July 10, 2024 • 7 mins
Divorced man gets intimate with single mother and has a problem with her kid. Who gets to set the boundaries?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, now, Steve, time for us to clo chief
love officer in the building. This one is from Harold
and Newark, New Jersey. Harold writes, I'm a thirty nine
year old divorced man dating a thirty three year old
single mother. We started being intimate recently and it's the
best I've had in a long time. The only problem
is the only problem I have is her six year
(00:23):
old son that she brings on all of our dates.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Now.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I like her son, and I don't mind him tagging
along at times, but not always. I have offered to
pay for a sitter, but she doesn't trust anyone because
of COVID. We have offered to we have to sneak
around the house to have sex because her child has
no boundaries. It's been a year, so can I set
the boundaries?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Well, you're going to have to talk to her about it.
I think you're going to have to bring up the
subject about it that you know, because now one thing
about it? Did children come with the women? So they ain't? No.
I appreciate you offering for a babysitter, but because of COVID,
she don't want to do it. So understandable, understandable but
(01:09):
you're gonna have to bring up the subject and y'all
gonna have to find something to work through this. I
don't know if she has a relatives she trust or
something like this. All what you can do is you
can order rapid COVID tests now, and you can test
your babysitter or your loved one and leave them with
the child. You got to do something because you can't.
(01:29):
The relationship won't flourish without private time. Hard to build it.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Well, women you were dating with kids brought their kids.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Brought everything has happened to me. So how do I
want to talk about it? Is because we'll be faced
with I had so muchs ago in my ragged ass.
That's why I don't think I'll ever tell the real
Steve Harvey story. I'm just gonna just leave mine. Everybody
(02:01):
don't need a bowel pic and I just think I'm
just one of them. People need to just let it go.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Wherever he came out with one.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I'm gonna have to cause it's gonna be corny because
I'm gonna have to lead Alli. I'm gonna have to
lead too much stuff out, man, and then I'm old, Yeah,
and then I'm old so you know you can't like,
you know, my medical records at for a city got
burned down when the hotel got burned down with no
damn computers. Oh man, so anything fifteen? I ain't even
(02:33):
here what happened? Also, all right, all my medical records
is go. They can't find dental charge nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
We're moving on.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Coleman in Peoria, Illinois says I'm a happily married man
and I continue to work Monday through Thursday. One of
my wife's closest friends is my coworker, and she's working
the same hours and days as I do.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Now.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
We talked about are pulling in alternating weeks when we
would drive and talk to my.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Wife about it, and she forbid me to do it.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
She said her friend should have come to her and
asked for permission. It has created friction in their friendship,
and I don't understand what my wife's problem is.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
What's wrong with sharing our ride to work?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Boy?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Are you stupid?
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Sir? Sir, you've formed a friendship with your wife's closest friend.
Y'all is set up and contrived. Y'all gonna start riding
to work together. We know what you're doing, though, but
ain't nobody come to the wife and your girlfriend should
(03:43):
have came. Her girlfriend should have came and said something
to it. Now, it's creating friction between you and why
you think that is though.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
He has no idea what his wife's problem is.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
That's so dog, So dog, let me ask you a question.
You and your your wife and your best free and
work together. Then your wife come home and go. Hey,
me and Harold go start riding and work together. Huh Okay,
you know what, Harold? Yeah, see how you like that? Yeah,
(04:22):
that's all you got to do. Bro, all right, sure,
all right.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Candy and Memphis says, my son's father got married in January,
but we still mess around whenever he's had too much
to drink. I like to think he still has feelings
for me, but I know it's the vodka. What bothers
me is that my son has seen him in my
bed overnight, and it could be confusing for him. He
has not met his daddy's wife yet, so he's only
(04:46):
seen me with his daddy. He's four years old, and
he's going to be confused by all of this. Is
it his daddy's job to explain to our son why
he's still sleeping over at our house or mine.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I don't see how to this is a problem that
you would write me and surely about.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I really love that.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
I don't really give a damn I really done. You know. See, seriously, sisters,
you want to think that he still has feelings for you,
but you know it's only when he been drinking. Let's
not blame the alcohol for every damn thing. Maybe he's
still seeing you because you want him to see you
(05:27):
and you let him sleep with you. What difference do
it make? Who explain it to the four yeo when
both y'all dead wrong? So what is the conversation gonna
be about? Because the four year old ain't met his
new wife yet? And you know that live that little
that little boy gonna say something one time when he
(05:48):
do it, you ain't my mama.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
And it is confusing for the four year old.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Yeah, you're damn right, and it's gonna be so confusion
that he gonna see clarity from everybody involved. You, her
husband and a new wife. And you know this. So
stop playing this game because you know what you're doing, right,
that's right. You want him to be confused, hell, because
you confused.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, it's confusing to us well, and we couldn't grown. Yeah,
all right.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Sean in Los Angeles says, I'm forty years old and
my wife and I have been married for three years.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
She's forty two.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
She has two children from her second marriage, and I
have one son from my first marriage. I recently met
her first husband. He wished me luck because he said
I married a cheater. He said they were married four
months she cheated, so he divorced her. I have no
way of knowing if he's a liar or if this
is true. Should I ask her about it or let
it go?
Speaker 3 (06:50):
What kind of conversation you have is with her ex
about your current No, he's shady and you shady. I
wish you would come on me and say something like that,
knock your ass out, knock your mucket ass.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Right, all I, Seelo, we gotta go. Thank you for that.
You're listening to The Hardy Morning Show.
All right, now, Steve, time for us to clo chief
love officer in the building. This one is from Harold
and Newark, New Jersey. Harold writes, I'm a thirty nine
year old divorced man dating a thirty three year old
single mother. We started being intimate recently and it's the
best I've had in a long time. The only problem
is the only problem I have is her six year
(00:23):
old son that she brings on all of our dates.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Now.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I like her son, and I don't mind him tagging
along at times, but not always. I have offered to
pay for a sitter, but she doesn't trust anyone because
of COVID. We have offered to we have to sneak
around the house to have sex because her child has
no boundaries. It's been a year, so can I set
the boundaries?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Well, you're going to have to talk to her about it.
I think you're going to have to bring up the
subject about it that you know, because now one thing
about it? Did children come with the women? So they ain't? No.
I appreciate you offering for a babysitter, but because of COVID,
she don't want to do it. So understandable, understandable but
(01:09):
you're gonna have to bring up the subject and y'all
gonna have to find something to work through this. I
don't know if she has a relatives she trust or
something like this. All what you can do is you
can order rapid COVID tests now, and you can test
your babysitter or your loved one and leave them with
the child. You got to do something because you can't.
(01:29):
The relationship won't flourish without private time. Hard to build it.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Well, women you were dating with kids brought their kids.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Brought everything has happened to me. So how do I
want to talk about it? Is because we'll be faced
with I had so muchs ago in my ragged ass.
That's why I don't think I'll ever tell the real
Steve Harvey story. I'm just gonna just leave mine. Everybody
(02:01):
don't need a bowel pic and I just think I'm
just one of them. People need to just let it go.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Wherever he came out with one.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I'm gonna have to cause it's gonna be corny because
I'm gonna have to lead Alli. I'm gonna have to
lead too much stuff out, man, and then I'm old, Yeah,
and then I'm old so you know you can't like,
you know, my medical records at for a city got
burned down when the hotel got burned down with no
damn computers. Oh man, so anything fifteen? I ain't even
(02:33):
here what happened? Also, all right, all my medical records
is go. They can't find dental charge nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
We're moving on.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Coleman in Peoria, Illinois says I'm a happily married man
and I continue to work Monday through Thursday. One of
my wife's closest friends is my coworker, and she's working
the same hours and days as I do.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Now.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
We talked about are pulling in alternating weeks when we
would drive and talk to my.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Wife about it, and she forbid me to do it.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
She said her friend should have come to her and
asked for permission. It has created friction in their friendship,
and I don't understand what my wife's problem is.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
What's wrong with sharing our ride to work?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Boy?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Are you stupid?
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Sir? Sir, you've formed a friendship with your wife's closest friend.
Y'all is set up and contrived. Y'all gonna start riding
to work together. We know what you're doing, though, but
ain't nobody come to the wife and your girlfriend should
(03:43):
have came. Her girlfriend should have came and said something
to it. Now, it's creating friction between you and why
you think that is though.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
He has no idea what his wife's problem is.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
That's so dog, So dog, let me ask you a question.
You and your your wife and your best free and
work together. Then your wife come home and go. Hey,
me and Harold go start riding and work together. Huh Okay,
you know what, Harold? Yeah, see how you like that? Yeah,
(04:22):
that's all you got to do. Bro, all right, sure,
all right.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Candy and Memphis says, my son's father got married in January,
but we still mess around whenever he's had too much
to drink. I like to think he still has feelings
for me, but I know it's the vodka. What bothers
me is that my son has seen him in my
bed overnight, and it could be confusing for him. He
has not met his daddy's wife yet, so he's only
(04:46):
seen me with his daddy. He's four years old, and
he's going to be confused by all of this. Is
it his daddy's job to explain to our son why
he's still sleeping over at our house or mine.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I don't see how to this is a problem that
you would write me and surely about.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I really love that.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
I don't really give a damn I really done. You know. See, seriously, sisters,
you want to think that he still has feelings for you,
but you know it's only when he been drinking. Let's
not blame the alcohol for every damn thing. Maybe he's
still seeing you because you want him to see you
(05:27):
and you let him sleep with you. What difference do
it make? Who explain it to the four yeo when
both y'all dead wrong? So what is the conversation gonna
be about? Because the four year old ain't met his
new wife yet? And you know that live that little
that little boy gonna say something one time when he
(05:48):
do it, you ain't my mama.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
And it is confusing for the four year old.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Yeah, you're damn right, and it's gonna be so confusion
that he gonna see clarity from everybody involved. You, her
husband and a new wife. And you know this. So
stop playing this game because you know what you're doing, right,
that's right. You want him to be confused, hell, because
you confused.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, it's confusing to us well, and we couldn't grown. Yeah,
all right.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Sean in Los Angeles says, I'm forty years old and
my wife and I have been married for three years.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
She's forty two.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
She has two children from her second marriage, and I
have one son from my first marriage. I recently met
her first husband. He wished me luck because he said
I married a cheater. He said they were married four
months she cheated, so he divorced her. I have no
way of knowing if he's a liar or if this
is true. Should I ask her about it or let
it go?
Speaker 3 (06:50):
What kind of conversation you have is with her ex
about your current No, he's shady and you shady. I
wish you would come on me and say something like that,
knock your ass out, knock your mucket ass.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Right, all I, Seelo, we gotta go. Thank you for that.
You're listening to The Hardy Morning Show.
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