April 9, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, The love of my life is a six ' four beautiful man that is black as tar with the straightest teeth I've ever seen. He's a singer with no gigs, but I've been patient with him since we started dating because he's a good man. He's messed up his credit so he doesn't have a car right now. I allow him to use my car when he's going to go sing, and he brings it back on E because I don't want him to use a little money that he has on gas. I'm twenty nine and he's twenty eight. We moved in together and my dad stopped talking to me because he knows my man can't take care of me like he should.......................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. Subject big, black, beautiful and broke. Dear
Stephen Shirley, The love of my life is a six '
four beautiful man that is black as tar with the
straightest teeth I've ever seen. He's a singer with no gigs.
But I've been patient with him since we started dating
(00:44):
because he's a good man. He's messed up his credits
so he doesn't have a car right now. I allow
him to use my car when he's going to go sing,
and he brings it back on e because I don't
want him to use a little money that he has
on gas. I'm twenty nine and he's twenty eight. We
moved in together and my dad stopped talking to me
because he knows my man can't take care of me
(01:07):
like he should. My mama is my girl, and she
encourages me to stick by my man because she said
my daddy was about nothing when she met him, and
she's the reason he got the good job at the
school that he just retired from. I also told my
mama exactly why I love my man. What he is
lacking in money, he makes up for it in the bedroom.
(01:29):
All I can say is that he's big. My mom
noticed it one day when he was washing my car,
and we got a big laugh out of it. That
was the same day she encouraged me to go the
extra mile and help this man get on his feet.
But then there's the rest of society that judges women
for taking care of a man. My man knows that
my dad and my friends make fun of me because
(01:51):
of him, but he still gets upset when I tell
him about job openings that he's qualified for. The first
thing that he says is I don't believe in him.
It's been almost three years. Have I put in enough
time to see that he's not going to change? Should
I be patient like my mom said, or stop supporting him?
Like dad said, Okay, it's been three years. He should
(02:12):
be able to show you something by now. If he's
not making money singing, he's got to do more like
get a job. And he's breaking the basic rules like
using your car and bringing it back empty. That's disrespectful.
Who does that? I mean, that's the very least he
could do. And the reason your dad is not with
it is because he's a man. You're his baby. He
wants and expects nothing but the best for you. Especially
(02:36):
after three years with this man, it's starting to look
like tall, dark and pretty teeth is using you. He's young,
so I get that he probably doesn't have it all together,
but won't You won't have anything either if you keep
taking care of him. The thing is, he's a singer
with no gigs. You said that everyone has to start somewhere,
(02:57):
so he's got to figure out how to bring in
some income until he can start realizing his dream of singing.
It's not happening right now and it could take a
long time before he gets his break. If he ever
gets a break, that doesn't mean you're charged with taking
care of this grown man. I mean, I know your
mother is on his team and she helps your dad
(03:18):
early on, but now she's got to look beyond his
height and his looks and his sexual prowess and all
of that to see if this man is really a
good match for her daughter. Period.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Steve, Well, it's a letter simple for me because I'm
a father, period. I'm a dad, and I happen to
be a man, and I happen to have been twenty
eight and I have happened to have pursued a dream.
(03:48):
So I'm all over this letter on both ends, the
twenty eight year old and your daddy. Only problem is
I've never been beautiful.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
That's it.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Our damn show been black, and our damn show been broken.
So letting me help you understand what you're dealing with.
He's six four, black as tar, straightest teeth I've ever seen.
He's a singer with no gigs. Let's stop right there.
(04:29):
I'm gonna go out on the limb and say this
in case ain't nobody thinking it. I don't think it's
ass saying that. Good right, I'm much just going out
here right now. He's a singer with no gigs, Lady,
(04:53):
he is pursuing a profession that he ain't good at.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Ain't nobody they ask you to sing at the wedding.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Ain't nobody asked you to come over and sing at
the old man graduations retirement party. You ain't even been
asked to sing at a funeral. And that's why you
ain't even really got to be good at the funeral.
You because they have to be the star that show
is dead. Oh my goodness, you don't even get invited
(05:26):
to be that. So he's a singer with no gigs.
But I'm patient with him since we started dating because
he's a good man. Well, okay, let me hear how
good of a man he is. He messed up his
credit so he don't have a car right now. Okay,
so you got a good man that don't know how
to take care of business and ain't got nothing. I
(05:48):
will allow him to use my car when he has
to go sing and he bring it back on e
Oh that's a good man right there. Let me drive
up all the gas out of my girls car because
I don't want him to use the little money.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
That he has on gas. Well what is he using
the little money on his teeth?
Speaker 3 (06:11):
It's some more all for that black skin in that's
tap teeth whitenel damn show. I ain't spending it on
saying lessons, so I'm just trying to figure out. I'm
trying to get the good man. I'm twenty nine, he
had twenty eight. We moved in together, and my dad
stopped talking to me because he know my man can't
(06:32):
take me and tear me like I should.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
All Right, when we come back, I'll give you the
rest of it.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
All right, I'm still trying to figure out how he
a good man though, Right, all right, we'll.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter, Big Black,
Beautiful and Broke. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is big, Black,
beautiful and broke.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Here's this girl that's Dayton is six foot folk beautiful
man that is black as tar, with the straightest teeth
she's ever seen. He's a singer with no gigs. I
went out on the limb on the last break and said, well,
I don't think he's sang that damn good because most
singers that don't have gigs. It's probably cause they can't sing.
(07:23):
Ain't nobody finn to pay you to sit up and
bring your black ass down here. We look at your teeth.
That ain't what we finna do. I ain't got five
hundred for you to come down here. He is up
here showing his teeth. Can't sing at all. But see
he thinks he big, black and beautiful, so he thinks
his beauty gonna get him a singing contract.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
It don't.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Now you've been patient with him since he's been dating,
because you say he's a good man. Well, I want
you to show me how he's good a man. Well
let's go. He messed up his credit so he don't
have a car right now. All right, So this good man,
I don't take care of business and he ain't got nothing. Okay,
that's a good man. Okay, let's read on. I allow
(08:06):
him to use my car when he gotta go sing,
and he brings it back on East because I don't
want him to use a little money he's got on gas,
good man, little money, use up all your gas, bring
your car back on East. So now he riding around
town flexing. Got everybody need to see these teeth. I'm
(08:30):
twenty nine, twenty eight. We moved in together, and my
dad stopped talking to me because he know my man
can't take care of me like he should, as your
father should, as I would. I'm not co signing. No
dude that can't take care of my daughter. Man, you
must be out your mind, not finna shake your hand,
tell you good luck. Now, my mama is my girl.
(08:53):
Now here's a perfect example of when it's time to
stop being friends and you should be a parent.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
But my mama and my girl.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
She encouraged me to stick by my man because she
said my daddy wasn't about nothing when she met him,
and he's the reason he got the good job that
he had at the school that he just retired from. Yeah,
but your mama didn't stay with him three years though.
And your daddy wasn't riding your mama coattail for three years. Yeah,
(09:24):
and your daddy wasn't bringing your mama car back on eat. See,
your mama ain't telling you this, hippart. She telling you
to stand by your man, but your man needs to
stand up. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I also told my
mama exactly why I love my man. What he is
lacking in money, he makes up for in the bedroom.
(09:47):
All I can say is that he's big. Okay, well, okay,
they're really close. Huh okay. You then told your mama
he big girl. And then and then my mama noticed
it one day when he was washing my car. His
shorts was shortened. She just saw that, and she said, oh,
and we laughed real hard.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
You know too much, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
You know. But but he was washing my carter. You
know why, washing your car because he ain't got no
damn card. Or that same day she encouraged me to
go that extra mile and help this man get on
his feet. Okay, but is he trying to stand up though,
or is he just laying over there on you? But
(10:31):
then there's the rest of society that judges women for
taking care of a man.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Well, okay, sorry.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
When a man has two jobs that are undeniable jobs
and all of us have to fulfill this, a man's
job is if he can't do nothing, he gotta do
these two things. Provide and protect. Protect and provide to
provide somebody's daughter with a sense of security, ad to
(11:00):
lean on and arms to run too. And somebody pick
up your slack. Well, if you just feel like today,
I want to be a girl baby going over there.
I got this, but that ain't what you got. My
man knows that my dad and my friends make fun
of me because of him, but he still gets upset
when I tell him about job openings that he's qualified for.
(11:21):
You know what, because you sick of taking care of him.
So now you sitting up in here laughing because he's
big and he washing your card. He take care of
beers in the bedroom too bad. Y'all can't spend y'all
life in the bedroom. Huh yeah, See life start when
you get out the bedroom. Now you tell him about
(11:41):
job openings he qualified for, but he don't want to hear.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
That because he big, black, pretty straight teeth.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
And he a non singing ass singer and he want
to keep singing, riding around it. Yo, damn card bringing
it back on the flexing, letting everybody see the white
ass teeth he got. But you can't sing. First thing,
he says, I don't believe in hill we Hell, it's
been almost three years. You say it's been three years.
(12:10):
Have I put in enough time to see he's not
going to change?
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Do it?
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Look like he trying to change. Does he look like
he trying to provide for you? Or does he look
like he's enjoying riding round in your car black ass tar,
riding round te sparkle like stars. But he's sitting up
in here bringing it back on Eve. I am still
(12:36):
hoping you men's merized by my pretty teeth. I'm sitting
up in here, going nowhere fast, but I'm counting on
you to not remember my past. I messed up my credit.
I don't have a car. But if you let me
lay on you a little bit longer, baby, we gonna
go far. I could finish this poem and write a
(12:58):
whole lot more for why would I? Because there's nothing
in Stow.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app for it never
sounded so good. You can download it today. Coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, it is Junior
and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey
(13:23):
Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. Subject big, black, beautiful and broke. Dear
Stephen Shirley, The love of my life is a six '
four beautiful man that is black as tar with the
straightest teeth I've ever seen. He's a singer with no gigs.
But I've been patient with him since we started dating
(00:44):
because he's a good man. He's messed up his credits
so he doesn't have a car right now. I allow
him to use my car when he's going to go sing,
and he brings it back on e because I don't
want him to use a little money that he has
on gas. I'm twenty nine and he's twenty eight. We
moved in together and my dad stopped talking to me
because he knows my man can't take care of me
(01:07):
like he should. My mama is my girl, and she
encourages me to stick by my man because she said
my daddy was about nothing when she met him, and
she's the reason he got the good job at the
school that he just retired from. I also told my
mama exactly why I love my man. What he is
lacking in money, he makes up for it in the bedroom.
(01:29):
All I can say is that he's big. My mom
noticed it one day when he was washing my car,
and we got a big laugh out of it. That
was the same day she encouraged me to go the
extra mile and help this man get on his feet.
But then there's the rest of society that judges women
for taking care of a man. My man knows that
my dad and my friends make fun of me because
(01:51):
of him, but he still gets upset when I tell
him about job openings that he's qualified for. The first
thing that he says is I don't believe in him.
It's been almost three years. Have I put in enough
time to see that he's not going to change? Should
I be patient like my mom said, or stop supporting him?
Like dad said, Okay, it's been three years. He should
(02:12):
be able to show you something by now. If he's
not making money singing, he's got to do more like
get a job. And he's breaking the basic rules like
using your car and bringing it back empty. That's disrespectful.
Who does that? I mean, that's the very least he
could do. And the reason your dad is not with
it is because he's a man. You're his baby. He
wants and expects nothing but the best for you. Especially
(02:36):
after three years with this man, it's starting to look
like tall, dark and pretty teeth is using you. He's young,
so I get that he probably doesn't have it all together,
but won't You won't have anything either if you keep
taking care of him. The thing is, he's a singer
with no gigs. You said that everyone has to start somewhere,
(02:57):
so he's got to figure out how to bring in
some income until he can start realizing his dream of singing.
It's not happening right now and it could take a
long time before he gets his break. If he ever
gets a break, that doesn't mean you're charged with taking
care of this grown man. I mean, I know your
mother is on his team and she helps your dad
(03:18):
early on, but now she's got to look beyond his
height and his looks and his sexual prowess and all
of that to see if this man is really a
good match for her daughter. Period.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Steve, Well, it's a letter simple for me because I'm
a father, period. I'm a dad, and I happen to
be a man, and I happen to have been twenty
eight and I have happened to have pursued a dream.
(03:48):
So I'm all over this letter on both ends, the
twenty eight year old and your daddy. Only problem is
I've never been beautiful.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
That's it.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Our damn show been black, and our damn show been broken.
So letting me help you understand what you're dealing with.
He's six four, black as tar, straightest teeth I've ever seen.
He's a singer with no gigs. Let's stop right there.
(04:29):
I'm gonna go out on the limb and say this
in case ain't nobody thinking it. I don't think it's
ass saying that. Good right, I'm much just going out
here right now. He's a singer with no gigs, Lady,
(04:53):
he is pursuing a profession that he ain't good at.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Ain't nobody they ask you to sing at the wedding.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Ain't nobody asked you to come over and sing at
the old man graduations retirement party. You ain't even been
asked to sing at a funeral. And that's why you
ain't even really got to be good at the funeral.
You because they have to be the star that show
is dead. Oh my goodness, you don't even get invited
(05:26):
to be that. So he's a singer with no gigs.
But I'm patient with him since we started dating because
he's a good man. Well, okay, let me hear how
good of a man he is. He messed up his
credit so he don't have a car right now. Okay,
so you got a good man that don't know how
to take care of business and ain't got nothing. I
(05:48):
will allow him to use my car when he has
to go sing and he bring it back on e
Oh that's a good man right there. Let me drive
up all the gas out of my girls car because
I don't want him to use the little money.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
That he has on gas. Well what is he using
the little money on his teeth?
Speaker 3 (06:11):
It's some more all for that black skin in that's
tap teeth whitenel damn show. I ain't spending it on
saying lessons, so I'm just trying to figure out. I'm
trying to get the good man. I'm twenty nine, he
had twenty eight. We moved in together, and my dad
stopped talking to me because he know my man can't
(06:32):
take me and tear me like I should.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
All Right, when we come back, I'll give you the
rest of it.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
All right, I'm still trying to figure out how he
a good man though, Right, all right, we'll.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter, Big Black,
Beautiful and Broke. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is big, Black,
beautiful and broke.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Here's this girl that's Dayton is six foot folk beautiful
man that is black as tar, with the straightest teeth
she's ever seen. He's a singer with no gigs. I
went out on the limb on the last break and said, well,
I don't think he's sang that damn good because most
singers that don't have gigs. It's probably cause they can't sing.
(07:23):
Ain't nobody finn to pay you to sit up and
bring your black ass down here. We look at your teeth.
That ain't what we finna do. I ain't got five
hundred for you to come down here. He is up
here showing his teeth. Can't sing at all. But see
he thinks he big, black and beautiful, so he thinks
his beauty gonna get him a singing contract.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
It don't.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Now you've been patient with him since he's been dating,
because you say he's a good man. Well, I want
you to show me how he's good a man. Well
let's go. He messed up his credit so he don't
have a car right now. All right, So this good man,
I don't take care of business and he ain't got nothing. Okay,
that's a good man. Okay, let's read on. I allow
(08:06):
him to use my car when he gotta go sing,
and he brings it back on East because I don't
want him to use a little money he's got on gas,
good man, little money, use up all your gas, bring
your car back on East. So now he riding around
town flexing. Got everybody need to see these teeth. I'm
(08:30):
twenty nine, twenty eight. We moved in together, and my
dad stopped talking to me because he know my man
can't take care of me like he should, as your
father should, as I would. I'm not co signing. No
dude that can't take care of my daughter. Man, you
must be out your mind, not finna shake your hand,
tell you good luck. Now, my mama is my girl.
(08:53):
Now here's a perfect example of when it's time to
stop being friends and you should be a parent.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
But my mama and my girl.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
She encouraged me to stick by my man because she
said my daddy wasn't about nothing when she met him,
and he's the reason he got the good job that
he had at the school that he just retired from. Yeah,
but your mama didn't stay with him three years though.
And your daddy wasn't riding your mama coattail for three years. Yeah,
(09:24):
and your daddy wasn't bringing your mama car back on eat. See,
your mama ain't telling you this, hippart. She telling you
to stand by your man, but your man needs to
stand up. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I also told my
mama exactly why I love my man. What he is
lacking in money, he makes up for in the bedroom.
(09:47):
All I can say is that he's big. Okay, well, okay,
they're really close. Huh okay. You then told your mama
he big girl. And then and then my mama noticed
it one day when he was washing my car. His
shorts was shortened. She just saw that, and she said, oh,
and we laughed real hard.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
You know too much, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
You know. But but he was washing my carter. You
know why, washing your car because he ain't got no
damn card. Or that same day she encouraged me to
go that extra mile and help this man get on
his feet. Okay, but is he trying to stand up though,
or is he just laying over there on you? But
(10:31):
then there's the rest of society that judges women for
taking care of a man.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Well, okay, sorry.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
When a man has two jobs that are undeniable jobs
and all of us have to fulfill this, a man's
job is if he can't do nothing, he gotta do
these two things. Provide and protect. Protect and provide to
provide somebody's daughter with a sense of security, ad to
(11:00):
lean on and arms to run too. And somebody pick
up your slack. Well, if you just feel like today,
I want to be a girl baby going over there.
I got this, but that ain't what you got. My
man knows that my dad and my friends make fun
of me because of him, but he still gets upset
when I tell him about job openings that he's qualified for.
(11:21):
You know what, because you sick of taking care of him.
So now you sitting up in here laughing because he's
big and he washing your card. He take care of
beers in the bedroom too bad. Y'all can't spend y'all
life in the bedroom. Huh yeah, See life start when
you get out the bedroom. Now you tell him about
(11:41):
job openings he qualified for, but he don't want to hear.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
That because he big, black, pretty straight teeth.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
And he a non singing ass singer and he want
to keep singing, riding around it. Yo, damn card bringing
it back on the flexing, letting everybody see the white
ass teeth he got. But you can't sing. First thing,
he says, I don't believe in hill we Hell, it's
been almost three years. You say it's been three years.
(12:10):
Have I put in enough time to see he's not
going to change?
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Do it?
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Look like he trying to change. Does he look like
he trying to provide for you? Or does he look
like he's enjoying riding round in your car black ass tar,
riding round te sparkle like stars. But he's sitting up
in here bringing it back on Eve. I am still
(12:36):
hoping you men's merized by my pretty teeth. I'm sitting
up in here, going nowhere fast, but I'm counting on
you to not remember my past. I messed up my credit.
I don't have a car. But if you let me
lay on you a little bit longer, baby, we gonna
go far. I could finish this poem and write a
(12:58):
whole lot more for why would I? Because there's nothing
in Stow.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app for it never
sounded so good. You can download it today. Coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, it is Junior
and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey
(13:23):
Morning Show
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