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The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Monday, November 10th, 2025. Subject: "Keeping A Secret Always Backfires"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice

(00:02):
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
Yeah, ladies and gentlemen, it is time for the Strawberry Letter. Well,
my good friend, Shirley Strawberry.

Speaker 3 (00:27):
Thank you, junior.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Subject Keeping a secret always backfires. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm
in my late twenties and I got married two years ago.
My husband is eleven years older than I am, and
he's a great man, but he went through a brief
period of ed before we got married. I was young
and care free at the time, so I did something
very stupid. I had gone for close to three months

(00:51):
without sex with my man, and I went to a
wedding back in my hometown and had sex with my
ex boyfriend from high school. All of the feeling I
had for him came flooding back, and I had an
affair with him for two months. He flew in to
see me during the week, and I would leave work
and spend the afternoon with him at different hotels. Then

(01:11):
he ghosted me without any explanation, and I was deeply hurt.
I confided in one of my closest friends, and she
kept it real with me and said I needed to
get over it and marry the man that's in love
with me. I got engaged and this close friend wanted
to be a bridesmaid, but I had to choose my

(01:32):
fiancee's sister instead of her.

Speaker 3 (01:34):
She told me that she understood, and.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
I was relieved until one of our other friends told
me that the girl was calling me a lucky.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
Bee behind my back.

Speaker 1 (01:44):
I thought she was jealous because she was single, so
I let it slide. I got pregnant on my wedding night,
and my life has been NonStop since then. I ran
into my old friend and she was very bitter. I
went to hug her and she pulled back, said I
ghosted her after I got everything I wanted, and my
husband should know who I really am in love with.

(02:07):
I insisted that I do love my husband and that
affair I had was a mistake. She walked away, smirking
and said, have a nice life. Do I try to
fix our friendship so she won't tell my secret? Well,
I say no, because she's not your friend, and she's not.

Speaker 3 (02:24):
Anyone that you need in your life right now.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
I mean, you know, not with all the negative energy
she's got around her. I would stay as far away
from her as possible. I mean, you said, it's been
two years since you got married, got pregnant, and more
than two years since the affair. I say, you're a
major mom with serious responsibilities now, and what she's talking
about is petty and more than that, it's over. It's

(02:50):
done with, so continue to live your NonStop life like
you've been doing. This girl is bitter because you didn't
put her in your wedding, even though she said at
the time it.

Speaker 3 (02:59):
Was cool you didn't ghost her.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
It's just that your life changed so drastically after marriage.
You had a husband and a baby and very little
time for anything else. I think a real friend would
have understood that. But now she's threatening to use some
two year old before you were married affair against you,
which means she hasn't moved on and you have. She's

(03:21):
still upset and she hasn't forgiven you. I think she
was gonna. If she was going to use this infost
she would have done it before now. And I just
think you need to, you know, keep it pushing, keep
moving forward, and let her stay behind where she needs
to be and out of your life.

Speaker 4 (03:37):
Steve, Well, Shirley's correct, Arry, But let me say this
to you. Let's just start with the subject keeping a
secret always backfive, one of my favorite lines.

Speaker 5 (03:53):
Shit should that's right? Yeah, all secrets.

Speaker 4 (03:58):
That's why they called him a s because a lot
of people do keep secrets. There are a lot of secrets.
That's secrets in the ocean. Now, you can dive down
there if you want. You try to discover him, but
you're gonna die because there are secrets that you have
to carry to your grave. I have to.

Speaker 5 (04:21):
They're going with me.

Speaker 4 (04:22):
I don't even have the urge to tell them. I
don't have the moments where my guilty bothering me and
stuff washing over me. I don't even have that. What
that's my secret? That you in your late twenties, you
got married two years ago. Your husband eleven years old
than you, he has an erectile dysfunction. Before you got married,

(04:43):
so you was carefree. Y'all didn't have sex for three
months and you just got horned. You went to your
ex hometown and read up in your ex boyfriend out
of wedding, and all the feelings you had for him
came back, and then you had enough fair with him
at the wedd before you was married. That's your secret.

(05:03):
The problem is you ain't keep it. The secret you
told somebody. I don't know what the hell you told
somebody folk what you did so you hadn't found for
two months. He flew in to see me during the week.
I would leave work and spend the afternoon with him
at different hotels.

Speaker 5 (05:17):
That boy was flying in bringing it it was convenient.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
Then he ghosted me without any explanation, and I was
deeply hurt.

Speaker 5 (05:30):
Well, you showed up at the wedding with no explanation.

Speaker 4 (05:34):
You had fiance, You did something without explaining to him,
so he ghosted you. Ain't no big deal. You were hurt.
Here's the mistake you made. You confided in one of
your closest friends, who we will refer through to throughout
the rest of this letter as the skink you you

(06:00):
in yo skank, as you say, as your closest friend,
but we will refer to her from the rest of
this morning show as that skank, the skank ah skankho.

Speaker 5 (06:19):
Highlights number three.

Speaker 4 (06:20):
Yeah, she kept it real with me and said I
needed to get over it and marry the man that's
in love with me.

Speaker 5 (06:26):
I got engaged in his.

Speaker 4 (06:27):
Close friend wanted to be a bridesmaid, but I had
to choose my fiance sister instead of her. That's why
you made a mistake. And when we come back, I'll
tell you what you should have told your fiance.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, We'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour of the
subject of today's Strawberry letter, keeping a secret always backfires.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
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Speaker 1 (07:27):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter
and finish up with your response.

Speaker 3 (07:32):
Let's go.

Speaker 4 (07:34):
This young woman in her twenties had a man eleven
years old say we're gonna get married. He experienced some
ed and erectile dysfunction and she needed to get herself fixed.
So she went to her ex boyfriend who lived in
another town. She was at a wed and ran up
into him. They had feelings and they had sex, and
then she ended up having her a fab for two

(07:55):
months who used to fly in town. And she leave
work early, go down to the hotel and get ranged,
you know, and just things are just happening down there.
The word is ranched. You ain't never been ranched before.
I recommend it happened before you die. It's very cleansing.
So she went out there and she got ranched, and

(08:17):
just oh, oh you're ranch You just ranching off, and
you know, it's a it's a it's a derivative of rents.
It's a country way of saying risk. Like you know,
rint that out range, that out ranch, that means harder
when you ranch it. It's harder. If you get a wrench,

(08:39):
that's one thing, but if you get that ranch, that's
a whole nother thing.

Speaker 5 (08:42):
You know what I'm saying. So yeah, to do like that.
So now, yeah, I'm just what we do here.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
We educated.

Speaker 5 (08:51):
And so now and so now.

Speaker 4 (08:57):
You come back and he's been at the hotel, take
care of business, and then out of nowhere, he ghosted you.

Speaker 5 (09:04):
Why you were surprised about that, I don't know. And
you were deeply hurt. So you confide it in the skank.

Speaker 4 (09:14):
You told skanky, and skank kept it real with you
and said I needed to get over it and married
a man that's in love with me.

Speaker 5 (09:24):
Now, skank was right about that. Now, so you did
what skank said.

Speaker 4 (09:29):
I got engaged and this skank wanted to be a bridesmaid,
but I had to choose my fiance sister instead of her.

Speaker 5 (09:40):
No, you did it. It is your wedding.

Speaker 4 (09:45):
You let the fact that he was eleven years older
than you and his sister want to be in a
win because she sang, I ain't never been in no win.

Speaker 5 (09:52):
You ain't. Nobody never asked her to be in a win.

Speaker 4 (09:55):
She want to be in a wind so she can
get in the line, catch the bouquet, because ain't nobody
fit in the ass her ugly to marry her at tall,
So she figured I know she ever did because she
forced herself in the wed. Uther people always pushing themself
in webs and stuff. Other people know how to barge in.

Speaker 2 (10:12):
You know.

Speaker 4 (10:12):
Cute people go, oh I'm not selected. Okay, well good luck,
you know, but ugly people, are you gonna want me?
I'm gonna tell my brother put me in your web.
Now we had to get all this extra fabric to
make her dress. Now she down there with the meal.
She'd had a special cut to put in the dress
because she big. Now she got the stomach out and
both side panels out. She didn't even look like rest
addrised me. But anyway, she got in the wed. Now

(10:36):
the problem you had was your skank thought that she
should be in the web because y'all was cool. This
is what happens when you cool with a scak. So
skank told you she understood. I was relieved, and to
one of your other friends told you that the skank
was calling you a lucky be behind your back. I

(10:59):
thought she was jealous because she was single, so I
let it slide. Then you got pregnant on your wed
at night. Your life be non stop every since you
ran into your skink. You ran in the skank cat,
let's give her name. You ran up in the skank cat,
skank kettle, you ran up in the scan ketto.

Speaker 5 (11:19):
And she was very bitter. I went to hug and
she pulled back. That's cause she skanked.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
She said, I ghosted her after I got everything I wanted,
and my husband should know who I'm really in love with.
I insisted that I do love my husband and that
affair was a mistake. She walked away smirking and said,
have a nice life. Do I try to fix our
friendship so she won't tell my secret? Sureley's absolutely correct,

(11:49):
Absolutely not. You don't try to fix this relationship with escape.
This ain't your friend, she's a skak. Why would you
want to fix it with escape. What you got to
do is fix her. Stop being the victim all the time. Nah,
she's gonna threaten to go to your husband with this news.
A couple of things you need to do. First of all,

(12:09):
do what men do? Nae, I mean Luke jess A
surprised surely I want you to be the girl coming
to tell my husband what you know star, and I'm
I'm gonna show her how she.

Speaker 5 (12:20):
Need to be.

Speaker 3 (12:21):
Okay, Clarence, Hi, you remember me. I'm Betty your wife friend.
I wanted to be in.

Speaker 5 (12:29):
There for Betty Well.

Speaker 1 (12:35):
To come over because you know, there's some things about
Betty that you don't know, and I wanted to let
you know that I know something about her that I think.

Speaker 5 (12:44):
You're gonna let my man know something.

Speaker 3 (12:46):
Yeah, I think you should know this about her.

Speaker 5 (12:50):
Okay, No, we all need to tell something. Go ahead.

Speaker 3 (12:53):
Well, I don't I don't know anything about that.

Speaker 5 (12:55):
I just know what I know.

Speaker 4 (12:57):
What is that? Well?

Speaker 3 (12:59):
You remember like there was a period of time, like
three months.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Before you guys got married where you guys didn't have sex.

Speaker 3 (13:07):
You remember that? You don't remember that.

Speaker 5 (13:11):
You're trying to say class had D.

Speaker 3 (13:14):
Yeah, I'm trying to say Clarence had.

Speaker 5 (13:16):
E d Clais. How does Heffer? How does Heffer know
you had? I?

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Edhi?

Speaker 5 (13:23):
This health FA No, you had E. D Claire retz.

Speaker 3 (13:31):
All right, see it can go something like that.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
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