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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for my Strawberry letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter Steve BARBFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one right here, right now. And you never know. This
one could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it. Fool you, hear it.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Eat Strawberry letters, all right, Steve, only instructions for this one,
Just clown, just it's your birthday.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Just let us have it.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Let them have it, Let them have it, all right,
Subject thanking, if you're subject. I don't feel anything for
him here, Stephen Shirley, I'm a fifty two year old
widowed woman and I find it hard to find a
partner that will satisfy me. I've been back in the
dating pool for six years and I've slept with three men,
and none of them measured up to my ex husband.
(00:54):
One of them came close, but he couldn't last as
long as my husband. When I say measure up, I
mean that the men are in a different size class.
They were all younger than I am, so I assume
that God stopped passing out big ones after the seventies.
I decided to date an older guy that goes to
(01:14):
my church. He's fifty eight, and the sex was so disappointing.
He knows how to make love, but he's not blessed
with sighs. He is also a cuddler, and I don't
like the way he smells. His beard, oils and body
sprays irritate my sinuses and it's hard for me to
relax when my nose is burning. He always asked me
(01:37):
why I'm resisting a relationship with him, and I finally
told him that I want my next real relationship to
be perfect because my husband has set the bar pretty high.
He said, since we were being honest, he wanted me
to know that he's seeing another lady, but he likes
me more. He said, we're perfect for each other and
he could spend the rest of his life with me,
(01:59):
but he does not want to get married. He wants
to live together. He said that he is ready to
take an all to take on all of my financial responsibilities.
Then he told me that he's as close to perfect
as I'm going to get At my age. The pressure
is on me now. That whole conversation irritated me. But
(02:21):
maybe he's right. I want desperately to be married again,
but this man made me a great offer. Would I
be foolish to let him go and keep on dating
other men in hopes of finding my next husband. There's
a lot going on in this letter. It would be
called settling. If you married this man and don't get
(02:42):
what you want. You've compared all of these men to
your husband, and that's not gonna work because you don't
even like this guy. What do you even have in common?
You have anything in common? He likes to cuddle afterwards,
you don't because his smell bothers you, and you say
sex with him is disappointing, So what is the point?
(03:03):
And I know you're not okay with him dating another
woman while he's dating you?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Are you?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
He offered to take care of you financially, so now
you're considering it. I don't think you've thought this thing
through it all. This man does not want to get
married and you do, so again, what is the point?
You have nothing in common? You say the pressure is
on you now, but it's not really. You could take
your time you're only fifty two years old. Don't get
(03:30):
married because you're desperate, and you have to take these
men for who they are. You can't compare them to
who your late husband was, and desperation is certainly not
a reason to rush into a marriage to you, I say,
slow down, all right, come on birthday boy?
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, well you know what in honor or my new
mantra for twenty twenty five. Uh huh.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I could give more.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Less then, though, So I'm gonna read this letter of
how I'm really feeling. All right, Okay, I don't feel
anything for him, slash.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
He may not feel nothing for you either. Well let's go.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I'm fifty two, old witted women and I find it
hard to find a partner that would satisfy me.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I've been to Dayton Pool six years.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
I'd have slept with three men, and none of them
measure up to my ex husband. One of them came close,
but he couldn't last as long as my husband. Well,
let me go through something in this letter. First of all,
I think you might be too much if you ask me,
But who you keep comparing all these people to. One
(04:44):
of them came close, but he couldn't last as long
as my husband your husband dead? Can we be clear
about this? He is gone? So how long did he
really last? Because he did.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
So far? Everybody else is our lasting? His ass he gone?
So now allays hear about how long your man can last?
And all that he gone? He gone so much for lasting.
He might can make love a long time, but he
damn sure couldn't live too far. So now what is you?
(05:22):
What if we want trade it? I don't.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
No, I don't feel like it today. When I say
measure up, I mean men are different size class.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Oh, here we go.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
They are all younger, and I'm assuming God stop passing
out big ones after the seventies. Now, can't nobody measure up?
It could be you once again? It could be you.
You know sometimes when you're talking about a man's size,
sometimes we need to talk about your size. Oh hello,
(05:59):
the opposite track. What goes around comes around. Something can
be too small. See, we just need to have an
honest conversation here. Maybe, just maybe it ain't to me.
I just want to put that out there for consider ration.
(06:23):
I'm celebrating my sixty eighth birthday today.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Yes, you are in my lifetime.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
I've had one experience and I'll tell you about it
when I come back.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
All right, automatic.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
At twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll recap the
Strawberry letter, and we'll have part two of Steve's response.
The today subject is I don't feel anything for him.
We'll get back into that right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Did you know you can now buy a Hondai on Amazon,
the same place where you order yoga mats, a toothbrush,
and pretty much everything else, all from the comfort of
your home, just located nearby dealer. Pick your color, your options,
check the price, and with a few dotting up some
eyes and crosses some teas.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Whila, your Hondai is ready for pick up. It's that easy.
Visit Hounda USA dot com for more details.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Limited availability pick up through participating Hondai dealers and select markets.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
All right, come on, see, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject I don't feel anything for him?
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Well, like I said, I'm doing this letter. It was
my new mantrel that I could give. I could give
more less than a the I'm fifty two years old,
wit woman. Find it hard to find a party that
will satisfied men. And what we don't know is all
she talking about is sex. This is all she talking
about in this letter. I'll been back in the Dayton
pool six years. I've dated three men and none of
(07:51):
them could come close or last as long as my husband,
who is dead. I just want to point that out.
He could last along time, but he is dead. That's
what widow means. That means you was married to somebody,
but they have passed away.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
So mister I can last a long time is dead.
We know what, Dad.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
I'd rather be here than be able to be in
bed with you for three hours. I'd rather be here.
I can go to the store or something set up
in here and be into bed with you for three hours.
I'd rather go to the damn store, walk around Target
with Monica.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
That's what I'd rather do if I had a choice.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
I'm not finish sit up in here and trade in
my life so I can be dead and then people
talk about me how long I last in bed? How
long did I where my next birthday at? That's the
one I'm looking for.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
When I say Merriu, you up, I mean that men
are in a different size class. They was all young,
and I'm assuming God stop passing out the big ones
after the SEVENTI so you just want a big one, well,
you know, and they got look at it like this.
Things can be too small, but something it can be
too big. Now I got great share. I'm sixty eight
years old and I've had an experienced one time where
(09:10):
I was just was not who I thought I was.
I was considered, as you are calling in this letter, inadequate.
But I've discovered in my life that it wasn't that
I was inadequate. It's that who I was dating was
too much. Now was just one date. It's just one date,
one night, the only full one. No, And that's what
(09:35):
it was. And I couldn't wait to get up out
of there once again. Maybe isshy you He is a cuddler,
and I don't like the way he smells his beard
oils and body sprays irritate my sinuses. That's because he
buy that stuff down on the corner in the hood
the musk oils them oils that they sail on the
street the musk oils. Don't buy that. Go to stove
(09:58):
and get you some clone in a that musk all it?
Whoa good lord? You be in there smelling like a
ring of knowing based on it smelling like fresh cut grass.
Being there could walker after wild smell like hey, then
you know when you get hot. The musk all had
(10:20):
you in there smelling like an old ass college. It
just you have just been up in there, like what
is he got on? What is them turnips?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
You know?
Speaker 3 (10:29):
And he always asked me why I resistant relationship with him,
and I finally told him, I want my next real
relationship to be perfect because my husband had set the
ball pretty up, pretty high.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
We're talking about him. He dead. I ain't gonna tell
you this now more. This is the third time you
the body dead ass up.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Now.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
If he was all that, he still be living. He dead,
and you want everybody act like the dead man. It's
not fit to happen. I don't know nobody dead. I
want to be like.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Now, damn it, stop asking these men to live up
to your dead ass husband, because he not. Anyway, he
wanted me to know that he's because I'm perfect because
my husband had set the ball pedi, he said, since
we being honest, I'm seeing another lady.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
But I like you more. Wow, he said, We're perfect
for each other.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
He could spend the rest of his life with me,
but He does not want to get married, he wants
to live together. He don't want you. He don't want you,
and you don't want him. He stink, He stink, and
he's small. You don't like his beid oil, you don't
like his sin. He probably smelled like his house. You
(11:47):
ever been over his house? He fifty eight, lived by himself.
All people house smell, butcher house smell. I used to
go by butchery house. He lived with his aunt. He
smelled just a different little twang to it. And that's
what it is. He buy himself, got his shoes at
the door, and stuff Jim's shoes under the bed. Got
(12:09):
a pair of you know, laundry room stay open. He
ain't got no hand for clothes, just in the floor somewhere.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
He's strengthen anyway.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
He said that he was ready to take on all
my financial responsibility.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Oh that's a big one.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Then he told me he's close to perfect because I'm
gonna get it my age. Shirley said, you shouldn't settle,
but you do have to consider this now because you're
dating for the wrong reason. If you're dating for good sex,
are you dating for a man that can care for
you and take care of it.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I think he's checking all the boxes.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
The pressures on me now, the whole conversation irritated me,
But maybe he's right. I want desperately to be married again.
This man has made me a great offer. Would I
be foolish to let him go and keep on dating
other man? Well, you need to stop dating all these
other men in the hopes of finding my next husband.
You ain't gonna find your next husband. Next husband gonna
have to find you that you had already had. A
(13:03):
man say he's spend the next rest of his.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Life with you.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
He just don't want to marry you, so something wrong
with you. And he'd already told you he's seeing another woman.
He just liked you better.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
You know why he's seeing another woman because it's a
better fit woman.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
All right, You can comment on Today's Strawberry Letter and
then Steve Harvey FM.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Your person that you want everybody to be like is.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Dead on the Free iHeartRadio app heap.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Coming up next it is Sports Talk with Junior.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for my Strawberry letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter Steve BARBFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one right here, right now. And you never know. This
one could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it. Fool you, hear it.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Eat Strawberry letters, all right, Steve, only instructions for this one,
Just clown, just it's your birthday.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Just let us have it.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Let them have it, Let them have it, all right,
Subject thanking, if you're subject. I don't feel anything for
him here, Stephen Shirley, I'm a fifty two year old
widowed woman and I find it hard to find a
partner that will satisfy me. I've been back in the
dating pool for six years and I've slept with three men,
and none of them measured up to my ex husband.
(00:54):
One of them came close, but he couldn't last as
long as my husband. When I say measure up, I
mean that the men are in a different size class.
They were all younger than I am, so I assume
that God stopped passing out big ones after the seventies.
I decided to date an older guy that goes to
(01:14):
my church. He's fifty eight, and the sex was so disappointing.
He knows how to make love, but he's not blessed
with sighs. He is also a cuddler, and I don't
like the way he smells. His beard, oils and body
sprays irritate my sinuses and it's hard for me to
relax when my nose is burning. He always asked me
(01:37):
why I'm resisting a relationship with him, and I finally
told him that I want my next real relationship to
be perfect because my husband has set the bar pretty high.
He said, since we were being honest, he wanted me
to know that he's seeing another lady, but he likes
me more. He said, we're perfect for each other and
he could spend the rest of his life with me,
(01:59):
but he does not want to get married. He wants
to live together. He said that he is ready to
take an all to take on all of my financial responsibilities.
Then he told me that he's as close to perfect
as I'm going to get At my age. The pressure
is on me now. That whole conversation irritated me. But
(02:21):
maybe he's right. I want desperately to be married again,
but this man made me a great offer. Would I
be foolish to let him go and keep on dating
other men in hopes of finding my next husband. There's
a lot going on in this letter. It would be
called settling. If you married this man and don't get
(02:42):
what you want. You've compared all of these men to
your husband, and that's not gonna work because you don't
even like this guy. What do you even have in common?
You have anything in common? He likes to cuddle afterwards,
you don't because his smell bothers you, and you say
sex with him is disappointing, So what is the point?
(03:03):
And I know you're not okay with him dating another
woman while he's dating you?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Are you?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
He offered to take care of you financially, so now
you're considering it. I don't think you've thought this thing
through it all. This man does not want to get
married and you do, so again, what is the point?
You have nothing in common? You say the pressure is
on you now, but it's not really. You could take
your time you're only fifty two years old. Don't get
(03:30):
married because you're desperate, and you have to take these
men for who they are. You can't compare them to
who your late husband was, and desperation is certainly not
a reason to rush into a marriage to you, I say,
slow down, all right, come on birthday boy?
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, well you know what in honor or my new
mantra for twenty twenty five. Uh huh.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I could give more.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Less then, though, So I'm gonna read this letter of
how I'm really feeling. All right, Okay, I don't feel
anything for him, slash.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
He may not feel nothing for you either. Well let's go.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I'm fifty two, old witted women and I find it
hard to find a partner that would satisfy me.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I've been to Dayton Pool six years.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
I'd have slept with three men, and none of them
measure up to my ex husband. One of them came close,
but he couldn't last as long as my husband. Well,
let me go through something in this letter. First of all,
I think you might be too much if you ask me,
But who you keep comparing all these people to. One
(04:44):
of them came close, but he couldn't last as long
as my husband your husband dead? Can we be clear
about this? He is gone? So how long did he
really last? Because he did.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
So far? Everybody else is our lasting? His ass he gone?
So now allays hear about how long your man can last?
And all that he gone? He gone so much for lasting.
He might can make love a long time, but he
damn sure couldn't live too far. So now what is you?
(05:22):
What if we want trade it? I don't.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
No, I don't feel like it today. When I say
measure up, I mean men are different size class.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Oh, here we go.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
They are all younger, and I'm assuming God stop passing
out big ones after the seventies. Now, can't nobody measure up?
It could be you once again? It could be you.
You know sometimes when you're talking about a man's size,
sometimes we need to talk about your size. Oh hello,
(05:59):
the opposite track. What goes around comes around. Something can
be too small. See, we just need to have an
honest conversation here. Maybe, just maybe it ain't to me.
I just want to put that out there for consider ration.
(06:23):
I'm celebrating my sixty eighth birthday today.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Yes, you are in my lifetime.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
I've had one experience and I'll tell you about it
when I come back.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
All right, automatic.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
At twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll recap the
Strawberry letter, and we'll have part two of Steve's response.
The today subject is I don't feel anything for him.
We'll get back into that right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Did you know you can now buy a Hondai on Amazon,
the same place where you order yoga mats, a toothbrush,
and pretty much everything else, all from the comfort of
your home, just located nearby dealer. Pick your color, your options,
check the price, and with a few dotting up some
eyes and crosses some teas.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Whila, your Hondai is ready for pick up. It's that easy.
Visit Hounda USA dot com for more details.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Limited availability pick up through participating Hondai dealers and select markets.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
All right, come on, see, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject I don't feel anything for him?
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Well, like I said, I'm doing this letter. It was
my new mantrel that I could give. I could give
more less than a the I'm fifty two years old,
wit woman. Find it hard to find a party that
will satisfied men. And what we don't know is all
she talking about is sex. This is all she talking
about in this letter. I'll been back in the Dayton
pool six years. I've dated three men and none of
(07:51):
them could come close or last as long as my husband,
who is dead. I just want to point that out.
He could last along time, but he is dead. That's
what widow means. That means you was married to somebody,
but they have passed away.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
So mister I can last a long time is dead.
We know what, Dad.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
I'd rather be here than be able to be in
bed with you for three hours. I'd rather be here.
I can go to the store or something set up
in here and be into bed with you for three hours.
I'd rather go to the damn store, walk around Target
with Monica.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
That's what I'd rather do if I had a choice.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
I'm not finish sit up in here and trade in
my life so I can be dead and then people
talk about me how long I last in bed? How
long did I where my next birthday at? That's the
one I'm looking for.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
When I say Merriu, you up, I mean that men
are in a different size class. They was all young,
and I'm assuming God stop passing out the big ones
after the SEVENTI so you just want a big one, well,
you know, and they got look at it like this.
Things can be too small, but something it can be
too big. Now I got great share. I'm sixty eight
years old and I've had an experienced one time where
(09:10):
I was just was not who I thought I was.
I was considered, as you are calling in this letter, inadequate.
But I've discovered in my life that it wasn't that
I was inadequate. It's that who I was dating was
too much. Now was just one date. It's just one date,
one night, the only full one. No, And that's what
(09:35):
it was. And I couldn't wait to get up out
of there once again. Maybe isshy you He is a cuddler,
and I don't like the way he smells his beard
oils and body sprays irritate my sinuses. That's because he
buy that stuff down on the corner in the hood
the musk oils them oils that they sail on the
street the musk oils. Don't buy that. Go to stove
(09:58):
and get you some clone in a that musk all it?
Whoa good lord? You be in there smelling like a
ring of knowing based on it smelling like fresh cut grass.
Being there could walker after wild smell like hey, then
you know when you get hot. The musk all had
(10:20):
you in there smelling like an old ass college. It
just you have just been up in there, like what
is he got on? What is them turnips?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
You know?
Speaker 3 (10:29):
And he always asked me why I resistant relationship with him,
and I finally told him, I want my next real
relationship to be perfect because my husband had set the
ball pretty up, pretty high.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
We're talking about him. He dead. I ain't gonna tell
you this now more. This is the third time you
the body dead ass up.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Now.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
If he was all that, he still be living. He dead,
and you want everybody act like the dead man. It's
not fit to happen. I don't know nobody dead. I
want to be like.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Now, damn it, stop asking these men to live up
to your dead ass husband, because he not. Anyway, he
wanted me to know that he's because I'm perfect because
my husband had set the ball pedi, he said, since
we being honest, I'm seeing another lady.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
But I like you more. Wow, he said, We're perfect
for each other.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
He could spend the rest of his life with me,
but He does not want to get married, he wants
to live together. He don't want you. He don't want you,
and you don't want him. He stink, He stink, and
he's small. You don't like his beid oil, you don't
like his sin. He probably smelled like his house. You
(11:47):
ever been over his house? He fifty eight, lived by himself.
All people house smell, butcher house smell. I used to
go by butchery house. He lived with his aunt. He
smelled just a different little twang to it. And that's
what it is. He buy himself, got his shoes at
the door, and stuff Jim's shoes under the bed. Got
(12:09):
a pair of you know, laundry room stay open. He
ain't got no hand for clothes, just in the floor somewhere.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
He's strengthen anyway.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
He said that he was ready to take on all
my financial responsibility.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Oh that's a big one.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Then he told me he's close to perfect because I'm
gonna get it my age. Shirley said, you shouldn't settle,
but you do have to consider this now because you're
dating for the wrong reason. If you're dating for good sex,
are you dating for a man that can care for
you and take care of it.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I think he's checking all the boxes.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
The pressures on me now, the whole conversation irritated me,
But maybe he's right. I want desperately to be married again.
This man has made me a great offer. Would I
be foolish to let him go and keep on dating
other man? Well, you need to stop dating all these
other men in the hopes of finding my next husband.
You ain't gonna find your next husband. Next husband gonna
have to find you that you had already had. A
(13:03):
man say he's spend the next rest of his.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Life with you.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
He just don't want to marry you, so something wrong
with you. And he'd already told you he's seeing another woman.
He just liked you better.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
You know why he's seeing another woman because it's a
better fit woman.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
All right, You can comment on Today's Strawberry Letter and
then Steve Harvey FM.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Your person that you want everybody to be like is.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Dead on the Free iHeartRadio app heap.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Coming up next it is Sports Talk with Junior.
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