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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
When the last time you've seen a grasshopper.

Speaker 3 (00:31):
Time, clearly in northern Michigan.

Speaker 1 (00:34):
Clearly you have good pest control or something. I don't know,
because where all these bugs are?

Speaker 3 (00:39):
Please go outside?

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Thank Fred's show is on another otic side effect. Men
are saying that their penises are getting bigger.

Speaker 4 (00:49):
Oh no, they could just see them for one.

Speaker 1 (00:53):
Truely, I'm in an employment today with this say I say,
I run the few pennies together and you know, apologize.
I'm going to enjoy you. You think that's what it is?
You think? Do you think that it's not actually bigger,
You're just skinnier.

Speaker 4 (01:08):
Yes, people do say that when you lose weight it
looks a little bigger.

Speaker 1 (01:12):
But I would think you would lose weight everywhere, including there.

Speaker 3 (01:14):
Well there's not is there there's a way to be
lost there? Yeah, it's muscle.

Speaker 1 (01:21):
But I don't know. You had a dream?

Speaker 3 (01:25):
I did you had a dream Martin Luther King?

Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah? Well I think it was a different dream, but yeah,
what's similar. But yeah, did Martin Luther King had this
dream too? Because I'd like to hear about it. What
was it?

Speaker 3 (01:38):
So?

Speaker 2 (01:38):
I had a dream last night about Michael Jackson and
it was so crazy. We were somewhere and I'm like, yeah,
it was like in a house and it was a
party going on at the house.

Speaker 3 (01:48):
Was Bubbles there, No, Bubbles was not there.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
But I had an opportunity to interview him, like somebody,
I think it was Echo, which is our marketing director.
She came up to me and she was like, Hey,
You're going to interview Michael Jackson.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
And I'm wow, does that would be a big one,
especially right now here? That would yeah, that'd bet yes,
okay yeah, And.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
So I was just like, I was like, okay, cool,
And then I didn't.

Speaker 2 (02:11):
I wasn't nervous or anything, and I went in there
and I bombed in the interview was a terrible interview.
I was not prepared and so after the interview, you know,
I left out and I could and if he hit
me like you were not prepared for Michael Jackson. So
the rest of the dream was me trying to get
back to Michael Jackson. And I could not get back
in the room with Michael Jackson. And I can imagine

(02:32):
that'd be hard to do twice. It was crazy, yes,
because you screwed the interview up.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
So if you hadn't screwed the interview up, then he
probably would let you back in.

Speaker 3 (02:38):
Probably. I woke up so mad, I was pissed.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
I'm disappointed in you because we wouldn't try to get
that Michael Jackson interview for years and you finally got
it and you and then look what happened.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
Echo set me up for greatness and I dropped the
ball Michael Jackson.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
So what do you think it means?

Speaker 3 (02:53):
I have no idea.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
Do you have some sort of insecurity in your life
right now?

Speaker 5 (02:58):
Well?

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Which one? For a now I'm trying to think, like
you know, psychoanalyze a little bit and see why that
why you would have that dream. I keep having this
dream about a woman I dated who I don't like,
I don't think she's a good person. I kind of
I mean, I kind of wish it would work, it

(03:19):
would have worked out because on paper it made sense.
But I don't think the person is a very quality
human being and was not very nice to me. And
but I keep having dreams that I run into this
person with another guy and that that's bothersome to me,
because I guess in some ways it would be bothersome
to me. Like I'm not gonna I'm not going to
say that it makes me. It doesn't make me happy.

(03:41):
It perhaps validates me that this person continues to date
and not find anybody, because it's like, you didn't think
I was good enough, but yet it would appear you
can't find happiness with anybody, and that the fact that
the person can't find happy is anyone doesn't make me happy.
It's just it's sort of like if the next person
you dated was everything you ever wanted, and maybe she
was right right, maybe I wasn't up to par. But

(04:04):
the fact that I keep getting on the dating apps
and seeing this person, that's like, yep, we're in this together.
I guess I wasn't so bad after all, was I?
But anyway, it's still it would still I think bother me,
and I'm not bother me, but I think it's I
would be maybe like the ever felt that before, where
like someone you liked it just didn't work out. Then
they do find someone and you're like, well, that's definitely over,

(04:24):
you know, or like full closure on that.

Speaker 3 (04:26):
Yeah, I think so.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
But I don't know why I keep thinking about this
because I don't think it would ever work because I
don't think this person's very nice.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
You miss her, but I don't know.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
Because I don't I can objectively tell you I don't
think this person's very nice. What does this mean, Aaron love?
You called me toxic? You're toxic?

Speaker 3 (04:47):
You're dreaming about your ex? Okay, that means you love her?

Speaker 1 (04:51):
No? It does?

Speaker 6 (04:53):
Now?

Speaker 1 (04:53):
It does it? Because people appear in dreams that I
don't love. I don't like. I can I can look.
I can objectively tell you I don't love this person.
I don't particularly like this person. I'm a little disgusted
by this person, but I but I still am, like, man,
it's too bad because she's pretty and we have similar
interest and I don't know I think we have would
like this is a similar vibe. But no, but no,

(05:15):
I mean, I'm fully comfortable with that. But I'm like,
then stop showing up in my dreams with like these losers.

Speaker 3 (05:22):
Yeah, that's rude of her, you know.

Speaker 4 (05:23):
I think, like, I don't know Michael Jackson for some reason,
he's literally everywhere she's interviewed.

Speaker 3 (05:29):
Stay out of my dream state.

Speaker 1 (05:31):
She's with his interviewing him, and he gets an award
for it.

Speaker 4 (05:35):
I don't know, Like, I don't know if you're the
same way, but I want everyone to like me despite
if they're like good for me, and or if I
like them back, like I just I think it's like
a thing where someone's like not choosing you. Maybe, or
maybe she shows you a part of yourself that you
don't like that you need to heal, and it keeps
like re emerging until you do.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Maybe those are two.

Speaker 3 (05:51):
Other options other than you're in love with her and
you miss her.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
It doesn't make any sense you over here, You're just.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
Saying you love somebody and not like them.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
But I don't. But I don't love very many people,
so I know that's not true. I'm not in I'm
definitely not in love. In fact, I wonder if it
would if that would even be possible, which is why
with that person, which is why I know it's not
the thing. But if no one is, there is no fish.

(06:27):
I almost I almost said something. I almost I almost
put an I g onto the action and then that
was gonna be something. Jason's awake, now, Yeah, I mean
I don't know, have any of you though, like, just

(06:49):
is there any is there anyone from your past that's
like I know that that's not the person, but that's
a shame, you know kind of thing or like I
don't know, for whatever reason, they just sort of linger
in your thoughts even though you know they're not the person. Yeah,
I don't know. It's been so long and you'd the
same person since you were fifteen. Sorely remember anyone else
I ever dated.

Speaker 3 (07:08):
I get that.

Speaker 4 (07:08):
And there's also people that I thought I was maybe
going to be with forever or have a family with,
and so then when that doesn't happen, even though you
even if you made the call, it's still like, okay,
that's like really over. You know, if they get married
or if they have kids. I think that's normal.

Speaker 1 (07:23):
Okay, Well, anyway, any other common dreams that you have though,
repetitive dreams.

Speaker 3 (07:28):
I've gone through phases. I don't. I have had the
teeth falling out one.

Speaker 1 (07:32):
Okay, I forget what that one means. I have them
all pulled up.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
Here like then, I've had the one like I used
to have the pregnancy ones a lot. But then I
looked it up and it said, like something is like growing.
It could be like career wise, Like it doesn't necessarily
have to mean like you're pregnant, because I'm not.

Speaker 1 (07:47):
Your teeth falling out, you say, say the smile is
the wind of the heart to the heart in your dreams,
yours just took a detour. You look in the mirror
and your purly whites, you're falling out. Everything in the
mouth is related to expression and community. According to one expert,
this dream is often had by people who don't have
a filter. You're allowing things out of your mouth that

(08:07):
really need to remain in there permanently. Oh you loose lips, lady, Right, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
I do overshare, that's correct.

Speaker 1 (08:14):
Uh huh. Oh.

Speaker 2 (08:15):
You see this text When you dream about somebody, that
means they're going to sleep thinking about you.

Speaker 1 (08:20):
Stop that. That's one of those stupid things you see
on TikTok. That's one of those dumb things you see
on TikTok where it's like, if you're seeing this message,
it means that someone's been, you know, from your past,
has been wanting to apologize to you. Well, this has
been for you, right, Well, they want to apologize and
maybe blocks them and they can. It is the Fred Show,

(08:40):
Good morning, thanks for having us on the radio, on
the iHeart app Live and anytime search for a fresh
show on demand. So I believe it was we're out
on the porch, which is a table outside of the
studio where the pre show, the pre show production meeting occurs. AKA,
I have no idea what the topic of verstation will

(09:00):
be when I walk in each morning, and today I
believe it was you, Paulina, who said that you didn't
know that men could pee sitting down.

Speaker 3 (09:09):
I had no idea, Like, physicologically.

Speaker 1 (09:12):
Physicologically, just tackle the mic again, Okay, let's just start over.

Speaker 7 (09:15):
Physicological, logically, I need to be recharged myself, right.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
So physiologically you didn't.

Speaker 7 (09:19):
Realize I didn't realize that men could pee sitting down?

Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well, how do you think that we go? Number two?

Speaker 3 (09:26):
You don't pee?

Speaker 7 (09:27):
Well, you guys could, but like you're not peeing, and
you give a mission, right, you have something to do,
you have a goal, and that's that's to go number two.

Speaker 3 (09:34):
That's different, different things that happened.

Speaker 1 (09:36):
I'm not trying to get into like potty stuff. I'm
really not. But when you do that, don't don't multiple
activities occur at the same time when you do that
of it? Why would that be different for men? So
we would sit the same way that you do, okay,
and then just sort of adjust the part so it
all goes that where it needs to go.

Speaker 7 (09:53):
And then yeah, okay, see that makes sense if you're
going number dawn of time?

Speaker 3 (09:57):
But would you just go number one? Yeah, number one
sitting down?

Speaker 1 (10:01):
I would not. I would not. I don't think I
know anyone, hopefully whose wives make them do this. But
I've heard and read about men who are required to
sit to pee at home because apparently, and this is
something else that I'm learning this morning. Yeah, I guess
when you live with a man, because you all three
of you claim this is an issue, there's no aim

(10:23):
or no effort to aim, or no effort to like
get it all where it needs to go. I'm appalled.
By this. Let me tell you, even when I'm in
a relationship and there's someone in my house frequently, I'm
even more conscious about making sure that it appears I
don't use the bathroom in any form. So I'm not
leaving little drip drabs here everywhere, right I'm doing I'm

(10:43):
not doing it as far as you're concerned, I don't.
I'm a kendle. I don't use the bathroom.

Speaker 3 (10:49):
See you think.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
That, But I would like to talk to the other person.
Why don't you go to my house right now?

Speaker 1 (10:54):
And I didn't know you were going, and you can
go right now and you can look around.

Speaker 3 (10:57):
Yeah, give me the key.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
And the key to your car, because you go into
my house, you have to drive my car over right,
never with a magnifying less inspecting.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
But see, I believe you, though I truly believe you.

Speaker 7 (11:15):
Yeah, I don't think you like when you aim you
you're on a mission, like there is no missing with you,
because you're like my husband, Like he doesn't leave splatter
like you ladies are claiming, Like my husband doesn't do
that either. But I've seen it in public restrooms aka
at work, like I've seen.

Speaker 3 (11:30):
It in other places. But I believe you fred like
you're not.

Speaker 1 (11:33):
Say when you use it, your public urinal, there's always
like a little I'm not trying to be gross, I'm
really not, but there's always like a little puddle in
front of it. And I'm like why because the urinal
is the easiest to aim in, like it's literally right
in front of you, like you can't. The only thing
I can say is that you couldn't get a little
drippy if you're standing and you put But this doesn't happen.
It doesn't happen.

Speaker 8 (11:53):
But there's my house far away, you're closer, it doesn't happen.

Speaker 1 (11:58):
Someone's exteded boot camp. We would sit to pee, would
make cleaning easier. Yeah, that's what we do.

Speaker 7 (12:03):
I didn't know that until I saw my best friend
do it one time we lived together and he was peeing.
He cracked it all open and tell me something and
I was like, are you sitting and ping? Are you pooping?
And he's like, no, I'm being And I was like,
I know, you guys do that, Like I don't know.
I just never expected a man to do that, Like, no, shade,
I just really didn't know.

Speaker 1 (12:21):
It's one of the peaks, one of the perks. The
peak perks of being a man is that I don't
have to what just happened there?

Speaker 3 (12:29):
I have nothing, what?

Speaker 1 (12:31):
What? What is going on?

Speaker 3 (12:34):
I don't swear word.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
I didn't hear just cussed. Yeah you cussed.

Speaker 3 (12:39):
Oh I didn't do that. I don't here out of
my own mouth.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
I didn't. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (12:45):
Thank you're trying to do it discreetly.

Speaker 1 (12:47):
Oh that wasn't but well.

Speaker 4 (12:49):
I mean, you'd have to call it out.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
I don't mean it quietly. I've never known that.

Speaker 1 (12:54):
You stood on the desks over there. Off, it's supped
to be subtle when both these are on the top
of the table.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
I'm sorry. I think you're trying to dump.

Speaker 1 (13:07):
Something across the room. I am too now. I didn't
hear it, and maybe I'm just so used to everyone
cussing around here that I was.

Speaker 4 (13:15):
Yeah, that's why I was like looking at you all
you guys, and no one reacted, and so that I
just did it.

Speaker 1 (13:20):
I don't know where I was going. I had no idea.
I'm very distracted now anyway, So I guess someone cussed.
So this is I want to know eight three five.
What is something about men that as a woman because
we've talked to him many times about all the mysteries
of the woman and all the things that men don't
understand and some of the surprising things that men are

(13:42):
paying attention to. But what is something about a man
that you didn't realize until maybe you lived with one
and then you were like, oh, really, like what is
something that fascinated you? Like I'm trying to think over
the years of all the different things you guys have
said in here, like like you guys think that we
like helicopter and mess with it in front of the
mirror all the time. Like I remember there was somebody

(14:04):
in here that there was somebody I don't remember who
it was used to be on the show who used
to say that, like, oh you must go in there
and like play with like mess with it and look
at it and helicop And I'm like, no, no, no,
the same way that I don't think that you guys
just I mean, I think for fun time you might
do certain things, but I don't think you guys are
just like I've heard guys say before, if I had boobs,

(14:25):
I would do X y Z. Well, I don't think
that's happening all the time. I don't think you're just like,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (14:33):
I could do that now and I don't.

Speaker 1 (14:35):
But like I actually I googled this to see, like
what other people have said, what other women were surprised
to learn about men mourning. Well, I don't know if
I can say this either, but I guess we're cussing
this morning, so it doesn't matter waking up when things
are are ready to go. There's a there's a term
for it, mourning. Yeah, you know a tree two by

(14:56):
four morning home depot lumber, morning lumber. And I guess
women were surprised to know that men wake up that
way sometimes, but we do it' and there doesn't have
to be a rhyme or reason. It just is that way.
Sometimes you just sort of emerge, you know, from sleep
and it's like, oh.

Speaker 3 (15:15):
Yeah, that that was a new one for me. Yeah,
if you've ever like seen a man, you know that.
I don't understand how that would be surprising.

Speaker 1 (15:21):
I'm just telling you what's on the things that people
have been surprised by. People have been surprised by how
the actual you know, you got the twigg and you
got the berries, and I guess people are surprised that
that that the berries that I describe this that they

(15:43):
change shape kind like that that that the container in
which they are they they live sometimes will like and
it has to do with mostly to do with with
keeping warm temperature. So like if it's cold, they'll go
up closer to your body, and if it's warm, they'll
they'll fall from your body.

Speaker 3 (16:00):
Oh that's a little fun thing.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
But I guess a lot of women didn't know that.
And I don't know why you would necessarily, but because again,
I think sometimes women give men a hard time for
a lack of understanding about you guys. But you have
to remember, I grew up with two women, you know whatever.
Maybe maybe I'm more thoughtful about these things sometimes than others.
But like, I don't think that most men ever are

(16:22):
educated on some of the things that you guys think
we should know. I don't think anyone's ever taught us. Yeah,
you know, I think there are certain things that we
don't understand about about you guys that no one's taken
the time to be like, hey, this is how it works,
you know. Like I've seen the barstool videos where it's
like how many tampons do women need? And whatever? And
they'll be like forty. Another guy will be like one
for a week, you know.

Speaker 9 (16:42):
What I mean.

Speaker 1 (16:43):
But like it just goes to show that I don't
know that anyone ever told them that. Yeah, so I
think there's probably all kinds of mysteries of the man
that no one's never really I have no idea educated
you one. What's surprised you about living with them?

Speaker 8 (16:57):
I mean nothing really, I mean it's it's I don't
want to like bragg anything.

Speaker 3 (17:02):
It's pretty easy.

Speaker 8 (17:02):
I mean, we're no surprises and we just sit to
piece so that, like I said, the cleanups easier. Let
me see here sitting it's nice, get the load off
along going.

Speaker 1 (17:14):
Through this list of things that the surprised women about man,
my ex wife was shocked at how short a phone
conversation can be for men. My best friend called me once.
This guy literally flew across the country to be at
our wedding. He called me because he was bringing me
to work the next day, told me to ride, Yeah,
I'll be here in five thirty, okay, And that was
the conversation. And I guess she's surprised because I guess
women don't. They can't have a short conversation like that.

(17:36):
You guys can't t I guess I don't know.

Speaker 3 (17:38):
I can a short conversation.

Speaker 8 (17:41):
Absolutely yesterday and I was like, okay, I'm gonna go now.
I can tell she just did not want.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
Right, we have the room. I love what you called me.
I don't think I know something's on fire.

Speaker 1 (17:53):
Oh no, well no, that's the thing. I don't pick
up the fire if the phone rings, if I called
you there's something to discuss, like otherwise, I'll send you
a text and it will be short and sweet with punctuations.

Speaker 3 (18:06):
Oh no, yours.

Speaker 8 (18:07):
Yeah, sometimes it's too long, like what I had to
call you about yesterday, Like that would have been a long tags.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
Yeah, what did you have to call it about yesterday? Her?
Oh yes? Oh okay. I was like, what what you
didn't I didn't tell you yesterday to I don't know
what comes to mind for you guys. What is surprised
you guys over the years about living with men?

Speaker 3 (18:28):
How much they eat m really yeah?

Speaker 7 (18:31):
Or like why they like you guys always want like
home cooked meals and stuff versus a girl dinner. Because
when I was by myself for a single I could
just eat whatever, like a little bit of crackers.

Speaker 3 (18:40):
Put that on my plate.

Speaker 7 (18:41):
Right, Make a little zucchini something just simple, easy, pop
it in the airfire. Yeah, make a little zucchini like
something just really quick with some hot sauce. It was
my thing, yes, and then now again zucchini zucchina.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
I thought it.

Speaker 7 (18:55):
But with Hobby, he can't eat crackers and zucchini like.

Speaker 3 (18:58):
It just doesn't work all of them.

Speaker 8 (19:00):
It's like I would be good with that, but Mike
is the type of man that needs we need a
main course, then we need a sign, and then we
probably need like some sort of bread or potato. Right,
I'm like I'm in the seventies, like whipping up like
courses with an right.

Speaker 10 (19:16):
Right.

Speaker 1 (19:16):
Someone texted I used to date a guy that had
to be completely naked to go number two.

Speaker 3 (19:22):
I've done that before.

Speaker 1 (19:23):
Apparently he had to be comfortable and relaxed getting naked.
The only reason I would be completely naked doing that
is if I and I often do this shower immediately after.

Speaker 5 (19:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (19:33):
I like to try and time that stuff out to
where a shower is at least on the game plan.

Speaker 11 (19:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (19:39):
No, I'm very strategic about that.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
Mike does the same thing. He has a shower after,
like if.

Speaker 1 (19:43):
I go home and it's like okay, that that's gonna happen,
and then I look at my schedule and be like,
all right, well I don't have anything to do until
I go to the gym. Then I go to the gym,
and then I'm going to take a shower, so I'm
good until I won't see anybody until then, so we're
all set. But like, if I'm going to go out
after the set event, then there is a shower to follow.
And the worst possible scenario is if you don't think

(20:04):
you have to and then you take a shower, you
get out of the shower and you realize you have to,
and you're like, damn, it isn't like what if I'm
going on a date, you know, and I'll shower again,
because you know.

Speaker 3 (20:15):
If it's not a ghost poop, I can't be caught
off guard.

Speaker 1 (20:18):
Yeah, you know what. I can't be caught off guard.
Like I can't have a situation where I'm at the
dinner and then I didn't and then it's like, hey,
well you want to go back to mine and it's
like I wasn't ready for this.

Speaker 4 (20:28):
Yeah, for my friends, and I like we all have
this shared experience of our men using our expensive shampoo
and conditioner and stuff in the shower. Like one of
their husbands was like, yeah, it just smells really good.
So I started using it as body wash, like they
don't know how expensive is.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
Like, my boyfriend is brown.

Speaker 4 (20:45):
Here he was using my purple blonde shampoo and he
has his own shampoo.

Speaker 1 (20:50):
He needs to learn how to read, because yesterday it
was he's taking suppositories in his mouth.

Speaker 3 (20:57):
Well those weren't in the jar, so that one's but
I thought, how about.

Speaker 1 (21:00):
We read before he puts it in her mouth. And
then like he's using purple hair, uh shampoo on his
he was using it like anything. I read this even
if I'm I'm not going to use purple hair shampoo.
If I don't have purple hair, I'm not gonna do.

Speaker 3 (21:17):
I'm going to do anything to your I don't know that, so.

Speaker 1 (21:19):
I'm not going to do it. I'm gonna I'm gonna
read the bottle because what if I actually mix up
the nair bottle.

Speaker 12 (21:24):
What if then.

Speaker 1 (21:25):
Bottles just hanging around it before long chunks of hair
coming out. I don't know. I just I like to
look at what I'm putting on my body before I
do it if it doesn't apply, right, Yeah, I don't
know what the thing is. I'm not just popping it
in my mouth or putting it on my hair or
my body. I'm just not well.

Speaker 3 (21:41):
Again, he thought it was magnesium. I'm not suppository. I
wouldn't take anything out of your jar period that right.
I can't get over it.

Speaker 1 (21:49):
Exactly all day yesterday. I'm like, I'm not just taking
random stuff. I'm not using random stuff unless I know
what it is. Thought he knew what it was, but
he clearly didn't. But there's no way to be sure.
That's not in a bottle. Thank you.

Speaker 2 (22:03):
It's a surprising thing, though, how freely men will use
women's product like what.

Speaker 1 (22:08):
I'm saying I won't.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
I never will use Timothy these products.

Speaker 2 (22:12):
Like I never let me put on his deodorant, like
he will use my deodorant, yes, with my lotion.

Speaker 3 (22:18):
He will pick it up. You guys need to Yeah,
all my friends men do the same thing.

Speaker 4 (22:22):
And it's like that was over one hundred dollars shampoo
and you're just like putting it on your body.

Speaker 3 (22:26):
Stop it.

Speaker 8 (22:27):
That's wild, Like we have we are two men that
live together, and we have separate shampoo.

Speaker 3 (22:31):
Body wash, your like different brands, different suns, like different locations.

Speaker 1 (22:35):
Yeah, touring random substances in my hand and putting them
on my body unless I look to see what you're
a breed.

Speaker 11 (22:41):
You don't pee everywhere, you know, I just kind of obvious.

Speaker 3 (22:47):
I don't know it's your gender.

Speaker 11 (22:48):
Man.

Speaker 1 (22:49):
Men get shrinkage when they swim in the pool. That
was surprising to women. I guess it has to do
with the temperature again. Yeah, let me see here. My
mom used to tell me not to use this is
a dude, I'm nate. My mom used to tell me
not to use her shampoo and conditioner because it was
for girls and it would turn my hair green because
I'm a boy. She didn't want me to use her

(23:10):
fancy shamboo and conditioner.

Speaker 3 (23:11):
Was smart.

Speaker 1 (23:12):
I was embarrassingly old before I figured it out. See
there you go. That's that's very smart.

Speaker 3 (23:16):
Yes, I'm going to do that.

Speaker 2 (23:18):
Have your partners ever used your toothbrush? No?

Speaker 3 (23:22):
Yeah, I might have, some of you guys.

Speaker 1 (23:24):
I had. I had a girl do that one time.
We were in a hotel and she wasn't expected to
be there, and she just I see her brushing her teeth,
and I was like, did you bring a toothbrush with you?
And she's like, no, I the one that was in
your thing. And I was like, I realized that we
were just very close to one another, but I wasn't
between your teeth.

Speaker 3 (23:42):
Right, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (23:43):
Like the activities that took place were unspeakable moments ago.
But I mean, I mean that's different than my plaque.
It really can we just exam.

Speaker 8 (23:55):
We have the same like power toothbrush and I have
them labeled like boy has an M, one has a J,
so there is no room for error.

Speaker 2 (24:04):
He almost broke up in Mexico over this over too
international border.

Speaker 1 (24:09):
You know, I threw that thing. I threw that toothbrushed away,
went and got another one. Yep.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
But he had to go find me another tooth brush,
Like he had to go downstairs and by at the
little bar.

Speaker 1 (24:18):
And I went to the bar.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
Right, we were about to break up over that.

Speaker 1 (24:24):
He went to the bar and got you another toothbrush.

Speaker 3 (24:26):
Yes, but you guys do like other and that's what
he's saying.

Speaker 1 (24:29):
He's like, come on, but there is a difference between
what is between my teeth and in my mouth almost.

Speaker 3 (24:37):
Well, I'm not going at all detailed, but I know
and I'm not a German phoe, but that even gross.

Speaker 8 (24:42):
That is because it's literally like a device that removes
dirty out of Thank you, thank you.

Speaker 1 (24:48):
It's not necessary.

Speaker 3 (24:49):
I'm putting it in like and the.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
Other activity is we're practicing to procreate in the world.
That's necess it has to be done. You don't have
to use my toothbrush. We have to practice procreation. We
have to and we have to get good at it.
It's imperative. Yes, you don't have to use my toothbrush. Yeah,
that's the grounds for termination.

Speaker 13 (25:11):
Man.

Speaker 1 (25:11):
Thank you, thank you very much. I wish you'd mess
in your future endeavors. That's what I said to this person.
I said, you can go now. I switched the hotel
key out and said She knocked on the door and said, no,
I'm blowing glass and that was the end of it.
Good morning. Thanks for having us on the radio, on
the iHeart app Live and anytime search for the Fresh
Show on demand. This is the thing on Reddit. It
was on the front page this morning. All the other

(25:33):
crap that's going on today. This is what I saw
and it jumped out of me, and I'm appalled. Did
people memorize numbers before mobile phones? So you've got people
that are alive now that are asking the question, what
did you do before you had a mobile phone that
had phone numbers in it? Of course you memorize numbers, yes,

(25:53):
And I feel ancient for saying that. But you know,
all of us in this room lived in a time
where you had to memorise numbers. I had to know
my obviously my home phone number. I had to know
all my parents' numbers, like their office or whatever mobile
phone if they had one. And I guess you could
save numbers, but it wasn't like it is now. You
probably knew all your best friend's numbers, right, yeah, But

(26:16):
this is what I want to know. And every now
and again we do this and I'm amazed. But what
comes to mind? Eight five, five, five, nine one three five,
you can call it text the same number. But kids
of the two thousands, like they were born in the
two thousands, they'll never understand a lot of things, like
they'll never truly appreciate Like yesterday, I was wearing my
Blockbuster shirt that you guys got me, and I was

(26:36):
in the elevator of the building, and a man I'd
never seen before said, my ex wife works at Blockbuster,
but I had to divorce her when she lost her
job because she wasn't contributing to the family. I don't
think he was serious, but I guess, I guess. I guess.
I guess his ex wife did work at Blockbuster at
one point, but no one but maybe it was a

(26:57):
random story.

Speaker 3 (26:58):
That's very random.

Speaker 1 (26:59):
Because he told me he was in Crystal Lake. I'm
assuming it was when she was a child. But my
point is, you know, no one will appreciate, no one
will understand the joy that is. You know, Friday afternoon,
Friday night, your parents drive you a Blockbuster video and
for those who don't even know what that is, you
pull up in front. You know, you go in there.
It's just a it's a magical, bright, beaming box. And

(27:21):
you walk in there and in the world is your oyster.
You can have anything. Anything was possible, right, Maybe it
would be a funny movie, maybe it would be a
serious movie. Maybe it was a new movie. If I
was able to get there fast enough, maybe, you know,
because it could have been sold out, and if it
was gone, then it was free. Remember, it was like
in stock or it's free. Wow, Oh yeah, why do
I know that? Because I worked there? You get a

(27:44):
video game? I mean it was a big deal. Can
you remember the joy that was pulling up in front
of Blockbuster? Now you'll never and the kids, he says,
we'll never know that because now it's on Netflix. And
even last night I'm going through the thing going, I
don't know, there's nothing to watch. I got six streaming services,
like there's a five millions that I could be watching,
and I'm like, no, but you'll never understand the joy
of pulling up in front of Blockbuster. I mean, what

(28:05):
comes to mind though, when you think the kids these
days will never really be able to appreciate or understand.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
They can't play Ding Dong Ditch and they never use
the payphone.

Speaker 1 (28:16):
Yeah, the ring camera screwed everything up. Yeah, you can't
ding Dong ditch. You can't like tpe somebody's house anymore.
You can't pass gas on your way into somebody's house,
you know, like if you got one and you're like,
I don't know, you can't be talking smack on your
way in either, Like if you're you know, I don't
know your your your spouse brings you to you know,
the coworker Molly's house on Friday, and you get the
bottle of wine. You're like, I don't want to be

(28:37):
here like in just an hour. Okay, you can't do
that anymore because now the ring cameras capturing all of this.

Speaker 7 (28:43):
Yeah, I know you're coming before you're even there, just
because of my phone, Like it'll ding ding when someone's
like literally approaching the door, So you can't ding dong
ditch me.

Speaker 1 (28:51):
What about you guys though, Like like if you had
a kid today, they'd never understand appointment television.

Speaker 3 (28:57):
I used to get so excited for like Disney Channel
Friday Night New Original movie whatever was.

Speaker 7 (29:01):
Yeah, Like no, Gig's got it right now on her
Netflix click Aprutment's right there, and they're running.

Speaker 4 (29:06):
During the commercials like you had to go get your snacks,
you had a pee, you had.

Speaker 3 (29:09):
To do it all before the commercial was over. You
can't pause it. You'll never know that. And I'm sad
for her, I really am.

Speaker 1 (29:14):
Or I'll take it way back when you wanted to
know what time your show was going to be on
and you had to go to the TV Guide channel
you watch.

Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yes right with that music.

Speaker 1 (29:24):
That's really old timing. I have to admit I was
really young for that. But let me see here I'm
going through. There's a list of these things. CDs, Hey, Sydney, Hi, Sydney, Hey, Hey,
good morning. Kids these days they're never gonna understand it.

Speaker 11 (29:40):
But kids days do not understand the chaos of Black Fridays.

Speaker 1 (29:46):
So I've honestly never done a Black Friday. Like I've
really never done the thing where I wait outside of
a target for a flatch Creek TV, you know, with
a tent or something like, I've never done that before.
I guess I'm privileged, I don't know, or I'm willing
to pay an extra fifty bucks and not get tackled
for a flat screen TV. Are they less crazy than
they used to be? Yeah?

Speaker 14 (30:05):
Well, I mean like now the stores don't even open
and you know until like they're regular hours.

Speaker 6 (30:09):
They don't even do like the midnight release, the one
am release, the two am.

Speaker 14 (30:13):
Release online, so like yeah, or it's all online right
like Amazon Cyber Monday everything.

Speaker 6 (30:20):
That's all you know that kids really know these days.

Speaker 15 (30:22):
They don't know the chaos.

Speaker 16 (30:23):
Of these releases happening.

Speaker 11 (30:26):
Not these like crazy deals that you can only get
on Black Friday and their parents going out to get
their Christmas presents on Black Friday.

Speaker 6 (30:34):
Or you know whatever it is. It's just so different now.

Speaker 1 (30:37):
I feel like Target Legal had to say no more
of this midnight stuff because people are getting aimed for
a blender.

Speaker 10 (30:42):
Right.

Speaker 1 (30:43):
Yeah, so now we can't do this anymore. You gotta
go to the website. Thank you, Sydney. Have a great day. Yeah,
of course, as you called, Hey, Mike, good morning, Mike,
good morning. How are you, Mike? I don't think you
have to good Thanks for calling, by the way, for listening.
You don't have to be that old to appreciate the
kids these days will not to be able to what.

Speaker 10 (31:02):
So only being thirty six. I remember going to the
movie theaters as a kid, and when your parents needed
to pick you up, you'd call them on the payphone.
And for those two seconds where I'd say the collect call,
what's your name, you would say I'm at movie theaters,
come pick me up, and then hang up phone.

Speaker 1 (31:17):
Oh see, I bet there people who don't even want
to collect callers. There was a way. There were a
couple different ways you'd call the operator, or you could
call like one one hundred. Collect was big when we
were young. And then you would then say I want
to call somebody. They'd call them for you, and the
person who picked up the phone could agree to accept
the charges if you didn't have like a quarter. But yeah,
you could use that little time where you're supposed to
say your name to be like come pick me up,

(31:39):
you know, and then yeah, because you didn't have any money, Yeah,
I see, it'll never happen. Find a payphone, nope.

Speaker 10 (31:46):
Or when the pagers came out and you got to
bring your parents' pagers with you.

Speaker 1 (31:50):
Oh yeah, i'm pagers.

Speaker 13 (31:52):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (31:52):
If you had a pager when I was going after you,
you were com big deal. Yeah, it was a movie.
Did you have the clear one?

Speaker 5 (31:57):
Though?

Speaker 1 (31:58):
You had to have the clear one, you had to
have it there. Yeah, thank you, Mike, have a good day,
all right, thank you? You know, because yeah, if you
had a page, because this is before cell phones, like
we're readily available, if you had a pager, like what's
up you know?

Speaker 13 (32:11):
Hey?

Speaker 1 (32:12):
Yeah right hey zen, hey zen. See this this is
another one kids, He says, We'll never understand.

Speaker 17 (32:19):
Having to get off the internet so that your mom
or your dad or someone can make a call that
ruined my childhood. I was talking to my cross on
AIM and had to get off the worst.

Speaker 1 (32:31):
Yeah, because people don't realize. And by the way, I
think we did the story. A few months ago, AOL
just dropped that service, so there were people out there
still using it. But you could steal up until a
couple of months ago dial up to AOL. But yeah,
you had to use the phone to get on the internet.
And if you only had one line then whatever. On
the phone, nobody could call anybody.

Speaker 4 (32:51):
I miss AIM like, you can be down to chat,
Like you can say, okay, I'm ready to talk to
my friends, or I'm having a way message, I don't
want to talk to my That was amazing.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
That was so much which fun would like it. You'd
get back from high school or whatever and it would
be like there'd be like people who left you messages.
It was so exciting.

Speaker 3 (33:06):
Yeah, yeah, bring it back.

Speaker 1 (33:08):
Yeah, thank you Zaed.

Speaker 17 (33:10):
Yeah, love you guys, call.

Speaker 1 (33:13):
Love you too. Hey, Brenda, Hey b Hi, Hey, good
morning Brenda. Kids. These days I'll never understand it, and
I don't understand it myself.

Speaker 9 (33:26):
How did I ever get in the car and go
anywhere without Google Map?

Speaker 1 (33:31):
Oh can you remember that? So you didn't have GPS
in the car, so you had to like print it out. Yeah,
you had to type in the address before you left,
printed out, and then you had paper instructions that you
would follow. I mean, people are listening to this, not
going this is this is this is madness? What sort
of where was you going?

Speaker 6 (33:49):
Oh?

Speaker 12 (33:50):
No, you had to look at a paper map, right.

Speaker 1 (33:53):
Oh that was one step further. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, right,
you had to have an act. Listen, you're in a sexton.
Thank you, Brenda, have a good day. Glad you called roberta.

Speaker 12 (34:05):
Yes, Hi.

Speaker 1 (34:06):
Kids these days won't understand, they.

Speaker 14 (34:09):
Won't understand how easy it was to be sneaky because nowadays.

Speaker 11 (34:14):
Everybody has like a ring ring, doorbells, there's cameras everywhere.
It's like, I remember back in my day, we used
to go a day time.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
Yes, ma'am, right, well you get that, you get the
family was a family three sixty life of these apps
where you know, it's like where are you? What are
you doing? Find my friends? Yeah, all this stuff. Yeah,
you can't be messaging.

Speaker 3 (34:35):
In someone's basement at like twelve pm. Come school, we're
at nine o'class Glove were there first.

Speaker 11 (34:41):
Then when you go to Simon, trust me.

Speaker 1 (34:46):
Look at you. Thank you, Roberta. I have a good day. Yeah,
I mean it's it's much harder to lie now, it's
very hard, much harder to lie. Hey, Chazz, Oh my god,
I forgot about this, Chaz. Hi. Guys, NCCS will never understand.

Speaker 6 (35:03):
On calling movie song and trying to get the times
when the movie starts, we're.

Speaker 1 (35:09):
Having to call the movie theater itself. You know, say
I want to go see you know, Batman or whatever.
It's like, okay, what time is it? I don't know.
You get a call and it's like there's like an
answering machine or what a hundred movie phone? Yeah.

Speaker 6 (35:22):
Yeah, Then when you actually missed the you know, your movie,
you have to wait until the entire thing goes all
over again. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (35:29):
That was like that was like the TV guide thing.
It was like, no, I just wanted to see what
time c r L was, you know, or or the
Grind was on. I just wanted to see Thank you, Jaz,
have a good day. Thank you guys, love you Glad
you called more Fred.

Speaker 8 (35:42):
Show next right here a.

Speaker 18 (35:48):
Beatleshirt on today? Do you know the members of oh
all right, yeah, who am I looking at there? Fred's
show is on. My kid is one year old?

Speaker 7 (36:00):
Grad She's one year old, but I swear to god,
she understands four languages right now, including sign language. This
girl the sign language to me, Well, I don't even
know sign language.

Speaker 1 (36:09):
She knows like you that she knows.

Speaker 3 (36:13):
Miss Rachel teaches us both like you.

Speaker 7 (36:15):
Know, like they all done, and the morn all these
things and like I love you.

Speaker 3 (36:19):
I'm like, whoa girl?

Speaker 7 (36:21):
And then I can tell her something in Spanish and
in Polish and the.

Speaker 3 (36:24):
Girl just knows I don't even know that.

Speaker 7 (36:27):
And then she every night now she takes out her
pacifier and I'm rocking her to sleep and she talks
to me.

Speaker 3 (36:32):
The girl wants to talk.

Speaker 1 (36:33):
She got something? What is she saying? Though, there's a lot.

Speaker 7 (36:35):
Of repetition, so we'll name everybody. I'm us it's Mama
dot d d BA yes. And then she just goes like,
well what, I'm like, didn't you tell me more? But
you have to talk to them so they understand words.

Speaker 1 (36:47):
And she's a genius.

Speaker 7 (36:50):
She is she okay, one year old wants to read
a book instead of playing with toys, talk or dirt.

Speaker 1 (36:55):
Maybe we're gonna do this about you. Maybe you're on
your baby, and maybe the fact that she's not playing
with dirt means that she's going to be at Stanford
by age ten.

Speaker 3 (37:03):
She loved her books. That that's a sign you guys.

Speaker 1 (37:06):
Frend Show is on. It's stay or go. All right,
talk to Chris, Hi, Chris, how you doing you under it? Chris?
Welcome to the program. You found a secret stash of
money that your wife was hiding from you? Yeah? Why

(37:28):
what's the context here? I got to understand?

Speaker 12 (37:31):
Okay, So, uh, I work.

Speaker 1 (37:33):
She's she's a stay.

Speaker 12 (37:34):
At home mom. She hasn't had like, like a real
job in a year.

Speaker 1 (37:39):
Careful, careful, Yeah, well, I mean you know what I mean,
like that she has not had an outside of the
home paid position. I mean, I mean, I'm trying to
keep you out of trouble here, man, I want to
make sure nothing happens to you. Okay, I can protecting
love where.

Speaker 12 (37:56):
She runs the house. She's amazing, yes, but she.

Speaker 1 (37:58):
Doesn't earn a salary from that, understood.

Speaker 12 (38:03):
So I found out that she's kind of somehow been
setting money aside here and there. She's got this this
account and uh and and I asked her about it.
We're very honest with each other. And she said that

(38:24):
it started during the pandemic, just because she was you know,
it was a crazy time back then. You never know.
And she said, she said, it's it's for both of us.

Speaker 1 (38:37):
Okay, but you didn't know about it. And just to
be clear, you you so you make you bring home
the money, it goes into an account. She has access
to the account. She's taking care of the kids in
the house or whatever, and so and she's been sort
of siphoning a little bit of money off this thing,
not telling you and putting it in a separate account.
That's for both of you, except both of you didn't
know about it.

Speaker 12 (38:56):
Just to be clear, No, that's that's exactly it. And
that's why I'm having a hard time believing this, because
it's like, Okay, sure, it's for both of us. The
pandemic was five years ago.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
There's probably a lot of money in there now. She
probably got a little little hall in there.

Speaker 12 (39:14):
Yeah, And so I, you know, I told her im, like,
this feels like you're kind of.

Speaker 19 (39:19):
It's, for lack of a better term, it feels like
you're kind of stealing from me because you know she
does she doesn't have a job like that.

Speaker 1 (39:31):
It just feels off. Okay, So she said that she's
setting this money aside just in case you never know,
is what she said. And and okay, but you didn't
know about it. And if you hadn't but if you
hadn't seen this this account, then you wouldn't have known
it even existed, Like this money would just be there.
You didn't you didn't see it going missing, you didn't

(39:52):
notice it. There would just be this account over here.
You would know nothing about exactly exactly right. Now, are
you a spender? Like do you do you have an issue?
Is there an issue in your relationship with with? Do
you spend more? Do you live outside of your means?
Do you think she's is she doing this as like
a protective mechanism, Like, hey, I'm a little bit more
financially responsible, So I'm setting setting money aside because I

(40:13):
don't trust that you'll do it? Is it? Or are
you pretty okay?

Speaker 12 (40:16):
No? No, no, no, we I mean we do okay,
there's just like everybody, there's good months and bad months,
but like, but by no means, are we you know,
heavy in debt? Or anything we do we do.

Speaker 1 (40:26):
Okay, yeah, this is my mom. By the way, I
think you're married. This is my dad calling because my
mom does this. My mom has she she holds money.
I don't think my dad has any idea. My grandmother
did this too, and I think that was my mom
will tell you it was from the depression. But my
mom wasn't alive during the depression.

Speaker 4 (40:42):
But my grandparents were about it, and I get that,
and my mom.

Speaker 1 (40:45):
And my grandmother was like this. My grandmother hid money
everywhere and her father didn't even have a beg. He
kept it all, you know, in a mattress, which is
a probably bad idea.

Speaker 7 (40:55):
But.

Speaker 1 (40:57):
Nonetheless, this is generations in my family to hide money
from their from spouses and and so I don't love
it because I don't know why she's not telling you.
And if you're telling, if you're being honest with us,
and you're saying that you're responsible and that there's not
an issue with spending or an issue with saving, then

(41:17):
I don't know why she would need to hide it
from you. I don't know why she couldn't just and
what it's for you never know. But what is you
never know, is that like it's for when I divorced you.
And I mean, I don't mean to take this to
the very you know, worst extreme, but you wouldn't have
had any idea this money was there when when things
were divided. She's been saving for five years. I mean,
what kind of how much is in there? Thousands?

Speaker 12 (41:39):
Yep, it's a couple of thousand dollars.

Speaker 1 (41:42):
Now another question is does she have any like Have
you guys decided, Hey, you're you're raising the kids and
taking care of the household. That is a very important job.
It's a it's a hard job. So you know you
can set aside X amount of dollars for you Because
I would think it would be weird if I'm let's
say that I'm a stay at home dad and I'm

(42:02):
doing all this work. I'm doing a great job. I'm
taking care of the kids, I'm picking them up. You're
going to work and doing working hard too. But I
would have to come to you every time I wanted
to buy something, I would have to come to you
and say, hey, can I have some money or can
I spend on this? Can I spend on that? As
where if I had my own job, I would probably
have to do less of that because I had my
own revenue stream coming in. So have you guys discussed

(42:22):
maybe and this would be something she should talk to
you about. But if you discussed the idea that she's
just taking a little bit for herself so she didn't
have to ask you for basics, Well.

Speaker 12 (42:33):
We do have an agreement in sense like that. So
let's say she goes out on a girls' night. You know,
she'll let me know, Hey, I'm going out on a
girl's night, so I'm going to be you know, touching
that account. Okay, not a problem.

Speaker 1 (42:45):
Or she needs to buy something, or I'm gonna buy it,
because I wouldn't love that. I wouldn't love to have
to go to my spouse every time and go, hey,
can I buy a new shirt? You know or whatever?
It's like, yeah, okay, So you know, maybe she's just
sort of allocating something for herself so she doesn't have
to do that because she shouldn't have to do that
because you guys agreed in this relationship on dividing the
roles this way. But I want to know eight five

(43:06):
five three five, how would you feel if you found
out that your your partner was essentially hiding money and
you know, do you have I don't. I don't know
if this has ever happened to you. Before I want
to I want to hear from the people. Chris, I
appreciate him. Man have the radio and I to see
what people have to say. Good luck, all right, thank
you a lot of texts about this. But you know,

(43:28):
I don't know, Kiki. You seem to think this is okay.
Why wouldn't you just say, Hey, I'm pulling five hundred
bucks out a month and I'm putting it in an
account and I'm that's what I'm that's for me, and
I'm going to do what I want to do with that.
And that's where none of your business.

Speaker 2 (43:41):
I don't see a problem with this at all, and
I don't. And she didn't take that. She's not taking
it out to do whatever she wants to do with it.
She's taking it out for them.

Speaker 1 (43:50):
But if it's for them, then why doesn't he know?

Speaker 3 (43:52):
He doesn't need to know.

Speaker 2 (43:53):
Of course she does if it's for them, But now
he does know. So it's not like she's lying in
and hiding, I mean lying and hiding. She told him
when he.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
Found it, you know, when he found it.

Speaker 3 (44:03):
Yes, you have.

Speaker 2 (44:04):
When you especially when you are a stay at home parent,
you need to have your affairs in order just in case,
you know, because the bills are depending on somebody else
going to work. You know, the way this world is,
he might lose his job to AI if.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
He come home and hey, y'all took his job. I got.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
I got a little fund on the side baby, for
both of us. That's all she's doing.

Speaker 1 (44:24):
But you're assuming she was going to tell him about.

Speaker 2 (44:25):
That, Well, yes, I would tell you as long as
we together. Now if we break up, that's my money.
You didn't need to know about it. I don't see
anything wrong with this. I think he has a wonderful
wife and he needs to stay.

Speaker 1 (44:36):
If she has, she has every right to want to
have something for herself, and and I think that you
just say that to your partner, right Like my mom,
she wants to have, she wants to have and my
mom works, by the way, they own a business together,
so she has every right to have a piece of that.
But like my thing is, I think my mom wants
to know that she's got something to hers because in

(44:56):
the past, you know, divorced and things like that, she
did a lot of things taken from her. So I
think for her it's that that's how she sleeps at night.
She's a big saver. I don't think my dad is.
So there's just a lot of elements to this. But
I don't know why you don't just disclose that. I
don't know why you don't just say I need something
that's mine. It's you still have access to it, but
I need something that's mine because I don't have the

(45:17):
luxury in this case of going out and selling something
or doing something or making something and making my own
money because we've decided to buy the rules this way.
Because I don't need to say it.

Speaker 2 (45:27):
I don't need you to think about my money on
the side, you know, like and for me, when I
know I have a little coin coming or an extra
little pocket of money, I'm thinking about it all day,
thinking about how I can spend it, thinking about what
I can do and invest in all this.

Speaker 1 (45:39):
I don't need to invest. You should invest in paying
the tollway.

Speaker 3 (45:43):
I don't need you to see. I don't need you
to think about that.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
You should invest in paying the irs, like.

Speaker 2 (45:47):
You know that extra thousand dollars you got you should pay. No,
I don't need you to send me what I should do.
I just need you to not even know that I
have it. It's called the Lord Have Mercy fun. I
learned about it as a five year old from my aunt.
She said, I always have some money on the side.

Speaker 1 (45:59):
But then say that I don't know. Hey does it?
Sin keys? How you say you name?

Speaker 13 (46:03):
Yep?

Speaker 12 (46:04):
Hey?

Speaker 1 (46:04):
How you doing so? This dude he's found a little
side account that his wife has with a bunch of
money in it that she's been sort of siphoning off
the top, not telling him about it. But it's for them,
but he didn't know about it. What do you think?

Speaker 15 (46:18):
I think that's perfectly acceptable. Women have been doing this
since the dawn of time, especially if they've had to
be the stay at home mom. In every single culture,
you will find that women have been hoarding some sort
of financial wealth because they, as a society were just
told that they're not important and they needed an easy
way out. Indians. Indian women have their goal. I was
gifted so much goals when I got married twenty years ago,

(46:41):
and I have it. Yes, my husband knows about it. However,
it's not a big deal. Did I used to be
a stay at home mom? Absolutely, And no, you should
never have to ask your significant other if you can
send any money, especially if you're putting the same or
more amount of work into that relationship, into making that
family happy.

Speaker 1 (47:00):
Thing.

Speaker 15 (47:00):
What happened to this Burro is that it's the situation where,
oh my god, it doesn't matter until it finally happens
to me, and now I'm going to make a big
deal about it. It's like, no, no, it's a fantastical job.

Speaker 12 (47:12):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (47:12):
I agree with everything you're saying. Everything you said is true,
But why not just say that? Why not just establish
that in the relationship. This is what I deserve, this
is what I need, and so this is what I'm
going to do. And then and then he knows. But
it's the hiding part that makes me wonder why, because she.

Speaker 15 (47:29):
Most likely does not feel confident and comfortable enough to
actually tell her spouse. And that's something that's a little
bit deeper that they need to dive into.

Speaker 10 (47:36):
And it's not.

Speaker 15 (47:37):
Because I have no idea what their relationship is, like
none of us too, right, We're just going off of
this quote unquote sixty second video that he decided to
put out there. And so I think you just need
to figure it out on a deeper level. But the
majority of women, the reason why they don't tell their
spouse is is because there has been something that has
happened in the relationship and or they've been conditioned by

(47:58):
the women before them because that's what they know.

Speaker 1 (48:01):
Okay, fair enough, you make a lot of good points.
That's just for me. The transparency would be in my
it relationship with me. I would just want to know.
But that's all good. Thank you, have a good day.
You're glad you called you, because this is what happens
when you don't know and you find it. It's like,
what are you saving up for? Like an escape? You know,
like when you break out Alcatraz? Like what are we

(48:22):
doing here, Jessica, Hi, Hey, you saying leave the guy? Okay,
we're jumping right to that.

Speaker 16 (48:29):
You should leave him, Because at first I was saying,
this must be at least one hundred thousand. She's been,
you know, skimming off the top.

Speaker 1 (48:37):
But how we get to one hundred thousand? How we
get are these people.

Speaker 16 (48:44):
The way he was calling in about his wife. I
was like, Oh, it's huge, So what do you saying?
Two thousand dollars? I'm like, did he even just call
in about two thousand dollars?

Speaker 13 (48:54):
Because this is.

Speaker 16 (48:57):
The thing that because I'm a numbers girl, so that
kind of prey much calmed down to four hundred bucks
a year thirty three dollars a month, which just nothing.
And she might feel some kind of way about not
earning money on her own. It just might want to
have something like they say, oh, school, you have a
little money, set a.

Speaker 3 (49:14):
Sou for a rainy day. And there's nothing wrong with all.

Speaker 1 (49:17):
Yeah, fair enough, fair enough, thank you, Jessica. You're welcome,
have a good day. No, I mean, hey, look, I
got no issue any of this except for the lack
of transparency. Hey Megan, Hi, Hey, what's on? Hey, good morning, welcome,
thanks for listening. What do you think.

Speaker 16 (49:31):
So she's planning on leaving you?

Speaker 1 (49:33):
No? No, no, uh, leaving me? That's what I don't know
what to do it is.

Speaker 3 (49:40):
That's true.

Speaker 12 (49:41):
That's true.

Speaker 1 (49:41):
No, it could be a ton.

Speaker 14 (49:44):
Of different things. Well, like I was saying, my husband,
he's the one that works so but he also has
a separate account for me, and then this hidden account
that I didn't know about until I knew about it.

Speaker 20 (49:58):
But I think.

Speaker 14 (50:00):
Maybe if it were for me, I would probably be
using it to like you said, not ask him for
so much.

Speaker 13 (50:07):
But this would be the account that I.

Speaker 14 (50:08):
Pull from, like for the house, like sundryes, toilet trees,
things where it's it's petty, but it's important.

Speaker 11 (50:17):
So I'm not going to keep coming and asking you.

Speaker 3 (50:19):
Meanwhile, if I want to buy a new shirt or
if i want to buy some.

Speaker 14 (50:22):
Jewelry, yeah, I'm definitely going to put that bug in
your ear so you can take it out of the account.

Speaker 1 (50:28):
Okay, okay, all right, yeah, no, I appreciate you. Have
a good day.

Speaker 5 (50:34):
You too.

Speaker 1 (50:34):
Oh we got a secret bank account? Hey, visit verg vergege.
You got a secret bank account? How much in there?
How long have you been doing it?

Speaker 5 (50:44):
Since I was eleven?

Speaker 1 (50:47):
Okay?

Speaker 5 (50:49):
Yeah, my grandfather started a bank account for me his
credit union, and he would put money in there on
my birthday all the giants and I have, I basically
take like one hundred to three hundred dollars off the
top of my check and pop it in there every time.

Speaker 1 (51:14):
Okay. And you're married and you or your partner whomever
doesn't know about this, correct? Is it your money? Those
like I say, yours it's kind of both of you.
Is it coming out of your paycheck or is it
coming out of his? And he doesn't know.

Speaker 5 (51:30):
Well, so I was working for five years. Prior to that,
I was a stay at home mom for ten. Right
now I'm on medical leave, and so it's about the
side hustle, and I don't feel that my side hustle

(51:53):
has anything to do with him.

Speaker 1 (51:56):
Now. But what's your hesitation to tell him? Nothing? You said?
Is I just wonder what is your hesitation to let
him know that you're doing this? Sure?

Speaker 12 (52:05):
Sure?

Speaker 5 (52:07):
He So he's got some trauma and he had no
control over his childhood, so he had OCD and used
to try and get his hands on everything. And there's
just certain things that he has no business being involved with,
including what.

Speaker 12 (52:28):
I spend money on.

Speaker 5 (52:29):
And I used to have to ask him for money
for things I needed and when he told me no,
I was like, Okay, well we need a different course
of action here.

Speaker 1 (52:42):
Marriage sounds rad like I just can't wait, aren't you excited?

Speaker 13 (52:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (52:47):
God, I'm starting forever and just yeah, amazing, because.

Speaker 5 (52:57):
Yeah, marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done.

Speaker 1 (53:01):
Really, Yeah, Hey sounds great? Yeah, yeah, hide your money apparently,
hide your kids, hide your wife.

Speaker 3 (53:07):
Run, hide your money.

Speaker 5 (53:10):
I got a little college fund for the kids.

Speaker 1 (53:12):
Go in.

Speaker 5 (53:13):
You know, I got my friends.

Speaker 11 (53:15):
So if I need to do whatever, I have a.

Speaker 1 (53:18):
Go bag ready. Apparently say you can get out in
the middle of the night.

Speaker 3 (53:22):
I'm also have I go Oh Jesus.

Speaker 1 (53:25):
Hey link twice if you need help, Okay, call us anytime.
Have a good day. Hey you do Yeah, way to
sell it, guys, way to sell it. Yeah. Oh my god.
Marriage is awesome. You should do it. You know how
many times I hear that every Ooh, you should get married.
You'll find someone someday. Were you married. Well, I'm divorced now.
Oh you good said, I'm hiding money from my spouse,
but you should get married. It is the Friend Show.

(53:46):
Good morning, Thanks for having us on the radio, on
the iHeart app Live and anytime search for the freend
Show on demand. We're supposed to be doing something and
I don't think we can do it, but I guess
this is the new trends in the office, and I
just want to do inform you of what it is
or what it's I think this has been happening, but
I'm not sure if there was a name. I witnessed
someone do it yesterday. I'm not going to say who,
of course I would never I watched someone told me

(54:09):
they were doing it basically yesterday. It's called coffee badging.
Have you heard it? You've heard of the thing, but
maybe you haven't heard of the phrase coffee badging. So
remote based workers are being told they have to return
to work now many and some of them are using
quote unquote coffee badging to dodge the new marching orders.

(54:29):
So coffee badging involves swiping their ID badges at the
office to record their arrival, staying for thirty minutes long
enough to get a cup of coffee and everybody can
see them that they were there, and then go back home.
For workers who don't have to swipe a badge, simply
establishing their presence by saying hi to people, dropping by
someone's cubicle, or just talking loudly in the hallway, and

(54:52):
then irish exiting work for the day. Oh yeah, but
I'm not kidding. Of course I would never reveal who
it was. But I got in the elevator with someone
yesterday at like ten fifteen, because you know, we get
here at for something, so ten to fifteen, time to
go home, and this dude had probably been here for
fifteen minutes, and he got in the elevator with me
because I got to get the hell out of here

(55:12):
and just left, leaving for the day's leaving for the day.

Speaker 3 (55:16):
Dude, like you have.

Speaker 1 (55:18):
To sell something. He's like, I got to get the
hell out of here. And he was done. He'd had
enough for today, so or yesterday, I guess it was
so I yeah, I don't know how I'd feel about it,
because we never stopped coming in.

Speaker 8 (55:30):
Well, that's the thing is, like they tell you have
to come in three four days a week, whatever it
is where you work, but they never say how long
you have to stay, right, so if you stick if
you were to stick around here, you would see that
like as the day goes on, there's less and less
less people by the time at the end of the
day should be here, like five five thirty, ain't nobody here.

Speaker 1 (55:48):
I'm sure they're off on sales calls. Jason, Oh, you're
all so many things. Yeah, absolutely z And then all
the stuff I've seen on TikTok and heard from my
friends about like how they track you. Sales Force apparently
is like the enemy of the state.

Speaker 8 (56:03):
Keep moving, You're a little bubble on teams. Yeah, because
if it goes yellow, you're not working.

Speaker 1 (56:08):
Yes, yes, what I mean. So apparently they have like
apps and they have little devices you can buy that
will move your mouse and circles for you, so you
don't you know, you can go off and do your
laundry or whatever.

Speaker 3 (56:16):
I need that.

Speaker 1 (56:17):
But I don't understand this because I get like the
collaborative thing. I get that everybody, well, I think some
companies want you to come back so they can watch
you work and and so that you can't be more
efficient with your day. I guess. I mean because if
your work is getting done, then you and you still
have a job because you're doing a good job. Then
I guess I don't really know why it necessarily matters

(56:38):
if you're there or not. I get that there's a
collaborative thing where it's like, well, you know, we're all
together like on this show, like it would be weird
if we were all in separate places. We tried that
the first day of COVID. It did not work, and
so we said, forget it. We're all just gonna We're
gonna have the biggest super spreader radio show of all time.
And then we just came to work on day two
and never stopped coming in. And the company was like,
you can't do that, but they never turned our key

(56:58):
card off because they didn't mind and we were working.

Speaker 3 (57:02):
They just had to put it in writing like you
shouldn't do that.

Speaker 1 (57:04):
Hey, if don't you do that, Fred, And then we
did it for two years. Where was I going with this?
But no. But it's just amazing to me that because
people I know who work from home or were working
from home primarily, they would tell you that they were
working harder, yes, than they were because it was like, well,
I got nothing else to do, Like I'm sitting here,

(57:25):
I have nowhere to go, my laptop's open, I've already
cleaned my house and done my laundry five times, you know,
so I guess I'll just do more work. So for
the people who are like you got to come in
because you're we think you'll work harder, I don't think
that's true. I think I think people were working harder
when they were at home, and who cares if you're efficient.
You know. My theory about this, In the average eight
hour workday, I contend the average person does about two

(57:48):
hours of work, oh maybe three. Think about it. There's lunch,
we got to stroll around a little bit, we got
to have a meeting or two that didn't need to
be a meeting, but I got to be here for
eight hours. So this is when you work completely odd
different hours than everybody else, like we do, you begin
to notice the patterns. It's like, sure, let's schedule a
bunch of meetings all day because you got to be

(58:09):
because you're expected to be here from nine to five
or whatever. So I got to fill the day and
look busy. Sure, let's have a meeting around one. That's
two o'clock in the morning. For me. We're not We're
not I'm unavailable or I'm taking a meeting from bed.
I don't know what to tell you. I notice, right,
but yeah, I don't know how to fix it, you know,

(58:30):
because it's like, okay, so let's say it takes me
half the day to get my eight hours of work done. Well,
then in theory, I should be able to go home after.
If I'm that efficient, I can get it all done
and you don't have any issue with my work, and
I got I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing,
and you're happy and it takes me three or four hours,
then I should be able to be done, right. Yeah,
But then if people figured out that you were only

(58:51):
really doing four hours of work a day, nobody wants nobody.
You wouldn't want your boss to know that you can
do eight hours worth of work in four hours. So
then if you if they did, then they would probably
just give you more work to fill the time, right, yeah,
more assignments. You gotta pretend like it takes you all day.
Otherwise it'd be like, oh, great, you're super efficient. I'm
going to penalize you by giving you even more work.

Speaker 3 (59:14):
Yeah, yeah, I could see that. Well, you got a
factor in breaks, don't we legally have to have those
through fifteen thirty smoke break?

Speaker 1 (59:21):
That's required? Yeah, a day, it's long.

Speaker 3 (59:24):
It's still long, I think.

Speaker 1 (59:25):
So if you.

Speaker 3 (59:26):
Work over when it's like six hours something like that,
I think it's six and a half.

Speaker 1 (59:29):
Well, no wonder because we don't so no breaks around here. No,
I guess when the commercials are playing anyway, coffee badging,
that's the people are doing that, or at least there's a
term for it. Showing up for work and then making
it seem as though I do that at parties. I
do that social functions, well, I coffee badge the social function,

(59:50):
like if it's something I have to go to you,
but I just am not feeling it, I will show
up and I'll be hey, everybody up here. If you
see that level of energy and that level of like
me needing attention on me, then you know exactly what
I'm doing. I'm making sure everybody knows that I'm there here,
I am sorry, I came, I'm sor if I'm acting

(01:00:14):
like that, then you know right away what my plan is.
Fifteen minutes later in the uber on the other direction, yes, yeah,
nurses don't get lunches or breaks. What I've noticed that before,
like when I volunte here to the hospital or whatever,
and that wasn't supposed to be a humble bragg like
that's the only reason I would know that.

Speaker 3 (01:00:30):
They take lunches. My friend who's a nurse calls me
in her lunch all the time.

Speaker 1 (01:00:33):
Well, maybe she gets one and these people don't.

Speaker 3 (01:00:35):
I don't think that's legal, right, Well, I.

Speaker 1 (01:00:36):
Think like maybe they're eating, but I don't think that.
I don't know if they're maybe they're not supposed to.
Like maybe they're eating their lunch, but they're also looking
at the monitors and you know, I mean, so I
would think you're kind of always like there may be
stretches where you're not doing anything, but God forbid, there's
something that happens, and then you've got to be on
it right away, Like I would guess if you're an
overnight nurse. I mean, people are sleeping, of course, but

(01:00:57):
you s not like you can sleep because it's god
for somebody code or something. Then it's like, you know,
and I got churo hanging out of my mouth. You know,
it's like I'm on break though, guys, right, I can't
handle this right now, I'm on break.

Speaker 7 (01:01:09):
Or like the firefighters right, like my husband Hobby, like
they I mean they're at the fire house and then
they're cooking or like they're eating whatever, but there's a fire.

Speaker 3 (01:01:16):
They can't be like we're still you know, the meat
loaf is still and they gotta go.

Speaker 1 (01:01:20):
Yeah. See, now that would be hard for me. Like
I can't imagine not doing anything all day. You know,
for let's say you don't get I don't know how
when they get a call, but let's say they don't
get a call for hours, and you're sitting there and
you're there, you know, when you're hanging out, you're like
watching TV or sleep hanging or whatever, and then all
of a sudden it's like boom, Now I gotta be
on right and I got to go and do this thing.
But I don't know when it's gonna happen. Like I

(01:01:42):
need a minute, you know, like when I get up,
I need a minute, right, And the fire is not
gonna wait for me. No, you know, I can't be like,
hold on, guy, I need like fifteen give me like
fifteen twenty, you know, then I'll slide down that pole
and help you out, you know what I mean. But
like I'm not if I'm dead ass a sleep and
you wake me up with an alarm and then say
go save someone's life, I don't think that's likely to Well.

Speaker 3 (01:02:01):
That's not for me.

Speaker 7 (01:02:02):
So shout out to you guys, because I can't do that.
And yes, all the you know, first responders.

Speaker 1 (01:02:07):
Shout out to hoave hair. Your husband was a firefighter.

Speaker 4 (01:02:10):
Well, go in the city, po a game for your
You go to work and you're doing recess with your friends,
but there is so much that goes into that.

Speaker 3 (01:02:18):
Or what people think about this right where?

Speaker 1 (01:02:22):
But we are Fred's show is so have you every
time you left your home in your life? Can Did
you have a mobile phone?

Speaker 3 (01:02:28):
No? But I definitely like I missed the payphones.

Speaker 4 (01:02:31):
But I think there was like times that the movies
maybe where like we would pick a time when it
was over and my mom would pick me up.

Speaker 3 (01:02:37):
But I don't think I ever used to pay phone,
but sounds lit.

Speaker 1 (01:02:41):
I think it was college before it was like here's
a mobile phone.

Speaker 12 (01:02:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:02:44):
No, I didn't like and here you go like take
this with you and it was big. It wasn't like
brick big, but it was still like not going in
your podcast? Ever been left waiting by the phone? It's
the Fred Show. Angela, good morning, Welcome to the program.
How are you morning.

Speaker 13 (01:03:00):
I'm doing okay, but I'm feeling really confused right now.

Speaker 1 (01:03:05):
Yes, of course, and that's why we're here waiting by
the phone. We are public servants and we're going to
try and figure out if you've been ghosted. What's going on?
You met a guy, his name is Luke. Why don't
you tell us how you met? About any dates you've
been on and then what's happening now?

Speaker 13 (01:03:18):
And while you're confused, Yeah, well, we met on hins
and once we matched, we were talking so much, just
like a ton, and our messages were really flirtatious. So
we planned a date. And so this is where things
got really weird. When I got to the date, I
walked up to the table and said hi to him,
and I sat down, and then he just looked like

(01:03:40):
he saw a ghost, and I was like, uh, that's weird.
But then out of nowhere, it got even weirder because
he started speaking Italian and then claiming that he doesn't
even speak English, which doesn't make any sense because we
were talking and texting so much, all.

Speaker 16 (01:03:57):
In English, and yeah, okay, I just had.

Speaker 13 (01:04:00):
No idea what was going on. It was the weirdest
thing ever.

Speaker 1 (01:04:04):
Well, I'm trying to figure this out. So this guy,
this guy had no issue communicating with you via text, right,
so he knows English? Yeah, exactly, okay, but then you
go on his date and then all of a sudden,
it's broken English to only Italian and you're sitting there going, wait, mane,
well how did you talk to me before then?

Speaker 12 (01:04:20):
Exactly?

Speaker 6 (01:04:21):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:04:21):
Any sense? Yeah, okay, why don't you get on like
Google Translator or something and then start texting him in Italian.
Maybe that's the problem. Maybe that's why you haven't heard
from him, because now that maybe he had amnesia and
he just forgot how to speak English.

Speaker 13 (01:04:34):
I mean, I don't know. It was just like you know,
I would never even normally go on waiting by the phone,
but this was just way too weird for me to
not share. To try to figure out what was going
on with this.

Speaker 1 (01:04:45):
That's where we come in. We're gonna call this guy.
I'm gonna get out of my Italian translation machine here
and see if I can figure out how to communicate
with him. Luke the Italian. Okay, we're gonna call him
in just a second and see if we can figure
out what's going on. You'll be on the phone the
whole time, and is always is that we can straighten
this out and set you up on another date that
we pay for. Sound good?

Speaker 5 (01:05:04):
Okay, yeah, thank you?

Speaker 1 (01:05:05):
That sounds good. Hey, Angela, let's call this guy Luke.
You guys, you met on on Hinge, one of the apps,
and you were chatting and it was flirtatious and it
was all good, and you planned a date together. You
go on the date, you sit down, and the guy's
facial expression changes, and then all he'll do is speak
to you in Italian. It's almost like you forgot how

(01:05:26):
to speak English.

Speaker 13 (01:05:26):
Yep, that's exactly what happened. And so because I don't
know any Italian and it was just super awkward, I
got up and left. And you know, I haven't seen
or heard from him ever since that happened.

Speaker 1 (01:05:38):
He never like he spoke Italian and then he never wavered,
like he'd never no other words of English came out.

Speaker 13 (01:05:45):
Nope, not at all.

Speaker 1 (01:05:47):
But he knew English when he was texting you. He
used to speak clear, right, Okay, yeah, all right, let's
call this guy right now a good luck?

Speaker 13 (01:05:54):
Okay, thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:06:03):
Well that's interesting. Hey, Chow, Luke Chow. My name is Fred.
I'm calling for the Fred Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that you are on
the radio right now, and I would need your permission
to continue with the call. Can which aff for just
a second in English? I'm sure? Yeah? See, Seth seemed
to him like it was a weird question. You know
that we why would we speak in English? But these

(01:06:24):
you you are Luke. Right, you are Luke and you're
on the dating app Hinge right, Yes, I'm Luke. Okay,
Well it's funny because we met a woman named Angela
and she reached out to us, said that she met
you on Hinge and you seem to have forgotten how
to speak English. Do you remember that? Oh yeah, Angela schools.

Speaker 12 (01:06:45):
Sky No no, no, no, you.

Speaker 1 (01:06:55):
Us No. You know you understand Cape, you understand Valley
even Barlow, England. And look, I know you speak English

(01:07:15):
because you spoke it to me, you know, for a
good minute before we did this. Can we can we
just go back to English? It's just you and you
and me.

Speaker 20 (01:07:21):
No English, no, no, no, So we're not angels, so
you we're not going to speak in English.

Speaker 1 (01:07:32):
I just want to be clear, because you spoke English
until I said her name, and then you train then
you became no no I st.

Speaker 21 (01:07:42):
Louis par la englide ill no no, no, no, your barista.

Speaker 3 (01:07:52):
Tourism. I got it.

Speaker 1 (01:07:55):
Hey, Angela, this is this dude obviously speaks English, and
this is obviously I would love to get I would
love to get the story out of him. But I
don't know why he's doing this. What I mean, is
there any is there any way we could get you
to speak English again?

Speaker 3 (01:08:14):
Anyway?

Speaker 1 (01:08:17):
Google? I mean that one.

Speaker 3 (01:08:20):
Yeah, come on, just give her the real reason you're
being weird.

Speaker 1 (01:08:27):
Obviously there was something that he didn't like, and it's
easier for him to pretend. I guess this is his
way out of something. Can you think of anything, Angela?

Speaker 13 (01:08:36):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:08:36):
Are your pictures old?

Speaker 13 (01:08:37):
Or?

Speaker 1 (01:08:37):
I'm not saying that you're not attractive, I'm just saying, like,
is there any did you change your hair? I'm trying
to think of all the things we've heard over there.
Did you put your you know, bare feet up on
the table, like? Did you do anything weird?

Speaker 13 (01:08:47):
No? I can't think of anything weird that I did,
and my pictures are recent. I think they're pretty recent.

Speaker 1 (01:08:58):
I'm going to give you one more chance. Luke, is
there do you want to tell us why you haven't
called Angela in English? Okay?

Speaker 21 (01:09:06):
Fine, there is there's Luke.

Speaker 3 (01:09:10):
You got you got me?

Speaker 1 (01:09:12):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (01:09:12):
Look, I pan we did.

Speaker 1 (01:09:15):
You panicked? Why did you had it?

Speaker 21 (01:09:17):
I showed up and I swear she looked completely different
from her photos, and I didn't know what to do,
so my brain just shut down and somehow I don't
know to speak I thought preparing not to speak English
felt like the least mean option.

Speaker 7 (01:09:34):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:09:35):
Well, you obviously speak English because you planned the date
in English, So I mean I could understand if you'd
never met before that you could try this one. But
like you answered the phone in English, you texted her
in English. Like I said, my brain turned off and
I didn't know what to do. Okay, Well, I wish
I could ask you in Italian, but I can't. Uh,

(01:09:56):
would you like to go out with her again? We'll
pay for it. I think I know the answer. You
can go to a nice Italian rest an order and
tell you him. She'll be very impressed. Would you like
to go out with her again?

Speaker 3 (01:10:04):
I just I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:10:05):
I don't think that.

Speaker 21 (01:10:07):
I'm just not attracted to her, and I didn't want
to hurt her feelings, and I did hurt her feelings,
and so I don't feel like.

Speaker 1 (01:10:16):
It's for the best. Well, I mean a better question
when be Angela, after hearing all of this, would you
even want to go out with him again?

Speaker 11 (01:10:22):
No?

Speaker 13 (01:10:22):
I wouldn't because it's just ridiculous what he did, and
he really didn't have to do all that. He could
have just told me, or we could have just you know,
like had our day and it didn't have to go
on for long. It could have been like, you know,
he could have said that he had to leave or
something after we were there for like I don't know,
thirty minutes or something like you could give someone thirty

(01:10:45):
minutes of your time, right and then like it could
have been over. He really didn't have to pretend to
not know any English and just teak Italian and then
you know, now my feelings really are hurt.

Speaker 1 (01:10:57):
So well, I think it's kind of a fair standard.
I don't want to go out with you know, you
agree to go on a date with somebody for drinks.
Typically it's two drinks. Typically that's just kind of you know,
everyone's going to make time and get ready and go
out and do all that. It's usually kind of like
universally accepted, We're going to sit there for two drinks
and if it doesn't work out then that's fine whatever.
But or you could just start speaking another language and

(01:11:17):
pretend like you don't speak English anymore, that you just
have amnesia and forgot.

Speaker 3 (01:11:20):
But anyway, look, no, we'll try anything, won't you we
I mean, this is.

Speaker 1 (01:11:24):
A new one. We've never heard this one before. But Luke,
adios and Angela good luck to you, choo is hello
and goodbye right so chiao again and Guy's bestive luck
to both of you.

Speaker 13 (01:11:35):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:11:39):
It used the freend Show, good morning, thanks for having
us on the radio, on the iHeart app Live and anytime.
Search for The freend Show on demand. So a married
man recently sparks debate after turning to Reddit with a dilemma.
He says, always been upfront with his wife. He doesn't
buy into this bro code thing suggests that men should
keep secrets from each other. So one day, his longtime
friend of twenty five years approached him with a private

(01:12:01):
confession in mind. But the man immediately made his stance clear.
If it shared with him, it's also shared with his wife.
That honestly didn't sit well with his friend or their
mutual circle. The friend felt betrayed, rallied others, and now
most of their shared friends are siding against the guy.
Now it doesn't it doesn't say here what the secret was.

(01:12:25):
And again this is this is someone who paraphrased that
the Reddit post or if he told him that ahead
of time or after the fact, like, hey, thanks for
telling me that you're cheating on your wife. I'm going
to tell my wife just so you know. I'd like
to believe that. If if that's your deal, then it's like, hey, man,
I got to tell you something that you'd be like, hey,
just so you know, Like my wife is considered part

(01:12:47):
of me now, and so if you tell me, I'm
going to tell her, So just be aware of that before.
Let's just assume that's what it was that he did
give his friend the heads up? Is that fair? And
in your relationship? Is that what you assume? I want
to know from you guys. Of course you can call
it text eight five five five one three five. If
I tell you guys something, and we're friends and I

(01:13:08):
know all of your partners, but except for Big Tim,
I've never Metica, but I know all of your partners.
So if I tell you guys something, should I just
assume that it's going to your partner? Is that fair
to assume? Or do I have to tell you I
don't want you to tell that person. Like are my
friends telling their wives everything I tell them?

Speaker 3 (01:13:25):
It depends on what you tell me.

Speaker 4 (01:13:26):
If it's like something health related or something you're going
through like mental health, physical health.

Speaker 3 (01:13:31):
And I'm not repeating that that's not for me to share.

Speaker 1 (01:13:34):
Okay, but if I'm cheating on someone, you're gonna run
home until Shane.

Speaker 3 (01:13:38):
That's hot tea.

Speaker 4 (01:13:39):
Yes, yeah, I mean probably yeah, I mean because you're
messing up already, So why do I have to keep
that secret?

Speaker 1 (01:13:47):
Right?

Speaker 3 (01:13:47):
I probably don't want you to cheat?

Speaker 1 (01:13:49):
See, but this comes back to like for me, when
you get in a fight with your partner and then
you go tell your friend. You know, most people are
telling their side of the story. Most people are not
telling an objectivetive. Most people want their friend to side
with them. Most of your friends will side with you
sometimes maybe if you tell them the actual story, they
might point out something that you could have done differently.

(01:14:10):
But then the problem is you you know, an hour
or two or a day or a week later, you
make up with that person or it's over, and then
your friend holds onto the memory of the last story
you told them, and that could potentially affect the way
they look at your partner. And so I feel the
same way about you know, like I've had a friend
who's going through kind of a tough thing, and he's
a family friend, and we know all parties involved, and

(01:14:31):
so I'm not sharing with like my mom and dad
the full extent of what I know, because what happens
if everything is resolved and then it's like they don't
they're not getting constant updates, they're not fully immersed in
this situation. And then let's just say, are they just
supposed to forget because they they probably favor one side
more than the other. And if they're only getting information

(01:14:53):
from one side, and this is a family friend who's
going to come around and blah blah blah, then you
know it's unfair because to the other person because they're
only getting one side of the story. So like, I
don't want my family to think differently about anybody because
they are only getting some information, right, So I don't
really share anywhere near as much as I know because
I don't want this person to be in that situation.

(01:15:13):
And I feel like that's what happens when you share
a story secondhand with someone else in your life, you
know what I mean. It's like what you're saying, you're
giving them the information and then you're trusting them to
forget and move on. But they may hold on to
that and then have bad feelings about someone forever. Like
let's say, okay, let's say my I'm in a relationship,

(01:15:33):
which that in itself would be hysterical, right, that would
be why and Jason's cheating on Mike, which would never happen,
And I tell her that, and then then but there's
more of the story, or there's a whole lot more context,
or I've known you for fifteen years so I know
that the relationship can be up and down, or I'm
just making all this up and then you guys resolve it.

(01:15:54):
But my friend over here doesn't have my girlfriend hypothetical,
doesn't have all that context, doesn't know the ins and out,
doesn't see you every day, so all she knows is
you cheated and now you're back in the relationship again.
Like that might affect the way she thinks about you.
And that's not fair to you. No, no it's not.

Speaker 8 (01:16:09):
And that's why I'm very selective of what I tell Mike,
because I can't hold a grudge, like to save my life,
like anyone can do whatever to me. I get mad,
I get over it whatever, I get mad at you
for that, Like Jason hold a grudge. He is the
complete opposite. Like if I tell him anything negative or
someone did something especially to me or to someone that
he cares about, he will hold on to that and

(01:16:31):
remember that for forever.

Speaker 3 (01:16:32):
And I'm like, okay, like we're good. I have to
be very selective share.

Speaker 1 (01:16:37):
Hey Sam, good morning, Hi Sam. So you tell your
husband everything, no matter what.

Speaker 9 (01:16:44):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (01:16:45):
Is that fair?

Speaker 13 (01:16:47):
You know?

Speaker 6 (01:16:48):
To me?

Speaker 9 (01:16:48):
Like, my partner is my partner through thick and thin,
and I tell him everything, and even if he doesn't
agree with me, like that's why he's there, so he
can kind of be sound words off of each other,
and so you know, it kind of keeps me balanced.
But at the same time, like I.

Speaker 14 (01:17:06):
Like sometimes I want advice or sometimes I you.

Speaker 11 (01:17:09):
Know, we just want to talk about stuff.

Speaker 9 (01:17:11):
So it's one hundred percent like I trust him, he
trusts me. And if we say don't tell anybody else
and we don't, and then that's it.

Speaker 1 (01:17:19):
I get that, like when you're in a relationship that
you're kind of supposed to be one unit, and so
you should be able to bounce anything off of that person.
I guess, Emily detected, you're losing me. I guess all
I'm saying is if there's one person and one person
and you're sharing this information with other people and they're
not seeing all perspectives that I don't think it's fair
for you to be sharing information because they're only going

(01:17:40):
to sort of side with the side that you're telling them.
You know what I mean, Like, unless I have all
the information that I don't think I should be sharing
because I don't want you to hold on to long
term you know things because I only told you a
little bit. You know what I'm saying? Absolutely, Yeah, you're
changing that you're tainting that you're paying in the water.
Are you peeing in the pool?

Speaker 11 (01:18:02):
Everybody peas in the pool?

Speaker 9 (01:18:03):
Fred, Come on, whether you say it or not, everybody
peas in the pool?

Speaker 4 (01:18:06):
All right, Sell, he's gonna say you three sides to
the story.

Speaker 1 (01:18:10):
Yeah, A large body of water maybe, but not a pool.
Thank you, Sam, Have a good day, have a good one.

Speaker 9 (01:18:15):
Love you guys.

Speaker 1 (01:18:16):
And I'm thoughtful enough to go downstream when I do
it too, for the record, Yeah, very thoughtful. M Kelsey, Hi, Kelsey.

Speaker 13 (01:18:22):
Hi, Hi, Hi, how are you hey?

Speaker 1 (01:18:24):
So what do you think this? Do you think that
you should tell your partner absolutely everything that you learn
about other people.

Speaker 11 (01:18:32):
I'm not sure whether you should or not. I mean,
I think that's something personal.

Speaker 3 (01:18:36):
The only real thing that.

Speaker 11 (01:18:37):
I had to say. Feel like, if you hear something
about someone and it's not something that someone told you directly,
then that can cause major issues. I think that anything
that you hear that you want to share with just
about anybody, you should probably validate before you start sharing it,

(01:18:58):
because a lot of people get into arguments with people
or something like that and then they start making up
stuff and then once your partner hears that, it's like,
oh what, Yeah, you know. I just think it's really
especially as far as cheating and stuff go, they think
that it's really important to you know, verify the information
before you start telling anyone.

Speaker 1 (01:19:16):
Yeah. I also think you have to keep your your
your circle really small when it comes to relationship arguments
and stuff because again, like you're you're likely to be
telling your side of the story, and the person's likely
to react in favor of the story you just told them,
not only because they love you, they're going to try
and see the good in you, but they're gonna listen
to the story you just told that probably is devoid
of all the details about it, and so then you're

(01:19:38):
getting that now you're being enabled by this advice, But
then the real story is maybe somewhere more towards the middle.
So then you then you find resolution, you get back
with that person, and now your friend is over here
going I can't believe you took that jacka back, but
they didn't know the whole thing.

Speaker 11 (01:19:54):
Yeah, I can fully agree. I've always said that there's
your story, and then there's the person's story, and then
somewhere in between is the truth. And I don't think
that you ever because emotions are involved in regardless of
what you're telling someone basically all the time. So there's
always and you know what, I don't hang out at
somebody else's house. You know, I don't know their relationship,

(01:20:16):
and as I shouldn't, so, especially like you're saying, with
relationships as things like that, it's really important to understand
that exactly what you said, there are there's actually three
sides of the story. There's one person's side, the other
person's side, and then there's the truth. And sometimes, you know,
I think most of the time you don't need to
know the truth. I don't need to be that intimate

(01:20:38):
with people in their personal relationships because I'm kind of
in the situation with my daughter because HERR get along.

Speaker 12 (01:20:46):
I get along with.

Speaker 11 (01:20:47):
Both of them, obviously obviously her. But you know, the
thing about it is is I don't really think that
maybe their relationship is super great for her. However, you know,
I'm not in their house after.

Speaker 1 (01:21:01):
Gus has the problem. Right, So like your daughter comes
and tells you, Hey, you know, so and so did
this to me, and you're like, wow, that sucks. And
then they go get married and you're like, wait a minute,
but I thought he did this to you, you know.
But again, like how did that start? What are the details?
I need to know all the infra? And you you
hold onto this as her mother, right, even though you
should be a trusted source. But but now you have

(01:21:21):
to hang on to that as they move forward and
they get over it, and you may not. Hey, Kelsey,
I got to go. Have a good day.

Speaker 3 (01:21:26):
Okay, have a good day.

Speaker 1 (01:21:27):
I'm glad you called. Hey, Rachel. Right, you tell your
husband everything, no matter what.

Speaker 5 (01:21:34):
Always he tells me everything.

Speaker 6 (01:21:35):
I tell him everything most of the time. It's like
they said, before you get you know an opinion of Hey,
am I handling this writer, Hey, what do you think
about this? I had a friend tell him that the
best thing he did for his marriage was too cheat
on his wife. So of course he of course he
told me that. And you know, did they be friends
after that?

Speaker 1 (01:21:55):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (01:21:55):
But was there you know, certain things we might not
do with him or stuff like that.

Speaker 1 (01:22:00):
Yes, that's what I mean. So, okay, So your husband's
friend cheats on his wife, right and tells you this,
You're like, wow, okay, why don't I like cheating? And
that makes me think differently in him? But okay, fine,
whatever he did it. And then your husband's like, hey,
I'm gonna go out with so and so tonight. Is
there no part of you that's like, I realize you
trust your husband, but like this guy, this guy, this

(01:22:23):
dude has you know, loose, loose, loose definition of what
a marriage is. And I don't know. But and while
my husband is trustworthy and a good person, like I
don't know, I don't necessarily want to hang it out
with that person. That being said, if you trust your
husband and you know that he wouldn't cheat on you,
and he never gives you this information, then you have
no reason to suspect anything. So everyone's fine, so.

Speaker 6 (01:22:45):
The way my husband is, though he also, you know,
didn't appreciate the comment. So if we hung out, it
was mostly I was like couples instead of just one
on one. It was okay, let's go. They you know,
they stay together, so let's go, you mean, and we'll
go to dinner.

Speaker 1 (01:23:01):
That she's so comfortable. Now now you're at the dinner.
Now you're sitting there eating your soup, and you know
all the details that you didn't need to know because
they've moved forward. And if he hadn't told you, then
you wouldn't have to suffer through that meal knowing that
this dude was out here with fluosy, you know, And
that's I don't know, Rachel, I'm not sure about this.
Thank you have a good day. I don't know. I

(01:23:22):
don't know that you need to know everything you tell
Big Tim everything.

Speaker 3 (01:23:26):
Big Tim a listening to me. I gotta talk to
you all.

Speaker 2 (01:23:29):
But I always think that people tell you tell your
friends something, they're telling two people that they trust. So
when I tell you something, I expect you to tell
Mama Fred and your therapist.

Speaker 3 (01:23:40):
You know what I'm saying. I just know what's going
to them too, you know what.

Speaker 1 (01:23:44):
You think I'm over here an executive coach and talking
about you. Yes, I go to my executive coach each week.
You think I'm sure talking about you.

Speaker 2 (01:23:51):
Jason's gonna tell Caitlin and probably know you know what,
I'm like that to happen.

Speaker 1 (01:23:57):
It's maybe, I mean, it's probably fair to assume.

Speaker 3 (01:24:01):
But there's always a Kiki segment in his Executive we.

Speaker 1 (01:24:06):
Sit down in an executive Coach show. She didn't we
sit down at the first like, what what did she do?
What she tell you? The first fifteen minutes we have
to dissect what you did. The Fread Show is on
Fread's Fun Fact, Fred's Fun Learn so much, guys? Did

(01:24:29):
you know that your eyeballs do not grow or change
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(01:24:51):
you a fun and a fun fact, a bonus fun
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(01:25:12):
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like I'm that guy. Yeah, I'm the life of the party.
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