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Take it away, all right, let's get into the courtroom.
The gable has been hit. It says, am I wrong
for letting or not letting my stepdad come to my graduation.
I graduated from high school last weekend, and it was
a huge deal for me. I've worked really hard and
I'm the first in my immediate family to graduate. My
biological dad passed away when I was seven, and my
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mom remarried when I was ten, and I've had a
rocky relationship with my stepdad Mark ever since. Mark has
always been present, but not really supportive. He never came
to my school place, He rarely showed up for my
parents teacher com diferences, and he made fun of my
dream of going to college for music. He's not abusive
or anything, but just emotionally distant and kind of dismissive
(02:09):
of anything that isn't sports or business related. So basically
we just coexist, Kiki. I was given four tickets for
my graduation. I gave one to my mom, one to
my grandma on my biological dad's side, and the other
two I gave to my cousin and my aunt, who
has been like a second parent to me. Mark found
out the night before and got really upset. He says
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it was a slap in the face that I didn't
give him a ticket, and he said he's been in
my life for all these years and deserved to be
a part of this milestone. My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying,
he did put a roof over your head, and he
stepped up when your father couldn't. I.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I told him, no, You're fine.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
I told him flat out that he never acted like
a dad to me, so why should he expect to
be treated like one now. Well, the house is super tense.
My mom is barely speaking to me, and Mark is
acting like I betrayed him. I feel a little guilty,
but I also feel like this was my day, So
am I wrong?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
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You guys at the Jerry so call now.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
Would say, I would love to hear from some step
parents on this especially, But in my opinion, a child,
a kid will always show you what you truly mean
to them and moments like this and as parents, and
I'm not a parent, but I think sometimes you can
think that you are crushing it in life because you
are financially supporting your children.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
You are putting a roof over their head.
Speaker 5 (03:37):
However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,
the opportunity to show up to their events and their
sports and activities. When you miss out on those things
for years and years, that all bills up and a
kid never forgets. So this is just the moment where
he was able to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know
you pay the bills here. You're not doing me any favor.
(03:58):
By the way, you're married to my mom. That's the
set up here. But you know that doesn't get That
doesn't mean that you have to taken time to build
a relationship with me.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
You just financially supported this house.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
So I completely understand how he feels and I feel like,
it's your graduation, is your day. You can give the
tickets to who you feel should be there. You know,
I sympathize with the with the stepfather because as a
step parent, he probably felt like, Hey, i'm working, I'm
here with this kid. Maybe he felt like he should
be there. But that doesn't mean that Tyler, this young
young man who graduated. It doesn't mean that he's like.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
He has to give you a ticket. I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I mean his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough. Yeah,
I mean I can relate to that story in some ways.
But yeah, I mean he did play a role. I mean,
if he paid for the house and whatever, he did
play a role in the kid's you know, ability to
have the space and the freedom to have this the
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success of achieving graduation.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yeah, at the same time, that's the one time memory.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
And if you don't feel like you can was somewhere,
if like they're you know, like that person's going to
tarnish your day, then I think you have a right
not to invite them, and then you have a right
to know or you should be aware that you're gonna
hurt someone's feelings in doing it.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
But I mean, I don't think anyone is. I don't,
I don't.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I don't know that I think any parent or stepparents
should feel entitled to do anything if they don't have
a relationship with a kid or didn't earn it simply
because of the parent, which may be very unpopular. Maybe
you might be listening now going that's unfair, But like,
just because you're my father doesn't mean that you get
to In my opinion, you should be acknowledged for things
(05:35):
that you're not doing in my life. Right and then
as opposed to getting mad about it, maybe look in
the mirror and say, why wouldn't my kid want me
there because there's a disconnect because I haven't stepped up,
because I'm not involved, because you know, I didn't, you know,
in my example, in my life, it was it was
a it was a basketball game my freshman year in
high school, and it was parents' life. It was the
(05:55):
only game that my mom and my uh then stepdad
could didn't make it too and they they did. They
drove four or five hours to watch every away game.
They took me to every practice, They did everything, and
they couldn't make it to one night and it was
parent appreciation night and somebody else in the family said
I'm coming and I'll be acknowledged, and I said, I
won't play if you do, because and by it was
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the last time I ever spoke to that person, by
the way, and because you don't, in my opinion, you
don't get you didn't do any Yes, you made me right,
and yes you'd spent money to put me into school,
and you know you were part of that, and that's
all fair, but like, why am I acknowledging you when
two other people did all the work exactly And so
I wasn't comfortable with that, and it was a bad
spot to be in because it's like about, how about
(06:38):
look at this and say, maybe I should have been
more involved in the process if I expect to be acknowledged.
But no, it was well I'm so and so so
I get it, and that's just the way it is.
And it's like, no, I think we earn our place
in other people's lives and we have to continue earning it,
whether we're entitled enough because we created them or not.
(06:58):
There's my that's my tip talk for the day.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You're not wrong, though you're really not wrong.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't
mean that you were an actual parent to me. That
just means you you made me, And that doesn't mean
you get to celebrate all of my wins that you
played no part in helping me achieve. And so that's
I feel like it should be up to the kid
to kind of decide. And I understand how the stepfather
can feel. He can feel upset, but I don't think
you're wrong for choosing the people that were important to you.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I would love to know has he tried talking to
the stepdad like before this or was it this big
like gotcha moment and the step dad had no idea
like I guess. I would love to know if he said, hey,
you know, I'm having issues with you in this department
or that department, or even confided in his mom.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his
aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
He makes fun of it and the mom.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
You know, I understand the mom backing up her husband,
but even she goes you know, he put a roof,
He put a roof, over your head when your father
couldn't like, well, my father died, Like, it's not like
my father chose not to be in the picture.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
You know that he didn't make that point, and the
kid didn't ask for any of that, you know, So
that's unfair.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Why didn't you say you don't stand with the mother?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
No, I think the mom needs to backup her kid
or at least be sympathetic to both sides.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
For sure, I would be so upset.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
I think if my mom was watching all this happen
and knew there was a disconnect because for me, for
the stepdad, this feels like optics.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Now I don't know if he's a bad guy or
good guy.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
I don't know, But now he's not being included is
something everybody else is, and he won't be there, and
the question will be why isn't he there? And that's
about him. Maybe he should have considered that when there
was no relationship, because now all of a sudden, there's
not much relationship and he's not being included in this
intimate moment and people are going to ask the question,
and it's kind of like sour grapes. It's like, well,
I didn't invest in the process, not only that I
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made fun of the kid for the process they were experiencing.
And now all of a sudden, and maybe that stuff's
going to come up and it's going to make him
feel bad and look bad, and maybe he should have
thought of that the same way that you know, in
my example, it's like, well, how about being involved in
the process and not just the you know, the accolade
part of it. And then maybe we don't find ourselves here.
But usually people like that don't see it that way.
(09:07):
Oh no, it's it's more what they deserve.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids
and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially
if they're your kids or you're responsible as a stepparent,
it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.
Speaker 6 (09:23):
Yes, then invest in that relationship her son and like
him be in a good house.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
Yeah, I agree. Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hey, Kiki's score. What
say you? You guys are the jury?
Speaker 7 (09:35):
I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of
the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of
her father that you know, at the end of the day,
and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the
laughing at her about you know what she wants to do,
and the mother is totally wrong. Like I said before,
(09:55):
you know that she didn't ask for that. And to
say he put a roof over her head, well, you
guys are married. You put the roof over her at
as well, and you should have put that on her.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, Yes, thank you.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
And somebody said putting a roof over your head, this
is a text and feeding you every day makes you involved.
Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that?
Speaker 7 (10:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (10:18):
I mean you can't.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
You can't say that's not I don't know about the
entitled unappreciative part in this example. I mean, this is
a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,
told this young told this young man that that what
you know, the music path and the path he was
on that he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from,
was was.
Speaker 5 (10:36):
He wasn't supportive, He wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They
just coexist. He made those points, and I think you know,
as a parent, that's your obligation to at least provide
for your child and feed them, but about supporting them
emotionally and you know, to caring about their mental health.
That is something different. And if you don't do that,
then you don't get to be at situations like that.
You don't go to graduations like this. Like that's crazy,
(10:59):
I would, I would?
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Are you The entitlement might be on the stepdad's side, yes,
to say well I did all this so I should
get to I should get to be there. It's like, well,
maybe you should have been more supportive along the way. Hey, Stacy, guy,
I think we also forget we're talking about kids. Even
at seventeen eighteen, you're still a kid and grown ups. Yes,
we're talking about children and grown ups, So we have
(11:21):
to take that in consideration.
Speaker 4 (11:22):
Stacy, what do you want to say?
Speaker 5 (11:25):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (11:25):
Guy, I love you guys.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
Good morning.
Speaker 8 (11:28):
So I was this child and I currently have a
child in high school and she has a stepfather part
of her life currently. So just being that child and
having that parent that this current child that we're speaking
about that does have. I also had a very rocky relationship,
and I agree, I don't think that this person is
obligated to go if if I didn't feel that my
(11:52):
stepdad needs to go. I wasn't going to invite him,
and I didn't invite him to be honest with you.
Now we have a better relationship. He has been helpful
with my kids currently me and things of that nature.
Maybe that will change, Maybe that will set something within
the stepparents be like, maybe I should step up, maybe
I should do better, Maybe I should be more supportive
of this person as opposed to being like, oh, no,
I need to be there. That's not fair. And if
(12:14):
that was to be a current situation in my life
where my child didn't feel like my husband is supportive
of her, then I would totally agree with my child
and be like, no, well she doesn't want you there,
then you don't need to be there, you know. But
my husband has been very supportive.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Okay, but Stacy, thank you for sharing. Have a good
day you too, and thank you for listening. Jose, how
you doing, Jose?
Speaker 4 (12:37):
Good morning?
Speaker 9 (12:40):
Oh say guy's have good morning?
Speaker 8 (12:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (12:42):
Hi? What do you want to say? Go ahead? Please?
Speaker 8 (12:44):
Man?
Speaker 9 (12:44):
Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and
you know he was never dead like for me when
I was playing soccer and stuff. But I wouldn't I
wouldn't wanted him there, man, because you don't even though
he wasn't there, he was a provider, you know. And like,
I mean, it's okay that, like this guy is like
the child is you know, he's still growing up or something.
He's going to figure this out later on in time.
But maybe be a generous right now or just take
(13:08):
it to a consideration might be okay as well, because
he's going to teach him a better lesson now than
later on, you know, holding that grudge, holding that judgment
and stuff like that. That in cool.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose And thanks for calling. Man,
have a good day, are you too?
Speaker 2 (13:22):
I mean you're asking you're asking a kid to be
the bigger person. It's like, I mean maybe maybe I'm
sure you know what this is going to cause this
is a ripple effect here. It's obviously, you know, upsetting
the Apple cards. So you could just invite the guy
and you know, and he knows that there's not much
you know, support there or or synergy.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
But yeah, this this.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I may not want a negative influence there either if
I did the thing that you told me that I
shouldn't or couldn't do. Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you, Hey,
good morning, what do you want to say?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
Welcome?
Speaker 8 (13:55):
Thank you?
Speaker 10 (13:57):
Usually so usually with graduation do you get I mean
four tickets max to most of these graduations. So it
may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate or they
don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him. But maybe
it's just these other people that he's decided to come
watch him. I played a bigger role in his life.
(14:17):
It may not necessarily, you know, be that he doesn't
have a good relationship or they don't have a good relationship.
It may just be, hey, this these other people, it
just meant more to me throughout my life, and those
are the ones that I want to see. Because I
have my nephew's graduating high school in a couple of weeks.
And again he got four tickets and he's having someone
(14:40):
come his mom, but she's never really been in his
life and I kind of helped raise him as a kid.
So I was upset, but I'm like, you know what, again,
it's his choice.
Speaker 8 (14:50):
And if that too, he.
Speaker 10 (14:52):
Chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk, I'll
I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind
of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not
be personal to that person. You just say, hey, maybe
these people have just met more to him or sit
aside him more. And I mean under the day these
graduations you get like three or four tickets right right
(15:14):
cues And it's a tough situation. Well, is that he's
a kid.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
I commend you though for that.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
You're not going to penalize the child for the fact
that you you believe that you deserve to be there.
But he's made a different choice. I mean, and that's
that's his right. But yet I know your love and
your support of him will not change. You can be disappointed,
but again, this is the choice he's making today.
Speaker 4 (15:34):
And it doesn't negate what you've done.
Speaker 10 (15:37):
Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.
Speaker 7 (15:39):
He is a child.
Speaker 10 (15:40):
Like it's not going to change my views on him.
I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely
he's a child. Let's not you know, got to be
the bigger people sometimes.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
I mean, he's out of the will completely. But other
than that, I mean, it's you know, I don't know
who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,
there'll be no repercussion. A man, have a good I'm
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Take it away, all right, let's get into the courtroom.
The gable has been hit. It says, am I wrong
for letting or not letting my stepdad come to my graduation.
I graduated from high school last weekend, and it was
a huge deal for me. I've worked really hard and
I'm the first in my immediate family to graduate. My
biological dad passed away when I was seven, and my
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mom remarried when I was ten, and I've had a
rocky relationship with my stepdad Mark ever since. Mark has
always been present, but not really supportive. He never came
to my school place, He rarely showed up for my
parents teacher com diferences, and he made fun of my
dream of going to college for music. He's not abusive
or anything, but just emotionally distant and kind of dismissive
(02:09):
of anything that isn't sports or business related. So basically
we just coexist, Kiki. I was given four tickets for
my graduation. I gave one to my mom, one to
my grandma on my biological dad's side, and the other
two I gave to my cousin and my aunt, who
has been like a second parent to me. Mark found
out the night before and got really upset. He says
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it was a slap in the face that I didn't
give him a ticket, and he said he's been in
my life for all these years and deserved to be
a part of this milestone. My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying,
he did put a roof over your head, and he
stepped up when your father couldn't. I.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I told him, no, You're fine.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
I told him flat out that he never acted like
a dad to me, so why should he expect to
be treated like one now. Well, the house is super tense.
My mom is barely speaking to me, and Mark is
acting like I betrayed him. I feel a little guilty,
but I also feel like this was my day, So
am I wrong?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Judge Kicky would say you eight five five three five.
You guys at the Jerry so call now.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
Would say, I would love to hear from some step
parents on this especially, But in my opinion, a child,
a kid will always show you what you truly mean
to them and moments like this and as parents, and
I'm not a parent, but I think sometimes you can
think that you are crushing it in life because you
are financially supporting your children.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
You are putting a roof over their head.
Speaker 5 (03:37):
However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,
the opportunity to show up to their events and their
sports and activities. When you miss out on those things
for years and years, that all bills up and a
kid never forgets. So this is just the moment where
he was able to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know
you pay the bills here. You're not doing me any favor.
(03:58):
By the way, you're married to my mom. That's the
set up here. But you know that doesn't get That
doesn't mean that you have to taken time to build
a relationship with me.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
You just financially supported this house.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
So I completely understand how he feels and I feel like,
it's your graduation, is your day. You can give the
tickets to who you feel should be there. You know,
I sympathize with the with the stepfather because as a
step parent, he probably felt like, Hey, i'm working, I'm
here with this kid. Maybe he felt like he should
be there. But that doesn't mean that Tyler, this young
young man who graduated. It doesn't mean that he's like.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
He has to give you a ticket. I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I mean his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough. Yeah,
I mean I can relate to that story in some ways.
But yeah, I mean he did play a role. I mean,
if he paid for the house and whatever, he did
play a role in the kid's you know, ability to
have the space and the freedom to have this the
(04:54):
success of achieving graduation.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yeah, at the same time, that's the one time memory.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
And if you don't feel like you can was somewhere,
if like they're you know, like that person's going to
tarnish your day, then I think you have a right
not to invite them, and then you have a right
to know or you should be aware that you're gonna
hurt someone's feelings in doing it.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
But I mean, I don't think anyone is. I don't,
I don't.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I don't know that I think any parent or stepparents
should feel entitled to do anything if they don't have
a relationship with a kid or didn't earn it simply
because of the parent, which may be very unpopular. Maybe
you might be listening now going that's unfair, But like,
just because you're my father doesn't mean that you get
to In my opinion, you should be acknowledged for things
(05:35):
that you're not doing in my life. Right and then
as opposed to getting mad about it, maybe look in
the mirror and say, why wouldn't my kid want me
there because there's a disconnect because I haven't stepped up,
because I'm not involved, because you know, I didn't, you know,
in my example, in my life, it was it was
a it was a basketball game my freshman year in
high school, and it was parents' life. It was the
(05:55):
only game that my mom and my uh then stepdad
could didn't make it too and they they did. They
drove four or five hours to watch every away game.
They took me to every practice, They did everything, and
they couldn't make it to one night and it was
parent appreciation night and somebody else in the family said
I'm coming and I'll be acknowledged, and I said, I
won't play if you do, because and by it was
(06:17):
the last time I ever spoke to that person, by
the way, and because you don't, in my opinion, you
don't get you didn't do any Yes, you made me right,
and yes you'd spent money to put me into school,
and you know you were part of that, and that's
all fair, but like, why am I acknowledging you when
two other people did all the work exactly And so
I wasn't comfortable with that, and it was a bad
spot to be in because it's like about, how about
(06:38):
look at this and say, maybe I should have been
more involved in the process if I expect to be acknowledged.
But no, it was well I'm so and so so
I get it, and that's just the way it is.
And it's like, no, I think we earn our place
in other people's lives and we have to continue earning it,
whether we're entitled enough because we created them or not.
(06:58):
There's my that's my tip talk for the day.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You're not wrong, though you're really not wrong.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't
mean that you were an actual parent to me. That
just means you you made me, And that doesn't mean
you get to celebrate all of my wins that you
played no part in helping me achieve. And so that's
I feel like it should be up to the kid
to kind of decide. And I understand how the stepfather
can feel. He can feel upset, but I don't think
you're wrong for choosing the people that were important to you.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I would love to know has he tried talking to
the stepdad like before this or was it this big
like gotcha moment and the step dad had no idea
like I guess. I would love to know if he said, hey,
you know, I'm having issues with you in this department
or that department, or even confided in his mom.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his
aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
He makes fun of it and the mom.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
You know, I understand the mom backing up her husband,
but even she goes you know, he put a roof,
He put a roof, over your head when your father
couldn't like, well, my father died, Like, it's not like
my father chose not to be in the picture.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
You know that he didn't make that point, and the
kid didn't ask for any of that, you know, So
that's unfair.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Why didn't you say you don't stand with the mother?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
No, I think the mom needs to backup her kid
or at least be sympathetic to both sides.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
For sure, I would be so upset.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
I think if my mom was watching all this happen
and knew there was a disconnect because for me, for
the stepdad, this feels like optics.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Now I don't know if he's a bad guy or
good guy.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
I don't know, But now he's not being included is
something everybody else is, and he won't be there, and
the question will be why isn't he there? And that's
about him. Maybe he should have considered that when there
was no relationship, because now all of a sudden, there's
not much relationship and he's not being included in this
intimate moment and people are going to ask the question,
and it's kind of like sour grapes. It's like, well,
I didn't invest in the process, not only that I
(08:46):
made fun of the kid for the process they were experiencing.
And now all of a sudden, and maybe that stuff's
going to come up and it's going to make him
feel bad and look bad, and maybe he should have
thought of that the same way that you know, in
my example, it's like, well, how about being involved in
the process and not just the you know, the accolade
part of it. And then maybe we don't find ourselves here.
But usually people like that don't see it that way.
(09:07):
Oh no, it's it's more what they deserve.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids
and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially
if they're your kids or you're responsible as a stepparent,
it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.
Speaker 6 (09:23):
Yes, then invest in that relationship her son and like
him be in a good house.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
Yeah, I agree. Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hey, Kiki's score. What
say you? You guys are the jury?
Speaker 7 (09:35):
I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of
the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of
her father that you know, at the end of the day,
and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the
laughing at her about you know what she wants to do,
and the mother is totally wrong. Like I said before,
(09:55):
you know that she didn't ask for that. And to
say he put a roof over her head, well, you
guys are married. You put the roof over her at
as well, and you should have put that on her.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, Yes, thank you.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
And somebody said putting a roof over your head, this
is a text and feeding you every day makes you involved.
Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that?
Speaker 7 (10:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (10:18):
I mean you can't.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
You can't say that's not I don't know about the
entitled unappreciative part in this example. I mean, this is
a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,
told this young told this young man that that what
you know, the music path and the path he was
on that he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from,
was was.
Speaker 5 (10:36):
He wasn't supportive, He wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They
just coexist. He made those points, and I think you know,
as a parent, that's your obligation to at least provide
for your child and feed them, but about supporting them
emotionally and you know, to caring about their mental health.
That is something different. And if you don't do that,
then you don't get to be at situations like that.
You don't go to graduations like this. Like that's crazy,
(10:59):
I would, I would?
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Are you The entitlement might be on the stepdad's side, yes,
to say well I did all this so I should
get to I should get to be there. It's like, well,
maybe you should have been more supportive along the way. Hey, Stacy, guy,
I think we also forget we're talking about kids. Even
at seventeen eighteen, you're still a kid and grown ups. Yes,
we're talking about children and grown ups, So we have
(11:21):
to take that in consideration.
Speaker 4 (11:22):
Stacy, what do you want to say?
Speaker 5 (11:25):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (11:25):
Guy, I love you guys.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
Good morning.
Speaker 8 (11:28):
So I was this child and I currently have a
child in high school and she has a stepfather part
of her life currently. So just being that child and
having that parent that this current child that we're speaking
about that does have. I also had a very rocky relationship,
and I agree, I don't think that this person is
obligated to go if if I didn't feel that my
(11:52):
stepdad needs to go. I wasn't going to invite him,
and I didn't invite him to be honest with you.
Now we have a better relationship. He has been helpful
with my kids currently me and things of that nature.
Maybe that will change, Maybe that will set something within
the stepparents be like, maybe I should step up, maybe
I should do better, Maybe I should be more supportive
of this person as opposed to being like, oh, no,
I need to be there. That's not fair. And if
(12:14):
that was to be a current situation in my life
where my child didn't feel like my husband is supportive
of her, then I would totally agree with my child
and be like, no, well she doesn't want you there,
then you don't need to be there, you know. But
my husband has been very supportive.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Okay, but Stacy, thank you for sharing. Have a good
day you too, and thank you for listening. Jose, how
you doing, Jose?
Speaker 4 (12:37):
Good morning?
Speaker 9 (12:40):
Oh say guy's have good morning?
Speaker 8 (12:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (12:42):
Hi? What do you want to say? Go ahead? Please?
Speaker 8 (12:44):
Man?
Speaker 9 (12:44):
Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and
you know he was never dead like for me when
I was playing soccer and stuff. But I wouldn't I
wouldn't wanted him there, man, because you don't even though
he wasn't there, he was a provider, you know. And like,
I mean, it's okay that, like this guy is like
the child is you know, he's still growing up or something.
He's going to figure this out later on in time.
But maybe be a generous right now or just take
(13:08):
it to a consideration might be okay as well, because
he's going to teach him a better lesson now than
later on, you know, holding that grudge, holding that judgment
and stuff like that. That in cool.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose And thanks for calling. Man,
have a good day, are you too?
Speaker 2 (13:22):
I mean you're asking you're asking a kid to be
the bigger person. It's like, I mean maybe maybe I'm
sure you know what this is going to cause this
is a ripple effect here. It's obviously, you know, upsetting
the Apple cards. So you could just invite the guy
and you know, and he knows that there's not much
you know, support there or or synergy.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
But yeah, this this.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I may not want a negative influence there either if
I did the thing that you told me that I
shouldn't or couldn't do. Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you, Hey,
good morning, what do you want to say?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
Welcome?
Speaker 8 (13:55):
Thank you?
Speaker 10 (13:57):
Usually so usually with graduation do you get I mean
four tickets max to most of these graduations. So it
may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate or they
don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him. But maybe
it's just these other people that he's decided to come
watch him. I played a bigger role in his life.
(14:17):
It may not necessarily, you know, be that he doesn't
have a good relationship or they don't have a good relationship.
It may just be, hey, this these other people, it
just meant more to me throughout my life, and those
are the ones that I want to see. Because I
have my nephew's graduating high school in a couple of weeks.
And again he got four tickets and he's having someone
(14:40):
come his mom, but she's never really been in his
life and I kind of helped raise him as a kid.
So I was upset, but I'm like, you know what, again,
it's his choice.
Speaker 8 (14:50):
And if that too, he.
Speaker 10 (14:52):
Chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk, I'll
I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind
of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not
be personal to that person. You just say, hey, maybe
these people have just met more to him or sit
aside him more. And I mean under the day these
graduations you get like three or four tickets right right
(15:14):
cues And it's a tough situation. Well, is that he's
a kid.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
I commend you though for that.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
You're not going to penalize the child for the fact
that you you believe that you deserve to be there.
But he's made a different choice. I mean, and that's
that's his right. But yet I know your love and
your support of him will not change. You can be disappointed,
but again, this is the choice he's making today.
Speaker 4 (15:34):
And it doesn't negate what you've done.
Speaker 10 (15:37):
Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.
Speaker 7 (15:39):
He is a child.
Speaker 10 (15:40):
Like it's not going to change my views on him.
I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely
he's a child. Let's not you know, got to be
the bigger people sometimes.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
I mean, he's out of the will completely. But other
than that, I mean, it's you know, I don't know
who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,
there'll be no repercussion. A man, have a good I'm
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Former first daughter Malia Obama is getting accused of stealing
a portion of a Nike commercial that she directed from
an independent film that.
Speaker 6 (16:22):
Debuted last year.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Natalie Jasmine Harris, the creator of this film, It's called Grace,
says that she was shocked by how similar Malia's commercial
is to a scene in her movie.
Speaker 6 (16:31):
Specifically, there's a scene in the.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
Commercial where two girls I guess play paddy Cake, and
she says it's nearly in the same style as in
her movie.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
She notes that the commercial has.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
The framing and the camera angles that seem to mimic
her movie exactly. She also accused Nike of going with
Malia just because of the Obama name, not because of
her abilities and skills, which is pretty harsh.
Speaker 6 (16:53):
I don't know about all that, but you know, don't
shoot the messenger.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Sean Colmes aka p Diddy filed to have Dawn chured
civil suit against him thrown out on the exact same
day that she took the witness stand to testify against
him in his criminal trial. So his legal team pointed
out a series of reasons why Don's lawsuit shouldn't go
any further, one of them being the statute of limitations
and a few other reasons, and they say she's essentially
(17:18):
trying to ride the wave of negative press around Ditty
to a payout. Writing quote, Don seeks to transform narratives
of alleged injuries against others into a headline grabbing sex
trafficking conspiracy.
Speaker 6 (17:29):
As to her.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
By the way, Dawn told the court that she saw
Diddy violently attack Cassie, specifically referring to an alleged two
thousand and nine incident where she says she watched him
attempt to hit Cassie with a skillet. She also alleged
that Ditty told her and a Danity Kane bandmate to
keep quiet on what they saw, saying that he locked
the door during the conversation. Also says that he brought
them flowers in an attempt to try and smooth things
(17:52):
over with them.
Speaker 6 (17:53):
By the way, down is supposed to take the stand.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Excuse me today, as we head into week two of testimony.
Speaker 6 (18:02):
So we'll see what else she has to say. And
I guess, I guess Aubrio Day is not testifying, right Yea.
Speaker 11 (18:07):
She said, I listened to that podcast that she's doing
with TJ. Holmes and get her other name, Amy Robot. Yeah,
and yet she said that she wasn't asked, So I
don't know. I mean, it seems like a loss, you know,
if anyone knows him, and like she was the most
abused out of that whole group, right, And I'm not.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Watching the you know, the day by day. I see
it on TikTok. I hear you guys talking about it.
I hear the reports obviously, And we were saying earlier
this morning before the show, you think the vibe is
that he could somehow get off I have, based on
everything I've heard, that seems unbelievable to me.
Speaker 6 (18:40):
Yeah, I mean it seems I hope.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
Well, I don't want to say that I got that
vibe off of someone who was in the courtroom and
she had listened to the defense all day. I will
just say like his defense did a very good job
that day. But I also heard that, like with trials
like these, you can feel day by day, like someone
is going to walk away or they're not based on
(19:03):
you know, whether it's the prosecution or the defense, but
they just.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
Seems so overwhelmingly against obstorted to up to you.
Speaker 6 (19:09):
Yeah, they were, I mean they were poking holes. I
mean Cassie.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
I think that they they threw Cassie up there and
didn't protect her, and I don't.
Speaker 6 (19:16):
I don't like what they did. They poked a lot
of holes in it.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
They were trying to, you know, frame her as someone
who it was all consensual and she you know, they
showed text messages, which I don't think is fair. Like
if you're giving consent when you're scared of the outcome,
that's not really consent, and if you're trying to please
this person. So I just his defense was doing a
good job that day. Yeah, and remember he's not on
(19:39):
trial for anything he did to Cassie. They settled and
so he's on trial for these other things and it's
a federal case.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
So I don't know, but I think it's still early.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Well, yeah, I was gonna say my gut from what
I've heard, And again I'm not watching, you know, play
by play, because I don't think you can but not
like Karen read at least, But it just seems so
overwhelmingly bad.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
Yeah, it does, for sure.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
I see so many people telling the same story. It's
like we're not talking about one person saying he's she said,
We're talking about systematic. We're talking about you know, layers
and layers of people could say, Oh, that happened to
me too, or worse yep, So I don't know.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Again though, it's like a racketeering case. Not certain things
about his character. But yes, it is very early. So
that's Stuff's just the vibe I got, and that was
scary to me, honestly.
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And really quick.
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Drake showed some public support for fellow Canadian Rapertory Lanes
following that violent prison attack if you somehow missed it.
While serving a ten year sentence for the twenty twenty
shooting of Megan thee Stallion, he was stabbed fourteen times
by another inmate. The assault resulted in collapsed lungs multiple injuries.
Speaker 6 (20:43):
He's now stable and breathing on his own, but in.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Response, Drake posted a message to his Instagram story, writing
three you, a cryptic phrase interpreted by fans as a
call for Tori's Freedom.
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The two artists who once.
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Had a public feud reconciled in twenty seventeen and have
made tamed a friendship, which is an interesting take.
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