friend got a job here and Memphis
as a as a head coach, and we discussed me
possibly coming out to work with him.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
So I was looking a lot.
Speaker 5 (05:54):
On my phone on the Memphis and Nashville area, and
as your phone does, it thinks of algorithms and spits
things out on your phone, and this little face popped up.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
That's cute.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
And then did you like if if it's me, I'm
doing my homework at that point, I'm looking in I'm
googling her. I'm seeing who she is and what she's
all about. Did you do that before you asked her out?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
That didn't look into it too much? Now I think,
do I feel background check?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:25):
No, that's just what girls do. That's what I did.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
That's what I done. Did you know that she was
a musician, that she was an actress, this stuff and
if she was a musician, yeah, okay, gotcha, And that
I was a man? Yeah, okay, that's good.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah. So you knew those things.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
And then yeah, I mean, I mean, obviously I knew
once I looked up Push she was. I knew about
being an actress in the music industry and that she
looked like an amazing mom and had a couple of
amazing kids.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
So I knew that.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah, and his message was very respectful.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Sorry, go ahead, that's what I want to hear. I
want to hear that initial message roughly.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
Yeah, roughly, I don't. I actually can't. I actually can't remember.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Because I don't know that that's could be educational for people,
Like how do you do that? Like a stranger to
another stranger, dming them with romantic interests, Like it's more
than just a hey, right, it's like a hi, Alan,
I'd like to get to know you better. Like what
is it? What's the vibe?
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I think it was.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
I mean, I'm quite a traditional person enemy so I
think it was. It was very respectful and monoly, and
I think it was along the lines of you look
like an amazing person, a great mom, and it would
be it'd be good to connect something along those lines.
So don't quote my words on it, but it was really.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Like it was really handsome and like not slimy. It
was the part that was it was very appropriate and
just like courtship.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Like so this was immediately shared with you two when
she got to steer Mark.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Mark. We're all marying Allan, all of us. But it
also was something where I saw it and I'm like, oh,
he lives in London, like I'm not. And at that
point I was very happy being single and like I
was good, and so I kind of let the message
go for a bit and then for some reason, I
(08:19):
kept thinking, I'm like, there was this football player coach
I think like he and so I kept going kind
of back to the message and then I gave him
we kind of what stopped a few times, but then
I went away again for a few weeks, and then
he would text and but he stayed pretty stayed pretty persistent.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Yeah, was the first date here or there.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Well, so he was like, hey, you know, if you
want to come over here, and then I was like
hm hmm, like if you want to me, Like yeah,
I don't know this guy, you know what I mean,
Like I do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (09:03):
For sure?
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Come here? And I've kids and I'm like I'm not
doing that, you know, And so he had.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
A Yeah, I was.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
I was already in the US, so I made a
short trip to Nashville from where.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I was and yeah, he was again very respectful, very
And then the second we met at the One hotel
in Nashville, and when he turned around, it was like
I was living my I told the girls. I was like,
it was like we were in our own version of
like a Christmas movie, because like the lights were already
up in the hotel, and like he's wearing this long
like pea coat and just like I just see like
(09:36):
his behind, you know, his jacket. But I knew it
was him, and so I was like, I'm walking into
the hotel and then I go hi, and he turns
around like a slow mo It was like a slow
mow thing with like a little the end the ends
of his peacoat kind of like in the wind. And
he's like, you know, he says, I can't impersonate his
(09:58):
accent to save my life. But he was just like hello, Joanna,
because that's how he says my name. And I was
just like, oh, I'm done, done, done so.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
And did you feel the same, Alan when you saw
in person? You were pretty pleased.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
I told you pretty please, pretty please?
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And was it just drinks? The first day was drinks
at the bar hotel bar, and.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Did we get fits?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
So what happened was we give no, Well, what happened
was is we were sitting down, we got a drink.
He's like, what would you like to drink? And I
was like, I'll take a gossip wine, I think I said,
and he got a drink. But then someone approached me.
They're like, oh my god, I'm wake one Tree Hill.
And I was so embarrassed. I was so embarrassed, embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
That's a big deal. That's like an after easy act, Like,
oh my gosh, she has fans.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
So after I paid that girl twenty bucks, she left
Alan and Jane alone.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It was just for the effect, you know, we got.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
To that effect.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, no, And but then we ended up I'm kind
of trying to find a different place to go, and
then we ended up going up to his suite. But
we've just stayed in the sweet department and we ordered
we ordered a take in member because we didn't want
I wanted I didn't want anyone to see us because
it was like, you know, even though I felt mad
(11:16):
attraction in a connection, you have to be careful. There's
people around Nashville that talk, and so I just wanted
to keep it quiet in private. And so we had
a lovely time. And then I saw him the next
day and the next day, and then we faced the
next day. Do you mean that you saw him the
next morning or I had I got I had a sitter,
(11:38):
and I had to go home. And that's the responsible
Christian thing to do, was to go home in Jesus name. Amen,
I just want to clarify for the folks, Yes, I
went home. No, I know, they need to know.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
And then she last, yes, I understand. And then he
went back to England a couple days later, and then
that was my when, like then I started flying there.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Yeah. I need to go soon. But I do have
one more question. I want to set the scene for
the for the listeners that he's very handsome as you
as you all have googled by now, I'm sure. But
he's in a black T shirt, he's in black jeans,
and he's in flip flops. And I'm not sure how
I feel about the flip flops. Janney, your thoughts.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
The most American thing about him?
Speaker 2 (12:32):
They're his house slippers.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Yeah, you don't mind that. Huh.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
No, I like a guy in flip flops. He actually
never he's usually he's always in trainers, so it's like
it's weird to actually see him in flip flops.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
It was wrong with flip flops.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
I'm not I know, if I were walking around my
house and flip flops, I would get my wife would
be like, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (12:52):
What do you do?
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Really, let's let's put those away.
Speaker 4 (12:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, I just think guy's feet aren't attractive. Does he
have nice feet?
Speaker 6 (12:59):
No?
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Cute man feet?
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I confirmed just now when you said the flip flops,
I had to take a good gander.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
I forget like a long life of playing football. I
feel like there's some damage done to those and some
broken toes, and yeah, I bet I knew.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
I was sitting with them underneath the table.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
So I actually have a question period. Mark had asked
a question. So the one part one of the podcast,
I was like, you know, the announcement is I engaged?
And he was just he was taken back a little
bit given the short time period in which we got engaged.
(13:39):
Does that bother you at all? Like how quick we
got engaged? Or I mean I guess not because you,
but I'm like And then also a two part to
that is when you looked up my past, did any
of that bother you with my past, like divorces and
marriages and relationships?
Speaker 5 (13:57):
No, I think I mean sounds of the first question.
I don't know if it was your question, mark over
it yours.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Well, yeah, I was wondering what the rush is? Necessarily,
why not wait a little longer.
Speaker 5 (14:11):
I'll try, and I'll be blunted about this. So I
think I think you see, you see people who wait
for years and years and years to get engaged and
get married.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
And I mean.
Speaker 5 (14:22):
I've got friends who've waited years and then they get
engaged and they split up a year later, six months later,
or they get married and a split up three four
years later, and they've waited years to do it. I've
got friends who did it within weeks and have been
together for over twenty years. So I don't I'm not
so sure there's a set of way to do things.
(14:44):
If something feels feels right in your heart and your soul,
then I think you should you should follow it. We've
got a relationship that's we trust each other and it's
built on respect, and for each other.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
And yeah, I didn't. There was no there was no
rush to do anything. That's all. It just it felt
it felt right.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Well, I think that's lovely. I think that's great if
you when you know, you know, as they say, right, so, yeah,
I mean why not? And she also meant you're not
going to get you're not going to actually tie the
knot for a while yet. So it's not in that sense.
Is you're not really rushing into anything?
Speaker 4 (15:22):
No, well not not, so.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
It's just a commitment.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
What about the past stuff.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Yeah, that's a good question, Joan. I kind of wish
i'd asked that one.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
I was, I was really I was taking your energy
of like, Okay, what would Mark? What would Mark ask?
Speaker 1 (15:37):
A good one? That's a good one.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
Yeah, that's a good question. I think.
Speaker 5 (15:41):
I mean, everyone regardless of how what the past has been.
Everyone has a past, but it's how they've they've learned
and grown and managed those situations. And and I don't
I don't judge Janna on anything from the past. I
don't judge anyone on anything from the past, as long
as they as long as they show up for me
(16:02):
and the people that I love and the people that
are important to me. Then it shows that they've they've
grown from from any sort of decisions or mistakes that
might have been made in the past.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
And for me, that's attractive.
Speaker 5 (16:14):
And it's just one of the many things that it's
hugely attractive about Jana. A's how she she has had
all these upsets in the past, but she she moves forwards.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
She's a little warrior mm hm. And that's and that's attractive.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
I think you're getting a good version of Jenna.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
I think you are.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Has everyone crying in the room.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
I've got tears.
Speaker 6 (16:45):
I think Cat's okay, our little warrior here.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Yeah, I'm happy for you. I think it's great. I
think I think you're getting a great version of Jana.
She's done a lot of work on herself. She's been
through a lot of stuff, and I wish you both happily.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
Ever, Aft, thank you so much, Thank you Mark, thanks
for popping on.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Pleasures to meet you.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
My pleasure, pleasure to meet you. I hope we'll see
your own Bye. Mark gets you on the show frequently.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Talk talk football. We love you, Mark girls. Do you
have you guys?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Bye?
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Mark Girls, Do you have any last things you want
to say to Alan, I'm just glad we get to
keep Allen forever. I wrote that.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
When she sent the picture, I was like, you guys,
we get to keep Allen.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
I did because I love him. Yeah, it's wild though, right,
Like I.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
We have really can I just we have just really
put up with a lot of douchebags, and I just
am so thankful we have like a man in our
world now who's just like respectful and seize you for
who you are and like can handle his own. Like
my favorite thing about Alan is that Alan is such
a secure person in himself, so like he gets to
(18:08):
come in and like finally you get someone to like
step in and partner up with you instead of attaching
to and clinging to and like it just I can't.
I just love him so much.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Well, and I think, like, you know, I can go, Okay,
what's my part? I you know, in the past, like
I attached, I clinged, you know, for because I was
still had a lot of work I to do too.
So I think where we're at is we both did
the work and then we found each other. Yea, Yeah,
timing was perfect. Remember our little Christmas party Queendom. Yeah,
(18:44):
I'll never forget it. Oh my goodness, I did I did?
I have a video? I forget it, you guys, I
have a video saying I know this sounds crazy, but
I'm going to marry him. And we were all like
asking a million questions and you were just smiling. You're like,
I was just like, I know, I just know I'm
going to marry them. I know that was there was me.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
I was like, oh, she said she's gonna marry I
marry him, the hopeless romantic. We all we all had
our personalities then, like everyone I know.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Sarah's like, I mean all of you guys, Yeah, like,
how is this gonna work? Pamulan's like getting out the
globe and spending and I'm like, I know, I just
I don't know why or how or what, but I
will marry this man. And then I started googling what
a Scottish bridesmaid could look like and I really went
with it for a minute. Yeah, we have not discussed
(19:34):
those details yet, but.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Maybe next year, are you guys, you're gonna be one
of the brides that doesn't have any bridesmaids after all
this time?
Speaker 2 (19:40):
No, no, I'll have well TVD Queendom goes to the Kingdom, remember,
but in the UK. But also why GBD, Well, I
mean I want her to make your own decisions to
what the wedding looks like. Hey, we make decisions together,
I know, but she has allan Now we have to
start to like, it's fine, we have to start to
(20:01):
have let your girl go. You have to we're all
marry now. I do have one question, would you be
upset if the wedding wasn't in England or Scotland, or
like if I was like, we're doing it up in
the hills at Tennessee. I love it.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
I'm here for it. I just want I just want
you guys to be happy. I love you so much.
This has just been so fun for me.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Me too, But I love Scotland.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
Well, she's gonna have a vacation home there. I was
kind of counting that we'll go back and forth because.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
You don't realize you're marrying Queendom. He's already figured that out.
And I love the relationship that you have with Sarah
and Julie and Pam and Kristen obviously Catherine. It's it's cute.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
Yeah, that's all great, every one of them.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Any last words any last words, my love. Okay, I
love you, you accent. You're welcome wind owners all right,
We'll see you next week for another announcement.
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Jana Kramer
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