October 7, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, My boyfriend was out of town, so I went to pick up our dog so he could stay with me. I heard a female voice say, hello, "who's there?" I knew the voice, so I walked back to my boyfriend's bedroom and it was his female friend lying in his bed. She was all cozy under the covers watching a movie. I remained calm as I asked why she was there. She said that she has been having issues with her marriage, so my boyfriend suggested that she stay at his house while he was out of town. She said that he was supposed to tell me about it. I played it off like maybe he did tell me, and I forgot. I noticed this woman was wrapped up in the monogrammed robe I gave my boyfriend for Christmas as she explained how special my boyfriend is to her and how he always gives her great advice about her marriage..............................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject His female friend was in his
bed just Stephen Shirley. My boyfriend was out of town,
so I went to pick up our dog so he
could stay with me. I heard a female voice say, hello,
who's there. I knew the voice, so I walked back
to my boyfriend's bedroom and it was his female friend
lying in his bed. She was all cozy under the
(00:48):
covers watching a movie. I remained calm as I asked
why she was there. She said that she had been
that she has been having issues with her marriage, so
my boyfriend and suggested that she stay at his house
while he was out of town. She said that he
was supposed to tell me about it. I played it
off like maybe he did tell me, and I forgot.
(01:09):
I noticed this woman was wrapped up in the monogrammed
robe I gave my boyfriend for Christmas. As she explained
how special my boyfriend is to her and how he
always gives her great advice about her marriage, lo and Behold,
my boyfriend facetimed her as we were talking. She immediately
let him know that I was there too. He asked
(01:31):
about the dog before he acknowledged that I was in
the room. He said he loved me and he missed me.
So Honestly, I don't think anything's going on with her,
but this is an ongoing thing, and he never understood
why I am so bothered by it until recently. I
was waiting for the perfect moment to retaliate on him,
(01:52):
and my oldest male friend was my accomplice. On Friday,
my friend was lying in my bed watching tea when
my boyfriend came over. My boyfriend was so mad that
he broke up with me. He said, that's how people
get hurt. I told him he did it to me
and it was no big deal, so he shouldn't be
upset with me. Was it childish to plot and plan
(02:15):
my revenge or did he deserve it? Well, of course
two wrongs don't make a right, but there is no
question he deserved it. The problem is that he and
no other man in the world would be able to
take that payback. They just can't cope with what they do,
you know, gets when it gets turned back on them.
(02:35):
They don't want to try to understand or see how
it feels, how it makes us feel. I'm surprised you
didn't go off on her though, when you saw in
the bed and in the robe that you gave him
for Christmas. You still didn't get mad at him when
he facetimed her and asked about the dog before he
asked about you. Like he said, it was no big
deal when you walked in on his friend in his bed.
(02:58):
But that was, I'm sure hurtful, humiliating to you all
of that. It's a horrible thing about the double standard
in life. You know what's so different about you doing
the exact same thing to you and to him when
you had another man in your bed. Nothing, but men
make it out to be so much worse, so much worse.
It isn't. It's the same. It is the same thing.
(03:21):
It's the same. It's the same, no matter what they say,
it's the same. But the man's ego can't take it.
And when he got mad, he broke up to you.
It is the same thing, it really, it really is
just as well, I think because of you know what happened.
Because it's so called best friend. It's always going to
(03:41):
be there. She's always going to be there. They're both disrespectful,
they're selfish, and you would never be his priority. You're
better off without him.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Steve, Girl, you just tell y'all something. It is not
the same. It is, and I'm gonna explain to you
why it ain't that same when we come back, and
it's really obvious why it's not the same. Now, let
me explain something to you. Everybody in this letter wrong.
(04:10):
Everybody in this letter is wrong. The boyfriend is wrong,
the girl that wrote the letter is wrong. The girlfriend
that was in the bed is wrong, and the boyfriend
that was in the bed is wrong. These some young
people right here, grown ass people, real grown ass people
know you can't play like this. They already know that.
(04:33):
And I don't know how they even got into this man,
And I will here we go. His female friend was
in his bed, how many times. I'm not gonna be
upset with it today because I have explained this to
y'all over and over.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
You're very calm, and you know because surely I'm gonna
try a different way, because I've told you over and
over about this friend thing with these opposite six and
he's attracted to this girl, and I'm telling you, and
now they friends.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
And not listen to them. So your boyfriend out of town,
so she go over there to pick their dog up
so he could stay with me. I heard a female
voice say, hello, who's there? I knew the voice, so
I walked back to my boyfriend's bedroom and it was
his female friend lying in his bed. She was all
cozy under the covers, watching the movie. I was calm
(05:32):
as I asked her why she was there. She said
she had been having issues with her marriage, so my
boyfriend suggested she stay at his house while he was
out of town. What right, bro? Right here, what's the
matter with you? She ain't got nowhere else she can go?
But okay, I'm telling y'all, man, y'all all right, So
my boyfriend suggested she stay at his house while he
(05:52):
was out. She said that he was supposed to tell
me about it, So I played it off like maybe
he did tell me, and I forgot. I know, this
woman's wrapped up in the monogram robe I gave my
boyfriend for Christmas. Now, a real SISTERM would have told
her toe that robe right off her head. But now
y'all young, and you sitting up here just making notes.
(06:14):
She got his robe on with his name on it,
and then she explained how special a boyfriend is and
how he always gives her great advice about her marriage
and lo and behold, my boyfriend facetimed as we were talking.
She immediately let him know I was there too. That
was the code to let him know, Hey, don't say
nothing crazy. And why you FaceTime and your friend and
(06:35):
you know she in your bed? What y'all of fend
to see on FaceTime?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Girl?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Bye?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up. At twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter,
subject his female friend was in his bed. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening hard Morning show?
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject his female friend was in his bed. Wow.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Yeah, So now this lady and this man nay dating,
he got a dog. He went over there to pick
up a dog because man was out of town. She
heard a voice in the back. It was a woman,
who's there? She recognized the voice, went in the back.
His best friend, who was a girl, was laying in
the bed, tucked under the comforter, watching a movie. They
(07:24):
started talking. She said, Oh, I'm over here because I'm
having some issues in my marriage. And he told me
to stay over here while he was gone. And I
thought he told you about me because he was supposed
to tell you. He didn't tell her about it because
he didn't want her to know about it. But she
done walked over there and found out about it. So
now she was talking about how he gives great advice
(07:46):
and all this here, and then all of a sudden,
the phone rang and it's the boyfriend and he's face
timing his friend who's in his bed, facetiming her for what.
She quickly let him know that she was in the room,
but before he said anything to her, he called about
(08:07):
the dog. That's to act like, that's what he was
calling about, was the dog. And so then he started
talking about he started talking about how he loved her
and misses her and all this here and so then
the lady says, I, honestly, I don't think anything's going
on with her. Oh god, you stupid. Yeah. Oh this
(08:36):
is how men get away with so much because some
women want to believe in there. They don't want to
do what they mind telling them to do. They keep
listening to their heart. I don't think it's nothing going
on her, but this is an ongoing thing. And he
never understood why I'm so bothered by until recently. I
(08:58):
was waiting for the perfect moment to retaliate my oldest
male friend. Here we go again, where y'all keep coming
out with these damn opposite sex friends from now, Watch
what this food did. My oldest male friend was an
accomplished On Friday, my friend was lying in my bed
watching TV when my boyfriend came over. What y'all got
(09:23):
to be? Young man? Ain't no grown ass man thought
this was a good idea. I'm gonna lay in this
and lay in his bed when this dude come over
to act like we chill it. Man, Shirley said, it's
the same thing when you do it, it's not and
I'm gonna tell you why, because the dude said it
(09:44):
in the letter. The dude said, he said, that's how
people get hurt, because when a man gets disrespected by
what he think is another man, there's gonna be some
type of physical confrontation. This could have gone really, really wrong.
And that's the difference. You back there talking to her,
(10:04):
speaking to him on FaceTime, or you know, taking the
inventory she got the monogram rob Bone. She didn't having
a conversation talking about her life problems. Him and the
other dude. They didn't have no such a conversation. I
promise you they didn't. And all the boyfriend told her was, hey,
I'm gonna tell you right now, this is how people
get hurt right here, and he broke up with her
(10:26):
about it because it is a double standing. It has
always been a double standing, and neither I nor him
created the double standing. In the words of Slick Harvey
to my older sisters, you can't do what I do
and still be a lady. Now. I'm sorry, but that's
the way it is. Y'all. Ain't got nothing do with me,
and I don't got it no matter if I live
(10:47):
by that or nothing. That's just the way it is.
I told him that's what he did to me, and
it was no big deal, so he shouldn't be upset
with me. Was it childish to plot and plan my revene?
He did? He deserve it? No, it was stupid of
you to Two wrongs don't make a right. So you
thought you'd do this to him so he could see
(11:09):
how it felt. Well, guess what he felt. He left you.
But you got a man in your bed and your
boyfriend walk in and see the man on the bed. Y'all,
y'all play This ain't how you play. I don't understand
this generation.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Man.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
It's no fifty year old people that have do that, because,
first of all, you ask a grown ass man lay
on my bed with my boyfriend. Girl, I ain't finna
get shot what you're talking about. But these as young people. Man,
all right, I'm gonna go over there and do it.
I'm gonna lay on the bed. It'll be cool. Let
him get a taste of his own medicine. This is
(11:47):
a different generation, y'all. I listen to me, I strongly
suggest this don't happen. Now here's my opinion. Do I
think he's seeing the married woman that's fifty to fifty.
That's fifty fifty. But she showed and took a whole
lot of liberties. Yeah, and here was another thing. If
you got all the problems, you can't go nowhere, where
(12:09):
your mama, where your sister's at, where your girlfriends at?
Are you over my house? Because he wanted her over there?
And then he facetimed. That's all I have to say
about this letter. I have told y'all, let me get
over and over and over about these friends in the
(12:33):
opposite sex. It always leads to problems. Why won't you
see that?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
What more can I do?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Why?
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Mean? What?
Speaker 3 (12:49):
It's all I've ever done? You know what I'm gonna tyreee,
y'all on one of these letters, I'm gonna have some
beautiful pain. That's what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
You comment on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook
at Steve HARVEYFM. Also, you can check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next
it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're
listening to Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARBFM dot com by
clicking on submit Strawberry Letter, and we could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject His female friend was in his
bed just Stephen Shirley. My boyfriend was out of town,
so I went to pick up our dog so he
could stay with me. I heard a female voice say, hello,
who's there. I knew the voice, so I walked back
to my boyfriend's bedroom and it was his female friend
lying in his bed. She was all cozy under the
(00:48):
covers watching a movie. I remained calm as I asked
why she was there. She said that she had been
that she has been having issues with her marriage, so
my boyfriend and suggested that she stay at his house
while he was out of town. She said that he
was supposed to tell me about it. I played it
off like maybe he did tell me, and I forgot.
(01:09):
I noticed this woman was wrapped up in the monogrammed
robe I gave my boyfriend for Christmas. As she explained
how special my boyfriend is to her and how he
always gives her great advice about her marriage, lo and Behold,
my boyfriend facetimed her as we were talking. She immediately
let him know that I was there too. He asked
(01:31):
about the dog before he acknowledged that I was in
the room. He said he loved me and he missed me.
So Honestly, I don't think anything's going on with her,
but this is an ongoing thing, and he never understood
why I am so bothered by it until recently. I
was waiting for the perfect moment to retaliate on him,
(01:52):
and my oldest male friend was my accomplice. On Friday,
my friend was lying in my bed watching tea when
my boyfriend came over. My boyfriend was so mad that
he broke up with me. He said, that's how people
get hurt. I told him he did it to me
and it was no big deal, so he shouldn't be
upset with me. Was it childish to plot and plan
(02:15):
my revenge or did he deserve it? Well, of course
two wrongs don't make a right, but there is no
question he deserved it. The problem is that he and
no other man in the world would be able to
take that payback. They just can't cope with what they do,
you know, gets when it gets turned back on them.
(02:35):
They don't want to try to understand or see how
it feels, how it makes us feel. I'm surprised you
didn't go off on her though, when you saw in
the bed and in the robe that you gave him
for Christmas. You still didn't get mad at him when
he facetimed her and asked about the dog before he
asked about you. Like he said, it was no big
deal when you walked in on his friend in his bed.
(02:58):
But that was, I'm sure hurtful, humiliating to you all
of that. It's a horrible thing about the double standard
in life. You know what's so different about you doing
the exact same thing to you and to him when
you had another man in your bed. Nothing, but men
make it out to be so much worse, so much worse.
It isn't. It's the same. It is the same thing.
(03:21):
It's the same. It's the same, no matter what they say,
it's the same. But the man's ego can't take it.
And when he got mad, he broke up to you.
It is the same thing, it really, it really is
just as well, I think because of you know what happened.
Because it's so called best friend. It's always going to
(03:41):
be there. She's always going to be there. They're both disrespectful,
they're selfish, and you would never be his priority. You're
better off without him.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Steve, Girl, you just tell y'all something. It is not
the same. It is, and I'm gonna explain to you
why it ain't that same when we come back, and
it's really obvious why it's not the same. Now, let
me explain something to you. Everybody in this letter wrong.
(04:10):
Everybody in this letter is wrong. The boyfriend is wrong,
the girl that wrote the letter is wrong. The girlfriend
that was in the bed is wrong, and the boyfriend
that was in the bed is wrong. These some young
people right here, grown ass people, real grown ass people
know you can't play like this. They already know that.
(04:33):
And I don't know how they even got into this man,
And I will here we go. His female friend was
in his bed, how many times. I'm not gonna be
upset with it today because I have explained this to
y'all over and over.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
You're very calm, and you know because surely I'm gonna
try a different way, because I've told you over and
over about this friend thing with these opposite six and
he's attracted to this girl, and I'm telling you, and
now they friends.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
And not listen to them. So your boyfriend out of town,
so she go over there to pick their dog up
so he could stay with me. I heard a female
voice say, hello, who's there? I knew the voice, so
I walked back to my boyfriend's bedroom and it was
his female friend lying in his bed. She was all
cozy under the covers, watching the movie. I was calm
(05:32):
as I asked her why she was there. She said
she had been having issues with her marriage, so my
boyfriend suggested she stay at his house while he was
out of town. What right, bro? Right here, what's the
matter with you? She ain't got nowhere else she can go?
But okay, I'm telling y'all, man, y'all all right, So
my boyfriend suggested she stay at his house while he
(05:52):
was out. She said that he was supposed to tell
me about it, So I played it off like maybe
he did tell me, and I forgot. I know, this
woman's wrapped up in the monogram robe I gave my
boyfriend for Christmas. Now, a real SISTERM would have told
her toe that robe right off her head. But now
y'all young, and you sitting up here just making notes.
(06:14):
She got his robe on with his name on it,
and then she explained how special a boyfriend is and
how he always gives her great advice about her marriage
and lo and behold, my boyfriend facetimed as we were talking.
She immediately let him know I was there too. That
was the code to let him know, Hey, don't say
nothing crazy. And why you FaceTime and your friend and
(06:35):
you know she in your bed? What y'all of fend
to see on FaceTime?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Girl?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Bye?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up. At twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter,
subject his female friend was in his bed. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening hard Morning show?
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject his female friend was in his bed. Wow.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Yeah, So now this lady and this man nay dating,
he got a dog. He went over there to pick
up a dog because man was out of town. She
heard a voice in the back. It was a woman,
who's there? She recognized the voice, went in the back.
His best friend, who was a girl, was laying in
the bed, tucked under the comforter, watching a movie. They
(07:24):
started talking. She said, Oh, I'm over here because I'm
having some issues in my marriage. And he told me
to stay over here while he was gone. And I
thought he told you about me because he was supposed
to tell you. He didn't tell her about it because
he didn't want her to know about it. But she
done walked over there and found out about it. So
now she was talking about how he gives great advice
(07:46):
and all this here, and then all of a sudden,
the phone rang and it's the boyfriend and he's face
timing his friend who's in his bed, facetiming her for what.
She quickly let him know that she was in the room,
but before he said anything to her, he called about
(08:07):
the dog. That's to act like, that's what he was
calling about, was the dog. And so then he started
talking about he started talking about how he loved her
and misses her and all this here and so then
the lady says, I, honestly, I don't think anything's going
on with her. Oh god, you stupid. Yeah. Oh this
(08:36):
is how men get away with so much because some
women want to believe in there. They don't want to
do what they mind telling them to do. They keep
listening to their heart. I don't think it's nothing going
on her, but this is an ongoing thing. And he
never understood why I'm so bothered by until recently. I
(08:58):
was waiting for the perfect moment to retaliate my oldest
male friend. Here we go again, where y'all keep coming
out with these damn opposite sex friends from now, Watch
what this food did. My oldest male friend was an
accomplished On Friday, my friend was lying in my bed
watching TV when my boyfriend came over. What y'all got
(09:23):
to be? Young man? Ain't no grown ass man thought
this was a good idea. I'm gonna lay in this
and lay in his bed when this dude come over
to act like we chill it. Man, Shirley said, it's
the same thing when you do it, it's not and
I'm gonna tell you why, because the dude said it
(09:44):
in the letter. The dude said, he said, that's how
people get hurt, because when a man gets disrespected by
what he think is another man, there's gonna be some
type of physical confrontation. This could have gone really, really wrong.
And that's the difference. You back there talking to her,
(10:04):
speaking to him on FaceTime, or you know, taking the
inventory she got the monogram rob Bone. She didn't having
a conversation talking about her life problems. Him and the
other dude. They didn't have no such a conversation. I
promise you they didn't. And all the boyfriend told her was, hey,
I'm gonna tell you right now, this is how people
get hurt right here, and he broke up with her
(10:26):
about it because it is a double standing. It has
always been a double standing, and neither I nor him
created the double standing. In the words of Slick Harvey
to my older sisters, you can't do what I do
and still be a lady. Now. I'm sorry, but that's
the way it is. Y'all. Ain't got nothing do with me,
and I don't got it no matter if I live
(10:47):
by that or nothing. That's just the way it is.
I told him that's what he did to me, and
it was no big deal, so he shouldn't be upset
with me. Was it childish to plot and plan my revene?
He did? He deserve it? No, it was stupid of
you to Two wrongs don't make a right. So you
thought you'd do this to him so he could see
(11:09):
how it felt. Well, guess what he felt. He left you.
But you got a man in your bed and your
boyfriend walk in and see the man on the bed. Y'all,
y'all play This ain't how you play. I don't understand
this generation.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Man.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
It's no fifty year old people that have do that, because,
first of all, you ask a grown ass man lay
on my bed with my boyfriend. Girl, I ain't finna
get shot what you're talking about. But these as young people. Man,
all right, I'm gonna go over there and do it.
I'm gonna lay on the bed. It'll be cool. Let
him get a taste of his own medicine. This is
(11:47):
a different generation, y'all. I listen to me, I strongly
suggest this don't happen. Now here's my opinion. Do I
think he's seeing the married woman that's fifty to fifty.
That's fifty fifty. But she showed and took a whole
lot of liberties. Yeah, and here was another thing. If
you got all the problems, you can't go nowhere, where
(12:09):
your mama, where your sister's at, where your girlfriends at?
Are you over my house? Because he wanted her over there?
And then he facetimed. That's all I have to say
about this letter. I have told y'all, let me get
over and over and over about these friends in the
(12:33):
opposite sex. It always leads to problems. Why won't you
see that?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
What more can I do?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Why?
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Mean? What?
Speaker 3 (12:49):
It's all I've ever done? You know what I'm gonna tyreee,
y'all on one of these letters, I'm gonna have some
beautiful pain. That's what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
You comment on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook
at Steve HARVEYFM. Also, you can check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next
it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're
listening to Harvey Morning Show
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