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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I guess the thing about having different godparents is that,
like I got a better godmother than my sister. Well,
I mean, not to suot a bad person, but the
Saints at Aunt is my godmother. Yeah. My sister's godmother
is kind of a distant friend of my mom's that
was close at the time. My godfather I haven't seen
in forty years. Same mine's a deadbeat. Yeah, so I
(00:22):
mean I kind of I don't even know who Munchy.
I don't know what Amanda's godfather is.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
I just sympathize with godparents. You know, it's hard sometimes
to be a good godparents.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
What do you mean to me? Like, what do you
expect from us? How many of your how many of
your nieces and nephews are you godmother too?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
One technically but really all of them their parents don't
have friends. But like in the early years when my
friends started having kids early out of high school, a
lot of them asked me to be the godmother because
I was like more stable and it's an honor, right,
But then like, as life progresses and people go and
move and new relationship develop, what am I supposed to
(01:01):
do exactly? Like should I be checking in every week,
should I call every month? Like how you know, how
do you be a good god parent if you're not
directly in contact with the person every single day?
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Good point. I actually hear that because I'm a godfather
to a buddy of mine's son, but he and I
are not as close anymore, really, and I think that's
because he and his wife don't think I'm a very
good godfather. But I also it's it's tough to be
engaged with a kid when one you're not really a kid,
(01:34):
a little kid guy like now a little kid lover
if he show I like kids, I know, little kid lover,
but like when he was really little, I didn't know.
I didn't know what to do with him. Same with Polly.
And now she's at the edge where she's basically body
trained and can talk and tell me what hurts, and
(01:55):
so I can do stuff with her. But between the
ages of this boy coming like I don't know that
age and now I don't know. I don't really talk
to his parents and so I and again it's like
it's like a circular thing, like, well, I don't think
he's very engaged with the kid, and so we don't
like him for that it's like, but I can't engage
with your kid unless you let me engage with your kid.
Plus you also picked a guy to be the godfather
(02:15):
who doesn't know anything about kids, right, So like, come on,
you gotta help me out here a little bit, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, And it just I don't know, it's such a
weird thing sometimes, and I don't know, I don't want
to be anybody's godmother anymore, feel like I'm a loser.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
It's an honor. It's like I'm truly honored in all cases.
But I mean, my sister makes it easier because she
invites me into her home and sort of sometimes and
you know, let's be like play with her and tells
me what she wants for holidays. And you know, I mean,
I know she helps me engage because she she knows
more than I do.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And she's your sister, so you're gonna talk to her
no matter what the relationship is natural. But when you
aren't like someone's friend or you know, like, for instance,
let me just be honest, my ex, his sister, Me
and her were really close when we were together. Yeah,
and she had a daughter and she I was so
honored to be this baby's godmother. But then when me
and him fell out, of course I'm distancing from the family, right,
(03:07):
So then it's like, how do you engage and keep
the relationship going with the guy kid without it being
weird for everybody? So it's just tough.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Yeah. Yeah, it's like, if I'm not talking to you
that often, I don't see you very often. I'm not
going to go knock on your door and say, can
I take your kid for ice cream? Yeah, well one
of them is my aunt, so she should be better, said.
The other one didn't talk to me since I was
a baby, So you know, as long as you're not
doing that well, But the next thing is is tough
and yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Your the god parent. Is she still close with your
mom right now? I mean, but like we're in the
same room a lot.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I don't know, it's okay, it's.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Awkward, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah. Yeah, Well, it's also not a father or an uncle.
It's a spiritual title, correct, So you make of it
what you're going to make of it, you know what
I mean. Like, I don't think there's a definition of
what you're supposed to do. It's probably more than some
of our godparents to have done.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeah, I mean, I just take any kind of duty
like that very seriously. But I wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
I mean, if it's an ex how the hell are you?
Speaker 2 (04:08):
What am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (04:09):
There should be there should be a church should get
up on this, like this business like replacing your godparents.
You know what I'm saying. You're like foster godparents, Like
you want to reassign your godparents. Like you don't talk
to some of these people anymore, like a kid, I don't.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Even pay for stuff, like hey, yeah right,
I guess the thing about having different godparents is that,
like I got a better godmother than my sister. Well,
I mean, not to suot a bad person, but the
Saints at Aunt is my godmother. Yeah. My sister's godmother
is kind of a distant friend of my mom's that
was close at the time. My godfather I haven't seen
in forty years. Same mine's a deadbeat. Yeah, so I
(00:22):
mean I kind of I don't even know who Munchy.
I don't know what Amanda's godfather is.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
I just sympathize with godparents. You know, it's hard sometimes
to be a good godparents.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
What do you mean to me? Like, what do you
expect from us? How many of your how many of
your nieces and nephews are you godmother too?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
One technically but really all of them their parents don't
have friends. But like in the early years when my
friends started having kids early out of high school, a
lot of them asked me to be the godmother because
I was like more stable and it's an honor, right,
But then like, as life progresses and people go and
move and new relationship develop, what am I supposed to
(01:01):
do exactly? Like should I be checking in every week,
should I call every month? Like how you know, how
do you be a good god parent if you're not
directly in contact with the person every single day?
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Good point. I actually hear that because I'm a godfather
to a buddy of mine's son, but he and I
are not as close anymore, really, and I think that's
because he and his wife don't think I'm a very
good godfather. But I also it's it's tough to be
engaged with a kid when one you're not really a kid,
(01:34):
a little kid guy like now a little kid lover
if he show I like kids, I know, little kid lover,
but like when he was really little, I didn't know.
I didn't know what to do with him. Same with Polly.
And now she's at the edge where she's basically body
trained and can talk and tell me what hurts, and
(01:55):
so I can do stuff with her. But between the
ages of this boy coming like I don't know that
age and now I don't know. I don't really talk
to his parents and so I and again it's like
it's like a circular thing, like, well, I don't think
he's very engaged with the kid, and so we don't
like him for that it's like, but I can't engage
with your kid unless you let me engage with your kid.
Plus you also picked a guy to be the godfather
(02:15):
who doesn't know anything about kids, right, So like, come on,
you gotta help me out here a little bit, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, And it just I don't know, it's such a
weird thing sometimes, and I don't know, I don't want
to be anybody's godmother anymore, feel like I'm a loser.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
It's an honor. It's like I'm truly honored in all cases.
But I mean, my sister makes it easier because she
invites me into her home and sort of sometimes and
you know, let's be like play with her and tells
me what she wants for holidays. And you know, I mean,
I know she helps me engage because she she knows
more than I do.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And she's your sister, so you're gonna talk to her
no matter what the relationship is natural. But when you
aren't like someone's friend or you know, like, for instance,
let me just be honest, my ex, his sister, Me
and her were really close when we were together. Yeah,
and she had a daughter and she I was so
honored to be this baby's godmother. But then when me
and him fell out, of course I'm distancing from the family, right,
(03:07):
So then it's like, how do you engage and keep
the relationship going with the guy kid without it being
weird for everybody? So it's just tough.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Yeah. Yeah, it's like, if I'm not talking to you
that often, I don't see you very often. I'm not
going to go knock on your door and say, can
I take your kid for ice cream? Yeah, well one
of them is my aunt, so she should be better, said.
The other one didn't talk to me since I was
a baby, So you know, as long as you're not
doing that well, But the next thing is is tough
and yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Your the god parent. Is she still close with your
mom right now? I mean, but like we're in the
same room a lot.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I don't know, it's okay, it's.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Awkward, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah. Yeah, Well, it's also not a father or an uncle.
It's a spiritual title, correct, So you make of it
what you're going to make of it, you know what
I mean. Like, I don't think there's a definition of
what you're supposed to do. It's probably more than some
of our godparents to have done.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeah, I mean, I just take any kind of duty
like that very seriously. But I wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
I mean, if it's an ex how the hell are you?
Speaker 2 (04:08):
What am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (04:09):
There should be there should be a church should get
up on this, like this business like replacing your godparents.
You know what I'm saying. You're like foster godparents, Like
you want to reassign your godparents. Like you don't talk
to some of these people anymore, like a kid, I don't.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Even pay for stuff, like hey, yeah right,
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