The Cheater Accused Me Of Cheating

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is strong, very letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject the cheater
accused me of cheating Here Stephen Shirley. My husband and
I have been married for nineteen years and he has

(00:22):
cheated on me multiple times. Three years ago, he had
a very messy affair and I told him I was
done and I was filing for a divorce. He threw
a big party and surprised me with the public apology,
and he asked for my forgiveness. I decided that I'd
give him one more chance. I had become really close

(00:42):
friends with a male co worker that I confided in.
We were just friends, but I cut him off after
I decided to give my marriage another chance. My husband
knew about my coworker and never suspected that we were
more than friends. Our marriage changed for the better and
we were back to having great sex and he was
spending lots more time with me. Then I started having

(01:05):
problems with my lady parts. I went to the doctor
and found out I had a rash that looked like
an STI, a sexually transmitted infection, but the tests were inconclusive.
Because of his past unfaithfulness, I went home and accused
my husband of having an affair and giving me an infection.

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My husband didn't flinch. All he said was that he
would get tested in the morning. I told him he'd
better not try to get in our bed that night.
The next day, he came home from work and he
threw his negative test results at me. Then he lectured
me on how he changed, but I did not believe

(01:47):
in him. He accused me of messing around with my
mail co worker and getting whatever I had from him.
My doctor ended up calling me to explain that I
could be allergic to my soap or have hormonal imbalance,
but it was not an STI. My husband isn't buying

(02:07):
it and thinks the doctor is part of my life.
He thinks I'm a cheater. Now, how do I prove
to my husband that it's just a misunderstanding. I don't
know if you're going to be able to prove any
of this to your husband. Your husband does suspect something
between you and your co worker. He just didn't say
anything because he was cheating himself. So I just say, please,

(02:29):
don't get caught up in your husband's crazy mess. He's
accusing you because he was guilty. He knows how this goes.
Now you try to get slick with it. You really did.
You didn't come right out and tell Steve and I
that you and your co worker, your so called co worker,
this close co worker, had slept together. You didn't tell
us that. You said you were just friends at first,

(02:49):
then you said you were more than friends, but you
cut him off. If you guys weren't doing anything, what
would be the need to cut him off. You cut
him off from the affair that you didn't tell us about.
You stopped so that you could focus on your marriage.
Now that's a good thing, okay, But there's a lot
of stuff going on in this letter that's unsaid. But

(03:10):
we know what's going on. Your marriage got back on track.
You did start having personal health issues and it was
thought to be an STI at first, sexually transmitted infection.
What a break for your husband to think it was
you initially, But when your test came back, you had
no STI. So what is your husband talking about now

(03:32):
your doctor can't be part of a lie. That's completely unethical.
I think your husband is just trying to get some
of the pressure off him because he's cheated in the
past and he had such a bad reputation. You know,
if you didn't have an STI you have proof, and
you know if you wouldn't keep taking him back after
he cheats, then you know he would stop doing it,

(03:54):
or you know, you guys would break up or whatever.
But yeah, I think he's trying to get some of
the pressure off him by using you. Steve. Obviously, you
don't know how to do this, and this matter because
y'all keep on going about these men the wrong way.
You've been married nineteen years, a man that's had several
affairs on you. The last fair was really messy. You

(04:15):
file for divorce. He threw your big surprise party with
a public apology, ask for your forget You decided I'd
give him one more chance. Then you said you'd become
really close with the male coworker that I confided in.
We were just friends, but I cut him off after
I decided to give my marriage another chance. When you

(04:38):
said that line right there, I knew right away. How
close you and this male co worker had got? What
all this confide? Because I decided to cut him off.
Oh you stopped talking to him, you stopped confiding in him.
That's what you've cut on. My husband knew about my

(05:00):
coworker and never suspected that we were more than friends.
Of course he didn't. Women are better cheaters. The cheater
accused me of cheating. He was right, he was spot
on the right. Very rarely did we get to bush y'all,
but when we do, we'll be right. A man changed

(05:22):
for the better. We're back to having great sex than
the time with me. I started having problems with my
lady parts. I went to the doctor and found out
I had a rash that looked like an STI. I
do not know what STI is, surely said, a sexually
transmitted affection. I've only known them STDs, which back in

(05:44):
my day was called VD. We didn't have no other
name for him. But now will where Listen knew this
sexually transmitted infection sexually transmitted to z He's commonly known
that VD. Anyway, you went to the Clintic for VD.

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You sat there in that room, nervous and sweating, with
everybody else, everybody in their hair something all right, hang
on trying to get past this, but listen, no confidentiality
down After Clintics response coming up on the computer, you
had to feel out this dates car. You had to

(06:30):
write what you had only after the hour Today's charter
Let Joe symptoms out the cheater accused me of cheating.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening show,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is the cheater accused me of cheating. All

(06:51):
this lady's been married nineteen years, husband had several affairs
on the last one is pretty messy, she says. She's
followings of the divorce. He's surprised and through a big party,
I'm sorry party and publicly apologized. She decided to give
him another chance. I decided to give him one more chance.

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She had become close with this male coworker that she
could fide it in and after that she can find in.
She says they were just friends, but after they decided
to give their marriage another chance, she cut him off.
You wouldn't have to cut him off if y'all was
just friends. So you was doing him. My husband knew

(07:37):
about my coworker, but never suspected that we were more
than friends, which is another admission that you were doing him.
I married Shane for the better. We were back to
having great sacks spending time with me. And then the
ladies said, I started having problems with my lady parts.
That's very personal. So we don't get into that on
this show, because that could be any range of things.

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And I know you're not supposed to ask no woman
what they went to the hospital for, but they always
asked you what you go for me, But you're not
supposed to ask a woman because they would say it
was some female problems and end. Your ass is supposed
to shut up immediately. Don't keep digging deep into this
YU in there because you're not fitting to understand this

(08:19):
right here. And so as she started having trouble with
her lady parts, which will leave alone. I went to
the doctor and found out that I had a rash
that looked like an ST and the tests were inclusive.
Now I didn't know what the STI was until I
heard Sherley's response, which is sexually transmitted infection. I only

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knew STD, which was a sexually transmitted disease. And prior
to this radio show, it was called VD. That's just
that's what you got this VD. Shut up up, and
I'm gonna just tell you right now. It was very different.
That's why they had they called it STD when they
came out with computers. Before computers, it were just VD.

(09:05):
You went down to the clinic and you feeling out
the form and nothing was on computer. And the lady
if you didn't feel out the form right, she would
holler at you out there in the waiting room to
get clarity on the blocks that you checked or did
not check. Mister Harvey, is there burden? No, man, Okay,

(09:28):
you didn't check that block. That's because I'm not Who
is Linny Cage? That's me too, man. Stop. I'm in
here with a couple of concerns. Two names. I'm using
two names. I'm just trying to get seen you right now.

(09:49):
Told me and because I had a rash now because
of his past and all these a fans, I thought
he gave me infection. Oh my husband, you don't had
these fans. You don't game meal In factually, he didn't flinch.
All he said was he get tested in the morning,
I told him better, now I try to get in
how bad that night? The next day he came home

(10:10):
work and through his negative tests at me here and
now there you go. I ain't got nothing. Then he
lectured me on how he's changed, but I didn't believe him.
He I am changing a better man. We have a
great sex. Now, I spend time with you, and then
you're gonna get yourself a little STI. And then you're
gonna mess around and say it's me when it ain't me.

(10:32):
And now you know what I think it is. I
think it's you in that little port gass dude down,
your little coworker you've been talking to. Maybe you've been
having sex with him, and you got it from him,
and now you're trying to blame me. He was righting
dog gone, it's letter. Listen to me. Your husband was

(10:55):
right to accuse you because if he knew he didn't
have nothing and you got an STI, then it must
be wait a minute, from the little punk ass dude
at work. But then he so he was right jamming
you up like that. Then your doctor ended up calling
you to explain that that could be allergic to my

(11:18):
soap or have a hormonal and balance. See women have
too many olms. It's your balance. See a man coming
to the house with an STI it ain't nothing else.
You did something with your little nasty behind. But now
a woman couldn't come in here talking about her damn soap,
her damn hormones and all this hill fellas almost start

(11:42):
a new thing. Well, isn't that good news? But what's
your problems? It's great news. It's great news, but your
husband ain't buying it. And he thinks the doctors a
part of my life. Oh my god, he thinks I'm
a cheater. Now the question is how do I to
my husband. That's just misunderstanding. Lady, you trip it. Reverse this.

(12:06):
This is what ladies. Just the lesson I'm gonna teach.
Lady reverse it. Oh look at the podcalling the cattle black.
Then I want you to start crying. All I've done
for you. I'm taking you back time and time and
game again. Bring up the path that ever, Shamica, what

(12:29):
I find out about me when you was basking with Tamelina.
I told you, Tamline, you come on, Tammelina bringing a franchise,
getting a franchise, Gonna see you know what. I can
go down all of the list of women he's been
with every time he bring it up, reverse it on him.

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