September 27, 2023 • 31 mins
Happy Wednesday! On today's show, we break down being delulu and how can you be delulu too. Then we add to the #girlmath and #boymath trends by talking about #mommath because #mommath is a thing. We all get the urge to make a change and Toby is thinking about switching up his look but is worried about making the wrong change. And then debate ghosting vs. anti-ghosting. All this and more on today's show.
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Toby and Chili Mornings on Demand onninety seven point one WASHM. My adrenaline
is going. It's just out ofcontrol this mon mine and I haven't even
had coffee. I mean, justwhat the heck I'm like, I'm still
like shook it. I don't evenknow if that's even the right word,
but it's definitely some stress. Sothis morning Chili by the way, ninety
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seven point one wash FM, We'reToby and Chilian in the morning. I'm
leaving my place and you know,it's kind of like just autumn pilot.
You know, you get up inthe morning and yeah, a lot of
people aren't up when we're up andgetting out of the house. Right.
Well, now, we were talkingabout your new car and the tech and
how some of the tech was bothersometo you because it's just too much.
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Well the tech, yeah, likethe warning stuff when you get too close
to the car in front of you. It's beeping, it's vibrating, it's
doing all the things. Well,in the last two hours, I will
tell you I was saved from almosthitting a parked car next to mine that
is never there by that car notseen a parked car because it was a
dark suv that was backed in.It was dark out, there's no like
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light like, so I didn't seeit. And by the way, I'm
not used to anything being there becausethe woman who has that garage, she
parks inside the garage. Were youwere backing out? Yeah, I was,
So I'm backing out, Okay,I thought you were just driving.
No no, no, no nono no no. I'm backing out on
my way to work. And I'mlike, all of a sudden, my
alarm just starts with the proximity alarmgoes off and it's like goes glows red,
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and I'm like I look over andI'm like, oh my god,
there's a car there there. AndI am literally like a hair away from
totally taking out the driver's side,like you know, the driver's side,
front and second door, because like, I'm like backing out and I'm not
used to it being there. AndI thank god nothing happened, or I
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would not be here right now.I would be busy dealing with the City
of Rockville police funding reports and apologizingto something. Oh you just leave a
note. I mean, you know, if you're driving, if your car's
still drivable, you just leave anote and say sorry, I'm at work.
I'll be back. Here's even talkingabout it's making my heart race.
All right, Well, let's stoptalking in one of those mornings. Let's
talk about something more fun coming upin a few minutes as we get into
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this Wednesday morning. Suits, Ohmy god, on Netflix to come to
the public pressure. We're all collectivelylate to the game. But there's a
reason why. And we'll talk aboutsuits coming up in a few All right,
let's talk about Suits. The TVshow that made Megan Markle famous.
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Well, did that show make herfamous? I don't know. Sob and
Chilly in the morning on ninety sevenpoint one wash up and producer Kala's in
the room, so chilly you've jumpedinto binging suits and it's it's ironic because
it unbeknownst to me at the samesort of time, because of buzz online
that's what it was. Started watchingit on Netflix as well. It was
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released on netwik Netwix, Netflix,not recently recently, and everyone's like,
oh, it's such a good show. Now you said, oh, it
made her famous. No, Ididn't know who she was until she and
Harry got together. And maybe I'min the minority. Did producer Kayla Had
you heard of Megan Marko before?I only started watching it when she's got
married or engaged to Harry. Letme check it out. Everyone keeps missing
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She's in this show called Suits,And I gotta say, like, I
don't know that. I hate toadmit this, but it's a really good
show. It. Oh no,it's a good show. I just that's
the surprising thing to me is thatthis show first debuted in twenty eleven.
It's I know, and there's like, what six season. I don't even
know how many seasons there are?Seven season. I'm only two into it,
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but I mean I'm binging it asmuch as I can every day.
And she's not bad in it.I mean, she wasn't like a really
bad actress or anything like that.I'm just surprised. I assume the show
stopped because she left. Is thatnot they did, but they did try
to go on without her for oneseason, But even before that season,
it was getting kind of rough.Yeah, season two, we pulled the
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plug on it in twenty nineteen.But don't say too much, guys,
because I'm like, you know,me with my ADHD, I'm plugging through
it as best as I can.We're not giving away at spoiler. We're
not going to spoil anything because Idon't want anything to be spoiled either.
I'm just I think about like herrole now versus like in life, versus
her acting, and I don't know, like is a part of me thinks,
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you know, she could have stuckto the acting. Maybe that's what
she's missing. I think she's missingthat, I really do. I think
a lot of this issue is hertrying to get back into the business.
Why did she have to walk awayfrom it again? Oh? Because I
think the royal duties that allow herto be in both worlds, so she
had to retire. Well she's nolonger a working member of the royal family.
Yeah, it's time to get backon set. The writer strikes over.
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It makes me like her a littlebit more, at least knowing that
she had this other talent. Yeahwow, yeah, but who knews it's
a thing? Are you binging eightsix ninety seven forty three sixty one call
us tell us your thoughts on itthis early morning and stay there. A
producer. Kayla is also going tohang out for a few because she's going
to inspire us with her morning mindset, coming up with a quote that's hopefully
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going to get us all to agreat headspace. Stay there, find that
morning inspiration. Good morning, She'llbe in Chilly on a Wednesday morning,
ninety seven point one Wash FM andproducer Kayla is here with her morning mindset.
This is when we pause and listento a quote that she's found so
that we can start our day ina positive note. Yeah, today's quote
says we either make ourselves miserable orwe make ourselves strong. The amount of
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work is the same, the sameamount of energy and effort we used to
dwell, which I find can bethe easier reactions to difficult things. Can
be used instead to find a positivespin on negative experiences because if you think
positively, I bet the results willbe more positive. If you'll react to
the situation better and you'll look forwardto getting over a lot faster rather than
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just dwelling on it. So let'stake a beat today, and if something
challenging comes across your path, let'sthink positive about it and figure out a
way around it. But I willread the quote one more time, and
it says, we either make ourselvesa miserable or we make ourselves strong.
The amount of work is the same, and you can find that quote or
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you can share your own using hashtagMorning Mindset on the Toby and Chilly page
at washfm dot com. All right, thank you producer, Kayla, good
morning. I'm Toby nap Chilimar.You've got some entertainment news on the way
for us coming up. What's up? It is officially over. We're talking
about the writers strike. Everyone's goingto go back to work, not the
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actors. But we've got more detailson the deal that they struck coming up
in just a few day. Rightthere. We'll get you up to speed,
all right, and thanks for wakingup ninety seven point one WASHFF.
All right, so tell us allabout this writer's strike that's done that apparently
ended early ninety seven point one WATCHFM, like literally hours ago. We're till
be in Chile the morning. Whatyou got for still well, it lasts
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at one hundred and forty eight daysand the writers are going back to work.
The Writer's Guild of America. Theyreached an agreement with producers and this
includes increased health and pension contribution rates, minimum rate increases and also protects them
against artificial intelligence, among many otherpoints that they were going for while Britney
Spears was dancing with knives that sheclaimed we're fake on Instagram. Her mother
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is working as a substitute teacher.That's right. Lynn Spears reportedly struggling to
pay her bills after her complicated relationshipwith Britney seriously impacted her finances. You
know, Britney had been funding herparents during the conservatorship, which as we
know, ended two years ago.Shaquira needs to get a new accountant,
good lord. She has been chargedyet again with tax fraud in Spain.
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This time she's accused of not payingseven point one million dollars in taxes in
twenty eighteen by a corporate network intax havens. This comes two months before
she's about to be tried in Barcelonafor a separate case where she allegedly failed
to pay fifteen million dollars in taxesbetween twenty twelve and twenty fourteen. Taylor
Swift's upcoming Era's Tour documentary is nowgoing to be getting a global release now.
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The film was originally only going tobe debuting in North America, but
yesterday she said it is going tobe opening globally the same day, which,
by the way, if you haven'tmarked your calendars, October thirteenth,
and the Golden Globes Awards are goingto be featuring two new categories this year.
Awards for Best Cinematic and Box OfficeAchievement and Best Performance in Stand Up
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Comedy on Television are going to behanded out at the ceremony in January.
And that is your showbizbuns. Goodstuff. And by the way, for
even more entertainment news on demand throughthe day, just REFRESHWASHFM dot com because
we have like these people who doall this stuff online all day and they
refresh often. It's just it's crazyhow fast they are. Shelley, stay
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there at Top Stories at the topof the hour, on the way in
just a few minutes. It's ninetyseven point one WASHFMDC Good Wednesday morn Top
Stories, Top of the Hour.A judge's rule that former President Trump and
his company are liable for fraud ina lawsuit that was brought by the New
York Attorney General's office. The judgefound that Trump made false and misleading valuations
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for his real estate assets over theyears to secure loans and insurance steals.
Two people, including a teenager wereshot and killed in separate incidents in DC
yesterday, marking over two hundred homicidesin the city so far this year.
The first victim had just left DunbarHigh School, and then an hour later
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a man was shot when he wascaught in crossfire of people who were firing
from two vehicles. Baltimore police aresearching for a suspect in the killing of
a young tech entrepreneur. Thirty twoyear old Jason Billingsley is now wanted for
first degree murder in connection with thedeath of Pava Lepere. The twenty six
year old's body was found Monday inher apartment. New figures show that students
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in Arlington schools those who face disciplinaryaction are at a higher rate, and
they continue to be minority and malestudents. Officials are now considering behavioral programs
for middle school grades and also someindividual programs could be developed. Further,
seems that some Americans are having kidsdue to social pressures and fear of missing
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out, and then they end upregretting that decision. Researchers found that seven
percent of parents in the US saythey would not have kids if they have
to do it over again. Forecastfor today cloudy with some sun peeking out
later. Highs in the upper sixties. Right now it is sixty degrees and
gathers. Oh yes, and that'sthe news at six oh three. Here
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at ninety seven point one wash FMon this Wednesday, September twenty seven.
By the way, happy twenty fifthbirthday to Google. Coming up with Toby
and Chili in the Morning, momMath. Have you heard of this,
Chili? I mean, you're amom. If it's algebra, I don't
want to even think about it.I don't think it has anything to do
with trigonometry or any of those classesthat still cause us grief that we had
to take back in high school.But mom math is apparently a thing and
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will examine what this is. Comingup in less than twenty minutes. It's
Toby and Chili in the Morning,continued Toby and Chili in the Morning at
six twenty on this Wednesday, Septembertwenty seven, ninety seven point one one,
Chef, and thanks for working upwith us. I'm a dad,
Chili, you're a mom. I'vebecome fascinated by something I saw on the
internet called mom math. A momTikToker says that this mom math is a
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thing, and apparently she works backwardsin time to prepare, prepare to do
anything out of the house when itcomes to her kids. So when she's
calculating arriving somewhere by a certain time, she has to factor in how long
it takes the kids to do certainYeah, like if you need to be
someplace at nine, if the kidsgot school at nine, that means that
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the kid needs to be up byseven, Yes, breakfast by seven fifteen,
clothed by seven forty five, outthe door by eight. If you're
taking the bus, you have tocatch it at a certain time. So
she called time management, isn't it. I mean that's just what every human
we do for ourselves, I hope. Like when you have to go to
work or an appointment or a meeting, now you have to factor in the
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kid things. So I don't knowthat it's a mom math. It's a
parent math. I'll give you that, right. Yeah, So you don't,
you don't. You don't subscribe tothe theory that mom math is a
thing. You think it's just awell it's my meeting. But it definitely,
I mean they gave it a name, right, they gave it a
name to call it mom math,and it certainly could derail your day because
being responsible for yourself is one thing, but now you're expecting these other humans
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in your life to do things ina efficient way. I didn't even realize
there was like an algebraic equation toit all. And let's see, and
my job is what nineteen almost twentyin college now and I didn't even think
of this. Now, I willsay admittedly I did almost get in trouble
taking her to fifth grade a bunchat Richie Park because in the mo co
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hod because well, you know,you're running well you know Toby time was
a thing. Well, and that'sthe problem because you weren't good at time
management for yourself, so it washard for you to then incord, I'm
not saying that kids. It's toughdad with a daughter and getting ready,
and I get that, and letthe whole pas I have. Well,
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well, that hall pass is goodonce maybe twice. But in social things
or like appointments and stuff, youcan only say, oh, you know,
we're late because of the kids,once or twice, because at some
point, knowing your kids, you'regonna have to build in that time,
which is where this math comes infor anything that could go sideways. All
right, if you're if you're notgoing to do that, then well then
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you're just gonna be late forever.The way do we make it sound is
entirely too stressful. So I willsee this when it comes to be late
night when I couldn't use kids.I have to get to get a daughter
ready to go in the morning,right, and then I would just turn
to Toby time. The concept ofToby time. Hey, Toby time five
minutes in any direction. Toby time. What disrespectful? That's what that is.
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Show up whatever you want, That'swhat I call it. That was
not my intent, Chilima, it'snot my intent to disrespect. It's just
a thing. It's just a thing. Toby and Chili's nearly impossible questions.
You're gonna read more about mom mathToby and Chili pagetwashim dot com. What's
the questions? Eight percent of Americansthink the drivers would be safer if they
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used this in their car. Whatis it if they never used this?
I should say, yeah, Sogo ahead with the question again. Eight
percent of Americans think drivers would besafer if they never used this feature in
their car. All right, Well, if you like Ava, we've got
a chance for you to take ticketsright now to go and see a tribute
to Ava at the NGM National Harbor. It's October first, thanks to Live
Nation, their tickets up for grabs. If you can answer that question,
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do you want to ask it onemore time? Right now? Eight percent
of Americans think drivers would be saferif they never used this in their car.
What is it? You got thequestion? Eight six, nine,
seven forty three sixty one, callnow, provided it's safe for you to
do so, get it right andwin Toby and Chili's nearly impossible questions.
Diana and Gaithersburg, good morning,Thanks for hanging on the line to play.
Here comes the question for you again. Eight percent of Americans think drivers
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would be safer if they didn't usethis in their car. What is it?
It is as oh wow, theglobal positioning satellite which gets you from
place to place. Why do youthink the navigation would make it unsafe for
some people? Diana? I thinkit's can be distractions. Well, that's
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a good point. Anything that ittakes your eyes off the road or screams
at you for going the wrong way, or tells you recalculating force, or
even sends you in a place thatdoes exist anymore. Oh yeah, I
have no comment on I might havegone down some Yeah. Oh lord,
that's not good especially No. Yeah, well that's an interesting guests, a
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great guest. It's also the correctanswer. Congratulations to you. You're going
to National Harbor MGM National Harbor tosee the concerts a tribute to AB October
first. Oh, thank you somuch. You're welcome. Now, Please,
wherever you're going this morning, don'tlet the navigation distract it. Driving
toward no navigation. Right on,ma'am. We'll enjoy and thank you for
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playing. Congrats on the wind,and stay right there so we can get
some information from you. Diana andGaithersburg. Congratulations again. More tickets for
free for you tomorrow morning with anotherround of our nearly Impossible Question Top Stories
at the top of the Hour.You are minutes away from the News DC.
It's ninety seven point one HFM hangOut Top Stories Top of the Hour.
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A short term funding bill is advancingin the Senate to avoid a government
shutdown. To bipartisan bill would keepfederal money flowing till mid November to give
Congress more time for a long termpackage. Now it's not clear if the
Republican Ladhouse is going to approve thedeal. DC police officials say that lacks
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security procedures led to that deadly shootingat Crew In nightclub last weekend, which
is why the business has been shutdown. The suspect was able to bring
a handgun into the club. Notknown how long it is going to remain
closed. A team was shot andkilled near Dunbar High School in Northwest DC
after school yesterday, marking the city'stwo hundredth homicide of the year. The
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chairman of the DC Police Union blamesthe spike in homicides on what he calls
the DC Council's implementation of misguided policereform legislation. Catholic University in the district
has added a new layer of securityfor students, teachers, and staff by
creating a new Office of Emergency Management. The goal is to better respond to
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emergencies, which include improved communications,sheltering in place, and evacuation of buildings.
Drivers in Arlington County must now cometo a complete stop for pedestrians in
crosswalks. Finds of at least onehundred dollars will be assessed. The previous
rule only required that drivers yield tothose in the crosswalk. And according to
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a new report, preteens and teenagersare being inundated by phone alerts and notifications
all day long, even when they'rein school. Half the kids eleven to
seventeen receive about two hundred thirty sevennotifications a day. Forecast for today,
cloudy skies. The sun will bepeaking out now and then highs around sixty
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eight right now sixty degrees in heights. I have a feeling it's not just
those kids in school Chili. Ithink it's the adults too. They get
all these notifications. I would loveto see that number. There's some people
who like live and breathe by notifications. They're currently off. Thanks for the
news seven o six at ninety sevenpoint one HFM. Hey coming up in
a few minutes now the Chicot's TopStories at the top of the hour.
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I want to talk about this termI saw on TikTok Chili. It's it's
de lulu. It's de lulu,the slulu for you. Lots of people
are talking about this from Forbes magazine, Tomashable, what does de Lulu even
mean, have you heard this word? We'll get into it coming up in
just minutes of Toby and Chili inthe Morning continues to stay right there,
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seven twenty five Toby and Chili inthe Morning at netty seven point one wash
FM eight six six ninety seven fortythree sixty one. Feel free to jump
into the conversation. Producer Kayla isin here for this because she's our digital
guru. She is all things TikTok, the Internet of Things, and I
wanted to ask you, produce,Kaila, are you aware of this new
TikTok trend that I came across theother day that is called de Lulu.
They say, de Lulu is theslulu delusion is the solution. They say,
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yes, Oh, I love beingde Lulu. I am Delulu.
I love it. What do youmean by that? Like exactly, it's
kind of like delusional. It's justhaving these really far out goals that you
don't know how you're going to getthere. But in your delusional state,
you're like, but I know I'mgonna get it. I know I'm gonna
make it. That like manifestation.Yeah, basically they just call it something
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article and on TikTok that it's agrandchild of the manifestation. Nice, but
it's something we should take seriously because, apparently, according to people who embrace
the de Lulu, de lulu canbe accompassed to helping you achieve dreams.
Yes, there's also a downside tobeing de lulu, and that is that
you may be looking or trying toachieve something that in reality is probably unachievable.
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You know what I mean, likecanditional about it. Right now,
it's unachievable, but something may happenthat nudge me closer to that. You
gotta be delusional and believe in it. Well, I call that day dreaming
producer Kayla, and we all havedaydreams, and we all have dreams,
and we all have lofty ambitions andgoals. So I get the manifestation thing
about it, But I don't knowthat being delusional is gonna help me wave
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a magic wand and a race allof Kayla, my daughter Kyla's college tuition
builds. But you could still youcould try to manifest that by putting money
away every month, like trying tolook at a path forward to that ultimate
goal. That's different. You're takingaction, You're trying to manifest my waterfront
home. I know we're frustrating Deluover here. Like my Delulu is that
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I retire by forty. I gotten years left. But for all of
our goals, maybe we're doing ourbest. But maybe something external happens,
like Kyla meets someone with a lotof money and pays off the tuition,
or maybe you win the lottery,Chili, and you get that lake house
that steps in your path, thatpushes you closer to that dream. Well,
here's my Delulu for today. I'mgoing to go next door to seven
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to eleven. I'm some Powerball ticketsbecause it's almost a billion dollars. When
I'm gonna give y'all some of itso Chili can get her house, thank
you, so I can erase thecollege tuition. Yeah, can you see
how delusional this is? Every timewe buy a lottery ticket where Delulu.
You just gotta believe Guys, thisshow is so Delulu. We're gonna need
therapists to come in here and talkus back down to reality. We're Toby
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and Chili in the morning. Hey, if you want to learn more about
the de Lulu craze, Toby andChili pagewshf dot com. Here's some delulu
guys that I got to run byboth of you. I delusionally was going
to shave and make a major facialhair change, and then I stopped myself
because of the two of you.What did we do well? I'll tell
you about that coming up. Tobyand Chili in the Morning continues saying I
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almost called her Taylor Kelsey too soonseven forty ninety seven point one WASHFM.
We're Toby and Chili in the Morningat eight six six nine two seven forty
three sixty one. Chili, Youand Caleb popped into my mind yesterday when
I was doing some self care.What no, don't it's doing well.
I was, you know, takinga moment to do some man maintenance on
my face. Normally I just goto the barber or to another barbershop and
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have them do it every couple ofweeks. But you know, I decided
yesterday I was like, gonna takea moment to just kind of clean myself
up, shave myself, took anafternoon shower, felt really really good.
Then I looked in the mirror andI heard a conversation in my I had
that you and myself and producer Kaylawere having about Travis Kelsey, who shaved
his face recently and he's been allover the news, and well, let's
just say the maid is not rocka mustache very well. And that made
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me go full stop on any furthershaving. So all I it was cleaning
up and leave the rest of thesaid, Travis Kelsey doesn't look good in
a mustache, and it looks likean adult film star. You've never You've
never had the mustache, so rightnow, the way your face is,
you've got a beard, but thehair is along your jaw line. What
were you trying to do yesterday?A mustache or something else. I thought
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about getting rid of the stuff onthe side of my face that kind of
runs up. It's kind of like, you know, bushy and quasi beardy,
but it's out of control and itlooks like the flying Nun to me.
But I stopped myself chilly because I'mafraid that it won't grow back right,
and I know that it does not. This is very This is very
hard for me to talk about asa guy, but I'm just gonna be
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honest with you. I worry aboutmy facial hair because I don't know how
long it will take for it togrow back, And I don't remember how
long it took for me to growthis out to begin with, and so
I'm worried that if I make achange, it won't be something that well,
we'll just grow back in a coupleof days, like somebody like my
husband could grow a goatee in threedays. It's truth. Your husband is
exactly that's an excellent point on socialmedia. Your husband he rocks the five
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o'clock shadow well. I don't rocka five o'clock shadow well at all.
So if you try to change thisbeard situation into a goatee and somehow messed
it up or nicked it or whatever, I don't know how long it would
take for it to get back tonormal, and so you'd be in this
weird limbo. I look at myselfin the mirror and be very embarrassed.
It's kind of like, imagine ifyou were to go and try to do
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something radical with your hair, alittle bit step out of your comfort zone,
and you don't know how long it'sgoing to take ford to get back
to normal because you didn't rock whatit ended up, So instead of you
doing it, yourself. You probablyhave to go back to have a professional
because I guess try to take forgranted. I just assume men can note
they know how to trim up andshape their own facial hair. I guess
that's maybe some do, But Iam not that No, not at all.
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I've screwed it up before. Happenedwhen we were in the shutdown.
And you know what, I lovemy bar even though I haven't seen him
in a minute. But anyway,so I don't know. But if you
think it'd be okay if I wenthome and shaping, ah, yeah,
Well you know, producer Kayla cameup with some different looks she created on
a social media with your face,so you can go look to see the
different facial hair options and actually voteon it if you want it. So
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if I just let it go andI came in like number six, all
bush and looking like I've been inthe woods, would that be okay with
you? Oh? My god?I check it out. I find us
on Insta. You can just searchfor us or get to WASHFM dot com.
Check then Toby in Chili page.Need the news that's coming up in
minutes. It's Toby and Chili inthe Morning continues with Top stories at the
top of the hour. Stay therein Chili, thanks for the input.
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Top Stories Top of the Hour.The Senate has voted to advance a short
term funding bill to avoid a governmentshutdown. The measure, released yesterday would
keep the money flowing until mid Novemberso that Congress would have more time for
a long term package. Still don'tknow if the Republican led House is going
to end up approving it. Ajudge has ruled that former President Trump and
his company are liable for fraud ina lawsuit brought by the New York Attorney
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General's office. The judge found thatTrump made false and misleading valuations for his
real estate assets over the years tosecure loans and insurance deals. Two people,
including a teenager, were shot andkilled in separate incidents in DC yesterday,
marking over two hundred homicides in thecity so far this year. The
first victim had just left Dunbar HighSchool. Than an hour later, a
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man was shot when he was caughtin the crossfire of people firing from two
vehicles. Metro's got to make somereally significant decisions on how it closes a
looming seven hundred fifty million dollar budgetshortfall. Now the potential solution would be
massive cuts in service maintenance, police, and customer service. Wallet Hub just
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came out with their list of thebest and worst cities for women based on
the median earnings for female workers,the quality of women's hospitals, and also
the number of women owned businesses.Columbia, Maryland actually tops the list as
the best city for women. Onthe opposite end, Jackson, Mississippi is
the worst, and Costco is offeringmembers access to medical care through a deal
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with an online marketplace Sesame. Costcomembers will be able to access online primary
care visits for twenty nine dollars andmental health visits for seventy nine dollars.
Forecast for today, cloudy skies withsome sun peeking through. Highs in the
upper sixties right now, fifty sixand Alexandria, thank you for the news
this morning there at Chili, MrTilby napp. That's mean you found ninety
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seven point one HFM at eight oheight. We're Tilby in Chilian in the
morning and coming up. There's anotherterm that's floating around the internet, Oh
things. Are you familiar with beinganti ghosted? I know you've probably hear
about being ghosted. Oh so thisis not Halloween related. No, there's
nothing, no, no, no, no, this is not it's October.
We're still in September. But antighosted is a thing, and if
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you don't know what it is,we'll talk about it coming up in a
few minutes. Stay right there andmaybe if you do know and you want
to jump into the conversation, it'seasy. Talk back Mike tap speak SINDWASHFM
dot com. Listen, we'll beback in a few Tilby Untilly in the
morning at eight twenty five, PrettyScale is in the room with us because
once again we found something very coolon the internet we wanted to talk with
you about this morning at eight sixsixty nine two seven forty three sixty one.
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Have you ever been anti ghosted?Are you familiar with this term?
We most people know what ghosting is. Yeah, when you're totally ignored by
somebody that you may have gone outwith a few times. Well, now
the new trend is to be antighosted. Like is that being well?
If I if okay? So seeingyou and I are dating, right and
I'm like, hey, Chili,we've gone out on a couple of dates.
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It was fun, but I'm justnot that into you. I'm maybe
I'm not ready for a relationship rightnow. That's a good thing. Anti
ghosted, then, is the waymature adults should community. I should think
so, and I tend to agree, especially as somebody who's ghosted and anti
ghosted before. I mean, faceproducer, what's wrong? It sounds mature,
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But and I like to do theanti ghosting if I'm not feeling the
sparks between me and my date.Okay, but I would honestly rather you
ghost me. What is ignore me? Yeah? But there's no closure.
Then you're just like, I'm wonderingwhat happened? Did he lose his phone?
What did I say? Did Ido something? No? It's just
can you imagine going on a datewith someone. You guys are doing pleasantries
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up, Oh we had a goodtime. Weould do this again, and
they're like, no, no,no, let me stop you right there,
I'm not really feeling anything, butI wish you'd best of luck.
And I would say thank you fornot ghosting me. No, yeah right,
thank you? No no no,because here's the thing. At least
you've put me in my place,and I know the place late, but
you know, and I know thatit's easier said than done, becau as
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affairs of the heart are always complicatedand I can get awkward. But you
know, if you ghost to me, I'm gonna sit there and think I
did something wrong, that I'm horriblethat you cheated, that something didn't go
right. But if you anti ghostme, like, I'm like, you
know what, that's great, thankyou very much. We had a good
time. But I can move on. Yeah, But either way, I'm
gonna dwell on it. If youtell me why it's not gonna work out,
well, why couldn't he overlook mypersonality? Or if he doesn't tell
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me anything it disappears, I'm stillgonna wonder I could but I could see
that anti ghosting someone in some wayscould backfire, like if you said why
you didn't want to be with themanymore and they try to get all defensive
and try to talk you out ofit like that. Just oh, this
is why i'd rather the affairs isa heart thing. That's how I get
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that. But you know what,though, the bottom line is this,
and I know it stinks, Iwould rather you just tell me, because
why do you want me to wasteour time. You know what I'm like
like for real, If this ain'tgonna go nowhere, you're gonna waste my
time regardless. Honest take notes usinto producer kaylab don't say anything right.
I hope she gets the hint.And if you need to explore the anti
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ghosting thing, you can do sothe Toby and Chili page atwashfm dot com.
What more Toby and Chilly head overtowshfm dot com or the iHeartRadio app
Toby and Chili Mornings on Demand onninety seven point one WASHM. My adrenaline
is going. It's just out ofcontrol this mon mine and I haven't even
had coffee. I mean, justwhat the heck I'm like, I'm still
like shook it. I don't evenknow if that's even the right word,
but it's definitely some stress. Sothis morning Chili by the way, ninety
(00:21):
seven point one wash FM, We'reToby and Chilian in the morning. I'm
leaving my place and you know,it's kind of like just autumn pilot.
You know, you get up inthe morning and yeah, a lot of
people aren't up when we're up andgetting out of the house. Right.
Well, now, we were talkingabout your new car and the tech and
how some of the tech was bothersometo you because it's just too much.
(00:43):
Well the tech, yeah, likethe warning stuff when you get too close
to the car in front of you. It's beeping, it's vibrating, it's
doing all the things. Well,in the last two hours, I will
tell you I was saved from almosthitting a parked car next to mine that
is never there by that car notseen a parked car because it was a
dark suv that was backed in.It was dark out, there's no like
(01:04):
light like, so I didn't seeit. And by the way, I'm
not used to anything being there becausethe woman who has that garage, she
parks inside the garage. Were youwere backing out? Yeah, I was,
So I'm backing out, Okay,I thought you were just driving.
No no, no, no nono no no. I'm backing out on
my way to work. And I'mlike, all of a sudden, my
alarm just starts with the proximity alarmgoes off and it's like goes glows red,
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and I'm like I look over andI'm like, oh my god,
there's a car there there. AndI am literally like a hair away from
totally taking out the driver's side,like you know, the driver's side,
front and second door, because like, I'm like backing out and I'm not
used to it being there. AndI thank god nothing happened, or I
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would not be here right now.I would be busy dealing with the City
of Rockville police funding reports and apologizingto something. Oh you just leave a
note. I mean, you know, if you're driving, if your car's
still drivable, you just leave anote and say sorry, I'm at work.
I'll be back. Here's even talkingabout it's making my heart race.
All right, Well, let's stoptalking in one of those mornings. Let's
talk about something more fun coming upin a few minutes as we get into
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this Wednesday morning. Suits, Ohmy god, on Netflix to come to
the public pressure. We're all collectivelylate to the game. But there's a
reason why. And we'll talk aboutsuits coming up in a few All right,
let's talk about Suits. The TVshow that made Megan Markle famous.
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Well, did that show make herfamous? I don't know. Sob and
Chilly in the morning on ninety sevenpoint one wash up and producer Kala's in
the room, so chilly you've jumpedinto binging suits and it's it's ironic because
it unbeknownst to me at the samesort of time, because of buzz online
that's what it was. Started watchingit on Netflix as well. It was
(03:01):
released on netwik Netwix, Netflix,not recently recently, and everyone's like,
oh, it's such a good show. Now you said, oh, it
made her famous. No, Ididn't know who she was until she and
Harry got together. And maybe I'min the minority. Did producer Kayla Had
you heard of Megan Marko before?I only started watching it when she's got
married or engaged to Harry. Letme check it out. Everyone keeps missing
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She's in this show called Suits,And I gotta say, like, I
don't know that. I hate toadmit this, but it's a really good
show. It. Oh no,it's a good show. I just that's
the surprising thing to me is thatthis show first debuted in twenty eleven.
It's I know, and there's like, what six season. I don't even
know how many seasons there are?Seven season. I'm only two into it,
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but I mean I'm binging it asmuch as I can every day.
And she's not bad in it.I mean, she wasn't like a really
bad actress or anything like that.I'm just surprised. I assume the show
stopped because she left. Is thatnot they did, but they did try
to go on without her for oneseason, But even before that season,
it was getting kind of rough.Yeah, season two, we pulled the
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plug on it in twenty nineteen.But don't say too much, guys,
because I'm like, you know,me with my ADHD, I'm plugging through
it as best as I can.We're not giving away at spoiler. We're
not going to spoil anything because Idon't want anything to be spoiled either.
I'm just I think about like herrole now versus like in life, versus
her acting, and I don't know, like is a part of me thinks,
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you know, she could have stuckto the acting. Maybe that's what
she's missing. I think she's missingthat, I really do. I think
a lot of this issue is hertrying to get back into the business.
Why did she have to walk awayfrom it again? Oh? Because I
think the royal duties that allow herto be in both worlds, so she
had to retire. Well she's nolonger a working member of the royal family.
Yeah, it's time to get backon set. The writer strikes over.
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It makes me like her a littlebit more, at least knowing that
she had this other talent. Yeahwow, yeah, but who knews it's
a thing? Are you binging eightsix ninety seven forty three sixty one call
us tell us your thoughts on itthis early morning and stay there. A
producer. Kayla is also going tohang out for a few because she's going
to inspire us with her morning mindset, coming up with a quote that's hopefully
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going to get us all to agreat headspace. Stay there, find that
morning inspiration. Good morning, She'llbe in Chilly on a Wednesday morning,
ninety seven point one Wash FM andproducer Kayla is here with her morning mindset.
This is when we pause and listento a quote that she's found so
that we can start our day ina positive note. Yeah, today's quote
says we either make ourselves miserable orwe make ourselves strong. The amount of
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work is the same, the sameamount of energy and effort we used to
dwell, which I find can bethe easier reactions to difficult things. Can
be used instead to find a positivespin on negative experiences because if you think
positively, I bet the results willbe more positive. If you'll react to
the situation better and you'll look forwardto getting over a lot faster rather than
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just dwelling on it. So let'stake a beat today, and if something
challenging comes across your path, let'sthink positive about it and figure out a
way around it. But I willread the quote one more time, and
it says, we either make ourselvesa miserable or we make ourselves strong.
The amount of work is the same, and you can find that quote or
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you can share your own using hashtagMorning Mindset on the Toby and Chilly page
at washfm dot com. All right, thank you producer, Kayla, good
morning. I'm Toby nap Chilimar.You've got some entertainment news on the way
for us coming up. What's up? It is officially over. We're talking
about the writers strike. Everyone's goingto go back to work, not the
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actors. But we've got more detailson the deal that they struck coming up
in just a few day. Rightthere. We'll get you up to speed,
all right, and thanks for wakingup ninety seven point one WASHFF.
All right, so tell us allabout this writer's strike that's done that apparently
ended early ninety seven point one WATCHFM, like literally hours ago. We're till
be in Chile the morning. Whatyou got for still well, it lasts
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at one hundred and forty eight daysand the writers are going back to work.
The Writer's Guild of America. Theyreached an agreement with producers and this
includes increased health and pension contribution rates, minimum rate increases and also protects them
against artificial intelligence, among many otherpoints that they were going for while Britney
Spears was dancing with knives that sheclaimed we're fake on Instagram. Her mother
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is working as a substitute teacher.That's right. Lynn Spears reportedly struggling to
pay her bills after her complicated relationshipwith Britney seriously impacted her finances. You
know, Britney had been funding herparents during the conservatorship, which as we
know, ended two years ago.Shaquira needs to get a new accountant,
good lord. She has been chargedyet again with tax fraud in Spain.
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This time she's accused of not payingseven point one million dollars in taxes in
twenty eighteen by a corporate network intax havens. This comes two months before
she's about to be tried in Barcelonafor a separate case where she allegedly failed
to pay fifteen million dollars in taxesbetween twenty twelve and twenty fourteen. Taylor
Swift's upcoming Era's Tour documentary is nowgoing to be getting a global release now.
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The film was originally only going tobe debuting in North America, but
yesterday she said it is going tobe opening globally the same day, which,
by the way, if you haven'tmarked your calendars, October thirteenth,
and the Golden Globes Awards are goingto be featuring two new categories this year.
Awards for Best Cinematic and Box OfficeAchievement and Best Performance in Stand Up
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Comedy on Television are going to behanded out at the ceremony in January.
And that is your showbizbuns. Goodstuff. And by the way, for
even more entertainment news on demand throughthe day, just REFRESHWASHFM dot com because
we have like these people who doall this stuff online all day and they
refresh often. It's just it's crazyhow fast they are. Shelley, stay
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there at Top Stories at the topof the hour, on the way in
just a few minutes. It's ninetyseven point one WASHFMDC Good Wednesday morn Top
Stories, Top of the Hour.A judge's rule that former President Trump and
his company are liable for fraud ina lawsuit that was brought by the New
York Attorney General's office. The judgefound that Trump made false and misleading valuations
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for his real estate assets over theyears to secure loans and insurance steals.
Two people, including a teenager wereshot and killed in separate incidents in DC
yesterday, marking over two hundred homicidesin the city so far this year.
The first victim had just left DunbarHigh School, and then an hour later
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a man was shot when he wascaught in crossfire of people who were firing
from two vehicles. Baltimore police aresearching for a suspect in the killing of
a young tech entrepreneur. Thirty twoyear old Jason Billingsley is now wanted for
first degree murder in connection with thedeath of Pava Lepere. The twenty six
year old's body was found Monday inher apartment. New figures show that students
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in Arlington schools those who face disciplinaryaction are at a higher rate, and
they continue to be minority and malestudents. Officials are now considering behavioral programs
for middle school grades and also someindividual programs could be developed. Further,
seems that some Americans are having kidsdue to social pressures and fear of missing
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out, and then they end upregretting that decision. Researchers found that seven
percent of parents in the US saythey would not have kids if they have
to do it over again. Forecastfor today cloudy with some sun peeking out
later. Highs in the upper sixties. Right now it is sixty degrees and
gathers. Oh yes, and that'sthe news at six oh three. Here
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at ninety seven point one wash FMon this Wednesday, September twenty seven.
By the way, happy twenty fifthbirthday to Google. Coming up with Toby
and Chili in the Morning, momMath. Have you heard of this,
Chili? I mean, you're amom. If it's algebra, I don't
want to even think about it.I don't think it has anything to do
with trigonometry or any of those classesthat still cause us grief that we had
to take back in high school.But mom math is apparently a thing and
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will examine what this is. Comingup in less than twenty minutes. It's
Toby and Chili in the Morning,continued Toby and Chili in the Morning at
six twenty on this Wednesday, Septembertwenty seven, ninety seven point one one,
Chef, and thanks for working upwith us. I'm a dad,
Chili, you're a mom. I'vebecome fascinated by something I saw on the
internet called mom math. A momTikToker says that this mom math is a
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thing, and apparently she works backwardsin time to prepare, prepare to do
anything out of the house when itcomes to her kids. So when she's
calculating arriving somewhere by a certain time, she has to factor in how long
it takes the kids to do certainYeah, like if you need to be
someplace at nine, if the kidsgot school at nine, that means that
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the kid needs to be up byseven, Yes, breakfast by seven fifteen,
clothed by seven forty five, outthe door by eight. If you're
taking the bus, you have tocatch it at a certain time. So
she called time management, isn't it. I mean that's just what every human
we do for ourselves, I hope. Like when you have to go to
work or an appointment or a meeting, now you have to factor in the
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kid things. So I don't knowthat it's a mom math. It's a
parent math. I'll give you that, right. Yeah, So you don't,
you don't. You don't subscribe tothe theory that mom math is a
thing. You think it's just awell it's my meeting. But it definitely,
I mean they gave it a name, right, they gave it a
name to call it mom math,and it certainly could derail your day because
being responsible for yourself is one thing, but now you're expecting these other humans
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in your life to do things ina efficient way. I didn't even realize
there was like an algebraic equation toit all. And let's see, and
my job is what nineteen almost twentyin college now and I didn't even think
of this. Now, I willsay admittedly I did almost get in trouble
taking her to fifth grade a bunchat Richie Park because in the mo co
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hod because well, you know,you're running well you know Toby time was
a thing. Well, and that'sthe problem because you weren't good at time
management for yourself, so it washard for you to then incord, I'm
not saying that kids. It's toughdad with a daughter and getting ready,
and I get that, and letthe whole pas I have. Well,
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well, that hall pass is goodonce maybe twice. But in social things
or like appointments and stuff, youcan only say, oh, you know,
we're late because of the kids,once or twice, because at some
point, knowing your kids, you'regonna have to build in that time,
which is where this math comes infor anything that could go sideways. All
right, if you're if you're notgoing to do that, then well then
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you're just gonna be late forever.The way do we make it sound is
entirely too stressful. So I willsee this when it comes to be late
night when I couldn't use kids.I have to get to get a daughter
ready to go in the morning,right, and then I would just turn
to Toby time. The concept ofToby time. Hey, Toby time five
minutes in any direction. Toby time. What disrespectful? That's what that is.
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Show up whatever you want, That'swhat I call it. That was
not my intent, Chilima, it'snot my intent to disrespect. It's just
a thing. It's just a thing. Toby and Chili's nearly impossible questions.
You're gonna read more about mom mathToby and Chili pagetwashim dot com. What's
the questions? Eight percent of Americansthink the drivers would be safer if they
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used this in their car. Whatis it if they never used this?
I should say, yeah, Sogo ahead with the question again. Eight
percent of Americans think drivers would besafer if they never used this feature in
their car. All right, Well, if you like Ava, we've got
a chance for you to take ticketsright now to go and see a tribute
to Ava at the NGM National Harbor. It's October first, thanks to Live
Nation, their tickets up for grabs. If you can answer that question,
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do you want to ask it onemore time? Right now? Eight percent
of Americans think drivers would be saferif they never used this in their car.
What is it? You got thequestion? Eight six, nine,
seven forty three sixty one, callnow, provided it's safe for you to
do so, get it right andwin Toby and Chili's nearly impossible questions.
Diana and Gaithersburg, good morning,Thanks for hanging on the line to play.
Here comes the question for you again. Eight percent of Americans think drivers
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would be safer if they didn't usethis in their car. What is it?
It is as oh wow, theglobal positioning satellite which gets you from
place to place. Why do youthink the navigation would make it unsafe for
some people? Diana? I thinkit's can be distractions. Well, that's
(15:39):
a good point. Anything that ittakes your eyes off the road or screams
at you for going the wrong way, or tells you recalculating force, or
even sends you in a place thatdoes exist anymore. Oh yeah, I
have no comment on I might havegone down some Yeah. Oh lord,
that's not good especially No. Yeah, well that's an interesting guests, a
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great guest. It's also the correctanswer. Congratulations to you. You're going
to National Harbor MGM National Harbor tosee the concerts a tribute to AB October
first. Oh, thank you somuch. You're welcome. Now, Please,
wherever you're going this morning, don'tlet the navigation distract it. Driving
toward no navigation. Right on,ma'am. We'll enjoy and thank you for
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playing. Congrats on the wind,and stay right there so we can get
some information from you. Diana andGaithersburg. Congratulations again. More tickets for
free for you tomorrow morning with anotherround of our nearly Impossible Question Top Stories
at the top of the Hour.You are minutes away from the News DC.
It's ninety seven point one HFM hangOut Top Stories Top of the Hour.
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A short term funding bill is advancingin the Senate to avoid a government
shutdown. To bipartisan bill would keepfederal money flowing till mid November to give
Congress more time for a long termpackage. Now it's not clear if the
Republican Ladhouse is going to approve thedeal. DC police officials say that lacks
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security procedures led to that deadly shootingat Crew In nightclub last weekend, which
is why the business has been shutdown. The suspect was able to bring
a handgun into the club. Notknown how long it is going to remain
closed. A team was shot andkilled near Dunbar High School in Northwest DC
after school yesterday, marking the city'stwo hundredth homicide of the year. The
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chairman of the DC Police Union blamesthe spike in homicides on what he calls
the DC Council's implementation of misguided policereform legislation. Catholic University in the district
has added a new layer of securityfor students, teachers, and staff by
creating a new Office of Emergency Management. The goal is to better respond to
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emergencies, which include improved communications,sheltering in place, and evacuation of buildings.
Drivers in Arlington County must now cometo a complete stop for pedestrians in
crosswalks. Finds of at least onehundred dollars will be assessed. The previous
rule only required that drivers yield tothose in the crosswalk. And according to
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a new report, preteens and teenagersare being inundated by phone alerts and notifications
all day long, even when they'rein school. Half the kids eleven to
seventeen receive about two hundred thirty sevennotifications a day. Forecast for today,
cloudy skies. The sun will bepeaking out now and then highs around sixty
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eight right now sixty degrees in heights. I have a feeling it's not just
those kids in school Chili. Ithink it's the adults too. They get
all these notifications. I would loveto see that number. There's some people
who like live and breathe by notifications. They're currently off. Thanks for the
news seven o six at ninety sevenpoint one HFM. Hey coming up in
a few minutes now the Chicot's TopStories at the top of the hour.
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I want to talk about this termI saw on TikTok Chili. It's it's
de lulu. It's de lulu,the slulu for you. Lots of people
are talking about this from Forbes magazine, Tomashable, what does de Lulu even
mean, have you heard this word? We'll get into it coming up in
just minutes of Toby and Chili inthe Morning continues to stay right there,
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seven twenty five Toby and Chili inthe Morning at netty seven point one wash
FM eight six six ninety seven fortythree sixty one. Feel free to jump
into the conversation. Producer Kayla isin here for this because she's our digital
guru. She is all things TikTok, the Internet of Things, and I
wanted to ask you, produce,Kaila, are you aware of this new
TikTok trend that I came across theother day that is called de Lulu.
They say, de Lulu is theslulu delusion is the solution. They say,
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yes, Oh, I love beingde Lulu. I am Delulu.
I love it. What do youmean by that? Like exactly, it's
kind of like delusional. It's justhaving these really far out goals that you
don't know how you're going to getthere. But in your delusional state,
you're like, but I know I'mgonna get it. I know I'm gonna
make it. That like manifestation.Yeah, basically they just call it something
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article and on TikTok that it's agrandchild of the manifestation. Nice, but
it's something we should take seriously because, apparently, according to people who embrace
the de Lulu, de lulu canbe accompassed to helping you achieve dreams.
Yes, there's also a downside tobeing de lulu, and that is that
you may be looking or trying toachieve something that in reality is probably unachievable.
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You know what I mean, likecanditional about it. Right now,
it's unachievable, but something may happenthat nudge me closer to that. You
gotta be delusional and believe in it. Well, I call that day dreaming
producer Kayla, and we all havedaydreams, and we all have dreams,
and we all have lofty ambitions andgoals. So I get the manifestation thing
about it, But I don't knowthat being delusional is gonna help me wave
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a magic wand and a race allof Kayla, my daughter Kyla's college tuition
builds. But you could still youcould try to manifest that by putting money
away every month, like trying tolook at a path forward to that ultimate
goal. That's different. You're takingaction, You're trying to manifest my waterfront
home. I know we're frustrating Deluover here. Like my Delulu is that
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I retire by forty. I gotten years left. But for all of
our goals, maybe we're doing ourbest. But maybe something external happens,
like Kyla meets someone with a lotof money and pays off the tuition,
or maybe you win the lottery,Chili, and you get that lake house
that steps in your path, thatpushes you closer to that dream. Well,
here's my Delulu for today. I'mgoing to go next door to seven
(21:37):
to eleven. I'm some Powerball ticketsbecause it's almost a billion dollars. When
I'm gonna give y'all some of itso Chili can get her house, thank
you, so I can erase thecollege tuition. Yeah, can you see
how delusional this is? Every timewe buy a lottery ticket where Delulu.
You just gotta believe Guys, thisshow is so Delulu. We're gonna need
therapists to come in here and talkus back down to reality. We're Toby
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and Chili in the morning. Hey, if you want to learn more about
the de Lulu craze, Toby andChili pagewshf dot com. Here's some delulu
guys that I got to run byboth of you. I delusionally was going
to shave and make a major facialhair change, and then I stopped myself
because of the two of you.What did we do well? I'll tell
you about that coming up. Tobyand Chili in the Morning continues saying I
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almost called her Taylor Kelsey too soonseven forty ninety seven point one WASHFM.
We're Toby and Chili in the Morningat eight six six nine two seven forty
three sixty one. Chili, Youand Caleb popped into my mind yesterday when
I was doing some self care.What no, don't it's doing well.
I was, you know, takinga moment to do some man maintenance on
my face. Normally I just goto the barber or to another barbershop and
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have them do it every couple ofweeks. But you know, I decided
yesterday I was like, gonna takea moment to just kind of clean myself
up, shave myself, took anafternoon shower, felt really really good.
Then I looked in the mirror andI heard a conversation in my I had
that you and myself and producer Kaylawere having about Travis Kelsey, who shaved
his face recently and he's been allover the news, and well, let's
just say the maid is not rocka mustache very well. And that made
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me go full stop on any furthershaving. So all I it was cleaning
up and leave the rest of thesaid, Travis Kelsey doesn't look good in
a mustache, and it looks likean adult film star. You've never You've
never had the mustache, so rightnow, the way your face is,
you've got a beard, but thehair is along your jaw line. What
were you trying to do yesterday?A mustache or something else. I thought
(23:33):
about getting rid of the stuff onthe side of my face that kind of
runs up. It's kind of like, you know, bushy and quasi beardy,
but it's out of control and itlooks like the flying Nun to me.
But I stopped myself chilly because I'mafraid that it won't grow back right,
and I know that it does not. This is very This is very
hard for me to talk about asa guy, but I'm just gonna be
(23:56):
honest with you. I worry aboutmy facial hair because I don't know how
long it will take for it togrow back, And I don't remember how
long it took for me to growthis out to begin with, and so
I'm worried that if I make achange, it won't be something that well,
we'll just grow back in a coupleof days, like somebody like my
husband could grow a goatee in threedays. It's truth. Your husband is
exactly that's an excellent point on socialmedia. Your husband he rocks the five
(24:18):
o'clock shadow well. I don't rocka five o'clock shadow well at all.
So if you try to change thisbeard situation into a goatee and somehow messed
it up or nicked it or whatever, I don't know how long it would
take for it to get back tonormal, and so you'd be in this
weird limbo. I look at myselfin the mirror and be very embarrassed.
It's kind of like, imagine ifyou were to go and try to do
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something radical with your hair, alittle bit step out of your comfort zone,
and you don't know how long it'sgoing to take ford to get back
to normal because you didn't rock whatit ended up, So instead of you
doing it, yourself. You probablyhave to go back to have a professional
because I guess try to take forgranted. I just assume men can note
they know how to trim up andshape their own facial hair. I guess
that's maybe some do, But Iam not that No, not at all.
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I've screwed it up before. Happenedwhen we were in the shutdown.
And you know what, I lovemy bar even though I haven't seen him
in a minute. But anyway,so I don't know. But if you
think it'd be okay if I wenthome and shaping, ah, yeah,
Well you know, producer Kayla cameup with some different looks she created on
a social media with your face,so you can go look to see the
different facial hair options and actually voteon it if you want it. So
(25:27):
if I just let it go andI came in like number six, all
bush and looking like I've been inthe woods, would that be okay with
you? Oh? My god?I check it out. I find us
on Insta. You can just searchfor us or get to WASHFM dot com.
Check then Toby in Chili page.Need the news that's coming up in
minutes. It's Toby and Chili inthe Morning continues with Top stories at the
top of the hour. Stay therein Chili, thanks for the input.
(25:48):
Top Stories Top of the Hour.The Senate has voted to advance a short
term funding bill to avoid a governmentshutdown. The measure, released yesterday would
keep the money flowing until mid Novemberso that Congress would have more time for
a long term package. Still don'tknow if the Republican led House is going
to end up approving it. Ajudge has ruled that former President Trump and
his company are liable for fraud ina lawsuit brought by the New York Attorney
(26:15):
General's office. The judge found thatTrump made false and misleading valuations for his
real estate assets over the years tosecure loans and insurance deals. Two people,
including a teenager, were shot andkilled in separate incidents in DC yesterday,
marking over two hundred homicides in thecity so far this year. The
first victim had just left Dunbar HighSchool. Than an hour later, a
(26:37):
man was shot when he was caughtin the crossfire of people firing from two
vehicles. Metro's got to make somereally significant decisions on how it closes a
looming seven hundred fifty million dollar budgetshortfall. Now the potential solution would be
massive cuts in service maintenance, police, and customer service. Wallet Hub just
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came out with their list of thebest and worst cities for women based on
the median earnings for female workers,the quality of women's hospitals, and also
the number of women owned businesses.Columbia, Maryland actually tops the list as
the best city for women. Onthe opposite end, Jackson, Mississippi is
the worst, and Costco is offeringmembers access to medical care through a deal
(27:26):
with an online marketplace Sesame. Costcomembers will be able to access online primary
care visits for twenty nine dollars andmental health visits for seventy nine dollars.
Forecast for today, cloudy skies withsome sun peeking through. Highs in the
upper sixties right now, fifty sixand Alexandria, thank you for the news
this morning there at Chili, MrTilby napp. That's mean you found ninety
(27:48):
seven point one HFM at eight oheight. We're Tilby in Chilian in the
morning and coming up. There's anotherterm that's floating around the internet, Oh
things. Are you familiar with beinganti ghosted? I know you've probably hear
about being ghosted. Oh so thisis not Halloween related. No, there's
nothing, no, no, no, no, this is not it's October.
We're still in September. But antighosted is a thing, and if
(28:08):
you don't know what it is,we'll talk about it coming up in a
few minutes. Stay right there andmaybe if you do know and you want
to jump into the conversation, it'seasy. Talk back Mike tap speak SINDWASHFM
dot com. Listen, we'll beback in a few Tilby Untilly in the
morning at eight twenty five, PrettyScale is in the room with us because
once again we found something very coolon the internet we wanted to talk with
you about this morning at eight sixsixty nine two seven forty three sixty one.
(28:30):
Have you ever been anti ghosted?Are you familiar with this term?
We most people know what ghosting is. Yeah, when you're totally ignored by
somebody that you may have gone outwith a few times. Well, now
the new trend is to be antighosted. Like is that being well?
If I if okay? So seeingyou and I are dating, right and
I'm like, hey, Chili,we've gone out on a couple of dates.
(28:52):
It was fun, but I'm justnot that into you. I'm maybe
I'm not ready for a relationship rightnow. That's a good thing. Anti
ghosted, then, is the waymature adults should community. I should think
so, and I tend to agree, especially as somebody who's ghosted and anti
ghosted before. I mean, faceproducer, what's wrong? It sounds mature,
(29:14):
But and I like to do theanti ghosting if I'm not feeling the
sparks between me and my date.Okay, but I would honestly rather you
ghost me. What is ignore me? Yeah? But there's no closure.
Then you're just like, I'm wonderingwhat happened? Did he lose his phone?
What did I say? Did Ido something? No? It's just
can you imagine going on a datewith someone. You guys are doing pleasantries
(29:37):
up, Oh we had a goodtime. Weould do this again, and
they're like, no, no,no, let me stop you right there,
I'm not really feeling anything, butI wish you'd best of luck.
And I would say thank you fornot ghosting me. No, yeah right,
thank you? No no no,because here's the thing. At least
you've put me in my place,and I know the place late, but
you know, and I know thatit's easier said than done, becau as
(30:00):
affairs of the heart are always complicatedand I can get awkward. But you
know, if you ghost to me, I'm gonna sit there and think I
did something wrong, that I'm horriblethat you cheated, that something didn't go
right. But if you anti ghostme, like, I'm like, you
know what, that's great, thankyou very much. We had a good
time. But I can move on. Yeah, But either way, I'm
gonna dwell on it. If youtell me why it's not gonna work out,
well, why couldn't he overlook mypersonality? Or if he doesn't tell
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me anything it disappears, I'm stillgonna wonder I could but I could see
that anti ghosting someone in some wayscould backfire, like if you said why
you didn't want to be with themanymore and they try to get all defensive
and try to talk you out ofit like that. Just oh, this
is why i'd rather the affairs isa heart thing. That's how I get
(30:44):
that. But you know what,though, the bottom line is this,
and I know it stinks, Iwould rather you just tell me, because
why do you want me to wasteour time. You know what I'm like
like for real, If this ain'tgonna go nowhere, you're gonna waste my
time regardless. Honest take notes usinto producer kaylab don't say anything right.
I hope she gets the hint.And if you need to explore the anti
(31:07):
ghosting thing, you can do sothe Toby and Chili page atwashfm dot com.
What more Toby and Chilly head overtowshfm dot com or the iHeartRadio app
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