June 2, 2025 • 8 mins
Fred plays a video of a guy walking a girl to her door after a date. After she told him he wanted to go to bed and didn't invite him in, he had some interesting words for her caught on a Ring camera!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What would you do in this situation, Probably what this
woman did. If you're gonna want a date, okay, and
you're gonna drop off your date and you're gonna be
upset about how the date went or about how the
date is ending. I don't recommend that you say anything
once the door is closed in front of your date's house.
Why well, because there's such a thing as a rain
(00:21):
camera and people are watching and recording you here. Listen
to this for dropping me off and stuff? Sure sure
sure you don't want me to come inside? There a drink?
I'm an excellent partender. First of all, it's so cringey,
so cringey, you don't want me to come in and drink?
I'm an excellent bartender. No, I like, if I had
(00:44):
any inclination to do so, then I just lost my boner.
But lot of fun. No me too, Thanks again for
dropping me off and stuff. Sure sure sure you don't
want me to come inside? There a drink? I'm an
excellent parttenders. I bought some New Girl very nick from
New Girl code that have been told tempting. I'm so tired.
(01:08):
Maybe next time tired it gets worse time. Okay, he
chooses to just stand there. Oh, and thanks for paying
for dinner, by the way. By the way, Oh, but
you can't come inside? Why not? Why not? I can't
because you were nice to be all night. You see,
(01:32):
he's got something going on, something like there's a screw
in the ring camera. I mean, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Like?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
First of all, First of all, the game is weak,
and and that's coming from a guy that doesn't have
much game. But I mean, if I'm like dropping you
off and I'm getting all the hands that you don't
want me to come in unless you say to me
like would you like to come in, I'm not gonna
ask you if you're sure, Like I'm gonna drop you off.
(02:02):
I'm gonna walk you to the door, and I'm gonna
leave because I'm not. I'm not going to beg anyone
let me in their home. Second of all, like he
doesn't even take no for an answer, Like he keeps
going telling himself, I'm very nick from new girl Codd,
I think good with my hands. Who it's just so cringey.
And then and then the whole little little uh uh
(02:23):
you know routine when she closes the door, and then
this expectation that because you were nice or something that
and because you paid that you should be invited into
someone's home. This is why we'd rather be with a
bear in the woods.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Do you see that?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
I'm like, you're still a girl coding. We're still of
that mindset that if I pay for a date, that
I should get to come in Like, that's still the
mindset greatly. That should be the expectation if I asked
you on a date, as in this case, I'm a
dude asking him. It doesn't even matter. It doesn't even matter. Well,
we can get into genial gender roles and all this whatever.
My point is, I if I ask you out, whoever
(03:01):
I am to you romantically, if I ask you out,
then I should be expected to pay, in my opinion,
because I extended the invitation. Yes, that's that's it. That's that,
and I should have no expectation. Now I realized that
that's not that. There are a lot of people out
there who have that expectation that if they're dumb enough
to believe this, somehow they're owed something if they treat
(03:23):
you well. Now, is there anything to the nice guy thing?
Is there anything to the nice guy being too nice
versus the edgy dude maybe getting some advantages because he's
more exciting. Is there anything to that?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
No, I think being nice as the bare man a
moment I'm in a human being, but I think the
bar is just so low. But I do think that
the whole edgy bad boy thing that it was never
like my thing. Maybe when I was eight with my
drug you other boyfriend for like an hour that was that
was cool, But I don't know as an adult, like
being nice to be expected, like you said, the expectation
like I'm nice to you guys, are my coworkers.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I want I want to be nice everybody. I think
you're I think you're healed. Yes, well that could be.
I also think you I think that's what you're supposed
to say. But I do think there's something to being
unavailable for sure and edgy. And I'm not saying rude
or disrespectful, certainly not lecherous or whatever I mean, but like,
(04:19):
I think there's something to be to being unavailable that
that does lend itself to to having people believe they're
attracted to you in ways that they're.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Not totally okay, I can see that, or like the
nice guy finishes last, right, So like if you're a pushover,
I can see that not going well in your dating life, right,
and nobody should be a pushover or be pushed over.
But you're right, maybe I am semi healed, right because like, yeah,
I used to go for like the one thing you
are too, you're with a great man. Yeah yeah, So
like I think we're we're getting they're just supporting you
and you're healing supporting women. I love it, go June,
(04:52):
But like, I don't know, I just think it's like
it's like not like.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Just goes with maturity.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I feel like when you're immature and and like I
don't know, I think you get caught up in like
a chase or trying to make someone like you that
doesn't like you, and then on the converse side, they're like, oh,
I'm gonna make her like me because I'm going to
preturn like I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Like I have MA sure way to look at it.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
But I feel like at some.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Point you grow out of it.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
You have to eat to or else you're just going
to treat like crap your entire life, or you're gonna
treat people like crap you're entire It's hard.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
To know, though, it's a guy. It's hard to know
who wants what because like, there are times when I've
tried to be like the proactive, nice, patient guy that's,
you know, engaging in conversation all the time and and
I don't know, doing doing all the things that are
traditionally good guy stuff, and then that backfires. And then
(05:42):
there are times when I've you know, completely ignored people
or whatever. And then I do think the ignoring I
hate to say this, not for the right reasons, but
the ignoring has a higher probability of working in the
short term than being the nice guy overall over the
course of like if you look at it like one
hundred day diferent situations, because it's I think psychological. Why
(06:04):
doesn't this person like me? How do I get them
to like me? Why am I? You know what I mean?
Like people I think are for whatever reason, you're praying
on a part of them that it's not good. You
may not wind up with anything long term going about
it that way, like something that's unhealthy to begin with.
But yeah, I think if you go out with someone
and it's like, huh, it's a whole waiting about the
(06:26):
phone theory, it's like why is this person not calling me?
And it starts to bug you, and then it's somehow
they have like an they're living rent free in your head,
and they have a little bit of an edge as
opposed to the person that you know you can get.
I think the truth is it's true the other way
around too. I think that that women who are a
little bit mysterious will have guys chasing them as opposed
(06:46):
to the one who's and this isn't right, probably shouldn't
be this way. But the person who's just straight up, hey,
I'm here, I'm available. What's going on? It's almost like, oh,
I don't know, Like why is this? Well, why does
this seem so easy?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I see yourself?
Speaker 1 (07:00):
But it's not necessarily easy. It's healthy. People confuse the
two things though.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Well that's fair, Like maybe there's just it's it's getting older,
it's it's healing. Maybe there's just parts to it. Because yeah,
you're talking to me, you know, ten years ago. I'm
sure it's be a whole different conversation. And I was
probably going for the wrong guys one hundred percent. I
know that I was. I was missed too available. I
feel like I, you know, let my guard down alive.
I feel like I let people treat me like crap,
like men that I was dating or seeing or whatever.
(07:27):
But now I'm married. But if I ever was not
not married, first I wouldn't date again. But number two, you.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Were not married married, that would make you married. So
not if you were not not married, you're still married.
So you want to be not married to this example.
In this example, but I was not married, I know
what you mean? Right to stop for a second. I'm like,
wait a minute, if I were not not that, I am married?
Not right, just like got it? Got it? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
I just feel like I don't know I would be
a different person in this dating world because I've been
got married or been with the same person for five years.
I think today i'd be different. I'm thirty years old.
Tomorrow like it's good, it's gonna be different. Like I
can't keep the same you know what I mean, the
same patterns like I just wouldn't work with.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Hopefully the patterns have been over for some time now,
I hope since you're since you're not not married, let's
shoot headlines biggest stories of today after Shopper Road. Next
in three minutes, Friend Show is on. Welcome to Monday
What would you do in this situation, Probably what this
woman did. If you're gonna want a date, okay, and
you're gonna drop off your date and you're gonna be
upset about how the date went or about how the
date is ending. I don't recommend that you say anything
once the door is closed in front of your date's house.
Why well, because there's such a thing as a rain
(00:21):
camera and people are watching and recording you here. Listen
to this for dropping me off and stuff? Sure sure
sure you don't want me to come inside? There a drink?
I'm an excellent partender. First of all, it's so cringey,
so cringey, you don't want me to come in and drink?
I'm an excellent bartender. No, I like, if I had
(00:44):
any inclination to do so, then I just lost my boner.
But lot of fun. No me too, Thanks again for
dropping me off and stuff. Sure sure sure you don't
want me to come inside? There a drink? I'm an
excellent parttenders. I bought some New Girl very nick from
New Girl code that have been told tempting. I'm so tired.
(01:08):
Maybe next time tired it gets worse time. Okay, he
chooses to just stand there. Oh, and thanks for paying
for dinner, by the way. By the way, Oh, but
you can't come inside? Why not? Why not? I can't
because you were nice to be all night. You see,
(01:32):
he's got something going on, something like there's a screw
in the ring camera. I mean, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Like?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
First of all, First of all, the game is weak,
and and that's coming from a guy that doesn't have
much game. But I mean, if I'm like dropping you
off and I'm getting all the hands that you don't
want me to come in unless you say to me
like would you like to come in, I'm not gonna
ask you if you're sure, Like I'm gonna drop you off.
(02:02):
I'm gonna walk you to the door, and I'm gonna
leave because I'm not. I'm not going to beg anyone
let me in their home. Second of all, like he
doesn't even take no for an answer, Like he keeps
going telling himself, I'm very nick from new girl Codd,
I think good with my hands. Who it's just so cringey.
And then and then the whole little little uh uh
(02:23):
you know routine when she closes the door, and then
this expectation that because you were nice or something that
and because you paid that you should be invited into
someone's home. This is why we'd rather be with a
bear in the woods.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Do you see that?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
I'm like, you're still a girl coding. We're still of
that mindset that if I pay for a date, that
I should get to come in Like, that's still the
mindset greatly. That should be the expectation if I asked
you on a date, as in this case, I'm a
dude asking him. It doesn't even matter. It doesn't even matter. Well,
we can get into genial gender roles and all this whatever.
My point is, I if I ask you out, whoever
(03:01):
I am to you romantically, if I ask you out,
then I should be expected to pay, in my opinion,
because I extended the invitation. Yes, that's that's it. That's that,
and I should have no expectation. Now I realized that
that's not that. There are a lot of people out
there who have that expectation that if they're dumb enough
to believe this, somehow they're owed something if they treat
(03:23):
you well. Now, is there anything to the nice guy thing?
Is there anything to the nice guy being too nice
versus the edgy dude maybe getting some advantages because he's
more exciting. Is there anything to that?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
No, I think being nice as the bare man a
moment I'm in a human being, but I think the
bar is just so low. But I do think that
the whole edgy bad boy thing that it was never
like my thing. Maybe when I was eight with my
drug you other boyfriend for like an hour that was that
was cool, But I don't know as an adult, like
being nice to be expected, like you said, the expectation
like I'm nice to you guys, are my coworkers.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I want I want to be nice everybody. I think
you're I think you're healed. Yes, well that could be.
I also think you I think that's what you're supposed
to say. But I do think there's something to being
unavailable for sure and edgy. And I'm not saying rude
or disrespectful, certainly not lecherous or whatever I mean, but like,
(04:19):
I think there's something to be to being unavailable that
that does lend itself to to having people believe they're
attracted to you in ways that they're.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Not totally okay, I can see that, or like the
nice guy finishes last, right, So like if you're a pushover,
I can see that not going well in your dating life, right,
and nobody should be a pushover or be pushed over.
But you're right, maybe I am semi healed, right because like, yeah,
I used to go for like the one thing you
are too, you're with a great man. Yeah yeah, So
like I think we're we're getting they're just supporting you
and you're healing supporting women. I love it, go June,
(04:52):
But like, I don't know, I just think it's like
it's like not like.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Just goes with maturity.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I feel like when you're immature and and like I
don't know, I think you get caught up in like
a chase or trying to make someone like you that
doesn't like you, and then on the converse side, they're like, oh,
I'm gonna make her like me because I'm going to
preturn like I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Like I have MA sure way to look at it.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
But I feel like at some.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Point you grow out of it.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
You have to eat to or else you're just going
to treat like crap your entire life, or you're gonna
treat people like crap you're entire It's hard.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
To know, though, it's a guy. It's hard to know
who wants what because like, there are times when I've
tried to be like the proactive, nice, patient guy that's,
you know, engaging in conversation all the time and and
I don't know, doing doing all the things that are
traditionally good guy stuff, and then that backfires. And then
(05:42):
there are times when I've you know, completely ignored people
or whatever. And then I do think the ignoring I
hate to say this, not for the right reasons, but
the ignoring has a higher probability of working in the
short term than being the nice guy overall over the
course of like if you look at it like one
hundred day diferent situations, because it's I think psychological. Why
(06:04):
doesn't this person like me? How do I get them
to like me? Why am I? You know what I mean?
Like people I think are for whatever reason, you're praying
on a part of them that it's not good. You
may not wind up with anything long term going about
it that way, like something that's unhealthy to begin with.
But yeah, I think if you go out with someone
and it's like, huh, it's a whole waiting about the
(06:26):
phone theory, it's like why is this person not calling me?
And it starts to bug you, and then it's somehow
they have like an they're living rent free in your head,
and they have a little bit of an edge as
opposed to the person that you know you can get.
I think the truth is it's true the other way
around too. I think that that women who are a
little bit mysterious will have guys chasing them as opposed
(06:46):
to the one who's and this isn't right, probably shouldn't
be this way. But the person who's just straight up, hey,
I'm here, I'm available. What's going on? It's almost like, oh,
I don't know, Like why is this? Well, why does
this seem so easy?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I see yourself?
Speaker 1 (07:00):
But it's not necessarily easy. It's healthy. People confuse the
two things though.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Well that's fair, Like maybe there's just it's it's getting older,
it's it's healing. Maybe there's just parts to it. Because yeah,
you're talking to me, you know, ten years ago. I'm
sure it's be a whole different conversation. And I was
probably going for the wrong guys one hundred percent. I
know that I was. I was missed too available. I
feel like I, you know, let my guard down alive.
I feel like I let people treat me like crap,
like men that I was dating or seeing or whatever.
(07:27):
But now I'm married. But if I ever was not
not married, first I wouldn't date again. But number two, you.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Were not married married, that would make you married. So
not if you were not not married, you're still married.
So you want to be not married to this example.
In this example, but I was not married, I know
what you mean? Right to stop for a second. I'm like,
wait a minute, if I were not not that, I am married?
Not right, just like got it? Got it? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
I just feel like I don't know I would be
a different person in this dating world because I've been
got married or been with the same person for five years.
I think today i'd be different. I'm thirty years old.
Tomorrow like it's good, it's gonna be different. Like I
can't keep the same you know what I mean, the
same patterns like I just wouldn't work with.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Hopefully the patterns have been over for some time now,
I hope since you're since you're not not married, let's
shoot headlines biggest stories of today after Shopper Road. Next
in three minutes, Friend Show is on. Welcome to Monday