April 10, 2019 • 14 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, my boyfriend and I both are 75 years old and we’ve been in a great relationship for about 15 years. When we met, we hit it off right away, but courted for a while before we became intimate. Sex was great and it was the glue that held us together. Then, he had knee replacement surgery and I had my hip replaced, so we had to wait a while before we could resume a normal sex life. We did other things to each other to keep the fire going in the meantime.........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, ladies and gentlemen, it is time. It's time for
the Strawberry Little with my good friend Shirley straw theory.
Thank you, junior subject. I need him to use it
before I lose it. That's right, Jake, Dear Stephen Shirley.
My boyfriend and I are both seventy five years old,
and we've been in a great relationship for about fifteen years.
(00:23):
When we met, we headed off right away, but courted
for a while before we became intimate. Sex was great
and it was the glue that held us together. Then
he had knee replacement surgery and I had my hip replaced,
so we had to wait a while before we could
(00:43):
resume a normal sex life. We did other things to
each other to keep the fire going. In the meantime,
everything was fine until a year ago when my honey
was diagnosed with a hard problem and had to have
a pacemaker put in. We allowed a month or so
for him to get used to it, and we abstained
from sex because we didn't want him to get overheated
(01:04):
and have a heart attack. When a doctor gave him
the green light to return to normal activity, I couldn't
wait for our sex life to get back to normal,
but it has not. My honey is afraid of doing
any kind of strenuous activities, and if we do have sex,
he holds back and I end up doing all of
the work. We used to role play and run around
(01:26):
the house, but not anymore. It's just regular intimacy now
in our bedroom, and we don't do it that often.
I feel like if he doesn't use it, I'm going
to lose it. I can't take the way he's rationing
out sex we used to have. We have lots of
good years ahead of us, and I don't know what
he's afraid of. Oh and yes, everything still works just fine.
(01:50):
He does not have any problems with that. So how
can I get him just to relax and rock my
world like he used to? Are you freaking kidding me
with this letter? Man? Okay, but I mean, you know
seventy five who you know seventy five is the new
forty five? Maybe I don't know, but that's the way
(02:11):
you guys are doing it. But yeah, you had a
problem with the knee replacement surgery. Then you had to
have your hip replaced, so you had to wait a
while till it was back to normal. You did other
things you said to keep the fire going in the meantime.
Then he had a hard problem and had to have
a pacemaker put in. Well when the doctor cleared him.
(02:31):
He still doesn't want to go at it like he
used to because he doesn't want to overheat and have
a heart attack, which is perfectly understandable because in our
minds we think at seventy five that you should be
slowing down. Anyway, I thought that anyway, I did, but
this letter is proving me wrong. But I will say
this though, Carla Junior, h now we know why Jay
(02:55):
was out. I just it all. Yeah, Steve, I got this.
I don't know how old you are, j And I
do not think it's sixty five seventy five by any
(03:17):
stretch of the imagination. Close but close, Oh no, you're not.
He ain't that he right around now because he never
really told us why but that, yeah, I see it,
you know, but I see it all through the ladder though,
I see it. Yeah. But but the good thing is
(03:43):
you're right. You do have lots of good years ahead
of you. And uh, I do know what he's afraid
of if if he has heart problems and he doesn't
want to have a heart attack. I think that would
make any normal human being a slow up a little bit. So, um,
you know, if you still want your man around for
all these good years that you say you have ahead
of you, I think you guys should take it a
(04:04):
little easy, just like when you had to, you know,
rest up and recuperate when you had your hip replacement
and knee surgery, and you found other things to keep
the fire going. Just be a little more creative, find
some other things to do. Uh, you know, so and
take it slowly, okay, take it slow. Uh. And and
you know, you guys can both relax and rock each
(04:25):
other's world. Okay, you do have a lot of living
to do, and I'm happy that to know that at
seventy five you can still you know, get busy like this.
My goodness, this is really something. So go ahead and
do you boo, but slow it down just a little bit. Okay,
that is my advice. Yes, Junior, thank you. Yeah. So now,
I just Junior, come on, I thought, first of all,
(04:54):
I'm I'm having the youngest in here. You my my
image that I got in my head is good for me.
I'm thinking about my grandmother in here. This is not
what I need to be hearing my grandmother about seventy five.
I cannot. This is like a arp. Love it. This
(05:15):
is medicaide love it. They do metal hips, metal knees,
and a pacemaker. This is dangerous because that means there's
some equipment that's hooked up in this room. You got
to be concerned that this socket don't overheat. You gotta
you gotta have a breathing machine in here. That's probably
(05:36):
gotta be uh what you call us? Some wheelchairs in here,
some walkers going though holeless walker. Let me get behind.
You can't do this. This is really some different type
of loving they're doing. Yeah, they gotta nurse, gotta come
in and break them up. But they got a lot
of stuff happening in here. You know what I'm saying.
(05:57):
They doctor gotta care what happened. Know, they're not supposed
to be doing. This is very dangerous. This is very
and it's not enough. Oh oh my god, I know
it's seventy five. You're not Come on, Yeah, I'm nervous.
I mean I'm not mad. It gives everybody hope. I
(06:19):
think I think it's an encouraging letter. But man, we
want you guys to be around for a while. Somebody
is probably in the room. I'm just saying somebody's breathing,
but somebody is. It's a machine in here. Yes, Robert,
(06:42):
this is dangerous. Yeah. She wants to know. How can
she get him to just relax? He is relaxed, Yeah,
and rock your world. That may not ever happen. He
may not ever be able to rock your world like
he used to. You know, like I said, find another
way to do it, like you guys did when you
(07:03):
were recovering from your knee replacement and hip replacement. Geez,
I've never said that referring to sex before. Yeah. Yeah,
all right, Look, we'll have part two of our responses
coming up, and we'll hear from Jay the letter writer.
A woman wrote in I'm a Sure Woman seventy five.
(07:26):
She's seventy five and her partner seventy five. They're in
a great relationship. They have been in once for about
fifteen years. She says when they met, they hit it
off right away, courted a while before they became intimate.
They must have read Steve's book and did that ninety
day rule. Although she didn't say that, but she did
wait a while. She said the sex was great, and
it was the glue that held their relationship together. She said,
(07:49):
everything was fine until he had to have knee replacement surgery.
Then she had to have hip replacement surgery. They're both
seventy five, remember, So then they had to recuperate. So
in the meantime, they had to find other things to
do to keep themselves occupied until they, you know, got
back together, you know, got themselves back together. Everything was
(08:11):
fine until a year ago when he started having heart problems.
Then you know, he had to get a pacemaker put in,
and then they had to slow it down again. So
girlfriend is upset because you know, what she's used to
is what she's used to, you know, and she's used
to them role playing and running all around the house
and everything, and they're not doing that anymore because he
(08:33):
slowed down. He sang, she sang. Now she just wants
him to relax, and she wants him to rock her
world like he used to. But that's not happening. Kay,
you're up. Okay, here's a problem. You got a bad hip. Yep,
bad knee, knee, bad heart pacemaker, you got a pacement.
So what they need to do is read the manual
(08:56):
on these parts and see what they can do with him. Okay,
anytime you get parts like this, they give you a
manual and how much stress you can put on a heart,
hip and a knee. This guy's being selfish. He's not
reading the manual. He's not he's not reading what he
(09:17):
can do. Like, he don't know how much weight he
can put on his knee because he hain't read the manual. Yeah,
he doesn't want to die. There's a manual that comes
with it, Charlotte. He ain't reading it. He ain't reading it.
He just going out that Nelly Willy. You can't do
that reading the manual. Every time you get apart from anywhere,
(09:38):
they give you a manual how to take care of it,
how much stress you can put on it? How much
weight take that heart? Manual? Read it, see what you
can how you can take it up a level can
get holding back? Yeah, she said they didn't give him
my heart. Where he's holding he could take it up
maybe two or three notches doing that. I see her fresh.
(10:00):
He got a perfectly brand new heart and he pushing it.
He needs to push that thing. You put that knee.
You don't think there's any should be any concern on
his part with a pacemaker. He doesn't want to do
anything strenuous with his knees. Just what they took the
old part out and she has a new bicement. She
(10:20):
is she gonna still be able to run around the
room like she used to and all of that. Everybody
got to read their manual. It ain't just never him out,
it ain't just about him before they start doing it again.
You got your manual, I got my manual. Let's read.
See what they licked their thumb and okay, what paid
(10:44):
you on? And how you look over him glasses? You
know what pade you on? I'm on page shipment said
on read then read the let me see you are
at see see that part. Okay, And they're not making
(11:08):
regular little they really really active run around the room
role playing. Yeah yeah, they're role playing. Yeah, because they're
seventy and they're not running fast. It's not like a
high speed like a friend, like like like Junior and
Temmy when they they give you a list of dudes
(11:32):
and dump and he's not read, Yeah, I got this place, marker.
We can't make love with it raining that lightning mir
proud man. I mean this is just I just find
this encouraging because they're both seventy five. I just find
it encouraging. Yeah, huh yeah, it's like that old joke.
Was a niece ast the grandmama hole you have to
(11:55):
get before you don't want to have sex. And when
the grandma was one hundred and five, grandmama said, well,
I don't know, you have to ask somebody older than me,
because I'm still I'm still uh, I'm still wanting the
wow wow. But Junior's right there. When you think about
(12:15):
your parents or your grandparents, you're just like they. You
don't you don't want to think about that. You don't
want to. I knew my grandmama was active. I knew it, Joe,
I knew she was getting it home. My grandmama was
getting at home. How do you know that mister James
would come to our house and sit in the chair right,
(12:38):
And when we went there, mister James was still be
in that chair. Right. We woke up, he was still
sitting in the chair, but his ship was all, where
was your grandmother? My grandma was cooking in breakfast? Now,
how do you put that together? Yeah? J cook us
(13:01):
a damn day. But Jane, yeah, wow, Yeah, you know,
you know what your grandparents was getting busy? I never
you knew my grandmother she come out of her slip.
I knew something. You see a slip? Where your where
your movie? Where's your movie? Now? You got your slip
(13:24):
on out in front of everybody? Okay, all right? Do
people even wear slips anymore? I don't even get me
talking about my parents? Oh my god? What brown brown brown?
Oh my god, I don't want to think about it.
You wouldn't hear it. You would hear next to me
the next brown brown. That explains so much memories to me.
(13:51):
Who brown brown? Yeah, everybody's last name? And what did
they build it? I'm hearing knocking that they build us?
All right? Email us your Instagram as a lot of
your thoughts of today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey FM,
(14:12):
you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
Well, ladies and gentlemen, it is time. It's time for
the Strawberry Little with my good friend Shirley straw theory.
Thank you, junior subject. I need him to use it
before I lose it. That's right, Jake, Dear Stephen Shirley.
My boyfriend and I are both seventy five years old,
and we've been in a great relationship for about fifteen years.
(00:23):
When we met, we headed off right away, but courted
for a while before we became intimate. Sex was great
and it was the glue that held us together. Then
he had knee replacement surgery and I had my hip replaced,
so we had to wait a while before we could
(00:43):
resume a normal sex life. We did other things to
each other to keep the fire going. In the meantime,
everything was fine until a year ago when my honey
was diagnosed with a hard problem and had to have
a pacemaker put in. We allowed a month or so
for him to get used to it, and we abstained
from sex because we didn't want him to get overheated
(01:04):
and have a heart attack. When a doctor gave him
the green light to return to normal activity, I couldn't
wait for our sex life to get back to normal,
but it has not. My honey is afraid of doing
any kind of strenuous activities, and if we do have sex,
he holds back and I end up doing all of
the work. We used to role play and run around
(01:26):
the house, but not anymore. It's just regular intimacy now
in our bedroom, and we don't do it that often.
I feel like if he doesn't use it, I'm going
to lose it. I can't take the way he's rationing
out sex we used to have. We have lots of
good years ahead of us, and I don't know what
he's afraid of. Oh and yes, everything still works just fine.
(01:50):
He does not have any problems with that. So how
can I get him just to relax and rock my
world like he used to? Are you freaking kidding me
with this letter? Man? Okay, but I mean, you know
seventy five who you know seventy five is the new
forty five? Maybe I don't know, but that's the way
(02:11):
you guys are doing it. But yeah, you had a
problem with the knee replacement surgery. Then you had to
have your hip replaced, so you had to wait a
while till it was back to normal. You did other
things you said to keep the fire going in the meantime.
Then he had a hard problem and had to have
a pacemaker put in. Well when the doctor cleared him.
(02:31):
He still doesn't want to go at it like he
used to because he doesn't want to overheat and have
a heart attack, which is perfectly understandable because in our
minds we think at seventy five that you should be
slowing down. Anyway, I thought that anyway, I did, but
this letter is proving me wrong. But I will say
this though, Carla Junior, h now we know why Jay
(02:55):
was out. I just it all. Yeah, Steve, I got this.
I don't know how old you are, j And I
do not think it's sixty five seventy five by any
(03:17):
stretch of the imagination. Close but close, Oh no, you're not.
He ain't that he right around now because he never
really told us why but that, yeah, I see it,
you know, but I see it all through the ladder though,
I see it. Yeah. But but the good thing is
(03:43):
you're right. You do have lots of good years ahead
of you. And uh, I do know what he's afraid
of if if he has heart problems and he doesn't
want to have a heart attack. I think that would
make any normal human being a slow up a little bit. So, um,
you know, if you still want your man around for
all these good years that you say you have ahead
of you, I think you guys should take it a
(04:04):
little easy, just like when you had to, you know,
rest up and recuperate when you had your hip replacement
and knee surgery, and you found other things to keep
the fire going. Just be a little more creative, find
some other things to do. Uh, you know, so and
take it slowly, okay, take it slow. Uh. And and
you know, you guys can both relax and rock each
(04:25):
other's world. Okay, you do have a lot of living
to do, and I'm happy that to know that at
seventy five you can still you know, get busy like this.
My goodness, this is really something. So go ahead and
do you boo, but slow it down just a little bit. Okay,
that is my advice. Yes, Junior, thank you. Yeah. So now,
I just Junior, come on, I thought, first of all,
(04:54):
I'm I'm having the youngest in here. You my my
image that I got in my head is good for me.
I'm thinking about my grandmother in here. This is not
what I need to be hearing my grandmother about seventy five.
I cannot. This is like a arp. Love it. This
(05:15):
is medicaide love it. They do metal hips, metal knees,
and a pacemaker. This is dangerous because that means there's
some equipment that's hooked up in this room. You got
to be concerned that this socket don't overheat. You gotta
you gotta have a breathing machine in here. That's probably
(05:36):
gotta be uh what you call us? Some wheelchairs in here,
some walkers going though holeless walker. Let me get behind.
You can't do this. This is really some different type
of loving they're doing. Yeah, they gotta nurse, gotta come
in and break them up. But they got a lot
of stuff happening in here. You know what I'm saying.
(05:57):
They doctor gotta care what happened. Know, they're not supposed
to be doing. This is very dangerous. This is very
and it's not enough. Oh oh my god, I know
it's seventy five. You're not Come on, Yeah, I'm nervous.
I mean I'm not mad. It gives everybody hope. I
(06:19):
think I think it's an encouraging letter. But man, we
want you guys to be around for a while. Somebody
is probably in the room. I'm just saying somebody's breathing,
but somebody is. It's a machine in here. Yes, Robert,
(06:42):
this is dangerous. Yeah. She wants to know. How can
she get him to just relax? He is relaxed, Yeah,
and rock your world. That may not ever happen. He
may not ever be able to rock your world like
he used to. You know, like I said, find another
way to do it, like you guys did when you
(07:03):
were recovering from your knee replacement and hip replacement. Geez,
I've never said that referring to sex before. Yeah. Yeah,
all right, Look, we'll have part two of our responses
coming up, and we'll hear from Jay the letter writer.
A woman wrote in I'm a Sure Woman seventy five.
(07:26):
She's seventy five and her partner seventy five. They're in
a great relationship. They have been in once for about
fifteen years. She says when they met, they hit it
off right away, courted a while before they became intimate.
They must have read Steve's book and did that ninety
day rule. Although she didn't say that, but she did
wait a while. She said the sex was great, and
it was the glue that held their relationship together. She said,
(07:49):
everything was fine until he had to have knee replacement surgery.
Then she had to have hip replacement surgery. They're both
seventy five, remember, So then they had to recuperate. So
in the meantime, they had to find other things to
do to keep themselves occupied until they, you know, got
back together, you know, got themselves back together. Everything was
(08:11):
fine until a year ago when he started having heart problems.
Then you know, he had to get a pacemaker put in,
and then they had to slow it down again. So
girlfriend is upset because you know, what she's used to
is what she's used to, you know, and she's used
to them role playing and running all around the house
and everything, and they're not doing that anymore because he
(08:33):
slowed down. He sang, she sang. Now she just wants
him to relax, and she wants him to rock her
world like he used to. But that's not happening. Kay,
you're up. Okay, here's a problem. You got a bad hip. Yep,
bad knee, knee, bad heart pacemaker, you got a pacement.
So what they need to do is read the manual
(08:56):
on these parts and see what they can do with him. Okay,
anytime you get parts like this, they give you a
manual and how much stress you can put on a heart,
hip and a knee. This guy's being selfish. He's not
reading the manual. He's not he's not reading what he
(09:17):
can do. Like, he don't know how much weight he
can put on his knee because he hain't read the manual. Yeah,
he doesn't want to die. There's a manual that comes
with it, Charlotte. He ain't reading it. He ain't reading it.
He just going out that Nelly Willy. You can't do
that reading the manual. Every time you get apart from anywhere,
(09:38):
they give you a manual how to take care of it,
how much stress you can put on it? How much
weight take that heart? Manual? Read it, see what you
can how you can take it up a level can
get holding back? Yeah, she said they didn't give him
my heart. Where he's holding he could take it up
maybe two or three notches doing that. I see her fresh.
(10:00):
He got a perfectly brand new heart and he pushing it.
He needs to push that thing. You put that knee.
You don't think there's any should be any concern on
his part with a pacemaker. He doesn't want to do
anything strenuous with his knees. Just what they took the
old part out and she has a new bicement. She
(10:20):
is she gonna still be able to run around the
room like she used to and all of that. Everybody
got to read their manual. It ain't just never him out,
it ain't just about him before they start doing it again.
You got your manual, I got my manual. Let's read.
See what they licked their thumb and okay, what paid
(10:44):
you on? And how you look over him glasses? You
know what pade you on? I'm on page shipment said
on read then read the let me see you are
at see see that part. Okay, And they're not making
(11:08):
regular little they really really active run around the room
role playing. Yeah yeah, they're role playing. Yeah, because they're
seventy and they're not running fast. It's not like a
high speed like a friend, like like like Junior and
Temmy when they they give you a list of dudes
(11:32):
and dump and he's not read, Yeah, I got this place, marker.
We can't make love with it raining that lightning mir
proud man. I mean this is just I just find
this encouraging because they're both seventy five. I just find
it encouraging. Yeah, huh yeah, it's like that old joke.
Was a niece ast the grandmama hole you have to
(11:55):
get before you don't want to have sex. And when
the grandma was one hundred and five, grandmama said, well,
I don't know, you have to ask somebody older than me,
because I'm still I'm still uh, I'm still wanting the
wow wow. But Junior's right there. When you think about
(12:15):
your parents or your grandparents, you're just like they. You
don't you don't want to think about that. You don't
want to. I knew my grandmama was active. I knew it, Joe,
I knew she was getting it home. My grandmama was
getting at home. How do you know that mister James
would come to our house and sit in the chair right,
(12:38):
And when we went there, mister James was still be
in that chair. Right. We woke up, he was still
sitting in the chair, but his ship was all, where
was your grandmother? My grandma was cooking in breakfast? Now,
how do you put that together? Yeah? J cook us
(13:01):
a damn day. But Jane, yeah, wow, Yeah, you know,
you know what your grandparents was getting busy? I never
you knew my grandmother she come out of her slip.
I knew something. You see a slip? Where your where
your movie? Where's your movie? Now? You got your slip
(13:24):
on out in front of everybody? Okay, all right? Do
people even wear slips anymore? I don't even get me
talking about my parents? Oh my god? What brown brown brown?
Oh my god, I don't want to think about it.
You wouldn't hear it. You would hear next to me
the next brown brown. That explains so much memories to me.
(13:51):
Who brown brown? Yeah, everybody's last name? And what did
they build it? I'm hearing knocking that they build us?
All right? Email us your Instagram as a lot of
your thoughts of today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey FM,
(14:12):
you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
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