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Speaker 3 (00:28):
Thank you and nephew. Subject, why did he really leave me? Here?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Stephen Shirley, I've been married seven years and we have
two children. I was basically taking care of the children
because my husband worked long hours and he liked to
hang out and drink after work. I was in school too,
but I was determined to take care of my family.
I overlooked a lot because I believe in my husband,
and I had hopes that he would get himself together
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one day. I was completely blindsided when he moved out,
and I want to know why he really left me.
When I started working from home, that's when he started
staying out late. He also stayed out all night a
couple of times. One time he went to get his
hair braided, and he said he fell asleep in his
car outside his hair braider's house because he was drunk.
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The other time was because he was out late with
friends at the club, so he slept outside his dad's
house in his car because he couldn't make it home.
I got on his case really bad, and he left
the house and went to stay with his daddy.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
I called his daddy.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
To see if he would talk to my husband about drinking,
and he said that my husband has not had a
drink since he'd been there. I talked to my husband's
best friend and he said, my husband might have one
or two drinks when they're at a club. It seems
like he used alcohol as an excuse to stay out.
He found out that I called his dad and his
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best friend, and he said he would be staying somewhere
else and I will never find him. After two weeks,
the street started talking and I heard that he was
staying with a woman that he works with. I confronted
him and he said that he is a sleeping with
her at all. If that's true, then why did he
leave me to go stay at her house? This is
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the cold heart truth right here. He does not want
to be there, he does not want to be in
that house with you, and he doesn't want to be
married to you.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
I mean, this is pretty obvious. He just walked out.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
I'm really sorry, I really am from my heart that
this has happened to you, but you got to face it.
At this point, it is over. He has abandoned you
and your children. He's been lying to you this entire
time about his drinking and all of that, and staying
outside in his car. There's just no other way to
put it. He's been lying. Plus he told you you
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would never find him. You need to file for child
support and try to pick up the pieces and move on.
Any man that can walk away from his kids and
his wife with no remorse not a man at all.
Don't believe what he tells you. After all his life,
how could you believe him anyway. Now is the time
to collect yourself. You got to be strong for those kids.
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So let him go and move on. He left his
family and has not looked back. He did that. Forget
about closure, forget.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
All of that.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Just deal with what is. He's gone. He left you
and the kids. There's no reason for that, nephew.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
He does not like you at all. He's closed. He
does not like you. It is something about you that
you don't know what he don't like. You ain't figured
out what it is about yourself that he don't like.
There's something about you that he just don't like. I
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don't know if it's your If it's thanks could be terrible.
But that might be the case. Wait, it might be
the case. You might just be getting on his dog
on nerves. I don't know what it is. But there's
something about you he don't like. Let's go down line.
When you start working from home, he was out. He
wanted to get away from you. That's that's the first thing.
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What's the second one? He lined by drinking. He lined
by drinking to stay out. Okay, I slept in my
daddy driveway. I slept out side over here. Whatever he
can say to not come home to you, he's willing
to say it. He does not like you. Now you
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find out, And this is what people always kill me
with the streets. That's talking? Who is the streets? Where
did you getting this information from? Who told you this?
You're putting your into the street. Now, how you find
out now he's staying at some woman house. And what
he say to you, we ain't doing that, We ain't
doing that. He's trying to make you feel a little better.
He's trying. Now, you don't want to hurt your feeling
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too bad. But guess what he's done with you For
some reason, he does not want to have anything to
do with you. And it amazes me and I and
I even see this on on on my TV show
some of these A lot of ladies gotta know why
they want that type of clothes. They they can't go
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on until they find till they know what what what
went wrong here? And I understand you want to know
when we're wrong because you want to you want to
make sure maybe it doesn't happen again. But yeah, you
want to try and fix it. Sometimes it's not fixable.
Sometimes it's not even you. Sometimes it's just, hey, he
just don't want this relationship no more. So I'm not
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you know, I don't like it when men do this,
especially when children are involved. That's just that's when it's
just really really bad because now you got you got
kids that are taking the hit from this, and now
their dad is not in the house and we've seen
too much of that in our in the African American community.
We hate that part. But I just I'm just telling
you straight up, there's something about you this man don't
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like and he's done. He's just done. And sometimes when
men are done, you're trying to figure out why is
he done? And you might not ever get that. You
may not ever find out why, and then you're gonna
go to the next relationship and the problem is going
to be now you're gonna take that baggage over there,
and you think that the next man gonna do the
same thing, and that's where the problem comes. Boy that
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boy ready to love today? Hain't that boy that boy
talking to But.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
We're not And we're not trying to say that it's
her fault that she's trying to herself.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
People are just.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Done and it's not your fault. I get that part.
The problem is you're trying to figure it all out
when there's nothing to figure out.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah, all right, we have another we have part two
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. We're
gonna hear from Junior today's Strawberry letter subject why did
he really leave me? We'll get back into it right after.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
This Ready to Love Philadelphia coming in January. Boughy that we're.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Good, you're listening Harvey Morning Show. All right, we're gonna
recap today's Strubberry letter. Subject that it is, why did
he really leave me?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
All right?
Speaker 1 (07:01):
This young lady wrote in she's been married for seven years.
They have two children. She's been basically taking care of
the children. Her husband worked long hours. He liked to
hang out and drink after work. She was in school,
but her family was her priority. As she said, she
overlooked a lot in her husband. She thought that he
would get it together one day. Well, she started working
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from home. Evidently he didn't like that, and he just
decided one day that he would move out. And her
issue is she wants to know why he really left her.
That's when things started getting bad. He started staying out late.
He stayed out all night. He said he was outside
of the hair braider's house and he got drunk and
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fell asleep. Then he went over to his daddy's house
in state. His daddy said that he didn't really drink
like that. His friend said it too, So she still
wants to know why did he really leave her? Now
he's living with a woman that he works with, he claimed,
and he told his wife that she will never find him.
So he left her, and he left the kids, and
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he's done. She wants closure, and she says, I if
it's really true that he's staying with this woman, why
did he leave her? Why did he leave her? That's
what she wants to know, Tommy, and I said, Uh,
you know, he's just done. He's really done with this,
with this marriage. And I need her to know. We
need her to know that it's over so she can
go on with her life and take care of those kids.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Junior, you say.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
What I'm telling you right now, I'm gonna leave her too.
I'm tired of her too.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
What all this.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Complaining you're doing? I know this way he leaves, he
got to be leave. He's tired of your mouth. Well,
he just said he gonna fake, drink it and fall
asleep anywhere. He'll sleep anywhere. He don't care.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
I have braid his house, his daddy, He find a
driveway and his keys.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
He gone every time he see you. It's just where
the hell is my car keep? I'm going today, I'm leaving.
He don't have time for you. This man wants to leave.
He don't care where he stay at. It just can't
be with you.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
We don't know why he left you.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
But I think complaining got a lot to do with it.
I ain't never seen no man want to run for
a woman this much.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
He is on a run.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I'm talking about. He keep a full take a gass
and he got to go. He got to go.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
He keep a full take a game. Every time he's
seeing you, he is out.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
He don't even stay long. He just said, forget it,
I ain't coming back. He stay out all night everywhere.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
And she said, Junior, she said that it seems like
he used alcohol as an excuse to stay out, right.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
He drink like that? Yeah, he heard drink like that.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
You know what? You know what.
Speaker 4 (09:35):
I never knew why they had all them parking lasts
at the back of Walmart, but I know why they
got them parking spots at the back of Walmart now, the.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
One way back there. But that's what he at. He'll
just go park.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
I just got to go, Paul somewhere.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
I'm very, very disappointed in this man, because not only.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Did you leave your wife, you left your kids.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
And yeah you told you, Yeah, you told you she will,
she will never find you. And what about these kids?
What about these kids? You know that's terrible. You're not
a man.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
You know. What he is is a He can he's
a driver. He can get in his car and drive
going somewhere. I'll scare with you. He't got to be
a man. He damn sure can drive. He swept everywhere.
Who was that June sleeping? The power driving?
Speaker 2 (10:17):
That is him.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
He can't up your whole life. He don't care. I
just up and some place. He just seems somewhere with
some lights on.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
And just park.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
He just parking in the car wash. The car wash close.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
He's just sitting in the middle of the car wash,
just in there. Ain't even running it, just in there.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Just somewhere.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
He doesn't want to go home.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
He ain't going home.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
He don't one that he would You put up to
the car dealership, and late at night he was still
locked in the parking lot.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
He can't wait. He can't get out till morning.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
Doug's barking, playing that though, he playing, Yeah, he better
notw to get a parking ticket a parking garage.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
He parking in there.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
He going a parking garage, turning him man, the boy
just sitting outside of Dennis.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Who is that? He don't want to go?
Speaker 1 (11:13):
How can he even stand in his dan's house? He
went over there, she called, She called over there, friend.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
I think she's sleeping with the hair braider, That's what
I think.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because he made up that he fell
asleep because he was drunk, and so he just sat
outside of her house. Boy, yeah, yeah, you're with children,
you know, that's what they say the street, in the streets.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
But I tell you one thing.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
If he's see the emerging room and it's red, he
turned it in there. He's parking.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
He going to that merchant room, He's gonna park right
out there.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
He's not even sick.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
He wanted her anything. Who was that of that Chick
fil A line on Sunday? Knowing that's him Clark? Wait wait,
they be open on Monday. But I'm sitting here all day.
I don't be customer number one. My ticket number gonna
say one. I don't want to watch the football games
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on my phone. I got YouTube.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
He's not doing he's not doing. I don't care what
you're not doing it.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
He just put up a little league football games at park.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
You don't care this kid, don't even play play.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I'm just going to police or him.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
He's not he got doing it.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
She needs to rid herself of him because he's bad news.
And anytime you can do this, leave your children. Yeah,
you know, coming yourself girl.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Yeah. Park outside the high school. Who is that.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Sitting there doing Thanksgiving break?
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Yeah? Thanksgiving?
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