May 31, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been with Don for four years, off and on. That kind of threw me because she put his name in there. I've been with Don for four years, oh, on and off. He's a great friend, lover and hard worker, but he's messy. He tells all of his sister's business and his older sister beat him up several years ago. He didn't learn his lesson, and he did it again. His older sister is supposedly an escort, and he decided to share it with their dad, and she showed up but their dad's house and wore my man out. I couldn't stand by and let that happen because he didn't run from her or anything.......................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
by clicking Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
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it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
We guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject he won't fight back, but I will.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been with Don for four years,
off and on. That kind of threw me because she
put his name in there. I've been with Don for
four years, oh, on and off. He's a great friend,
lover and hard worker, but he's messy. He tells all
(00:46):
of his sister's business and his older sister beat him
up several years ago. He didn't learn his lesson, and
he did it again. His older sister is supposedly an escort,
and he decided to share it with their dad, and
she showed up but their dad's house and warm my
man out. I couldn't stand by and let that happen
because he didn't run from her or anything. I ended
(01:09):
up with a busted lip and a pulled muscle. Then
his sister's boyfriend showed up at our house and he
tried to have round two with my man. That wasn't happening,
and I hit him with a broom the minute he
lunged at my husband. I don't get why my boyfriend
won't defend himself or keep his mouth closed when it
comes to his sisters. He did a similar thing to
(01:29):
his younger sister. She asked to stay with us, and
I said she could stay for a few days, but
not her boyfriend, and I told him no. She showed
up anyway with her sorry boyfriend, and my messy man
asked the dude if he still got two warrants. All
he had to do is put his foot down and
tell his sister no. Instead, he got in this six '
(01:53):
four young man's face, talking like he could whoop his tail.
That man shoved my man in the forehead. My man
fell back like he was in a wrestling match. So
I had to step in once again and calm the situation.
The fact that don don't defend him, won't defend himself
is a problem for me. Can a man be everything
(02:14):
that I need him to be and be a whimp
at the same time. He has gotten me into a
lot of fights lately, and I need him to control
his mouth. Is too much to ask for him to
defend himself. Why is he such? Why is he a woosie?
Because he's stupid, I mean, obviously, and he likes getting
beat down. I guess does he drink or something? I
(02:36):
got to ask you that out the gate because this
is highly unusual and stupid behavior. It just really is.
He's making the messes and you have to come in
and clean it up. Well, you don't have to, but
you do. I mean, it's like cleaning up after a child. Here.
I'm glad he doesn't hit his sisters because he shouldn't anyway,
And with all the trash talking and gossiping he does,
(02:57):
he could really get hurt. He could really get hurt hurt.
Doesn't he realize he's putting you, his wife, in harm's
way and because of that, you got to stop defending him. Okay,
you could get hurt here. He's a grown man. I
know you love him and all of that, and think
you're doing the right thing by helping him. But you
gotta let him fight his own battles again. He is
(03:19):
a grown man. He's the one that's starting all the trouble.
It's not at all too much to ask him to
stop fighting. But if he won't, you've got to. You're
his wife, not his bodyguard. Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Well, okay, good, let's go and get your letter, because
I know exactly what's happening here. Listen to me, lady.
He won't fight back, but I will. Now I've been
with Don for four years now. Surely the reason she
wrote the man's name in there because she's accustomed to
the way you ask a letter. So she just tried
to help you out by putting his name in there,
because he know you're gonna break She know you're gonna
(03:52):
break him up anyway, so she might as well put
his name in it so he'll know exactly who in
this relationships in what it was talking about. Because yo, yo,
you was known to be breaking people up. You tried
to handle this in more of a therapeutic way. This anyway, anyway,
done for four years on and off. He's a great
(04:13):
free and lover, hard worker, but he's messy. He tells
all his sister's business and his oldest sister beat him
up several years ago. Well, he didn't learn his lesson,
and he did it again. His older sister is supposedly
an escort. He decided to share this with his dad.
She showed him to dad and wore her man out.
(04:36):
That means, and so let me give you clarity on that.
She came over there and whooped his ass.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
That's what this was. You Now.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I couldn't stand by and let that happen because he
didn't run from her or anything. I ended up with
a busted lip and a pool muscle. Now let me
translate that she whooped both y'all ass. Now, I don't
know what kind of ass she is, but whoever bring
her in, God's to pay her because she she got
(05:09):
hands so she can whoop. Don you and any escort
that don't pay the two fifty? Okay? Then his sister's
boyfriend showed up. That's the escort got a boyfriend. He
showed up at our house and he tried to have
round two with my man. That wasn't happening. I hit
him with a broom the moment he lunged in my husband,
(05:30):
I don't get why my boyfriend won't defend or keep
his mouth closed when it comes to his sisters. He
did a similar thing to his younger sister. She asked
to stay with us, He couldn't stay. She stay, you said,
she can stay for a few days, but not a boyfriend.
She showed up anyway with the sorry boyfriend. Okay, and
then your messy man asked the dude if he still
(05:53):
had two one then he got pushed down in the
forehead like a wrestling mat. Okay. First of all, your
boyfriend need to take up karate. Your boyfriend has got
to take up some form of martial arts, because this
boy is just getting his ass whoop everywhere by anybody
(06:17):
and everybody. His sisters beat his ass. The sister boyfriend
beat his ass, and not a younger sister to whipped
his ass. It's all this, and all of this is
because your man ain't obviously learned when he was younger,
and now he's learning late in life. Shut show damn mouth.
(06:39):
When we come back, I'll tell you the rest.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
All right. We'll have a part two of Steve's response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry letter. Subject he won't fight back, but I will.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject he won't fight back,
but I will.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Now, this lady is not married to this guy named Don.
She been in four year relationship on and off. I'm
gonna strongly suggest after this that we get more into
the off position because on ain't working. Don runs his
mouth a lot. He told his daddy that his oldest
sister was an escort. She came over and whooped his ass.
Then she went home and told her boyfriend. He came
(07:24):
over to the house and he whooped Don's hands. Then
he said something to her younger sister about staying at
the house with her boyfriend. He asked her, he has
the boyfriend. You still got them warrants? He turned around, Hey,
he whooped his hands. Now on the last break, I
had the first suggestion was I think your boyfriend need
(07:48):
to take up karate. He needs some form of martial
arts because he first of all, he just keep getting
his ass whooped. That's all this is. And why does
he keep getting this behind whoop, because he has never
learned when he was younger to shut you damn mouth.
(08:11):
But now you at this age where people gonna teach
it to you. Most people learned this at an early age.
I learned it on the playground one time that you
can't play with everybody. And I learned that I was
talking through a chain link fence one time. My lips
was through the links on the fence, my lips all
and well, the only thing was out there on the
basketball court was my lips. And I was talking trash
(08:34):
about this dude. And then little did I know that
he went around behind me, but I had my face
mashed him get the chain link fence, and I ain't seen. Well,
he came up behind me and mashed the back of
my head further into the chain link fence. Now all
my facial features is coming out to chain leak fish.
And that's when I learned you can't. They was bigger
(08:56):
than ever they and they was out there tripping people
on the basketball court. So I learned a's time and
place for everything. Hmm okay, So now then now she
said that all her husband had, all her boyfriend got
do is put his foot down and tell his sister. No,
(09:16):
the young man shoved him in the forehead. I fell
back like he was in a wrestling match. So I
had to once again step in and calm the situation
and the fact that Don won't defend himself as a
problem for me. Can a man be everything I need
him to be and a whimp at the same time?
He has gotten me into a lot of fights lately,
and I need him to control his mouth. Is this
(09:38):
too much to ask for him to defend himself? Why
is he was not? Normally this situation is reversed. It's
usually the woman running her mouth and the man got
to jump in and stand a bunch of fights, and
then a man go to this girl and say, hey, baby,
quit talking to these dudes now, because I got to
do something. Now you are asking me something. Can a
(10:00):
man be a wos and everything you want at the
same time. In my book, act like a lady, think
like a man, I wrote the three p's that a
man shows his love to a woman and the three
peas are to provide, to profess, and to protect. Well,
(10:20):
Don can't protect you because you so busy protecting Don.
We have three things that we have to do. We
have to provide for a female and her family and
our family. We have to profess our love for somebody's
daughter somewhere, and we gotta protect our family or our
loved one. That's our job. You can't protect people, you
(10:44):
ain't doing your job, and you running your damn mouth.
I think the problem you got is you can't make
him defend himself, and you may not be able to
get him to defend you. Because what's gonna happen when
the situation arise where you need defend it, he don't
defend himself. You may find out that he not gonna
(11:06):
defend you. Now what do you have? That's probably why
your relationship is on and off. Also, let me tell
you something else. I don't I don't know what. I
don't know if you've ever heard this before, but see
here the lesson don ain't learned. This is an old
school lesson. Pay closely attention. You can't write a check
(11:27):
your ass can't cash. That's old school, sain. You can't
write a check that your ass can't cash. Don can't
cash check, Don don mouth got insufficient funds Now Don
is writing checks that his ass can't cash, and people
(11:52):
won't they payment. See because if you're gonna talk about me,
you go you and I come for you. You. You
gotta have a payment plan. All don doing is getting
his ass for now. Here's my suggestion to you. Your
eventual decision has to be You've got to decide that
you Now, you said in your letter, here's the pronoun
(12:13):
you picked. Why is he a whoosy? You said that,
that's in your letter. Why is he a whoosy? I
don't know, but maybe that's what he's chosen to be.
He has every right to be that. This is why
you and own again relationship. Because you're in a relationship
(12:35):
with a whoosy. You ain't the first person called him
a woosy because right after the big six foot folk did,
he said, Man, get your little whoosy ass out of here.
He pushed them dead in his head. I bet he
said that that's your that's the word you chose to
call him, not me. So now that you know that,
why are you with him? He cannot protect you or
(12:55):
provide for you? Call he a woosy? All right?
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Leave your comments Today's Strawberry Letter and worn at Steve
Harvey FM and check it out on the Strawberry Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app, Crazy Off of
Me coming up next, Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
by clicking Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
We guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject he won't fight back, but I will.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been with Don for four years,
off and on. That kind of threw me because she
put his name in there. I've been with Don for
four years, oh, on and off. He's a great friend,
lover and hard worker, but he's messy. He tells all
(00:46):
of his sister's business and his older sister beat him
up several years ago. He didn't learn his lesson, and
he did it again. His older sister is supposedly an escort,
and he decided to share it with their dad, and
she showed up but their dad's house and warm my
man out. I couldn't stand by and let that happen
because he didn't run from her or anything. I ended
(01:09):
up with a busted lip and a pulled muscle. Then
his sister's boyfriend showed up at our house and he
tried to have round two with my man. That wasn't happening,
and I hit him with a broom the minute he
lunged at my husband. I don't get why my boyfriend
won't defend himself or keep his mouth closed when it
comes to his sisters. He did a similar thing to
(01:29):
his younger sister. She asked to stay with us, and
I said she could stay for a few days, but
not her boyfriend, and I told him no. She showed
up anyway with her sorry boyfriend, and my messy man
asked the dude if he still got two warrants. All
he had to do is put his foot down and
tell his sister no. Instead, he got in this six '
(01:53):
four young man's face, talking like he could whoop his tail.
That man shoved my man in the forehead. My man
fell back like he was in a wrestling match. So
I had to step in once again and calm the situation.
The fact that don don't defend him, won't defend himself
is a problem for me. Can a man be everything
(02:14):
that I need him to be and be a whimp
at the same time. He has gotten me into a
lot of fights lately, and I need him to control
his mouth. Is too much to ask for him to
defend himself. Why is he such? Why is he a woosie?
Because he's stupid, I mean, obviously, and he likes getting
beat down. I guess does he drink or something? I
(02:36):
got to ask you that out the gate because this
is highly unusual and stupid behavior. It just really is.
He's making the messes and you have to come in
and clean it up. Well, you don't have to, but
you do. I mean, it's like cleaning up after a child. Here.
I'm glad he doesn't hit his sisters because he shouldn't anyway,
And with all the trash talking and gossiping he does,
(02:57):
he could really get hurt. He could really get hurt hurt.
Doesn't he realize he's putting you, his wife, in harm's
way and because of that, you got to stop defending him. Okay,
you could get hurt here. He's a grown man. I
know you love him and all of that, and think
you're doing the right thing by helping him. But you
gotta let him fight his own battles again. He is
(03:19):
a grown man. He's the one that's starting all the trouble.
It's not at all too much to ask him to
stop fighting. But if he won't, you've got to. You're
his wife, not his bodyguard. Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Well, okay, good, let's go and get your letter, because
I know exactly what's happening here. Listen to me, lady.
He won't fight back, but I will. Now I've been
with Don for four years now. Surely the reason she
wrote the man's name in there because she's accustomed to
the way you ask a letter. So she just tried
to help you out by putting his name in there,
because he know you're gonna break She know you're gonna
(03:52):
break him up anyway, so she might as well put
his name in it so he'll know exactly who in
this relationships in what it was talking about. Because yo, yo,
you was known to be breaking people up. You tried
to handle this in more of a therapeutic way. This anyway, anyway,
done for four years on and off. He's a great
(04:13):
free and lover, hard worker, but he's messy. He tells
all his sister's business and his oldest sister beat him
up several years ago. Well, he didn't learn his lesson,
and he did it again. His older sister is supposedly
an escort. He decided to share this with his dad.
She showed him to dad and wore her man out.
(04:36):
That means, and so let me give you clarity on that.
She came over there and whooped his ass.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
That's what this was. You Now.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I couldn't stand by and let that happen because he
didn't run from her or anything. I ended up with
a busted lip and a pool muscle. Now let me
translate that she whooped both y'all ass. Now, I don't
know what kind of ass she is, but whoever bring
her in, God's to pay her because she she got
(05:09):
hands so she can whoop. Don you and any escort
that don't pay the two fifty? Okay? Then his sister's
boyfriend showed up. That's the escort got a boyfriend. He
showed up at our house and he tried to have
round two with my man. That wasn't happening. I hit
him with a broom the moment he lunged in my husband,
(05:30):
I don't get why my boyfriend won't defend or keep
his mouth closed when it comes to his sisters. He
did a similar thing to his younger sister. She asked
to stay with us, He couldn't stay. She stay, you said,
she can stay for a few days, but not a boyfriend.
She showed up anyway with the sorry boyfriend. Okay, and
then your messy man asked the dude if he still
(05:53):
had two one then he got pushed down in the
forehead like a wrestling mat. Okay. First of all, your
boyfriend need to take up karate. Your boyfriend has got
to take up some form of martial arts, because this
boy is just getting his ass whoop everywhere by anybody
(06:17):
and everybody. His sisters beat his ass. The sister boyfriend
beat his ass, and not a younger sister to whipped
his ass. It's all this, and all of this is
because your man ain't obviously learned when he was younger,
and now he's learning late in life. Shut show damn mouth.
(06:39):
When we come back, I'll tell you the rest.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
All right. We'll have a part two of Steve's response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry letter. Subject he won't fight back, but I will.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject he won't fight back,
but I will.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Now, this lady is not married to this guy named Don.
She been in four year relationship on and off. I'm
gonna strongly suggest after this that we get more into
the off position because on ain't working. Don runs his
mouth a lot. He told his daddy that his oldest
sister was an escort. She came over and whooped his ass.
Then she went home and told her boyfriend. He came
(07:24):
over to the house and he whooped Don's hands. Then
he said something to her younger sister about staying at
the house with her boyfriend. He asked her, he has
the boyfriend. You still got them warrants? He turned around, Hey,
he whooped his hands. Now on the last break, I
had the first suggestion was I think your boyfriend need
(07:48):
to take up karate. He needs some form of martial
arts because he first of all, he just keep getting
his ass whooped. That's all this is. And why does
he keep getting this behind whoop, because he has never
learned when he was younger to shut you damn mouth.
(08:11):
But now you at this age where people gonna teach
it to you. Most people learned this at an early age.
I learned it on the playground one time that you
can't play with everybody. And I learned that I was
talking through a chain link fence one time. My lips
was through the links on the fence, my lips all
and well, the only thing was out there on the
basketball court was my lips. And I was talking trash
(08:34):
about this dude. And then little did I know that
he went around behind me, but I had my face
mashed him get the chain link fence, and I ain't seen. Well,
he came up behind me and mashed the back of
my head further into the chain link fence. Now all
my facial features is coming out to chain leak fish.
And that's when I learned you can't. They was bigger
(08:56):
than ever they and they was out there tripping people
on the basketball court. So I learned a's time and
place for everything. Hmm okay, So now then now she
said that all her husband had, all her boyfriend got
do is put his foot down and tell his sister. No,
(09:16):
the young man shoved him in the forehead. I fell
back like he was in a wrestling match. So I
had to once again step in and calm the situation
and the fact that Don won't defend himself as a
problem for me. Can a man be everything I need
him to be and a whimp at the same time?
He has gotten me into a lot of fights lately,
and I need him to control his mouth. Is this
(09:38):
too much to ask for him to defend himself? Why
is he was not? Normally this situation is reversed. It's
usually the woman running her mouth and the man got
to jump in and stand a bunch of fights, and
then a man go to this girl and say, hey, baby,
quit talking to these dudes now, because I got to
do something. Now you are asking me something. Can a
(10:00):
man be a wos and everything you want at the
same time. In my book, act like a lady, think
like a man, I wrote the three p's that a
man shows his love to a woman and the three
peas are to provide, to profess, and to protect. Well,
(10:20):
Don can't protect you because you so busy protecting Don.
We have three things that we have to do. We
have to provide for a female and her family and
our family. We have to profess our love for somebody's
daughter somewhere, and we gotta protect our family or our
loved one. That's our job. You can't protect people, you
(10:44):
ain't doing your job, and you running your damn mouth.
I think the problem you got is you can't make
him defend himself, and you may not be able to
get him to defend you. Because what's gonna happen when
the situation arise where you need defend it, he don't
defend himself. You may find out that he not gonna
(11:06):
defend you. Now what do you have? That's probably why
your relationship is on and off. Also, let me tell
you something else. I don't I don't know what. I
don't know if you've ever heard this before, but see
here the lesson don ain't learned. This is an old
school lesson. Pay closely attention. You can't write a check
(11:27):
your ass can't cash. That's old school, sain. You can't
write a check that your ass can't cash. Don can't
cash check, Don don mouth got insufficient funds Now Don
is writing checks that his ass can't cash, and people
(11:52):
won't they payment. See because if you're gonna talk about me,
you go you and I come for you. You. You
gotta have a payment plan. All don doing is getting
his ass for now. Here's my suggestion to you. Your
eventual decision has to be You've got to decide that
you Now, you said in your letter, here's the pronoun
(12:13):
you picked. Why is he a whoosy? You said that,
that's in your letter. Why is he a whoosy? I
don't know, but maybe that's what he's chosen to be.
He has every right to be that. This is why
you and own again relationship. Because you're in a relationship
(12:35):
with a whoosy. You ain't the first person called him
a woosy because right after the big six foot folk did,
he said, Man, get your little whoosy ass out of here.
He pushed them dead in his head. I bet he
said that that's your that's the word you chose to
call him, not me. So now that you know that,
why are you with him? He cannot protect you or
(12:55):
provide for you? Call he a woosy? All right?
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Leave your comments Today's Strawberry Letter and worn at Steve
Harvey FM and check it out on the Strawberry Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app, Crazy Off of
Me coming up next, Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening Harvey Morning Show.
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