March 21, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm forty four and my partner is forty eight. We've been together for thirteen years total and living together for the past nine years. He's been married before, so he didn't want to get married again. I have never seen a great marriage, so I'm not big on the institution of marriage either. Even now, nothing but married men hit on me. I'm a realist and I know that ninety eight percent of men cheat, so I've tried not to stress out over what my partner is doing when he's not with me.............................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subjects How could he possibly want more?
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm forty four and my partner is
forty eight. We've been together for thirteen years total and
living together for the past nine years. He's been married before,
so he didn't want to get married again. I have
never seen a great marriage, so I'm not big on
the institution of marriage either. Even now, nothing but married
(00:50):
men hit on me. I'm a realist and I know
that ninety eight percent of men cheat, so I've tried
not to stress out over what my partner is doing
when he's not with me. I hoped the day would
never come when he got sloppy with it and I
started seeing signs that he's cheating. We usually have sex
when we get home from work, because when we go
(01:10):
to bed, that's sleep time, not sex time. We also
have sex in the morning and the shower, the closet
of the kitchen, or wherever we are when the urge
comes over us. That's why I was shocked to see
little signs that he might be cheating. I have seen
makeup on his clothes, he has had strings of weave
in his car, and he's starting to get texas in
(01:31):
the morning. He's never had his phone on silent before,
but last night I saw him switch it to silent
before he got into bed. I won't have to ask
him if he's cheating. I can just watch him and
see how he changes. I was a side piece before
I met him, and I witness how the married man
lied to his wife. I had to personally apologize to
(01:52):
that man's wife, and that was the end of me
being an adulterer. I am shocked that my man needs
more sex because we have sex daily times twice a day.
How could he possibly want more? What am I missing? Here?
Are men never satisfied? Please help? Well? If it's true,
the way you guys go at it the way you
say it in the letter, you would think he would
(02:13):
always be satisfied, or he wouldn't have the time, or
he would be way too tired. But it seemed to
have the opposite effect. It energizes him. So who knows
why he cheats? It could be anything. Only he can
answer that. It could be a reason as crazy as
the other woman was just there to he's fallen in
love with someone else. And I'm sure you having been
(02:35):
in this space before as a side check, as you mentioned,
you know what I mean. It could literally be anything
or nothing in particular why he cheats. The thing that
makes your situation different is that you actually have proof here.
I mean, you have some makeup. You've seen makeup on
his clothes, You've seen strands of hair and another dead giveaway.
(02:55):
He has changed his behavior and he's not trying to
hide it. The decision is yours. Now. You've been with
this man for thirteen years total, no marriage in the offing,
nothing like that. You guys aren't planning.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
So what do you want? I mean? Do you want
to stay with him and to continue to see this
makeup and hear you know everywhere? Or you want to
leave and not give him another thirteen years of your life.
And then you know, you got to think about this.
Sometimes men just get tired. We get tired of each
other after so long.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Steve, First of all, I like to say, I cannot
believe Sureley's answer. I just cannot. Surely you surprised me.
We're good at it.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
It's good you change's surprised.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
As a person. I mean, just your answers.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
You just haven't been over the years.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Oh I've been listening. Oh that's one thing I know
how to. Oh, listen, That's how I know to change.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Hm. So glad she'd change change as well. Here I go.
I'm forty four of my partner's forty eight. This is
a woman right here. First of all, let me say
this right here. I can't help this dude in this letter.
The cat is out the bag, the gig is up,
(04:20):
the proof is in the pudding. Nothing I can do
for you, bro, busted caught. You ain't even trying to deny.
She has not even presented the evidence. All made an accusation.
She'd merely wrote a letter and dog you the start
(04:41):
the show. Please help, please help you, lady. You just
describe something. You've been married before. Your husband been married before,
so he ain't want to get married. Y'all been together
for thirteen years total, living for nine. He was married before,
so he ain't want to get married again. You did
said you ain't never seen a great man marriage, so
I ain't big on the institution of marriage now, she said,
(05:03):
even now? Nothe been married me and hit on me.
She said, I'm a realist, and I know ninety eight
percent of me in cheat, ninety eight percent of me.
And you know that's not a true statement. That's really
really not a true statement. And I can say that,
don't behalf of men.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
She can say it as a side shick tho.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Well, just because you trifling, don't mean everybody else's trifling.
And just because your man cheat don't mean all men cheat.
See now you being a side piece, how that validate
the letter anymore? How So let's go on a little
(05:48):
bit further. I try not to stress over what my
partner is doing when he's not with me, and I
hope that day would never come to he got sloppy
with it. All you was hoping was and you wish
this on yourself, that he didn't get sloppy with it.
You assumed he would do it, and so now there
you have it. That's why you're not having That's why
you're not tripping now here the part though, we have
(06:11):
sex when we get home from work, because when we
go to bed, that's sleep time, not sex time. We
have sex in the morning, in the shower, the closet,
the kitchen. Where were we at the urge come over?
That's why I was shocked. First of all, I'd like
to say, congratulations. This don't normally happen like this. I'm
here to tell you that that's the married women on
(06:33):
the show. Now I can tell you right now. Hang on, Steve,
they not going for all this hill and.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject
how can he possibly want more? We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter? Sorry,
(07:00):
how could he possibly want more?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Let me quickly go over there and here the letter
is called why would he want more? Because they married
and both of them don't want to be married. Well,
they live together, and both of them are not wanting
to get married because both of them been married before.
And she said she never seen a good marriage because
ninety eight percent of all me and cheat. I said,
that's not a true story. And then she validates this
whole letter. But I said, I used to be a
(07:22):
side piece. Well I ain't and what so now? So now,
since you was a side piece, what you said all
women are side pieces? Cause you'd have made the statement
that ninety eight percent of me and cheat, So I
must be you must be willing since you was a
side piece, you must be willing to say that ninety
eight percent of the women are side pieces. Do you
(07:45):
understand why we can't let you make that brad sweeping
statement on this show. You can't say that about me
and and you can't make that statement about women just
because you was a side piece. It's women ain't going
for that. Now your question is how could he possibly
want more? She said, we have sex when we get
home from work, because when we go to bed, that's
sleep time, not sex time. Then we have sex in
(08:08):
the morning, in the shower, duck closet, the kitchen, or
wherever we are when the urge come over us. That's
why I was shocked to see little signs that he
might be cheating. I'd have seen makeup in his clothes.
He has strings weave in this car, and he's getting
text in the morning. I can't say this, dude. I
(08:31):
can't save the weave in the car, make up on
your clothes. I can't save you dog. Nothing I can say.
He's never had his phone on silent before, but last
night I saw him switching the silad before he got
into bed.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
You can't come out of life for him.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I can't help him. I can't help him because this
woman right here ain't even accusing him, because she says,
I won't have to ask him if he's cheating. I
could just watch him and see how he changes. Then
she said, I was a side piece before I met him,
and I witnessed how the married man lied to his wife.
But then you also must have witnessed how to be
(09:11):
a side piece. So now what you're mad at? Her fault?
Side piece? Slough mass potatoes with the light gravy, dirty rice.
Oh those are size you just mad? Said? The men
cheese show like that church is okra though that fried
(09:33):
over that's a good sign yumy. That's a good size.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
There are some good sides.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Hell yeah, size make a meal. I had to personally
apologize to that man's wife and it was the end
of me being an adulter. Well that's good, everybody make
mistake now you all now what though? But what you want?
Because you said I am shocked and my man needs
most sex because we have sex daily, some times twice
(10:00):
a day, how could he possibly won't moe? That's your
only question? What am I missing here? Are men never satisfied? Yes?
Men are very satisfied a lot of times. If you
getting sex twice a day, pretty much that you the
you the topped out. I got to go to work,
(10:25):
going on, what the hell and quit broad sweeping everybody
under the same rug. Are men never satisfied twice a day?
Or do it for me? I'm doing I got news
for you. Matter of fact, I don't really want it
twice a day. I got to go to work, I
(10:51):
got a couple of Netflix series I'm caught up in.
I got to work out, and how about this here?
Damn it, I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
You would think, how.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Could he possibly want more? What am I missing here?
Are men never satisfied. Please help men satisfied all the time.
But now let's get to this question. Our men never satisfied.
I think your question need to be why is he
not satisfied with you? Yeah? I think that's what we're
(11:30):
talking about. See, quit trying to blame this on men.
Quit trying to blame this on all all. Ninety eight
percent of me in cheap when you just said you
have experience at being a side piece. So if ninety
eight percent of the me and cheat, you must be
saying all women are capable to be in side pieces.
You see how that sounds. That's not a true statement.
(11:53):
So now let's talk about why your man ain't satisfied
with you. It's twice a day. What is this this
y'all doing? That ain't making it work? Twice a day?
Y'all need practice better, y'all need some more technique. Y'all
need some more practice because you're getting it in twice
a day and it ain't cutting it. What the hell
is y'all doing? Wow, that's a lot y'all needy. See
(12:17):
what y'all doing is y'all doing two quikies every day?
Y'all need y'all need to put some y'all need you
need you need to put in some wet own sessions.
You need one to new session. I'm talking about when
you roll over and you can't even see good. No more.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Poster comments on today's Strawberry Letter on Retirement Facebook and
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio
water so you should download it today. Coming up at
forty two. Right after the hour, we'll hear from Junior
(13:03):
and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to the
Dave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subjects How could he possibly want more?
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm forty four and my partner is
forty eight. We've been together for thirteen years total and
living together for the past nine years. He's been married before,
so he didn't want to get married again. I have
never seen a great marriage, so I'm not big on
the institution of marriage either. Even now, nothing but married
(00:50):
men hit on me. I'm a realist and I know
that ninety eight percent of men cheat, so I've tried
not to stress out over what my partner is doing
when he's not with me. I hoped the day would
never come when he got sloppy with it and I
started seeing signs that he's cheating. We usually have sex
when we get home from work, because when we go
(01:10):
to bed, that's sleep time, not sex time. We also
have sex in the morning and the shower, the closet
of the kitchen, or wherever we are when the urge
comes over us. That's why I was shocked to see
little signs that he might be cheating. I have seen
makeup on his clothes, he has had strings of weave
in his car, and he's starting to get texas in
(01:31):
the morning. He's never had his phone on silent before,
but last night I saw him switch it to silent
before he got into bed. I won't have to ask
him if he's cheating. I can just watch him and
see how he changes. I was a side piece before
I met him, and I witness how the married man
lied to his wife. I had to personally apologize to
(01:52):
that man's wife, and that was the end of me
being an adulterer. I am shocked that my man needs
more sex because we have sex daily times twice a day.
How could he possibly want more? What am I missing? Here?
Are men never satisfied? Please help? Well? If it's true,
the way you guys go at it the way you
say it in the letter, you would think he would
(02:13):
always be satisfied, or he wouldn't have the time, or
he would be way too tired. But it seemed to
have the opposite effect. It energizes him. So who knows
why he cheats? It could be anything. Only he can
answer that. It could be a reason as crazy as
the other woman was just there to he's fallen in
love with someone else. And I'm sure you having been
(02:35):
in this space before as a side check, as you mentioned,
you know what I mean. It could literally be anything
or nothing in particular why he cheats. The thing that
makes your situation different is that you actually have proof here.
I mean, you have some makeup. You've seen makeup on
his clothes, You've seen strands of hair and another dead giveaway.
(02:55):
He has changed his behavior and he's not trying to
hide it. The decision is yours. Now. You've been with
this man for thirteen years total, no marriage in the offing,
nothing like that. You guys aren't planning.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
So what do you want? I mean? Do you want
to stay with him and to continue to see this
makeup and hear you know everywhere? Or you want to
leave and not give him another thirteen years of your life.
And then you know, you got to think about this.
Sometimes men just get tired. We get tired of each
other after so long.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Steve, First of all, I like to say, I cannot
believe Sureley's answer. I just cannot. Surely you surprised me.
We're good at it.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
It's good you change's surprised.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
As a person. I mean, just your answers.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
You just haven't been over the years.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Oh I've been listening. Oh that's one thing I know
how to. Oh, listen, That's how I know to change.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Hm. So glad she'd change change as well. Here I go.
I'm forty four of my partner's forty eight. This is
a woman right here. First of all, let me say
this right here. I can't help this dude in this letter.
The cat is out the bag, the gig is up,
(04:20):
the proof is in the pudding. Nothing I can do
for you, bro, busted caught. You ain't even trying to deny.
She has not even presented the evidence. All made an accusation.
She'd merely wrote a letter and dog you the start
(04:41):
the show. Please help, please help you, lady. You just
describe something. You've been married before. Your husband been married before,
so he ain't want to get married. Y'all been together
for thirteen years total, living for nine. He was married before,
so he ain't want to get married again. You did
said you ain't never seen a great man marriage, so
I ain't big on the institution of marriage now, she said,
(05:03):
even now? Nothe been married me and hit on me.
She said, I'm a realist, and I know ninety eight
percent of me in cheat, ninety eight percent of me.
And you know that's not a true statement. That's really
really not a true statement. And I can say that,
don't behalf of men.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
She can say it as a side shick tho.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Well, just because you trifling, don't mean everybody else's trifling.
And just because your man cheat don't mean all men cheat.
See now you being a side piece, how that validate
the letter anymore? How So let's go on a little
(05:48):
bit further. I try not to stress over what my
partner is doing when he's not with me, and I
hope that day would never come to he got sloppy
with it. All you was hoping was and you wish
this on yourself, that he didn't get sloppy with it.
You assumed he would do it, and so now there
you have it. That's why you're not having That's why
you're not tripping now here the part though, we have
(06:11):
sex when we get home from work, because when we
go to bed, that's sleep time, not sex time. We
have sex in the morning, in the shower, the closet,
the kitchen. Where were we at the urge come over?
That's why I was shocked. First of all, I'd like
to say, congratulations. This don't normally happen like this. I'm
here to tell you that that's the married women on
(06:33):
the show. Now I can tell you right now. Hang on, Steve,
they not going for all this hill and.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject
how can he possibly want more? We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter? Sorry,
(07:00):
how could he possibly want more?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Let me quickly go over there and here the letter
is called why would he want more? Because they married
and both of them don't want to be married. Well,
they live together, and both of them are not wanting
to get married because both of them been married before.
And she said she never seen a good marriage because
ninety eight percent of all me and cheat. I said,
that's not a true story. And then she validates this
whole letter. But I said, I used to be a
(07:22):
side piece. Well I ain't and what so now? So now,
since you was a side piece, what you said all
women are side pieces? Cause you'd have made the statement
that ninety eight percent of me and cheat, So I
must be you must be willing since you was a
side piece, you must be willing to say that ninety
eight percent of the women are side pieces. Do you
(07:45):
understand why we can't let you make that brad sweeping
statement on this show. You can't say that about me
and and you can't make that statement about women just
because you was a side piece. It's women ain't going
for that. Now your question is how could he possibly
want more? She said, we have sex when we get
home from work, because when we go to bed, that's
sleep time, not sex time. Then we have sex in
(08:08):
the morning, in the shower, duck closet, the kitchen, or
wherever we are when the urge come over us. That's
why I was shocked to see little signs that he
might be cheating. I'd have seen makeup in his clothes.
He has strings weave in this car, and he's getting
text in the morning. I can't say this, dude. I
(08:31):
can't save the weave in the car, make up on
your clothes. I can't save you dog. Nothing I can say.
He's never had his phone on silent before, but last
night I saw him switching the silad before he got
into bed.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
You can't come out of life for him.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I can't help him. I can't help him because this
woman right here ain't even accusing him, because she says,
I won't have to ask him if he's cheating. I
could just watch him and see how he changes. Then
she said, I was a side piece before I met him,
and I witnessed how the married man lied to his wife.
But then you also must have witnessed how to be
(09:11):
a side piece. So now what you're mad at? Her fault?
Side piece? Slough mass potatoes with the light gravy, dirty rice.
Oh those are size you just mad? Said? The men
cheese show like that church is okra though that fried
(09:33):
over that's a good sign yumy. That's a good size.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
There are some good sides.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Hell yeah, size make a meal. I had to personally
apologize to that man's wife and it was the end
of me being an adulter. Well that's good, everybody make
mistake now you all now what though? But what you want?
Because you said I am shocked and my man needs
most sex because we have sex daily, some times twice
(10:00):
a day, how could he possibly won't moe? That's your
only question? What am I missing here? Are men never satisfied? Yes?
Men are very satisfied a lot of times. If you
getting sex twice a day, pretty much that you the
you the topped out. I got to go to work,
(10:25):
going on, what the hell and quit broad sweeping everybody
under the same rug. Are men never satisfied twice a day?
Or do it for me? I'm doing I got news
for you. Matter of fact, I don't really want it
twice a day. I got to go to work, I
(10:51):
got a couple of Netflix series I'm caught up in.
I got to work out, and how about this here?
Damn it, I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
You would think, how.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Could he possibly want more? What am I missing here?
Are men never satisfied. Please help men satisfied all the time.
But now let's get to this question. Our men never satisfied.
I think your question need to be why is he
not satisfied with you? Yeah? I think that's what we're
(11:30):
talking about. See, quit trying to blame this on men.
Quit trying to blame this on all all. Ninety eight
percent of me in cheap when you just said you
have experience at being a side piece. So if ninety
eight percent of the me and cheat, you must be
saying all women are capable to be in side pieces.
You see how that sounds. That's not a true statement.
(11:53):
So now let's talk about why your man ain't satisfied
with you. It's twice a day. What is this this
y'all doing? That ain't making it work? Twice a day?
Y'all need practice better, y'all need some more technique. Y'all
need some more practice because you're getting it in twice
a day and it ain't cutting it. What the hell
is y'all doing? Wow, that's a lot y'all needy. See
(12:17):
what y'all doing is y'all doing two quikies every day?
Y'all need y'all need to put some y'all need you
need you need to put in some wet own sessions.
You need one to new session. I'm talking about when
you roll over and you can't even see good. No more.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Poster comments on today's Strawberry Letter on Retirement Facebook and
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio
water so you should download it today. Coming up at
forty two. Right after the hour, we'll hear from Junior
(13:03):
and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to the
Dave Harvey Morning Show
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