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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. I want to be
the queen of my house. Dear Stephen Shirley. I worked
as a flight attendant for years. I met my husband
on an international flight and it was his last trip
before he retired. Our first date was at his home.
He lives in what i'd call the country, but he
doesn't see it that way. He has lots of land
(00:48):
and his family lives around him. The street is named
after his great grandfather, who worked on the railroad and
saved up to buy the property. I love that for
his family, but what I don't love is how close
their homes are to ours, specifically his mom's. His mom
is very sweet and she means well but she's always
(01:09):
doing something for us. She buys our groceries and waters
our plants weekly. She gets a kick out of it,
so I don't want to steal her joy. But that
means that I have to use whatever brand she buys,
and I don't always like what she buys. Many Sunday afternoons,
my husband and I have to entertain her when she
comes over and wants to play scrabble or ooh, no,
(01:31):
I get it. It's his mom and she's not getting
any younger. I can't say anything because she grew up
in the house that I'm living in. She cried when
I tore out the old kitchen and renovated most of
the house. My husband gave me props for how I
handle his mom. But the other day we got into
a shouting match over who was the queen of the house.
His mom said to me that she would always be
(01:53):
the queen of the castle, and my husband agreed with her.
That was basically giving her free rein over what goes
on in my home. Not even three days later, his
mom said, her grand niece and her two kids are
coming to visit and staying with us. This woman has
a four bedroom house, so why can't they stay with her?
(02:14):
Is my mother in law taking us for granted? Or
am I being a brat for complaining? Well, I mean
you're absolutely not being a brat. I mean you're being
what you are. This man's wife first of all, who
should be number one to him, and yes, the queen
of the house, not his mom, who has her own house.
I mean, there should be no question about that. But
(02:35):
this mama's boy has put you in this position by
going against you and siding with his mom in front
of you. His mom should know better. No, no, I
take that back, Wait a minute. His mom does know better,
but she just had to flex and show you that
she has the power because other than ruling over her son,
she has no life. Your mother in law is manipulative
(02:58):
in that regard. And the only way to stop this
is for you guys to get a place of your own,
not land that has been in your husband's family for years.
I know that's not going to happen. You know you've
already renovated the house and all of that. The sad
part is is that I don't see your husband agreeing
to moving and I know that's not going to happen,
So he's not going to go anywhere. You guys are
(03:18):
gonna try and have to find a way to live
with this woman or move. Those are your only two choices, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
You know, it's letters a little weird to me, she says,
I want to be the queen of my house, right.
I worked as a flight attendant for years. I met
my husband on an international flight, and it was his
last trip before he retired. Our first date was at
his home. He lived in what I call the country,
but he doesn't see it that way. He has lots
of land in his family that lives around him. She
(03:50):
never mentioned when they got married. She just said, it's
kind of a weird way to start the letter. You know,
I worked as a flight attendant for years. I met
my husband on an international flight. How long did y'all date?
Because had you all dated any period of time, you
would have known this was a mama's boy, and you
would have had you would have known about this family
(04:11):
situation all around this land.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
But you didn't. You didn't.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
You act like all of this is a surprise to you,
and that's what's throwing us off here with you. He
lives in what i'd call the country, but he don't
see it that way. Okay, Well, he got lots of
land and his family lives around him. The street is
named after his great grandfather, who worked on the railroad
(04:37):
and saved up to buy the property. I loved that
for his family, But what I don't love is how
closed their homes.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Are to ours.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Well, see they was close to his house before you
gotten married. See all this was in place before you
gotten married, especially his moms. His mom is very sweet
and she means well, but she's always doing something for us.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
She buys our groceries and waters our playing sweekly. She
gets a kick out of it. So I don't want
to steal her joy. But that means that I have
to use whatever brand.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
She buys it.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
I don't always like what she about.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Okay, Now I know what's happening them old that old
ass food. That that wonder bread, white wonder bread. She's
coming in there with that white, that white wonderbread. That
Domino sugar.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Coming in there.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
And it ain't no sweetened load coming in there. Got
some sweet and load keep your weight down causes cancer.
She still got them little packs of sweet and low
at the house. You know, she buying that stuff here.
You know that stuff. Just say jam, ain't no smuckers
or you.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Know, nothing like that.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Oh no, just jam jam No. She and that she
buy them paper towels. That's just got paper towel on.
It ain't no name. They don't absorb nothing, they don't
tear that. The prefer raided edges don't work. You can't
ever tear a clean sheet of you just using inferior products.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Yeah, she doesn't like it.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You in here, you using fab detergent, tide, got the
new pods you can put in your washing Now you
still using washing powder? Got no? Yeah, you ain't even
got no liquor kind You still punching that hole in
the top of it, pulling washing powder down? You still
have that? No, she do because her whole ass mama
(06:29):
had found all this stuff down at the Dollar stough.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Hey on, steeng on your.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Tune, officiating Star Kiss, It's just Tuna, Part two of.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Water up at twenty three minutes alfter the hour. Today's
strawberry letter, subject, I want to be the queen of
my house. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Morning show, all right, See, come on, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I want to
be the queen of my house.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Yeah, but he lived.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
You have married this guy to live out in the
country and his family live all around him. Now, you
married him anyway, so you knew the family was close by,
and now you're actually surprised about it, including his mom,
who's a really sweet person. But she likes to do
stuff for y'all. She grocery shop for y'all, and she
watered the plants every day. Now you can't wonder why
them plants are doing so good. That cause she puts
(07:25):
sweet and low in the water and them plants are
just thriving. You don't even know what's wrong. Your plants
is good and unhealthy. And what she mad about it?
She buys whatever's brand she buys, and I don't always
like what she buys. I know you don't, but you're
gonna have to learn how to cook some of this stuff.
I know, I know you don't really care for parting meat,
but damn it, that's what her old ass is buy
(07:47):
because old people buy old ass products. I know you
don't really know why this meat is in this can
with this key on it, but that's what spam been
doing sam And then now she didn't cut it up
in cubes. She just showed you how to fix this
stuff so you can quick complain it because you can
slice it, you could barbecue it, you could put it
(08:08):
in cubes. You know this is the stuff you getting
that you get you know, you steal drinking. She dide
bought it. You bought a six pack of all Sea colon?
Where the hell she find all sea cola?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
At hey, your old ass mama, hell here about to
drive y'all crazy.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
And then uh many many afternoons, my husband and I
got an entertainer. When she come over and wants to
play scrabble. Oh no, damn, mama, I get it. It's
his mom and she's not getting any young. I can't
say anything because she grew up in the house I'm
living in.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
And then.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
She cried when I told out the old kitchen and
renovated most of the house. Now, my husband has given
me proces for how handled his mom. But the other
day we got into a shouting match over who was
the queen of the house. Now, when she cried when
you told up the kitchen, she wanted the kitchen to
stay the same. She cried when you told out where
(09:05):
you renovated. Well, here's the problem. God, this is the
house that she grew up in. Yeah, yes, see granddaddy
bought this housement, so she grew up in that house.
Now see you to me, you crazy for moving in
that old ass house. I would never moved in there.
(09:25):
You might as well be living in Amityville.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Horror. I'm not living in this old ass house.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Sank one sank one speaking. You ain't even ain't You
ain't even got a farm. You ain't even got the
kitchen with the two sink with the two halves on it.
You just got one sink. You got a well pump
on the handle. I'm not living in this ragged ass house.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Man, But she renovated it.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
But see now the mama in that crime. And so
they get into a big shouting match, because you got
into a shouting match because over who was the queen
of the house. And his mom said to me that
she was always be the queen of the castle, and
my husband agreed with her. Wow, that was basically giving
(10:19):
her free reign over what goes on in my home.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Now.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Even three days later, his mom said her grandniece and
her two kids are coming to visit and staying with us.
This woman has a faux bed room house, so why
can't they stay with her? You don't even know this girl.
I just shut that Downy is my mother in law
taking us for granted? And am I being a brat
(10:43):
for complaining? No, you're not being a brat for complaining.
She can be the queen of the castle, but she
got she got that faux bed room house. That's where
she the queen of the castle. She ain't the queen
over here no more. It's a new queen in town.
And your husband should understand that. But you're married to
a mama's boy, to a mama's boy, so now you
(11:05):
got to deal with that. Is nothing wrong with being
good to your mama. I got to give you one
of the best examples I've ever seen, Tommy. Tommy is
good to his mama. Man.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
But Tommy ain't no mama's boy.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Though, No, we can't say that about it.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
That ain't what he is.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But not, but he loves his mother. Let me ask
you this, what what is the difference between a mama's
boy and a son who loves his mother? Well, but
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Take care of her and do things for and make
sure she's well cared for and will make her happy.
A mama's boy will allow the mama to direct his
path in life with all his relationships in his current home.
And a mama's boy will allow his mother to disrespect
(11:57):
the wife or the wilfriend.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
There you go first at all times.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
See, that's a mama's boy when you will allow your
mind to disrespect your girl and all that. Hey, mama,
hold up, now, that ain't that's my wife. And most
mothers understand that that's true. And the ones that don't
want to understand that are taking full advantage of it
because she gonna prove to this woman that I'm still
(12:24):
that cats me out, And you know that is true.
That the old ass mountain line your days has come
you damn you out of here. And don't nobody play
scrabble no more so, damn it. I always hate it scrabble.
I can't hear time I put a word down there
go that ain't no word challenge. I lose all my
points on challenges. God can't stray.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harb
FM on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
And if I get that cue with that ten points
on it, i'mightna throw it back in the pile.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
I can't spell nothing with the que.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
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Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we
got Sports Talk with Steve and Nephew Tommy. Right after this, yeah,
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It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. I want to be
the queen of my house. Dear Stephen Shirley. I worked
as a flight attendant for years. I met my husband
on an international flight and it was his last trip
before he retired. Our first date was at his home.
He lives in what i'd call the country, but he
doesn't see it that way. He has lots of land
(00:48):
and his family lives around him. The street is named
after his great grandfather, who worked on the railroad and
saved up to buy the property. I love that for
his family, but what I don't love is how close
their homes are to ours, specifically his mom's. His mom
is very sweet and she means well but she's always
(01:09):
doing something for us. She buys our groceries and waters
our plants weekly. She gets a kick out of it,
so I don't want to steal her joy. But that
means that I have to use whatever brand she buys,
and I don't always like what she buys. Many Sunday afternoons,
my husband and I have to entertain her when she
comes over and wants to play scrabble or ooh, no,
(01:31):
I get it. It's his mom and she's not getting
any younger. I can't say anything because she grew up
in the house that I'm living in. She cried when
I tore out the old kitchen and renovated most of
the house. My husband gave me props for how I
handle his mom. But the other day we got into
a shouting match over who was the queen of the house.
His mom said to me that she would always be
(01:53):
the queen of the castle, and my husband agreed with her.
That was basically giving her free rein over what goes
on in my home. Not even three days later, his
mom said, her grand niece and her two kids are
coming to visit and staying with us. This woman has
a four bedroom house, so why can't they stay with her?
(02:14):
Is my mother in law taking us for granted? Or
am I being a brat for complaining? Well, I mean
you're absolutely not being a brat. I mean you're being
what you are. This man's wife first of all, who
should be number one to him, and yes, the queen
of the house, not his mom, who has her own house.
I mean, there should be no question about that. But
(02:35):
this mama's boy has put you in this position by
going against you and siding with his mom in front
of you. His mom should know better. No, no, I
take that back, Wait a minute. His mom does know better,
but she just had to flex and show you that
she has the power because other than ruling over her son,
she has no life. Your mother in law is manipulative
(02:58):
in that regard. And the only way to stop this
is for you guys to get a place of your own,
not land that has been in your husband's family for years.
I know that's not going to happen. You know you've
already renovated the house and all of that. The sad
part is is that I don't see your husband agreeing
to moving and I know that's not going to happen,
So he's not going to go anywhere. You guys are
(03:18):
gonna try and have to find a way to live
with this woman or move. Those are your only two choices, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
You know, it's letters a little weird to me, she says,
I want to be the queen of my house, right.
I worked as a flight attendant for years. I met
my husband on an international flight, and it was his
last trip before he retired. Our first date was at
his home. He lived in what I call the country,
but he doesn't see it that way. He has lots
of land in his family that lives around him. She
(03:50):
never mentioned when they got married. She just said, it's
kind of a weird way to start the letter. You know,
I worked as a flight attendant for years. I met
my husband on an international flight. How long did y'all date?
Because had you all dated any period of time, you
would have known this was a mama's boy, and you
would have had you would have known about this family
(04:11):
situation all around this land.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
But you didn't. You didn't.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
You act like all of this is a surprise to you,
and that's what's throwing us off here with you. He
lives in what i'd call the country, but he don't
see it that way. Okay, Well, he got lots of
land and his family lives around him. The street is
named after his great grandfather, who worked on the railroad
(04:37):
and saved up to buy the property. I loved that
for his family, But what I don't love is how
closed their homes.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Are to ours.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Well, see they was close to his house before you
gotten married. See all this was in place before you
gotten married, especially his moms. His mom is very sweet
and she means well, but she's always doing something for us.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
She buys our groceries and waters our playing sweekly. She
gets a kick out of it. So I don't want
to steal her joy. But that means that I have
to use whatever brand.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
She buys it.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
I don't always like what she about.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Okay, Now I know what's happening them old that old
ass food. That that wonder bread, white wonder bread. She's
coming in there with that white, that white wonderbread. That
Domino sugar.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Coming in there.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
And it ain't no sweetened load coming in there. Got
some sweet and load keep your weight down causes cancer.
She still got them little packs of sweet and low
at the house. You know, she buying that stuff here.
You know that stuff. Just say jam, ain't no smuckers
or you.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Know, nothing like that.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Oh no, just jam jam No. She and that she
buy them paper towels. That's just got paper towel on.
It ain't no name. They don't absorb nothing, they don't
tear that. The prefer raided edges don't work. You can't
ever tear a clean sheet of you just using inferior products.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Yeah, she doesn't like it.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You in here, you using fab detergent, tide, got the
new pods you can put in your washing Now you
still using washing powder? Got no? Yeah, you ain't even
got no liquor kind You still punching that hole in
the top of it, pulling washing powder down? You still
have that? No, she do because her whole ass mama
(06:29):
had found all this stuff down at the Dollar stough.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Hey on, steeng on your.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Tune, officiating Star Kiss, It's just Tuna, Part two of.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Water up at twenty three minutes alfter the hour. Today's
strawberry letter, subject, I want to be the queen of
my house. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Morning show, all right, See, come on, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I want to
be the queen of my house.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Yeah, but he lived.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
You have married this guy to live out in the
country and his family live all around him. Now, you
married him anyway, so you knew the family was close by,
and now you're actually surprised about it, including his mom,
who's a really sweet person. But she likes to do
stuff for y'all. She grocery shop for y'all, and she
watered the plants every day. Now you can't wonder why
them plants are doing so good. That cause she puts
(07:25):
sweet and low in the water and them plants are
just thriving. You don't even know what's wrong. Your plants
is good and unhealthy. And what she mad about it?
She buys whatever's brand she buys, and I don't always
like what she buys. I know you don't, but you're
gonna have to learn how to cook some of this stuff.
I know, I know you don't really care for parting meat,
but damn it, that's what her old ass is buy
(07:47):
because old people buy old ass products. I know you
don't really know why this meat is in this can
with this key on it, but that's what spam been
doing sam And then now she didn't cut it up
in cubes. She just showed you how to fix this
stuff so you can quick complain it because you can
slice it, you could barbecue it, you could put it
(08:08):
in cubes. You know this is the stuff you getting
that you get you know, you steal drinking. She dide
bought it. You bought a six pack of all Sea colon?
Where the hell she find all sea cola?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
At hey, your old ass mama, hell here about to
drive y'all crazy.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
And then uh many many afternoons, my husband and I
got an entertainer. When she come over and wants to
play scrabble. Oh no, damn, mama, I get it. It's
his mom and she's not getting any young. I can't
say anything because she grew up in the house I'm
living in.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
And then.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
She cried when I told out the old kitchen and
renovated most of the house. Now, my husband has given
me proces for how handled his mom. But the other
day we got into a shouting match over who was
the queen of the house. Now, when she cried when
you told up the kitchen, she wanted the kitchen to
stay the same. She cried when you told out where
(09:05):
you renovated. Well, here's the problem. God, this is the
house that she grew up in. Yeah, yes, see granddaddy
bought this housement, so she grew up in that house.
Now see you to me, you crazy for moving in
that old ass house. I would never moved in there.
(09:25):
You might as well be living in Amityville.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Horror. I'm not living in this old ass house.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Sank one sank one speaking. You ain't even ain't You
ain't even got a farm. You ain't even got the
kitchen with the two sink with the two halves on it.
You just got one sink. You got a well pump
on the handle. I'm not living in this ragged ass house.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Man, But she renovated it.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
But see now the mama in that crime. And so
they get into a big shouting match, because you got
into a shouting match because over who was the queen
of the house. And his mom said to me that
she was always be the queen of the castle, and
my husband agreed with her. Wow, that was basically giving
(10:19):
her free reign over what goes on in my home.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Now.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Even three days later, his mom said her grandniece and
her two kids are coming to visit and staying with us.
This woman has a faux bed room house, so why
can't they stay with her? You don't even know this girl.
I just shut that Downy is my mother in law
taking us for granted? And am I being a brat
(10:43):
for complaining? No, you're not being a brat for complaining.
She can be the queen of the castle, but she
got she got that faux bed room house. That's where
she the queen of the castle. She ain't the queen
over here no more. It's a new queen in town.
And your husband should understand that. But you're married to
a mama's boy, to a mama's boy, so now you
(11:05):
got to deal with that. Is nothing wrong with being
good to your mama. I got to give you one
of the best examples I've ever seen, Tommy. Tommy is
good to his mama. Man.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
But Tommy ain't no mama's boy.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Though, No, we can't say that about it.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
That ain't what he is.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But not, but he loves his mother. Let me ask
you this, what what is the difference between a mama's
boy and a son who loves his mother? Well, but
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Take care of her and do things for and make
sure she's well cared for and will make her happy.
A mama's boy will allow the mama to direct his
path in life with all his relationships in his current home.
And a mama's boy will allow his mother to disrespect
(11:57):
the wife or the wilfriend.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
There you go first at all times.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
See, that's a mama's boy when you will allow your
mind to disrespect your girl and all that. Hey, mama,
hold up, now, that ain't that's my wife. And most
mothers understand that that's true. And the ones that don't
want to understand that are taking full advantage of it
because she gonna prove to this woman that I'm still
(12:24):
that cats me out, And you know that is true.
That the old ass mountain line your days has come
you damn you out of here. And don't nobody play
scrabble no more so, damn it. I always hate it scrabble.
I can't hear time I put a word down there
go that ain't no word challenge. I lose all my
points on challenges. God can't stray.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harb
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