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King turned Ben. I mean's birthday today, Happy birthday. He
is a ripe twenty two years old. Man, I didn't
look at it. I didn't look like him when I
was twenty two. But now I understand why a lot
of people coming up wanted to punch me in the
face when I was coming up in the bees, because
I was just a young, little green grasshopper, you know
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what I mean. I didn't know what I didn't know,
which was nothing. I never I never viewed myself. I mean,
he's our little he's our little boys, our son, you know.
I just I never viewed myself as that, as a baby.
Really he's he's just a baby. He's got the whole
world ahead of him. Twenty two years old. Man, I'll
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tell you what. I wouldn't do anything. Oh well, yeah
I would. There was a few girls, but I wouldn't
do anything over again. You do him over again? Are
you doing for the first time? No, there's if I
knew then what I know now, i'd probably be married. Frankly,
we are really probably What do you know now that
you think it would have if I, if I had
the confidence and the knowledge and the wisdom then that
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I have now and I and if I somehow knew
that this would be the end result, even if I
made different choices like romantically or whatever, I probably would
be married. Really, I just would have had a different perspective.
My perspective towards having a partner didn't change until like
a year ago. Really, yeah, I don't know. I just
my brain has always been in the mode of like,
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what's next, What's next? What's next? Growth? Growth, growth, you know, career,
Where am I going to go next? What am I
going to do? How do I make it better? How
do we get you know, how do we grow? The
all this stuff? And then I guess I was always
afraid if I, maybe subconsciously, if I got caught up
on one particular person, that I wouldn't I wouldn't have
the flexibility, the mobility to make moves. Yeah, I get that.
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But what I can also say is I don't think
I should have married anybody I've met so far, because
I've done the thing where as you well know, we've
been listening, you know. I like to go back in
time and try and revisit relationships that didn't work. Yeah,
and they still don't work. So but sometimes I really
got to know, and I really know. Sometimes I'm like,
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what the hell would like that? Boy? Life would be miserable?
But I had to know it. I had to know
it for sure. And I know because I blame everything
on me, Like every relationship that's failed except for maybe two,
were my fault in my opinion. It was something I
could have done differently, me my. So if I go
back now I'm an involved human being. If I go
back and revisit, well, then I will be perfect because
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it was my fault. Only to find out it takes
two people for a relationship to fail. And sometimes when
you go back and you're evolved and you've changed and
your mindset's changed in the end and result is the same,
then it's then you can blame it on them, right,
m amen? That was my deep moment of the day.
That was really deep. That was that nobody asked for,
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which is? Which is most things on this show. I
just think they're one for listening, and anyone's listening anymore.
They're like to whatever, Yeah, deep deep thoughts with friends.
I'm coming for you, Kiramo, I'm coming for you.
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