8/31 Crazy First Dates! - Julie's Date Left Out Some Crucial Information

Certain pieces of information should be shared wayyyy before the first date.

Episode Transcript

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It's Toby and Chilli crazy first date. She's from one of the most beautiful
places in the DMV Alexandria. Hello, Julie, Welcome. How are you
this morning? Hi? I'm great. How are you guys? I'm so
excited to talk to you. We'reready to hear this crazy first date story.
Chili and I are listening. Sotake us on this adventure. I
had matched up with this guy.I was using an app. We are

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chatting, we are having really greatconversations, texting back and forth, and
I was like, this guy soundsreally sweet. We even did like a
phone conversation, and then we decidedto like meet up and go out for
dinner. And I'm like, Ihate going on on daysis because sometimes it's
like, oh, you know,you have to get dressers, this whole
process whatever. But I was like, this guy made me feel super comfortable.
And so I see and I waslike, oh, thank gosh.
He looks exactly like Kapota, whichis also like one of the big concerns.

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He opens the door to the restaurant, we go in, We're having
really great conversation, and about liketwenty five minutes into the date, he
like puts his hands on the tableand like crosses his fingers. I'm like,
oh, what is that. He'slike, what is that a wedding
room? Oh? God? Hegoes yeah. And I said, uh,
are you married or getting a divorce. He's like, no, I'm
married. I said, what areyou doing here? Oh? And he

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goes, well, my wife wasoverseas And I said aunt, and he
goes, well, we agreed toit. And I'm looking at him.
It was like, why didn't youtell me? And he goes, well,
I figured you wouldn't come out onthis date with me. I don't
have too many deal breakers, butI'm like, man, this is a
lot of them, like you cannotbe married. We're in a relationship.
And so then I was like,this state is over. I was like,
it was great meeting you. Iwas like, I recommend you tell

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any future people you decide to goon a date with that you're married.
Yeah. Unds to me like therewas not a second date. But had
he been up front with you andsaid to you something like hey, we're
like in an open relationship, wouldthat have changed things? No, Like,
she never told me that in anyof the conversations, Like he made
it sound like he was completely singleon I mean like I never directly asked

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him because I didn't feel like Ineeded to be like, hey, are
you not married? Right exactly,And it didn't matter to you that his
wife was okay with it, becauseat the end of the day, you're
not cool with such an arrangement,exactly. Well, we hope that it
didn't discourage you from ever swiping again, hoping to meet somebody else that is
truly single. It helped me preparemyself with questions I should probably ask people
because I don't know what people arehave TV things. It's true, some

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things you shouldn't have to ask about. They should just come up, you
know, like upfront. Yeah,and upfront means like before you get together,
not just before the appetizer, rightexactly. That's so true. So
you're dating again, Julie, Isthat the first question or the second question
you ask now after you match withsomebody? Yeah? No, I actually
am in a relationship now, Andit was like one of the first questions

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I asked. I was like,Hey, it's great to meet you.
Are you married? Here's why ninetyseven point one watch at Them with Toby
and Chilly in the morning