April 2, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 58 year old single woman. I have been divorced for four years and my two children are grown. The man that I have been dating hasn't been honest with me so I need your advice. We met at a blind date and it was one of the worst dates I have ever been on. The guy was not feeling well and he kept going to the bathroom. I told him that I could not see myself going on anymore dates with him and after a few days he started begging me for a second date, I fell for it and went to his house for dinner...........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
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to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Muggle up and hold on time. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you. Nephew's subject pre existing conditions. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a fifty eight year old single woman. I have
been divorced for four years and my two children are grown.
The man that I've been dating hasn't been honest with me,
so I need your advice. We met on a blind
(00:46):
date and it was one of the worst dates I've
ever been on. The guy was not feeling well and
he kept going to the bathroom. I told him that
I could not see myself going on any more dates
with him, and after a few days he started begging
me for a second date. I fell for it and
went to his house for dinner. I noticed that he
had a few prescriptions in the cabinet, so I asked
(01:08):
about the medicine. He said he takes a prescription and
acid and migraine medicine. I felt better knowing that it
was nothing major. I've been getting to know him for
the past three months, and I told him just about
everything about me. Come to find out, he has not
told me any important information about himself. I found out
the hard way after he passed out while we were
(01:32):
on a date and I had to take him to
the er. After two hours in the er, I was
told that based on his history, he had to be
admitted to the hospital. Again. I asked again, and she
said he's been there three times so far this year.
The nurse said that was all she could tell me
since he was still asleep. I tiptoed on out of
(01:54):
there when the nurse left because he is not my man,
and I didn't know he had pre existing conditions. What
if he is seriously ill, should I stop talking to
him before I end up his caretaker or should I
check on him and make sure he's going to be okay. Well,
he definitely needs a caretaker, for sure, because something is
(02:15):
most definitely wrong with him, But his health is not
your responsibility. It is his You just met this man
three years ago. You had no idea, but then he
begged you and gave you a little information, and you
went out with him a second time to his house,
and that's when you found out that whatever he has
is way more serious than what he said. He definitely
(02:35):
left out a lot of information. You're asking the right questions,
like what if he is seriously ill and it sounds
like he is. He should have told you the truth
and what you were up against. And also, please know
that you don't owe this man anything, so you don't
have to start feeling guilty about what he has going on.
But here's the other thing. You can check on him. Yes,
(02:57):
there's nothing wrong with that. Text him. You can call
him if you don't want to date him, that's okay too.
But I mean, you can check on him and see
how he is. It's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Steve, Well, lady, listen to me. This ain't what you want.
I'm just gonna be honest with you. You know you
don't really know this man. You fifty eight, You a
single woman, been divorced four years and you got two children.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
They grown.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
You done got riddle your worst child, which was your
husband and your two birth children are grown. We met
on a blind date. This is it, this right here.
We met on a blind date, and it was one
of the worst dates I've ever been on. Okay, so
why we need this letter is you went on a
(03:50):
blind date. It was one of the worst dates you
ever been on.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Ain't no more. We ain't finna do this no more. Okay.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
What happened? The guy was now feeling well and he
kept going to the bathroom. I told him I couldn't
see myself going on any more dates with him. After
a few days, he started begging me for a second date.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
I fell for it.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Okay, you know, God could have just been sick. Never know,
get a man another chance. You ain't say nothing wrong
with him. So you went to house his house for dinner.
Now you did exactly what I tell women to do.
I tell women when you first go over man's house,
asked to go to the bathroom. First thing you want
to do when you get in that bathroom, look in
(04:32):
that medicine cabinet. The next thing you want to do
is if you walk around the house opening closet doors.
You need to see what's in the damn clauses and
if you can get your get a look.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Under that bed.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
This all this you need to know, skeletons in your cloth.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
That's a Stevie Wonder song.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
You got to open these damn closets and get in
that medicine cabinet and look under that bed. That's where
all that is. You ain't even got to wear it.
Now here you go. I noticed he had a few
prescriptions in the cabinet. Good job. So I asked about
the medicine. He said, he takes prescription an tacit and
(05:21):
migrain medicine. He said, he takes a prescription for antiastic,
anti acid and my grain medicine. I felt better knowing
that it was nothing major. What well you better? You
felt better knowing what it wasn't.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
This major major? This anti prescription anti this ain't roles.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
He ain't taking ms. He got a prescription antacit. Now
he was already after dinner and he kept getting up.
He can't eat nothing. Now he gonna have pounding ass headaches.
Now you over here with this evil ass dude that
can't eat. Now he gonna be hungry because he can't
(06:05):
eat and he can't keep no food down. Now he
got damn headache. You know why he got a headache
because he hungry. Now, last thing you needed, old sick
ass man that can't eat, and now he getting migraine headaches.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Cause he hungry. This is major. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
I've been getting to know him for the past three
months and I told him just about everything about me.
Come to find out he ain't told me any important
information about himself.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Hell no, he can't tell you. Why hang on?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Tell us? Yeah, when we come back, we'll have part
two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject pre existing conditions.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap
today's strawberry letter. The subject is pre existing Can.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Now this woman fifty eight, she's single, she's dating this man.
She ain't saying how old he is. But they went
on a blind dating. She says it's the worst date
she ever been on. Okay, so why we writing this letter?
I don't know, But somehow they went out on a date.
It was the worst date they ever been on. The
guy wasn't feeling well. He kept going to the bathroom.
Then you told him you couldn't see yourself dating him
(07:22):
just because he's sick. But after a few days he
started begging for a second date. I fail for it.
Then you go to this house for dinner. You did
exactly what I tell single women all the time when
you go over these men the house. Betterly if they old,
go in that bathroom and open up that cabinet, get
in them closets, skeleton's in your clothes in gotta find
(07:46):
out what's in them closet and if you can look
under that damn bed. All these are places where the
body is at. You need to know what you're dealing with. Okay,
Now you noticed that he had a You went into
his house for dinner. You notice he has some prescription,
so you asked him about the medicine. He said, a
(08:06):
prescription and tacit and a migraine medicine. You said, I
felt better knowing that it was nothing major.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
That's major.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
You just was on the worst day because he can't stay.
He can't keep it food down. Now, y'all at a restaurant.
In a restaurant, he gotta keep getting up, going to
bathroom cause he can't hold food Now, if a man
can't hold food, what he gonna do. He gonna get hungry.
And what happened When you get hungry, you get a
damn headache. Now guess what he gets. He getting migraines
(08:38):
because he can't keep no damn food, because he throwing
up These.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Ain't roll age toms, maylocks.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
This ain't none of that. His ass got to get
a prescription. Something wrong with him. So now you've been
trying to get to know him the past three months,
and you have told him everything about you. Come to
find out he ain't told you to anything important by hisself.
I found out the hard way after he passed out
while we was on the date, and I had to
take him the yard right there, right there. Now he
(09:08):
was going to the bathroom on the first date. Now
he's old ass had set up there and just fell out.
Now he'd just fell out. Were up in here talking
and I'm looking at his ass over there, look at
all wounds, and everything hit all of a sudden blue
he just hit the damn floor. He fell out, not
just played all on the floor that he gotta forget
(09:29):
his sauce all over his suit.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I got people gathered around, I don't even know this man.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Now, I got to take his old lass to the er,
and after two hours in the er, I was told
based on his history, he had to be into the hospital.
He got to be admitted to the hospital again. I
said again, yeah, uh huh again because she know his ass,
because he'd have been down there before. Because I'm pulling
(09:56):
you that prescription and ASCID ain't working.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
He fell out, his.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Answer set up in here that vomited, throwing up, died
real Now he'd have just fell out. Faddy can't take
no more. He'd have just fell his ass out. Had
eight pounded so bad now he'd have just fainted. Now
you two hours down at the ear. This ain't even
your man. And once again you didn't write how old
he was, But he old because he sent up here.
(10:25):
He didn't want to take the ad asses right now
because they make him go to the bathroom a lot.
So now he gonna try to have an evening without
taking his pills. And get what happened? Ass fell out?
And I asked again, and she said, he's been here
three times so far this year.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It's April first, once.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
A month he you talking about, he'd have been down
here three times. He go down here every month, and
you finished sign up for this. You don't even know him.
He ain't even had one of them crazy ass headache yet.
He justn't hit passing out at restaurant because he ain't
(11:08):
taking that prescription. Fantastic. He didn't see hold his throat
a little bit. You didn't hear that when a man
swallowing you hear this, you hear that.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Some wrong now.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
The nurse said all she could since he was still
sleep I tiptoed out of the tiptoe. I'd have had
them heels making so much noise in that hallway it'll
sounded like a horse was coming to it talking about
you tiptoed out of that. You weren't gonna wake his
(11:44):
ass up here in the hospital. He on all types
of drugs. They didn't put his ass to sleep. I
tiptoed out of that when the nurse left, because he
is not my man, and I didn't know he had
a pre existing condition. I can tell you all about that.
We can get deal with this all the time here.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
What do you mean Steve Junior did? He got free existence.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Nothing to do with Jr.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
And he handled He is good. He got good spirit
and everything he got. He know how to handle it.
You he a man about it and everything. Your man
down there just falling, hippunk. Assure he down there threefold?
Time he try and take any pill, he's falling out
at the table.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
What if he is seriously ill? What do you mean?
What if that the third time he been a hobble?
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (12:34):
If he's seriously ill, it's something wrong with him? Should
I stop talking to him before I end up being
his caretaker? Hey, listen, unless you're trying to open up
a nursing home, I'll get my ass out of there.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Now, if you try and open up a nursing home
and you want him be the first patient, go.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Ahead, all right, post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter
and wait if he hits that and Facebook. You can
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio
app Free Never sounded so good. You can download it today.
Now coming up at forty six minutes to check on him.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
You called down now, but that wouldn't go down there
no more.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
We got sports talk with Junior coming up right after this.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
You got a room number.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
You're listening to the Dave Harvey Morning Show,
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Muggle up and hold on time. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you. Nephew's subject pre existing conditions. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a fifty eight year old single woman. I have
been divorced for four years and my two children are grown.
The man that I've been dating hasn't been honest with me,
so I need your advice. We met on a blind
(00:46):
date and it was one of the worst dates I've
ever been on. The guy was not feeling well and
he kept going to the bathroom. I told him that
I could not see myself going on any more dates
with him, and after a few days he started begging
me for a second date. I fell for it and
went to his house for dinner. I noticed that he
had a few prescriptions in the cabinet, so I asked
(01:08):
about the medicine. He said he takes a prescription and
acid and migraine medicine. I felt better knowing that it
was nothing major. I've been getting to know him for
the past three months, and I told him just about
everything about me. Come to find out, he has not
told me any important information about himself. I found out
the hard way after he passed out while we were
(01:32):
on a date and I had to take him to
the er. After two hours in the er, I was
told that based on his history, he had to be
admitted to the hospital. Again. I asked again, and she
said he's been there three times so far this year.
The nurse said that was all she could tell me
since he was still asleep. I tiptoed on out of
(01:54):
there when the nurse left because he is not my man,
and I didn't know he had pre existing conditions. What
if he is seriously ill, should I stop talking to
him before I end up his caretaker or should I
check on him and make sure he's going to be okay. Well,
he definitely needs a caretaker, for sure, because something is
(02:15):
most definitely wrong with him, But his health is not
your responsibility. It is his You just met this man
three years ago. You had no idea, but then he
begged you and gave you a little information, and you
went out with him a second time to his house,
and that's when you found out that whatever he has
is way more serious than what he said. He definitely
(02:35):
left out a lot of information. You're asking the right questions,
like what if he is seriously ill and it sounds
like he is. He should have told you the truth
and what you were up against. And also, please know
that you don't owe this man anything, so you don't
have to start feeling guilty about what he has going on.
But here's the other thing. You can check on him. Yes,
(02:57):
there's nothing wrong with that. Text him. You can call
him if you don't want to date him, that's okay too.
But I mean, you can check on him and see
how he is. It's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Steve, Well, lady, listen to me. This ain't what you want.
I'm just gonna be honest with you. You know you
don't really know this man. You fifty eight, You a
single woman, been divorced four years and you got two children.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
They grown.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
You done got riddle your worst child, which was your
husband and your two birth children are grown. We met
on a blind date. This is it, this right here.
We met on a blind date, and it was one
of the worst dates I've ever been on. Okay, so
why we need this letter is you went on a
(03:50):
blind date. It was one of the worst dates you
ever been on.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Ain't no more. We ain't finna do this no more. Okay.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
What happened? The guy was now feeling well and he
kept going to the bathroom. I told him I couldn't
see myself going on any more dates with him. After
a few days, he started begging me for a second date.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
I fell for it.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Okay, you know, God could have just been sick. Never know,
get a man another chance. You ain't say nothing wrong
with him. So you went to house his house for dinner.
Now you did exactly what I tell women to do.
I tell women when you first go over man's house,
asked to go to the bathroom. First thing you want
to do when you get in that bathroom, look in
(04:32):
that medicine cabinet. The next thing you want to do
is if you walk around the house opening closet doors.
You need to see what's in the damn clauses and
if you can get your get a look.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Under that bed.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
This all this you need to know, skeletons in your cloth.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
That's a Stevie Wonder song.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
You got to open these damn closets and get in
that medicine cabinet and look under that bed. That's where
all that is. You ain't even got to wear it.
Now here you go. I noticed he had a few
prescriptions in the cabinet. Good job. So I asked about
the medicine. He said, he takes prescription an tacit and
(05:21):
migrain medicine. He said, he takes a prescription for antiastic,
anti acid and my grain medicine. I felt better knowing
that it was nothing major. What well you better? You
felt better knowing what it wasn't.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
This major major? This anti prescription anti this ain't roles.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
He ain't taking ms. He got a prescription antacit. Now
he was already after dinner and he kept getting up.
He can't eat nothing. Now he gonna have pounding ass headaches.
Now you over here with this evil ass dude that
can't eat. Now he gonna be hungry because he can't
(06:05):
eat and he can't keep no food down. Now he
got damn headache. You know why he got a headache
because he hungry. Now, last thing you needed, old sick
ass man that can't eat, and now he getting migraine headaches.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Cause he hungry. This is major. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
I've been getting to know him for the past three
months and I told him just about everything about me.
Come to find out he ain't told me any important
information about himself.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Hell no, he can't tell you. Why hang on?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Tell us? Yeah, when we come back, we'll have part
two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject pre existing conditions.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap
today's strawberry letter. The subject is pre existing Can.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Now this woman fifty eight, she's single, she's dating this man.
She ain't saying how old he is. But they went
on a blind dating. She says it's the worst date
she ever been on. Okay, so why we writing this letter?
I don't know, But somehow they went out on a date.
It was the worst date they ever been on. The
guy wasn't feeling well. He kept going to the bathroom.
Then you told him you couldn't see yourself dating him
(07:22):
just because he's sick. But after a few days he
started begging for a second date. I fail for it.
Then you go to this house for dinner. You did
exactly what I tell single women all the time when
you go over these men the house. Betterly if they old,
go in that bathroom and open up that cabinet, get
in them closets, skeleton's in your clothes in gotta find
(07:46):
out what's in them closet and if you can look
under that damn bed. All these are places where the
body is at. You need to know what you're dealing with. Okay,
Now you noticed that he had a You went into
his house for dinner. You notice he has some prescription,
so you asked him about the medicine. He said, a
(08:06):
prescription and tacit and a migraine medicine. You said, I
felt better knowing that it was nothing major.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
That's major.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
You just was on the worst day because he can't stay.
He can't keep it food down. Now, y'all at a restaurant.
In a restaurant, he gotta keep getting up, going to
bathroom cause he can't hold food Now, if a man
can't hold food, what he gonna do. He gonna get hungry.
And what happened When you get hungry, you get a
damn headache. Now guess what he gets. He getting migraines
(08:38):
because he can't keep no damn food, because he throwing
up These.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Ain't roll age toms, maylocks.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
This ain't none of that. His ass got to get
a prescription. Something wrong with him. So now you've been
trying to get to know him the past three months,
and you have told him everything about you. Come to
find out he ain't told you to anything important by hisself.
I found out the hard way after he passed out
while we was on the date, and I had to
take him the yard right there, right there. Now he
(09:08):
was going to the bathroom on the first date. Now
he's old ass had set up there and just fell out.
Now he'd just fell out. Were up in here talking
and I'm looking at his ass over there, look at
all wounds, and everything hit all of a sudden blue
he just hit the damn floor. He fell out, not
just played all on the floor that he gotta forget
(09:29):
his sauce all over his suit.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I got people gathered around, I don't even know this man.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Now, I got to take his old lass to the er,
and after two hours in the er, I was told
based on his history, he had to be into the hospital.
He got to be admitted to the hospital again. I
said again, yeah, uh huh again because she know his ass,
because he'd have been down there before. Because I'm pulling
(09:56):
you that prescription and ASCID ain't working.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
He fell out, his.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Answer set up in here that vomited, throwing up, died
real Now he'd have just fell out. Faddy can't take
no more. He'd have just fell his ass out. Had
eight pounded so bad now he'd have just fainted. Now
you two hours down at the ear. This ain't even
your man. And once again you didn't write how old
he was, But he old because he sent up here.
(10:25):
He didn't want to take the ad asses right now
because they make him go to the bathroom a lot.
So now he gonna try to have an evening without
taking his pills. And get what happened? Ass fell out?
And I asked again, and she said, he's been here
three times so far this year.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It's April first, once.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
A month he you talking about, he'd have been down
here three times. He go down here every month, and
you finished sign up for this. You don't even know him.
He ain't even had one of them crazy ass headache yet.
He justn't hit passing out at restaurant because he ain't
(11:08):
taking that prescription. Fantastic. He didn't see hold his throat
a little bit. You didn't hear that when a man
swallowing you hear this, you hear that.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Some wrong now.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
The nurse said all she could since he was still
sleep I tiptoed out of the tiptoe. I'd have had
them heels making so much noise in that hallway it'll
sounded like a horse was coming to it talking about
you tiptoed out of that. You weren't gonna wake his
(11:44):
ass up here in the hospital. He on all types
of drugs. They didn't put his ass to sleep. I
tiptoed out of that when the nurse left, because he
is not my man, and I didn't know he had
a pre existing condition. I can tell you all about that.
We can get deal with this all the time here.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
What do you mean Steve Junior did? He got free existence.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Nothing to do with Jr.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
And he handled He is good. He got good spirit
and everything he got. He know how to handle it.
You he a man about it and everything. Your man
down there just falling, hippunk. Assure he down there threefold?
Time he try and take any pill, he's falling out
at the table.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
What if he is seriously ill? What do you mean?
What if that the third time he been a hobble?
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (12:34):
If he's seriously ill, it's something wrong with him? Should
I stop talking to him before I end up being
his caretaker? Hey, listen, unless you're trying to open up
a nursing home, I'll get my ass out of there.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Now, if you try and open up a nursing home
and you want him be the first patient, go.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Ahead, all right, post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter
and wait if he hits that and Facebook. You can
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio
app Free Never sounded so good. You can download it today.
Now coming up at forty six minutes to check on him.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
You called down now, but that wouldn't go down there
no more.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
We got sports talk with Junior coming up right after this.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
You got a room number.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
You're listening to the Dave Harvey Morning Show,
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In The Village will take you into the most exclusive areas of the 2024 Paris Olympic Games to explore the daily life of athletes, complete with all the funny, mundane and unexpected things you learn off the field of play. Join Elizabeth Beisel as she sits down with Olympians each day in Paris.
3. iHeartOlympics: The Latest
Listen to the latest news from the 2024 Olympics.