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All thanks to Live Nation. Okay, well, here's it. An
etiquette question about gifting, which is why I brought it up.
But say, and this is on Reddit, by the way,
because as Fred Hayter Lauren would say, that's the only
place I can get content is Reddit. So yeah, it's
a great place to get content. At least I credited.
I never should accredit it. I should just say, oh
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my god, this isn't another original idea from me.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
I know people in.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
The business who will read something on raddit and then
make it as if it was their own story, which
I have a lot of respect for you.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Just being like, yo, this is from raddit.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Less well, thank you that it is our jobs to
scour the world for content and then give you what
we think is the best of it. Okay, and we
don't always succeed at that, By the way, I'll be
the first stupment that we don't always succeed at that,
but that's what we're here to do. So we're here
to entertain you. We read all kinds of stupid things,
hundreds of pages of crap every day, which is the
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hardest part of the job. Is just have to use
our eyes and read and concentrate, which we don't do
that very well either. Sometimes. A woman logged on to
Reddit after spotting a three hundred dollars charge on her
joint credit card. She confronted her husband and discovered the
money was for a wedding gift that he bought for
a female coworker. The issue, though, is that neither she
nor her husband were invited to the wedding. Her husband
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defended the gifts by saying the coworker had shared a
wedding registry I via the company slack channel, which that's bold.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Whoa lasty?
Speaker 1 (01:46):
I mean, I don't know if we have a company
slack channel. I'm not a slack person. I haven't gone
there to find content yet, but I will don't worry.
If there's a place I can get content without having
to do anything, I'll go. But can you imagine if
you just sent you should do it and see what
happ Not send your wedding registry to a company all email?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
And the funny thing is people would buy you stuff.
They talk about you behind your back, but you'd get
more stuff.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Yeah, so he believed that that justified the purchase. She disagreed,
pointing out that at her own baby shower, their own
baby shower, he was I guess involved with that, the
same coworker had given them a modest twenty dollars gift.
Many comments as sided with the wife calling the coworkers
registry post taxi and questioning the husband's judgment in spending
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so much on someone he barely knows. Is there okay?
Is there a difference between a wedding registry and a
baby registry? If I'm not invited to the baby shower,
do you are you still expected to buy a baby gift?
If I'm not invited to the wedding, but I know
the person and I want to be nice, can I
send a wedding present? I think this could probably be
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used passive aggressively. I could see someone sending a wedding
gift to a wedding they weren't invited to as a
reminder that they weren't invited. Yeah, but let's just say
you're not being petty for once, and you just want
to be a nice person. And maybe someone's getting married
at a destination, or it's a small wedding or a
family wedding, or maybe I work with them, but I
don't know them all that well, but I do want
to do something nice because maybe I'm I don't know,
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I don't know the scenario here, the demographics, but maybe
he's an older, more established co worker, and she's younger
and starting there, starting a life, and he wanted to
do something kind for her. I don't see this as
that egregious. If they have the money, I don't know
that they. You have to be invited to a wedding
to buy somebody a wedding gift if you want to
be nice. In fact, I would almost rather sometimes buy
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a wedding gift than not have to go to the wedding.
Oh that's almost a cheaper way out for me, Okay, noted, Yeah, no,
I've already auctioned off. I've already made money on my
plus one for you, so don't be there. Don't worry. No,
we gotta It's like the stock market right now, the
price is going up. Yeah, people are. It's on eBay
right now. It's win a Date with me Takiki's wedding
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y and currently it's hit seventeen dollars, but it wasn't ten,
so it's going up very quickly.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
No, I think we could probably get close to Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (04:03):
Did anyone buy you a gift? He wasn't invited to
the wedding? No, no, no, not that didn't happen. People
that I even invited that didn't even r VP or
said a gift. You guys know, I don't really care
about the gift, but I still think that's a little weird.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
People didn't do VP.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
No, no, no, no, Like I sent an invitation to someone
that we work with very closely and he didn't even
r s v P yes or no, didn't give a gift,
but I no, he gave gifts to another coworker that
got married, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
That was a male.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Very interesting.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Not the point of the story.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
My point is that not the point of the story.
He lets go ahead and get that out there.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
I've been waiting this moment to be honest yet, yes,
finally wait me to say something. But for my baby shower,
my dear dear coworker ater coworker Beyonce Fox was on
the one of the throw the legend. He sent a
gift with another coworker who was at my baby shower.
And that was the sweetest thing. It was like the
cutest little outfit and and that moment, don't if I
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could be honest, I felt guilty. Like that made me
feel guilt because I was like, oh, I should have
invited you, and she didn't. I don't think she wanted
the invite, but I think she just wanted to be
sweet in that moment.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
And she is the.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Sweetest woman ever, so sweet. But I was like, to me,
I felt like, oh, I felt really bad. You know,
That's how I took it. I was like, oh, like,
you're sweet, but I feel bad.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Because because there's no way you could possibly invite everybody, right,
everybody in your orbit we.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Barely fit and maybe sure you have to fit the
drag queens.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
You know, I think I've sent I think I've sent
gifts to baby registries before for showers I wasn't invited
to because I'm a guy, and a lot of times
guys aren't invited to the showers. But like she it's
a coworker's wife, and so yeah, I don't know, Yeah,
I think I've done that, but I want to know
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course you guys can comment on this too. Oh you
guys are welcome to chime in if you'd like your
commentary's value.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
But I mean, I guess I don't understand what the
problem is. Like if they don't have any money and
he's giving gifts to someone who's wedding he wasn't invited to,
and then I would say, why are you giving them money?
Like we need money? You know that that's an egregious expense,
like like what is Then I would start to wonder,
like what's the nature of that relationship, like are you
obsessed with her or something? Because like, well, if we
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don't have money and you're sending gifts to I mean, look,
if we don't have money, which a lot of people
don't have money, right, I mean, I know, if you
get if you get in you know, holidays, and then
you get invited to a wedding, and then god forbid,
somebody gets pregnant like it could be. And then if
someone's birthday gets it gets a little trim in the
bank account. This time of year, gets a little trim
in the old bank account. Okay, yeah right, I got
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I got multiple birthdays. I gotta buy Christmas presents for everybody,
you know, just travel like it, gets a little trim
in the old bank account this time of year. The
summer is not great for me either, because I got
Dad's sister mom, and so I get, you know, a
little brokie in the summer too. But if I didn't
have any money, and I had and I'm in a
relation and married and I'm sending gifts to a woman's
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wedding that I wasn't invited to and we're broke, then
I think then you start to ask questions, right, like
what why?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Absolutely?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
But if we have enough money and you would you know,
I'm going to ask them, and it's a nice thing
to do. And I think what I would say is, hey, look,
we didn't here, we go, We're not we don't have
to go to the wedding. We don't have to dress up,
we don't have to do anything. I want to do
something nice for this person. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
I think it was a nice gesture.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
You work with someone, you see that they're you know,
getting married or having a baby. I think he was
so totally fine to send a gift. But if, like
you said, we're already having financial issues, that's a big problem.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
You shouldn't be sending anybody a gift.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah, I do think The other thing is if you
send a gift to someone who's wedding you weren't invited
to in an office setting, for example, and there are
a lot of weddings you didn't get invited to, then
why wouldn't you so you don't send gifts to them?
You know, then you start to bid why her over
the other ones they're missing around? But that's also not
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for anyone else to say that would that the only
person whose opinions matter in that or the guy who
bought the gift and the guy's wife.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
Oh yeah, but like if they were messing around, why
would you buy her a wedding gift? Like what maybe
he's trying to be like, hmmm, I see you over
there getting married.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
You don't forget about us?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Yeah, oh yeah, don't forget about us. Yeah, that's what
he's saying. That's or some sort of weird obsession or something.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Aaron.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
How you doing, Aaron, I'm good.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
How are you?
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Good morning? I'm great. Thanks for listening, Thanks for calling.
So what do you think this dude bought a wedding
gift for a co worker, spent three hundred dollars and
he's not invited to the wedding and the wife is like,
why'd you do that?
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Yeah, that's crazy. I was just right now. There's two
teachers in the building that are getting married to each other,
and our boss sent like a message to suggest donating
to the wedding gift. And I didn't get invited to
the wedding, So I'm like, why are you asking me
to give them money? And like, there's another weddings that
have happened just not to teachers, Like I married someone
who doesn't work in the building and they didn't give
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us anything.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
So it just seems really really interesting.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I'm not going to do it, so I guess me
because it's two teachers getting married that that's kind of
like a rare special event. But I don't know if
that's appropriate for the principle of the school to be
asking you to give a gift to them, unless it's
unless it's I don't know, beause he's throwing a party
for them internally, because it's because again, like if you
get married to someone who doesn't work in the school,
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he's not going to send out a GoFundMe or whatever.
He's not going to send out a registry for you.
But are they making a bigger deal out of it
because they both work there? So it's kind of kitchy?
Is that what it is?
Speaker 6 (09:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Maybe, But like I mean, they generally do like donations
for like baby and pretty much just that, but they
never do it for weddings. And I don't know, I mean, yes,
you just don't get paid enough.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Maybe it's like that, that's true.
Speaker 5 (09:43):
I don't know. I'm not invited to the wedding, so like,
happy for them, good for them, but I'm I'm not
going to donate.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Yeah, I don't. I don't think I blame you. Thank you, Erin,
have a good day.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Good point.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
No, I don't. I love you too. I don't think
that you should donate because you feel pressured. I also
think that's it. That's a tough thing. Can you imagine
if everybody who had a baby or got married around
here we sent an email out with the thing like,
that's never happened. I've never once gotten a like from
from a bomb an email to you the entire cluster
of radio stations saying, hey, so and so is having
a baby. Here's the registry. If you'd have to do
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it every single time, oh yes, miss right exactly, so
I wouldn't. I don't think i'd go down that road.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
I just ask, like, if there's someone here that had
a baby that I want to get a gift for, I'm.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Like, do you have a registry?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
You know?
Speaker 4 (10:28):
And I mean, even though I'm sitting it out, it's
not mandatory. I'm sure the principal didn't say you must,
you know, Like, it's not mandatory.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
It's just like, if you want it to here's here's.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
The link, but you better do it every time. Well, well,
because this person, I mean maybe she got married and
there was no thing. There was no link sent out.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
You know, there wasn't.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
That's what I mean, Like, if you're gonna do it
one time, you're gonna have to do it every time.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Right because people like Paulina will never forget.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
I'll never forget, and they're gonna have their moment too.
Don't let the world know.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Well, Inevitably somebody will hit reply to all, especially if
it's at this office, because even though it says don't
hit reply to all, somebody will hit reply to all
and then they'll respond to something that they think is
only for the guy who sent the email, but really
everybody gets to see it, and it's the same culprits
every time. Do we not understand how reply to all works?
There are two options. There's reply and reply to all,
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and it never fails. Anytime there is a group email
sent out, at least three people will hit reply to
all with something and then they'll ask a question that
has only to do with them. I would personally be
interested in that. Well, then send a personal email. They
got started early this morning? Guys like they got started early.
It irks me. It's two different buttons.