Can Men And Women Be Friends?

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Here's a question for you, guys. Is your partner your
best friend? Were you friends before you became romantic? How
are you?

Speaker 2 (00:12):
You know?

Speaker 1 (00:12):
It seems, despite the popularity of dating apps, most relationships
start the old fashioned way.

Speaker 2 (00:18):
That's right.

Speaker 1 (00:18):
Most of them do with people who are friends first.
In fact, researchers have found that sixty six sixty six
percent of people were platonic friends with their partner before
starting a romantic relationship.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
So, Steve, I gotta go to you.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
Do you believe there are benefits to being friends with
someone before you date them?

Speaker 3 (00:42):
I mean, it is. It's not necessary, right, but it is,
But it's not necessary. And a lot of relationships start
the other way first, they get physical before they're good friends.

Speaker 4 (00:57):
Yeah, and.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
I'm right right now I'm married to my best friend
because I ain't got nothing.

Speaker 4 (01:08):
You ain't got no what.

Speaker 3 (01:10):
I ain't got no real friends, No, you know I ain't.
I don't really have no dudes I share everything with.
I just don't. I've grown out of that space.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
I want to ask you this because this is always
puzzled with me. What about people who are friends? They're really,
really good friends. We have a lot of strawberry letters
about this. They're really good friends, and then they try
to be romantic and it doesn't work out and the
friendship gets all weird after that.

Speaker 3 (01:38):
You know, look, look, look, look, look, I said a
hundred times. I'm not gonna stop saying, if a man
is attracted to you, it's hard for him to stay
your friends.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
Right, you said that all about it.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
I don't know how, I don't and I don't know
why we keep debating this thing. If a man is
attracted to you, it's gonna be really hard for him
to stay your friend. It's really hard. So let's just notice.
If you know that you're attractive to this guy and

(02:11):
y'all just friends, it's just until you see a crack
in the door.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah, okay, A physical friend and physical friends. What a
physical friend like a friend with benefits.

Speaker 5 (02:23):
About We're gonna be physical, but we're gonna be friends,
you know what I'm saying. That's not a physical friend.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
That's a kind of relations that's a friends with benefit type.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
That's a sexual relationship.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
Call it what you want to call it.

Speaker 3 (02:38):
It's a sexual relationship, and eventually feelings on one one
of the parts it's gonna get it.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
Usually the woman usually the woman exactly, Yeah, you love that.

Speaker 1 (02:52):
Man.

Speaker 4 (02:53):
Ain't nobody sign up for love? It's supposed to be
just a nice.

Speaker 2 (02:56):
Physical says the host, Are Ready to Love?

Speaker 1 (03:05):
Radio Tommy and TV Tommy, I got you, I got you.

Speaker 4 (03:15):
You ain't all the way crazy, Tommy, Far from it.

Speaker 1 (03:19):
So Steve, it is still your contention that men and
women it's hard for them to be friends without being physical.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
That is that what you're saying.

Speaker 3 (03:27):
If the man is attracted to you, I've never seen what?

Speaker 2 (03:34):
How what.

Speaker 4 (03:37):
That's that?

Speaker 5 (03:38):
So then the question is what we just brought up
Shirley with the with the segment to be friends?

Speaker 2 (03:44):
Can you first and then date?

Speaker 5 (03:46):
And you're saying that if you are friends and that
man is a woman, But you said what we're trying
to say, If you're gonna be friends first and then
you're gonna date, how to that work? If you say
men and women can't be friends.

Speaker 3 (04:02):
If a man is attracted to you, eventually, when there's
a crack in the door, he's going to an if
he can put his foot into the door.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah, and be more than friends?

Speaker 3 (04:13):
Right with yes, be more friend These relationships that turn
start out that way, you can turn out and blossom
into wonderful and beautiful relationships. It can happen then sometimes,
and that's a great way for it to start because
you started as friend. It's a great thing to happen.
Now here's a sad part. It attracted to you.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
Yeah, Okay, we gotta go, Steve, hold on, we gotta go.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
All right, we'll be back with more of the Steve
Harvey Morning Show at twenty minutes after right after this.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, we're back, Steve.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
Let's try to clear this up once and for all
if we can, because there's so much debate about this.
Can men and women be friends and once they cross
that physical line, can they still be friends? Because sometimes
that gets weird. So let's let's try to clear this
up because it is a debate, ongoing debate between men
and women. All the time you say what.

Speaker 4 (05:15):
Man, these can be arguing with me, and every time
it comes out this way, I'll.

Speaker 3 (05:24):
Be telling them.

Speaker 2 (05:24):
You say it.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
Men and women can be friends only if the man
does not find the woman attracted or is not attracted
to her for whatever the reason. If a man finds
you attractive and is attracted to you, and is your friend.
I want you to understand that the moment there is

(05:47):
a crack in the door, a chink in the armor,
and he see a way he can fit in and
be more than your friend more. You'll do that, absolutely,
he will unequivocally. Now, can you you start a friendship
that way and it blossomed into a relationship? Yes? And
you know why the blossom into a relationship because he's
been attracted to you the whole time period. Yeah. Now

(06:12):
here's the sad part that you don't want to hear.
If the man is not attracted to you or find
you unattractive, you can be his friend.

Speaker 1 (06:21):
Okay, all right, we'll be debating this for centuries to come.
All Right, more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming
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