July 10, 2024 • 31 mins
Why we’re feeling good at 5am! Producer Taylor Shay is stressing about hosting a friend for 5 days. Should she say something about the long stay now that the trip is already booked? Toby is noticing how this heat wave is affecting his food choices. High performance bosses… would you work for any of these people? Plus, we get the answer to our Nearly Impossible Question.
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Toby and Chili Mornings on demand onninety seven point one, Wash them who
feeling good today? On this Wednesday, halfway through another week before five,
as we wake up and shake offthe sleep from last night, ninety seven
point one WATCHFM or Toby and Chillyin the morning. Chili, you're feeling
good this morning? Ah? Yeah, I got a second fan in our
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bedroom. It's the little thing steeringheat waves. Well, our AC is
working. We have a ceiling fan, but it's I'm a hot person,
like I just run hot and itwasn't enough. So we were able to
dig out. Yeah, a backupfan and it's all pointed at me.
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My husband over there is cold,but I'm fine, So I'm very glad
that I finally found the right temperature. It's like goldilocks. Do you leave
the door open when you go tobed? And here's why I say that
is because it makes the air conditionerwork better. They say, leaving it
open? Yeah, Fortunately we donot. Oh, I need to have
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it closed because remember my son andmy husband go to bed after me,
and I need to shut the worldus to be the same way. And
now that we've been getting into theseheat waves and stuff, I've been leaving
the door open, and it's it'sa thing. It's a thing. But
I just want the ace because,like you, I feel that heat thing.
I want the AC to do itsjob and the sheets and blankets to
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do its job. And sometimes it'snot enough, and I want the room
to be arctic frost. So ifI have five fans, a ceiling fan,
and an ac going, I'm goodto go. Yeah, and you
know what, that's one of thereasons I'm feeling some joy today too,
is I think that's one of thereasons why my daughter wants to come home
from Florida and Mom's house. Ohyeah, she's coming today. Yeah.
Well, one of the reasons shetold me is kind of actually inadvertently related
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to that. She says, Momkeeps the house hot, and it's just
hot and I can't sleep. AndI'm like, well, this is coming
from the kiddo tells me sometimes Ikeep it too cold. I'd rather it'd
be colder than not. That's true. I'm like, all right, well,
how long has it been since you'veseen your daughter. I want to
think it's been about a month orso, you know, And I want
her to spend time with her mom. I love her mom. I think
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she's great. I hope she's havinga fun time with her mom's family and
stuff. But you know, it'squiet around the place. And I like
my little buddy, and she's notso little anymore at twenty. But you
know, you'll have these things.It's a girl dad thing, I guess
anyway. So that's why I'm feelinggood. Between the AC's and kids who
like it cold like you do.Today is going to be a good day.
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It's ninety seven point one wash CHEFM. Let's get into it. Or
Toby and Chilly in the Morning comingup next, our producer Taylor is stressing
out about hosting a friend of hers. Uh oh, a conundrum of foots
uh oh, stay there for morepeople. I understand, Producer Taylor.
She has a conundrum, and I'mnot talking about the wine this morning.
Toby and Chilly in the Morning.Hey, five AM club, the numbers
eight sixty six wash FM one talkbackmicrophones open to because you might need to
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jump in and offer some opinions onthis. By the way, did I
say Toby and Chilly in the Morningat ninety seven point one wash FM?
All right? Then here Taylor shakTaylor, what is what is a miss?
Well, my inability to say no, it's kind of gotten me in
trouble. I have a childhood friend. She lives in Minnesota, and we
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only see each other like every fiveish years. And my big milestone fortieth
birthdays coming up next month, andshe said I want to come visit you,
and I was like, yay,that's the best gift ever. But
she wants to come for five days. Five whole days. That's a bit
much for me. Come up inthe conversation, depending on where you are.
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Yeah, well kind of. Ididn't want to hurt her feelings,
so I said, well, Idon't actually have any PTO because I just
started this new job, which isonly half true. Okay, here we
go. Do have some PTO upfrontwith this job, but I've kind of
allocated it for the holidays, soI wouldn't go unpaid. I just have
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to adjust things. But she didn'ttake the hint. She booked the ticket
anyway, And now part of mewants to go back and say, listen,
I love you, but five daysis too much. But can I
I don't know. Oh, Ithink you got to eat it. I
mean, if she booked a ticket. Look, I know it's a lot.
You got two little kids, right, and I know that with work
and kids, it may just fivedays is a long time, No,
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Lie, I've never hosted anybody forfive days. But once I've not spoken
up, sooner, you're gonna haveto just figure it out. I don't
know that I would be comfortable.What about you told me you as soon
as you said you told her ahalf truth, that like lit me up
like a Christmas tree. I'm like, now you're screwed. So you know,
the only thing you can really donow is come clean. Like you've
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got to go to your friend andyou got to say, hey, listen,
I should have been straight up withyou. I do have time off,
but it's just a lot to haveanybody come over for five days.
It doesn't mean I don't love you. I'm sorry I didn't say this up
front. I should have put thaton me. I hope this doesn't affect
it. You're gonna have to doa Mia Kolpa now and like I was
not honest. Yeah, that stinksbecause the fact that you weren't honest caused
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her to do what she did.Booking airfare, making decisions assuming, and
that's where everything becomes a problem.Well, now you've got our thoughts on
this, you're gonna have to figurethis out as ap. What do you
think you're gonna do? I thinkI might eat it. I don't know.
I know I love her, andI don't can't tell her I lied
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to her, because if I toldher I lied about this thing, then
I'm gonna lie about other things.Yeah, you better, I'm excited to
see her. I'll probably eat it, but I don't know. I think
that if this person has been afriend as long as you've said, as
much as I agree with Chilly,you're gonna have to eat it. But
I also would take it one stepfurther. You're gonna have to make it
right because here's what would really stinkis if she found out after the fact
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you were not honest, and thatwill create three days, five days,
seven days a year of HG doublehockey style? Am I right? Though,
Chilly? I don't know. Maybesomeone else has been in the same
position that they can provide more insight. All right, People eight six six
wash FM the number one, feelfree to call if you want to to
jump into this conversation with any thoughtsor advice. You might have talkback microphones
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wide open too. This early morning, tap it send us a note?
What would you do? Have youbeen there before? Did your lie,
little white lie cost you? Didyou have to eat it? How did
that work out? We look forwardto hearing from you, and good luck
to Taylor Say as she tries towork through this. Toby and Tilly in
the morning on ninety seven point oneWASHFM. Hey, just a reminder if
you have thoughts on producer Taylor Say'ssituation, Yeah, feel free to jump
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in talkback microphone wide open if youare signed in listening to ninety seven point
one WASHFM on your iHeart app.Let's pause now and check your headspace.
It's time for your morning mindset forthis Wednesday. What's the quote you've got
for us? From Ralph Waldo Emerson, use your words this early morning,
Toby. From Ralph Waldo Emerson says, without ambition, one starts nothing.
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Without work, one finishes nothing.The prize will not be sent to you.
You have to win it. Well, I need a level playing field.
Well I should at least get aparticipation prize. No, that's not
how life works. It's unfortunate.I know, maybe for some. But
you've got to throw that ambition inright, because if you don't throw that
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ambition into whatever you're doing, you'renot really starting anything. And then,
yeah, you're on the same playingfield as everybody else, and then nothing's
getting finished. You're not putting inthe work because you don't have the ambition
to serve as the catalyst. Soseize that ambition today. Go and win
the prize you feel that you deservein this life. You have to win
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it. Ralph Waldo Emerson. It'sa great quote and hopefully it helped you.
If you need to share it withsomeone, you can. You can
find it on the Toby and chilipageat washfm dot com. With that ambition,
once starts nothing without work, onefinishes nothing. The prize will not
be sent to you. You haveto win it. Go win today and
stay with us because you're gonna winin just a few minutes. With some
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entertainment news, we call it showbizbuzzs coming up in minutes. What's going
on? We finally know why KateBecasale spent weeks in the hospital earlier this
year. Find out in minutes timefor some entertainment news let's get you fixed
up with showbyz Buzz Here at ninetyseven point one watch FM Toby and Chilly
in the morning. Chillia maar whatup? Kate Beckinsale says that she spent
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weeks in the hospital earlier this yearbecause of grief. So she said she
witnessed her stepfather died unexpectedly. Thenher mother has stage four cancer and she
lost a lot of weight from allthat stress and grief. Kate says that
that caused a hole in her esophagusand that led her to cough up blood,
which is why she was hospitalized.Gypsy Rose Blanchard, who's been free
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for just six months now after servingeight years for murdering her mother, announced,
well she's going to be a mom, that's right. The pregnancy announcement
came on YouTube yesterday. Her exfiance Ken Erker is the dad. Gypsy
Rose and Ken have been back togethersince April and this was not a planned
pregnancy. Jojo Siwa getting a docuseries about her life. Camera is going
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to get an in depth look intoher creative process as she charts her course
as an adult pop star, evolvingfrom the beloved child star that audiences adored
on screen on Dance Moms, andfinally Shrek coming back to the big screen.
Dream Works the animation announced Shrek fiveis in development and it's going to
be released July twenty twenty six.Guess what, Mike Myers, Eddie Murphy,
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and Cameron de Is are all comingback for this fifth sequel. And
that's your show bus buzz good stuffthis morning there, Chiliamar, thank you
very very much, and you shouldstay right there if you need the news.
Perhaps you maybe you heard there's abunch of stuff happening downtown causing road
closures and more. That's just thetip of the news. Iceberg. We'll
get you up to speed with topstories at the top of the hour coming
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up around six Top Stories Top ofthe Hour. Cruis are scrambling to restore
power to over one point five millioncustomers in Texas after barrels slammed parts of
the state and the storm took thelives of eight people. So far.
Police are investigating a shooting that injuredtwo people. This happened outside Manassas Mall
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around two o'clock yesterday afternoon. Twogroups reportedly got into a fight and the
parking lot and that led to oneof the suspects firing a weapon and scattering
the crowd. A Verizon worker isdead after a work side accident in Montgomery
County just before noon yesterday. FirstResponders found the worker inside a utility bucket
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that had made contact with a powerline. The accident is currently under investigation.
Virginia Governor Glenn Youngkin has issued anexecutive order that will require the Virginia
Department of Education to create a policythat will limit or completely eliminate the use
of cell phones during instructional time.The goal is to have a policy in
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effect January first, the Washington Commandersare going to be bringing back a classic
uniform look during select games this season. The team announced yesterday that gold pants
are going to be part of theuniform rotation for the first time since twenty
eighteen. And according to a recentstudy, sixty percent of parents admit to
spending more time on their electronic devicesthan they do with their kids. On
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average, parents spend nearly five hoursa day on devices compared to less than
four hours engaging in meaningful activities withtheir children. Forecast for today, there
is at excessive heat warning between noonand eight pm. Lee cloudy ninety five
the high it'll feel like one hundredand five though right now eighty in Leesburg.
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All right. About an hour ago, we were talking with our producer
Taylor Shay about a situation she's foundherself in here at ninety seven point one
wash FM, where you just gottop stories at the top of the hour.
A friend coming to town is stayinglonger than she feels comfortable for.
However, she probably could have seta few things up front that maybe she
didn't say that caused well, aconundrum and I'm not talking about the red
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wine. What was the conundrum andwhat did you have to say about her
thoughts? If you heard the storythis morning, stay there. A couple
of people have a few things toshare coming up in minutes. Robert's taking
on the line with Toby and Chillyin the morning here a ntty seven point
one WASHFM because he wants to talkabout producer Taylor Shay's situation she shared with
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us earlier. Yeah, so shehas a friend coming to visit next month
for her fortieth birthday for five days. Taylor is now having some regret thinking
that's a little bit too long ofa visit. There's a lot to this
story. Basically, either you suckit up and you just don't say anything
at all and you deal with thestress of five days, or you own
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the fact that maybe you should havebeen upfront at the beginning and said,
hey, five days is too long. Maybe three. There's a lot to
this story. You can hear itall the Tope and Chili page to WASHUFM
dot com. Robert, thank youfor listening. You heard it this morning.
What are your thoughts? You gotto come clean with her and let
her know everything's going on, becauseyou could end up ruining a friendship.
You know, if you've been friendsthis long, you'll figure it out.
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So, Robert, you should neverever lie to a friend. I don't
care who it is. To befair, you guys keep saying, Oh,
I lied to her. I wastrying to spare her feelings, and
in the end I may have actuallyhurt her feelings more. If I do
have to go back and say maybethree days is enough, you need to
make it right. Conversely, ifI don't and she comes for the five
days, what if we have anabsolute fantastic five days. Okay, that's
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great, And what happens if shefinds out that you basically lied to it.
She don't think that you didn't wanther there. I think you're focusing
on this as being a lie morethan after the fact you're thinking, maybe
that's too many days. Don't everallow to a friend. I don't care
who it is. Okay, Isee where he's coming from. He's like,
it's all in how you do it. If you go back to her
and you say, hey, listen, I probably should have told you this
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upfront. If you own it,you at least give the opportunity to make
that part of it right while you'resucking it up and eating the rest of
it. Exactly, suck it upand do what you gotta do. But
I would definitely set her down andtalk to her, get her on the
phone, whatever, before this flighttakes place. It seems to me like
the Axios version of what you justsaid is basically this the road to hell
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is paved with good intentions, goodluck on the journey. I can't say
you that on the idiot. Ijust did Shelby and Chilli's nearly impossible question.
Thanks to Live Nation, we've gotto imagine dragons tickets. Here's the
question this morning Loved by kids.About twelve million of these are made every
single day. What do we talktalking about? Eight sixty six Wash FM
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the number one eight six six ninetwo seven forty three sixty one call now
answer the question right. Imagine dragons. August twenty second, Jiffy Loube Live
Nation. Thank you. Here's thequestion one more time. Loved by kids.
About twelve million of these are madeeach day. What are they call?
Now? Get it right when it'syour nearly impossible question for Wednesday and
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it's on Toby and Chilli's nearly impossiblequestion Imagine Dragons tickets thanks to Live Nations
up for grabs. The question againthis morning is loved by children. About
twelve million of these are made eachday. What are they? Good morning,
Amy and Ashburn. How are youtoday? I'm doing Wow? How
are you good? Awake? Welcometo the show. My name's Toby Napp
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Over there is Chili Amar. You'vegot the question if you love imagine dragons
and you want to see them?Thanks to Live Nation at Jiffylube Live.
What's the answer. It's my answerfor that that kuld love those they love
the crayons. The craile is madein Easton Pennsylvan. Yes, but it's
not necessarily just that brand. Itcould be crayons in general. True.
I'm also thinking how many we gothrough at elementary school? Yes, because
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I remember when I was an elementaryschool kid, I went through crayons so
much that I had an entire schoolbox full of broken crant exactly exactly,
Amy, that's such an excellent guess. It's also the correct answer. Congratulations.
Yah, it's fantastic me and you'regoing to imagine dragons with or without
crayons. If it's this hot atJiffy Loube live, the creons will melt.
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Trust me, I may have donethat the skill of the things I've
learned in my misspent youth. I'mjust saying, well, thank you.
That's awesome. I'm excited to seethem concert. Enjoy the show. They're
great live. You'll get a previewtoo, by the way, coming up
next week at waschfm dot com andother iHeartRadio exclusive online concert event. But
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it won't be like seeing them inreal life, Okay, I will you
enjoy Congratulations and color with those crayons. Thanks for playing awesome, Thank you.
More tickets tomorrow morning to see ImagineDragons with another round of Your Nearly
Impossible Question in the News on theWay and minutes Top stories at the top
of the hour. It's ninety sevenpoint one. Watch FMDC Good Morning,
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Top Stories Top of the Hour.President Biden will officially welcome NATO allied leaders
to the DC summer today. Inhis remarks yesterday, the President insisted that
NATO is more powerful than ever,citing better resources and stronger alliances. Two
people were injured in a shooting.This happened outside Minasas Mall in Prince William
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County around two o'clock yesterday afternoon.Police say two groups had an altercation in
the parking lot when the shots werefired. The US Marshall Service is confirming
that two Deputy marshals involved in aNorthwest DC shooting are part of the protective
detail for Supreme Court Justice Sonya soAn arms suspect attempted to carjack one of
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the marshals just last Friday outside theJustice's home. The Chesapeake Bay score from
the University of Maryland Center for EnvironmentalScience has improved from a C to a
C plus. Officials attributed the changeto sewage treatment upgrades and also measures taken
to improve air quality. Children withphysical or developmental disabilities are being invited for
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a chance to go water skiing,kayaking, to being, paddleboarding, canoeing
and more. This free event isbeing put on by the DC nonprofit so
Kids Sore. It's going to betaking place on Saturday at Pohick Bay Regional
Park in Lorden. And according toa recent study, nearly one hundred and
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seventy five million Americans have damaged apiece of furniture, and sixty one percent
of those accidents happened the first twoyears they own it. For forty percent
of Americans, the most recently damageditem was a sofa, couch, or
love. Forecast for today, wedo have an excessive heat warning between noon
and eight pm. Otherwise partly cloudywith highs around ninety five right now eighty
and booie. So in case youdidn't know, it is hot. Question,
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when it's hot out do you change? Do you find that you change
what you eat or drink because ofthe temperatures? You know what I mean?
Like? Are there foods that arejust too hot for hot temps?
Think about this and we'll get intoit and why coming up in a few
minutes. Toby and Chilly in themorning, it's ninety seven point one wash
CHEFM and if you want to jumpinto any conversation eight sixty six wash CHEFM,
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the nuumber one. Is there somethingyou eat when it's hot, like
to help you cool down? Tobyand Chilly in the morning, ninety seven
point one wash CHEFM. Eight sixsix wash CHEFM. The number one talk
back microphone also open if you wantto jump in. I don't know about
you, Chili, but I havefound myself over the last few weeks that
we've had the scorching heat wave herein DC, and then when I was
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in Texas where it was even liketemperature hotter than it is here, I
found myself shunning any type of foodsthat I love that are hot foods.
And we're not talking spicy, we'retalking temperature. So you're not eating like
brisket, Nope, anything cooked ona girl no way. Well I got
the grill th No, haven't evengone to see my friends at Steezburger.
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Turned my nose up and wat aburger. You're not having any hot meals?
Like, what are you eating them? I mean, seriously, there's
a spot show summertime peace salad.That's very limiting. What's pasta salads?
To a degree, I totally get, like, maybe we have ice coffee
this time of year versus hot coffee. But when you're indoors and it's air
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conditioned, why can't you just havea burger inside the house. Eventually I'll
have to leave the house and I'llleave the comfort of the air conditioning.
And then if I'm full and I'moutside and it's like soupy hot like it
is here with all this humidity goingon and heat index is feeling like one
hundred and fifty plus humidity, it'sjust appressive. I can't feel full and
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then feel oppressive, okay. Atthe same time, it causes my body
to just so the food feels heavierif it's the hot heavier, just malaise
like just nastiness. Whereas, however, if I'm having watermelon, I'm fine,
Well, okay, if I'm havingcucumber salad, that doesn't seem very
filling to me. You're talking aboutgaspachos and salads. Are you hungry all
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the time, just because yes,yes, I am a little bit more
hungry all the time. Even avocadosare good, like, but you know,
like you're so funny, you know, but bananas, Yes, bananas
are good too because they're light.They're not and then you know what,
and I even love the bananas evenbetter if you had them in the fridge.
Wow. I mean, I'm notsaying go put something on a crockpot
because it's not crockpot weather. Butfor crying out loud, it's okay to
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have something. You say that,But I don't know. So am I?
Am I crazy? Am I theonly person who has different food choices
When heat waves like the heat thatwe're experiencing now set in, Maybe you
have something that you eat when it'stied out to cool you off. If
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you do, tell us all aboutit. Talkback microphone, you can tap
speak and send us a voice notbecause sometimes that's easier. We can call
eight sixty six ninety two, sevenforty three sixty one. Do you let
the heat affect your food choices?Call and share your story. Can't wait
to hear from you. And bythe way, coming up in just a
few minutes here at ninety seven pointone was CHEFM. Let's talk about you
at work. You have a bosswho's really a high performing boss, a
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high performance boss that can get thebest out of you. Would you be
willing to work for one of thesepeople even if they turn to the pressure
up and ratcheted it up big time, almost to the point where their way
of motivating you might be seemed byit might be seen by others as being
somewhat questionable. Thoughts on this,Toby and Tilly in the morning, It's
ninety seven point one was CHEFM.We always love getting your take on things,
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so please feel free to call usat eight six six wasch FM the
number one, or to have thetalkback microphone to jump into this conversation.
How would you set this up?Jilly? Help me say this in a
way that's succinct because it's a big, broad topic about bosses and motivation.
Absolutely so, they found that peopleare more willing to put up with the
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tough love or quote unquote verbally abusivebosses if that boss is highly successful.
I want to be real careful aboutthe words emotionally abusive because that's a very
triggering thing. However, we allknow what it is, and when you
say it that way, you thinkto you don't think about worst common denominator.
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You know what I mean? BecauseThe worst common denominator is the stuff
I think that ends up on Lifetimetelevision shows about worst bosses on the planet.
There are some bosses that motivate indifferent ways. Now, they can
be very successful code you know,life coaches, coaches for work, leaders
at work or whatever, and thatin itself can be a thing. However,
when it comes to motivate or coaching, if they treat you like dirt,
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I'm not you okay with that?No, So I wouldn't be part
of those people that give them apass. Just because you're super successful and
amazing at what you do does notmake it okay for me to stick around
and be like, Oh, Iadmire you so much. I'll deal with
the disrespect. No, I respectyour point, but I will tell you
that I have been coached and quotemotivated end of quote. And I use
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that word very loosely. Right,you want to call it motivated? Okay,
Bye bye bye leaders that if Iwere to throw the flag on the
play now, it probably would notpass muster Like. I had a leader
once who literally held me up againstthe wall by my neck and was like,
just just be raking something. Butyou stick around because they're so success
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because this person had been to thehighest of the high end business and I
knew that if I was going tolearn something along the way, I was
willing to look the other way.I had somebody use it to derogatory kind
of word talking about mental conditions andmental health with me, asked me if
I was in this state of mindonce, and I'm like, you don't
have the right to say that tome. You can't. You can't say
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something like I didn't respect that leaderat the time, but that ended up
leading to us having a respect forone another. So for me, I
think it's it's a matter of uniquecoaching. The ends justifies the means if
I turn, if I choose toturn my head, I'm fine being in
a high pressure situation like I wouldwork. I would love to work for
somebody like Sarah Blakely who created SPANXright, she's a female entrepreneur. I'm
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sure that it would be very stressful, potentially work, and I would put
up with that because she is whoshe is and she achieved what she achieved.
But that's where it would end forme. Is there somebody that you
can think of that you would bewilling to work in a pressure cooker.
You know what, because I wantto pivot off brand a little bit.
People would expect me to say SteveJobs, but I would say this Elon
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Musk. I've heard stories about howhe is with people because he's just the
way he is right and sometimes thatrubs people the wrong way. But you
know what, but the dude isa genius. He's arguably a person who
thinks on a different level, seesthe world differently. If I can learn
from that, berate me, Elon, oh be rate me. But if
I can be a part of theteam that invents the next great spacecraft that
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doesn't get stuck in space at aspace station, sign me up, because
then I can be like, youknow what, I worked for Elon Musk,
and I learned this, this,this, and this. So I
don't know. Is it a matterof the ends justifies means? Or is
there such a thing as lack ofrespect? Disrespect is no respect and that's
not okay, this is the questionbefore you this morning. And also,
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who would you be willing to putup with that stuff? Yeah? Like,
is there a leader that you hadtell us about that person? Is
there somebody that ideally you'd work for? Could it be a bob Iger at
Disney. Maybe you know, justbecause they're successful, does that mean they
can treat you with less respect?Thoughts eight six, six, nine,
seven, forty three sixty one eightsixty six. Wash FM the number one
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talk back microphone open for you too. If you want to leave a message,
jump into the conversation. We'll circleback to it after eight. Top
stories at the top of the hour. On the Way in minutes two.
Stay with Tobe and Chilly in themorning. Top Stories top of the hour.
Well, Former President Trump is teasingthat Florida Senator Marco Rubio as his
potential running mate. Rubio address tocrowd at Trump's rally in Florida yesterday,
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with Trump making multiple references to Rubiothroughout his speech. Police are investigating a
shooting that has happened outside of NASAsMall. It injured two people around two
o'clock yesterday afternoon. Two groups reportedlygot into a fight in the parking lot,
and that led to one of thesuspects firing a weapon and scattering the
crowd. Virginia Governor Glenn Youngkin issuedan executive order yesterday that's going to require
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the Virginia Department of Education to createa policy to limit or even eliminate the
use of cell phones during instructional time, and that goal is to have policy
in effect January first, the WashingtonCommanders are going to be bringing back a
classic uniform look during select games thisseason. The team announced yesterday that gold
pants are going to be part ofthe uniform rotation for the first time since
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twenty eighteen. And according to yourrecent survey, Americans feel tired and average
of four hours a day. Athird always or often still feel that way
even after a good night's sleep.For fifty eight percent, being tired has
led them to avoid social interactions intwenty seven percent to cancel plans with friends
and family. Forecast for today anexcessive heat warning and effect from noon to
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eight pm, otherwise partly cloudy withninety five to high and then heat index
over one hundred and five. Rightnow eighty two in Springfield eight sixty six,
ninety two, seven forty three sixtyone. It's ninety seven point one
wash FM. Listening on your iHeartapp, signed in talkback microphone works too.
Want to hear from you about ahigh performance boss, a boss that
is really successful, all though theymight treat you some sort of way,
(29:03):
even when you're under some pressure.But do the ends justify the means?
Is it all right? Do youlook the other way or do you say,
hey, that's just not okay.Thoughts? Got some We'll get into
this next ninety seven point one WASHFM, Toby and Chilly in the morning.
We're talking about bosses, high performancebosses. Are they treating you as an
employee with abuse or is it tough? Luve? A lot of people say
(29:26):
they'd be willing to put up withthat kind of behavior if it was a
very successful person. Melisten, Cooksville, good morning and welcome. You've got
some thoughts. What's on your mindtoday? I don't think it matters how
successful you are. You still needto have respect for your people. In
general. You can be in ahigh pressure situation and things could be running
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pretty hot, but you don't haveto be a complete or do you know
what I mean? Yes? Ido. And even if you are in
that hot pot, like you said, Chili, you're in that hot pot,
like, oh my god, thisis so important. It has to
be done right, it has tobe on right this second. And you
might get snarky, but I thinkin the end, it could you know,
after that moment has passed, youcould be like, Okay, you
guys, I know things got alittle bit out of hand, But thank
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you for your TeamWorks, thank youfor your input, thank you for your
hard work. It's a two waystreet. You can still be that successful
person and not be injured. Right. Being successful does not give you a
pass to mistreatty or disrespect people belowyou. Valid thoughts, ladies, and
thanks for jumping into the conversation.This morning at ninety seven point one,
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WASHFM got a little deep, Sotalk to Rachel and Oxen Hill. Rachel,
you say there's a celebrity you wouldwant to work for that might be
high pressure. Go ahead. Ithink Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively would be
a dream to work for. Theywould make amazing bosses, and you'd make
amazing money because Ryan Renlds is worthbillions of dollars and that knowing he's like
got a method to his imagine show. I was reading about him on the
(30:53):
Internet of Things yesterday. I dealwith that crazy, Okay. So even
if they make you cry, you'rethinking, oh, you know what,
I know, they'll make me laughtoo. Yeah, I'm crying my way
all to the way to the bank. I'm just saying, Montgomery Village,
Richard, thanks for hanging on theline. You would want to work for
who downtown? Yeah? I wouldlike to work for the president. I
feel like to be a lot ofwork, But at least I would get
(31:15):
a chance to try to find outwhat's actually going on in Area fifty one.
It would totally be worth all theextra stress. Oh hell no,
nothing with politics as where they metthem on You're talking about Area fifty one.
He wants to know about conspiracies.But listen, man, you know
you don't need to go work forthe president or the administration. You just
need to watch YouTube. What more, Toby and Jilly head over to washfm
(31:38):
dot com or the iHeartRadio app.
Toby and Chili Mornings on demand onninety seven point one, Wash them who
feeling good today? On this Wednesday, halfway through another week before five,
as we wake up and shake offthe sleep from last night, ninety seven
point one WATCHFM or Toby and Chillyin the morning. Chili, you're feeling
good this morning? Ah? Yeah, I got a second fan in our
(00:21):
bedroom. It's the little thing steeringheat waves. Well, our AC is
working. We have a ceiling fan, but it's I'm a hot person,
like I just run hot and itwasn't enough. So we were able to
dig out. Yeah, a backupfan and it's all pointed at me.
(00:41):
My husband over there is cold,but I'm fine, So I'm very glad
that I finally found the right temperature. It's like goldilocks. Do you leave
the door open when you go tobed? And here's why I say that
is because it makes the air conditionerwork better. They say, leaving it
open? Yeah, Fortunately we donot. Oh, I need to have
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it closed because remember my son andmy husband go to bed after me,
and I need to shut the worldus to be the same way. And
now that we've been getting into theseheat waves and stuff, I've been leaving
the door open, and it's it'sa thing. It's a thing. But
I just want the ace because,like you, I feel that heat thing.
I want the AC to do itsjob and the sheets and blankets to
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do its job. And sometimes it'snot enough, and I want the room
to be arctic frost. So ifI have five fans, a ceiling fan,
and an ac going, I'm goodto go. Yeah, and you
know what, that's one of thereasons I'm feeling some joy today too,
is I think that's one of thereasons why my daughter wants to come home
from Florida and Mom's house. Ohyeah, she's coming today. Yeah.
Well, one of the reasons shetold me is kind of actually inadvertently related
(01:47):
to that. She says, Momkeeps the house hot, and it's just
hot and I can't sleep. AndI'm like, well, this is coming
from the kiddo tells me sometimes Ikeep it too cold. I'd rather it'd
be colder than not. That's true. I'm like, all right, well,
how long has it been since you'veseen your daughter. I want to
think it's been about a month orso, you know, And I want
her to spend time with her mom. I love her mom. I think
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she's great. I hope she's havinga fun time with her mom's family and
stuff. But you know, it'squiet around the place. And I like
my little buddy, and she's notso little anymore at twenty. But you
know, you'll have these things.It's a girl dad thing, I guess
anyway. So that's why I'm feelinggood. Between the AC's and kids who
like it cold like you do.Today is going to be a good day.
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It's ninety seven point one wash CHEFM. Let's get into it. Or
Toby and Chilly in the Morning comingup next, our producer Taylor is stressing
out about hosting a friend of hers. Uh oh, a conundrum of foots
uh oh, stay there for morepeople. I understand, Producer Taylor.
She has a conundrum, and I'mnot talking about the wine this morning.
Toby and Chilly in the Morning.Hey, five AM club, the numbers
eight sixty six wash FM one talkbackmicrophones open to because you might need to
(02:53):
jump in and offer some opinions onthis. By the way, did I
say Toby and Chilly in the Morningat ninety seven point one wash FM?
All right? Then here Taylor shakTaylor, what is what is a miss?
Well, my inability to say no, it's kind of gotten me in
trouble. I have a childhood friend. She lives in Minnesota, and we
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only see each other like every fiveish years. And my big milestone fortieth
birthdays coming up next month, andshe said I want to come visit you,
and I was like, yay,that's the best gift ever. But
she wants to come for five days. Five whole days. That's a bit
much for me. Come up inthe conversation, depending on where you are.
(03:35):
Yeah, well kind of. Ididn't want to hurt her feelings,
so I said, well, Idon't actually have any PTO because I just
started this new job, which isonly half true. Okay, here we
go. Do have some PTO upfrontwith this job, but I've kind of
allocated it for the holidays, soI wouldn't go unpaid. I just have
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to adjust things. But she didn'ttake the hint. She booked the ticket
anyway, And now part of mewants to go back and say, listen,
I love you, but five daysis too much. But can I
I don't know. Oh, Ithink you got to eat it. I
mean, if she booked a ticket. Look, I know it's a lot.
You got two little kids, right, and I know that with work
and kids, it may just fivedays is a long time, No,
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Lie, I've never hosted anybody forfive days. But once I've not spoken
up, sooner, you're gonna haveto just figure it out. I don't
know that I would be comfortable.What about you told me you as soon
as you said you told her ahalf truth, that like lit me up
like a Christmas tree. I'm like, now you're screwed. So you know,
the only thing you can really donow is come clean. Like you've
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got to go to your friend andyou got to say, hey, listen,
I should have been straight up withyou. I do have time off,
but it's just a lot to haveanybody come over for five days.
It doesn't mean I don't love you. I'm sorry I didn't say this up
front. I should have put thaton me. I hope this doesn't affect
it. You're gonna have to doa Mia Kolpa now and like I was
not honest. Yeah, that stinksbecause the fact that you weren't honest caused
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her to do what she did.Booking airfare, making decisions assuming, and
that's where everything becomes a problem.Well, now you've got our thoughts on
this, you're gonna have to figurethis out as ap. What do you
think you're gonna do? I thinkI might eat it. I don't know.
I know I love her, andI don't can't tell her I lied
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to her, because if I toldher I lied about this thing, then
I'm gonna lie about other things.Yeah, you better, I'm excited to
see her. I'll probably eat it, but I don't know. I think
that if this person has been afriend as long as you've said, as
much as I agree with Chilly,you're gonna have to eat it. But
I also would take it one stepfurther. You're gonna have to make it
right because here's what would really stinkis if she found out after the fact
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you were not honest, and thatwill create three days, five days,
seven days a year of HG doublehockey style? Am I right? Though,
Chilly? I don't know. Maybesomeone else has been in the same
position that they can provide more insight. All right, People eight six six
wash FM the number one, feelfree to call if you want to to
jump into this conversation with any thoughtsor advice. You might have talkback microphones
(06:13):
wide open too. This early morning, tap it send us a note?
What would you do? Have youbeen there before? Did your lie,
little white lie cost you? Didyou have to eat it? How did
that work out? We look forwardto hearing from you, and good luck
to Taylor Say as she tries towork through this. Toby and Tilly in
the morning on ninety seven point oneWASHFM. Hey, just a reminder if
you have thoughts on producer Taylor Say'ssituation, Yeah, feel free to jump
(06:39):
in talkback microphone wide open if youare signed in listening to ninety seven point
one WASHFM on your iHeart app.Let's pause now and check your headspace.
It's time for your morning mindset forthis Wednesday. What's the quote you've got
for us? From Ralph Waldo Emerson, use your words this early morning,
Toby. From Ralph Waldo Emerson says, without ambition, one starts nothing.
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Without work, one finishes nothing.The prize will not be sent to you.
You have to win it. Well, I need a level playing field.
Well I should at least get aparticipation prize. No, that's not
how life works. It's unfortunate.I know, maybe for some. But
you've got to throw that ambition inright, because if you don't throw that
(07:26):
ambition into whatever you're doing, you'renot really starting anything. And then,
yeah, you're on the same playingfield as everybody else, and then nothing's
getting finished. You're not putting inthe work because you don't have the ambition
to serve as the catalyst. Soseize that ambition today. Go and win
the prize you feel that you deservein this life. You have to win
(07:47):
it. Ralph Waldo Emerson. It'sa great quote and hopefully it helped you.
If you need to share it withsomeone, you can. You can
find it on the Toby and chilipageat washfm dot com. With that ambition,
once starts nothing without work, onefinishes nothing. The prize will not
be sent to you. You haveto win it. Go win today and
stay with us because you're gonna winin just a few minutes. With some
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entertainment news, we call it showbizbuzzs coming up in minutes. What's going
on? We finally know why KateBecasale spent weeks in the hospital earlier this
year. Find out in minutes timefor some entertainment news let's get you fixed
up with showbyz Buzz Here at ninetyseven point one watch FM Toby and Chilly
in the morning. Chillia maar whatup? Kate Beckinsale says that she spent
(08:33):
weeks in the hospital earlier this yearbecause of grief. So she said she
witnessed her stepfather died unexpectedly. Thenher mother has stage four cancer and she
lost a lot of weight from allthat stress and grief. Kate says that
that caused a hole in her esophagusand that led her to cough up blood,
which is why she was hospitalized.Gypsy Rose Blanchard, who's been free
(08:56):
for just six months now after servingeight years for murdering her mother, announced,
well she's going to be a mom, that's right. The pregnancy announcement
came on YouTube yesterday. Her exfiance Ken Erker is the dad. Gypsy
Rose and Ken have been back togethersince April and this was not a planned
pregnancy. Jojo Siwa getting a docuseries about her life. Camera is going
(09:20):
to get an in depth look intoher creative process as she charts her course
as an adult pop star, evolvingfrom the beloved child star that audiences adored
on screen on Dance Moms, andfinally Shrek coming back to the big screen.
Dream Works the animation announced Shrek fiveis in development and it's going to
be released July twenty twenty six.Guess what, Mike Myers, Eddie Murphy,
(09:43):
and Cameron de Is are all comingback for this fifth sequel. And
that's your show bus buzz good stuffthis morning there, Chiliamar, thank you
very very much, and you shouldstay right there if you need the news.
Perhaps you maybe you heard there's abunch of stuff happening downtown causing road
closures and more. That's just thetip of the news. Iceberg. We'll
get you up to speed with topstories at the top of the hour coming
(10:07):
up around six Top Stories Top ofthe Hour. Cruis are scrambling to restore
power to over one point five millioncustomers in Texas after barrels slammed parts of
the state and the storm took thelives of eight people. So far.
Police are investigating a shooting that injuredtwo people. This happened outside Manassas Mall
(10:31):
around two o'clock yesterday afternoon. Twogroups reportedly got into a fight and the
parking lot and that led to oneof the suspects firing a weapon and scattering
the crowd. A Verizon worker isdead after a work side accident in Montgomery
County just before noon yesterday. FirstResponders found the worker inside a utility bucket
(10:54):
that had made contact with a powerline. The accident is currently under investigation.
Virginia Governor Glenn Youngkin has issued anexecutive order that will require the Virginia
Department of Education to create a policythat will limit or completely eliminate the use
of cell phones during instructional time.The goal is to have a policy in
(11:18):
effect January first, the Washington Commandersare going to be bringing back a classic
uniform look during select games this season. The team announced yesterday that gold pants
are going to be part of theuniform rotation for the first time since twenty
eighteen. And according to a recentstudy, sixty percent of parents admit to
spending more time on their electronic devicesthan they do with their kids. On
(11:43):
average, parents spend nearly five hoursa day on devices compared to less than
four hours engaging in meaningful activities withtheir children. Forecast for today, there
is at excessive heat warning between noonand eight pm. Lee cloudy ninety five
the high it'll feel like one hundredand five though right now eighty in Leesburg.
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All right. About an hour ago, we were talking with our producer
Taylor Shay about a situation she's foundherself in here at ninety seven point one
wash FM, where you just gottop stories at the top of the hour.
A friend coming to town is stayinglonger than she feels comfortable for.
However, she probably could have seta few things up front that maybe she
didn't say that caused well, aconundrum and I'm not talking about the red
(12:28):
wine. What was the conundrum andwhat did you have to say about her
thoughts? If you heard the storythis morning, stay there. A couple
of people have a few things toshare coming up in minutes. Robert's taking
on the line with Toby and Chillyin the morning here a ntty seven point
one WASHFM because he wants to talkabout producer Taylor Shay's situation she shared with
(12:50):
us earlier. Yeah, so shehas a friend coming to visit next month
for her fortieth birthday for five days. Taylor is now having some regret thinking
that's a little bit too long ofa visit. There's a lot to this
story. Basically, either you suckit up and you just don't say anything
at all and you deal with thestress of five days, or you own
(13:11):
the fact that maybe you should havebeen upfront at the beginning and said,
hey, five days is too long. Maybe three. There's a lot to
this story. You can hear itall the Tope and Chili page to WASHUFM
dot com. Robert, thank youfor listening. You heard it this morning.
What are your thoughts? You gotto come clean with her and let
her know everything's going on, becauseyou could end up ruining a friendship.
You know, if you've been friendsthis long, you'll figure it out.
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So, Robert, you should neverever lie to a friend. I don't
care who it is. To befair, you guys keep saying, Oh,
I lied to her. I wastrying to spare her feelings, and
in the end I may have actuallyhurt her feelings more. If I do
have to go back and say maybethree days is enough, you need to
make it right. Conversely, ifI don't and she comes for the five
days, what if we have anabsolute fantastic five days. Okay, that's
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great, And what happens if shefinds out that you basically lied to it.
She don't think that you didn't wanther there. I think you're focusing
on this as being a lie morethan after the fact you're thinking, maybe
that's too many days. Don't everallow to a friend. I don't care
who it is. Okay, Isee where he's coming from. He's like,
it's all in how you do it. If you go back to her
and you say, hey, listen, I probably should have told you this
(14:18):
upfront. If you own it,you at least give the opportunity to make
that part of it right while you'resucking it up and eating the rest of
it. Exactly, suck it upand do what you gotta do. But
I would definitely set her down andtalk to her, get her on the
phone, whatever, before this flighttakes place. It seems to me like
the Axios version of what you justsaid is basically this the road to hell
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is paved with good intentions, goodluck on the journey. I can't say
you that on the idiot. Ijust did Shelby and Chilli's nearly impossible question.
Thanks to Live Nation, we've gotto imagine dragons tickets. Here's the
question this morning Loved by kids.About twelve million of these are made every
single day. What do we talktalking about? Eight sixty six Wash FM
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the number one eight six six ninetwo seven forty three sixty one call now
answer the question right. Imagine dragons. August twenty second, Jiffy Loube Live
Nation. Thank you. Here's thequestion one more time. Loved by kids.
About twelve million of these are madeeach day. What are they call?
Now? Get it right when it'syour nearly impossible question for Wednesday and
(15:22):
it's on Toby and Chilli's nearly impossiblequestion Imagine Dragons tickets thanks to Live Nations
up for grabs. The question againthis morning is loved by children. About
twelve million of these are made eachday. What are they? Good morning,
Amy and Ashburn. How are youtoday? I'm doing Wow? How
are you good? Awake? Welcometo the show. My name's Toby Napp
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Over there is Chili Amar. You'vegot the question if you love imagine dragons
and you want to see them?Thanks to Live Nation at Jiffylube Live.
What's the answer. It's my answerfor that that kuld love those they love
the crayons. The craile is madein Easton Pennsylvan. Yes, but it's
not necessarily just that brand. Itcould be crayons in general. True.
I'm also thinking how many we gothrough at elementary school? Yes, because
(16:10):
I remember when I was an elementaryschool kid, I went through crayons so
much that I had an entire schoolbox full of broken crant exactly exactly,
Amy, that's such an excellent guess. It's also the correct answer. Congratulations.
Yah, it's fantastic me and you'regoing to imagine dragons with or without
crayons. If it's this hot atJiffy Loube live, the creons will melt.
(16:33):
Trust me, I may have donethat the skill of the things I've
learned in my misspent youth. I'mjust saying, well, thank you.
That's awesome. I'm excited to seethem concert. Enjoy the show. They're
great live. You'll get a previewtoo, by the way, coming up
next week at waschfm dot com andother iHeartRadio exclusive online concert event. But
(16:56):
it won't be like seeing them inreal life, Okay, I will you
enjoy Congratulations and color with those crayons. Thanks for playing awesome, Thank you.
More tickets tomorrow morning to see ImagineDragons with another round of Your Nearly
Impossible Question in the News on theWay and minutes Top stories at the top
of the hour. It's ninety sevenpoint one. Watch FMDC Good Morning,
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Top Stories Top of the Hour.President Biden will officially welcome NATO allied leaders
to the DC summer today. Inhis remarks yesterday, the President insisted that
NATO is more powerful than ever,citing better resources and stronger alliances. Two
people were injured in a shooting.This happened outside Minasas Mall in Prince William
(17:40):
County around two o'clock yesterday afternoon.Police say two groups had an altercation in
the parking lot when the shots werefired. The US Marshall Service is confirming
that two Deputy marshals involved in aNorthwest DC shooting are part of the protective
detail for Supreme Court Justice Sonya soAn arms suspect attempted to carjack one of
(18:03):
the marshals just last Friday outside theJustice's home. The Chesapeake Bay score from
the University of Maryland Center for EnvironmentalScience has improved from a C to a
C plus. Officials attributed the changeto sewage treatment upgrades and also measures taken
to improve air quality. Children withphysical or developmental disabilities are being invited for
(18:27):
a chance to go water skiing,kayaking, to being, paddleboarding, canoeing
and more. This free event isbeing put on by the DC nonprofit so
Kids Sore. It's going to betaking place on Saturday at Pohick Bay Regional
Park in Lorden. And according toa recent study, nearly one hundred and
(18:47):
seventy five million Americans have damaged apiece of furniture, and sixty one percent
of those accidents happened the first twoyears they own it. For forty percent
of Americans, the most recently damageditem was a sofa, couch, or
love. Forecast for today, wedo have an excessive heat warning between noon
and eight pm. Otherwise partly cloudywith highs around ninety five right now eighty
and booie. So in case youdidn't know, it is hot. Question,
(19:11):
when it's hot out do you change? Do you find that you change
what you eat or drink because ofthe temperatures? You know what I mean?
Like? Are there foods that arejust too hot for hot temps?
Think about this and we'll get intoit and why coming up in a few
minutes. Toby and Chilly in themorning, it's ninety seven point one wash
CHEFM and if you want to jumpinto any conversation eight sixty six wash CHEFM,
(19:33):
the nuumber one. Is there somethingyou eat when it's hot, like
to help you cool down? Tobyand Chilly in the morning, ninety seven
point one wash CHEFM. Eight sixsix wash CHEFM. The number one talk
back microphone also open if you wantto jump in. I don't know about
you, Chili, but I havefound myself over the last few weeks that
we've had the scorching heat wave herein DC, and then when I was
(19:53):
in Texas where it was even liketemperature hotter than it is here, I
found myself shunning any type of foodsthat I love that are hot foods.
And we're not talking spicy, we'retalking temperature. So you're not eating like
brisket, Nope, anything cooked ona girl no way. Well I got
the grill th No, haven't evengone to see my friends at Steezburger.
(20:18):
Turned my nose up and wat aburger. You're not having any hot meals?
Like, what are you eating them? I mean, seriously, there's
a spot show summertime peace salad.That's very limiting. What's pasta salads?
To a degree, I totally get, like, maybe we have ice coffee
this time of year versus hot coffee. But when you're indoors and it's air
(20:41):
conditioned, why can't you just havea burger inside the house. Eventually I'll
have to leave the house and I'llleave the comfort of the air conditioning.
And then if I'm full and I'moutside and it's like soupy hot like it
is here with all this humidity goingon and heat index is feeling like one
hundred and fifty plus humidity, it'sjust appressive. I can't feel full and
(21:02):
then feel oppressive, okay. Atthe same time, it causes my body
to just so the food feels heavierif it's the hot heavier, just malaise
like just nastiness. Whereas, however, if I'm having watermelon, I'm fine,
Well, okay, if I'm havingcucumber salad, that doesn't seem very
filling to me. You're talking aboutgaspachos and salads. Are you hungry all
(21:26):
the time, just because yes,yes, I am a little bit more
hungry all the time. Even avocadosare good, like, but you know,
like you're so funny, you know, but bananas, Yes, bananas
are good too because they're light.They're not and then you know what,
and I even love the bananas evenbetter if you had them in the fridge.
Wow. I mean, I'm notsaying go put something on a crockpot
because it's not crockpot weather. Butfor crying out loud, it's okay to
(21:49):
have something. You say that,But I don't know. So am I?
Am I crazy? Am I theonly person who has different food choices
When heat waves like the heat thatwe're experiencing now set in, Maybe you
have something that you eat when it'stied out to cool you off. If
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you do, tell us all aboutit. Talkback microphone, you can tap
speak and send us a voice notbecause sometimes that's easier. We can call
eight sixty six ninety two, sevenforty three sixty one. Do you let
the heat affect your food choices?Call and share your story. Can't wait
to hear from you. And bythe way, coming up in just a
few minutes here at ninety seven pointone was CHEFM. Let's talk about you
at work. You have a bosswho's really a high performing boss, a
(22:33):
high performance boss that can get thebest out of you. Would you be
willing to work for one of thesepeople even if they turn to the pressure
up and ratcheted it up big time, almost to the point where their way
of motivating you might be seemed byit might be seen by others as being
somewhat questionable. Thoughts on this,Toby and Tilly in the morning, It's
ninety seven point one was CHEFM.We always love getting your take on things,
(22:57):
so please feel free to call usat eight six six wasch FM the
number one, or to have thetalkback microphone to jump into this conversation.
How would you set this up?Jilly? Help me say this in a
way that's succinct because it's a big, broad topic about bosses and motivation.
Absolutely so, they found that peopleare more willing to put up with the
(23:17):
tough love or quote unquote verbally abusivebosses if that boss is highly successful.
I want to be real careful aboutthe words emotionally abusive because that's a very
triggering thing. However, we allknow what it is, and when you
say it that way, you thinkto you don't think about worst common denominator.
(23:37):
You know what I mean? BecauseThe worst common denominator is the stuff
I think that ends up on Lifetimetelevision shows about worst bosses on the planet.
There are some bosses that motivate indifferent ways. Now, they can
be very successful code you know,life coaches, coaches for work, leaders
at work or whatever, and thatin itself can be a thing. However,
when it comes to motivate or coaching, if they treat you like dirt,
(24:02):
I'm not you okay with that?No, So I wouldn't be part
of those people that give them apass. Just because you're super successful and
amazing at what you do does notmake it okay for me to stick around
and be like, Oh, Iadmire you so much. I'll deal with
the disrespect. No, I respectyour point, but I will tell you
that I have been coached and quotemotivated end of quote. And I use
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that word very loosely. Right,you want to call it motivated? Okay,
Bye bye bye leaders that if Iwere to throw the flag on the
play now, it probably would notpass muster Like. I had a leader
once who literally held me up againstthe wall by my neck and was like,
just just be raking something. Butyou stick around because they're so success
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because this person had been to thehighest of the high end business and I
knew that if I was going tolearn something along the way, I was
willing to look the other way.I had somebody use it to derogatory kind
of word talking about mental conditions andmental health with me, asked me if
I was in this state of mindonce, and I'm like, you don't
have the right to say that tome. You can't. You can't say
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something like I didn't respect that leaderat the time, but that ended up
leading to us having a respect forone another. So for me, I
think it's it's a matter of uniquecoaching. The ends justifies the means if
I turn, if I choose toturn my head, I'm fine being in
a high pressure situation like I wouldwork. I would love to work for
somebody like Sarah Blakely who created SPANXright, she's a female entrepreneur. I'm
(25:36):
sure that it would be very stressful, potentially work, and I would put
up with that because she is whoshe is and she achieved what she achieved.
But that's where it would end forme. Is there somebody that you
can think of that you would bewilling to work in a pressure cooker.
You know what, because I wantto pivot off brand a little bit.
People would expect me to say SteveJobs, but I would say this Elon
(25:59):
Musk. I've heard stories about howhe is with people because he's just the
way he is right and sometimes thatrubs people the wrong way. But you
know what, but the dude isa genius. He's arguably a person who
thinks on a different level, seesthe world differently. If I can learn
from that, berate me, Elon, oh be rate me. But if
I can be a part of theteam that invents the next great spacecraft that
(26:22):
doesn't get stuck in space at aspace station, sign me up, because
then I can be like, youknow what, I worked for Elon Musk,
and I learned this, this,this, and this. So I
don't know. Is it a matterof the ends justifies means? Or is
there such a thing as lack ofrespect? Disrespect is no respect and that's
not okay, this is the questionbefore you this morning. And also,
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who would you be willing to putup with that stuff? Yeah? Like,
is there a leader that you hadtell us about that person? Is
there somebody that ideally you'd work for? Could it be a bob Iger at
Disney. Maybe you know, justbecause they're successful, does that mean they
can treat you with less respect?Thoughts eight six, six, nine,
seven, forty three sixty one eightsixty six. Wash FM the number one
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Stay with Tobe and Chilly in themorning. Top Stories top of the hour.
Well, Former President Trump is teasingthat Florida Senator Marco Rubio as his
potential running mate. Rubio address tocrowd at Trump's rally in Florida yesterday,
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shooting that has happened outside of NASAsMall. It injured two people around two
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crowd. Virginia Governor Glenn Youngkin issuedan executive order yesterday that's going to require
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the Virginia Department of Education to createa policy to limit or even eliminate the
use of cell phones during instructional time, and that goal is to have policy
in effect January first, the WashingtonCommanders are going to be bringing back a
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twenty eighteen. And according to yourrecent survey, Americans feel tired and average
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ninety two, seven forty three sixtyone. It's ninety seven point one
wash FM. Listening on your iHeartapp, signed in talkback microphone works too.
Want to hear from you about ahigh performance boss, a boss that
is really successful, all though theymight treat you some sort of way,
(29:03):
even when you're under some pressure.But do the ends justify the means?
Is it all right? Do youlook the other way or do you say,
hey, that's just not okay.Thoughts? Got some We'll get into
this next ninety seven point one WASHFM, Toby and Chilly in the morning.
We're talking about bosses, high performancebosses. Are they treating you as an
employee with abuse or is it tough? Luve? A lot of people say
(29:26):
they'd be willing to put up withthat kind of behavior if it was a
very successful person. Melisten, Cooksville, good morning and welcome. You've got
some thoughts. What's on your mindtoday? I don't think it matters how
successful you are. You still needto have respect for your people. In
general. You can be in ahigh pressure situation and things could be running
(29:47):
pretty hot, but you don't haveto be a complete or do you know
what I mean? Yes? Ido. And even if you are in
that hot pot, like you said, Chili, you're in that hot pot,
like, oh my god, thisis so important. It has to
be done right, it has tobe on right this second. And you
might get snarky, but I thinkin the end, it could you know,
after that moment has passed, youcould be like, Okay, you
guys, I know things got alittle bit out of hand, But thank
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you for your TeamWorks, thank youfor your input, thank you for your
hard work. It's a two waystreet. You can still be that successful
person and not be injured. Right. Being successful does not give you a
pass to mistreatty or disrespect people belowyou. Valid thoughts, ladies, and
thanks for jumping into the conversation.This morning at ninety seven point one,
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WASHFM got a little deep, Sotalk to Rachel and Oxen Hill. Rachel,
you say there's a celebrity you wouldwant to work for that might be
high pressure. Go ahead. Ithink Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively would be
a dream to work for. Theywould make amazing bosses, and you'd make
amazing money because Ryan Renlds is worthbillions of dollars and that knowing he's like
got a method to his imagine show. I was reading about him on the
(30:53):
Internet of Things yesterday. I dealwith that crazy, Okay. So even
if they make you cry, you'rethinking, oh, you know what,
I know, they'll make me laughtoo. Yeah, I'm crying my way
all to the way to the bank. I'm just saying, Montgomery Village,
Richard, thanks for hanging on theline. You would want to work for
who downtown? Yeah? I wouldlike to work for the president. I
feel like to be a lot ofwork, But at least I would get
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a chance to try to find outwhat's actually going on in Area fifty one.
It would totally be worth all theextra stress. Oh hell no,
nothing with politics as where they metthem on You're talking about Area fifty one.
He wants to know about conspiracies.But listen, man, you know
you don't need to go work forthe president or the administration. You just
need to watch YouTube. What more, Toby and Jilly head over to washfm
(31:38):
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