October 22, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I was messing with my homegirl for years and finally her husband caught us naked from the waist down in the coat closet. He came home early and we got busted hiding in the closet. So here we are a year later and her divorce is final and my long term girlfriend dumped me. My homegirl thinks that since I was messing with her while she was married, that it's fate and we are meant to be together. No we're not and I told her that, but she has trouble understanding me. We've been cool since high school, but it's never been more than sex. Back when I was married, I did not mess around with her. I honestly don't know why I went back to her...................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
We got it for you here.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
F You's subject to be careful who you cheat with.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I was messing with my homegirl for
years and finally her husband caught us naked from the
waist down in the coke closet. He came home early
and we got busted hiding in the closet. So here
we are a year later and her divorce is final
(00:47):
and my long term girlfriend dumped me. My homegirl thinks
that since I was messing with her while she was married,
that it's fate and we are meant to be together. No,
we're not, and I told her that, but she has
trouble understand. We've been cool since high school, but it's
never been more than sex. Back when I was married,
I did not mess around with her. I honestly don't
(01:09):
know why I went back to her since her divorce.
She thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend, and she's been saying
we're soulmates. She calls and texts me to say she's
thinking about me. She also expects me to keep her
in the lifestyle that her husband gave her. He owns
several stores. I work full time, but I'm barely making
ends me with my son being in college. Finally, I
(01:33):
sat down and tried to reason with her, and she
shocked me.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
She says she.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Wants to move in with me because we are in
this thing together and we've both been publicly disgraced together sidebar.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I wasn't disgraced, she was.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I was single, she was married, so I bluntly told
her I don't want a relationship with her. She told me,
I need to be careful who I cheat with, because
she's not a hit and hit it and quit it
type of woman. And I owe her whatever she had
before I ruined her marriage. How can she be serious?
I would never make her my main girl.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
It was just sex and she knew it.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
How do I peacefully in this fantasy she created in
her head.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Well, you had a lot to do.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
With that, you know, this fantasy she created, and you
heard the song, and I'm telling you, I'm not going well,
this applies to you, I mean, and it's not going
to be peaceful. You can forget that. She's gearing up
for a fight to keep you. I know you saw
the movie Fatal Attraction. I know you saw that your
homegirl as you call her, can't be dismissed so easily.
(02:41):
And she definitely will not be ignored. Okay, she says
she's not a hit it and quitted type of woman.
She's planning on you, guys, being together, moving in together.
She's not hearing you at all when you say you
don't want to be with her, and you said you
bluntly told her that. She blames you for ruining her
marriage and she feels you owe her. The payoff for
(03:03):
her is to be with you and to continue your relationship,
which you don't want. You're going to have to disappear
or something and stop talking to her. Ghosting her might
finally give her the reality check she needs. It will
show her that you are serious about moving on with
no intention of being with her.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
You got to cut the ties.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Wow, this letter's crazy. It's so many fortunate people in
this letter. This is crazy. It's just a lot of
fortunate people in this letter. Did Stephen Shirley. I was
messing with my homegirl for years and finally her husband
(03:44):
called us right there, right there? How you still typing
at this point, I don't know. But obviously you're out
at a hospital and everything, and you're able to get
this letter to us because this how I note that
you be from the hospital. Her husband caught us naked
(04:08):
from the waist down in the coat closet. Wow, he
came home early and we got busted hiding in the closet. Okay,
So when he caught y'all in the closet, where that
story at? Because you you you left, because I'm telling
you it's more to this. When he found y'all in
(04:28):
the closet, your next statement is, so here we are
a year later. No no, no, no, no, no, no, Pardner,
it's some more to this story right here. It's got
to be you come home naked and find your wife
in your house, naked from the waist down with another
(04:49):
man in a closet. It's so much missing out of
this story, so let me fill it in for you,
because he didn't just let you put your clothes and lead.
So how was it riding home in your car naked?
Cause see, I it's gonna be some penalties from right here,
(05:11):
and and I'm and me personally, I'm gonna bust you
up pretty bad because you're in my house now. The
the ultimate disrespect is the wife. But since you stupid
enough to come into another man's house, in his house
and disrespect me, then I'm gonna touch you up for
that right there. How I deal with her, lady, we'll
(05:32):
get we'll get the divorce, but your ass though for
coming in my house. That's why he had to jump
to a year later and her divorce is finally and
my longtime girlfriend dumped me. Okay, so your longtime girlfriend
dumped you. My homegirl thinks that since I was messed
with her while she was married, that is fate and
(05:53):
we are meant to be together. Next statement, No, we
are not, and I told her that, but she has
trouble understanding me. We've been cool since high school, but
it's never been more than sex. Back when I was
married I didn't mess around with her. I honestly don't
know why I went back to her. See, the problem
with her is she doesn't understand she is a side dish.
(06:18):
She's at Popeye's Chicken, but she's not the chicken. She
the dirty rice, the biscuit, a jila peno, French fries,
cold slow. See that's how all you get to be.
You're not a mane.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Hang on, Steve, we'll have partons okay of your.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Response coming up at twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter,
subject be careful who you cheat with. We'll get back
into it right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
You're listening morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is be careful who you cheat with.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Yeah, be careful who you cheat with, because when you're cheating,
you have to remember who you are in the cheat.
You gotta remember that, and it's okay, but you got
to accept that role and know what it is. Now.
So you got caught with your longtime friend naked in
(07:21):
a closet. Your husband came home early, open the closet door,
y'all in the nicked from the waist down. Then the
letter says, so here we are a year later and
her divorce is final. Though I already know you jumped
for a year because it took you that long to
get out of the hospital. Out of yeah yeah, yeah, yea,
because I'll put something on you. Anyway, my longtime girlfriend
(07:44):
dumped me. She got a divorce, and the girl he
was messing with thinks that they should be soul mates
and they meant to be together. He said, we're not,
and I told her she has trouble understanding me. We've
been cool since high school, but it's never been more
than sex back when I was married out of messing
around with her. Honestly, don't know why I went back
to her. Since her divorce. She thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend,
(08:05):
and she's been saying we're soulmates. No, you aside. She's
a side. She's a side item. Like if she was
at the waffle house. She the hash browns. Now you
can get them some other covered chunk dice and lice,
but you still that you ain't the waffle. See, the
waffle is the main thing at the waffle house. Them
(08:26):
hash browns is a side now they ain't necessary now,
but they aside a lot of cabs, a lot of cobs,
a lot of cobs. Okay, Then she calls and texts
me and says she's thinking about me. She also expects
me to keep her in the lifestyle that her husband
gave her. He owned several stores. Well, she should have
(08:48):
thought about that when she was messing around with your
broke ass. See, Nah, she expects you to keep her.
And I ain't dogging you, bro I'm just saying she
expects you to keep her in the lifestyle that her
husband he owned several stores. You don't. She should have
thought about that when she was dating you. Man, I
don't see how you see a lot of y'all be See,
(09:10):
you gotta find somebody's got the same thing to lose
as you, and that's hard to do because most people
that's got a lot to lose. I ain't gonna mess
around with you. He owned several stores. I work full time,
but I'm barely making his meet with my son being
in college. Finally I sat down and tried to reason
with her, and she shocked me. She said she wants
(09:31):
to move in with me because we are in this
thing together and we've both been publicly disgraced together. That's
her trying to save face, trying to get something out
of a bad situation. Sidebar, I wasn't disgraced, she was.
I was single, she was married, so I bluntly told
her I don't want a relationship with her. She told me,
(09:53):
I need to be careful who I cheat with, because
she's not a hitting and quitted type woman. And I
owe her whatever she had before or I ruined her marriage. No,
she ruined her marriage by cheating on her husband, who
was taking really good care of her. She ruined the marriage.
She steps out outside the marriage with you. Your dumb
(10:17):
ass was over this man's house, naked in a closet dog.
And you old enough to know better because your son
is in college. Now you asked, naked with a boy
in college over another man's house, hiding in a closet dog.
(10:37):
How you get yourself in that situation? Man? Why are
you at this man's house? That's crazy to me? Man,
you at this man's house? That's unthinkabout anyway. She said
that she owes you the whatever she had before I
ruined her marriage. How could she be serious? I never
(11:00):
make come my main girl. No, because she's been decided.
It was just sex, and she knew it. How do
I peacefully in this fantasy she created in her head? Well,
let me explain something to you. Here's the problem that
you have. She said. She you owe her whatever she
had before, because she's not a hit it and quitted
type woman. And I owe her whatever she had. She
(11:23):
finn to ruin you, doog. She's finna mess your life up.
She fin to make your life a living hell because
people like that. Man, people are like that. You know
you've heard the saying hell have no fury like a
woman scorn. When you scorn her, she gonna go out
of her way to ruin your life because she already
(11:45):
says you ruined hers. I was watching Bishop Bonner on
Instagram the other day. He said, be careful when you
around people who act like victims a circumstance that they created.
Be careful, have fun to hang around people who are
(12:09):
a victim of a circumstance that they created. The whole
word and man, that brother said that, and I win,
Lord have mercy. How many people do I know like that? Well,
this lady in this letter is just like that. Yeah,
she's sitting up in here, cheated on her husband. Now
(12:30):
you ruined her marriage. Now she's the victim. Now you
better be careful who you cheat with. So now she
gonna pay you back because she'd a victim of her
own doing. You decide to cheat on this good man
man girl bye today. Be careful who you cheat with.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Strawberry Letter at Steve harbysm on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
And healthyeress one becauz and check.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Out Letter podcast on the free iHeart radio app bree
Never Sound is so good you can download it to day.
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we
got Junior.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And sports Talk right app. You're listening to Harvey Morning
Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
We got it for you here.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
F You's subject to be careful who you cheat with.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I was messing with my homegirl for
years and finally her husband caught us naked from the
waist down in the coke closet. He came home early
and we got busted hiding in the closet. So here
we are a year later and her divorce is final
(00:47):
and my long term girlfriend dumped me. My homegirl thinks
that since I was messing with her while she was married,
that it's fate and we are meant to be together. No,
we're not, and I told her that, but she has
trouble understand. We've been cool since high school, but it's
never been more than sex. Back when I was married,
I did not mess around with her. I honestly don't
(01:09):
know why I went back to her since her divorce.
She thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend, and she's been saying
we're soulmates. She calls and texts me to say she's
thinking about me. She also expects me to keep her
in the lifestyle that her husband gave her. He owns
several stores. I work full time, but I'm barely making
ends me with my son being in college. Finally, I
(01:33):
sat down and tried to reason with her, and she
shocked me.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
She says she.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Wants to move in with me because we are in
this thing together and we've both been publicly disgraced together sidebar.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I wasn't disgraced, she was.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I was single, she was married, so I bluntly told
her I don't want a relationship with her. She told me,
I need to be careful who I cheat with, because
she's not a hit and hit it and quit it
type of woman. And I owe her whatever she had
before I ruined her marriage. How can she be serious?
I would never make her my main girl.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
It was just sex and she knew it.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
How do I peacefully in this fantasy she created in
her head.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Well, you had a lot to do.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
With that, you know, this fantasy she created, and you
heard the song, and I'm telling you, I'm not going well,
this applies to you, I mean, and it's not going
to be peaceful. You can forget that. She's gearing up
for a fight to keep you. I know you saw
the movie Fatal Attraction. I know you saw that your
homegirl as you call her, can't be dismissed so easily.
(02:41):
And she definitely will not be ignored. Okay, she says
she's not a hit it and quitted type of woman.
She's planning on you, guys, being together, moving in together.
She's not hearing you at all when you say you
don't want to be with her, and you said you
bluntly told her that. She blames you for ruining her
marriage and she feels you owe her. The payoff for
(03:03):
her is to be with you and to continue your relationship,
which you don't want. You're going to have to disappear
or something and stop talking to her. Ghosting her might
finally give her the reality check she needs. It will
show her that you are serious about moving on with
no intention of being with her.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
You got to cut the ties.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Wow, this letter's crazy. It's so many fortunate people in
this letter. This is crazy. It's just a lot of
fortunate people in this letter. Did Stephen Shirley. I was
messing with my homegirl for years and finally her husband
(03:44):
called us right there, right there? How you still typing
at this point, I don't know. But obviously you're out
at a hospital and everything, and you're able to get
this letter to us because this how I note that
you be from the hospital. Her husband caught us naked
(04:08):
from the waist down in the coat closet. Wow, he
came home early and we got busted hiding in the closet. Okay,
So when he caught y'all in the closet, where that
story at? Because you you you left, because I'm telling
you it's more to this. When he found y'all in
(04:28):
the closet, your next statement is, so here we are
a year later. No no, no, no, no, no, no, Pardner,
it's some more to this story right here. It's got
to be you come home naked and find your wife
in your house, naked from the waist down with another
(04:49):
man in a closet. It's so much missing out of
this story, so let me fill it in for you,
because he didn't just let you put your clothes and lead.
So how was it riding home in your car naked?
Cause see, I it's gonna be some penalties from right here,
(05:11):
and and I'm and me personally, I'm gonna bust you
up pretty bad because you're in my house now. The
the ultimate disrespect is the wife. But since you stupid
enough to come into another man's house, in his house
and disrespect me, then I'm gonna touch you up for
that right there. How I deal with her, lady, we'll
(05:32):
get we'll get the divorce, but your ass though for
coming in my house. That's why he had to jump
to a year later and her divorce is finally and
my longtime girlfriend dumped me. Okay, so your longtime girlfriend
dumped you. My homegirl thinks that since I was messed
with her while she was married, that is fate and
(05:53):
we are meant to be together. Next statement, No, we
are not, and I told her that, but she has
trouble understanding me. We've been cool since high school, but
it's never been more than sex. Back when I was
married I didn't mess around with her. I honestly don't
know why I went back to her. See, the problem
with her is she doesn't understand she is a side dish.
(06:18):
She's at Popeye's Chicken, but she's not the chicken. She
the dirty rice, the biscuit, a jila peno, French fries,
cold slow. See that's how all you get to be.
You're not a mane.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Hang on, Steve, we'll have partons okay of your.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Response coming up at twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter,
subject be careful who you cheat with. We'll get back
into it right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
You're listening morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is be careful who you cheat with.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Yeah, be careful who you cheat with, because when you're cheating,
you have to remember who you are in the cheat.
You gotta remember that, and it's okay, but you got
to accept that role and know what it is. Now.
So you got caught with your longtime friend naked in
(07:21):
a closet. Your husband came home early, open the closet door,
y'all in the nicked from the waist down. Then the
letter says, so here we are a year later and
her divorce is final. Though I already know you jumped
for a year because it took you that long to
get out of the hospital. Out of yeah yeah, yeah, yea,
because I'll put something on you. Anyway, my longtime girlfriend
(07:44):
dumped me. She got a divorce, and the girl he
was messing with thinks that they should be soul mates
and they meant to be together. He said, we're not,
and I told her she has trouble understanding me. We've
been cool since high school, but it's never been more
than sex back when I was married out of messing
around with her. Honestly, don't know why I went back
to her. Since her divorce. She thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend,
(08:05):
and she's been saying we're soulmates. No, you aside. She's
a side. She's a side item. Like if she was
at the waffle house. She the hash browns. Now you
can get them some other covered chunk dice and lice,
but you still that you ain't the waffle. See, the
waffle is the main thing at the waffle house. Them
(08:26):
hash browns is a side now they ain't necessary now,
but they aside a lot of cabs, a lot of cobs,
a lot of cobs. Okay, Then she calls and texts
me and says she's thinking about me. She also expects
me to keep her in the lifestyle that her husband
gave her. He owned several stores. Well, she should have
(08:48):
thought about that when she was messing around with your
broke ass. See, Nah, she expects you to keep her.
And I ain't dogging you, bro I'm just saying she
expects you to keep her in the lifestyle that her
husband he owned several stores. You don't. She should have
thought about that when she was dating you. Man, I
don't see how you see a lot of y'all be See,
(09:10):
you gotta find somebody's got the same thing to lose
as you, and that's hard to do because most people
that's got a lot to lose. I ain't gonna mess
around with you. He owned several stores. I work full time,
but I'm barely making his meet with my son being
in college. Finally I sat down and tried to reason
with her, and she shocked me. She said she wants
(09:31):
to move in with me because we are in this
thing together and we've both been publicly disgraced together. That's
her trying to save face, trying to get something out
of a bad situation. Sidebar, I wasn't disgraced, she was.
I was single, she was married, so I bluntly told
her I don't want a relationship with her. She told me,
(09:53):
I need to be careful who I cheat with, because
she's not a hitting and quitted type woman. And I
owe her whatever she had before or I ruined her marriage. No,
she ruined her marriage by cheating on her husband, who
was taking really good care of her. She ruined the marriage.
She steps out outside the marriage with you. Your dumb
(10:17):
ass was over this man's house, naked in a closet dog.
And you old enough to know better because your son
is in college. Now you asked, naked with a boy
in college over another man's house, hiding in a closet dog.
(10:37):
How you get yourself in that situation? Man? Why are
you at this man's house? That's crazy to me? Man,
you at this man's house? That's unthinkabout anyway. She said
that she owes you the whatever she had before I
ruined her marriage. How could she be serious? I never
(11:00):
make come my main girl. No, because she's been decided.
It was just sex, and she knew it. How do
I peacefully in this fantasy she created in her head? Well,
let me explain something to you. Here's the problem that
you have. She said. She you owe her whatever she
had before, because she's not a hit it and quitted
type woman. And I owe her whatever she had. She
(11:23):
finn to ruin you, doog. She's finna mess your life up.
She fin to make your life a living hell because
people like that. Man, people are like that. You know
you've heard the saying hell have no fury like a
woman scorn. When you scorn her, she gonna go out
of her way to ruin your life because she already
(11:45):
says you ruined hers. I was watching Bishop Bonner on
Instagram the other day. He said, be careful when you
around people who act like victims a circumstance that they created.
Be careful, have fun to hang around people who are
(12:09):
a victim of a circumstance that they created. The whole
word and man, that brother said that, and I win,
Lord have mercy. How many people do I know like that? Well,
this lady in this letter is just like that. Yeah,
she's sitting up in here, cheated on her husband. Now
(12:30):
you ruined her marriage. Now she's the victim. Now you
better be careful who you cheat with. So now she
gonna pay you back because she'd a victim of her
own doing. You decide to cheat on this good man
man girl bye today. Be careful who you cheat with.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Strawberry Letter at Steve harbysm on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
And healthyeress one becauz and check.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Out Letter podcast on the free iHeart radio app bree
Never Sound is so good you can download it to day.
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we
got Junior.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And sports Talk right app. You're listening to Harvey Morning
Show
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