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(00:03):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Frend Show. Hey Sean,
good morning, welcome to the show. Hey, thanks for having me
guys. So what's going on withthis woman? Minka? That's not I
made me here very often, Minka. So how did you mean tell us
about any dates that you've been onand then what's going on now? Well,
we haven't been on any dates yet, that's the problem. But we
met at the club and we dancedall night together, and she was super
(00:27):
hot, and I just I thought, you know, sparks were flying and
everything, and you know, westarted texting because we've exchanged numbers at the
club, and we were planning ourdates and whatnot, and we were getting
really excited. And then all ofa sudden, she just stopped like she
was ghosted me. And here I'mjust like, well, what's going on
here? That guys was electric onthe dance floor all night. Yeah.
(00:50):
I just the visual in my headis, I don't know, like you
doing the I don't grease dance.Yeah, Like the dance floor had like
different colors and I don't know whythis is my visual of shun right now.
Yeah, and then Minka like theireyes met from across the room.
And then it was choreography. Youknow, they both knew it exactly.
Yeah, yeah, they just theyknew how to dance. They knew how
(01:11):
to move each other's body. Andyeah, I mean you guys, you
guys know like the you know,the fishing move, you know where she's
across to dance. You know,if you did that and she still gave
you her number, then you mustyou must be a very good looking man
or something. We're very charismatic.But um so this woman she gave you
(01:34):
her number, but yet she's notresponding to you, and so you want
to know why. Well, Imean, she was responding to me at
first. That's the thing. It'slike, well, are we gonna get
drinks or are we gonna go outdinner? Are we gonna, you know,
do dinner? In a move likewhat are we gonna do? And
then all of a sudden, liketwo or three techs in, she's just
like dad radio stylence and she disappears. Okay, so let's see if we
(01:56):
can get her on the phone,and we're gonna call Minka. You'll be
on the phone as well. Let'stry and get some info for you.
At some point you're welcome to jumpin and you know, hopefully we can
straighten this out and set you guysup on another date that we pay for.
All right, Oh that sounds great. Thanks. You've got to hear
what happens next Part two of waitingabout the phone after see us in two
minutes. The French Show is commercialfree for the next forty minutes. You
don't have to go anywhere. Sew'son the commercial free Fred Show. Good
(02:19):
morning, Hey Sean, Yeah,all right, welcome back. Let's call
Minka. You guys met at theclub and I don't know, you can
sort of vibed in the club andyou were dancing, having a great time.
She gave you her number. Youtexted her a couple of times.
There was a dialogue, but thenit stopped completely. And you want to
know why. Yeah, because Ididn't do anything wrong at the club and
(02:40):
I thought, I thought, youknow, it was it was gonna go
somewhere. Okay, all right,so let's see if we can figure out
what's up. Good luck, Sean, Thank you. Hello. Hi is
this Minka yesterday? Hi Minka.My name is Fred. I'm calling for
(03:00):
the French Show. It's a radioprogram and I have to tell you that
we are on the radio right now, and I would need your permission to
continue. Is that okay if wechat for just a second on the air.
Um? Yeah, sure, Well, thank you very much. I'm
not sure if you've heard this before, but it's it's called waiting by the
phone, and we're trying to figureout why you're not responding to a guy
(03:22):
named Sean who says he meant youhad a I had a bout a club
and and you gave him your numberand I guess you texted briefly, but
then you stopped. Yeah, yeah, right, So he reached out to
us and he was I guess superinto you and was hoping that it would
go somewhere and says, it's notso what happened? Why aren't you texting
him back? Um? I don'tyou know? It's just like an work
(03:46):
out? What does that mean though, because well, we gotta tell him
why it didn't work out. That'swhat we're trying to do is offer him
some closure. I mean, howdoes it go from here's my number,
you know, we hung out allnight to now I don't want to talk
to you anymore. Um, Imean, I just I you know,
I figured something out about him,and then it just doesn't It just didn't
(04:10):
really vibe with, well, nowwhat I'm going for. You cannot just
leave it there. What did youfind out about him? We're all on
the edge of our seats. Um, I mean, okay, UM,
well I just I found so.I my best friend was on Grinder,
(04:32):
which, if you know Grinder,it's for gay men, and Sean had
a profile on there and it waslike the same photos, name, age,
everything, like it was him.And I totally respect that. Um,
and you know, I loved thatfor him, but I don't need
(04:53):
to be I don't think that I'mwhat he's looking. So what's the deal?
Like you showed your friend a pictureof him, like I don't know
his Instagram or something, and thenshe's like a minute, yeah, because
I was kind of excited, yeah, and I was like yeah, And
I was like, look at thisguy in ed and he was like,
oh, I he looks really familiarand they had actually like been chatting on
(05:16):
the Grinder. Yeah. Interesting,So we'll just bring in here. I'm
sorry, Mink, I forgot tomention that Seohn. I'm so forgetful,
but Sean Grinder let's tell me,tell me more, tell I don't know
what there is to tell. Idon't know what you're talking about me.
Oh oh, so you're not onGrinder? I mean I was your profile?
(05:40):
You don't think? So you don'tthink you're on Grinder? I mean,
would I remember if they were onGrinder? Well, yes, that's
what I would agree. I don't. I don't think I accidentally have ever
been on Grinder before? Um,so you you are or you are not
on Grinder. I mean, listen, you know people sleep, walk,
(06:00):
people sleep, but text people sleepget on Grinder? Maybe I did that.
I don't know who. So you'resaying you're like you absent mindedly created
a full profile on a on adating app in website. That's as is
an app? Is it just anapp or whatever? You it's definitely not
a dating it's definitely not a datingapp. It's not how would you know?
(06:24):
Yeah, so it's not. Okay, twenty twenty three and I understand
what what dating apps are and whatthey aren't. You do so Grinder?
So you are on Grinder, butit's not a dating app. No,
it's a hook up app. Butoh oh my bad, So you are
on ger to hook up with men. So we've gotten that far. We're
(06:46):
acknowledging that. I mean, look, I am an opportunist. I'll tell
you that right now. I Iwas curious some friends were telling me that,
you know, they had a goodtime on there at I got drunk
one nine and I made a profile. Is that an issue? Like?
Ill gay? Oh you're not?What's here's the thing? Nobody nobody cares
(07:10):
like. It's fine, there's yeah, there's no reason for amount that thinking.
You pair. Oh, I mean, I'm happy for you, Sean,
but I don't need to be partof your journey. Mean, I
it's a scrim grinder, has nothingto do with you, and it doesn't.
(07:30):
You're right, But are you sayingare you saying you let hope for
the bisexual forty? Is that what'sgoing on? We're clearly coming out now
is bisexual, which is wonderful,but everyone everyone runs the spectrum. They
had tons of movies about it.Right, Nobody is fully gay, nobody
is fully straight. But like,are you telling me right now? Oh
(07:58):
boy? Okay, here's yeah.I don't mean interrupt you up, I'm
sorry. Here's the problem. Okay, The problem is not that you may
or may not be bisexual or whatever. Nobody cares and no one's judging you
for that will do you. Theproblem is that we went in the last
four minutes from you're not on grinder. You might be on grinder to you
(08:20):
are, but you're not dating toyou are, but you're just hooking up
to you are but you're bi curious. That's where we've gone, right last
couple of minutes. I think maybethat's her problem, is that she's not
really interested in investing in a newrelationship when you might be trying to figure
out you know a lot of otherthings. Right. Yeah, I'm maintain
(08:43):
I'm maintained monogamy. Right, soif I'm if I'm in a relationship,
I'll be in a relationship with awoman and not you know, mess around
or whatever. Tis a lot threetimes there any time of respect for people.
(09:13):
I'm just gonna say I will notbe going out with him again.
There will be no second date onyour journey. But Sean, you got
to understand journey journey. We're notkilling independent John. It's not personally.
If you're on a public forum,you have to understand that we're not trying
(09:33):
to expose you. You know thisis we're asking questions and you're it's not
a secret. Your picture is onGrinder and you put it there allegedly,
right, I mean I didn't putit there, But that's neither here nor
there. What is going on?I think I think grinder's his main when
(09:54):
he stumbled onto hinge or whatever.You know what I'm saying, he's got
this reverse who knows what his manehis side into. He's not a dance
floor, like what is just goinfernover? You do understand, Sean.
The problem is that you haven't toldthe same story twice. So that's what
I need to do. I needto start telling stories that are the same.
(10:16):
Probably, yeah, well the truthwould be great, all right,
all right, I appreciate that.I appreciate that constructive critically, is your
name even, Sean? Like arewe doing all right? Look? And
just so she's not interested, that'sthe bottom line, m Sean. Look,
I wish you the best of luck, honestly, whatever it is,
and and we support you fully andand you know, Minka is looking for
(10:37):
something else, so it's not goingto work out, guys, good luck.
I feel like he's just a littlebit intolerant, you know nowtually's intolerant
of the thing that doesn't exist.I mean, there's multiple realities, there's
multiple dimensions. Which one are wein right now? Might none of us
know? Right? It's not aMarvel movie, homie. This is not
a multiverse over here. What areyou talking about, bro,
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Frend Show. Hey Sean,
good morning, welcome to the show. Hey, thanks for having me
guys. So what's going on withthis woman? Minka? That's not I
made me here very often, Minka. So how did you mean tell us
about any dates that you've been onand then what's going on now? Well,
we haven't been on any dates yet, that's the problem. But we
met at the club and we dancedall night together, and she was super
(00:27):
hot, and I just I thought, you know, sparks were flying and
everything, and you know, westarted texting because we've exchanged numbers at the
club, and we were planning ourdates and whatnot, and we were getting
really excited. And then all ofa sudden, she just stopped like she
was ghosted me. And here I'mjust like, well, what's going on
here? That guys was electric onthe dance floor all night. Yeah.
(00:50):
I just the visual in my headis, I don't know, like you
doing the I don't grease dance.Yeah, Like the dance floor had like
different colors and I don't know whythis is my visual of shun right now.
Yeah, and then Minka like theireyes met from across the room.
And then it was choreography. Youknow, they both knew it exactly.
Yeah, yeah, they just theyknew how to dance. They knew how
(01:11):
to move each other's body. Andyeah, I mean you guys, you
guys know like the you know,the fishing move, you know where she's
across to dance. You know,if you did that and she still gave
you her number, then you mustyou must be a very good looking man
or something. We're very charismatic.But um so this woman she gave you
(01:34):
her number, but yet she's notresponding to you, and so you want
to know why. Well, Imean, she was responding to me at
first. That's the thing. It'slike, well, are we gonna get
drinks or are we gonna go outdinner? Are we gonna, you know,
do dinner? In a move likewhat are we gonna do? And
then all of a sudden, liketwo or three techs in, she's just
like dad radio stylence and she disappears. Okay, so let's see if we
(01:56):
can get her on the phone,and we're gonna call Minka. You'll be
on the phone as well. Let'stry and get some info for you.
At some point you're welcome to jumpin and you know, hopefully we can
straighten this out and set you guysup on another date that we pay for.
All right, Oh that sounds great. Thanks. You've got to hear
what happens next Part two of waitingabout the phone after see us in two
minutes. The French Show is commercialfree for the next forty minutes. You
don't have to go anywhere. Sew'son the commercial free Fred Show. Good
(02:19):
morning, Hey Sean, Yeah,all right, welcome back. Let's call
Minka. You guys met at theclub and I don't know, you can
sort of vibed in the club andyou were dancing, having a great time.
She gave you her number. Youtexted her a couple of times.
There was a dialogue, but thenit stopped completely. And you want to
know why. Yeah, because Ididn't do anything wrong at the club and
(02:40):
I thought, I thought, youknow, it was it was gonna go
somewhere. Okay, all right,so let's see if we can figure out
what's up. Good luck, Sean, Thank you. Hello. Hi is
this Minka yesterday? Hi Minka.My name is Fred. I'm calling for
(03:00):
the French Show. It's a radioprogram and I have to tell you that
we are on the radio right now, and I would need your permission to
continue. Is that okay if wechat for just a second on the air.
Um? Yeah, sure, Well, thank you very much. I'm
not sure if you've heard this before, but it's it's called waiting by the
phone, and we're trying to figureout why you're not responding to a guy
(03:22):
named Sean who says he meant youhad a I had a bout a club
and and you gave him your numberand I guess you texted briefly, but
then you stopped. Yeah, yeah, right, So he reached out to
us and he was I guess superinto you and was hoping that it would
go somewhere and says, it's notso what happened? Why aren't you texting
him back? Um? I don'tyou know? It's just like an work
(03:46):
out? What does that mean though, because well, we gotta tell him
why it didn't work out. That'swhat we're trying to do is offer him
some closure. I mean, howdoes it go from here's my number,
you know, we hung out allnight to now I don't want to talk
to you anymore. Um, Imean, I just I you know,
I figured something out about him,and then it just doesn't It just didn't
(04:10):
really vibe with, well, nowwhat I'm going for. You cannot just
leave it there. What did youfind out about him? We're all on
the edge of our seats. Um, I mean, okay, UM,
well I just I found so.I my best friend was on Grinder,
(04:32):
which, if you know Grinder,it's for gay men, and Sean had
a profile on there and it waslike the same photos, name, age,
everything, like it was him.And I totally respect that. Um,
and you know, I loved thatfor him, but I don't need
(04:53):
to be I don't think that I'mwhat he's looking. So what's the deal?
Like you showed your friend a pictureof him, like I don't know
his Instagram or something, and thenshe's like a minute, yeah, because
I was kind of excited, yeah, and I was like yeah, And
I was like, look at thisguy in ed and he was like,
oh, I he looks really familiarand they had actually like been chatting on
(05:16):
the Grinder. Yeah. Interesting,So we'll just bring in here. I'm
sorry, Mink, I forgot tomention that Seohn. I'm so forgetful,
but Sean Grinder let's tell me,tell me more, tell I don't know
what there is to tell. Idon't know what you're talking about me.
Oh oh, so you're not onGrinder? I mean I was your profile?
(05:40):
You don't think? So you don'tthink you're on Grinder? I mean,
would I remember if they were onGrinder? Well, yes, that's
what I would agree. I don't. I don't think I accidentally have ever
been on Grinder before? Um,so you you are or you are not
on Grinder. I mean, listen, you know people sleep, walk,
(06:00):
people sleep, but text people sleepget on Grinder? Maybe I did that.
I don't know who. So you'resaying you're like you absent mindedly created
a full profile on a on adating app in website. That's as is
an app? Is it just anapp or whatever? You it's definitely not
a dating it's definitely not a datingapp. It's not how would you know?
(06:24):
Yeah, so it's not. Okay, twenty twenty three and I understand
what what dating apps are and whatthey aren't. You do so Grinder?
So you are on Grinder, butit's not a dating app. No,
it's a hook up app. Butoh oh my bad, So you are
on ger to hook up with men. So we've gotten that far. We're
(06:46):
acknowledging that. I mean, look, I am an opportunist. I'll tell
you that right now. I Iwas curious some friends were telling me that,
you know, they had a goodtime on there at I got drunk
one nine and I made a profile. Is that an issue? Like?
Ill gay? Oh you're not?What's here's the thing? Nobody nobody cares
(07:10):
like. It's fine, there's yeah, there's no reason for amount that thinking.
You pair. Oh, I mean, I'm happy for you, Sean,
but I don't need to be partof your journey. Mean, I
it's a scrim grinder, has nothingto do with you, and it doesn't.
(07:30):
You're right, But are you sayingare you saying you let hope for
the bisexual forty? Is that what'sgoing on? We're clearly coming out now
is bisexual, which is wonderful,but everyone everyone runs the spectrum. They
had tons of movies about it.Right, Nobody is fully gay, nobody
is fully straight. But like,are you telling me right now? Oh
(07:58):
boy? Okay, here's yeah.I don't mean interrupt you up, I'm
sorry. Here's the problem. Okay, The problem is not that you may
or may not be bisexual or whatever. Nobody cares and no one's judging you
for that will do you. Theproblem is that we went in the last
four minutes from you're not on grinder. You might be on grinder to you
(08:20):
are, but you're not dating toyou are, but you're just hooking up
to you are but you're bi curious. That's where we've gone, right last
couple of minutes. I think maybethat's her problem, is that she's not
really interested in investing in a newrelationship when you might be trying to figure
out you know a lot of otherthings. Right. Yeah, I'm maintain
(08:43):
I'm maintained monogamy. Right, soif I'm if I'm in a relationship,
I'll be in a relationship with awoman and not you know, mess around
or whatever. Tis a lot threetimes there any time of respect for people.
(09:13):
I'm just gonna say I will notbe going out with him again.
There will be no second date onyour journey. But Sean, you got
to understand journey journey. We're notkilling independent John. It's not personally.
If you're on a public forum,you have to understand that we're not trying
(09:33):
to expose you. You know thisis we're asking questions and you're it's not
a secret. Your picture is onGrinder and you put it there allegedly,
right, I mean I didn't putit there, But that's neither here nor
there. What is going on?I think I think grinder's his main when
(09:54):
he stumbled onto hinge or whatever.You know what I'm saying, he's got
this reverse who knows what his manehis side into. He's not a dance
floor, like what is just goinfernover? You do understand, Sean.
The problem is that you haven't toldthe same story twice. So that's what
I need to do. I needto start telling stories that are the same.
(10:16):
Probably, yeah, well the truthwould be great, all right,
all right, I appreciate that.I appreciate that constructive critically, is your
name even, Sean? Like arewe doing all right? Look? And
just so she's not interested, that'sthe bottom line, m Sean. Look,
I wish you the best of luck, honestly, whatever it is,
and and we support you fully andand you know, Minka is looking for
(10:37):
something else, so it's not goingto work out, guys, good luck.
I feel like he's just a littlebit intolerant, you know nowtually's intolerant
of the thing that doesn't exist.I mean, there's multiple realities, there's
multiple dimensions. Which one are wein right now? Might none of us
know? Right? It's not aMarvel movie, homie. This is not
a multiverse over here. What areyou talking about, bro,
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