April 5, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm remarried and I was living my best life until my stepdaughter graduated college and moved back in with her mom. My husband has two children from a previous marriage, and my bonus son is a sweetie. But the girl is a stepdaughter for a reason. She has caused problems in my home from day one. She was sixteen when we got married, and she stayed one weekend at our house and she found my weed stash, wore a brand new shirt of mine, and let a whole roast go to waste because she left it out all night. Her own mother admitted she was being vindictive.........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject
But what is she doing in my house? Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm remarried and I was living my best life until
my stepdaughter graduated college and moved back in with her mom.
My husband has two children from a previous marriage, and
my bonus son is a sweetie. But the girl is
(00:43):
a stepdaughter for a reason. She has caused problems in
my home from day one. She was sixteen when we
got married, and she stayed one weekend at our house
and she found my weeds dash, wore a brand new
shirt of mine, and let a whole roast go to
waste because she left it out all night. Her own
mother admitted she was being vindictive. After her dad got married.
(01:06):
My husband doesn't see it that way. He's always said
she's just a free spirit. Now that she's graduated from college,
she put her dad on a payment plan. He thinks
it's cute, but I don't. He has to give her
money on the first of the month for her hair, nails,
and lashes, and he gives her money mid month to
help her save up for her own apartment. She works
(01:27):
at a daycare and is not interested in getting a
job in her field because she likes kids. I suggested
she major in early childhood education, but she told me
she doesn't take advice from someone that only has a
high school diploma. My backhand game is strong, and I've
batted at her a few times and missed. My husband
(01:50):
knows we cannot be around each other for long, so
I was shocked when I came home yesterday and all
of her luggage was lined up in my living room.
He said she'll be staying with us because she can't
get along with her mom. I'm not having it. I
told him either she goes or I go. How could
he do this? Well, your husband was dead wrong for this.
(02:11):
We all know that he obviously doesn't care about or
even know the rules, because he should have discussed this
with you about her moving in. You all should have
had You should have had some dialogue about this. The
rules are, you don't put anyone before your wife. You
don't do this without letting your wife know. You don't
let your grown daughter run you run your household.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Dad.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
You guys, you know you're gonna have to set some
boundaries for the daughter, and you would have been able
to do that had you known she was moving in beforehand,
because clearly she doesn't have any boundaries. She's all in
your stuff and your stash and your clothes and all that.
It's not like you, guys are newlyweds. You've been married
for at least six years. She was sixteen, so she's
(02:55):
been doing this and going through your things and all
that for a while. You and your husband are just
not on the same page when it comes to the daughter.
She shouldn't be allowed to disrespect you or your household.
This girl is trouble. If a person can't get along
with their own mom, there's definitely some sort of disconnect
going on. But the real issue is when is she
(03:16):
moving out? All right? Have you guys talked about that?
She has a job, she can she's saving up money
or for an apartment, and all that. With her attitude,
this can't be a permanent situation because her president's presence
is making you miserable in your own home. You want
to fight this little girl, you want to fight her,
(03:36):
don't do that. You're the adult here, so don't stoop
to her level. I think your real fight is with
your husband. Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Well, you know, let me just start at the bottom
of the letter. What I normally don't do. She can't
get along with her mom. I'm not having it. I'm
told her either she goes, I go. How could he
do this right here? First of all, she's not coming here.
She not coming here. You came home and you shocked.
Yesterday all her luggage was lined up in your living room.
(04:06):
He said, she gonna be staying with us because she
can't get along with her mama. Well, she can't get
along with her mama, she can't get along with me.
But that's gonna be you and her and her mama problem. Though, See,
her mama problem can't become my problem. If you can't
get along with your mama, and clearly you can't get
along with me. Then the place you gonna have to
(04:26):
work it out with is at your mama's house. You're
not coming over here. Your husband can't force that on you.
And she got to go. And I think you laid
out the best all tomato. It's either her or me.
But see, I don't know why you're saying that, because
I'm not leaving my house for nobody. She gone, I'm
(04:51):
telling you right now. She gone by Felicia. So let
me tell you why I feel that way. Ever since
she graduated college, your stepdaughter, she'd have moved back in
with her mama, and you got your son, got two
kids from previous marriage. Your son is a great guy,
but the stepdaughter and caused problems from day one. She
(05:12):
was sixteen when y'all got married. She stayed one weekend
at y'all house. Found your weed stash. You don't know
how to hire stuff good, wore a brand new shirt
of mine and let a whole roast go to waste
because she left it out all night. Now, Helen, you're
in here stealing weed, wearing my clothes and throwing away food.
(05:32):
You'd have been out of here tomorrow. Her own mother
admitted that she's being vindictive. After her dad got remarried, married,
and your husband don't see it that way. He says,
she got a free spirit. That ain't what that is.
Now she done graduated and she don't put her dad
on the payment plan. He thinks it's cute. He gotta
give her money on the first for her hair, nails
(05:54):
and lashes, and he gives up money mid month to
help us save up for her own apartment, which I
don't think she's saved. She don't seem like to saving type.
She works out of daycare. It's not interested in getting
a job in her field because she like kids. But
that's what happens in college. We had these kids declare
major when they don't even know they self. She found
out she'd rather work with kids than they have a
(06:15):
job in the major that she got. I suggested she
major in the early childhood education. She told you she
don't take advice when somebody just got a high school diploma.
Then this lady said, my backhand game is strong, and
I batted her a few times and missed. Well, let's
let's chalk this up. Your backhand game obviously ain't strong.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Umball, you're gonna say that your ask Steve missing. We'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject but
what is she doing at my house? And we'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening hard Morning show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:58):
The subject is, but what what is she doing in
my house?
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well that's the question. M m, Well what she doing
in your house? Is your husband allowed her to move
back in. Now, she'd been creating problems ever since y'all married.
She'd been the stepdaughter from hell U she didne found
your weed, she'd have wore your clothes, and she'd have
left out the food. I don't know how this worked
at y'all house, but that would have been a death
(07:25):
sentis at my house. First of all, my daddy didn't
smoke weed. But if I have got into that Canadian
winds up under that base cabinet in the kitchen sink,
if i'd have pulled out the Canadian windsor yeah, huh,
the whole fifth.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
What would have happened?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Well, you don't even want to stay. You do not
understand what would have happened to me? I'm not on
this radio show. I'd have never had a comedy career.
I wouldn't even exist today. Nothing, no ward shows, nothing.
(08:04):
I would have jumped over all the mistakes I made.
I'd have never gotten married. I'd have never I'd have
never ever said the wrong name at the beauty pageant.
I would have ever elmo. Oh god, I would have
missed so many monumental moments in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
You would have been called blue cheese.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Hell no, I'd have been called Swiss cheese. All the
holes in my face. My daddy would have knocked me
down for please.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
So now.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
And now she's at your house.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
She's she's a user.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
She got your husband on the payment plan to pay
for her hair. Her nails are lashes. Give her money
me a month to help her save her phone apartment.
She work out a daycare. I ain't interested in getting
a job in her field because she like kids. Then
you suggested to her, did she get an early childhood
education degree? She told me she don't take advice from
somebody with high school diploma. Oh, you could say that
(09:00):
if you want to, But a lot of people take
advice from people with high school diplomas. The whole strawberry
letter is wrapped around a man that don't have nothing
but a high school diploma. Because after you ask Shirley
and then you asked Steve, you're talking to a high
school diploma person. That's all I got ever had never
got close to a degree. I ain't have enough. I
(09:22):
didn't have enough hours to become a sophomore. Oh it
was there three years. Then you told the biggest lie,
you said, my backhand game is strong. I batted her
a few times in miss well, your backhand game ain't
strong no more. No see Serena Williams got a strong
(09:43):
backhad and you don't have a strong backhand. You got
a hand that used to be strong back in the day.
That's what you got, but you ain't got no strong
backhand on see Ellas Vira Harvey. Her backhand game was strong.
Oh I never seen a miss. I ain't even see
(10:06):
it coming. Oh my mama was slick with her. She'd
have her hand down by her side and it would
just come up and it would be like up it
take my whole lip up. Wow, gus Ville Harvey had
a back hand game. Now your husband knows that y'all
cannot be around each other for long. So I was
(10:28):
shocked when I came home yesterday and all her luggage
was lined up in my living room. She said, he'll
be she'll be living with us cause she can't get
along with her mama. Well, that's hung her damn mama problem.
She can't get along with her mama. So you finna
make me get along with this help. No you're not. No,
you're not. See I'll tell you what you move in here,
(10:49):
But I'm finna make her life hell though. Yeah, yeah,
I'm finna make her life hell. Ain't nothing she'd do
gonna work out. I'm gonna tell you that right now.
She can't bring no weed up in here. She can't
bring no food in here. I'm gonna wear all her
damn clothes. Her life gonna be miserable as hell. That
(11:09):
stash money you giving her, I'm finish take it, I'm
finish show up. I'm gonna put her lashes on everything.
I'm gonna be just sitting up in the house everything
I'm gonna put her lashes on, or be he got
her nails on everything. She come in the house and
be like this here, hey, and you ain't gonna be
(11:33):
able to go down there to that place this week
because I already been down there. They told me tell you, hey, though,
this was the look they was gonna put on your hands.
So I just thought I bring it in here and
see you. Yes, she'll wake up in the middle of
the night. I'll be sitting in the chair across the
room with my feet up on the bed, looking at her,
cleaning my pistol.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
I'll be doing all kinds of yeah, get out.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yeah. She go in the bathroom and be notes type
taped on the handle, your last flush. I have a
little stick. I have a note written on her bathroom
mirror in lipstick. Your lipstick is gone because I used
it to leave this note for you in the middle. Oh,
(12:18):
I aggravate this little young See what you can't do
is you can't out You can't outlast me when it
comes to that game. Plus we in my house. Yeah,
you know, like the chair, she's seeing it at the
kitchen table. I take all the screws.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Out, make her fall when she sits down, break her ass.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
See you're not finna do nothing. I'm finna have you
where you scared to do anything. I'm put alarm on
refrigerator when you open the door. I'm talking about a
lot like that fire alarm to be on your house.
I do all types of stuff up. Watch the TV
in your house. TV, I have it rigged where when
she put her fingerprint on remote, cut it on. It
(13:00):
don't work. You keep going off, all right?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Listen, leave your comments on Today.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
The laptop and hold phone.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
It's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey FM. And
check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the
free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good. Coming
up next to his junior with sports talk right after this,
you're listening Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject
But what is she doing in my house? Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm remarried and I was living my best life until
my stepdaughter graduated college and moved back in with her mom.
My husband has two children from a previous marriage, and
my bonus son is a sweetie. But the girl is
(00:43):
a stepdaughter for a reason. She has caused problems in
my home from day one. She was sixteen when we
got married, and she stayed one weekend at our house
and she found my weeds dash, wore a brand new
shirt of mine, and let a whole roast go to
waste because she left it out all night. Her own
mother admitted she was being vindictive. After her dad got married.
(01:06):
My husband doesn't see it that way. He's always said
she's just a free spirit. Now that she's graduated from college,
she put her dad on a payment plan. He thinks
it's cute, but I don't. He has to give her
money on the first of the month for her hair, nails,
and lashes, and he gives her money mid month to
help her save up for her own apartment. She works
(01:27):
at a daycare and is not interested in getting a
job in her field because she likes kids. I suggested
she major in early childhood education, but she told me
she doesn't take advice from someone that only has a
high school diploma. My backhand game is strong, and I've
batted at her a few times and missed. My husband
(01:50):
knows we cannot be around each other for long, so
I was shocked when I came home yesterday and all
of her luggage was lined up in my living room.
He said she'll be staying with us because she can't
get along with her mom. I'm not having it. I
told him either she goes or I go. How could
he do this? Well, your husband was dead wrong for this.
(02:11):
We all know that he obviously doesn't care about or
even know the rules, because he should have discussed this
with you about her moving in. You all should have
had You should have had some dialogue about this. The
rules are, you don't put anyone before your wife. You
don't do this without letting your wife know. You don't
let your grown daughter run you run your household.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Dad.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
You guys, you know you're gonna have to set some
boundaries for the daughter, and you would have been able
to do that had you known she was moving in beforehand,
because clearly she doesn't have any boundaries. She's all in
your stuff and your stash and your clothes and all that.
It's not like you, guys are newlyweds. You've been married
for at least six years. She was sixteen, so she's
(02:55):
been doing this and going through your things and all
that for a while. You and your husband are just
not on the same page when it comes to the daughter.
She shouldn't be allowed to disrespect you or your household.
This girl is trouble. If a person can't get along
with their own mom, there's definitely some sort of disconnect
going on. But the real issue is when is she
(03:16):
moving out? All right? Have you guys talked about that?
She has a job, she can she's saving up money
or for an apartment, and all that. With her attitude,
this can't be a permanent situation because her president's presence
is making you miserable in your own home. You want
to fight this little girl, you want to fight her,
(03:36):
don't do that. You're the adult here, so don't stoop
to her level. I think your real fight is with
your husband. Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Well, you know, let me just start at the bottom
of the letter. What I normally don't do. She can't
get along with her mom. I'm not having it. I'm
told her either she goes, I go. How could he
do this right here? First of all, she's not coming here.
She not coming here. You came home and you shocked.
Yesterday all her luggage was lined up in your living room.
(04:06):
He said, she gonna be staying with us because she
can't get along with her mama. Well, she can't get
along with her mama, she can't get along with me.
But that's gonna be you and her and her mama problem. Though, See,
her mama problem can't become my problem. If you can't
get along with your mama, and clearly you can't get
along with me. Then the place you gonna have to
(04:26):
work it out with is at your mama's house. You're
not coming over here. Your husband can't force that on you.
And she got to go. And I think you laid
out the best all tomato. It's either her or me.
But see, I don't know why you're saying that, because
I'm not leaving my house for nobody. She gone, I'm
(04:51):
telling you right now. She gone by Felicia. So let
me tell you why I feel that way. Ever since
she graduated college, your stepdaughter, she'd have moved back in
with her mama, and you got your son, got two
kids from previous marriage. Your son is a great guy,
but the stepdaughter and caused problems from day one. She
(05:12):
was sixteen when y'all got married. She stayed one weekend
at y'all house. Found your weed stash. You don't know
how to hire stuff good, wore a brand new shirt
of mine and let a whole roast go to waste
because she left it out all night. Now, Helen, you're
in here stealing weed, wearing my clothes and throwing away food.
(05:32):
You'd have been out of here tomorrow. Her own mother
admitted that she's being vindictive. After her dad got remarried, married,
and your husband don't see it that way. He says,
she got a free spirit. That ain't what that is.
Now she done graduated and she don't put her dad
on the payment plan. He thinks it's cute. He gotta
give her money on the first for her hair, nails
(05:54):
and lashes, and he gives up money mid month to
help us save up for her own apartment, which I
don't think she's saved. She don't seem like to saving type.
She works out of daycare. It's not interested in getting
a job in her field because she like kids. But
that's what happens in college. We had these kids declare
major when they don't even know they self. She found
out she'd rather work with kids than they have a
(06:15):
job in the major that she got. I suggested she
major in the early childhood education. She told you she
don't take advice when somebody just got a high school diploma.
Then this lady said, my backhand game is strong, and
I batted her a few times and missed. Well, let's
let's chalk this up. Your backhand game obviously ain't strong.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Umball, you're gonna say that your ask Steve missing. We'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject but
what is she doing at my house? And we'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening hard Morning show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:58):
The subject is, but what what is she doing in
my house?
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well that's the question. M m, Well what she doing
in your house? Is your husband allowed her to move
back in. Now, she'd been creating problems ever since y'all married.
She'd been the stepdaughter from hell U she didne found
your weed, she'd have wore your clothes, and she'd have
left out the food. I don't know how this worked
at y'all house, but that would have been a death
(07:25):
sentis at my house. First of all, my daddy didn't
smoke weed. But if I have got into that Canadian
winds up under that base cabinet in the kitchen sink,
if i'd have pulled out the Canadian windsor yeah, huh,
the whole fifth.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
What would have happened?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Well, you don't even want to stay. You do not
understand what would have happened to me? I'm not on
this radio show. I'd have never had a comedy career.
I wouldn't even exist today. Nothing, no ward shows, nothing.
(08:04):
I would have jumped over all the mistakes I made.
I'd have never gotten married. I'd have never I'd have
never ever said the wrong name at the beauty pageant.
I would have ever elmo. Oh god, I would have
missed so many monumental moments in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
You would have been called blue cheese.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Hell no, I'd have been called Swiss cheese. All the
holes in my face. My daddy would have knocked me
down for please.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
So now.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
And now she's at your house.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
She's she's a user.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
She got your husband on the payment plan to pay
for her hair. Her nails are lashes. Give her money
me a month to help her save her phone apartment.
She work out a daycare. I ain't interested in getting
a job in her field because she like kids. Then
you suggested to her, did she get an early childhood
education degree? She told me she don't take advice from
somebody with high school diploma. Oh, you could say that
(09:00):
if you want to, But a lot of people take
advice from people with high school diplomas. The whole strawberry
letter is wrapped around a man that don't have nothing
but a high school diploma. Because after you ask Shirley
and then you asked Steve, you're talking to a high
school diploma person. That's all I got ever had never
got close to a degree. I ain't have enough. I
(09:22):
didn't have enough hours to become a sophomore. Oh it
was there three years. Then you told the biggest lie,
you said, my backhand game is strong. I batted her
a few times in miss well, your backhand game ain't
strong no more. No see Serena Williams got a strong
(09:43):
backhad and you don't have a strong backhand. You got
a hand that used to be strong back in the day.
That's what you got, but you ain't got no strong
backhand on see Ellas Vira Harvey. Her backhand game was strong.
Oh I never seen a miss. I ain't even see
(10:06):
it coming. Oh my mama was slick with her. She'd
have her hand down by her side and it would
just come up and it would be like up it
take my whole lip up. Wow, gus Ville Harvey had
a back hand game. Now your husband knows that y'all
cannot be around each other for long. So I was
(10:28):
shocked when I came home yesterday and all her luggage
was lined up in my living room. She said, he'll
be she'll be living with us cause she can't get
along with her mama. Well, that's hung her damn mama problem.
She can't get along with her mama. So you finna
make me get along with this help. No you're not. No,
you're not. See I'll tell you what you move in here,
(10:49):
But I'm finna make her life hell though. Yeah, yeah,
I'm finna make her life hell. Ain't nothing she'd do
gonna work out. I'm gonna tell you that right now.
She can't bring no weed up in here. She can't
bring no food in here. I'm gonna wear all her
damn clothes. Her life gonna be miserable as hell. That
(11:09):
stash money you giving her, I'm finish take it, I'm
finish show up. I'm gonna put her lashes on everything.
I'm gonna be just sitting up in the house everything
I'm gonna put her lashes on, or be he got
her nails on everything. She come in the house and
be like this here, hey, and you ain't gonna be
(11:33):
able to go down there to that place this week
because I already been down there. They told me tell you, hey, though,
this was the look they was gonna put on your hands.
So I just thought I bring it in here and
see you. Yes, she'll wake up in the middle of
the night. I'll be sitting in the chair across the
room with my feet up on the bed, looking at her,
cleaning my pistol.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
I'll be doing all kinds of yeah, get out.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yeah. She go in the bathroom and be notes type
taped on the handle, your last flush. I have a
little stick. I have a note written on her bathroom
mirror in lipstick. Your lipstick is gone because I used
it to leave this note for you in the middle. Oh,
(12:18):
I aggravate this little young See what you can't do
is you can't out You can't outlast me when it
comes to that game. Plus we in my house. Yeah,
you know, like the chair, she's seeing it at the
kitchen table. I take all the screws.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Out, make her fall when she sits down, break her ass.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
See you're not finna do nothing. I'm finna have you
where you scared to do anything. I'm put alarm on
refrigerator when you open the door. I'm talking about a
lot like that fire alarm to be on your house.
I do all types of stuff up. Watch the TV
in your house. TV, I have it rigged where when
she put her fingerprint on remote, cut it on. It
(13:00):
don't work. You keep going off, all right?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Listen, leave your comments on Today.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
The laptop and hold phone.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
It's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey FM. And
check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the
free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good. Coming
up next to his junior with sports talk right after this,
you're listening Harvey Morning Show.
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In The Village will take you into the most exclusive areas of the 2024 Paris Olympic Games to explore the daily life of athletes, complete with all the funny, mundane and unexpected things you learn off the field of play. Join Elizabeth Beisel as she sits down with Olympians each day in Paris.
3. iHeartOlympics: The Latest
Listen to the latest news from the 2024 Olympics.