Work in Progress: Melanie Lynskey

Melanie Lynskey has viewers glued to their TVs with her on-screen work in Showtime's Emmy-nominated hit series, “Yellowjackets,” but she once thought the show would never get off the ground! 

The award-winning actress joins Sophia to discuss her ever-evolving career in Hollywood, women’s experiences in the industry, and why she thought nothing would come of “Yellowjackets!” She also opens up about overcoming her eating disorder, loving motherhood, why she goes to a psychic, and the deliciousness of being on a hit show in her 40s! 

Plus, Melanie revisits her time working with Kate Winslet on “Heavenly Creatures” 30 years ago, being obsessed with her hubby’s (Jason Ritter) show “Matlock,” and she and Sophia trade stories about meeting and fangirling over Megan Thee Stallion!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to Work in Progress. Hello friends,
we have a guest you have all been waiting for,
asking for, excited for. Today, we're joined by the iconic

(00:25):
Melanie Lynsky on the podcast Melanie has become an industry staple.
She has amassed a plethora of gorgeous, thought provoking roles
across film and television over the course of thirty years,
and we are all obsessed with her latest role starring
opposite Christina Ritchie in the ten time Emmy nominated Showtime

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series Yellowjackets. Soon, Melanie is leading a film called Pike
River opposite Robin Malcolm, directed by Robert Sarkis, which touches
on the profound impact of a disaster in New Zealand.
We recently got to fangirl her on HBO's critically acclaimed
The Last of Us, and today we're going to dig

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into what inspires her and motivates her as an artist,
a parent, a spouse, and the coolest girl any of
us knows. Let's dig in with Melanie Lynskey.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
Well, Hi, Hi, I'm so glad you're here, so thank
you for having me. Thanks so much to me, so
much to me.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
I feel like life is so crazy and since the pandemic,
no one hangs out, which is okay because everyone it's crazy,
But I'm like, sometimes I just have to figure out
a way to bamboozle people to come sit here, just.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
So I can squeeze you. Yeah, until I know. I know,
I feel the same Easton.

Speaker 1 (01:57):
This is obviously a side note, but like this, I've
known for so long. You're one of those people I
have that deep feeling with where I'm like, we never
are in the same place, so we don't really hang out.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
But I am convinced.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
And I don't mean this in the way that fans
say it to me, and I'm sure they say it
to you. I mean it in a real way where
I'm like, she's kind of my best friend, only I
don't know it, Like.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yeah, I feel the same way.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
I feel like if we hung out all the time,
you would know my you would just be one of
the first people i'd call. I don't see you a lot,
but you make me feel safe that way, like the
way my closest friends make me feel.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
That's the loveliest thing you could possibly say, And I
feel so the same. And it's funny and I felt
it from the moment I meet you. Yeah. I was
just like, oh yeah, I was like, oh hi, yeah,
yeah we where were we?

Speaker 1 (02:45):
You had that cute little house in like Eagle Rock
or an Achoo.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
Yeah, because we meet when you worked with Jimmy with
my ex husband. Yes. Yeah, you say that so gently
and kindly. I love that.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
I don't have the same feeling about mine. So well
done you.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
No, it's good. I'm glad my daughter's like fascinated with him.
Really yeah. I accidentally said 's husband in front of
her one day and she was like, oh mommy, and
she was like, did you kiss him? Oh my god?
I said yeah, I sure did a bunch of times.
Yeah I know. I was like, and I kissed other

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people too. It's good for her to know. I don't
want her to have the like well sure princes singular
princes fantasy, you know, like where she's like there's one
true love, like I can't stand it. Yeah. Oh how
old is she? No? Six? Wow?

Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah, so you're really in it. Yeah, it's it's really funny.
My partner has kids. Oh yeah, therefore and about to
be three. And I don't remember exactly what it was,
but it was something about you know, blenda family for us,
and her little best friend at school has two moms

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and one of the other kids at school has two dads,
and so everyone's you know, yeah, there's all these different families, and.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
To kids, it's so obvious.

Speaker 1 (04:12):
But someone said something in front of her about Oh
it was us. We were going to a wedding, and
she was like, but what's a wedding?

Speaker 2 (04:22):
And we were like, oh.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
How do you how do you explain to a four
year old what a wedding is? And we said, you know,
you know how people have mommies and daddies and yeah,
and usually you know, if you don't have two houses
with you know, two mommies and bonus parents and gigi's

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and mimmys and you know, big extended families, some people
just have two people they live with in a house.
And sometimes the mommy and daddy or the mommies or
the daddies are married.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
Yeah, you know, it's.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
And I'm like, how do you say it's a ceremony
that it gives you a tax break?

Speaker 2 (04:59):
Like, I don't know how to explain any of this
to a child. And so we showed her some pictures.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
From weddings and When we got home, we showed her
pictures of our friends who got married and they're like,
very cool elder lesbians in their sixties.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, this very cute wedding.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
And the immediate feedback was, wow, Auntie Cindy looks so pretty,
and Auntie Michelle looks so pretty, and.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
Wow, look at those look at the big trees.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
Because we were in Palm Springs. She's very into the
palm trees. And then she turns and goes, this looks fun,
and we said, yeah, weddings are fun, and she goes, Okay,
I'm gonna marry Ruby, who's her best friend at school.
We were like, so cute, Yes, sure.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
Absolutely, whatever you want. Oh my god, I overhood my daughter.
The other day, a babysitter who hasn't been with us
for a while was there and Kahi, my daughter, was like,
I have a crush on Levi and I'm going to
marry Levi. And her babysitter was like, oh, I thought
you had a crush on Ione, who was her best friend,
and she goes, well, she's my ex girlfriend, but we're

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still friends. So I heard Sophie just that laughing so much. Oh,
it's so fun. The stuff they say, oh my god,
she's my ex girlfriend. It's wild. You're like, where did
you learn I don't know.

Speaker 1 (06:15):
Well, maybe now she has context for yeah face two, Yeah, exactly.

Speaker 2 (06:20):
I love it. That's cute. But yeah to the kids,
kids are not like, wait, why are two women marrying
each other? They're just like, oh, yeah, They're like cool, Yeah,
these people are in love. Those people are in well
we are.

Speaker 1 (06:34):
Really we're jumping into kids and real present. But interestingly enough,
the place I love to start with people is connected
because so many people know you, especially you from the
iconic nature of your filmography, all the movies you've given
us and the shows you've given us, the treats you've

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given us as viewers. And I always think this question
is more interesting for people with you kids, because I
think about how an audience really meets you in your work,
and I wonder about who people were before they were known.
And if you got to kind of put a little
wrinkle in time and walk into the park and see

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yourself at your daughter's age, would you see yourself in her?
Like would you as an adult go oh there I
am yeah? And do you think you see that part
of yourself and your kid.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
I don't know that I do. I mean, I see
some of myself and my child, and I just got
emotional about it last night, so I'm probably gonna get
emotional again because I just she's a very deeply feeling
child and her need to express herself and say how

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she's feeling is so great, and she can't sit around
with an emotion. She drives her crazy. And I was
the same, Like I felt things very deeply, but I
didn't necessarily have like a safe place to get them out.
Like I'm the oldest of five, my household was very
busy a lot of the time, and I don't know.

(08:15):
It was just my husband and I were both with
our daughter and like holding her and listening to something
that she was like outraged about, and I was like, gosh,
this would have felt nice. I have two parents who
were just on your level. Just like, tell me about it,
tell me how that felt. I understand that you're angry.
I'm so sorry, you know, And I was like, God,

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that would have been amazing. And I think I love
the confidence that she has because of it. I love
the way she feels totally fine to talk about her
feelings and she understands who she is, and I just yeah,
so the little version of myself that never really felt

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like it was okay to do that. I think also though,
that's why I fell in love with acting when I
was so young. I was like, Oh, you're allowed. You
can get on the stage and be whoever you want
to be. You're allowed to be loud, You're allowed to
be loud, You're allowed to feel different things. I really
did understand the aspect of taking something from your own

(09:20):
life and channeling it into your work, even when I
was quite young. The catharsis of it, you know, and
I got kind of addicted to it, and so I
don't know if I would have necessarily found it to
be such an outlet for myself if I i'd been
allowed to express whatever.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
Right, Yeah, maybe if you hadn't been in that eldest
darter role, you wouldn't have found your art. Yeah, but
that's so interesting that you know, from not having had it,
how to give it to your kid.

Speaker 2 (09:53):
Yeah. Yeah, and I'd probably go a little overboard. But also,
is there any such thing as going overboard when it's
like listening to your child? I don't. I don't think so. Yeah,
because here's the thing, that I think.

Speaker 1 (10:09):
And it's not like there's some solution, right or some equation.
You know, we're not talking about math. But you know,
you mentioned she's six, You're not You're not over indulging
a twenty year old. Yeah, though, I hope when your

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kid is twenty you love listening to her.

Speaker 2 (10:32):
You know, hope she wants to talk to me about them,
of course.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
But it's like what I think about, especially when they're little,
is the more you can give them and the more
kindness you can show them, and the more you can
permit their feelings, the more you'll be able to help
them refine. Yeah, those feelings, and they're I feel like
we're the generation we're all our therapists talk to us

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about having a toolkit because clearly our parents didn't have any.
And it's like she will be more adept at using
her tools, yeah, sooner, because you've given her the space
to identify the feelings first and then eventually to start
learning what the tools are.

Speaker 2 (11:14):
I hope. So yeah, Like I remember she was like
eighteen months old or something and she fell down and
she started really crying, and there was a family member
there who was like, you're okay, you're okay, and it
was very hard for me to speak up, but I
was like, we actually don't know if she's okay, Like
that's not our body. So I never want to tell

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her she's okay. I want her to figure out when
she's okay. And you know, for a while, she would
really react every time she got hurt, even a little bit.
It was a bit like you are actually okay. But
I also was like, I'm going to let her figure
it out. And she's now much more resilient, like she'll
fall down and she'll be like, I'm okay. I want

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to tell someone that they're okay. Like it's such an
odd instinct for me and something that we just grew
up with, being like you're fine, you're fine, And then
it's like you start to lose track of your internal
compass that is telling you with it you're fine. I
just wanted her to be able to decide. I think
that's really beautiful. I think and listen.

Speaker 1 (12:25):
I can't pretend to know what it was for our parents,
but it really does seem like our generation of women
was very much raised to have everything be okay, as
long as everything was people pleasing and polite and overachieving
and you got good grades, and you made sure you
looked nice, and you made sure you took care of
everybody else.

Speaker 2 (12:43):
Yeah, very much.

Speaker 1 (12:45):
And to unlearn that, to learn that you're allowed to
be lowed, to learn that you're allowed to express feelings,
to learn that you're allowed to be angry, that it's human.

Speaker 2 (12:56):
Oh god, it's such a journey. Did did art help
you get there? Do you think maybe before you even knew? Yeah,
I guess so. But I always had trouble. It was
always the hardest thing for me to access. And I
think just because it's so ingrained in us as women

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like to not be angry. And I never felt like
it was justified. I never felt like the circumstances had
warranted it. You learned to push things down. You're like, well,
how did I play a part in this? You know,
also like codependent and all that stuff. But I went
to a place and did like five days straight of

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therapy after I broke up with Jimmy, because I was
going a little crazy, and so I did a very
intensive five days and one of the things I had
to do was just be angry. I had There were
like all these plastic like foam blocks and I had
to hit them with a baseball bat. And initially I

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think I was just like, oh, you know, like just
that seems fine, and my therapist was like encouraging me
to go a little further. And by the end of it,
she and I were both just weeping, Like she was
standing there weeping with me, because there were so many
years that were built up of things I never felt

(14:25):
like it was okay to be angry about. And I
realized like, oh, I'm scared that I'll start feeling angry
and then I'll just be better and angry forever. I
didn't understand letting it out and moving through it and
being a more healed and healthy person. Yeah, and so
that was the beginning of it. Wow, Yeah, it was great.

Speaker 1 (14:48):
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Speaker 2 (14:55):
I went through.

Speaker 1 (14:56):
Something similar leaving leaving a job and knowing that I
had to, but also being confused because we don't do
that in our industry, right, and we certainly don't do
that to protect ourselves. How dare you, ma'am?

Speaker 2 (15:13):
You know?

Speaker 1 (15:14):
And I went to a similar place. I did a
five day intensive and really had to start to figure
out how to process, and weirdly, the thing that helped
me begin to understand that I deserve to be angry
was when I finally started to share with some of
my closest people and they were so taken aback and

(15:37):
then so outraged, and I was like, oh, I mean
I felt like a baby because I was having something
mirrored and learning that that's how humans feel, and going, oh,
I'm allowed to feel this. And then it took me
years to work through some of that, as you said,

(15:59):
because there was a peer where I was like, am
I just going to be enraged forever?

Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (16:03):
But the weirdest thing is I had to learn that
actually falling in love with my anger like learning to
cultivate it and listen to it, and the way you
talk about listening to your daughter, I had to listen
to it. And when I loved it, it was like
years of armor fell off of me. I felt the

(16:25):
softest and most patient, but also solidly boundaried I'd ever
felt in my life. And I was like, is this
a thing people do?

Speaker 2 (16:36):
It's well, yeah, that's so beautiful. Do we just get
to do this? But I know it's funny sometimes how
it really does take someone else looking at you and
being like that is not okay. Yes for you to
go oh like I for about ten years, I had

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a very very restrictive eating disorder, and I was so
unkind to myself and I would eat like a certain
number of calories a day and if I went anything over,
I would grow up. I was never like a bingee
person or anything like that. It just was like very restrictive.
And I had a boyfriend when I was twenty one
and we were living together and kind of was like

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something's going on. And when I talked to him, I
shared it with people before and people had been like, oh,
I hate my body too, I haven't eating, you know.
And I cheered it with him, and I remember him
just looking at me and saying, that's so violent. And
I never thought. I was like oh, he said, I

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can't believe you've been doing that to yourself. And then
he just cried and he was like I'm so sorry,
You're so perfect, You're so beautiful, and it was this compassionate.
It shook me. I just was really like it changed
something like just to see somebody like witness it and
just say like that's not okay. And that was the

(18:09):
beginning of my recovery, which was pretty Yeah, I'm very
very grateful. Yeah, you sometimes do need somebody to.

Speaker 1 (18:20):
Yeah, someone mirroring you so honestly and authentically and from
a place of kindness. Yeah, not to minimize excuse you know,
it struck me earlier when you were saying like, oh, yeah,
all these sort of concessions that women get taught to make,
and you don't even realize how many you are making.

Speaker 2 (18:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (18:42):
I think something that happens to us a lot too,
to divest us from our anger is well, it could
have been worse. Yes, Oh yeah, that guy is a creep,
but he didn't fill in the blank. Yeah, this was terrible,
but you didn't fill in the blank. There's always a
couching of Well, it was unfortunate.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
But not awful. I sometimes awful things are just awful.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
Yeah, And in a way, this man who just had
never been taught to minimize his feelings, i'd bet didn't
minimize yours and so you could stop. Yeah, it wasn't like, oh, well,
you're trying to be an actress and all actresses are
on a diet or whatever gross disgusting thing they love
to tell us. When we were young. You know, the

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industry was so toxic and so icky, and I bet
there are so many women who were given.

Speaker 2 (19:33):
Well you're you're just strict with yourself. Oh, you're just
very disciplined.

Speaker 1 (19:36):
It's like, no, I'm being violent with myself. Actually, yeah,
that's a big shift. Yeah, when did that develop for you?
If you don't mind me asking about it, I never
want to.

Speaker 2 (19:49):
You know, like around early puberty. Okay, Like I already
was very I was like a very regular child. You know,
I don't think my mother would mind me saying she
has had issues with her eating, and I think, you know,
you see particular things being modeled and people not eating.
There was a lot of like weird food talk in

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our house. And you know, I already felt so self
conscious and so aware of what my body looked like
and not being like a stick thin little child, just
a normal, regular child. And then my body started changing
and I like freaked out. I just was like, how

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can this happen? I already was trying to make peace
with what it was, and I also felt very vulnerable.
And then I was reading some like teenage girls magazine
like Believe Me, and I was like, oh, this is
a great idea, like it just seemed like such an
quick click fix. Yeah, and then I yeah, it mostly

(20:55):
was just very very restrictive, which I was raised for,
you know. And yeah, the very long yeah, ten years
of just thinking also thinking about food so much. Yeah,
thinking about my body so much, looking at myself in
the mirror like as parts parts of a body, like

(21:19):
this part, that part, what's wrong with this? What's wrong
with that? And not taking myself in as a human being,
which also like breaks my heart, like I not do
this thing. But there are some mornings I look at
my daughter and I just think, oh my god, she's
so gorgeous. And I always say to her, I think

(21:40):
that you got more beautiful in the night, and she
like runs over to the mirror and she's like, ah,
I think I did. I look to herself. She's like, oh,
I think I did get more beautiful, and I'm like,
I think so. And then I have Jason, so I'm like,
do you think she got and he's like, oh, yeah,
I think.

Speaker 1 (21:56):
Like I just want her to know like that she's amazing.

Speaker 2 (21:59):
You're so beautiful, we were so perfect, And she's never
looked at herself with anything other than like love and
she's on these sex you know, the world is coming
for her. But I just remember just whittling myself down
and being so aware of all the things that were wrong,
and it was such an exhausting way to live and boring.

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And it was interesting because I was a little feminist,
Like I read so many I read everything. I had
read so much feminist literature, and I was very aware
of like the issues with body image and society and
you know, women's rights, and we were living in the
era of like third wave feminism. I felt very excited

(22:46):
about possibilities, and I still felt the need to make
myself smaller. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
Yeah, Sometimes I wonder though about that, how much you
can know and believe about the world and what the
world deserves, and what your friends deserve and what women deserve,
and somehow it won't.

Speaker 2 (23:09):
Settle for you.

Speaker 1 (23:10):
Yeah, yeah, I It took me a long time and
really wondering how. I had a moment where I woke
up and went, how is this my life to go?
How have I paid so much attention to everyone else's
well being and community well being and the well being

(23:32):
of a set and of friends and family and coworkers,
and all of which I love I don't want to
give that up. But why haven't I paid attention to mine?
How have I erased myself in my own spaces? And
I don't think we're taught to pour into ourselves. And
it really feels and I don't know maybe our parents

(23:54):
felt this way, but it really feels like our generation
of women wants to shift that for our kids. Yes,
like you really want this to be, you know, a
tipping point. Yeah, And maybe it's part of why there's
this crazy backlash against us, because they're like, oh god,
they've had a generation of access and they really want

(24:15):
to use it.

Speaker 2 (24:16):
And I'm like, yeah, yep, oh, it's we do absolutely
the reason. And then you see, you know in society
suddenly like being extremely thin is like becoming really fashionable
again and like well making yourself small yeah, And it's like,
oh that's interesting.

Speaker 1 (24:35):
Well it's interesting to me too when I think about this,
because I think about my favorite women to watch and
preparing for today, I.

Speaker 2 (24:42):
Was like, oh my god, how could I forgotten the.

Speaker 1 (24:45):
Two of my favorite women to watch made one of
their first movies together. You know, we were you were,
yes fifteen, oh when.

Speaker 2 (24:52):
You did Heavenly Creatures.

Speaker 1 (24:55):
Crazy and I think about especially these projects that you
and Kate Winslet have been doing, these conversations you've had
about women's experiences in this industry, the incredible bodies of
work you both have, and how somehow we're in a
moment where the whole industry is like, these women are

(25:16):
having their moments. Melanie Lensky's getting her due, Kate Winslet
has a show that finally deserves her, Like, yeah, you
guys have You've sprinkled magic dust on all of us.
And it's not lost on me that you did that
project together when you were in the midst of trying
to figure this all out for yourself, that both of
us you know, I don't know her personally, but she

(25:38):
shared many of these things.

Speaker 2 (25:40):
Yeah, it even.

Speaker 1 (25:42):
Feels like, oh, these incredible women are helming the most
successful projects and entertainment and really taking up their space.
And then you know, the sort of backlash to our
auton and liking ourselves seems to be so strong, and

(26:03):
I'm just like, no, yeah, this is my side of
the sesar.

Speaker 2 (26:09):
Yeah, me too. It's crazy to me. I'm just like,
oh no, we can't let go of it. We just can't. No,
I do have to say, Like when I worked with
Kate and I was fifteen and she was seventeen, I
was so in awe of her. I just adored her.

(26:29):
We had very like big sister little sister vibes, Like
I worshiped her, and we were very very close, like
best best best friends. And to watch her work and
to just see like she was the most beautiful woman.
I didn't know people could be that beautiful in real life.
Like I just was like, this is crazy. She just
looked she was so gorgeous. And then you know, she

(26:52):
went out in the world and she started working, and
it just felt like the natural order of things because
I was like, I've met like a genuine movie star,
and then she started to become a movie star. I
was like, that makes sense, that's what should happen. And
then to see I guess it was mostly after Titanic,
this crazy backlash that she had to endure and the

(27:15):
way people talked about her body. I felt like I
was living in an alternate reality. I was like, no,
but that, like it was so bizarre and people commenting
on her body and I was like, that's the most
beautiful woman I've ever seen. Don't talk about anybody like that,

(27:36):
But I just it felt like backwards world. Yeah, and
the fact that she had to endure that and she
did it with so much grace and so much care
for other women at a time when it was not
spoken about, people were not sitting around talking about body

(27:57):
image because nobody had different bodies and she didn't even
have a different bodies was tiny, but she was forced
into this position and she stepped into it so gracefully,
And I remember at the time being like so furious
on her behalf that she had to do that, but
also just an awe of the fact that she was
able to and she wanted to uplift other women. And

(28:18):
I knew it was a struggle for her. I knew
how she felt about her body was a struggle. And
I don't know. I wonder if she came to accept
herself more because she was put in a position of
lifting up other women and making other women feel seen.
But just like how difficult that was for her and
how unfair And at a moment where she was just

(28:41):
like stunning the world with her talent, and of course
people someone has to like take you down when you're
like literally on top of the world and then the
biggest movie of all times. Ione has to be like Ben,
this thing an invented thing, that's not even wrong with her.
And I don't know. I've just a lot of compassion

(29:02):
for what she had to go through. And she's still
doing that. She's still like such an incredible spokesperson for women.
It's really like, for all these years, it's pretty amaze.

Speaker 1 (29:14):
Yeah. Yeah, it's such an odd thing to be because
it does feel like they want to put you on
the pedestal just so they can enjoy.

Speaker 2 (29:21):
Knocking you off.

Speaker 1 (29:22):
Oh yeah, was the moment of making that film because
you all were so young and you know, hadn't quite
exploded out into the world of the industry yet. Did
did you know it would change things? Or did it
feel a bit like summer camp?

Speaker 2 (29:39):
It was my first job, so I just I couldn't
believe I was on a movie set and Kate was
like very professional, and she had been working for a
long time. It was her first movie, but she'd done
a lot of television and so she was really telling
me how things worked. And I remember her saying, like,
what are you going to spend your money on? It
wasn't very much money. When I back but like I

(30:02):
was like, I'm bent this money, and I realized like
she was thinking she was going to get another job,
she was going to I was like, this is it
for me, Like I'm going to keep this money in
a bank account to last me for the rest of
my life, which is so funny. But she was, you know,
thinking about like jobs in the future, and I it

(30:24):
was just I couldn't believe I was there. I felt
like I'd want to fan competition or something. Yeah, we'll
be back in just a minute.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
After a few words from our favorite sponsors.

Speaker 2 (30:39):
Well, so what happened next?

Speaker 1 (30:41):
Because you know your filmography is over one hundred titles long,
is it?

Speaker 2 (30:47):
Yes, Oh, it doesn't seem right.

Speaker 1 (30:49):
I was like, my goodness, gracious, it's a factoid that
I read and went grit.

Speaker 2 (30:55):
It's crazy.

Speaker 1 (30:56):
And you you have been part of such a conic
things through your career, and I've also heard you talk.

Speaker 2 (31:05):
About how.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
You know, it's it's been gorgeous and it never quite
did the globally explosive thing like this until Yellowjackets. But
you're like one of the most prolific successful actors ever,
how does that is it just hard to have it

(31:29):
sort of resonate the things you're doing, or is it
that actor's stress of every job you're wondering if you're
ever going to get another job.

Speaker 2 (31:35):
Yeah, it's that thing, okay. And I never had the
goal of being famous. I'm very shy, I'm I don't
like it. I'm very grateful now. I don't get recognized
very much, and when I do, somebody is very specific
and they know exactly it's either they know exactly where
they know me from when they have something very specific

(31:57):
to say, or as someone who's like, did you go
to such and such college? And if I didn't, they're
like like thrown off by the accent. So I can
kind of still move around and just be normal in
the world. I was always so afraid of not being
able to do that, you know, and I never sort
of being like a true famous person. It feels like

(32:19):
a prison. I agree. Yeah, yeah, So this has come
sort of like as close as I would ever want
to get, and it's very strange but also manageable. But
it's also so.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
Cool as a you know, as a fan of yours
and then as such a fan of the show to
watch what you ladies have built and to watch the
hunger for it, the reception of it, the excitement around
it for women who you know, when we were in

(32:58):
our twenties they were telling us. By the time we
were forty, we don't never work.

Speaker 2 (33:01):
Again, I know.

Speaker 1 (33:02):
And you're like, sorry, I'm just owning the hottest show
on TV at forty four.

Speaker 2 (33:05):
You're welcome. Is it sort of delicious? It's incredibly delicious,
so great, love it. I love it too, and I
just think there's so much opportunity. Like a very dear
friend of mine in New Zealand created a show She's
just Too sixty. She created a show that she's the
star of It just got nominated for a BAFTA for

(33:28):
Best International Show. It's called After the Party and now's
Robin Malcolm. Oh yeah, whenever it comes out here, it's
so so, so good and she's like sixy and great
and funny and she made it happen for herself and
it was everywhere it's eared, it's been huge. It's been
so popular because like there's a hunger for it. People

(33:49):
want to see stories about women who are not like
twenty five years old. No disrespect to twenty five year olds,
but you know, it's people want to stories about women
who are like themselves.

Speaker 1 (34:02):
Yes, And I want to see stories that aren't just
about high school.

Speaker 2 (34:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (34:06):
And I understand the irony of saying that as a
girl who got famous on a show about high school. Yeah,
but it can't just be that. And when I look
at our you know, small to overlapping large groups of friends,
we are all so much hotter, better looking, funnier and
more interesting than we were twenty years ago. And I
think twenty years ago we were pretty cute. I think

(34:27):
so too, but we're better now. Yeah, And I want this.
I want our world reflected well. And I want the
girls that are playing the high school girls now to
know like, we're here.

Speaker 2 (34:40):
We got you. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (34:41):
Oh yeah, I want that so much. What is it
like doing that sort of dance with yourselves and your
younger selves on the show, you know, because obviously you're
you're shooting in I would imagine different locations different at
different times. Do you get to spend much time I'm
with the alter ego? High school kids are not?

Speaker 2 (35:03):
Really, we try to. We try to see each other
whenever we can. Sophie and I are really close, and
my closest friend on the show was someone who played Lottie,
and hers is Court and you who plays Lottie. So
the four of us would get together a bit, which
is really cute and fun, sweet and a thing that

(35:26):
I found because I was very concerned with like being
an advocate for everybody, and I reached out and I
was like, if you need anything, I'll be your spokesperson
whatever you need. And they were all kind of like,
oh thanks. They were like that's so sweet. But they
did not need me at all. There's an agency that
they have that is just inherent in a way of

(35:49):
standing up for themselves that I love. I love it. Wow. Yeah,
nobody's like is it okay if I say this. They're
just like, well, I'm going to say something, and I
just I'm like, okay, you really don't need me. Do
you feel like you learn from them too? Yeah? Oh yeah,
very much.

Speaker 1 (36:09):
And I always wonder about this when you're on a
show that has just changed the zeitgeist in the way
that Yellowjackets has. Did you did you know when you
read the script? Did you think, oh, this is one
of the best things I've read in years, or was
it the sort of arc of season one? Like did
you have a clue before it came on and you

(36:31):
saw the reception or were you sort of taken with
it the way the audience was.

Speaker 2 (36:37):
I thought it was really good. Yeah, I thought the
pilot was so well written. I also had an infant,
and I was interested in being in half of a show.
I was so tired. I was like, that sounds great.
That sounds great.

Speaker 1 (36:52):
By the way, I agree, yeah, I'm like, how do
we do more of what you're doing? Oh?

Speaker 2 (36:57):
Please, They're like in half of the show with this
other timeline. I was like, I'm listening. Oh, but I
just thought the pilot was so good. I have no
idea how many people they offered it to before it
came to me, but I'm very but no, I know
that there were really Yeah, but I'm very grateful, thank
you to all those people who passed. I just was,

(37:19):
I'm I just loved it. I loved it so much,
and I was just like, yeah, this feels right. And
then we made the pilot. Everything felt great, and we
just heard nothing, not like good job, it looks great,
what nothing? We had absolutely nothing. And then it was
the pandemic and I was just like, well, I guess

(37:42):
nothing's happening with that. Then it seems like just like
nothing at all. And then I was on a call
with my psychic and all I wanted to talk about
was whether I was going to have another baby. And
she started to tell me that there was something going
to happen in my career. It because it didn't happen
when I was twenty five. I thought, well, that's never

(38:04):
gonna happen. Said that's coming, and you've already done a
bit of it, and I was like, I did a pilot,
but I don't think it's going. It's like, oh no,
that's it. It's going. Okay, Well I want this woman's fine,
I'll give you her phone number. She's amazing. I'm giving
her phone number to so many people. Now she's impossible
to get an appointment. Well, well it makes time for me,

(38:26):
but but yeah, it was absolutely so. I had that
kind of a hits up because she's never wrong. But
it didn't make any sense to me. I was just like,
I don't think so. I'm forty four years old. We've
heard not a word about this pilot. It's been nine months.
I think at that point, like nothing. It's so crazy.

Speaker 1 (38:46):
Yeah, and then what you got the call and they
said you need to move to Vancouver in three days later.

Speaker 2 (38:50):
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, in one month, please change entirely. Yeah exactly.
And your baby and the damn it. Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (39:02):
Wait, I have all these questions about your coworkers and
female rage and all these thoughts, and I'm like, hold on,
when did you start seeing a psychic? Tell me everything?

Speaker 2 (39:13):
Oh? My therapist I had a therapist was no, you
should talk to No. Yeah, I love this, I know,
and she's been very she's very healing, okay, because a
lot of people get very judgy about these things.

Speaker 1 (39:26):
And then there's also a part of me that things look,
there's so much we know. There's so much we know
we don't know about science and the universe, and we
know where this teeny tiny galaxy in this giant you know,
mcflurry of galaxies essentially, like there's so much out there
that we can't possibly understand. When I think about the
things we know that our grandparents didn't know, that doctors

(39:49):
didn't know. Yeah, I get excited about possibilities and energy,
and I think there are people who are tapped into
that A lot.

Speaker 2 (39:58):
Of us aren't. Yeah, but how do you.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
I mean, I'm sure there's a little bit of a
feeling of well, why not if my therapist says it
to me? But how did you make the leap to say, oh, forget,
I'm just going to book an appointment with us.

Speaker 2 (40:11):
I can can see what happens. I just was too curious.
She was a very unconventional therapist. She passed away a
few years ago. I'm sorry, but she did a lot
of weird I was in group therapy with her. That
was always a fun time. Was she your five day person?
She'd sent me the first time she met me, she
sent me to the five day place. Oh, I like her.

(40:31):
It's my kind of broad.

Speaker 3 (40:32):
It's not I don't feel like you're decision well, but
I don't feel like you'd say, lady like she feels
like abroad.

Speaker 2 (40:38):
She's abroad. She was broad like, she really was. She
really was. But yeah, the first time she met me,
she was like, you know where you have to go?
And she like called them and I was like, told
me for twenty minutes, are you sure? Like? But I
trusted it? Is it time? Yeah? Wow? It was very strange.

Speaker 1 (40:55):
And then how do you I'm so curious about this, how.

Speaker 2 (40:59):
Do you kind of mitigate the.

Speaker 1 (41:06):
Maybe maybe not that comes from a psychic Like people
will say it can be fun, take it with a
grain of salt it, but then I'm obsessed with things.
So how do you let it be additive and not
make you paranoid?

Speaker 2 (41:20):
I think because I talk to she's very good at
talking about energies, how to deal with particular people, the
types of energy that's going to be coming towards you.
Like if there's somebody you're having difficulties with, she can
tell you. Like there was one coworker I was kind

(41:41):
of like intimidated by years ago. She was like, just
sit there and say nothing. And I was like, that's
so rude, and she was like, it's not like he
needs a little space. I just couldn't figure it out.
I was like, I want to be friends with him,
but I'm sort of nervous, like, and she said, just
say absolutely nothing. Yeah, but I did. I just like

(42:01):
sat in the cast here and then one day he goes,
you know, I love you. Don't come in here going
oh blah blah blah blah feeling that you need to talk.
It just really like feels really calm, and I feel
like you're just waiting for the time to be right
and then we like we're still very dear friends. Wow,
Like she just knows I don't think. Yeah, she just

(42:22):
knows things about how people operate. So a lot of
it when I talk to her as that is just
you know, energy, or she can read the energy around
like a project that might come up and my god,
I'm excited. Yeah, how fun.

Speaker 1 (42:35):
It's very she's very fun and now for our sponsors.
So that's something I'm curious about because energy is important
on a project. I try to explain to people that
being cast on a show is essentially like having an
arranged marriage with fifteen to twenty five people.

Speaker 2 (42:57):
Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (42:58):
Yeah, because you have to be immediate family, you have
to have great chemistry, you have to somehow know how
to communicate with everyone, even though everyone communicates differently and
they're total strangers. Yeah, and they're going to ship you
off somewhere and you're going.

Speaker 2 (43:10):
To live together. Yeah. So true. It's like if you
had to marry everyone on Big Brother. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
It's confusing.

Speaker 2 (43:17):
Yeah, And.

Speaker 1 (43:20):
I'm really curious because you do. You've got these parallel
storylines on the show, and it's this big group of women,
and I do think we're in a different time where
we get to be additive to each other instead of
encouraged to behave like, oh, there's only room for one
of you, so compete, ladies. Yeah, how do you How

(43:40):
does it feel energetically with this big group of women
and then this sort of younger group of women that
you guys want to look out for, but who are
teaching you things too?

Speaker 2 (43:50):
Do you?

Speaker 1 (43:51):
Did you have to sort of sit down and go, Okay, guys,
I know we all come from the early aughts, absolute
nightmare of Hollywood, but we're going to be cool and
be friends. Or were you all just ready? I think
we were all ready. We were all very very grateful
for the job, which is a nice thing. And it

(44:12):
was also during COVID we couldn't really hang out very much,
so we would do you know, Marco Polo.

Speaker 2 (44:21):
I would leave each other, these Marco Polos. We were
just talking like and it would be at different times
like mine would be when my daughter had finally gone
to sleep, and Spring sitting next to her and bear
Juliet's were like roaming around the streets and the cameras
like over here somewhere, just like yeah, so anyway, you know,
and they were all Christina's were always driving. She was like,

(44:42):
I'm fine, I put the camera somewhere. They were all
like such like a microcosm of our personalities, but we
just witnessed each other like how each other's days were.
And then we just started talking about our families, our past,
like se really harassed us. You know, just every everything

(45:05):
came out and it was so bonding. And so then
by the time we were at work together, we're like sisters.
And also I'm grateful that we all wanted to do
that and trusted each other enough. And then you know,
I know, people have had arguments and it's never going

(45:27):
to be easy when there's a group of people who
are so close knit. But the younger cast is like
that too, they're so close. Yeah. Like at Samantha, who
plays young Misty, she had a baby shower during production
last season and everybody was there and it just was
like really a special time to see how well we
all knew each other. It was really special. What a

(45:50):
cool what a cool moment.

Speaker 1 (45:53):
I know, I don't know if you're allowed to tell us,
but you know, the data we have all the numbers,
including you know, your film A.

Speaker 2 (46:01):
Season three was the most watched season. Are we gonna
get a I don't know, so I want to know.
I know we're all a bit panicky. I can't. I mean, well,
we gotta call the psychic. Yeah, I'm scared to ask her.
I haven't told her for a few months.

Speaker 1 (46:19):
Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh. When you this is
gonna seem like a weird tangent. But my brain made
the connection, which was, well, it's kind of the inner knowing, right,
And then.

Speaker 2 (46:32):
I was like, oh, I wonder if that's how you
felt when you met Jason. And I was like, I realized.

Speaker 1 (46:36):
I was just gonna ask you, did you feel like
you just knew when you met Jason?

Speaker 2 (46:39):
And You're like, ma'am, what is this segue? But it
made sense. I understand the connection here, you know, yeah.

Speaker 1 (46:47):
Did it Did it feel very different to you, you
know when you guys.

Speaker 2 (46:55):
Met each other?

Speaker 1 (46:56):
Or was it because I know you did movie after
movie together. Did it a while for you to go,
oh my god, wait, is it.

Speaker 2 (47:02):
This guy that I know? Well? We on the first
movie was when we like got together, but we were
both very chaotic. We both had like just gone through
breakups like just and it was he I don't know,
everybody seemed kind of like background noise to me. I

(47:24):
just couldn't focus on anyone or anything. And it felt
so chaotic and like my husband moved out of the house,
like it was.

Speaker 1 (47:32):
Just well you yeah, because you were going through a divorce.

Speaker 2 (47:35):
Yeah, and it was so And it was even before
like the divorce. Jimmy and I took a long time
to sign divorce papers because it was just so depressing.
Every time we hung out, we were like, let's do
a nicktime. It just felt we didn't have It was
a very easy process, but just a signing no, I
get it. Oh yucky. I also think that's.

Speaker 1 (47:57):
Listen, that's adulthood. Nobody decides to get a divorce until
they've been on a torture train for a pretty long time. Yeah,
and when you say it's time and someone moves out
or you both move or whatever, that's a long time coming.

Speaker 2 (48:12):
And I don't know, well, and maybe it felt different
for you too.

Speaker 1 (48:16):
I'm like, maybe I'm projecting my experience and also the
experience of a bunch of my friends who weirdly went
through it and I did.

Speaker 2 (48:24):
Oh, that's interesting. It was a really weird summer.

Speaker 1 (48:26):
Speaking of I watched a video by a psychic who
said twenty twenty three was the year of the Great divorce,
Like nineteen twenty nine was the year of the Great Depression,
twenty twenty three was the year of the Great divorce.
And if you actually look at the records, I'm like,
I am a basic pitch that I got divorced in
twenty twenty three, so and everybody else but a we
survived it well. But I find it so interesting because

(48:49):
when you meet someone or reconnect with someone or whatever
it is in that absolute chaos, I think maybe it's
easy to think, oh, this is a sweet rebound moment
or a nice distraction whatever. You also maybe it's the
moment you need.

Speaker 2 (49:02):
The love of your life. I don't know. I mean
it ended up being, but if someone had come down
and that's the love of your life, I would have
been like, oh, I hope not. I don't he's not
doing very well. Like he was such a mess. So cute,
but he was like such a mess. I don't know.
I barely kind of noticed it, like I was like,

(49:24):
it seems sweet. I just had too much else going
on totally, And then one night he was like, you
know when I went through my breakup, Like one of
the things that was really great for me was like
kissing someone, like when you realize you can kiss someone.
And I was like, oh okay, like it just felt

(49:45):
so weird and kiss me. I know. I was like
what and he was like, I don't know, just nouse
you were wondering. I all thought that was like a
helpful thing. And I was like and then I realized, like,
well I'm free too. I guess it's like it feels
too soon, yeah, but all right, And so then that happened,

(50:07):
and then it was very weird. We could say like
I don't know, it's like the spirit of our daughter
or something, which sounds weird when you're talking about kissing
each other. But something something happened.

Speaker 1 (50:18):
You like felt something yeah, weird, something weird, just like oh,
let's say say like it was like kind of like
an oh no, it was sort of feeling oh god, yeah,
I'm not even going to get to have the sludy
rebound sex.

Speaker 2 (50:32):
I know, well there that goes. Yeah, it just was.
It was very I think also neither of us were
anywhere near ready for it, yeah, and I just didn't
want it. Yeah, but when it happens to you. It happens.

Speaker 1 (50:50):
Yeah, and it's weird because you know, things are so
clear in hindsight. Yeah, when I think about that, oh
my god, by the way, in the absolute chaos, being
like there could be no worse time, I know, realizing
that I loved my partner and being like, oh god,

(51:11):
I have there's no not trying to do this. Yeah,
I've given myself every reason not to, and now I'm
going to.

Speaker 2 (51:20):
I guess. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:22):
And I I had a not as not a spirit
of a wise six year old, but what I had
was like I felt like something passed through me, if
that makes sense, Like I took a deep breath in
a way I never had before.

Speaker 2 (51:39):
Oh that's interesting, and I went, uh oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:44):
But thank god because it was complicated and it was hard,
and I think if I hadn't had that feeling that
made me sit and be quiet.

Speaker 2 (51:54):
Like you've been on set with that man. Yeah, just wait.

Speaker 1 (51:57):
I was like, I'm just gonna sit in my chair
and I'm going to wait. And I don't know why, yeah,
because I probably should run, But what I'm gonna do
is I'm gonna sit here and I'm gonna wait. I
sat and I waited, and now I'm like, like, I'm
too old to say I know what's forever and what
the future holds. But I'm like, I've just I've never
I've never taken a deep.

Speaker 2 (52:13):
Breath like this, So yeah, it's nice. I Jason and
I were talking the other day and I was like,
everybody's boring. Like people are great. I love people. I
love meeting people, talking to people, but there's no like,
oh what that they like? You know, like, isn't it weird.

Speaker 1 (52:32):
When you're like I genuinely want to just hang out
at home all I.

Speaker 2 (52:35):
Want to do. I know, I mean, this is lovely,
it is. Do you know what I was about to
say is I'm like.

Speaker 1 (52:41):
What I would really love is for you too to
call or will come?

Speaker 2 (52:44):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (52:45):
Then on my head other people that are so happy
at home, I'm like, do you want to hang out.

Speaker 2 (52:49):
In my home? Or maybe we come to your exactly.

Speaker 1 (52:51):
It's just that, yeah, we have to do upset otherwise.

Speaker 2 (52:55):
I know, I feel great, Like it's wild.

Speaker 1 (52:58):
Okay, wait, I love knowing because I adore him and
you know I adore you, and oh my god, he's
just the most wonderful and I just think about you know,
we used to run around la and go to auditions
together when you were babies, and so it's like I
cherish him in that sweet childhood sort of energy.

Speaker 2 (53:19):
Yeah, but it's funny.

Speaker 1 (53:20):
To know that you were like not him and then
everything was a mess because on the internet, you guys
are a couple.

Speaker 2 (53:26):
You know, you're a.

Speaker 3 (53:27):
Couple goals, the hashtag we hate it, which is probably
so annoying, but it's also because it's really undeniable how
lovely you both are, and you're lovely together, and you're
just very genuine about all of it.

Speaker 1 (53:44):
I think how much you love each other and how
silly life is. How do you do you try to
ignore the Internet or does it amuse you?

Speaker 2 (53:55):
I think it amuses Jason. Jason is more like online
than I am. It sort of freaks me out a
little bit. It is funny because I think if him
from that period of time would see this, he would
be so shocked. He'd be like, what is happening? Who's
this guy like professing his love? Like he was really

(54:16):
trying to be like cool single guy. Yeah, I know,
I know it was really he did his best. Sweet
It was a real journey, Sweet baby, I know, sweet baby,
but we were in a couple's therapy like three weeks
after we met each other with the same therapist. Amazing. Yeah,
what did she say? In our first session? She figured

(54:38):
out that she was also seeing Jason and I was like, oh, well,
then I guess you can't be my therapist. She was like, ah,
like coming together, let's see what happens. So I was like, okay, okay,
you're you have no boundaries. Oh my god, I'm amazing.
So I love you.

Speaker 1 (54:56):
I wish my therapist had no boundaries. I keep trying
to get him to hang out with me hmm, and
he won't and I'm like, Trevor, you're married to a woman.
I'm dating a woman. It's so not weird, Like let's
all go to lunch. And he's like, no, it's not ethical,
and I'm like, but why. It's like we talk about
our partners all the time, and I want to, like

(55:17):
m I don't know. It feels weird that I don't
know her, and he's like, it's not weird for me.

Speaker 2 (55:21):
Stop stop, this is how it should bathe That is
more normal. I don't like it. That is more normal.
I mean, my therapist was like bringing a shaman in now,
and again I'm not mad at it. I think we
need the shaman for this issue.

Speaker 1 (55:34):
As deeply nerdy about science as I am, I'm also
really into the mystical. It's like yependulum really swings both
ways for me.

Speaker 2 (55:41):
Yeah, I'm very into the mystical. Like I like, we
moved a little while ago to a new house and
my organizer made this box that he said, and I'm
making a box that's going to be called mystic box.
And I was like, oh what. She was like, it's
for your mysticism items. And I was like, I don't
think I have. And then I was like, oh, my god,

(56:01):
many an item, so many and that many animals? Oh
my god in the tarot dicks and I have a
good one for you. Oh do you? Oh I'm excited. Okay, Oh,
I'm excited.

Speaker 1 (56:14):
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(56:38):
you like to be here and so present? And I
don't know, are you kind of in love with your
forties too.

Speaker 2 (56:47):
I am, I think like a big surprise, not surprise,
but like, if I'm being super honest, I love being
a mother so much, and so a big pad of
I think in my forties because I had my daughter
when I was forty one, and then I was like,
I just I want to do that again, and I
haven't been able to. So that's taken up a lot

(57:08):
of I guess I have not had as much appreciation
from my forties because I felt a little bit of
a ticking bock on this thing that I think I'm
starting to make peace with. That's the greatest kid in
the world. We just give everything to this little person. Yeah,

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So that's been the only kind of like about that.
But otherwise just feel I'm very grateful to be parenting
at this age, even though it's meant that another one
hasn't been able to happen, right, because I just I
know myself, I know her, I know her dad, I

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love her dad. Like it's not a relationship where we're
trying to figure things out or figure each other out.
It's very calm, right, and I just has been so
surprisingly wonderful.

Speaker 1 (58:02):
Yeah, Yeah, there's a I never like to say a
settled feeling, because I always feel like using that word
is so close to settling down or settling Yeah, you know,
but it's like an ease, like there's more of a
rest and how it feels maybe to be in this

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stage very very much.

Speaker 2 (58:27):
And I didn't think that was the thing I was
capable of. Like I remember that same boyfriend who helped
me through my eating disorder, we like went on a
vacation and I was sneaking away to the payphone to
call my agent because I knew it was like just relaxed,
it's not time for work, and I was like totally.
And then I'd be like, is anything coming? Like what

(58:47):
happened with that audition? Like I was so worried about
what snakes? What snakes? What's going to happen? Yeah, I
couldn't imagine. Even all through my thirties, I felt that
so much, like what's coming, how's it going to be received,
what's the next job? And you know, I know part
of that is being in a place where work has

(59:08):
been easy for the last few years, which I'm so
grateful for, but it's also just being happy. Yeah, and
when I go to work, I'm like, do I really
want to leave me? Do I really want to not
be able to volunteer at school for a few weeks
and not to drop off and not drive her home
and hear about her day and everyone who's annoying her

(59:29):
and everyone who she loves. You know, Oh, it's so crazy. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (59:36):
We had a biting incident with one of Ash's kids
not doing it having it done to them at school,
and I was like, what is this feeling?

Speaker 2 (59:45):
What is this rage?

Speaker 1 (59:46):
What is this like I will punt a small child
if they don't stop doing this ye to this kid
who is magic to me? Yeah, And I was like, wow,
this is And I called a lot my friends who
have little kids, and I was like, nobody told me
about like the defensive rage part. One of my girlfriends goes,
you know that adage about how mom could pick up

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a car.

Speaker 2 (01:00:09):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:00:09):
I was like, yep, ding ding ding, Yeah, understood, got it,
that's true.

Speaker 2 (01:00:15):
The angriest I've ever seen, Jason, I think, was we
were in Atlanta. My daughter like mad a little friend
on the playground. He was a boy. He was like
maybe eighteen months older than her, and he was maybe
four and a half. She was like three, and he
said to her, you just sit in the corner and
I'm going to be playing, and you just watch me playing.
And she was like, I'll play and he was like no, no, no,

(01:00:37):
you just watch and I'm going to be And so
she sat there and I was like and Jason was like,
get out. Like he was so he didn't like yell
at a child, but he like, he was like, come on,
get out of there, like, don't play with this kid.
And I was like, you gotta take it down a notch.
But he was so furious that anybody would like tell

(01:00:59):
her child to sit in a corner and just watch it.
She was like, he was like no.

Speaker 1 (01:01:04):
I was like, what a metaphor for the patriarchy, my god.
Truly on the topic of saving the world, if you
have to be stranded in the woods, and now this
can be person or character with one of your Yellow
Jackets castmates, like back to the Apocalypse question, who are
you picking to really help you survive or a character?

Speaker 2 (01:01:26):
Gosh, that'd all be very very good. I do feel
like Christina is very practical and she would be good
in an emergency. I think I like that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:42):
Yeah, if you could reboot any classic nineties film or
show and star in it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:47):
What would it be? It's really Oh, I shouldn't say
that my husband's on Metlock, but I like that, you
know what.

Speaker 1 (01:01:54):
I think of that as as more of a reimagine.
It's a reimagine, perhaps even a chapter two.

Speaker 2 (01:01:59):
Yeah, it's so different. It is. The Matlock is so
different and it's very fun and I am obsessed with it.
I am. Do you have an answer for this? It's
such a good question.

Speaker 1 (01:02:10):
I do, and I read the weird thing? Is it
hit me this week?

Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
Moonlighting? Oh, it's so good. Come on right, See my
favorite show when I was maybe like ten, that's not
quite the when was thirty something. That was my favorite show.
But I think that's late eighties. That's okay, it's close enough.
It was my favorite show. Oh, I lated it. And
I also really loved La Law. Oh my god. La

(01:02:38):
Law was so good. It's so good. Yeah, is there
a good like Flashy? We could be like sexy lawyers.
You know, I would like to play a lawyer. I
would too. I never get to do stuff like that.
Why I always have a car? I'm always like in
a plaid shirt or like because you was.

Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
So emotionally available as an that people are like, let
us see her, let us see the darkness, and you're like,
give me a.

Speaker 2 (01:03:05):
You want a power suit and a nice heel. I do.

Speaker 1 (01:03:10):
Put some shitty lawyer named Zach in his place.

Speaker 2 (01:03:13):
I never have to wear heels at look. Okay, never.

Speaker 1 (01:03:18):
Hollywood, Like, who do I address for this part? If
you're listening, Hollywood, we'd like to do a law show.

Speaker 2 (01:03:25):
Thank you, Yeah, and you should be on it. I
love it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:28):
Oh, my dad still can't believe I'm not a lawyer.
He's like you just He's like, you.

Speaker 2 (01:03:33):
Were made to argue on behalf of people. I'm like,
you're what You're not? Charles. What's a role?

Speaker 1 (01:03:39):
Well, this is always a funny question because I'm like,
this came from one of our producers who's never had
to audition for anything.

Speaker 2 (01:03:45):
What's the role that you turned down that you still
think about? Well, I was never in a position to
be like.

Speaker 1 (01:03:53):
When people say have to choose your roles, You're like,
I am auditioning a job.

Speaker 2 (01:03:58):
I will say it's been a long time since I
which I'm feel very grateful, which feels correct because I'm
bad at it. I hate it. I think it's a
separate skill.

Speaker 1 (01:04:09):
It is, and it's like, I'm never going to have
the experience I don't care who I'm reading with that
I'm going to have with you in a scene when
you surprise me with something you think or like it's
alchemy between two people and the audition is inherently hollow
because the other person isn't there. Yeah, thank you for
coming to my ted talk.

Speaker 2 (01:04:29):
Yeah, like a chemistry read I'm fine with same. Yeah,
but just an audition, and especially when they give you
like all the crying scenes.

Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
And it's like twelve pages by tomorrow, I know, my god, no,
thank you? Yeah, Okay, I think this is a long list.
But who has been the celebrity fan of yellow jackets
that's just tickled you the most or surprised you the most.

Speaker 2 (01:04:52):
Gosh, it's really nice that it's been received so well. God,
I actually don't know. I don't know why.

Speaker 1 (01:05:04):
In my brain I have this vision of Meryl streep
Oh telling you how much she loves yellow Jackets. I
don't know if it's happened.

Speaker 2 (01:05:11):
But happen it's not happened.

Speaker 1 (01:05:14):
Okay, Well, in my brain, that would be the really
fun one for you.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
That would be a really fun one. I think it's true.
I think it's true. I was at a Patty and
making the staalim. It was like I love you, and
I said I love you and she goes, no, you don't,
and I was like, I don't look that uncool, Like
yes I do. I was like, I really genuinely do.

(01:05:39):
She's so cool. It's so cool. The fact that you
said that, Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:05:42):
We're officially now the Megan the Stallion fan club means
I have to tell you what happened. So this past year,
Elton John does this big fundraiser during the Oscars to
raise money for the AIDS Foundation. I went, I turn
around and Megan the Stallion is eight inches from my face,
floating by in this.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
Like Marrigl dress. She's so beautiful, and I got she's
so beautiful, it's like crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:06:05):
I lost control of my physical body and gasped that
loud into her face and she turned and I went, sorry,
I love you, and she goes, oh my god, girl,
I love you.

Speaker 2 (01:06:15):
And I was like not possible. And she was like
what and her friend was like.

Speaker 1 (01:06:20):
No, she she really like she likes your show. And
I was like wait what And I was like, we
have to take a picture and nobody's gonna believe me
that this happened.

Speaker 2 (01:06:26):
And we took a picture, and then for the rest
of the night, I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:06:29):
Like, she's just really a nice lady who probably is
so nice to everyone who loves her and makes you
feel like she knows you and loves you. And I
saw her yesterday and I walked into.

Speaker 2 (01:06:39):
A room and she went Sylphia her girl. And I
was like, oh my god, she meant it. I'm telling
you that it's trick.

Speaker 1 (01:06:47):
She's she likes serialized television dramas and she mean, Okay,
she meant it.

Speaker 2 (01:06:51):
That's nice. She was very sweet. She's an icon. Yeah.
I could not have been more awkward. No, And then
I stood differ a minute, and then I was like,
can I get you a drink? She was like, okay,
there's no like buying, you know, you just get it.
I don't drink. I can't be you can get a drink.
She's fine, just like thanks though, and you're like cool.

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I don't know. I was such a nerdy kid, like
I don't know how.

Speaker 1 (01:07:17):
To I can't be in those rooms. I can't be
around famous people and my best friend it's horrible, and
my best friend goes to things with me, and she'll
be like, stop at your being so weird.

Speaker 2 (01:07:28):
You are also a famous person, And I'm like, not
like Megan the Stallion, like I can't.

Speaker 1 (01:07:33):
I don't know why suddenly I lose the ability to
be regular because I'm like, well, do I tell you
about all the things I know that you've done that
I think are great?

Speaker 2 (01:07:41):
Or is that awkward? So then do I not tell you? So?

Speaker 1 (01:07:43):
Then do I pretend that I don't know about you?
So I feel like I become the the like clown
car version of myself.

Speaker 2 (01:07:51):
Yeah, it's not a good look for me. I'm sure
it's very adorable. It's not. But but I know what
you mean, Like it's a really it's very hard to
know how to behave mm hmm hmm. Well, I can't
wait to just start running and hiding behind you at work.
Please please, thank God, more awkward, perfect, great come out

(01:08:17):
from behind me. You'll seem really collected, really cool.

Speaker 1 (01:08:22):
I just I'm gonna I'm going to take a page
from the psychic and just be quiet.

Speaker 2 (01:08:28):
It's so so weird, Like I've never felt more awkward
in my life.

Speaker 1 (01:08:34):
She's right, Well, yep, and now you're friends with this man? Yeah,
dying to know who it is, but I shan't ask
whilst the world is listening, My dear, My favorite thing
to ask people is and it can be personal or professional,
it can really be anything that comes to mind. But
right now, for you, in this lovely moment in your life,

(01:08:56):
what feels like you're working progress?

Speaker 2 (01:08:58):
Oh gosh, there's there's so much. I feel like I
still am learning to accept good things. It sounds a
bit silly, but I had to admit that to myself

(01:09:18):
the other day. Yeah, like, you don't have to sort
of struggle through something. You can ask for things to
be better. You don't have to be well, this is
like better than my wildest dreams. You know. It's just
allowing yourself to want good things and good people around you.

(01:09:41):
And like, I don't know, I just sort of it's
so hard for me to accept positive things happening that
there's a part of me that's like, well that's enough,
then that's good. Thank you so much. I had, and
then I was like, no, I want good things to
keep happening and I to multiply. Yeah, And so I

(01:10:01):
think it's that. And then also just every day with
my daughter, just trying to be a better parent to
her and learn more about her. I love it.

Speaker 1 (01:10:18):
I mean it's sort of interesting, right. You never want
her to feel like she had a finite amount of
good things.

Speaker 2 (01:10:24):
Oh no, So yeah, here's an interesting like reparenting of
yourself that happens. Yeah, it's kind of cool, it's amazing.
And I remember Sarah Paulson said that to me years ago,
who was one of my very wisest friends. And she
always like she would be a therapist if she wasn't

(01:10:46):
an actor. She just always has the most perfect thing.
And I remember being very anxious about doing something after
work or something like that, and feeling very guilty about
being away from my child. And she pointed out to
me that, you know, when you've had any kind of
like neglect is a big word, but you know you've

(01:11:07):
felt sort of things missing in your life, you can
really try to overcorrect with your kids. And she said,
you have to understand that like having your own time
and doing something for yourself is not neglect. It's very natural.
It's actually really good for her to see that. Yeah,
And I was like, oh, yeah, I am kind of

(01:11:28):
over correcting. And she doesn't want a parent who's just like, well,
I'm just going to be here with you whenever I'm
not actively working for the household. You know, she's seeing
her mom have a life. Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:11:39):
And the thing is the love you model with your
spouse will teach her. Yeah, love she sees you give
yourself will teach her. The love she sees between you
and your girlfriends, yeah, will teach her. And I think
it's really special to remember that. You know, if this
is neutral and and your upbringing felt like this much

(01:12:05):
was in the red, you don't want to go that
much farther into the green.

Speaker 2 (01:12:10):
You wanna you want to get like just on the
other side of the neutral. And yeah, so it's full
but easy.

Speaker 1 (01:12:18):
Yeah, And that's that's a really that's a beautiful observation.

Speaker 2 (01:12:23):
Me. Thank you for sharing, thank you for coming, Thank
you for having me.

Speaker 1 (01:12:28):
Lola.

Speaker 2 (01:12:29):
This is so fun. This is so fun.