July 30, 2020 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 29 year old woman and I need your advice on how to help a friend. She’s been in quarantine alone so all I’ve been hearing is how lonely she is. Well, here’s why… She looks a hot mess all of the time and being inside for 3 months has made it worse. I know everybody has been looking crazy since we are stuck inside, but she’s put on a few pounds and looks like she hasn’t combed her hair since March...................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you
need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.
Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read
this one right here, right now already. How you look
(00:20):
at here a booklet of how loud tie. I'll be
all right, thank you, nephew. Subject my frumpy friend. My
frumpy friend needs a makeover. That was close, all right?
Just Steven Shirley, I'm twenty nine year old woman and
(00:42):
I need your advice on how to help a friend.
She's been in quarantine alone. So all I've been hearing
is how lonely she is. Well, here's why. She looks
a hot mess all of the time, and being inside
for three months has made it worse. I know everybody
has been looking crazy since we are stuck inside, but
(01:03):
since she's put on a few pounds and she looks
like she hasn't combed her hair since March. She has
an old sin that is tattered and she hasn't even
bothered to take it out. I told her that shopping
online was a great way for me to feel normal
while I was in the house. But she said the
current styles don't interest her. Her style is different, and
(01:25):
she wears her crocs with almost everything. It's like she's
turned into one of those women that wear oversized T
shirts and no bra, short shorts, socks and crocs. Shirley,
Let's be clear, Shirley me, Shirley, let's be clear, she
should never leave the house without a bra. Well, she
not talking to me on that section. Why cause I
(01:49):
leave a house all the time without a bra? What
she called me out? Okay, Shirley, let's be clear she
should never leave the house without a bra if if
it's not a good look. All she's been talking about
lately is wanting a man and she's not being able
to meet a good one. She's got a lot of
friends that are male and they have told her to shower, shave,
(02:13):
and comb her hair too. Believe me, she's not depressed,
and she's always down for social gatherings. Now that we're
able to go out and do more, but we don't
enjoy being around her because she looks so unkept and raggedy.
She's getting worse and worse, and some of my friends
are ready to cut her off completely. I don't know
(02:33):
if it is a phase or what. Should I be
honest and tell her about herself? I say, absolutely, yes,
you should be honest and tell her about herself. Of course,
don't do it in a hostile way. But you have
some tough love, I say, you know, kind of you know,
just be kind about it, I say, but heavy on
(02:53):
the love part. You are her friend, right, Well, that's
what a friend would do. I mean, a friend would
honestly her friend to the side and tell her friends.
Don't let friends neglect their hygiene and come out with
body odor and not combing their hair and all of that.
They don't do that. She's in dire need I think
right now of an intervention based on what you've said
(03:14):
in a letter. And also, let me say this, even
if she is hanging out with you guys, that doesn't
mean that she's not depressed, okay, or has some sort
of mental issues. I mean, she's stuck in the house alone,
you know, that could be bothering her, and it's showing
she's not combing her hair, she's not showering. That's not
a sign that you know, everything is okay. She's not
(03:36):
taking care of herself, she's not shaving. She wants a man.
No man is going to put up with that. Your
friends who aren't sleeping with you and dating you don't
want to put up with it. So I definitely think
you know, I'm no doctor or a psychologist or anything,
but I think it's more to this story. I definitely
think some depression or something has taken over. Yeah. Yeah,
(03:59):
she needs little help. She needs some friends right now,
and hopefully she'll be willing to hear what you guys
have to say. She hasn't been so far, but you
know you got to intervene and get in here somewhere,
get through to her some kind of way. Steve, Well,
I don't know how to start this letter. How much
(04:22):
time do I have, dave about? How How long I
got about two minutes? What I got to say can't
be said in two minutes, So I'm not gonna say nothing.
All I'm gonna do is prepare y'all for what I'm
about to say. Okay, all right, surely I love your response.
You try to really help people. Some people can't be helped,
(04:48):
and she therefore, once I determined from my level of schooling,
which is none, and my level of expertise in ignorance,
which is very Oh yeah, yeah, I got that. It
comes to a point when I look at some of
these letters and I determined I'm not gonna be able
(05:10):
to help this person. So I'm gonna allow this person
to help us. Oh, this person is about to give
us five minutes of complete levity because I have no
advice for this woman except these damn jokes. God has
(05:34):
given me a gift that has taken me around the world.
Why would I not use that gift on this letter.
I'm going to think fully of how to dismantle this
letter in a comedic fashion that will have y'all talking
(05:57):
about it at work all day. That's all I say.
That is what you do. I am asking God to
allow the gift that he has given me to shine
through brightly as I talk about a woman who has
let herself gone, gone, cut it off, don't give it
(06:23):
damn but won A man her friends says she look
a hot mess all the time, all the time, and
quarantine has not been kind to her. All right, Steve,
hold it right there. We'll have part two, or actually
the body of your response coming up at twenty three
(06:43):
minutes after the hour. The subject of today's letter is
my frumpy friend needs a makeover. We'll get into it
right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve. Come on,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. My frumpy friend that needs
a makeover is the subject. This woman is twenty nine
(07:08):
and she needs some advice because on how to help
a friend. The woman been in quarantine alone, all by herself,
so she ain't had nobody to say, you know how
you doing today? You know you look pretty? That she
ain't had that. She's been in quarantine by herself. So
(07:31):
and here's why she needs help. The ladies say she
look a hot mess all the time, and being inside
for three moss has made it worse. Let's stop right here.
You have a friend that's a hot mess all the
damn time. You mean before the quarantine, I think during
(07:52):
since No, No, listen to me. Listen to what she says. Okay,
I need your advice. Had she's been in quarantine alans,
so I've been hearing all about how how alone she is.
Here's why she looks a hot mess all the time,
(08:13):
and being inside for three months has made it worse. Ye,
So before quarantine, she was already toe up from the
flow up. Naw, she in quarantine, she'd have lost her
damn mind. I know. Then the lady said, I know
(08:34):
everybody'd been looking crazy since we stuck inside, But she'd
have put on a few pounds. Now, what is a
few pounds, because if you notice as soon as you
see her, twenty five is not a few pounds. Now,
I'm just gonna tell you that right now, she'dn't put
on some weight. And if you already a hot mess,
(08:55):
when you put on weight, it's very noticeable because it's
more stuff to turn into a mess. Yeah, so we
got that problem right there. She didn't put on some pounds.
A lot of people didn't put on pounds during the quarantine.
But you can't put the pounds on and look a
hot mess. Now you got to still beautify the mess. Okay, now,
(09:18):
since we stuck inside. But she has an all soul
end that is tattered and she ain't even bother to
take it out. So what that means is the new
growth has been pushing the headline back. So in the
front it just looked like she's been in the gym
(09:38):
just sweating. It out. She can't slick it back no more,
ain't nonna licking it, ain't gonna laying it down valley,
and don't help freezed up in the front. Then all
of a sudden, it's pony hell. It got a little
front cross the front, look like a look like a
head band. And then after that just shiny straight out
(10:03):
of No damn, this was she got. She ain't combed
her hand since March. Now, I can't say nothing about
that because I ain't either, So let's just gonna pass
that you don't have any I told her to get
great way for me to feel normals when I'm in
the house. But she said that the Karen styles don't
interest her. What Karen style, you know, don't interest a woman?
(10:28):
When the last time shell it call it, you ain't
been interested in the new styles. I can't recall. Why
would you put a new style on a body that's
a hot mess. You're just wasting money. Ain't nobody even
gonna notice the clothes you got on because of your
damn hell. If you got that throw in the front
(10:50):
and then that pony hair in the back, don't nobody
know you got on the latest dose shape? Don't nobody
give a damn. Okay, I guess I'm wig shaming. Now.
I can't say nothing by the week. Damn problem, Now
I got to say I can't say nothing by the hell. Well,
let's keep moving in. So then her style is different
(11:12):
than she wears crocs with almost everything. What did she say?
She wears oversized T shirts, no brawl, short socks and
crocs everywhere. Oh so she just outside looking like a
white man cutting the grass. She got on the old
(11:38):
some short socks and some crocs. You're just an old
white man cutting grass. All right, lady, I got one minute,
so here I go. So here's what you're gonna have
to say to her. These are key lines that you
could say to bring her towards the life. Okay, baby,
(11:58):
you ain't making it. Humh These are just little subtle
lines you can say to a person that's a hot
mess to try to get them to come back. You know, baby, baby,
you ain't making it. Huh yeah, you know you ain't
doing good. Oh okay, here's another one. Okay, well, I see,
I see. Quarantine ain't for everybody so far, that's my favorite.
(12:23):
I love it. You know, how about this one right here? Baby?
What's going on? Is you hoarding exactly because you know
horders all them look crazy. You're gonna good right? Here
is your water cut off? That, yeah, she ain't showing here,
(12:44):
going another. You don't smell nothing, all right, and the
latter they say she's not depressed. This your next statement,
how you ain't depressed? Right? Post your comments on today
Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook,
(13:05):
and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now
coming up at forty six minutes after the hour. Our
girl from the Talk to one and Emily Cheryl Underwood
in the building. Right after this, you're listening to the
Stave Harvey Morning Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you
need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.
Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read
this one right here, right now already. How you look
(00:20):
at here a booklet of how loud tie. I'll be
all right, thank you, nephew. Subject my frumpy friend. My
frumpy friend needs a makeover. That was close, all right?
Just Steven Shirley, I'm twenty nine year old woman and
(00:42):
I need your advice on how to help a friend.
She's been in quarantine alone. So all I've been hearing
is how lonely she is. Well, here's why. She looks
a hot mess all of the time, and being inside
for three months has made it worse. I know everybody
has been looking crazy since we are stuck inside, but
(01:03):
since she's put on a few pounds and she looks
like she hasn't combed her hair since March. She has
an old sin that is tattered and she hasn't even
bothered to take it out. I told her that shopping
online was a great way for me to feel normal
while I was in the house. But she said the
current styles don't interest her. Her style is different, and
(01:25):
she wears her crocs with almost everything. It's like she's
turned into one of those women that wear oversized T
shirts and no bra, short shorts, socks and crocs. Shirley,
Let's be clear, Shirley me, Shirley, let's be clear, she
should never leave the house without a bra. Well, she
not talking to me on that section. Why cause I
(01:49):
leave a house all the time without a bra? What
she called me out? Okay, Shirley, let's be clear she
should never leave the house without a bra if if
it's not a good look. All she's been talking about
lately is wanting a man and she's not being able
to meet a good one. She's got a lot of
friends that are male and they have told her to shower, shave,
(02:13):
and comb her hair too. Believe me, she's not depressed,
and she's always down for social gatherings. Now that we're
able to go out and do more, but we don't
enjoy being around her because she looks so unkept and raggedy.
She's getting worse and worse, and some of my friends
are ready to cut her off completely. I don't know
(02:33):
if it is a phase or what. Should I be
honest and tell her about herself? I say, absolutely, yes,
you should be honest and tell her about herself. Of course,
don't do it in a hostile way. But you have
some tough love, I say, you know, kind of you know,
just be kind about it, I say, but heavy on
(02:53):
the love part. You are her friend, right, Well, that's
what a friend would do. I mean, a friend would
honestly her friend to the side and tell her friends.
Don't let friends neglect their hygiene and come out with
body odor and not combing their hair and all of that.
They don't do that. She's in dire need I think
right now of an intervention based on what you've said
(03:14):
in a letter. And also, let me say this, even
if she is hanging out with you guys, that doesn't
mean that she's not depressed, okay, or has some sort
of mental issues. I mean, she's stuck in the house alone,
you know, that could be bothering her, and it's showing
she's not combing her hair, she's not showering. That's not
a sign that you know, everything is okay. She's not
(03:36):
taking care of herself, she's not shaving. She wants a man.
No man is going to put up with that. Your
friends who aren't sleeping with you and dating you don't
want to put up with it. So I definitely think
you know, I'm no doctor or a psychologist or anything,
but I think it's more to this story. I definitely
think some depression or something has taken over. Yeah. Yeah,
(03:59):
she needs little help. She needs some friends right now,
and hopefully she'll be willing to hear what you guys
have to say. She hasn't been so far, but you
know you got to intervene and get in here somewhere,
get through to her some kind of way. Steve, Well,
I don't know how to start this letter. How much
(04:22):
time do I have, dave about? How How long I
got about two minutes? What I got to say can't
be said in two minutes, So I'm not gonna say nothing.
All I'm gonna do is prepare y'all for what I'm
about to say. Okay, all right, surely I love your response.
You try to really help people. Some people can't be helped,
(04:48):
and she therefore, once I determined from my level of schooling,
which is none, and my level of expertise in ignorance,
which is very Oh yeah, yeah, I got that. It
comes to a point when I look at some of
these letters and I determined I'm not gonna be able
(05:10):
to help this person. So I'm gonna allow this person
to help us. Oh, this person is about to give
us five minutes of complete levity because I have no
advice for this woman except these damn jokes. God has
(05:34):
given me a gift that has taken me around the world.
Why would I not use that gift on this letter.
I'm going to think fully of how to dismantle this
letter in a comedic fashion that will have y'all talking
(05:57):
about it at work all day. That's all I say.
That is what you do. I am asking God to
allow the gift that he has given me to shine
through brightly as I talk about a woman who has
let herself gone, gone, cut it off, don't give it
(06:23):
damn but won A man her friends says she look
a hot mess all the time, all the time, and
quarantine has not been kind to her. All right, Steve,
hold it right there. We'll have part two, or actually
the body of your response coming up at twenty three
(06:43):
minutes after the hour. The subject of today's letter is
my frumpy friend needs a makeover. We'll get into it
right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve. Come on,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. My frumpy friend that needs
a makeover is the subject. This woman is twenty nine
(07:08):
and she needs some advice because on how to help
a friend. The woman been in quarantine alone, all by herself,
so she ain't had nobody to say, you know how
you doing today? You know you look pretty? That she
ain't had that. She's been in quarantine by herself. So
(07:31):
and here's why she needs help. The ladies say she
look a hot mess all the time, and being inside
for three moss has made it worse. Let's stop right here.
You have a friend that's a hot mess all the
damn time. You mean before the quarantine, I think during
(07:52):
since No, No, listen to me. Listen to what she says. Okay,
I need your advice. Had she's been in quarantine alans,
so I've been hearing all about how how alone she is.
Here's why she looks a hot mess all the time,
(08:13):
and being inside for three months has made it worse. Ye,
So before quarantine, she was already toe up from the
flow up. Naw, she in quarantine, she'd have lost her
damn mind. I know. Then the lady said, I know
(08:34):
everybody'd been looking crazy since we stuck inside, But she'd
have put on a few pounds. Now, what is a
few pounds, because if you notice as soon as you
see her, twenty five is not a few pounds. Now,
I'm just gonna tell you that right now, she'dn't put
on some weight. And if you already a hot mess,
(08:55):
when you put on weight, it's very noticeable because it's
more stuff to turn into a mess. Yeah, so we
got that problem right there. She didn't put on some pounds.
A lot of people didn't put on pounds during the quarantine.
But you can't put the pounds on and look a
hot mess. Now you got to still beautify the mess. Okay, now,
(09:18):
since we stuck inside. But she has an all soul
end that is tattered and she ain't even bother to
take it out. So what that means is the new
growth has been pushing the headline back. So in the
front it just looked like she's been in the gym
(09:38):
just sweating. It out. She can't slick it back no more,
ain't nonna licking it, ain't gonna laying it down valley,
and don't help freezed up in the front. Then all
of a sudden, it's pony hell. It got a little
front cross the front, look like a look like a
head band. And then after that just shiny straight out
(10:03):
of No damn, this was she got. She ain't combed
her hand since March. Now, I can't say nothing about
that because I ain't either, So let's just gonna pass
that you don't have any I told her to get
great way for me to feel normals when I'm in
the house. But she said that the Karen styles don't
interest her. What Karen style, you know, don't interest a woman?
(10:28):
When the last time shell it call it, you ain't
been interested in the new styles. I can't recall. Why
would you put a new style on a body that's
a hot mess. You're just wasting money. Ain't nobody even
gonna notice the clothes you got on because of your
damn hell. If you got that throw in the front
(10:50):
and then that pony hair in the back, don't nobody
know you got on the latest dose shape? Don't nobody
give a damn. Okay, I guess I'm wig shaming. Now.
I can't say nothing by the week. Damn problem, Now
I got to say I can't say nothing by the hell. Well,
let's keep moving in. So then her style is different
(11:12):
than she wears crocs with almost everything. What did she say?
She wears oversized T shirts, no brawl, short socks and
crocs everywhere. Oh so she just outside looking like a
white man cutting the grass. She got on the old
(11:38):
some short socks and some crocs. You're just an old
white man cutting grass. All right, lady, I got one minute,
so here I go. So here's what you're gonna have
to say to her. These are key lines that you
could say to bring her towards the life. Okay, baby,
(11:58):
you ain't making it. Humh These are just little subtle
lines you can say to a person that's a hot
mess to try to get them to come back. You know, baby, baby,
you ain't making it. Huh yeah, you know you ain't
doing good. Oh okay, here's another one. Okay, well, I see,
I see. Quarantine ain't for everybody so far, that's my favorite.
(12:23):
I love it. You know, how about this one right here? Baby?
What's going on? Is you hoarding exactly because you know
horders all them look crazy. You're gonna good right? Here
is your water cut off? That, yeah, she ain't showing here,
(12:44):
going another. You don't smell nothing, all right, and the
latter they say she's not depressed. This your next statement,
how you ain't depressed? Right? Post your comments on today
Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook,
(13:05):
and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now
coming up at forty six minutes after the hour. Our
girl from the Talk to one and Emily Cheryl Underwood
in the building. Right after this, you're listening to the
Stave Harvey Morning Show
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