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It is time now forward today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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(00:22):
You never know it could be yours. Oh you never know.
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank enough you subject how
honest is too honest? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm thirty six
years old and I'm marrying a man that used to
be in the streets real bad. He was always in
(00:42):
the club and women flocked to him because they thought
he had money. I met him at work, so I
knew his real income level, and I witnessed him. I
witnessed his come up. We were good friends at work,
and we had sex one time, but I quickly gathered
myself and told him that would never happen again. He
got a new job and asked me to be his girlfriend,
(01:03):
and he promised to do right by me. He became
a homebody and We never went out clubbing together because
we'd known each other for six years prior to dating.
We got engaged quickly, and then I started spending a
lot of time at his house. He was honest about
his past and how many bodies he had. He said
he slept around a lot because his soul wasn't right
(01:26):
with Jesus. Stephen Shirley. I believed this man, and I
felt like I really knew him. About a month ago,
we were watching a movie and his phone started going
off with a lot of text messages. He told me
that it was an old buddy of his from his
club where he used to work the door. I didn't
know it was a woman. Around one am, I was
(01:49):
sleep on the couch and I kept hearing my fiance's
phone dinging and he was sweating bullets. I heard him.
I heard some jiggling at the patio door, and he
looked at me and didn't move. I was terrified. He
told me it was one of his girls from the club,
and she's in town visiting. He said it's a game
they used to play late at night. She'd act like
(02:12):
she was breaking in and he'd grab her, pull her
in and have wild sex. I was like wth Neither
of us moved from the couch and the girl left eventually.
And do I trust him after a story like that?
How do I deal with his horrsh past? It is
hard to trust someone after a story like that. Right,
(02:33):
it's unbelievable that story. I'll just start the letter off
this way. People can change. There are a lot of
reasons people change. If it's for the better, we don't
even question it, and we don't hold them to their
past mistakes. You asked, how do you deal with his
horrsh past? If he's changed for real? But how do
you know that? I mean, let's see if he's changed
(02:55):
after you told him no more sex. When you guys
were working together and going out earlier, he got a
new job, asked you to be a girl. Then he
became a homebody with you. All this stuff is good.
He went on to honestly tell you about his past,
his body count, all of that, and then he said
he was that way because his soul wasn't right with Jesus.
(03:18):
That was really good, right, You believed him after that
because that was really good. See, Steve, honesty is good.
It's good. But then he messed up didn't he when
he didn't tell you about the text messages that they
were coming from his old female buddy. He left that
information out. That made all the difference. I mean, why
(03:40):
didn't he just keep the honesty going and tell you
it was a woman that made you suspicious of everything
all over again? I get it. Then the wild stuff
happened with the woman banging on the door and all that.
That story he told you for that was crazy, but
the woman did leave eventually. He's been good and very
honest up to that point. You think, I don't know,
(04:02):
you gotta watch this guy. I don't believe this story.
It's too crazy. Sometimes some things are so crazy they
are the truth. But in his case, I don't know.
I just don't know. It's too much. It was just
too much. It made you suspicious, and you have every
right to be suspicious. Continue to watch him. Put him
on probation because you gotta see if he's how honest
(04:25):
he's going to be in the future. All Right, Steve,
that's all I got for this guy. I wasn't surprised
by your all. You have a requirement for people to
tell you the truth at all, and when in actuality,
you really don't want the truth I do. You can't
(04:48):
handle the truth I can. Oh no, no you can't, No,
you can't. And Jack Nichols said it, and Jack Nicholson whatever,
How honest is too honest? Well, let me answer that question.
(05:12):
That's too damn honest. It's too much honesty. It's not
the best policy. See, let me tell you something about
being honest. When you tell the truth all the time,
they're not gonna believe you, no damn. So why would
(05:32):
you waste an honest statement on a person that ain't
gonna believe it? No damn weight. Let's read this letter
thirty six years old man, a man that used to
be in the streets real bad. He was always at
the club. Women flock because they thought he had money.
I met him at work, so I knew his real
(05:53):
income level, and I witnessed his come up. Well you
saw his come up. That means he must have came
up with money. We were good friends at work, and
we asked sex one time, but I quickly gathered myself
and told him that would never happen again. That was
a lie, wasn't you See? We're talking about being honest.
You told this man that will never happen again. That
(06:16):
was a lie. See where was your honesty at then?
Since we won't honesty in this letter and from him,
but you're not being honest. Huh really, let's start right here.
See once I once you start lying, minutes on, the
door's open, door open for me. You hang on, We'll
(06:40):
have part two of Steve's twenty three minutes after the hour,
Today's struggle star How Honest? Part two coming up right
after this. You're listening to show? All right, Come on, Steve,
Let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject is how honest?
(07:02):
Is too honest? Usually it's too honest, it's too much.
Honesty is not the best policy, and I'll prove it too.
Thirty six year old girl dating this dude that used
to be in the streets, real bad women flocked to
him because they thought he had a lot of money.
She knew better because she worked with him. But then
she witnessed his come up, which means she worked witness
him make more money. He got a house of his own.
(07:25):
You and that staying that now, we was good friends
that work, and we had sex one time. But I
quickly gathered myself and told him that would never happen again. Well,
if it didn't happen again, this letter would be old.
But you lie, you lie, You started lie once, you lie.
You have now given me me to lie. Thank you.
(07:48):
Though he got a new job and asked me to
be his girlfriend, and he promised to do right by me.
That's all it too. He got a new job and
promised to do you right by you of y'all back
half as he became a homebody. And we never went
our club together because we've known each other for six
years prior to day. We got engaged quickly, and I
(08:10):
thought spending a lot of time in his house. He
was honest about his past and how many bodies he had, Lady,
that is no win. This man kill the total body.
That is no way this man can kill his total body.
(08:37):
It would be mine. You girl, wouldn't even understand, Like,
ask me how many women out there? Hey, Steve, um,
that's how many women have you been with? Not that many?
(09:00):
And that's how it goes. And so that's the answer,
not that minute. And so he said he slept around
a lot because his soul wasn't right with Jesus. That's
a good answer. So why is the body counts so
high because his soul wasn't right with Jesus. That's a
(09:25):
true statement, Stephen Sherley. I believe this man, and I
felt like I really knew him. About a month ago,
we watching the movie and his phone started going off
in a lot of tech mans. He told me it
was a old buddy from the club where he used
to work the dough. I didn't know it was a woman.
Around one am, I was sleeping on the couch and
I kept hearing my fiance phone dinging and he was
(09:45):
sweating bullets. So now, why his phone ain't sigh to
see all this? Honest? Why your phone ain't on Saturday?
It's just dinging? You ain't gotta be wasn't bullet to
cut that damn phone off? I heard some jiggling at
the patio dough. He looked at me and didn't move.
(10:07):
I was terrified. He told me that was one of
his girls from the club, and she's in town visit.
He says the game they used to play late at night.
She act like she was breaking in and he grabbled
pull in and had a wild set. I was like,
what the hell. Neither us moved from the couch and
the girl left defensively. Do I trust him after a
(10:30):
story like that? Do I deal with his How do
I deal with his horse pans? See that story right? Then?
It's hot. No, it's true. That's a true story. Because
the text messages was I'm coming over, I'm coming over,
I'm coming over. Then he might have said I ain't
(10:51):
a good time. She thought that was part of the game,
I do. It ain't a good time to break in
because I'm tenda coming act like I'm breaking it and
you're gonna snatch me, We're gonna have a wild sex.
Well they sat there all that jiggling at the door,
and he kept looking at the TV like he wasn't listening.
Then he told her that he normally snatch her had
wild sex with up. Why would he tell you that
(11:12):
that ain't nobody going to tell you that If that
ain't that's an honest statement. When you agree, Thomas Junior, yes, sir, yeah,
that's a no. No, that's an honest statement. The stupid
part woe you didn't go back there and see who
was at that damn. And then how he knew it
(11:35):
was a girl from the club was because of the
text message. Now what the girl don't know is the
girl that's at the back though, don't know about you
because he didn't tell her about you. All the rest
of this is true. Honesty is not the best problem.
(11:58):
That Shirley Watter lie. That woman lied to him and
said we set together one time. It'll never happened again. Oh,
now she's a big old liar. She's a big old liar.
She cold lie. You lie. You give a man permission now?
(12:20):
Oh oh we lie now, so we're dealing. Oh I
got one for you. Yeah, see that. It's really kind
of it's really nothing to this letter. I don't know
how do you deal with this horse pass? I mean
it's in his pass now. If he was still doing it,
(12:43):
then you'd have a problem. But y'all saying your whole body,
y'all don't go to the club. Everybody got a pass.
This dude was really wilder. So you're gonna get bit
buys passed that beyond them. But as long as he
continues to conduct himself the way he is now, you
might be a good catch. We're just gonna take a
while for the past resolve all the way out. I
(13:04):
know that more fans post your comments up today Strawberry
Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram and Facebook, and
please check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now
coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it's
junior and sports talk. We'll get into that right after this.
You're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now forward today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please leave your Strawberry letter and submitted to Steve HARVEYSM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter live on the air. See that, just
like we're gonna read this one right here, right now.
(00:22):
You never know it could be yours. Oh you never know.
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank enough you subject how
honest is too honest? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm thirty six
years old and I'm marrying a man that used to
be in the streets real bad. He was always in
(00:42):
the club and women flocked to him because they thought
he had money. I met him at work, so I
knew his real income level, and I witnessed him. I
witnessed his come up. We were good friends at work,
and we had sex one time, but I quickly gathered
myself and told him that would never happen again. He
got a new job and asked me to be his girlfriend,
(01:03):
and he promised to do right by me. He became
a homebody and We never went out clubbing together because
we'd known each other for six years prior to dating.
We got engaged quickly, and then I started spending a
lot of time at his house. He was honest about
his past and how many bodies he had. He said
he slept around a lot because his soul wasn't right
(01:26):
with Jesus. Stephen Shirley. I believed this man, and I
felt like I really knew him. About a month ago,
we were watching a movie and his phone started going
off with a lot of text messages. He told me
that it was an old buddy of his from his
club where he used to work the door. I didn't
know it was a woman. Around one am, I was
(01:49):
sleep on the couch and I kept hearing my fiance's
phone dinging and he was sweating bullets. I heard him.
I heard some jiggling at the patio door, and he
looked at me and didn't move. I was terrified. He
told me it was one of his girls from the club,
and she's in town visiting. He said it's a game
they used to play late at night. She'd act like
(02:12):
she was breaking in and he'd grab her, pull her
in and have wild sex. I was like wth Neither
of us moved from the couch and the girl left eventually.
And do I trust him after a story like that?
How do I deal with his horrsh past? It is
hard to trust someone after a story like that. Right,
(02:33):
it's unbelievable that story. I'll just start the letter off
this way. People can change. There are a lot of
reasons people change. If it's for the better, we don't
even question it, and we don't hold them to their
past mistakes. You asked, how do you deal with his
horrsh past? If he's changed for real? But how do
you know that? I mean, let's see if he's changed
(02:55):
after you told him no more sex. When you guys
were working together and going out earlier, he got a
new job, asked you to be a girl. Then he
became a homebody with you. All this stuff is good.
He went on to honestly tell you about his past,
his body count, all of that, and then he said
he was that way because his soul wasn't right with Jesus.
(03:18):
That was really good, right, You believed him after that
because that was really good. See, Steve, honesty is good.
It's good. But then he messed up didn't he when
he didn't tell you about the text messages that they
were coming from his old female buddy. He left that
information out. That made all the difference. I mean, why
(03:40):
didn't he just keep the honesty going and tell you
it was a woman that made you suspicious of everything
all over again? I get it. Then the wild stuff
happened with the woman banging on the door and all that.
That story he told you for that was crazy, but
the woman did leave eventually. He's been good and very
honest up to that point. You think, I don't know,
(04:02):
you gotta watch this guy. I don't believe this story.
It's too crazy. Sometimes some things are so crazy they
are the truth. But in his case, I don't know.
I just don't know. It's too much. It was just
too much. It made you suspicious, and you have every
right to be suspicious. Continue to watch him. Put him
on probation because you gotta see if he's how honest
(04:25):
he's going to be in the future. All Right, Steve,
that's all I got for this guy. I wasn't surprised
by your all. You have a requirement for people to
tell you the truth at all, and when in actuality,
you really don't want the truth I do. You can't
(04:48):
handle the truth I can. Oh no, no you can't, No,
you can't. And Jack Nichols said it, and Jack Nicholson whatever,
How honest is too honest? Well, let me answer that question.
(05:12):
That's too damn honest. It's too much honesty. It's not
the best policy. See, let me tell you something about
being honest. When you tell the truth all the time,
they're not gonna believe you, no damn. So why would
(05:32):
you waste an honest statement on a person that ain't
gonna believe it? No damn weight. Let's read this letter
thirty six years old man, a man that used to
be in the streets real bad. He was always at
the club. Women flock because they thought he had money.
I met him at work, so I knew his real
(05:53):
income level, and I witnessed his come up. Well you
saw his come up. That means he must have came
up with money. We were good friends at work, and
we asked sex one time, but I quickly gathered myself
and told him that would never happen again. That was
a lie, wasn't you See? We're talking about being honest.
You told this man that will never happen again. That
(06:16):
was a lie. See where was your honesty at then?
Since we won't honesty in this letter and from him,
but you're not being honest. Huh really, let's start right here.
See once I once you start lying, minutes on, the
door's open, door open for me. You hang on, We'll
(06:40):
have part two of Steve's twenty three minutes after the hour,
Today's struggle star How Honest? Part two coming up right
after this. You're listening to show? All right, Come on, Steve,
Let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject is how honest?
(07:02):
Is too honest? Usually it's too honest, it's too much.
Honesty is not the best policy, and I'll prove it too.
Thirty six year old girl dating this dude that used
to be in the streets, real bad women flocked to
him because they thought he had a lot of money.
She knew better because she worked with him. But then
she witnessed his come up, which means she worked witness
him make more money. He got a house of his own.
(07:25):
You and that staying that now, we was good friends
that work, and we had sex one time. But I
quickly gathered myself and told him that would never happen again. Well,
if it didn't happen again, this letter would be old.
But you lie, you lie, You started lie once, you lie.
You have now given me me to lie. Thank you.
(07:48):
Though he got a new job and asked me to
be his girlfriend, and he promised to do right by me.
That's all it too. He got a new job and
promised to do you right by you of y'all back
half as he became a homebody. And we never went
our club together because we've known each other for six
years prior to day. We got engaged quickly, and I
(08:10):
thought spending a lot of time in his house. He
was honest about his past and how many bodies he had, Lady,
that is no win. This man kill the total body.
That is no way this man can kill his total body.
(08:37):
It would be mine. You girl, wouldn't even understand, Like,
ask me how many women out there? Hey, Steve, um,
that's how many women have you been with? Not that many?
(09:00):
And that's how it goes. And so that's the answer,
not that minute. And so he said he slept around
a lot because his soul wasn't right with Jesus. That's
a good answer. So why is the body counts so
high because his soul wasn't right with Jesus. That's a
(09:25):
true statement, Stephen Sherley. I believe this man, and I
felt like I really knew him. About a month ago,
we watching the movie and his phone started going off
in a lot of tech mans. He told me it
was a old buddy from the club where he used
to work the dough. I didn't know it was a woman.
Around one am, I was sleeping on the couch and
I kept hearing my fiance phone dinging and he was
(09:45):
sweating bullets. So now, why his phone ain't sigh to
see all this? Honest? Why your phone ain't on Saturday?
It's just dinging? You ain't gotta be wasn't bullet to
cut that damn phone off? I heard some jiggling at
the patio dough. He looked at me and didn't move.
(10:07):
I was terrified. He told me that was one of
his girls from the club, and she's in town visit.
He says the game they used to play late at night.
She act like she was breaking in and he grabbled
pull in and had a wild set. I was like,
what the hell. Neither us moved from the couch and
the girl left defensively. Do I trust him after a
(10:30):
story like that? Do I deal with his How do
I deal with his horse pans? See that story right? Then?
It's hot. No, it's true. That's a true story. Because
the text messages was I'm coming over, I'm coming over,
I'm coming over. Then he might have said I ain't
(10:51):
a good time. She thought that was part of the game,
I do. It ain't a good time to break in
because I'm tenda coming act like I'm breaking it and
you're gonna snatch me, We're gonna have a wild sex.
Well they sat there all that jiggling at the door,
and he kept looking at the TV like he wasn't listening.
Then he told her that he normally snatch her had
wild sex with up. Why would he tell you that
(11:12):
that ain't nobody going to tell you that If that
ain't that's an honest statement. When you agree, Thomas Junior, yes, sir, yeah,
that's a no. No, that's an honest statement. The stupid
part woe you didn't go back there and see who
was at that damn. And then how he knew it
(11:35):
was a girl from the club was because of the
text message. Now what the girl don't know is the
girl that's at the back though, don't know about you
because he didn't tell her about you. All the rest
of this is true. Honesty is not the best problem.
(11:58):
That Shirley Watter lie. That woman lied to him and
said we set together one time. It'll never happened again. Oh,
now she's a big old liar. She's a big old liar.
She cold lie. You lie. You give a man permission now?
(12:20):
Oh oh we lie now, so we're dealing. Oh I
got one for you. Yeah, see that. It's really kind
of it's really nothing to this letter. I don't know
how do you deal with this horse pass? I mean
it's in his pass now. If he was still doing it,
(12:43):
then you'd have a problem. But y'all saying your whole body,
y'all don't go to the club. Everybody got a pass.
This dude was really wilder. So you're gonna get bit
buys passed that beyond them. But as long as he
continues to conduct himself the way he is now, you
might be a good catch. We're just gonna take a
while for the past resolve all the way out. I
(13:04):
know that more fans post your comments up today Strawberry
Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram and Facebook, and
please check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now
coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it's
junior and sports talk. We'll get into that right after this.
You're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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