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May 12, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter for Monday, May 12th, 2025: "Do I Stay Or Move On To Number 5?"

A woman writes in because she has become bored with her husband. She's thinking of moving on to another man. Listen to the whole story and hear Steve & Shirley's responses!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is draw baby letter. Thank you nephew.
Subject do I stay or move? On? To number five?
There's Stephen Shirley.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
I'm fifty four years old and I'm married to my
third husband. I have a tendency to get bored in relationships,
so I was really trying to make my marriage work.
I get hit on by men at least three times
a week, and I always have to flash my diamond
ring so men know I'm taken. I guess it's my
cute dimples and my sweet voice. Each one of my

(00:53):
husbands told me that it's the baby talk that drove
them crazy. Whatever it is, I know I can always
get a man, but my current husband is boring and
he's not into explicit videos. Or role playing. We've only
been married two years and he's already stopped flipping me
around when we're intimate. I was telling my sister how

(01:14):
plain our sex is, and he overheard me on the phone.
He went off yelling and screaming at me. He threw
my past and up in my face. He said that
I'm in the I'm the problem in all of my
failed relationships because I want to stay young and do
things young women do. My sisters heard everything that he

(01:34):
said to me and told me to get out of
the house to clear my head. I met her at
a cafe and we had some drinks, and then in
walked the man of my dreams. He had on a
number five jersey, but he was not playing no games
at all. That night he had me twisted up all
kinds of ways at his house and he made me
forget about my marriage. I call him Number five and

(01:57):
we've been messing around for like three months. Me to
leave my husband for him. My husband never apologized for
the way he talked to me, so if we break up,
it won't be my fault. I feel like I should
be single and just do me for a while. Should
I try to make this third marriage work or move
on to number five? Have you ever tried to make

(02:19):
your marriage or any of your marriages work for that matter,
because it seems like when the bad times come, when
you get bored and all that, and bad times are
going to come into marriage.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
We all know that you just you're ready to give
up and just move on. You quit.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
That's really sad because if you're only around for the
good times, you're never going to be happy, never, because
that just isn't how marriage works. So here you are
ready to quit yet again. I love that you don't
even consider for a moment what your husband said might
be true. He said, you're the problem because you want
to stay young and do what young women do. Well,

(02:57):
what's going to be different with you? If you divorce
husband three and get with this guy you just met nothing,
If you don't put any effort into it, you'll just
get bored all over again. You said that you get
you have a tendency to get bored in relationships. I mean,
do you even love your husband?

Speaker 2 (03:14):
I don't even.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
You haven't mentioned that, not one time in this whole letter.
And what's gonna happen if you do leave him and
go for number five? The man who had you flipped around.
You know, after you met him for one night? How
long will it take you to get bored with him?
You can't leave a whole marriage based on a one
night's stand. That's never gonna work, ma'am. It's just never

(03:37):
gonna work.

Speaker 3 (03:38):
Steve, I didne wrote so many notes down right here. Yeah,
let me finish this up. I just don't. I just
have so many things that's I really don't need to
read this letter. But it's just nothing in this letter
makes any sense at all. You're fifty four years old
and married to my third husband. I have a tendency

(03:59):
to get bored and relationship. So I was really trying
to make my marriage work. Really, and then right after
that statement right there, all that she negates everything. Right
after this, I was really trying to make my marriage work.
I get hit on by men at least three times
a week, and I have to flash my diamond rings.

(04:19):
So me and no, I'm taking no. See, the reason
you get hit on by men three times a week
is because you look like that. You look like that,
you draw. Listen to me, Whatever you put out is
what comes back to you. You put out, Look at me,
listen to me, see me, watch me, And that's what
men do. We hunted, So we do you, We do

(04:40):
see you, we do look at you, we do want you.
That ain't nothing new. If all the women acted the
way you act, they could all get hit on three
times a week. But you married, though, Where are you?
Where you always getting hit on three times a week?
All right, here we go. I guess it's my cute

(05:01):
dimples and my sweet voice that could be part of it.
That could be Each one of my husbands told me
that this is the baby talk that drove them crazy.
Somebody tavy, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Yes, that baby talk
drive them crazy. But that baby talk don't keep them.
Don't do it, cause see, how do we do all

(05:22):
this baby talking? We gotta do some grown folks stuff.
And we got many bills up in there. Hey, we
need to save some money, you know. But you got,
you got at one point in time. You got. You
gotta move on, all right? Anyway? I know I can
always get a man, Yes you can, but you can't
keep one. You are on husband number three at fifty four.

(05:46):
Getting a man is one thing, Keeping them is another.
Now you can make mistakes and pick the wrong man,
I got that, But all you talking about is you
get bored in your relationship. All relationships hit the boring point.
They all get you, all get all getting regular after
a while. All of them do. Ain't nobody, So man,

(06:07):
my marriage is just feel with excitement the whole time.
No it's not. There's days when you be sitting there
going wild. But now I want to get boring for you.
You think you I can always get him in, but
you can't keep waring. My current husband is boring and
he's not into explicit videos of role play. No, ma,
I won't do that. Explicit videos and role play what

(06:28):
you want to play? I don't want to be a
pirate tonight. I don't want to wear a patch. I
don't want to parent in the bedroom tonight.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
All right, all right, Steve, hang on, we'll have part
two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject do I stay
or move on to number five?

Speaker 2 (06:50):
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Speaker 1 (07:31):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's crazy Strawberry letter.

Speaker 2 (07:34):
The subject is do I move? Do I stay? Or
move on? To number five?

Speaker 3 (07:39):
Look, lady been married three times, she fifty four years old.
She's complaining that all her relationships get boring. And you
know she says that, uh, she get hit on three
times a week by men. She has to flash her
diamond rings. So men, no, she taken. But see, they
wouldn't know you was available if you weren't acting a
certain way. Then you like that? So now you want
to flash your ring? Is the way you acting? This drawing?

(08:01):
I'm telling you you attract what you put out. That's
what you're doing. Whatever it is, I know I can
always get a man. Oh that's cool. Most women can.
It's keeping them that's the problem. See, a lot of
women can go out here. Most women can go out
here and get a man today. Keeping them that's another problem.
But my current husband is born. He's not into explicit

(08:21):
videos or role players. He ain't into that. He don't
like that. Okay, And we've only been married two years
and here we go and he's already stopped flipping me
around when we are intimate, so he'd already stopped flipping
you around. I was telling my sister how playing our
sex is. You know why he stopped flipping you around?
Because when he flip you around, he know what he

(08:41):
gonna get. You know what, lady, you ain't all you
think you are. Maybe all this flipping sex where you
got to have, maybe it ain't that good. Maybe you
need to work on some most stable moves because flipping
ain't your thing no more. You're fifty four, So have
you ever thought about why he stopped flipping? Maybe you
don't flip the same no more. Most some O vials

(09:02):
when she get fifty four, she ain't gonna be flipped
like this no more. And she a professional flipper. But
I can bet you when some O vials turned fifty four.
She ain't gonna be flipped like that, no more. Not
he it coming, notatcha. She ain't in the Olympics no more.

Speaker 5 (09:15):
Not here coming come.

Speaker 3 (09:18):
And eat you coming, notch you. You can call him what
you wanna call her, but you ain't gonna call her
no jack. You get all this stuff you don't know.
Nobody flipped at fifty four like they used to. He
overheard me on the phone. He went off yelling, screaming
at me, and he threw the past in my face.
He said, your problem is all your fair relationships, because
I want to stay young and do things young women do,

(09:39):
but you can't do it no more. Young women like
to get flipped, but they good at flipping. See flipping
your old eyes different flip you one time, you help
go out ship you one time, then you get a
childie hog tried to flip your last week. You hit
your two folk against the headboard. Now you complain and
stuff tied to flipping you. I want to stay young

(10:00):
and do things that young women do. You fifty four.
You can do some things, you just can't do them
the same way. My sister heard everything he said and
told me to get out the house with my head.
I met her at a cafe and we had some
drinks and then in walked the man of my dreams.
He had on the number five jersey. I be Maggie
Bush walked in, Charles White walked. These are all the

(10:29):
number fives our lives. Yeah, but he was not playing
no games at all that night, So you just saw
him one time. Now you're at his house. He had
me twisted up all kinds of ways in his house,
and he made me forget about my marriage, just like
that one night. I called him number five and weve

(10:50):
been messing around for like three months. He wants me
to leave my husband for him. My husband never apologized
for the way he talked to me, so if we
break up, it won't be my fault. Okay, okay, I'll
see this coming. I see this coming. I feel like
I should be single and just do me for a while.
You gonna be single. You ain't got to wish. Don't

(11:11):
worry about it. That's coming. Should I try to make
this third marriage work or move on the number five?
I strongly suggest you move on the number five. You've
been at number five house for three months now, so
what you're writing us for should you move on? You're
over that and now you're probably texting on the way
to the house. Now you ain't gonna be able to
keep number five, Eve, cause number five gonna get tired

(11:31):
of flipping you. Because relationships have to be about molding flipping,
and when you get in a real relationship, it turns
into what the relationship is, how we have a relationship
together in all things, not just flipping. Do you know
you spend the most of your time in your life
not having sex? Do you know that the majority of
your hours will be spent not having sex? I believe that.

(11:58):
Please understand. Hey, lady, I got something. Tell you. Your husband's right,
it's you.

Speaker 2 (12:08):
The problem is you.

Speaker 3 (12:11):
And you ain't learned a thing. Staying young is great,
but at one point you have to mature because you
are changing as a person. Any people that don't change
as they get older, you are. You are dealing with
a fool. You ain't gonna ever have nothing. You know
what breaks you up? What attracts you to me? And

(12:32):
is your baby talk? You know what make them leave
your baby? Wait? Because you was a silly, little simple
I like that?

Speaker 2 (12:39):
Say that again?

Speaker 3 (12:39):
That was good? You can attract them with your baby talk.
But what makes him leave is your baby waves. So
you can keep on with your little god got hey,
American Express is gonna close the card how the one? Yeah, well,
we gotta make a payment. You flip me. Hey, hey, hey, hey,

(13:02):
mayl can Express on the flip too. They want to
FI check over the tour.

Speaker 5 (13:08):
It.

Speaker 3 (13:08):
Yeah, you got thirty days. We gotta we gotta flip
some money over there. So, lady, you're never gonna have nothing.
I strongly suggest you leave this husband and go on
to number five because you ain't acting like a wife
no way, and to be good riddens. Maybe your man
can find somebody that won't to be married and treat
him right because you ain't gonna do nothing. You ain't
will never have nonhing number five you find me, boy,
wait till number thirty two. Come through that dough bro.

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