April 23, 2025 • 8 mins
Fred asks if any dad has played video games while their partner gave birth to their child.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
But this story came out this week, and so I'm curious,
and here's the headline.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Eight five five one three five.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
How worthless was I'm just going to assume your husband.
I'm not saying that your wife, if you got you know,
if you're married to a woman and you had a kid,
that your wife wasn't worthless.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
But I would assume that your wife.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I would assume a woman in a delivery room with
a woman would have a little more compassion than some men.
Not all men, but maybe because you have the same parts,
and so maybe you can understand a little better, like
what's happening or what you're going through the emotions. I'm
not sure, but I bring this up because a study
found that one in seven dads bring a full ass
video game console to the labor and delivery room and
(00:40):
set that thing up and play video games while they're
waiting for their their their wife or girlfriend or whomever
baby mama to have a kid. And so I just
want to ask eight five five five nine one one
oh three five because I'm always amazed every time we
do this. I'm amazed at the things that people call
up here and say that their husbands tried to do.
What was one of them, like they were about to
go to the operation. We heard once for a C section.
(01:01):
It was like, hey, can we hold this up for
a second. I got a pizza downstairs. It's like, no, no,
we're going to do an emergency C section now and
you can order another pizza later, I guess. But what
would you have done as the resident, maybe having woman
in the room, Paulina child Hobby was pretty good, right,
he was great. But we were worried about him, even
though he's a first responder, Like we were worried about him,
(01:23):
like the man is a firefighter, EMT, former cop is not.
He's going to be fine, Like this is what he
obviously is desensitized from this kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
He'll be fine.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Now. Granted it wasn't. It's not his wife going through
it typically, so I would imagine that it adds another
layer to it watching you go through it as opposed
to a stranger.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
But he was fine.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
He was completely fine.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
I also had like a pretty like easy labor, So
if the circumstances were different, maybe I would have saw
like a different side of him in that regard, like
not him bringing out his game boy or whatever like that.
That I would have never tolerated, like I'm being so
for ill. But he was really go to the end
the situation. I think he freaked ou more at the
my epidural experience than the birth part. Like that was
when I kind of saw a different side of them
(02:06):
because they had me in there for almost an hour
because it was it wasn't going great.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
You know, we had to do it twice.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh yeah, it was.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Yeah, and I have literally I have a crooked ass
because my my my back of my spine is a
little crooked.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
It's like by my by my cheeks, like right here
by my butt.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You have a crooked ass because of no either.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
I was bron I was born with a crooked ass.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
We got that six No, we just made it bigger.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Trying.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, because because rights that we've discussed this on the
air a lot of times.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
I have a B. You have a BB. Couldn't when the.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Spine No, no, my doctor's not that good doctor Miami
maybe but.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Not note maybe they could do that.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
No, no, yeah, that did it happen, but they Yeah,
they had to go on there twice with that fang
because literally, yeah, it was it was rough.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
So I was in that room for an hour.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
They did not let anybody stay in the room, Like
everyone has to leave. It doesn't matter who you are,
you gotta go because things can may take a turn
with the epidol.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
And it kind of did. It was it was rough.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I guess this is super common.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Like I have a friend who's in OBGYN and she
was like, you guys, you men, you know, and she's
a woman. She's like, you know you you guys are
so I just can't believe it. I can't believe the stuff.
You guys are you know here, I am worried about
the mom and then dad passes out. Yeah, and it's like, yeah,
I get it, Like it should never be about us
in that process. But the other thing you got to
realize is that this is not a process that we
(03:27):
we're not like we're witnessing this right there's you know,
if there's blood, and then you're in pain, and then
there's it's a hospital and we got doctors and he,
god forbid, something is complicated, and then I don't know,
I don't know, I have I don't know how I
would ever be able to deal with that as a
person who can't deal with my own stuff, like I'll
pass that. I go a little doctor, you know in
(03:47):
the flu bottomist lady. You know, he's like twenty two
and she's, you know, five foot two and I'm six
foot five and two hundred and forty pounds. And I'm like,
if I fall, I'll kill you, like you'll die under
you know what, and I'll bleed out. Oh so I
have to sit and it's his whole thing, and they
make fun of me, and they're like, bro, like you're
a big dude. I'm like, I don't. I can't look
(04:07):
at this. But they asked us six hundred and fifteen parents.
Of them, fifteen percent of moms that their partner had
brought their video games to the hospital with them. The
entire console in the hospital go back. According to doctors,
it's nothing new. One obgyn said that she's seen dads
do this for at least fifteen years. Basically, as long
as consoles started being compact enough to bring them.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I would be so annoyed. I would be so annoyed.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
No, you would not come home. It be me and
the baby arriving home. Like you'd stay in the hospital
because I'd be so upset. This is why I don't
like gamers to begin with. That's my own thing.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I'm sorry. I know that the gamers hate me, and
that's fine. Can come for me. But like, why are
we doing this at the hospital on this day at
this time.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
I'm not going to read.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
This is a very graphic text, but essentially there was
something very graphic happening during childbirth, and apparently her husband said,
stop complaining.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
It can't be that bad. Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Oh you you get to complain, Yes, you get to complain. Like,
no problem with that at all. And back Zanita the
listener number one. Danita, my ex husband. This is a
text told the nurses that I was bothering him too much.
He was trying to sleep. Oh he was trying to sleep.
Oh what poor guy.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
He was trying to get some rest.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
You know what I mean, Like, it's very hard to
just sit there and do nothing. Yeah, no, it is
your wife or girlfriend, whomever it does. I was deployed
and my wife was in Chicago giving birth. She only
pushed one time. Okay, well, dude, for her, I mean
that's I think a lot of people ride jealous about that.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Oh yeah, let me see here.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
My dad in the nineties brought his work and spread
it across my mom's stomach while.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
She was in labor. What what are you doing? Oh
my god?
Speaker 1 (05:49):
I'm a nurse and I can tell you that young
men are the absolute biggest babies about needles and pain
and really any discomfort. Meanwhile, little old ladies are the
toughest human beings I've ever seen. Jackie, you're this is
your father in law. Why was your father in law
in the room for this, Jackie?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Well, he was in the room because they, I guess
in ninety seven, they allowed the husbands to be in
the room at all times. So he was watching the
NBA playoffs because Michael Jordan was more important than you know, the.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Birth of his Okay, so he was.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
He wasn't there to watch your birth. He was there
because that was the part there. I'm like, what the
hell's he doing in there? Now?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
This is for his This is for your husband or boyfriend,
This for my husband?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Oh okay, Well, I mean, look, the playoffs are important.
The bulls are pretty good back then, so I mean
we've got to be paying attention to this stuff now,
I mean, what are they supposed to do? Not play
a video game? Maybe not watch rowdy television. But they're
supposed to be helpful.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Right, is it? I would imagine, I mean just a
little encouragement, I would imagine. But I asked him about
it again on Sunday when I saw him for Easter,
and he said that he he stands by his decision
and Michael Jordan was important.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Okay, well, I mean labors it can be and these
games aren't that long, so you know, and it may
never happen again. I'm not sure that had they won
it since then, I'm not sure. So there you go.
So he was justified.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Thank you, Jackie, You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Aha, here's somebody says, I don't think a game boy
at a certain point would be so bad. And then
once things, you know, ramp up, then you get to
put it away. I've seen both mom and husband playing
video games.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Okay, well, mom can do what she wants. Mom can
do if Mom.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Wants to lead the way on that, you know, play
a little Mario Kart or something because she's bored because
it's taking a long time.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Okay, Ken, I was editing Kaitlin's video on the hospital,
but I had to ask you to stop.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
She did not. She's it away.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
We stopped working literally, Yeah, I'm just dilating.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
How about you, Yeah, you.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Were working like Paulina stopped like stop, don't have a baby,
you know, work on that. Yeah, let's do one thing
at a time. We'll get to blogs next. Waiting by
the phone is new. Why did somebody get goes to
game show Wednesday? It's all coming up. The French Show's
back in two
But this story came out this week, and so I'm curious,
and here's the headline.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Eight five five one three five.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
How worthless was I'm just going to assume your husband.
I'm not saying that your wife, if you got you know,
if you're married to a woman and you had a kid,
that your wife wasn't worthless.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
But I would assume that your wife.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I would assume a woman in a delivery room with
a woman would have a little more compassion than some men.
Not all men, but maybe because you have the same parts,
and so maybe you can understand a little better, like
what's happening or what you're going through the emotions. I'm
not sure, but I bring this up because a study
found that one in seven dads bring a full ass
video game console to the labor and delivery room and
(00:40):
set that thing up and play video games while they're
waiting for their their their wife or girlfriend or whomever
baby mama to have a kid. And so I just
want to ask eight five five five nine one one
oh three five because I'm always amazed every time we
do this. I'm amazed at the things that people call
up here and say that their husbands tried to do.
What was one of them, like they were about to
go to the operation. We heard once for a C section.
(01:01):
It was like, hey, can we hold this up for
a second. I got a pizza downstairs. It's like, no, no,
we're going to do an emergency C section now and
you can order another pizza later, I guess. But what
would you have done as the resident, maybe having woman
in the room, Paulina child Hobby was pretty good, right,
he was great. But we were worried about him, even
though he's a first responder, Like we were worried about him,
(01:23):
like the man is a firefighter, EMT, former cop is not.
He's going to be fine, Like this is what he
obviously is desensitized from this kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
He'll be fine.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Now. Granted it wasn't. It's not his wife going through
it typically, so I would imagine that it adds another
layer to it watching you go through it as opposed
to a stranger.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
But he was fine.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
He was completely fine.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
I also had like a pretty like easy labor, So
if the circumstances were different, maybe I would have saw
like a different side of him in that regard, like
not him bringing out his game boy or whatever like that.
That I would have never tolerated, like I'm being so
for ill. But he was really go to the end
the situation. I think he freaked ou more at the
my epidural experience than the birth part. Like that was
when I kind of saw a different side of them
(02:06):
because they had me in there for almost an hour
because it was it wasn't going great.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
You know, we had to do it twice.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh yeah, it was.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Yeah, and I have literally I have a crooked ass
because my my my back of my spine is a
little crooked.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
It's like by my by my cheeks, like right here
by my butt.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You have a crooked ass because of no either.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
I was bron I was born with a crooked ass.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
We got that six No, we just made it bigger.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Trying.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, because because rights that we've discussed this on the
air a lot of times.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
I have a B. You have a BB. Couldn't when the.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Spine No, no, my doctor's not that good doctor Miami
maybe but.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Not note maybe they could do that.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
No, no, yeah, that did it happen, but they Yeah,
they had to go on there twice with that fang
because literally, yeah, it was it was rough.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
So I was in that room for an hour.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
They did not let anybody stay in the room, Like
everyone has to leave. It doesn't matter who you are,
you gotta go because things can may take a turn
with the epidol.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
And it kind of did. It was it was rough.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I guess this is super common.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Like I have a friend who's in OBGYN and she
was like, you guys, you men, you know, and she's
a woman. She's like, you know you you guys are
so I just can't believe it. I can't believe the stuff.
You guys are you know here, I am worried about
the mom and then dad passes out. Yeah, and it's like, yeah,
I get it, Like it should never be about us
in that process. But the other thing you got to
realize is that this is not a process that we
(03:27):
we're not like we're witnessing this right there's you know,
if there's blood, and then you're in pain, and then
there's it's a hospital and we got doctors and he,
god forbid, something is complicated, and then I don't know,
I don't know, I have I don't know how I
would ever be able to deal with that as a
person who can't deal with my own stuff, like I'll
pass that. I go a little doctor, you know in
(03:47):
the flu bottomist lady. You know, he's like twenty two
and she's, you know, five foot two and I'm six
foot five and two hundred and forty pounds. And I'm like,
if I fall, I'll kill you, like you'll die under
you know what, and I'll bleed out. Oh so I
have to sit and it's his whole thing, and they
make fun of me, and they're like, bro, like you're
a big dude. I'm like, I don't. I can't look
(04:07):
at this. But they asked us six hundred and fifteen parents.
Of them, fifteen percent of moms that their partner had
brought their video games to the hospital with them. The
entire console in the hospital go back. According to doctors,
it's nothing new. One obgyn said that she's seen dads
do this for at least fifteen years. Basically, as long
as consoles started being compact enough to bring them.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I would be so annoyed. I would be so annoyed.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
No, you would not come home. It be me and
the baby arriving home. Like you'd stay in the hospital
because I'd be so upset. This is why I don't
like gamers to begin with. That's my own thing.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I'm sorry. I know that the gamers hate me, and
that's fine. Can come for me. But like, why are
we doing this at the hospital on this day at
this time.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
I'm not going to read.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
This is a very graphic text, but essentially there was
something very graphic happening during childbirth, and apparently her husband said,
stop complaining.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
It can't be that bad. Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Oh you you get to complain, Yes, you get to complain. Like,
no problem with that at all. And back Zanita the
listener number one. Danita, my ex husband. This is a
text told the nurses that I was bothering him too much.
He was trying to sleep. Oh he was trying to sleep.
Oh what poor guy.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
He was trying to get some rest.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
You know what I mean, Like, it's very hard to
just sit there and do nothing. Yeah, no, it is
your wife or girlfriend, whomever it does. I was deployed
and my wife was in Chicago giving birth. She only
pushed one time. Okay, well, dude, for her, I mean
that's I think a lot of people ride jealous about that.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Oh yeah, let me see here.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
My dad in the nineties brought his work and spread
it across my mom's stomach while.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
She was in labor. What what are you doing? Oh
my god?
Speaker 1 (05:49):
I'm a nurse and I can tell you that young
men are the absolute biggest babies about needles and pain
and really any discomfort. Meanwhile, little old ladies are the
toughest human beings I've ever seen. Jackie, you're this is
your father in law. Why was your father in law
in the room for this, Jackie?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Well, he was in the room because they, I guess
in ninety seven, they allowed the husbands to be in
the room at all times. So he was watching the
NBA playoffs because Michael Jordan was more important than you know, the.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Birth of his Okay, so he was.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
He wasn't there to watch your birth. He was there
because that was the part there. I'm like, what the
hell's he doing in there? Now?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
This is for his This is for your husband or boyfriend,
This for my husband?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Oh okay, Well, I mean, look, the playoffs are important.
The bulls are pretty good back then, so I mean
we've got to be paying attention to this stuff now,
I mean, what are they supposed to do? Not play
a video game? Maybe not watch rowdy television. But they're
supposed to be helpful.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Right, is it? I would imagine, I mean just a
little encouragement, I would imagine. But I asked him about
it again on Sunday when I saw him for Easter,
and he said that he he stands by his decision
and Michael Jordan was important.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Okay, well, I mean labors it can be and these
games aren't that long, so you know, and it may
never happen again. I'm not sure that had they won
it since then, I'm not sure. So there you go.
So he was justified.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Thank you, Jackie, You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Aha, here's somebody says, I don't think a game boy
at a certain point would be so bad. And then
once things, you know, ramp up, then you get to
put it away. I've seen both mom and husband playing
video games.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Okay, well, mom can do what she wants. Mom can
do if Mom.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Wants to lead the way on that, you know, play
a little Mario Kart or something because she's bored because
it's taking a long time.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Okay, Ken, I was editing Kaitlin's video on the hospital,
but I had to ask you to stop.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
She did not. She's it away.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
We stopped working literally, Yeah, I'm just dilating.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
How about you, Yeah, you.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Were working like Paulina stopped like stop, don't have a baby,
you know, work on that. Yeah, let's do one thing
at a time. We'll get to blogs next. Waiting by
the phone is new. Why did somebody get goes to
game show Wednesday? It's all coming up. The French Show's
back in two
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