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be yours to write us. We want to help you.
You never know. Buckle love and hold on type. We
got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects.
I went right over there and got him. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm forty two years old and I dated a man
for eight years and we broke up about five months ago.
For years, he told me that he wanted to get
(00:43):
married and we'd get engaged when the time was right.
He told me that he wanted to have babies with
me and buy me a big house. He had the
means to do everything he promised me, but he didn't
follow through. He preferred to be out with his friends
to over or over his parents house. I started seeing
the signs that either he was tired of me or
(01:05):
had he had someone else. He assured me that he
was just getting out more. And you know, since we've
been in a house together for two years because of
the pandemic, I started to feel like our relationship was
a joke, and it was. He didn't even have the
decency to tell me that he was moving on and
we were done. On a Friday night, five months ago,
(01:28):
he staged an argument so he could leave. He packed
up most of his clothes in one night, and he left.
The next morning. I woke up he was getting the
TVs off the wall. I threw myself at him and
made a fool of myself as I begged and pleaded
with him to stay with me. His friend that was
with him had tears in his eyes too, and he
(01:50):
tried to calm me down. My man was emotionless and
just kept getting more of his stuff so he could leave.
After two months of going crazy and trying to talk
to him, his friend told me that my man is
engaged to one of his exes and they lived together.
I went right over to her house and tried to
get my man back. His fiance says she's sorry and
(02:12):
that he didn't tell me, but they've been back together
for almost a year, I still begged him to leave
with me. Still today, I feel like such a fool.
What did I do to deserve this? Why couldn't he
just say he wanted to leave me? Well, I mean
he didn't say it because some men, you know, they
(02:34):
just start right. You know that they can't handle telling
the truth when they want to break up. They would
rather do just what he did and just leave stage
and argument or something like that and get out of there.
But I got to ask you, you were with him
eight years. You didn't see any signs. I mean you
said that. You know, he was hanging out with his
(02:54):
parents and his friends and all of that. You saw
something going on, You felt something, You knew something wasn't right.
Why were you with him for eight years? Anyway? You
know what? I just say this, You should be happy
that he's gone. You should be I mean, he's no
longer cheating on you, he's no longer lying to you
all of that, he's no longer playing you. Right now,
(03:17):
you're playing yourself. Just let him go. He has clearly
moved on with this woman. You know, you said he
had the means to do everything that he promised you
but he never followed through. So for eight years you
knew that and you still stayed with him. I think
at this point you have more of a relationship with
his fiance that he's been with for a year than
(03:38):
you have with him, because at least she apologized. Let
them have each other. You move on with your life.
It's over. He took the TVs off the wall. It's over. Steve, Wow,
that is crazy. I wouldn't ride over there. Got him
(04:00):
right there? The Tyler letter, I went right on. It
ain't got him. No you didn't, No, you didn't. They
ain't got nobody. All right, there go, I'm forty two
data man for eight years. I mean, you've been dating
this man since she was thirty four years old. Y'all
broke up five months ago. Now listen to that. They
(04:23):
broke up five months ago. Why is she writing us
a letter of a breakup that occurred five months ago?
You know why? Because she won't let it go cost
for years. He told me he wanted to get mad
(04:44):
and we get engaged when the time was right. He
told me wanted to have babies with me, by me,
a big house. He had the means to do everything.
This is a dangerous line. He had the means to
do everything. I might have to come back to that happen,
he promised me, but he didn't follow. Three, he preferred
to be out with his friends over to his parent's house. Wait, man,
(05:04):
what he would rather be out with his friends or
over to his parent's house. You think this grown ass
man was going over to his mom and daddy house.
He was going over to a house, but he didn't.
He wasn't at his friend's house or his mom and
daddy house. He was at his new house. Yeah, I
(05:29):
don't know what you. I started seeing the signs that
either he was tired of me or he had someone else.
He just told you he was getting out more. Since
we've been in the house together for two years because
of the pandemic breaks here we go. Daddy is right.
Y'all was stuck in that house together for two years
(05:50):
in the pandemic. That did it for him. He knew
in that two year period during the pandemic, you was
not the one for him. You should have discovered in
that pandemic that he was not the one for you.
So y'all broke up that pandemic broke up a lot
(06:11):
at home. Oh, it's a statistic out there that a lot,
a lot of divorces came out of that pandemic. Yeah,
you started to feel like your relationship was a joke,
and it was. He didn't even have the decent intemment.
He was moving on and we are done. And then
something happened on a Friday night. When we come back,
(06:32):
I'll tell you how he told you. But you just
didn't listen when we come back. All right, See, we
will have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the our Today's Strawberry letter, subject
I went right over there and got him. We'll get
back into the letter right after this. You're listening show,
(06:55):
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I went right over there and got him. Now,
this woman right here lost a relationship. They had been
dating for eight years. She was thirty four. They broke
up five months ago. You're listening to that now, never
(07:16):
got engaged, got a bunch of false promises, said that
he was gonna marry her, get a big house, and
you know, she said he had the means to do
all of this, and he never followed through. Then she
said he preferred to be out with his friends over
his parents' house. If you think a man is spending
all his time at his friend's house and mom and
(07:37):
daddy's house, you stupid. I started seeing signs that either
he was tired of me or he had somebody else.
Oh really, But he assured me that he was just
getting out more since y'all had been in the house
together for two years. During the pandemic. That pandemic broke
y'all up. Lady, he saw you every day for two years,
and he decided that ain't what he wanted to rest
(07:59):
of his life. He decided after two years, you wasn't it.
He saw that in the pandemic, and you didn't see
it in him. He was through with you after the pandemic.
That pandemic broke y'all up. He didn't even have a
dcncy to tell me that he was moving on and
we were done. Yes, he did, but you didn't hear
(08:19):
it though. This how I told you. On a Friday
night five months ago, he staged an argument so he
could leave. He packed up most of his clothes in
one night and left. Lady, you wasn't paying attention. He
already had a couple of boxes pack. He had been
working on this for about two weeks. A couple of
(08:40):
boxes was packed. You can't hear you. Ain't nobody move
in the night, Nobody steff be everywhere. You don't know it.
But it was a couple of prepackaged boxes. You just
didn't see it. He packed up, mostly clothed one night
and he left the next morning. I woke up and
he was getting TVs off the wall. Wait a minute,
Wait a minute, this says is over when you wake
(09:04):
up and he getting TVs off the wall. But now
let's go back to a line in the letter. Said
you said, he told me he wanted to have babies
with me and buy me a big house. And then
you said, I started seeing the signs that he has
some but he had the means to do everything. Well,
hold on, if he had the means to do all this,
(09:26):
why is he in there taking TVs off the wall?
Sound like a poe ass moved to me. Sounded mighty
mighty poe to me. So now I threw myself at him,
made a fool of myself, begged and pleaded with him
to stay. His friend that was with him had tears
(09:47):
in his eyes too, well, he had tears in his
eye because he said to be gonna. I can't believe
I'm overhill. And what difference? Why you had to tell
us that his friend had tears in eye. The dude
that was hacking to take the TVs off the wall,
he hand on tears in his eye, and he tried
to calm me down. My man was motionless and just
(10:08):
kept getting more of his stuff so he could leave.
After two months of going crazy and trying to talk
to him, his friend told me that your man, my
man was engaged to one of his exes and they
lived together. I went right over to her house and
tried to get my man back. Oh lord used to
do his fiance wait a minute, just then jump. This
(10:31):
is his fiance now. His fiance says she was sorry
he didn't tell me, but they've been back together for
a year almost. I still begged him to leave with me.
He didn't, and still today I feel like such a food.
What did I do to deserve this? Well, probably nothing,
(10:52):
It doesn't You don't have to do nothing to get
deserved to get treated wrong. You didn't stop trying to
beat yourself about what you deserve to do that. It happened.
Why couldn't he just say he wanted to leave me?
He said it. You wasn't listening when he told you
he was over his friend's house and his mama's house.
He was telling you did he was gone, but you
(11:14):
didn't listen to him when he saw packing him clothes.
What you think he was doing when you walk up
to them? TVs was coming off the wall. What do
you think at one? Why did you go over there
and his fiance say, I'm sorry he didn't tell you,
but we've been together for over you. She didn't offer
him back, She didn't tell him to get out. Now
the decision was made. Everybody's made the decision that comes
(11:38):
to the conclusion. But you but oh no, you need closure.
It's over. He ain't coming back. He lived with her.
Why don't you hollight the dude to have the tears
in his eyes that felt so so hot, and maybe
he won't since you want to throw yourself on the
floor at somebody, you know, go over there and talk
to you, you know, you know, mister mister tl see
(12:01):
you know, since he had tears in his eye, you know,
But sometimes you just gotta move on. There's no closure.
It was a pandemic. Y'all found out a lot about
each other that you didn't know before, and he found
out he didn't care for you, but you still cared
for him. Things changed. You're young, you forty two, you
got plenty times start your life, you got plenty times
(12:24):
you start over fifty sixty, But he don't want you.
That's clear. Can we move on from this? Please? And
why again did you write us five months after the
break up? Now they probably having kids by now, Ladies
over with and they watching that TV that he came
(12:45):
in there and took off the walk. Well, well, listen,
Thank you. Steve. Hit us up on Instagram at Steve
HARVFM to comment on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Now. Coming
up next, we'll have some warts with Junior. Right after this.
You're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice on relationships, on sex, work, parenting,
or more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARBFM
dot com. All you have to do is click submit
Strawberry Letter, and we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're gonna read this one
right here, right now, and you never know, it could
(00:22):
be yours to write us. We want to help you.
You never know. Buckle love and hold on type. We
got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects.
I went right over there and got him. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm forty two years old and I dated a man
for eight years and we broke up about five months ago.
For years, he told me that he wanted to get
(00:43):
married and we'd get engaged when the time was right.
He told me that he wanted to have babies with
me and buy me a big house. He had the
means to do everything he promised me, but he didn't
follow through. He preferred to be out with his friends
to over or over his parents house. I started seeing
the signs that either he was tired of me or
(01:05):
had he had someone else. He assured me that he
was just getting out more. And you know, since we've
been in a house together for two years because of
the pandemic, I started to feel like our relationship was
a joke, and it was. He didn't even have the
decency to tell me that he was moving on and
we were done. On a Friday night, five months ago,
(01:28):
he staged an argument so he could leave. He packed
up most of his clothes in one night, and he left.
The next morning. I woke up he was getting the
TVs off the wall. I threw myself at him and
made a fool of myself as I begged and pleaded
with him to stay with me. His friend that was
with him had tears in his eyes too, and he
(01:50):
tried to calm me down. My man was emotionless and
just kept getting more of his stuff so he could leave.
After two months of going crazy and trying to talk
to him, his friend told me that my man is
engaged to one of his exes and they lived together.
I went right over to her house and tried to
get my man back. His fiance says she's sorry and
(02:12):
that he didn't tell me, but they've been back together
for almost a year, I still begged him to leave
with me. Still today, I feel like such a fool.
What did I do to deserve this? Why couldn't he
just say he wanted to leave me? Well, I mean
he didn't say it because some men, you know, they
(02:34):
just start right. You know that they can't handle telling
the truth when they want to break up. They would
rather do just what he did and just leave stage
and argument or something like that and get out of there.
But I got to ask you, you were with him
eight years. You didn't see any signs. I mean you
said that. You know, he was hanging out with his
(02:54):
parents and his friends and all of that. You saw
something going on, You felt something, You knew something wasn't right.
Why were you with him for eight years? Anyway? You
know what? I just say this, You should be happy
that he's gone. You should be I mean, he's no
longer cheating on you, he's no longer lying to you
all of that, he's no longer playing you. Right now,
(03:17):
you're playing yourself. Just let him go. He has clearly
moved on with this woman. You know, you said he
had the means to do everything that he promised you
but he never followed through. So for eight years you
knew that and you still stayed with him. I think
at this point you have more of a relationship with
his fiance that he's been with for a year than
(03:38):
you have with him, because at least she apologized. Let
them have each other. You move on with your life.
It's over. He took the TVs off the wall. It's over. Steve, Wow,
that is crazy. I wouldn't ride over there. Got him
(04:00):
right there? The Tyler letter, I went right on. It
ain't got him. No you didn't, No, you didn't. They
ain't got nobody. All right, there go, I'm forty two
data man for eight years. I mean, you've been dating
this man since she was thirty four years old. Y'all
broke up five months ago. Now listen to that. They
(04:23):
broke up five months ago. Why is she writing us
a letter of a breakup that occurred five months ago?
You know why? Because she won't let it go cost
for years. He told me he wanted to get mad
(04:44):
and we get engaged when the time was right. He
told me wanted to have babies with me, by me,
a big house. He had the means to do everything.
This is a dangerous line. He had the means to
do everything. I might have to come back to that happen,
he promised me, but he didn't follow. Three, he preferred
to be out with his friends over to his parent's house. Wait, man,
(05:04):
what he would rather be out with his friends or
over to his parent's house. You think this grown ass
man was going over to his mom and daddy house.
He was going over to a house, but he didn't.
He wasn't at his friend's house or his mom and
daddy house. He was at his new house. Yeah, I
(05:29):
don't know what you. I started seeing the signs that
either he was tired of me or he had someone else.
He just told you he was getting out more. Since
we've been in the house together for two years because
of the pandemic breaks here we go. Daddy is right.
Y'all was stuck in that house together for two years
(05:50):
in the pandemic. That did it for him. He knew
in that two year period during the pandemic, you was
not the one for him. You should have discovered in
that pandemic that he was not the one for you.
So y'all broke up that pandemic broke up a lot
(06:11):
at home. Oh, it's a statistic out there that a lot,
a lot of divorces came out of that pandemic. Yeah,
you started to feel like your relationship was a joke,
and it was. He didn't even have the decent intemment.
He was moving on and we are done. And then
something happened on a Friday night. When we come back,
(06:32):
I'll tell you how he told you. But you just
didn't listen when we come back. All right, See, we
will have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the our Today's Strawberry letter, subject
I went right over there and got him. We'll get
back into the letter right after this. You're listening show,
(06:55):
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I went right over there and got him. Now,
this woman right here lost a relationship. They had been
dating for eight years. She was thirty four. They broke
up five months ago. You're listening to that now, never
(07:16):
got engaged, got a bunch of false promises, said that
he was gonna marry her, get a big house, and
you know, she said he had the means to do
all of this, and he never followed through. Then she
said he preferred to be out with his friends over
his parents' house. If you think a man is spending
all his time at his friend's house and mom and
(07:37):
daddy's house, you stupid. I started seeing signs that either
he was tired of me or he had somebody else.
Oh really, But he assured me that he was just
getting out more since y'all had been in the house
together for two years. During the pandemic. That pandemic broke
y'all up. Lady, he saw you every day for two years,
and he decided that ain't what he wanted to rest
(07:59):
of his life. He decided after two years, you wasn't it.
He saw that in the pandemic, and you didn't see
it in him. He was through with you after the pandemic.
That pandemic broke y'all up. He didn't even have a
dcncy to tell me that he was moving on and
we were done. Yes, he did, but you didn't hear
(08:19):
it though. This how I told you. On a Friday
night five months ago, he staged an argument so he
could leave. He packed up most of his clothes in
one night and left. Lady, you wasn't paying attention. He
already had a couple of boxes pack. He had been
working on this for about two weeks. A couple of
(08:40):
boxes was packed. You can't hear you. Ain't nobody move
in the night, Nobody steff be everywhere. You don't know it.
But it was a couple of prepackaged boxes. You just
didn't see it. He packed up, mostly clothed one night
and he left the next morning. I woke up and
he was getting TVs off the wall. Wait a minute,
Wait a minute, this says is over when you wake
(09:04):
up and he getting TVs off the wall. But now
let's go back to a line in the letter. Said
you said, he told me he wanted to have babies
with me and buy me a big house. And then
you said, I started seeing the signs that he has
some but he had the means to do everything. Well,
hold on, if he had the means to do all this,
(09:26):
why is he in there taking TVs off the wall?
Sound like a poe ass moved to me. Sounded mighty
mighty poe to me. So now I threw myself at him,
made a fool of myself, begged and pleaded with him
to stay. His friend that was with him had tears
(09:47):
in his eyes too, well, he had tears in his
eye because he said to be gonna. I can't believe
I'm overhill. And what difference? Why you had to tell
us that his friend had tears in eye. The dude
that was hacking to take the TVs off the wall,
he hand on tears in his eye, and he tried
to calm me down. My man was motionless and just
(10:08):
kept getting more of his stuff so he could leave.
After two months of going crazy and trying to talk
to him, his friend told me that your man, my
man was engaged to one of his exes and they
lived together. I went right over to her house and
tried to get my man back. Oh lord used to
do his fiance wait a minute, just then jump. This
(10:31):
is his fiance now. His fiance says she was sorry
he didn't tell me, but they've been back together for
a year almost. I still begged him to leave with me.
He didn't, and still today I feel like such a food.
What did I do to deserve this? Well, probably nothing,
(10:52):
It doesn't You don't have to do nothing to get
deserved to get treated wrong. You didn't stop trying to
beat yourself about what you deserve to do that. It happened.
Why couldn't he just say he wanted to leave me?
He said it. You wasn't listening when he told you
he was over his friend's house and his mama's house.
He was telling you did he was gone, but you
(11:14):
didn't listen to him when he saw packing him clothes.
What you think he was doing when you walk up
to them? TVs was coming off the wall. What do
you think at one? Why did you go over there
and his fiance say, I'm sorry he didn't tell you,
but we've been together for over you. She didn't offer
him back, She didn't tell him to get out. Now
the decision was made. Everybody's made the decision that comes
(11:38):
to the conclusion. But you but oh no, you need closure.
It's over. He ain't coming back. He lived with her.
Why don't you hollight the dude to have the tears
in his eyes that felt so so hot, and maybe
he won't since you want to throw yourself on the
floor at somebody, you know, go over there and talk
to you, you know, you know, mister mister tl see
(12:01):
you know, since he had tears in his eye, you know,
But sometimes you just gotta move on. There's no closure.
It was a pandemic. Y'all found out a lot about
each other that you didn't know before, and he found
out he didn't care for you, but you still cared
for him. Things changed. You're young, you forty two, you
got plenty times start your life, you got plenty times
(12:24):
you start over fifty sixty, But he don't want you.
That's clear. Can we move on from this? Please? And
why again did you write us five months after the
break up? Now they probably having kids by now, Ladies
over with and they watching that TV that he came
(12:45):
in there and took off the walk. Well, well, listen,
Thank you. Steve. Hit us up on Instagram at Steve
HARVFM to comment on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Now. Coming
up next, we'll have some warts with Junior. Right after this.
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