September 3, 2025 • 4 mins
Fred tells us about a new dating trend that makes it easier for you to dump people.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
There's a toxic new dating trend, and you know I
like to keep you up to date on the toxic
new dating trends, even though none of you are really dating.
I'm the only one who really needs to know about it.
But this may apply to some of you. This morning,
a toxic dating a toxic dating trend is going viral
on TikTok. It's called dat until you Hate Him. So
apparently someone's taking credit for this idea. Her name is Meg.
(00:23):
She's taking credit for date DATU until you Hate Him,
and she says that it's simple. Stay with your partner
long enough for the little annoyances to build until affection
fades into resentment, making the breakup feel easier.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Wow, so you know what, You're going to break up
with them, but you just wait it out for however
long it takes you to get to that.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Point, right, So don't like, don't break up with someone
you know, Hey, I don't like I'm not feeling it,
but you're not a bad person, you know kind of
thing like, no, wait until you absolutely loathe them, according
to this person, and then break up with them. Some
users are fans of this method, saying that it guarantees
guarantees a clean cut and helps him fully move on.
(01:06):
But relationship experts warned that it's just emotional neglect, leaving
one partner shut out and confused. They say the trend
avoids honest communication, drags out the inevitable, causing more harm
than good. In short, what feels like a painless exit
to some to others just a slow motion breakup with
extra damage. So I know I want out, but I
gotta wait till I hate you first.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Yeah, it just seems like a lot of waste of
time I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Well, and and like more pain right because now we
have like serious emotions involved, like this is that's the
phase where people fight and say mean things and and
it didn't have to be that way. You know, the
other person thinks that they're working towards something, but you're
working your way out, which is you know that's not fair.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Oh isn't that the worst? When you when you think
you think I'm like, I think I'm trying. I think
I'm working on this all the while you're just all
you're doing is reading the New York Post and trying
to break up. Wait till you hate me to break
up with me.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Sometimes people wait too long to try, you know, like
I've given you warnings early in the relationship, and you
wait till you feel like it to start actually trying.
By that time, I'm planning my exit strategy too late. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But if you're planning, and we've talked about this before, Kiki,
but if you're planning an exit strategy, then why not
just why not just exit like that? I think that's
what Jason's talking about, Like you thinking, you already know
you're going to do it, so you're thinking about how
you're gonna do it. Just get out.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Yeah, I got to figure out who I'm taking off
the bench to replace. Yeah, I gotta figure out what
what direction do I want to go in next?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Who's going to show me attention next?
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
You know, yeah, all your time to that versus like
still like kind of playing house.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Because you know, it's like when you're trading in a car,
you know, I might as well keep driving this one
until I'm sure i'll want the next car.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
You need a car.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
A piece after. I don't know if that's the thing,
That's what I think is. And people are so afraid
of this, like they can't be alone. You know how
many people most people, they got to have a place
to land before they and the thing that they're not happy,
you know, doing, And I don't understand that. It's like
(03:14):
maybe maybe the best thing that you could possibly do
is be on your own for a minute and and
be free and clear and like clear your mind and
hit refresh and erase the cash and do whatever you
gotta do.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
Nolan is great.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
I'm a great time.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I had fun, you know, like really, like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You don't got to fight with anybody, telling anybody good night. No.
You do what you want to do, eat what you
want to eat, not want to watch, not check anyone nobody.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
No.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I swear if I ever get divorced or like separated,
I swear to God like I will never let anyone
touch me again, like.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I swear I touch you.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
But like oh I at their house, you will be
at my at my like discretions, of course, I hope
so I would.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Always well depends in the days.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Sometimes I touch myself, I didn't, I didn't mind. Yeah,
I told you to ask for permission first, you yes, hand,
you know. Sometimes I sneak attack on myself so it
feels a little bit more again
There's a toxic new dating trend, and you know I
like to keep you up to date on the toxic
new dating trends, even though none of you are really dating.
I'm the only one who really needs to know about it.
But this may apply to some of you. This morning,
a toxic dating a toxic dating trend is going viral
on TikTok. It's called dat until you Hate Him. So
apparently someone's taking credit for this idea. Her name is Meg.
(00:23):
She's taking credit for date DATU until you Hate Him,
and she says that it's simple. Stay with your partner
long enough for the little annoyances to build until affection
fades into resentment, making the breakup feel easier.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Wow, so you know what, You're going to break up
with them, but you just wait it out for however
long it takes you to get to that.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Point, right, So don't like, don't break up with someone
you know, Hey, I don't like I'm not feeling it,
but you're not a bad person, you know kind of
thing like, no, wait until you absolutely loathe them, according
to this person, and then break up with them. Some
users are fans of this method, saying that it guarantees
guarantees a clean cut and helps him fully move on.
(01:06):
But relationship experts warned that it's just emotional neglect, leaving
one partner shut out and confused. They say the trend
avoids honest communication, drags out the inevitable, causing more harm
than good. In short, what feels like a painless exit
to some to others just a slow motion breakup with
extra damage. So I know I want out, but I
gotta wait till I hate you first.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Yeah, it just seems like a lot of waste of
time I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Well, and and like more pain right because now we
have like serious emotions involved, like this is that's the
phase where people fight and say mean things and and
it didn't have to be that way. You know, the
other person thinks that they're working towards something, but you're
working your way out, which is you know that's not fair.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Oh isn't that the worst? When you when you think
you think I'm like, I think I'm trying. I think
I'm working on this all the while you're just all
you're doing is reading the New York Post and trying
to break up. Wait till you hate me to break
up with me.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Sometimes people wait too long to try, you know, like
I've given you warnings early in the relationship, and you
wait till you feel like it to start actually trying.
By that time, I'm planning my exit strategy too late. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But if you're planning, and we've talked about this before, Kiki,
but if you're planning an exit strategy, then why not
just why not just exit like that? I think that's
what Jason's talking about, Like you thinking, you already know
you're going to do it, so you're thinking about how
you're gonna do it. Just get out.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Yeah, I got to figure out who I'm taking off
the bench to replace. Yeah, I gotta figure out what
what direction do I want to go in next?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Who's going to show me attention next?
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
You know, yeah, all your time to that versus like
still like kind of playing house.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Because you know, it's like when you're trading in a car,
you know, I might as well keep driving this one
until I'm sure i'll want the next car.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
You need a car.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
A piece after. I don't know if that's the thing,
That's what I think is. And people are so afraid
of this, like they can't be alone. You know how
many people most people, they got to have a place
to land before they and the thing that they're not happy,
you know, doing, And I don't understand that. It's like
(03:14):
maybe maybe the best thing that you could possibly do
is be on your own for a minute and and
be free and clear and like clear your mind and
hit refresh and erase the cash and do whatever you
gotta do.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
Nolan is great.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
I'm a great time.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I had fun, you know, like really, like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You don't got to fight with anybody, telling anybody good night. No.
You do what you want to do, eat what you
want to eat, not want to watch, not check anyone nobody.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
No.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I swear if I ever get divorced or like separated,
I swear to God like I will never let anyone
touch me again, like.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I swear I touch you.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
But like oh I at their house, you will be
at my at my like discretions, of course, I hope
so I would.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Always well depends in the days.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Sometimes I touch myself, I didn't, I didn't mind. Yeah,
I told you to ask for permission first, you yes, hand,
you know. Sometimes I sneak attack on myself so it
feels a little bit more again
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