May 9, 2025 • 7 mins
Our Chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey has advice for...
- Malcolm in Gainesville – My wife threw a pack of condoms at me because I stayed out till midnight this past Saturday. She said if I’m going to cheat, do it responsibly. She has serious baggage. We’ve been married 7 years. Will I have to deal with this forever?
- Sheila in Tulsa – My husband and I went to dinner with friends. I was trying to tell a story from our past and he shut me down and said I had no sense of humor so he should finish the story. I have ignored him since Friday. Why can’t he see how hurtful that was?
- Anna in Va Beach – Why are all of the good men smaller and less exciting in bed? I met a man that’s 6’4” and I had hoped he came with a lot of benefits, if you know what I mean. But, he did not and I don’t think I can keep dating him. How do I let him down easy?
- Ron in Valdosta – My wife goes for a walk most evenings after work. I rode by her on my way home and she had stopped to talk on her phone. When she got home, she swore that she wasn’t on the phone, she was singing. Why would she lie about what I saw?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time to ask the CLO Our chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey.
All right, this is from Malcolm in Gainesville, Colo. Malcolm writes,
my wife threw a pack of condoms at me because
I stayed out until midnight last Saturday. She said, if
I'm going to cheat, do it responsibly. She has serious baggage.
(00:20):
We've been married seven years. Will I have to deal
with this forever?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
She has serious baggage. I don't know what that means.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
I think you trying to lead us to think that
she's accusing me of something you haven't done because you
stayed out till midnight. You've got to deal with that. Yeah,
midnight coming to here, No. Twelve, you're fifteen. We don't
do that. So yeah, man, Now, if you haven't done anything,
(00:55):
then you have a problem. If you've done something and
she throwed it, I don't know, man, I don't know.
Y'all gotta talk through this because if you're really saying
you haven't done anything dog and she's just you know,
carrying some baggage from being cheated on before, that's gonna
be a problem. But I'm gonna have to sit down
and talk to somebody, go to some type of marital counseling,
(01:15):
or just sit down and just put a tracker on
your own phone and just say here, this is where
I'm at. I told y'all gonna be over stands house.
This is why I was. You know you could do that.
I don't know, but that's all I got for you.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Brother. But she threw a pack of condoms at them. Wow, okay,
Moving on to Sheila and Tulsa.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Me, now, if you throw a pack of condoms at me,
I've considered that consent.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I'm using all of them, but three or the twelve?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
All right?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I know it's way t am I all right. Moving
on to Sheila and Tulsa. She the writes, my husband
and I went to dinner with friends. I was trying
to tell a story from our past, and he shut
me down and said I had no sense of humor,
so he should finish the story. I have ignored him
since Friday. Why can't he see how hurtful that was?
(02:15):
He's not talking to him at all.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
My wife can't tell a story either, dog. I know
exactly where you are.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You, But have you shut her down and said she
has no sense of humor?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
No, I didn't think so.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
And listen to that disorganized story, and she'd.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Be laughing the whole time.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
She'd be telling it, and people like her cause she's
so nice, so they'd be just going with it. I'll
be going, oh, lord, that ain't the order this goal
you left us out.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Ooh, that ain't gonna be funny without this information. You
left out a.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Man, you're a professional storytelling you the can't Yeah, so you.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Know it's kind of hard, but no, I've never should
utter down.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah, I've tapped on to the table trying to get
her to speed it up a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
She don't even know what that.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Means, wrap this up, read the room.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
But but she wants to know. She wants to know.
Why can't her husband see how hurtful that was to her?
For him doing that in front of all those people, Well.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
It was either hurt you or watch the hurt on
their face suffer.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
From the audience is more important.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Sacrifice of one for the good of them. All know that.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
But it's silent in that house though she's not talking
to him.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, well he probably probably won't do it again. Yeah,
all right, ju, what's matter with you today? We got
a clo problem going on right here. On the show.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Jus, what's wrong with you today?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
No, I'm Mary. That's it what I thought.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Okay, let's go, okay, moving on, got it exactly, question
a quick answer?
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Got it?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Moving on to Anna and Virginia Beach. Anna writes, why
are all the good men smaller and less exciting? In bed?
I met a man that's six' four AND i hoped
he came with a lot of, benefits if you know
WHAT i. Mean but he did, not AND i don't
THINK i can keep dating. Him how DO i let
him down? Easily? Easy you know? What?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Lady you know? What lady? Lady why are all the
men that's good man? Small down?
Speaker 3 (04:37):
There have you ever thought that maybe you should reduce
your test?
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Pool what you.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Should narrow down your scope of test? Pool you're trying too?
Much what about? You what about? You what about?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Us this is not about, Ours it's about the men
in her? Life, no know?
Speaker 2 (05:00):
What what are her redeeming?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
QUALITIES i get tired of people calling in and talking
about a.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Man can't do this in bed and can't do? That
what do you? Do?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Well, well that's not her, Question but that's not her,
question her, question that's my.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Question answer her question with us see l oh chief
love author see and all.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
The time is not the? Guys you know, what?
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Ma'am maybe you just too dog gone. Experienced maybe you
don't done way too, much you didn't done the?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Most now can't nobody keep up with?
Speaker 3 (05:43):
You?
Speaker 4 (05:43):
Now you?
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Mad?
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Okay can you answer her? Question Though i've answered the?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Question maybe you too? Much you know?
Speaker 3 (05:50):
What if you can't find nobody to satisfy, you then
can you quench the? Thirst are you satisfyabol or have
you done so much that can't nobody live up to
what you? Need?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
No not for? Real why are good men smaller and
less exciting in?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Bed and you're gonna pass up on a good man
because he ain't exciting in?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Bed now you're exciting in? Bed but you might not
be a good. Woman, hello oh, man you know that
can happen.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Too she doesn't think she can keep dating, him feel.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Oh, Okay well leave him and move on to the
next one like you've done time and time again. Before
but you're gonna Keep you're gonna quit passing up on
these good. Men men are, trainable you. Know But i'm
gonna tell you something right. Now we don't care how
good you do? It why we will.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Leave you Over we will leave, you.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Will leave.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
You there'll be another you in a, minute.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
In a quick.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Minute, yeah you'll be over there by yourself.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Again this is From ron In. Valdosta ron And valdosta,
says my wife goes for a walk most evenings after.
WORK i rode by her on my way, home and
she had stopped to talk on her. Phone when she got,
home she swore she wasn't on the. Phone she was.
Singing why would she lie about WHAT i? Saw wouldn't
(07:26):
you she ain't been.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Saying if you stop to talk to a girl when
you tell her you were, singing.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
She's just, walking all? Right, there you have it all.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Right lucky you didn't ask, me Because i'd have told
you how to. BE i was.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Praised you're listening hard morning show
Time to ask the CLO Our chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey.
All right, this is from Malcolm in Gainesville, Colo. Malcolm writes,
my wife threw a pack of condoms at me because
I stayed out until midnight last Saturday. She said, if
I'm going to cheat, do it responsibly. She has serious baggage.
(00:20):
We've been married seven years. Will I have to deal
with this forever?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
She has serious baggage. I don't know what that means.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
I think you trying to lead us to think that
she's accusing me of something you haven't done because you
stayed out till midnight. You've got to deal with that. Yeah,
midnight coming to here, No. Twelve, you're fifteen. We don't
do that. So yeah, man, Now, if you haven't done anything,
(00:55):
then you have a problem. If you've done something and
she throwed it, I don't know, man, I don't know.
Y'all gotta talk through this because if you're really saying
you haven't done anything dog and she's just you know,
carrying some baggage from being cheated on before, that's gonna
be a problem. But I'm gonna have to sit down
and talk to somebody, go to some type of marital counseling,
(01:15):
or just sit down and just put a tracker on
your own phone and just say here, this is where
I'm at. I told y'all gonna be over stands house.
This is why I was. You know you could do that.
I don't know, but that's all I got for you.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Brother. But she threw a pack of condoms at them. Wow, okay,
Moving on to Sheila and Tulsa.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Me, now, if you throw a pack of condoms at me,
I've considered that consent.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I'm using all of them, but three or the twelve?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
All right?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I know it's way t am I all right. Moving
on to Sheila and Tulsa. She the writes, my husband
and I went to dinner with friends. I was trying
to tell a story from our past, and he shut
me down and said I had no sense of humor,
so he should finish the story. I have ignored him
since Friday. Why can't he see how hurtful that was?
(02:15):
He's not talking to him at all.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
My wife can't tell a story either, dog. I know
exactly where you are.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You, But have you shut her down and said she
has no sense of humor?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
No, I didn't think so.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
And listen to that disorganized story, and she'd.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Be laughing the whole time.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
She'd be telling it, and people like her cause she's
so nice, so they'd be just going with it. I'll
be going, oh, lord, that ain't the order this goal
you left us out.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Ooh, that ain't gonna be funny without this information. You
left out a.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Man, you're a professional storytelling you the can't Yeah, so you.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Know it's kind of hard, but no, I've never should
utter down.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah, I've tapped on to the table trying to get
her to speed it up a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
She don't even know what that.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Means, wrap this up, read the room.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
But but she wants to know. She wants to know.
Why can't her husband see how hurtful that was to her?
For him doing that in front of all those people, Well.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
It was either hurt you or watch the hurt on
their face suffer.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
From the audience is more important.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Sacrifice of one for the good of them. All know that.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
But it's silent in that house though she's not talking
to him.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, well he probably probably won't do it again. Yeah,
all right, ju, what's matter with you today? We got
a clo problem going on right here. On the show.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Jus, what's wrong with you today?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
No, I'm Mary. That's it what I thought.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Okay, let's go, okay, moving on, got it exactly, question
a quick answer?
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Got it?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Moving on to Anna and Virginia Beach. Anna writes, why
are all the good men smaller and less exciting? In bed?
I met a man that's six' four AND i hoped
he came with a lot of, benefits if you know
WHAT i. Mean but he did, not AND i don't
THINK i can keep dating. Him how DO i let
him down? Easily? Easy you know? What?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Lady you know? What lady? Lady why are all the
men that's good man? Small down?
Speaker 3 (04:37):
There have you ever thought that maybe you should reduce
your test?
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Pool what you.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Should narrow down your scope of test? Pool you're trying too?
Much what about? You what about? You what about?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Us this is not about, Ours it's about the men
in her? Life, no know?
Speaker 2 (05:00):
What what are her redeeming?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
QUALITIES i get tired of people calling in and talking
about a.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Man can't do this in bed and can't do? That
what do you? Do?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Well, well that's not her, Question but that's not her,
question her, question that's my.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Question answer her question with us see l oh chief
love author see and all.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
The time is not the? Guys you know, what?
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Ma'am maybe you just too dog gone. Experienced maybe you
don't done way too, much you didn't done the?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Most now can't nobody keep up with?
Speaker 3 (05:43):
You?
Speaker 4 (05:43):
Now you?
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Mad?
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Okay can you answer her? Question Though i've answered the?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Question maybe you too? Much you know?
Speaker 3 (05:50):
What if you can't find nobody to satisfy, you then
can you quench the? Thirst are you satisfyabol or have
you done so much that can't nobody live up to
what you? Need?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
No not for? Real why are good men smaller and
less exciting in?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Bed and you're gonna pass up on a good man
because he ain't exciting in?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Bed now you're exciting in? Bed but you might not
be a good. Woman, hello oh, man you know that
can happen.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Too she doesn't think she can keep dating, him feel.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Oh, Okay well leave him and move on to the
next one like you've done time and time again. Before
but you're gonna Keep you're gonna quit passing up on
these good. Men men are, trainable you. Know But i'm
gonna tell you something right. Now we don't care how
good you do? It why we will.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Leave you Over we will leave, you.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Will leave.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
You there'll be another you in a, minute.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
In a quick.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Minute, yeah you'll be over there by yourself.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Again this is From ron In. Valdosta ron And valdosta,
says my wife goes for a walk most evenings after.
WORK i rode by her on my way, home and
she had stopped to talk on her. Phone when she got,
home she swore she wasn't on the. Phone she was.
Singing why would she lie about WHAT i? Saw wouldn't
(07:26):
you she ain't been.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Saying if you stop to talk to a girl when
you tell her you were, singing.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
She's just, walking all? Right, there you have it all.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Right lucky you didn't ask, me Because i'd have told
you how to. BE i was.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
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