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March 14, 2025 13 mins

Strawberry Letter Subject for Friday, March 14th, 2025: “My Husband & Side Dude Are Besties” A woman finds out that the man she’s been with on the side is her husband’s bestie from way back.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. My husband and side
dude are besties right there, all right here. Stephen Shirley.
I've been married for almost five years. I love my husband,
but I don't like him. He showed me the best
of him while we were dating, and when I married him,
he flipped the script and told me about his son

(00:47):
that was born right after we met. I didn't find
out until we were talking about baby names, and he
said I couldn't name my first child after him because
he already has a son named after him. I checked
out mentally after I met the child and talked to
the child's mom, and she told me that they continued
to mess around until he and I got married, I

(01:08):
was mad and ignored him for four months. Then I
met a man at a club and he's a drummer.
He lives in Alabama, but he's in my city often
for gigs. We talked NonStop for about two weeks, and
then he came back to see me. That's when our
affairs started. We are three months into the affair and
I just found out that my husband and my side

(01:29):
dude are best buds. Here's what happened. My husband texted
me two weeks ago and asked me to meet him
at the lounge after work so we could talk and
try to get our marriage back on track. I went,
even though I'm happier with my side dude. I met
my husband at the lounge and I found out that
my side dude's band was playing there. My knees got weak.

(01:52):
My husband motioned for side dude to come over after
their set. He introduced side dude as one of his
best friends from childhood. I shook side dudes hand and
he smirked. I stayed for thirty minutes and then pretended
to have a headache so I could go home. Since
that night, my side dude said he wants to continue

(02:12):
our affair. He said, he figured out a long time
ago who I'm married to. I feel so dirty. We
cannot do my husband like this or can we? Well interesting, Well,
the answer to that is you've already been doing your
husband like this, I mean for three months. The only
difference is that you didn't know who the guy really was.

(02:34):
Your side dude, Everyone in this letter, everyone in this
letter is wrong. I know you were heard about your
husband's affair and the baby and all of that, and
rightfully so he took your options away with you know,
with not telling you. If you knew about the baby beforehand,
you might not have married him. A brand new baby.
That is not something you sweep under the rug or

(02:55):
anything like that. This is something you need to know.
Side dude knew who you were for a long time
and didn't tell you. He definitely is no friend of
your husband. You would think the side dude would want
to stop now that you know he's supposedly a good
friend of your husband, But no, he still wants the affair.

(03:15):
What a dangerous game you guys are playing. I mean,
now your husband wants to work it out, but are
you willing to give up your side dude? Accept the baby,
and forgive your husband for not telling you about his
baby that he got with a woman he was sleeping
with right up until the time you guys got married. Okay,

(03:36):
that's what it's gonna take for you to save this
marriage if you want to save this marriage. But I
don't know if you do, because you don't want to
really give up your side. Dude. I mean, this is
a real life soap opera here with no clear winners.

Speaker 2 (03:48):
Steve Uh.

Speaker 3 (03:52):
This letter is entitled my husband's side, Dude, Besties. The
title of this letter should be I'm trifling? What can
I do about it? I'm trifling? What can I do
about it?

Speaker 1 (04:05):
I like it? Steve Uh.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
You've been married almost five years. I love my husband,
but I don't like him. That's very important, man, you
know Tina Turner said it best.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
WHOA what's love got to do? Got to do with it?

Speaker 3 (04:24):
Because if you don't like the person, love can make
you stay.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
But if you.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Don't like him, it causes you to play. Wow, that's
a fact of marriage or any other relationship. And you
said he showed you the best when y'all was dating,
and then when you.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
Got married, he flipped the script.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
And you didn't know until y'all you got pregnant because
he had a son. Well, he flipped the script because
and told you about his son that was born right
after we met. I didn't find out until we were
talking about baby names, and he said I couldn't name

(05:10):
my first child after him because he already got a
son named after him.

Speaker 2 (05:15):
Well, that didn't stop George for me. So why did
you stop?

Speaker 1 (05:19):
He's got four Georgie, right, it's.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
Five people.

Speaker 3 (05:24):
That that's easy on the woman When she said George,
did everybody come?

Speaker 1 (05:29):
I liked it.

Speaker 3 (05:30):
I checked out mentally after I met the child and
I talked to the child's mom and she told me
that they continued to mess around until I got married.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
I was mad.

Speaker 3 (05:40):
I ignored him for most Then I met a man
at a club and he's a drummer. He lives in Alabama,
but he's in my city often for gigs. We talked
NonStop for about two weeks and he came back to
see me. That's when our affair started. This as a

(06:01):
whole new meaning. To get a drama song. You and
a band, and he holler like that, get a drummer song.
He was not talking to you. Lady that was for
him to play a solo. I am no, he suposted
to play the solo.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
You ain't both not you.

Speaker 3 (06:22):
We three months into the fair and I just find
out that my husband and side dudes are best friends.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
Here's what happened.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
Now when we come back, I'll walk you through it,
and this is what happened, and I'll.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
Tell you this. All right, Steve, We'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject my husband and side
dude our besties. All right, we'll get back into it
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(07:17):
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let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is my husband
and side dude our best ees.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
Well, Lety married a dude.

Speaker 3 (07:35):
She loves him, but she don't like him. She saw
the best of him when they was dating. Then when
they got married, he flipped the script because he found
out that after they got married there was a baby
that was born right after they met. He never told
them about it until they were discussing baby names, and

(07:57):
she suggested his name, and he said, I can't because
I already got a son named after me. She was
confused and hurt y. Then she met the baby and
the mama, and as they talked about it, she found
out that they had continued to see each other right
up until they was married.

Speaker 2 (08:14):
So now she was through with ther husband. Metly, she checked.

Speaker 3 (08:17):
Out, and then she met a man at a club
and he is a drummer. He lives in Alabama, but
he's in the city off the time, playing gigs and
all like that. And they started talking and then after
about three months they start They start non stop for
two weeks and then he came back to see me,

(08:39):
and that's when our affairs started. And that's where the
term get a drama. Some takes on a.

Speaker 1 (08:47):
Whole new meaning.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
Because when the lead was out there saying he said
get a druma some, she thought he was talking to her.

Speaker 2 (08:57):
It was actually for a solo. Now.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
Then you found out, three months into the relationship that
your side dude and your husband is best friends.

Speaker 2 (09:08):
Here's what happened.

Speaker 3 (09:09):
The husband texted her a couple of weeks ago said
to meet him at the line so they could talk
about getting their marriage on track.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
I went, even though I'm happy with my side dude.

Speaker 3 (09:21):
And then when you got there, she found out that
the side dude's band was playing. Now my knees got weak.
My husband motioned to the side dude to come over
after his set. He introduced his side dudes as one
of his best friends from childhood. I shook side dude's
hand and he smirked. I stayed for thirty minutes and
pretended to have a headache so I could go home.

(09:43):
Since that night, my side dude said he wants to
continue our fair He said he figured out a long
time ago who I'm married to. I feel so dirty.
We cannot do my husband like this, or can we? Well,
when did you decide not to do.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
Your husband like that.

Speaker 1 (10:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, Now you say you feel so dirty because he
know the dude, but you wasn't feeling dirty before that.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
Hmm.

Speaker 2 (10:12):
When she says can we do my husband like this?
Or can we that? Or can we means it's going
to continue.

Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yeah right, that's right, Steve.

Speaker 2 (10:24):
Now here, what's gonna happen?

Speaker 3 (10:25):
Eventually, as stupid as me and all, he gonna figure
it out because we're dumb.

Speaker 1 (10:32):
Now, yeah about his wife and his best friend.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
Yeah, we dumb now.

Speaker 3 (10:36):
But when we do find out, it's gonna get physical.

Speaker 2 (10:42):
It's going to get physical.

Speaker 1 (10:44):
Yeah, oh yeah, that's.

Speaker 3 (10:46):
Gonna happen because everybody gonna get a druma song. Then
the next time he motioned for side dude to come
over to the table.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
Mm hmm, he.

Speaker 3 (11:02):
Gonna whoop his ass with that table. Yes, is going
to lead to a problem, ma'am. I pushed them drumsticks,
and then they're gonna have to get some forceps that
they're using to go get them sticks.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
You're doing the most right now.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
But then ain't nobody gonna play with them sticks no
more because they don't know what them sticks was. Now,
I don't care how good, how hard you wish. I
don't care how hard you wash them wooden drumsticks.

Speaker 1 (11:32):
Never beyond that thing.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
So once again we have another letter here of a
person who's writing in something and wanted to be a norm.
Now this ain't as bad as No, it's not some
of the others, because these are all consensual relationships, right,
and nobody knows who the other person is. That's the

(11:57):
main thing of an affair, is to main keep the
information from the other person. But when the other two, well,
two of the people in there, well, see, here's the
problem with this triangle. This triangle has two of the
people are married. Yeah, and two of the people are
best for her sister child. Now there's no way to

(12:18):
keep that away.

Speaker 1 (12:20):
How can you?

Speaker 3 (12:21):
Yeah, and what was you thinking when he called side
piece over there?

Speaker 1 (12:26):
She said her knees got weak. Oh she had to
make a fin a headache. Oh she had to get
out of there, she really did.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yeah, I would. I wouldn't have shipped the side piece's head.
If I was.

Speaker 3 (12:41):
Married and my side piece came over to the table,
I faint right away.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
I get medical attention. I'm in Yeah, I'm in the ambulance.
I'm going to emergency.

Speaker 1 (12:51):
But see what about what about the best friend? When
he finally met the woman in front of her husband,
he smirked. He smirked. You know what was the smirk about?

Speaker 3 (13:02):
Well, you know it was like, hey, nice to meet you,
but she did I've been waxing.

Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah, I'm disrespectful.

Speaker 3 (13:12):
O lord, I've been waxing. Yeah, and you've been buffing.

Speaker 2 (13:18):
So now.

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Yeah, man, I figured out a little while ago over
your husband, but I kept on coming back.

Speaker 1 (13:28):
Yes, he wants to continue the affair. Yeah, yeah, all right.
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