January 6, 2026 • 23 mins
Jason had to reschedule his surgery... AGAIN! Find out what happened in an all new radio blog. Plus, we debate relationship drama on an all new Stay Or Go!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the press show.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
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Text Text Vegas to five seven seven three nine right
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thanks to Live Nation. Jason, the people must know. Okay,
they think you're walking around here.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
With a new knee.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
But guess what in Jason fashion, Yeah, just just to recap,
you were you were going to have knee surgery before Christmas.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Yes, literally like.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Wijay's was rescheduled from several weeks before. This was the
second time around for knee surgery.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Yes, but yet didn't happen.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Did not happen, So yeah, I talked a little bit
about this before the HOLIDAYBI was supposed to have my
meniscus repaired on the Tuesday before Christmas, and I planted
out that time because it was the holiday, and I
had time to be off my feet and whatever. And
then I get a call literally the friday before saying, oh,
we don't have physician clearance because you have to go
(01:16):
to your doctor and get cleared whatever to be put
under anesthesia. And I did do that already, but no
one told me that it has to be thirty days
before your surgery date. So mine had expired, and they
told me the friday before. Of course, the friday before Christmas,
no one's open, no one wants to work, no one
wants to do anything, so I couldn't get anywhere, and
(01:37):
now I had to push it to February.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
So just to catch everybody up if you didn't and
correct me if I don't have all the details right.
But if you're new to this show or the story,
Jason needs knee surgery. He's needed it for about seven years,
so he's hoppled around finally decided to do it, so
you schedule it right. The doctor works in a surgery center,
(02:00):
but the doctor was insurance approved and the surgery center
was not, and we don't find We didn't find that
out for round one until a few days before you
were supposed to get it before.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, So they were like eight thousand dollars please, and
I was like, that's not gonna work.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
So let me figure some same building, same buildings, right
floor up.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
The doctor's good, yeah, the table that he operates on
not good.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Good.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Insurance didn't like that, which which if you know anything
about insurance, then you know that this is par for
the course.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Like okay.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
So then they were like, okay, we'll find you a
new doctor and a new surgery place. So you were
ready to go for round one and then this was
round two and that's where the clearance expired. But how
did no one like when you first checked in with
new doctor and new surgery table, how did they not
say like, okay, we're gonna need to make sure this
(02:48):
clearance is like how did why are we just now
looking at that?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I think because they were so flabbergasted by how we
got to that point that they were like, okay, like
you know, we'll figure out, like this is we ran everything,
this is your covered, like we're good to go. And
and God bless the scheduling girl because she was calling
around trying to figure out how to get me in
before the holiday and it just didn't work.
Speaker 5 (03:12):
Out.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
So here we are now it's February. So February, February seventeenth. Yes,
oh yeah, that's a text right here. That's interesting. It's true.
I had forgotten too. Speaking of rescheduling, what happened to
Fred's special guest?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Oh, it couldn't talk. Well, I forgot about that. So
for my.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Birthday in November, you guys had scheduled and a guest.
You couldn't tell me who it was, and they weren't
cleared to talk until the seventeenth of December, and then
we wound up going on vacation.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Yes, and then we couldn't talk to them. Yeah. Are
we ever talking to them? I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I meant ghosted. I think we moved up around a
little too much. But we might have scared them. But
we're gonna try to try again.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Can you tell me not yet?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
No? Can you give me like the fine people at
home who were curious. Can we have like a like Friday?
Can we have a day where you really Yeah, well
you will tell us if we're who it was going
to be.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Yeah, I think it's fair if we don't. If we
don't get them by Friday, then we'll.
Speaker 6 (04:11):
You know who it was well, yeah, I'm hoping, I'm
hoping they picked back up interesting and I.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Was excited about it. He's so excited that I forgot.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
But I just remember now, I know, I know what
you wanted to take that day.
Speaker 7 (04:24):
I was like, bummer, but we were not going to
just come in just for that. Yeah, okay, because they
will still be well.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Thank you do Texter six y three oh for reminding.
Thank you yeah, and for all the people who cared
about Jason. For Jason. Yeah, it's true, but it's fine.
It'll be good.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Good, You're gonna You're gonna be hot girl summer with
a new knee.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Ooh yeah, these Megan knees. I'm about to get watch out. Okay,
let's stay or god more Pread Show. Next, This is
the Pread Show.
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It's stay or go.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Meredith is here. By the way.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
You can hit us up with your relationship matter, and
then we'll talk about you with you, and then hang
up on you and talk about you behind your back,
and then everyone else listening we'll talk about you too.
Fred Show Radio on Instagram. Find us there, dms Hey, Marredith, good.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Morning, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
We do it with love, though we talk about you
with love for the most part. I mean, unless you
say something crazy then maybe not. But welcome, Thank you
for your message. What's going on with your husband? You're
seeing a side of him, you say that you've never
seen before, right right.
Speaker 8 (06:02):
So okay, first I'm just going to say, like I
know this is stay or go, I just want to
say I'm not actually considering leaving my husband right now.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Well, no, because if you're even see the fine print,
if you agree to come on here, then you have
to do at the end what we say, even if
that means mere cloading your entire life. So I'm gonna
have to let you go. Okay, so you're not You're
not actually going to leave them, but this is something
that is happening that obviously led you to think, Okay,
I needed I need a secondary opinion on this, so
(06:36):
I'm gonna write a morning radio show which makes perfect sense.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Go ahead, Okay.
Speaker 8 (06:41):
So recently we started looking for like a babysitter, Mari
were a nanny for our five year old daughter, because
I recently started a new job, has longer hours than
I was working before, and my husband also works full time.
(07:04):
So I started looking and I was sending over options
of just some different people to my husband, and okay,
I sent over a guy that I thought was like
a good fit. He's just like a young guy in
his twenties. He says, he's, you know, trying to like
(07:25):
babysit to make money ball. He's going to school to
get his masters. And my husband just like lost it
over this.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So I have the options that you gave him.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
There were some women, and then there was this dude,
this twenty something year old student, master's student, but a
guy babysit, which I was thinking about this when I
was reading this earlier this morning why don't guys ever babysit?
And I think that this guy, I guess his objection
is that it's a man. It's a man who you
were proposing would watch your daughter. And that was his issue.
Speaker 8 (08:02):
Yeah, Like I sent all women and then this one guy.
And it was the guy that sent him up. He
was saying, like, you know, it's crazy that I would
let another man watch his child. What Yeah, okay, And
he was saying like, no sane straight man would ever
(08:26):
want to or be good at watching a child that's
not his own, because.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Anyone I'm sorry here.
Speaker 8 (08:36):
Saying this guy must be sick in the head, and
like just all this stuff. I was like, this is
a lot.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yeah that is because I can see Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
At first, I'm like, all right, you have five year
old daughter, a guy watching your daughter. Okay, So there's
some relatability things there. Maybe you know some I don't know,
a woman and another and a girl they might connect
on you know, having the same parts in the same
thing whatever. But like, but girls watch little boys. Women
watch little boys, you know, when they out of context,
(09:03):
that sounds bad, But you know, women babysit little boys.
So I don't think it's inherent. No, I don't think
you have to do be like that. But I never
had a male babysitter growing up, so why not?
Speaker 8 (09:18):
Yeah, I don't know. I was surprised by his reaction,
I mean to say the least, because, like, I don't know,
I just thought he was fairly open minded or you know, progressive,
and I was just kind of shocked because he made
me look a bad mom for even considering letting you know,
he said, strange man watched our kid.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Because I'm trying to be open minded here, I mean,
I don't know that a man has ever applied. I
don't know of a situation where there's a dude who
wanted to babysit any of my friend's kids, or or
when I was young. I mean, it was always a woman,
and I think typically you think about women having nurturing
tendencies and motherly tendencies and that kind of thing that
but maybe that's a stereotype. I mean, why can't I
I guess, why couldn't a guy? And I'm not trying
(10:04):
to be woke here, I mean I'm really asking a question, like,
for the first time in my life, why couldn't a
guy accomplish that? If he's if he passes the same
sort of background check and and you know, ethic sort
of vibe check of a woman, why why, I guess
why couldn't he.
Speaker 8 (10:24):
Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I'm just kind of,
like I said, I just kind of want someone else's
opinion because I'm just questionable. Thing like, am I.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
The crazy one?
Speaker 8 (10:36):
Is this a ridiculous idea?
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (10:40):
I'm I just kind of want other people to weigh in.
Let me know, like, yeah, am I considering this? Or
is my husband just you know, overreacting.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
I kind of want to know what people think too.
Either way, eight five five five nine three five you
can call him text the same number. You guys should
the you guys should the focused group on this. Meredith,
have your radio on and let's see what people have
to say, and thank you for calling it for sharing
good luck.
Speaker 8 (11:06):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Honestly though, and people, we're getting some texts he's speaking
so much to his own insecurities. Bringing up sexuality perpetuates
the stigma that's just jumping around here. We're getting a
lot of texts about this, like faster than I can
read them all. Just someone mentioned that bringing up sexuality
(11:29):
adds to his stigma that gay men are somehow more
likely to be predators. Okay, Ja, Dad is protecting his daughter,
not saying anything bad would happen between mail nanny and daughter.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
But in today's worldwide risk it I don't know.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
I've watched a lot of a lot of datelines in
twenty twenties and stuff about you know, women doing stuff.
I've watched a lot of Doctor Phil. Yeah, a lot
of Doctor If. I've watched some Doctor Phil. It's weird
all I mean, it's.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
On repeating the house. But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
It's an Honestly, it's a thing I had never considered
because I guess in my mind it's always I've always
had female babysitters and nanny's growing up. Would you let
you know you're you're the mom in the room of
Paulina and Gegee's two?
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Would you let a guy? I guess you have your
best friend, Yeah.
Speaker 9 (12:22):
Well her godfather slash, my best friend has watched her
many of times, and I trust them more than I
trust myself sometimes, like they're so good with her. But
I was actually asked this question recently if I would
hire because I do look for babysitters here and there,
and we have a couple of rotation and they're all girls.
I mean they're all high school kids too, So that
might say something too. Maybe the industry slow right now
because I'm like, oh, you know, everyone's young and they
(12:42):
want to, you know, do this job, which I love.
Speaker 10 (12:44):
But I'm like, why are there not men applying?
Speaker 9 (12:46):
And I kind of question that myself, but maybe because
of society and the way that like we're set up.
Speaker 10 (12:51):
It's typically not a job that men go for.
Speaker 9 (12:53):
Typically, And I know friends had episode on this too
where they.
Speaker 10 (12:56):
Hired a nanny, remember that, Yeah, and they were.
Speaker 9 (12:58):
Like a big fight about it and he was a
great i think candative too for the job or something.
Speaker 7 (13:02):
And it was Freddy Prince Junior. Yes, the money, the manny.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
That's funny.
Speaker 10 (13:07):
If I'm not mad at it, would it be my
first preference? Maybe not?
Speaker 9 (13:11):
And I think just because I'm like set up that way,
you know, because society, or maybe because like I'm conditioned
to think that a man wouldn't want this job, or
to be honest, even be good at this job.
Speaker 10 (13:20):
And that's that's not true.
Speaker 7 (13:21):
I will say, it's not always one hundred percent, So
don't come for me.
Speaker 6 (13:24):
But sometimes though, you do see little girls like it's
just a neat and them like.
Speaker 7 (13:29):
They want to play with babies, they want to care
for things.
Speaker 6 (13:31):
I've noticed that, so maybe it's just that they're more
drawn to it. But I don't I see why a
man couldn't do a good job as well.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I have a friend of law enforcement who texted and
it's just just sits it. I won't say who because
I have several because I don't want to win going
for him. But this is apparently statistics, Okay, eighty eight
percent to over ninety three percent of sex predators are male.
Why take the chance? Okay, again, that's this is this
is one person's statement. I haven't verified that I believed
in this person. Yeah, but you know, someone else texted.
(14:02):
No man, period should be babysitting young children. Too many predators.
Maybe if the guy was a friend of the family. Well,
if those statistics are right, then I get it. But
you know, and I'm not picking on teachers, but there
are a lot of female teachers and every day I
feel like we're seeing some story. And again this is
not this is not on female teachers at all. But
to say that that no man should be watching a
(14:23):
child because only women should be.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
That's that's sort of a pretty wide.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Net to cast, because you do hear about female teachers
taking advantage of your again, not a lot of them,
not a dominant amount. But again, I don't think you
could say with certainty that if a woman watches my
kid that we are one hundred percent better off than
if a guy would. Now, maybe statistically you're you're a
(14:51):
lot better off, but not entirely, you know what I mean.
You can't we can't make a blake and statement about that. Hey' Shelley. Hi, Hi, Shelley,
good morning. What do you think would you let a
guy who was qualified and background checked in the same
all the same qualities you would look for in a
woman who watch your kid?
Speaker 11 (15:11):
Absolutely? I mean he's a college students studying. He's probably
looking at something where he could study. You know, guys
are qualified to watch kids. They teach, coaching, their school counselors,
There are counselors and kids who go out to camp. Guys.
(15:33):
Some guys just have that pictury you state about them.
I don't see anything wrong with it.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Yeah, okay, thank you Shelly here, thank you have a
great day.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Appreciate you, love your show. Thank you, Love you, Emma, Emma,
you agree with the husband?
Speaker 12 (15:55):
I do?
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Okay, fair enough?
Speaker 12 (15:57):
Why well, I'm a teacher and I have babysaid before,
and I don't think he's not a decent man. I mean,
there's a lot of decent men out there, but I
just statistically, the numbers are hired. If I don't know
this guy, I wouldn't hut him.
Speaker 7 (16:17):
I wouldn't put my son in charge of any man.
Speaker 12 (16:21):
I don't let the sleepovers. I don't. It's it's just
it's scary out there. I agree with the dad. I mean, again,
he might be a decent man. There's a lot of them,
but why take the chance if the numbers are not
in your favor?
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Emma. Have a good day,
you too. Glad you called?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I am Aaron. You are a male nanny? Yay, Yes,
that's correct. You is what you do? Okay?
Speaker 2 (16:47):
And do you get First of all, I'm curious, like
what was your motivation in getting into this? And second
of all, do you do you feel like you're unfairly judged?
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 13 (16:57):
So I've actually been doing it for like the last
fifteen years. I've kind of always been in childcare my
whole life. I started babysitting when I was like twelve.
But yeah, I would say, like number one, I definitely
am not.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Paid what I'm worth.
Speaker 13 (17:13):
Like, you know, the base rate for most nannies is
like around twenty five dollars an hour, and I don't
get that, mostly because I am a man, and yeah,
like it takes a little longer for me to get
jobs and stuff.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
And I do think, yeah, that it's like a societal thing.
Speaker 13 (17:32):
But I've been doing it for like fifteen years, and
there's some families that will like seek me out, especially
if they have boys. But what's funny is most of
the families I've worked for actually has been little girls.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Interesting.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Yeah, honestly, Like I say this truly, when I read
this this morning, it's sort of wait a minute, like, right, well,
why not exactly? And why would I always gravitate towards
hiring a woman if I had a kid, Because I
just would because I'm programmed, I guess because that's what
I always had, that was my exposure.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
So I guess that's what I would do.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
But and I also don't know how many men there
are in your industry, you know, Aaron, I guess I
think you're still probably pretty rare. But but I guess
you could also argue that's because it's harder to get
a job because people have this sort of idea in
their mind that guys shouldn't do it.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 13 (18:21):
And you know, I do want to say that, like
the statistics that everyone's bringing up, those are reported cases.
So most of the cases reported are men. That doesn't
mean women are not, also sell your editors.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Yeah, fair enough, thank you man.
Speaker 13 (18:34):
Also because you know, because of the stigma, men don't
report when something does happen, yep, because they're shamed and
they're made to feel awful about it. But it's happening.
It's definitely happening. So those statistics don't tell the whole number,
the whole story, you know, Aaron, thank you, have a
good day.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
I think fair enough? Is I keep saying fair enough?
It's like, because I mean, these are all interesting points. Yeah,
Hey Kelly, right, Hi, So you grew up with both
male and female babysitters and no issue.
Speaker 5 (19:05):
Yeah yeah, my mom hired some family friends and we
had a blast with the male babysitters. They were a
lot more, you know, like willing to let kids be
kids and run around with us and get on the
(19:26):
floor with us and run around outside with us. I
think that the biggest thing is you have to trust
the people, and you have to do your research. And
if it's somebody that you don't actually know in person,
you just have to do the background checks and check
the references and all that. There's risks either way if
you're inviting somebody who you don't know into your home.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Yeah, yeah, makes sense, Thank you, Kelly, thank you. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I mean, well, I had female babysitters when I was young,
and they were men hanging around. They were their boyfriends
that would come over from my parents left. And they
weren't interested. They weren't predators to me. They were waiting
for me to go to bed so they could make
out with the babysitter on the couch.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
That's what that was about, Nicole. Hello, Hi, hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
You will not hire a mail nanny because of statistics. Correct, Yes,
and so I have even if your background checked the person, no, no,
I interrupted you. But even if you even if you
really like really dug deep and looked into this person
and they had references and a clean record and an
interest in childcare or in this case, getting a master's
maybe an education or.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Something like that.
Speaker 7 (20:35):
Correct, I know I still will not take that chance.
Speaker 10 (20:39):
Okay, bar Nicol, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Fair enough, someone said, ask Pauline she would allow a
guy to take care of a daughter.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Well I did, yeah, right off the top, I asked
the mom in the room.
Speaker 10 (20:54):
Yeah, yeah, hey, welcome to the show.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
This is good.
Speaker 11 (20:58):
You know.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
He came here everywhere the consider of our Yeah, the
guncles are watching her now, Jamie. You had a male
babysitter growing up.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
Yeah. His name was Bob.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Babysitter. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
Man, but he babysat me and my brother and my
three sisters till I was twelve, and there was nothing
wrong with it. I never actually had girl babysitter.
Speaker 7 (21:30):
Was always a male, and Bob was cool above.
Speaker 4 (21:34):
Yeah, he was the only Bob I knew. His name
wasn't Robert, his name was Bob.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
That's a very interesting fact about Bob the babysitter, because
you're right, you don't meet a lot of Bob's.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
You meet a lot of Roberts go by Bob. You
just don't meet a lot of Bobs.
Speaker 10 (21:50):
What was the story?
Speaker 7 (21:51):
Was he a student? Was he a professional babysitter?
Speaker 1 (21:54):
What was no?
Speaker 4 (21:56):
My so, my grandma uh knew him years ago, and
by the way that I can remember, my parents just
started letting him baby sit us. And then my when
I lived at my grandma's for a little bit, he
was our babysitter and we would go to his house.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
Actually, okay, so you had like a real life mister Rogers.
You know, you go over there and you'd put us
you change sweaters, you know, and you put different shoes on,
and you'd go out to the back and play in
the sandbox. It all sounds weird now, and that's what
that's what mister Rogers did.
Speaker 7 (22:32):
And he took offite he was home.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
He was a good man.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
Uh interesting, Thank you, Jamie, I gotta go okay, but yeah, honestly,
my takeaway from that was that his name was Bob
and not Robert. Was Bob a text. I'm a criminal prosecutor.
I would never hire a male sitter. We even looked
for female only daycares for our son. I've had a
(22:57):
lot of child porn in essay cases. They're always male.
Female predators usually exists with high school age victims, but
males exist with babies and little kids.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Is terrifying.
Speaker 10 (23:05):
All right, there you go, the scary world.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
It is so scary.
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they think you're walking around here.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
With a new knee.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
But guess what in Jason fashion, Yeah, just just to recap,
you were you were going to have knee surgery before Christmas.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Yes, literally like.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Wijay's was rescheduled from several weeks before. This was the
second time around for knee surgery.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Yes, but yet didn't happen.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Did not happen, So yeah, I talked a little bit
about this before the HOLIDAYBI was supposed to have my
meniscus repaired on the Tuesday before Christmas, and I planted
out that time because it was the holiday, and I
had time to be off my feet and whatever. And
then I get a call literally the friday before saying, oh,
we don't have physician clearance because you have to go
(01:16):
to your doctor and get cleared whatever to be put
under anesthesia. And I did do that already, but no
one told me that it has to be thirty days
before your surgery date. So mine had expired, and they
told me the friday before. Of course, the friday before Christmas,
no one's open, no one wants to work, no one
wants to do anything, so I couldn't get anywhere, and
(01:37):
now I had to push it to February.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
So just to catch everybody up if you didn't and
correct me if I don't have all the details right.
But if you're new to this show or the story,
Jason needs knee surgery. He's needed it for about seven years,
so he's hoppled around finally decided to do it, so
you schedule it right. The doctor works in a surgery center,
(02:00):
but the doctor was insurance approved and the surgery center
was not, and we don't find We didn't find that
out for round one until a few days before you
were supposed to get it before.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, So they were like eight thousand dollars please, and
I was like, that's not gonna work.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
So let me figure some same building, same buildings, right
floor up.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
The doctor's good, yeah, the table that he operates on
not good.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Good.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Insurance didn't like that, which which if you know anything
about insurance, then you know that this is par for
the course.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Like okay.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
So then they were like, okay, we'll find you a
new doctor and a new surgery place. So you were
ready to go for round one and then this was
round two and that's where the clearance expired. But how
did no one like when you first checked in with
new doctor and new surgery table, how did they not
say like, okay, we're gonna need to make sure this
(02:48):
clearance is like how did why are we just now
looking at that?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I think because they were so flabbergasted by how we
got to that point that they were like, okay, like
you know, we'll figure out, like this is we ran everything,
this is your covered, like we're good to go. And
and God bless the scheduling girl because she was calling
around trying to figure out how to get me in
before the holiday and it just didn't work.
Speaker 5 (03:12):
Out.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
So here we are now it's February. So February, February seventeenth. Yes,
oh yeah, that's a text right here. That's interesting. It's true.
I had forgotten too. Speaking of rescheduling, what happened to
Fred's special guest?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Oh, it couldn't talk. Well, I forgot about that. So
for my.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Birthday in November, you guys had scheduled and a guest.
You couldn't tell me who it was, and they weren't
cleared to talk until the seventeenth of December, and then
we wound up going on vacation.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Yes, and then we couldn't talk to them. Yeah. Are
we ever talking to them? I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I meant ghosted. I think we moved up around a
little too much. But we might have scared them. But
we're gonna try to try again.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Can you tell me not yet?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
No? Can you give me like the fine people at
home who were curious. Can we have like a like Friday?
Can we have a day where you really Yeah, well
you will tell us if we're who it was going
to be.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Yeah, I think it's fair if we don't. If we
don't get them by Friday, then we'll.
Speaker 6 (04:11):
You know who it was well, yeah, I'm hoping, I'm
hoping they picked back up interesting and I.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Was excited about it. He's so excited that I forgot.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
But I just remember now, I know, I know what
you wanted to take that day.
Speaker 7 (04:24):
I was like, bummer, but we were not going to
just come in just for that. Yeah, okay, because they
will still be well.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Thank you do Texter six y three oh for reminding.
Thank you yeah, and for all the people who cared
about Jason. For Jason. Yeah, it's true, but it's fine.
It'll be good.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Good, You're gonna You're gonna be hot girl summer with
a new knee.
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Ooh yeah, these Megan knees. I'm about to get watch out. Okay,
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Speaker 1 (05:43):
Morning, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
We do it with love, though we talk about you
with love for the most part. I mean, unless you
say something crazy then maybe not. But welcome, Thank you
for your message. What's going on with your husband? You're
seeing a side of him, you say that you've never
seen before, right right.
Speaker 8 (06:02):
So okay, first I'm just going to say, like I
know this is stay or go, I just want to
say I'm not actually considering leaving my husband right now.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Well, no, because if you're even see the fine print,
if you agree to come on here, then you have
to do at the end what we say, even if
that means mere cloading your entire life. So I'm gonna
have to let you go. Okay, so you're not You're
not actually going to leave them, but this is something
that is happening that obviously led you to think, Okay,
I needed I need a secondary opinion on this, so
(06:36):
I'm gonna write a morning radio show which makes perfect sense.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Go ahead, Okay.
Speaker 8 (06:41):
So recently we started looking for like a babysitter, Mari
were a nanny for our five year old daughter, because
I recently started a new job, has longer hours than
I was working before, and my husband also works full time.
(07:04):
So I started looking and I was sending over options
of just some different people to my husband, and okay,
I sent over a guy that I thought was like
a good fit. He's just like a young guy in
his twenties. He says, he's, you know, trying to like
(07:25):
babysit to make money ball. He's going to school to
get his masters. And my husband just like lost it
over this.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So I have the options that you gave him.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
There were some women, and then there was this dude,
this twenty something year old student, master's student, but a
guy babysit, which I was thinking about this when I
was reading this earlier this morning why don't guys ever babysit?
And I think that this guy, I guess his objection
is that it's a man. It's a man who you
were proposing would watch your daughter. And that was his issue.
Speaker 8 (08:02):
Yeah, Like I sent all women and then this one guy.
And it was the guy that sent him up. He
was saying, like, you know, it's crazy that I would
let another man watch his child. What Yeah, okay, And
he was saying like, no sane straight man would ever
(08:26):
want to or be good at watching a child that's
not his own, because.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Anyone I'm sorry here.
Speaker 8 (08:36):
Saying this guy must be sick in the head, and
like just all this stuff. I was like, this is
a lot.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yeah that is because I can see Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
At first, I'm like, all right, you have five year
old daughter, a guy watching your daughter. Okay, So there's
some relatability things there. Maybe you know some I don't know,
a woman and another and a girl they might connect
on you know, having the same parts in the same
thing whatever. But like, but girls watch little boys. Women
watch little boys, you know, when they out of context,
(09:03):
that sounds bad, But you know, women babysit little boys.
So I don't think it's inherent. No, I don't think
you have to do be like that. But I never
had a male babysitter growing up, so why not?
Speaker 8 (09:18):
Yeah, I don't know. I was surprised by his reaction,
I mean to say the least, because, like, I don't know,
I just thought he was fairly open minded or you know, progressive,
and I was just kind of shocked because he made
me look a bad mom for even considering letting you know,
he said, strange man watched our kid.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Because I'm trying to be open minded here, I mean,
I don't know that a man has ever applied. I
don't know of a situation where there's a dude who
wanted to babysit any of my friend's kids, or or
when I was young. I mean, it was always a woman,
and I think typically you think about women having nurturing
tendencies and motherly tendencies and that kind of thing that
but maybe that's a stereotype. I mean, why can't I
I guess, why couldn't a guy? And I'm not trying
(10:04):
to be woke here, I mean I'm really asking a question, like,
for the first time in my life, why couldn't a
guy accomplish that? If he's if he passes the same
sort of background check and and you know, ethic sort
of vibe check of a woman, why why, I guess
why couldn't he.
Speaker 8 (10:24):
Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I'm just kind of,
like I said, I just kind of want someone else's
opinion because I'm just questionable. Thing like, am I.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
The crazy one?
Speaker 8 (10:36):
Is this a ridiculous idea?
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (10:40):
I'm I just kind of want other people to weigh in.
Let me know, like, yeah, am I considering this? Or
is my husband just you know, overreacting.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
I kind of want to know what people think too.
Either way, eight five five five nine three five you
can call him text the same number. You guys should
the you guys should the focused group on this. Meredith,
have your radio on and let's see what people have
to say, and thank you for calling it for sharing
good luck.
Speaker 8 (11:06):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Honestly though, and people, we're getting some texts he's speaking
so much to his own insecurities. Bringing up sexuality perpetuates
the stigma that's just jumping around here. We're getting a
lot of texts about this, like faster than I can
read them all. Just someone mentioned that bringing up sexuality
(11:29):
adds to his stigma that gay men are somehow more
likely to be predators. Okay, Ja, Dad is protecting his daughter,
not saying anything bad would happen between mail nanny and daughter.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
But in today's worldwide risk it I don't know.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
I've watched a lot of a lot of datelines in
twenty twenties and stuff about you know, women doing stuff.
I've watched a lot of Doctor Phil. Yeah, a lot
of Doctor If. I've watched some Doctor Phil. It's weird
all I mean, it's.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
On repeating the house. But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
It's an Honestly, it's a thing I had never considered
because I guess in my mind it's always I've always
had female babysitters and nanny's growing up. Would you let
you know you're you're the mom in the room of
Paulina and Gegee's two?
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Would you let a guy? I guess you have your
best friend, Yeah.
Speaker 9 (12:22):
Well her godfather slash, my best friend has watched her
many of times, and I trust them more than I
trust myself sometimes, like they're so good with her. But
I was actually asked this question recently if I would
hire because I do look for babysitters here and there,
and we have a couple of rotation and they're all girls.
I mean they're all high school kids too, So that
might say something too. Maybe the industry slow right now
because I'm like, oh, you know, everyone's young and they
(12:42):
want to, you know, do this job, which I love.
Speaker 10 (12:44):
But I'm like, why are there not men applying?
Speaker 9 (12:46):
And I kind of question that myself, but maybe because
of society and the way that like we're set up.
Speaker 10 (12:51):
It's typically not a job that men go for.
Speaker 9 (12:53):
Typically, And I know friends had episode on this too
where they.
Speaker 10 (12:56):
Hired a nanny, remember that, Yeah, and they were.
Speaker 9 (12:58):
Like a big fight about it and he was a
great i think candative too for the job or something.
Speaker 7 (13:02):
And it was Freddy Prince Junior. Yes, the money, the manny.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
That's funny.
Speaker 10 (13:07):
If I'm not mad at it, would it be my
first preference? Maybe not?
Speaker 9 (13:11):
And I think just because I'm like set up that way,
you know, because society, or maybe because like I'm conditioned
to think that a man wouldn't want this job, or
to be honest, even be good at this job.
Speaker 10 (13:20):
And that's that's not true.
Speaker 7 (13:21):
I will say, it's not always one hundred percent, So
don't come for me.
Speaker 6 (13:24):
But sometimes though, you do see little girls like it's
just a neat and them like.
Speaker 7 (13:29):
They want to play with babies, they want to care
for things.
Speaker 6 (13:31):
I've noticed that, so maybe it's just that they're more
drawn to it. But I don't I see why a
man couldn't do a good job as well.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I have a friend of law enforcement who texted and
it's just just sits it. I won't say who because
I have several because I don't want to win going
for him. But this is apparently statistics, Okay, eighty eight
percent to over ninety three percent of sex predators are male.
Why take the chance? Okay, again, that's this is this
is one person's statement. I haven't verified that I believed
in this person. Yeah, but you know, someone else texted.
(14:02):
No man, period should be babysitting young children. Too many predators.
Maybe if the guy was a friend of the family. Well,
if those statistics are right, then I get it. But
you know, and I'm not picking on teachers, but there
are a lot of female teachers and every day I
feel like we're seeing some story. And again this is
not this is not on female teachers at all. But
to say that that no man should be watching a
(14:23):
child because only women should be.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
That's that's sort of a pretty wide.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Net to cast, because you do hear about female teachers
taking advantage of your again, not a lot of them,
not a dominant amount. But again, I don't think you
could say with certainty that if a woman watches my
kid that we are one hundred percent better off than
if a guy would. Now, maybe statistically you're you're a
(14:51):
lot better off, but not entirely, you know what I mean.
You can't we can't make a blake and statement about that. Hey' Shelley. Hi, Hi, Shelley,
good morning. What do you think would you let a
guy who was qualified and background checked in the same
all the same qualities you would look for in a
woman who watch your kid?
Speaker 11 (15:11):
Absolutely? I mean he's a college students studying. He's probably
looking at something where he could study. You know, guys
are qualified to watch kids. They teach, coaching, their school counselors,
There are counselors and kids who go out to camp. Guys.
(15:33):
Some guys just have that pictury you state about them.
I don't see anything wrong with it.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Yeah, okay, thank you Shelly here, thank you have a
great day.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Appreciate you, love your show. Thank you, Love you, Emma, Emma,
you agree with the husband?
Speaker 12 (15:55):
I do?
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Okay, fair enough?
Speaker 12 (15:57):
Why well, I'm a teacher and I have babysaid before,
and I don't think he's not a decent man. I mean,
there's a lot of decent men out there, but I
just statistically, the numbers are hired. If I don't know
this guy, I wouldn't hut him.
Speaker 7 (16:17):
I wouldn't put my son in charge of any man.
Speaker 12 (16:21):
I don't let the sleepovers. I don't. It's it's just
it's scary out there. I agree with the dad. I mean, again,
he might be a decent man. There's a lot of them,
but why take the chance if the numbers are not
in your favor?
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Emma. Have a good day,
you too. Glad you called?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I am Aaron. You are a male nanny? Yay, Yes,
that's correct. You is what you do? Okay?
Speaker 2 (16:47):
And do you get First of all, I'm curious, like
what was your motivation in getting into this? And second
of all, do you do you feel like you're unfairly judged?
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 13 (16:57):
So I've actually been doing it for like the last
fifteen years. I've kind of always been in childcare my
whole life. I started babysitting when I was like twelve.
But yeah, I would say, like number one, I definitely
am not.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Paid what I'm worth.
Speaker 13 (17:13):
Like, you know, the base rate for most nannies is
like around twenty five dollars an hour, and I don't
get that, mostly because I am a man, and yeah,
like it takes a little longer for me to get
jobs and stuff.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
And I do think, yeah, that it's like a societal thing.
Speaker 13 (17:32):
But I've been doing it for like fifteen years, and
there's some families that will like seek me out, especially
if they have boys. But what's funny is most of
the families I've worked for actually has been little girls.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Interesting.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Yeah, honestly, Like I say this truly, when I read
this this morning, it's sort of wait a minute, like, right, well,
why not exactly? And why would I always gravitate towards
hiring a woman if I had a kid, Because I
just would because I'm programmed, I guess because that's what
I always had, that was my exposure.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
So I guess that's what I would do.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
But and I also don't know how many men there
are in your industry, you know, Aaron, I guess I
think you're still probably pretty rare. But but I guess
you could also argue that's because it's harder to get
a job because people have this sort of idea in
their mind that guys shouldn't do it.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 13 (18:21):
And you know, I do want to say that, like
the statistics that everyone's bringing up, those are reported cases.
So most of the cases reported are men. That doesn't
mean women are not, also sell your editors.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Yeah, fair enough, thank you man.
Speaker 13 (18:34):
Also because you know, because of the stigma, men don't
report when something does happen, yep, because they're shamed and
they're made to feel awful about it. But it's happening.
It's definitely happening. So those statistics don't tell the whole number,
the whole story, you know, Aaron, thank you, have a
good day.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
I think fair enough? Is I keep saying fair enough?
It's like, because I mean, these are all interesting points. Yeah,
Hey Kelly, right, Hi, So you grew up with both
male and female babysitters and no issue.
Speaker 5 (19:05):
Yeah yeah, my mom hired some family friends and we
had a blast with the male babysitters. They were a
lot more, you know, like willing to let kids be
kids and run around with us and get on the
(19:26):
floor with us and run around outside with us. I
think that the biggest thing is you have to trust
the people, and you have to do your research. And
if it's somebody that you don't actually know in person,
you just have to do the background checks and check
the references and all that. There's risks either way if
you're inviting somebody who you don't know into your home.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Yeah, yeah, makes sense, Thank you, Kelly, thank you. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I mean, well, I had female babysitters when I was young,
and they were men hanging around. They were their boyfriends
that would come over from my parents left. And they
weren't interested. They weren't predators to me. They were waiting
for me to go to bed so they could make
out with the babysitter on the couch.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
That's what that was about, Nicole. Hello, Hi, hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
You will not hire a mail nanny because of statistics. Correct, Yes,
and so I have even if your background checked the person, no, no,
I interrupted you. But even if you even if you
really like really dug deep and looked into this person
and they had references and a clean record and an
interest in childcare or in this case, getting a master's
maybe an education or.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Something like that.
Speaker 7 (20:35):
Correct, I know I still will not take that chance.
Speaker 10 (20:39):
Okay, bar Nicol, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Fair enough, someone said, ask Pauline she would allow a
guy to take care of a daughter.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Well I did, yeah, right off the top, I asked
the mom in the room.
Speaker 10 (20:54):
Yeah, yeah, hey, welcome to the show.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
This is good.
Speaker 11 (20:58):
You know.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
He came here everywhere the consider of our Yeah, the
guncles are watching her now, Jamie. You had a male
babysitter growing up.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
Yeah. His name was Bob.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Babysitter. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
Man, but he babysat me and my brother and my
three sisters till I was twelve, and there was nothing
wrong with it. I never actually had girl babysitter.
Speaker 7 (21:30):
Was always a male, and Bob was cool above.
Speaker 4 (21:34):
Yeah, he was the only Bob I knew. His name
wasn't Robert, his name was Bob.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
That's a very interesting fact about Bob the babysitter, because
you're right, you don't meet a lot of Bob's.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
You meet a lot of Roberts go by Bob. You
just don't meet a lot of Bobs.
Speaker 10 (21:50):
What was the story?
Speaker 7 (21:51):
Was he a student? Was he a professional babysitter?
Speaker 1 (21:54):
What was no?
Speaker 4 (21:56):
My so, my grandma uh knew him years ago, and
by the way that I can remember, my parents just
started letting him baby sit us. And then my when
I lived at my grandma's for a little bit, he
was our babysitter and we would go to his house.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
Actually, okay, so you had like a real life mister Rogers.
You know, you go over there and you'd put us
you change sweaters, you know, and you put different shoes on,
and you'd go out to the back and play in
the sandbox. It all sounds weird now, and that's what
that's what mister Rogers did.
Speaker 7 (22:32):
And he took offite he was home.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
He was a good man.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
Uh interesting, Thank you, Jamie, I gotta go okay, but yeah, honestly,
my takeaway from that was that his name was Bob
and not Robert. Was Bob a text. I'm a criminal prosecutor.
I would never hire a male sitter. We even looked
for female only daycares for our son. I've had a
(22:57):
lot of child porn in essay cases. They're always male.
Female predators usually exists with high school age victims, but
males exist with babies and little kids.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Is terrifying.
Speaker 10 (23:05):
All right, there you go, the scary world.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
It is so scary.
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