February 25, 2025 • 34 mins
Fred and the crew debate whether or not kids need cellphones at school! Plus, check out why Melanie needs relationship advice on Stay or Go!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Fred's show is on Fred's Biggest Stories.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Of the Day.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
So I flew Delta for the first time. I'm going
to Salt Lake City. I've never flown Delta my whole life, well,
because I've never lived anywhere where you needed to fly
Delta or you really could. You know, Arizona, the Phoenix
is American, a US Air before that or whatever American,
and then a Dallas American for the most part, Charlotte
American for the most part.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I mean literally, I don't even know if they have
I don't.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Know if they have maybe two flights out of Phoenix
to Atlanta or something on Delta.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Do cities have specific airlines they kind.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
Of love, see, well, they have, they have big hubs
where like you know, for example, well like if you
live in Chicago, you go to Midway, you're basically only
flying Southwest out of Midway. Basically, yes, there's a couple
other airlines, but like you're talking on one or two
gates like Porter and a Velo, And I think there's
one Delta flight that goes to New York or something
back and forth all day. But whatever the case may be,
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I've just never really had the occasion. But Salt Lake
City is a Delta hub, so I flew them. I
had a very nice experience. Some people last week didn't
have as nice as an experience, but they did walk
away and they're going to get thirty thousand dollars, which
is very nice, in addition to the being gazillions of
dollars in the lawsuit that they're going to be filing
that part two. However, ah Man another bad day for Delta.
(01:18):
A Delta flight bound for South Carolina was forced to
return to Atlanta on Monday win some haze filled the cabin,
just two days after a similar mishap diverted yet another
Delta flight in LA. They were in the air, ninety
nine passengers and crew on board about eight thirty in
the morning. The pilot turned the mowing around and landed
back at the Hartsfield Jackson International Airport. Everybody evacuated on
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the slides, no reported injuries. Footage taken before the plane
return shows passengers covering their noses inside the hazy cabin.
The FAA will be investigating a growing number of US
restaurants are responding to the nationwide egg shortage by adding
a temporary surcharge to their egg based meals at some locations,
So Denny's is going to do this a fifty cent
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surch charge. Costco and Trader Joe's are taking action as well,
imposing limits on how many eggs one customer can buy.
And this is all because the Avian flu has killed
more than one hundred and forty million egg laying birds
in the country Since twenty twenty two. At least eighteen
point nine million birds have been when is this cold
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in the last in the past thirty days. It's a
a burge of dying all the time. That's very sad.
And I'm stuttering about it because I just don't have
enough egg intake in my life. I've just I fanned
them all I started. I bought chickens, and they're just
running around my house right now. I'm waiting for them
to lay their eggs. I'm told they just do that.
I don't know if I need to, Like, do I
need to talk to them about it? Or did I
doesn't anyone else need to be involved?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
I mean, do I need to get a coop?
Speaker 5 (02:45):
Right?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Do I need a coop? Do I almost said something?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
I mean I was Yeah, I almost said something I
shouldn't say, even though it was it's I'm referring to
the animal itself. Do I need males too? Because I
only bought feet, I only bought hens. I didn't buy
any roosters.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, that's a problem.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Clearly, I don't know what I'm talking about, but my
HOA is going to have a real problem with them.
Seven and ten Americans would support a cell phone ban
in schools.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
That's trending today.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
A new survey of two thousand American shows that only
twenty nine percent say that they would not support a
ban on cell phones in school. Seventy one percent are
in favor in some form. Fifty percent advocate for a
ban in elementary schools, lessening as people get older. The
biggest reason to support a ban is the worry over
them distracting in lessons and impacting education the phones. That
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is followed by overall worry that children are on devices
too much. The biggest reason people wouldn't support it is
that parents skill they should be able to get a
hold of their child at all times. Yeah, I mean
we didn't have phones. No, we didn't have them. No
one had phones. Didn't when I was in elementary school. Well,
phones existed, but we didn't have like.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Your iPhones, do you have a buck? There was There
wasn't an.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
iPhone in nineteen ninety or whenever I was in elementary school.
They didn't exist that I'm sorry to say.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Yeah, maybe a pager, but yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Didn't have a pager when I was in first grade either,
though that was more of a third grade thing. Home
was to hit me, hit me on the two way
you know, which you've heard me go on this rant before.
But I knew people and then the two thousands that
had those two way pagers that were they're very cool.
It was text message before text message, except the only way.
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The only people you could talk to were the other
people that had two way pagers, so not a lot
of people had them, so like, the only person I
could hit up was and I didn't buy one because
I only knew one of the person that had one,
and maybe I wanted to talk to more people than
just him. Of course you know who it is, Cam.
And my friend Billy the Kid had one. Of course
he did. Of course he had one, and that was
that's his name, Billy the Kid, and he had to
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have a two way page. I don't know who he
was talking to. Because I didn't know anybody else who
had one. So but anyway, I guess I don't know.
I feel like now most classrooms have phones in them,
so I would agree though that they've got to be
distract if you're a teacher, Oh yes, God's got to
be distracting for every single kid to have a device.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Right, Like when was there not a band? Like I
had a band all the time I was in school.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
It wasn't an option, Like if you got they would
take your phone literally take away.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, if you're a teacher eight five five five nine
three five quickly, I would love to know if this
is an actual issue, because I get it. I mean,
if I'm a parent and I have a child, based
on some of the things that have been happening in
schools over the past decade, I would want to be
able to get to my whole a hold of my
child very quickly. That being said, I can also see
why I wouldn't want my kid to have one in
their pocket because they're going to be doing stuff other
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than learning.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Of course, we'll be on TikTok during class.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
No, it's hard because like I think about this all
the time for my kid, I'm like I don't know
at what age am I going to get her a phone?
You know, I know most of her little friends are
going to have them at a young age. It's just
the world we live in. But I don't like that.
I don't agree with it. But I know that I
don't want her to be like cast it out because
she don't got a phone, because I was that Kiden
in lighth grade. But I also don't I don't know,
want her to be having access to so much.
Speaker 6 (05:57):
A lot of kids now have Apple watches and not phones,
so I can like communicate with them, But you don't
have access to the Internet and all that craziness.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I like that, so that might be an option. Well,
how do you communicate with no access to the internet?
Was it, wife? I maybe, well yeah, I think browse,
yeah yeah, but it's connected to something, so people could hit.
Speaker 6 (06:17):
I just meant, like they can't go on YouTube and
see like a beheading.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh well that's nice.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
I mean whenever I look at me, like, I like
the bigger screen typically for my beheading. It's like I
prefer when I'm going to watch the beheading, I use them.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
We had no like like boundaries on the internet when
you're a little.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
I'm pretty sure there aren't any neut either. But yeah, yeah,
when I'm looking at typically, I like to use my
ad inch for that. I mean, I want to really,
I want to capture the moment so scary.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I mean, yes, I would imagine it was.
Speaker 5 (06:49):
Yeah, yeah, putty an apple was just wouldn't do it
for me with that, you know, come on, unlocked, come
on like you know, God, you know, I could look
at adult stuff on my phone, but I'm not watching
a movie on it.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
You know, if I'm watching a motion picture, we need
something bigger. But you know, in a pinch, you know,
it's fine. Oh my god, Kaylen. Nothing good can come
from the TikTok trend. And this is another reason why
I guess we don't need phones in the classroom. The
hashtag for this new trend is dropping things on my foot?
(07:21):
What how about we don't? How about we don't make
videos of you dropping things on your foot? A doctor
is having to warn people that a TikTok trend that's
gone viral under that hashtag is leading people disabled for life.
The trend involves people making videos of themselves dropping things
on their actual feet. They then give a rating of
how much pain the object that was dropped on their
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foot caused. One doctor says this trend, which is encouraging
people to drop sharp and increasingly heavy household objects on
their feet, is highly likely to result in foot injuries.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
So maybe not.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
And Ihop hopes to set a new Guinness World Record
for the most pancake served in eight hours to celebrate
National Pancake Days twentieth anniversary. They're having this in Santa Monica, California,
or at the Pier specifically on Saturday from nine to five.
They hope to serve twenty thousand pancakes and they're inviting
fans across La to take part in the festivities. There
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is a charitable angle for every pancake served during the
record attempt, I hop will donate one dollar Defeating America,
benefiting the LA Regional Food Bank and its efforts to
fight hunger in LA County. If you're unable to go
to California, National Pancake Day is on March fourth, and
locations throughout the nation will offer a free short stack
of pancakes from seven am to eight pm. Don't order
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an egg mill that'll cost you more. It's National Chocolate
Covered Nut Day and National Clam Chowder Day.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Michael Hi, Michael Hight.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
We know how camn feels about it, But how about
cell phones in school?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
So I used to be a feature grant that I
taught five year olds, so they don't really have the phones.
But I'm against the band I think, you know, teachers
have been having to you know, stop students from passing
notes all the time. And back when I was in school,
I had a razor, so I didn't have like internet
access and all that stuff. But to me, it just
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kind of feels like we're faulting the kids just for
the how phones have changed, you know, just because now
we have iPhones, it doesn't I don't think that it's
appropriate for teachers to now have band phones from schools.
I think it just falls on teachers to have to
be able to you know, monitor that as well as
you would like notes in a classroom or things like that.
(09:37):
I'm I'm on the side of like if I if
my son was in school and I couldn't reach him,
I'd be pretty pod. I would rather on my son
be able to have a phone and just let him know, like,
don't use it in school inappropriately.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
That's a valid argument, and thank you, Michael, have a
great day, thanks for listening. That's a valid argument about,
you know, wanting to get a hold of your kid
based on all the different things.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
But you know, kids will never know.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
You'll never know know what it's like to rip a
little piece of paper off the side and write and
write a note, or have to write in some form
of code or hieroglyphics, and then have to somehow pass
that to someone across the room not get caught, and
then receive a message back. I mean, these are the
kind of things that kids will never know. Kids will
never know what it's like to have to call a
girl as a boy. Kids will never know what it's
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like to have to call a girl's house and their
dad answers the phone, and you're got to navigate through
pops to get to the girl, you know, and dads
would be intentionally intimidating. Now they got the direct line,
they just call the cell phone, Dad's does an answer anymore.
Kids will never understand what that's like, the pressure. Hey Gina,
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hey can you hear me?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
I can? I can hear you?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
So you're a teacher and your antiphone, why.
Speaker 7 (10:48):
Even I mean First of all, they cheat all the time,
so like the smallest worksheet and they're just gonna look
up the answers and like not use their brains. But
what's really sad is if there's any downtime, instead of
talking to each other and interacting in like a natural way,
they're just all on their phone. That I want them
to like speak to each other and get to know
each other and like play a game, you know.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Kids will also never know, Gina, how you got to
be more creative and have some ingenuity win cheating.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Kids will never understand this exactly.
Speaker 7 (11:19):
But you know what, I just force them. I offer
them extra credit at the beginning of the year, and
if you're on your phone, I take the extra credit away.
So that seems to work. We're in no phone zone.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
There you go. Thank you, Gina, have a good day.
I love that.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Thanks to you guys.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
I'm fine with this. I'm fine with this.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Yeah, because again, I think most schools have now they
have phones in the classroom, and there are other things
that we also didn't have back in the day. I
don't think when my elementary school didn't have a landline
phone in the classroom.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
None of them did so.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I mean the phone, a cell phone would have been
helpful back then, but now I think there are other ways.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Hey, Julie, Yes, hi Julie, good morning.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
So phones in the classroom, a lot of people are
in favor of well, I guess, I guess some people
are in favor of a band. Most people are not, though,
because they want to get ahold of their kid all
the time.
Speaker 8 (12:05):
Right.
Speaker 9 (12:06):
I am a middle school teacher, and I am completely
against it. I agree with the other listeners of Interact
and all that stuff. Well, just the other week, I
was my students were working on a project, and I
found that one of my students was live streaming in
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my class. So I took your cell phone and was
going to turn it into the office. And the next
I talked to the mom. The mom was like, oh,
thank you so much for taking the phone. And then
the next day that mother stopped traffic morning car traffic
to demand a meeting about me, the teacher taking the phone,
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not her son live streaming in class.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Okay, wow, yeah, that's you're right.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
I mean, whether it's live stream or whether it's watching
YouTube videos, or cheating or or accessing stuff that you
wouldn't you know that no one's watching at home to
see if you're looking at or whatever. I can see why,
you know, having that little device. The other thing is
I used to lose stuff and break stuff in school
all the time, and like I didn't even get to
wear my nicest stuff to school either until I was
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older because I mess it up.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
And so giving my.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Kid a thousand dollars phone to put in their pocket
to carry around, I don't know about that.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Let's get them a jitterbut they.
Speaker 9 (13:28):
They can't even bring a pencil to my class. So
bring a phone out of a right, keep trying that.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
There you go, Thank you, Julie, have a good day. Yeah,
they begining like one of those old people phones where
you know, you can call like two numbers. I can
call home and I can call the hospital and that's it.
Speaker 10 (13:45):
And I don't know when I was in school, my
parents never wanted to talk to me like it was
you know, you're I'm at school there at work? Oh yeah,
So what do we need to be in constant communication about?
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Like if you need the kids?
Speaker 10 (13:56):
These kids need to feel the thrill of somebody coming
over to the intercom and saying, you know, Kiki, I
need you to come down to the office, and you
don't know why.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
The whole class is like, well, that was because you
were the ringleader of a girl gang, that's part of it.
Speaker 10 (14:08):
But I didn't have a phone, so I was able.
I was the leader of a movement with no phone.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Just because you were the Griselda Blanco of your middle
school moment with no phone.
Speaker 10 (14:19):
These kids need to know what it's like to write
a girl. Would you meet my girlfriend? Yes?
Speaker 8 (14:24):
Or no?
Speaker 2 (14:24):
You know the three old No. I agree. I agree.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
There's there's personal contact that the kids don't have to
have anymore, and I think that that they're they're not
as well off for it. You need to know what
it's like to have to have the courage to speak
to someone.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Justice for the teachers, like, honestly, I do feel really
bad for teacher.
Speaker 10 (14:42):
Yeah, you calling a meeting because your child was live
screaming or streaming in my class.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Oh you're right though, You're right in that when I
would use the phone to call home, it was either
because I forgot something and you were going to have
to drive up and give it to me, like a book,
and it was thirty minutes away from my house. So
if the phone, harang at home. My mom was going
to have to do something, come get me, cause I
was trying to say I was sick, because I usually wasn't,
but I was trying to go home, or I needed
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money for something. So you're right, those are the three
reasons that I would have been calling home. And I
don't think anybody wanted to hear him anyway. Yes, so yeah,
you know, how about like an I c B radio
if anyone knows what that is, break or breaker one niner,
you know what I mean. There's a smokey on my
tail and if you don't know that joke, and I'm
sorry for you. The Entertainment Report, next Fresh show, the.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
Fread Show is on, it's Stay or Go.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
So we called Melanie because she wrote us, We booked her,
We booked the lady who emailed us.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
We called her.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
A dude answered, yes, pretty sure, it's the dude we're
talking about right now. So let's just we're just gonna
I'm gonna tell you the story getting weird right like
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Want to tell him.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Hey, we're leut to talk about your you know, bedroom
prowess or lack thereof, But now we are so we
didn't tell him that. We should have been like, hey,
she wrote us this note about you, and she wanted
us to talk about you on the radio for millions
of people. But how about we just talk to you
about it instead?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Right? So, this is this scenario that she laid out
for us. A woman named Melanie who we now can't
get a hold of. She is married and apparently this
dude went on medication to help with anxiety and depression.
The meads are working for him, which is wonderful, but
they have lowered his intimacy drive drastically, and so we'll
(16:28):
leave it there. Anyone who's ever been on an antidepressant
knows this is a possible side effect. There are a
number of them. There can be issues with drive, there
can be issues with arousal. Is that a nice a
medical way of saying, because you know, I'm not currently licensed,
but we're working to get it back. But anyway, that's
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the issue, I guess. She said she's happy that he
feels better psychologically, but physical intimacy is extremely important to
her and she doesn't want to be in a relationship
without it. When she brings it up, her husband gets defensive,
and asks why she would want him off medication that
is helping him, even though he says hits the medication.
(17:10):
She can't help but feel like he is not attracted
to her anymore.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
What should she do?
Speaker 3 (17:16):
I can tell you this scenario back in the day
before I realized I maybe wasn't supposed to be taking
certain medicines and I stopped for different reasons. I can
relate to this because it does do a little number
on the drive. And as much as you'd show somebody like, look,
here are the actual side effects. Let's look at their website, like,
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this is real stuff here that happens when you take
certain It doesn't even have to be psychological medication. It
could be in a number of different medications. But you know,
medication can change people's what we'll call them sexual what's
the word. I'm trying to come up with a nice
way of saying it. It can change the way that
people perform in the bedroom and so. But it's easy
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to get inside your head about that, right and be like, well,
of course, uh, this this has to be about me.
You know, everybody else I've been with this is how
they act and this is what happens. But again, the
physiological results or repercussions or whatever you want to call
them of taking medicine. The side effects are real, and
so you know, you have to weigh in this case,
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this is helping him feel better as a human being
day in and day out, but it is affecting the
bedroom stuff and it's making her feel self conscious. I
might argue that while that sucks or doesn't, that's not
really fair for her to necessarily put that on him,
because he's saying, I'm taking this medicine, this is what's
doing it. This makes me feel better. Why are we
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making this about you? You know, why are we making
why do I have Why do I now have to
defend my attraction to you? Because I need to do
something that I think is better for my life. And
you know, he could probably go to the doctor and
see if the dosing is right, or see if there's
an alternative. Oftentimes you can offset one with another. I mean,
there are different things you can do, and maybe he's
done that, but I don't necessarily think it's fair that
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when he can. I mean, it's scientifically proven that these
are the effects that whatever kind of medicine. I think
there are other medicines that do this too. I don't
think it's just stuff for anxiety and depression. I think
other medicines can cause different kinds of side effects. It
could be detrimental to that part of your life. I
don't think it's fair for her to be like, well,
he doesn't think I'm attractive anymore, when that may have
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absolutely nothing there's no proof of that.
Speaker 10 (19:30):
Yeah, I can only speak for what I would do,
and I would not leave my husband over this at all.
Like I would be so proud of my husband for
figuring out what's going on with him or trying to
work through his issues getting medicated, like get it. I
would work with him through this entire process, let him
get comfortable with the meds and figure it out, and
then we can focus on getting our sex life back popping.
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Like most importantly for me in a relationship is my
partner's mental health. So I would sacrifice anything to know
that my partner is mentally feeling much better before I'm
worried about like why are you not trying to take
me down? You know, Like it's so much bigger than that.
So I can only say what I would do. I
would not leave my husband over this.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I feel like. That's what she's saying to him.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
Basically, though, is this makes me feel insecure, which I'm
sorry about, right, I don't. I'm sure he doesn't intend
for that.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
No, but you're trying to get healthy.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Essentially, I would rather, I'd almost rather that I feel
attractive and you not be comfortable in your everyday life.
That's whether she means to say that or not. That's
what she's saying essentially, is I feel insecure. You may
have a good reason for it. I don't really care.
I don't want to feel insecure, so I need you
back the way you were. And if that's not, if
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that doesn't, if your quality of life suffers from that,
then sorry, at least I feel wanted. I mean, I'm sorry,
but that's the way that comes off to me. And
it is unfortunate that he has these issues and that
the medicine is causing these issues to his libido. Thank
you for the people who texted that was the word
I was looking for. But yet i's a problem. I
realize that's a huge problem. But I think you have
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to ask yourself, what's a bigger problem my partner living
every day with crippling anxiety or ruminating or overthinking or
you know, I don't know whatever it is, or me
being reinforced that I'm actually attractive. I don't mean to
minimize it, but let's let's be honest to you. That's what
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we're saying.
Speaker 6 (21:24):
So is it like, I mean, I'm saying this as
someone who's on antidepressant.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
So obviously I am on his side.
Speaker 6 (21:28):
But is it like a wait and see, like do
we just wait for a while while you get stable
and then we try a different medication or is it
are we agreeing we're not really going to have that
intimacy ever.
Speaker 10 (21:39):
I say, wait and see, wait and see, and then
there's other options. Somebody on the text mentioned like there's
a lot of other things you can do that may
not you know, you can you can get freaky other ways, basically,
like you know, I don't want to name.
Speaker 7 (21:52):
All the way, all the way all the ways you
can get freaky.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I'd like to hear it. That's with a tangent, but
campy oil trim with me, because that's more importable.
Speaker 10 (22:10):
You know, like we could talk about other ways to
please me later once you get healthy.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Okay, yeah, and just quickly eight five five five three
five if you want to chime in on this, on
this situation, Yes.
Speaker 4 (22:20):
Paulina, I'm curious, like not even talking about the sex life,
but does the medication affect you in other ways, either
our our caller's boyfriend or like people who are on it,
like Kyln, Like, does it affect you, know the other ways?
Like when I was taking stuff for because I'm add
they were giving me something to take, right, and I
was just a full on zombie all day. Nothing to
do with my sex life, but I just didn't like
how I felt sleep.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
I mean, there's a ton of side effects sleeping, sweating, okay,
poor sleeping appetite. I mean, there's a million differences, and
unfortunately they don't all show up in everybody consistently, and
there's not there's not a clear path to to you know,
knowing what's going to happen, knowing what medicine is going
to do what, and then knowing how to upset it.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
It can be tricky. Yeah, it can be tricky, of course,
and it probably is.
Speaker 4 (23:04):
And I only suggest this if it's affecting his day
to day, right, maybe he's losing his personality or whatever
it might be, Right, I think that's a.
Speaker 6 (23:12):
Misconception that a lot of people think if you take antidepressants,
a lot of people think, oh, it's going to numb
you out. It's going to numb you out. And yes,
some of them can. Obviously, that would be the wrong medication.
They're wrong dosage. You know me, I am not numb,
I cry, I'm happy, I can get angry, like I have,
all the range of emotions. Absolutely, So if it's numbing
you out or making you a zombie like adderall for example,
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or whatever which is mine.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
You should switch medication. It shouldn't make you like that.
Speaker 3 (23:36):
Yeah, he probably needs to at least examine tweaking into
the dosage you're trying. I mean, is he that would
be my question. Is he trying different things? Because I'm sure,
And that's another thing that people don't seem to take
any consideration. I bet he don't like it either, right
of course.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
You know. Another issue that people have.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Hypothetically is that they are excited to be there there's
just no finish, And that throws people off too, because
it's like, oh, you know, I can't we can't get
to the end. And it's like, trust me, I would
love it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
I'm trying to get there now. I'm a people. Please.
They don't even know.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
I'm not saying like, I'm not saying this is easy
and it would mess with me too. But if I
love someone and I've seen the effects of whatever they're
dealing with, whatever their medical condition is, it doesn't have
to be psychological. And you're telling me this medicine makes
your life better, which I think will ultimately make my
life better, then I got to be more understanding than
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I want to be because it's not about me. And
I think once you start projecting, oh, I'm unattractive or
I'm not good in bed, or I'm not doing this stuff,
it's just so unfair because this is this isn't up
for interpretation. It's scientific, like, this is what the medicine does.
It's been proven.
Speaker 6 (24:52):
Yeah, I would like to tell her if I could
talk to her again, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
We can just call this guy and tell him.
Speaker 6 (25:00):
There is a mouth swab that they offer now that
shows you how you metabolize each medication, so it gives
you a green zone, a yellow zone, and a red zone.
Do not take a might work for you? And will
you can metabolize this? I did that it helped me
on my journey of knowing what works best for me,
so that's helpful.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
That's also an option I feel for both of them.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
I just think it's like, please, don't make this something
that it probably isn't.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Right making it about you sort of.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah, it's like, so now now I have to deal
with this and prove to you that I'm still attracted
to you even though I am and always have been,
or I have to just deal with my condition, whatever
it is, and then I guess you'll feel better. I
don't know about that. Hey, Elizabeth, Hi, Hi Elizabeth, Hey,
good morning. What do you want to say.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Mine?
Speaker 11 (25:47):
I'm totally anti farm so I don't like any of
the part of cicles for a period of reasons. And
also I'm like, that's the gramma of You're thirteen, so
I'm antey for my body is physically changing. And I
also had a relapse. Sublime to see Brendaitya of COVID
and my guy he kind of stopped wanting to touch
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me stuff. I thought it would be as well, but
he said, I didn't know how you were a pained.
You were having emultions and all that, but he didn't
want to lead you, but I didn't want to crush it.
And that was like a year ago, and it's like
in the last couple of months that it's the fact agreed.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
So I say, see, okay, so you're saying, let's see
how this, Let's just be patient and see over time
if things change or you know, make adjustments.
Speaker 11 (26:36):
If you love him, then understand that he's going to
do some things and not be so self censered about it.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Okay, thank you, Elizabeth, have a good day, and we
don't care. You can be one hundred as long as
you're part of the thirteen. It does it, but it all,
it all counts, and it all matters. Hi, Michael, Hey Michael,
So you can relate to this.
Speaker 8 (26:58):
I can. I'm being a a similar situation with my partner.
He's been on anxiety depression meds for quite a while,
and you know, it's hard because it's it's a no
win situation. You know, I think instinctually or everybody longs
(27:19):
to want to have that feelings. I can sympathize with
her because this is for me, has been going on
for quite some time, and I choose to stay. But
it's not an easy it's not an easy task to
stay because I say, because I love him and I
understand that it's not his fault. But if she chooses
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to stay, it's going to take a lot of work
to continue to stay.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
Yeah, I'm sure it's not easy, but I would encourage
her not to make this about her because it isn't
It probably isn't.
Speaker 8 (27:55):
I agree it's not about her, but you can't fight that.
That feeling of even if you take it as a
further just wanting to have, you know, more sex or
your sex drives, is obviously still normal and healthy. So
that that makes it very hard to kind of process everything.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Yeah, yeah, thank you, have a good dake God you called.
Speaker 10 (28:21):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Well, I'm not trying to be vague, but you know,
I'm a pilot and there's a whole list of things
we're not allowed to take as pilots. And I didn't
know that much younger in my life, and so I
don't anymore. But I may have and I have been
in relationships for people basically have said to me, stop
taking it because I need that.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Oh, and I can. I'll be honest with you.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
It was the end of the relationship when that happened,
because what you're saying to me is I don't care
about your quality of life. I need to feel wanted
more and you're not. And you're so not only are
you not fulfilling me, but I'm not concerned with your
well being. Is what the person saying to you, whether
they mean it or not. And again, I'm sorry that
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people feel that way when someone's not feeling well or
going through a bodily transition or a life transition, or
they're taking medicine and had side effects. That sucks. I'm sorry,
But isn't that sort of the nature of a relationship.
Is that if I'm working to try and fix it
and I am trying my best to make you feel wanted,
don't you want what's best for me?
Speaker 1 (29:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 10 (29:20):
Yeah, But I do think as partners we do have
to have a plan in place, because my feelings matter too.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
And I just I'm getting this from the text.
Speaker 10 (29:26):
Somebody said that they were in this situation and it's
been five years that they haven't really been intimate because
of the same reason, and she's like, well, how much
longer should I wait? That's the real thing, And as
a partner, you have to work together so you know,
put his mental health first right now, but you know,
come together for a game plan in the future to
kind of figure out how you can please your partner,
because five years.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Five years no intimacy. And by the way, I don't
know that we're talking about no intimacy. I hope. I mean,
I think we're talking about different intimacy or more limited
or some of the things we've talked about. No intimacy,
intimacy in five years.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
That's tough.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Yeah, that is, that's really different. You're gonna have to
I would agree. You got to figure out some kind
of work around. Hey Jamie, Hi, guys, Hi, good morning.
What do you want to say this to a woman
who we basically we wound up calling the guy that
we're talking about right now, and then we pretended that
we were a telemarketer and we starts speaking at less right,
And so basically, though, this guy is on some medication
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that's affecting his libido, and this woman's upset about it,
and she said, I don't feel as attractive anymore, even
though I know he's on the meds, And like, I
don't know what to do.
Speaker 12 (30:27):
What do you think, Well, I've been on anxiety medicine
for a long time, and this was an issue for
me to lower text drive, and of course it was
brought up and I was really offended and hurt, and
it was an issue for a while, and then thankfully
I switched medicine so I could get pregnant. And now
(30:51):
this medicine is the right one for me because everything
has returned to normal. But she definitely needs to give him,
like timed to figure that out and face to breathe
and just feel good for a while before this becomes
an issue that she would leave him over.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
Yeah, I agree, I agree. Thank you, Jamie, have a
great day. Thanks for listening too. Appreciate you sharing people
have texted. Birth control can do this too. I've actually
read about women changing birth control and becoming essentially resistant
to their partner, like all of a sudden, they don't
smell good or they don't like going off.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
It can do that too. Some of my friends have
experienced that.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
Like we're all of a sudden there, it's like they're
somehow revolted by the very same thing they were attracted
to prior and because of pheromones or hormones or something,
and it's like that's a problem, right, we got to
work through that somehow, But I mean to say, like, well,
you better take those hormones to make me feel I
mean again, five years, that's a long time. But from
my reaction to be initially, I don't care what's best
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for you or your body because I don't feel wanted.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
That's not the way to approach it.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I don't think, Hey, Cassandra, Hi, so you're coming at
this from the perspective of a mental health therapist.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
What do you think?
Speaker 11 (32:05):
Yeah, so I've actually worked with clients, and I have
parental experience. I used to be on anti anxiety medication
and depression medication before.
Speaker 8 (32:16):
I think she is.
Speaker 11 (32:17):
Being incredibly selfish in the situation, and I know that
sounds very harsh. However, I believe she needs to do
some self exploration as to like why this is making
her feel so insecure. And the beautiful thing about like
medication and therapy is that it could be done like
in tandem, so he could potentially get to the point
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like if he goes to therapy, he gets the coping
skills for his anxiety and depression, and he gets to
the point where I'm like where he's like, hey, like
I feel like I don't need to be on medication anymore,
there's very much a possibility, but that work needs to
be done prior to that happening. So that way he
has that foundation in place, he has all those tools
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in place to help him with his data day life.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Yeah, Cassandra, thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
Yeah, I love you too.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
Again, I don't mean to make it seem like her
needs don't matter, but again, I think when you from
personal experience, when you approach somebody with Okay, well, this
isn't working for me, even though it's best for you.
And we're talking about your health and your and your
quality of life. We're not talking about, uh, you know,
whether you cut your all your hair off or shaved
your beard off, or change your job or you know.
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We're not talking about things that are I'm not going
to call them trivial, but things that can be adjusted
or there's compromise. I mean, again, do you want me
to live this way forever? If I need this, or
do you want to or do you need me to
reinforce that? I like you, I'm with you, I want
to be here, I want to do those And I
think by by taking that perspective, you're also not giving
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any consideration to this person and how they probably feel
about that, because trust me, it's not fun. It's not
fun to do the deal and not get the deal
at the end the deal and then.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
Not the deal. Familiar with both deals. I want the deal,
you need the deal, the deal. How do you think
I feel? How are you getting the deal? That would
be that's torture.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
Like yeah, when I was like, you know, twenty and
a strong wind would come by and and it, you know,
was over, I really would have I would have dreamed
for that scenario.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
You're right over there. She's crying, get the deal man.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Well, no, I get the deal. This is this is
this is old news. The deal has been I got
the dough. I found the deal. No, I don't say
I found out I wasn't supposed to be doing that.
I'm not doing that, And I figured out other ways.
I did therapy and whatever else. Excuse me, professional coaching.
I mean, I go to professional coaching.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
You've got a lot of rules and regulations. I'm just
I don't know. I'm gonna. I'm just here so I
don't get fined.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
Let's see the entertainment report next in two minutes, Shelley,
if you want to take her on five hundred bucks?
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Is the price?
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Eight five five five three five Call now we'll play
next Fred Show
Fred's show is on Fred's Biggest Stories.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Of the Day.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
So I flew Delta for the first time. I'm going
to Salt Lake City. I've never flown Delta my whole life, well,
because I've never lived anywhere where you needed to fly
Delta or you really could. You know, Arizona, the Phoenix
is American, a US Air before that or whatever American,
and then a Dallas American for the most part, Charlotte
American for the most part.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I mean literally, I don't even know if they have
I don't.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Know if they have maybe two flights out of Phoenix
to Atlanta or something on Delta.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Do cities have specific airlines they kind.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
Of love, see, well, they have, they have big hubs
where like you know, for example, well like if you
live in Chicago, you go to Midway, you're basically only
flying Southwest out of Midway. Basically, yes, there's a couple
other airlines, but like you're talking on one or two
gates like Porter and a Velo, And I think there's
one Delta flight that goes to New York or something
back and forth all day. But whatever the case may be,
(00:56):
I've just never really had the occasion. But Salt Lake
City is a Delta hub, so I flew them. I
had a very nice experience. Some people last week didn't
have as nice as an experience, but they did walk
away and they're going to get thirty thousand dollars, which
is very nice, in addition to the being gazillions of
dollars in the lawsuit that they're going to be filing
that part two. However, ah Man another bad day for Delta.
(01:18):
A Delta flight bound for South Carolina was forced to
return to Atlanta on Monday win some haze filled the cabin,
just two days after a similar mishap diverted yet another
Delta flight in LA. They were in the air, ninety
nine passengers and crew on board about eight thirty in
the morning. The pilot turned the mowing around and landed
back at the Hartsfield Jackson International Airport. Everybody evacuated on
(01:39):
the slides, no reported injuries. Footage taken before the plane
return shows passengers covering their noses inside the hazy cabin.
The FAA will be investigating a growing number of US
restaurants are responding to the nationwide egg shortage by adding
a temporary surcharge to their egg based meals at some locations,
So Denny's is going to do this a fifty cent
(02:01):
surch charge. Costco and Trader Joe's are taking action as well,
imposing limits on how many eggs one customer can buy.
And this is all because the Avian flu has killed
more than one hundred and forty million egg laying birds
in the country Since twenty twenty two. At least eighteen
point nine million birds have been when is this cold
(02:22):
in the last in the past thirty days. It's a
a burge of dying all the time. That's very sad.
And I'm stuttering about it because I just don't have
enough egg intake in my life. I've just I fanned
them all I started. I bought chickens, and they're just
running around my house right now. I'm waiting for them
to lay their eggs. I'm told they just do that.
I don't know if I need to, Like, do I
need to talk to them about it? Or did I
doesn't anyone else need to be involved?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
I mean, do I need to get a coop?
Speaker 5 (02:45):
Right?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Do I need a coop? Do I almost said something?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
I mean I was Yeah, I almost said something I
shouldn't say, even though it was it's I'm referring to
the animal itself. Do I need males too? Because I
only bought feet, I only bought hens. I didn't buy
any roosters.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, that's a problem.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Clearly, I don't know what I'm talking about, but my
HOA is going to have a real problem with them.
Seven and ten Americans would support a cell phone ban
in schools.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
That's trending today.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
A new survey of two thousand American shows that only
twenty nine percent say that they would not support a
ban on cell phones in school. Seventy one percent are
in favor in some form. Fifty percent advocate for a
ban in elementary schools, lessening as people get older. The
biggest reason to support a ban is the worry over
them distracting in lessons and impacting education the phones. That
(03:32):
is followed by overall worry that children are on devices
too much. The biggest reason people wouldn't support it is
that parents skill they should be able to get a
hold of their child at all times. Yeah, I mean
we didn't have phones. No, we didn't have them. No
one had phones. Didn't when I was in elementary school. Well,
phones existed, but we didn't have like.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Your iPhones, do you have a buck? There was There
wasn't an.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
iPhone in nineteen ninety or whenever I was in elementary school.
They didn't exist that I'm sorry to say.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Yeah, maybe a pager, but yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Didn't have a pager when I was in first grade either,
though that was more of a third grade thing. Home
was to hit me, hit me on the two way
you know, which you've heard me go on this rant before.
But I knew people and then the two thousands that
had those two way pagers that were they're very cool.
It was text message before text message, except the only way.
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The only people you could talk to were the other
people that had two way pagers, so not a lot
of people had them, so like, the only person I
could hit up was and I didn't buy one because
I only knew one of the person that had one,
and maybe I wanted to talk to more people than
just him. Of course you know who it is, Cam.
And my friend Billy the Kid had one. Of course
he did. Of course he had one, and that was
that's his name, Billy the Kid, and he had to
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have a two way page. I don't know who he
was talking to. Because I didn't know anybody else who
had one. So but anyway, I guess I don't know.
I feel like now most classrooms have phones in them,
so I would agree though that they've got to be
distract if you're a teacher, Oh yes, God's got to
be distracting for every single kid to have a device.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Right, Like when was there not a band? Like I
had a band all the time I was in school.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
It wasn't an option, Like if you got they would
take your phone literally take away.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, if you're a teacher eight five five five nine
three five quickly, I would love to know if this
is an actual issue, because I get it. I mean,
if I'm a parent and I have a child, based
on some of the things that have been happening in
schools over the past decade, I would want to be
able to get to my whole a hold of my
child very quickly. That being said, I can also see
why I wouldn't want my kid to have one in
their pocket because they're going to be doing stuff other
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than learning.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Of course, we'll be on TikTok during class.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
No, it's hard because like I think about this all
the time for my kid, I'm like I don't know
at what age am I going to get her a phone?
You know, I know most of her little friends are
going to have them at a young age. It's just
the world we live in. But I don't like that.
I don't agree with it. But I know that I
don't want her to be like cast it out because
she don't got a phone, because I was that Kiden
in lighth grade. But I also don't I don't know,
want her to be having access to so much.
Speaker 6 (05:57):
A lot of kids now have Apple watches and not phones,
so I can like communicate with them, But you don't
have access to the Internet and all that craziness.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I like that, so that might be an option. Well,
how do you communicate with no access to the internet?
Was it, wife? I maybe, well yeah, I think browse,
yeah yeah, but it's connected to something, so people could hit.
Speaker 6 (06:17):
I just meant, like they can't go on YouTube and
see like a beheading.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh well that's nice.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
I mean whenever I look at me, like, I like
the bigger screen typically for my beheading. It's like I
prefer when I'm going to watch the beheading, I use them.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
We had no like like boundaries on the internet when
you're a little.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
I'm pretty sure there aren't any neut either. But yeah, yeah,
when I'm looking at typically, I like to use my
ad inch for that. I mean, I want to really,
I want to capture the moment so scary.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I mean, yes, I would imagine it was.
Speaker 5 (06:49):
Yeah, yeah, putty an apple was just wouldn't do it
for me with that, you know, come on, unlocked, come
on like you know, God, you know, I could look
at adult stuff on my phone, but I'm not watching
a movie on it.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
You know, if I'm watching a motion picture, we need
something bigger. But you know, in a pinch, you know,
it's fine. Oh my god, Kaylen. Nothing good can come
from the TikTok trend. And this is another reason why
I guess we don't need phones in the classroom. The
hashtag for this new trend is dropping things on my foot?
(07:21):
What how about we don't? How about we don't make
videos of you dropping things on your foot? A doctor
is having to warn people that a TikTok trend that's
gone viral under that hashtag is leading people disabled for life.
The trend involves people making videos of themselves dropping things
on their actual feet. They then give a rating of
how much pain the object that was dropped on their
(07:41):
foot caused. One doctor says this trend, which is encouraging
people to drop sharp and increasingly heavy household objects on
their feet, is highly likely to result in foot injuries.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
So maybe not.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
And Ihop hopes to set a new Guinness World Record
for the most pancake served in eight hours to celebrate
National Pancake Days twentieth anniversary. They're having this in Santa Monica, California,
or at the Pier specifically on Saturday from nine to five.
They hope to serve twenty thousand pancakes and they're inviting
fans across La to take part in the festivities. There
(08:17):
is a charitable angle for every pancake served during the
record attempt, I hop will donate one dollar Defeating America,
benefiting the LA Regional Food Bank and its efforts to
fight hunger in LA County. If you're unable to go
to California, National Pancake Day is on March fourth, and
locations throughout the nation will offer a free short stack
of pancakes from seven am to eight pm. Don't order
(08:39):
an egg mill that'll cost you more. It's National Chocolate
Covered Nut Day and National Clam Chowder Day.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Michael Hi, Michael Hight.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
We know how camn feels about it, But how about
cell phones in school?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
So I used to be a feature grant that I
taught five year olds, so they don't really have the phones.
But I'm against the band I think, you know, teachers
have been having to you know, stop students from passing
notes all the time. And back when I was in school,
I had a razor, so I didn't have like internet
access and all that stuff. But to me, it just
(09:15):
kind of feels like we're faulting the kids just for
the how phones have changed, you know, just because now
we have iPhones, it doesn't I don't think that it's
appropriate for teachers to now have band phones from schools.
I think it just falls on teachers to have to
be able to you know, monitor that as well as
you would like notes in a classroom or things like that.
(09:37):
I'm I'm on the side of like if I if
my son was in school and I couldn't reach him,
I'd be pretty pod. I would rather on my son
be able to have a phone and just let him know, like,
don't use it in school inappropriately.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
That's a valid argument, and thank you, Michael, have a
great day, thanks for listening. That's a valid argument about,
you know, wanting to get a hold of your kid
based on all the different things.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
But you know, kids will never know.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
You'll never know know what it's like to rip a
little piece of paper off the side and write and
write a note, or have to write in some form
of code or hieroglyphics, and then have to somehow pass
that to someone across the room not get caught, and
then receive a message back. I mean, these are the
kind of things that kids will never know. Kids will
never know what it's like to have to call a
girl as a boy. Kids will never know what it's
(10:21):
like to have to call a girl's house and their
dad answers the phone, and you're got to navigate through
pops to get to the girl, you know, and dads
would be intentionally intimidating. Now they got the direct line,
they just call the cell phone, Dad's does an answer anymore.
Kids will never understand what that's like, the pressure. Hey Gina,
(10:42):
hey can you hear me?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
I can? I can hear you?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
So you're a teacher and your antiphone, why.
Speaker 7 (10:48):
Even I mean First of all, they cheat all the time,
so like the smallest worksheet and they're just gonna look
up the answers and like not use their brains. But
what's really sad is if there's any downtime, instead of
talking to each other and interacting in like a natural way,
they're just all on their phone. That I want them
to like speak to each other and get to know
each other and like play a game, you know.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Kids will also never know, Gina, how you got to
be more creative and have some ingenuity win cheating.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Kids will never understand this exactly.
Speaker 7 (11:19):
But you know what, I just force them. I offer
them extra credit at the beginning of the year, and
if you're on your phone, I take the extra credit away.
So that seems to work. We're in no phone zone.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
There you go. Thank you, Gina, have a good day.
I love that.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Thanks to you guys.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
I'm fine with this. I'm fine with this.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Yeah, because again, I think most schools have now they
have phones in the classroom, and there are other things
that we also didn't have back in the day. I
don't think when my elementary school didn't have a landline
phone in the classroom.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
None of them did so.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I mean the phone, a cell phone would have been
helpful back then, but now I think there are other ways.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Hey, Julie, Yes, hi Julie, good morning.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
So phones in the classroom, a lot of people are
in favor of well, I guess, I guess some people
are in favor of a band. Most people are not, though,
because they want to get ahold of their kid all
the time.
Speaker 8 (12:05):
Right.
Speaker 9 (12:06):
I am a middle school teacher, and I am completely
against it. I agree with the other listeners of Interact
and all that stuff. Well, just the other week, I
was my students were working on a project, and I
found that one of my students was live streaming in
(12:27):
my class. So I took your cell phone and was
going to turn it into the office. And the next
I talked to the mom. The mom was like, oh,
thank you so much for taking the phone. And then
the next day that mother stopped traffic morning car traffic
to demand a meeting about me, the teacher taking the phone,
(12:51):
not her son live streaming in class.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Okay, wow, yeah, that's you're right.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
I mean, whether it's live stream or whether it's watching
YouTube videos, or cheating or or accessing stuff that you
wouldn't you know that no one's watching at home to
see if you're looking at or whatever. I can see why,
you know, having that little device. The other thing is
I used to lose stuff and break stuff in school
all the time, and like I didn't even get to
wear my nicest stuff to school either until I was
(13:20):
older because I mess it up.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
And so giving my.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Kid a thousand dollars phone to put in their pocket
to carry around, I don't know about that.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Let's get them a jitterbut they.
Speaker 9 (13:28):
They can't even bring a pencil to my class. So
bring a phone out of a right, keep trying that.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
There you go, Thank you, Julie, have a good day. Yeah,
they begining like one of those old people phones where
you know, you can call like two numbers. I can
call home and I can call the hospital and that's it.
Speaker 10 (13:45):
And I don't know when I was in school, my
parents never wanted to talk to me like it was
you know, you're I'm at school there at work? Oh yeah,
So what do we need to be in constant communication about?
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Like if you need the kids?
Speaker 10 (13:56):
These kids need to feel the thrill of somebody coming
over to the intercom and saying, you know, Kiki, I
need you to come down to the office, and you
don't know why.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
The whole class is like, well, that was because you
were the ringleader of a girl gang, that's part of it.
Speaker 10 (14:08):
But I didn't have a phone, so I was able.
I was the leader of a movement with no phone.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Just because you were the Griselda Blanco of your middle
school moment with no phone.
Speaker 10 (14:19):
These kids need to know what it's like to write
a girl. Would you meet my girlfriend? Yes?
Speaker 8 (14:24):
Or no?
Speaker 2 (14:24):
You know the three old No. I agree. I agree.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
There's there's personal contact that the kids don't have to
have anymore, and I think that that they're they're not
as well off for it. You need to know what
it's like to have to have the courage to speak
to someone.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Justice for the teachers, like, honestly, I do feel really
bad for teacher.
Speaker 10 (14:42):
Yeah, you calling a meeting because your child was live
screaming or streaming in my class.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Oh you're right though, You're right in that when I
would use the phone to call home, it was either
because I forgot something and you were going to have
to drive up and give it to me, like a book,
and it was thirty minutes away from my house. So
if the phone, harang at home. My mom was going
to have to do something, come get me, cause I
was trying to say I was sick, because I usually wasn't,
but I was trying to go home, or I needed
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money for something. So you're right, those are the three
reasons that I would have been calling home. And I
don't think anybody wanted to hear him anyway. Yes, so yeah,
you know, how about like an I c B radio
if anyone knows what that is, break or breaker one niner,
you know what I mean. There's a smokey on my
tail and if you don't know that joke, and I'm
sorry for you. The Entertainment Report, next Fresh show, the.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
Fread Show is on, it's Stay or Go.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
So we called Melanie because she wrote us, We booked her,
We booked the lady who emailed us.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
We called her.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
A dude answered, yes, pretty sure, it's the dude we're
talking about right now. So let's just we're just gonna
I'm gonna tell you the story getting weird right like
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Want to tell him.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Hey, we're leut to talk about your you know, bedroom
prowess or lack thereof, But now we are so we
didn't tell him that. We should have been like, hey,
she wrote us this note about you, and she wanted
us to talk about you on the radio for millions
of people. But how about we just talk to you
about it instead?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Right? So, this is this scenario that she laid out
for us. A woman named Melanie who we now can't
get a hold of. She is married and apparently this
dude went on medication to help with anxiety and depression.
The meads are working for him, which is wonderful, but
they have lowered his intimacy drive drastically, and so we'll
(16:28):
leave it there. Anyone who's ever been on an antidepressant
knows this is a possible side effect. There are a
number of them. There can be issues with drive, there
can be issues with arousal. Is that a nice a
medical way of saying, because you know, I'm not currently licensed,
but we're working to get it back. But anyway, that's
(16:49):
the issue, I guess. She said she's happy that he
feels better psychologically, but physical intimacy is extremely important to
her and she doesn't want to be in a relationship
without it. When she brings it up, her husband gets defensive,
and asks why she would want him off medication that
is helping him, even though he says hits the medication.
(17:10):
She can't help but feel like he is not attracted
to her anymore.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
What should she do?
Speaker 3 (17:16):
I can tell you this scenario back in the day
before I realized I maybe wasn't supposed to be taking
certain medicines and I stopped for different reasons. I can
relate to this because it does do a little number
on the drive. And as much as you'd show somebody like, look,
here are the actual side effects. Let's look at their website, like,
(17:37):
this is real stuff here that happens when you take
certain It doesn't even have to be psychological medication. It
could be in a number of different medications. But you know,
medication can change people's what we'll call them sexual what's
the word. I'm trying to come up with a nice
way of saying it. It can change the way that
people perform in the bedroom and so. But it's easy
(18:00):
to get inside your head about that, right and be like, well,
of course, uh, this this has to be about me.
You know, everybody else I've been with this is how
they act and this is what happens. But again, the
physiological results or repercussions or whatever you want to call
them of taking medicine. The side effects are real, and
so you know, you have to weigh in this case,
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this is helping him feel better as a human being
day in and day out, but it is affecting the
bedroom stuff and it's making her feel self conscious. I
might argue that while that sucks or doesn't, that's not
really fair for her to necessarily put that on him,
because he's saying, I'm taking this medicine, this is what's
doing it. This makes me feel better. Why are we
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making this about you? You know, why are we making
why do I have Why do I now have to
defend my attraction to you? Because I need to do
something that I think is better for my life. And
you know, he could probably go to the doctor and
see if the dosing is right, or see if there's
an alternative. Oftentimes you can offset one with another. I mean,
there are different things you can do, and maybe he's
done that, but I don't necessarily think it's fair that
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when he can. I mean, it's scientifically proven that these
are the effects that whatever kind of medicine. I think
there are other medicines that do this too. I don't
think it's just stuff for anxiety and depression. I think
other medicines can cause different kinds of side effects. It
could be detrimental to that part of your life. I
don't think it's fair for her to be like, well,
he doesn't think I'm attractive anymore, when that may have
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absolutely nothing there's no proof of that.
Speaker 10 (19:30):
Yeah, I can only speak for what I would do,
and I would not leave my husband over this at all.
Like I would be so proud of my husband for
figuring out what's going on with him or trying to
work through his issues getting medicated, like get it. I
would work with him through this entire process, let him
get comfortable with the meds and figure it out, and
then we can focus on getting our sex life back popping.
(19:52):
Like most importantly for me in a relationship is my
partner's mental health. So I would sacrifice anything to know
that my partner is mentally feeling much better before I'm
worried about like why are you not trying to take
me down? You know, Like it's so much bigger than that.
So I can only say what I would do. I
would not leave my husband over this.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I feel like. That's what she's saying to him.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
Basically, though, is this makes me feel insecure, which I'm
sorry about, right, I don't. I'm sure he doesn't intend
for that.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
No, but you're trying to get healthy.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Essentially, I would rather, I'd almost rather that I feel
attractive and you not be comfortable in your everyday life.
That's whether she means to say that or not. That's
what she's saying essentially, is I feel insecure. You may
have a good reason for it. I don't really care.
I don't want to feel insecure, so I need you
back the way you were. And if that's not, if
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that doesn't, if your quality of life suffers from that,
then sorry, at least I feel wanted. I mean, I'm sorry,
but that's the way that comes off to me. And
it is unfortunate that he has these issues and that
the medicine is causing these issues to his libido. Thank
you for the people who texted that was the word
I was looking for. But yet i's a problem. I
realize that's a huge problem. But I think you have
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to ask yourself, what's a bigger problem my partner living
every day with crippling anxiety or ruminating or overthinking or
you know, I don't know whatever it is, or me
being reinforced that I'm actually attractive. I don't mean to
minimize it, but let's let's be honest to you. That's what
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we're saying.
Speaker 6 (21:24):
So is it like, I mean, I'm saying this as
someone who's on antidepressant.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
So obviously I am on his side.
Speaker 6 (21:28):
But is it like a wait and see, like do
we just wait for a while while you get stable
and then we try a different medication or is it
are we agreeing we're not really going to have that
intimacy ever.
Speaker 10 (21:39):
I say, wait and see, wait and see, and then
there's other options. Somebody on the text mentioned like there's
a lot of other things you can do that may
not you know, you can you can get freaky other ways, basically,
like you know, I don't want to name.
Speaker 7 (21:52):
All the way, all the way all the ways you
can get freaky.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I'd like to hear it. That's with a tangent, but
campy oil trim with me, because that's more importable.
Speaker 10 (22:10):
You know, like we could talk about other ways to
please me later once you get healthy.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Okay, yeah, and just quickly eight five five five three
five if you want to chime in on this, on
this situation, Yes.
Speaker 4 (22:20):
Paulina, I'm curious, like not even talking about the sex life,
but does the medication affect you in other ways, either
our our caller's boyfriend or like people who are on it,
like Kyln, Like, does it affect you, know the other ways?
Like when I was taking stuff for because I'm add
they were giving me something to take, right, and I
was just a full on zombie all day. Nothing to
do with my sex life, but I just didn't like
how I felt sleep.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
I mean, there's a ton of side effects sleeping, sweating, okay,
poor sleeping appetite. I mean, there's a million differences, and
unfortunately they don't all show up in everybody consistently, and
there's not there's not a clear path to to you know,
knowing what's going to happen, knowing what medicine is going
to do what, and then knowing how to upset it.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
It can be tricky. Yeah, it can be tricky, of course,
and it probably is.
Speaker 4 (23:04):
And I only suggest this if it's affecting his day
to day, right, maybe he's losing his personality or whatever
it might be, Right, I think that's a.
Speaker 6 (23:12):
Misconception that a lot of people think if you take antidepressants,
a lot of people think, oh, it's going to numb
you out. It's going to numb you out. And yes,
some of them can. Obviously, that would be the wrong medication.
They're wrong dosage. You know me, I am not numb,
I cry, I'm happy, I can get angry, like I have,
all the range of emotions. Absolutely, So if it's numbing
you out or making you a zombie like adderall for example,
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or whatever which is mine.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
You should switch medication. It shouldn't make you like that.
Speaker 3 (23:36):
Yeah, he probably needs to at least examine tweaking into
the dosage you're trying. I mean, is he that would
be my question. Is he trying different things? Because I'm sure,
And that's another thing that people don't seem to take
any consideration. I bet he don't like it either, right
of course.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
You know. Another issue that people have.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Hypothetically is that they are excited to be there there's
just no finish, And that throws people off too, because
it's like, oh, you know, I can't we can't get
to the end. And it's like, trust me, I would
love it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
I'm trying to get there now. I'm a people. Please.
They don't even know.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
I'm not saying like, I'm not saying this is easy
and it would mess with me too. But if I
love someone and I've seen the effects of whatever they're
dealing with, whatever their medical condition is, it doesn't have
to be psychological. And you're telling me this medicine makes
your life better, which I think will ultimately make my
life better, then I got to be more understanding than
(24:38):
I want to be because it's not about me. And
I think once you start projecting, oh, I'm unattractive or
I'm not good in bed, or I'm not doing this stuff,
it's just so unfair because this is this isn't up
for interpretation. It's scientific, like, this is what the medicine does.
It's been proven.
Speaker 6 (24:52):
Yeah, I would like to tell her if I could
talk to her again, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
We can just call this guy and tell him.
Speaker 6 (25:00):
There is a mouth swab that they offer now that
shows you how you metabolize each medication, so it gives
you a green zone, a yellow zone, and a red zone.
Do not take a might work for you? And will
you can metabolize this? I did that it helped me
on my journey of knowing what works best for me,
so that's helpful.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
That's also an option I feel for both of them.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
I just think it's like, please, don't make this something
that it probably isn't.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Right making it about you sort of.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah, it's like, so now now I have to deal
with this and prove to you that I'm still attracted
to you even though I am and always have been,
or I have to just deal with my condition, whatever
it is, and then I guess you'll feel better. I
don't know about that. Hey, Elizabeth, Hi, Hi Elizabeth, Hey,
good morning. What do you want to say.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Mine?
Speaker 11 (25:47):
I'm totally anti farm so I don't like any of
the part of cicles for a period of reasons. And
also I'm like, that's the gramma of You're thirteen, so
I'm antey for my body is physically changing. And I
also had a relapse. Sublime to see Brendaitya of COVID
and my guy he kind of stopped wanting to touch
(26:08):
me stuff. I thought it would be as well, but
he said, I didn't know how you were a pained.
You were having emultions and all that, but he didn't
want to lead you, but I didn't want to crush it.
And that was like a year ago, and it's like
in the last couple of months that it's the fact agreed.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
So I say, see, okay, so you're saying, let's see
how this, Let's just be patient and see over time
if things change or you know, make adjustments.
Speaker 11 (26:36):
If you love him, then understand that he's going to
do some things and not be so self censered about it.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Okay, thank you, Elizabeth, have a good day, and we
don't care. You can be one hundred as long as
you're part of the thirteen. It does it, but it all,
it all counts, and it all matters. Hi, Michael, Hey Michael,
So you can relate to this.
Speaker 8 (26:58):
I can. I'm being a a similar situation with my partner.
He's been on anxiety depression meds for quite a while,
and you know, it's hard because it's it's a no
win situation. You know, I think instinctually or everybody longs
(27:19):
to want to have that feelings. I can sympathize with
her because this is for me, has been going on
for quite some time, and I choose to stay. But
it's not an easy it's not an easy task to
stay because I say, because I love him and I
understand that it's not his fault. But if she chooses
(27:40):
to stay, it's going to take a lot of work
to continue to stay.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
Yeah, I'm sure it's not easy, but I would encourage
her not to make this about her because it isn't
It probably isn't.
Speaker 8 (27:55):
I agree it's not about her, but you can't fight that.
That feeling of even if you take it as a
further just wanting to have, you know, more sex or
your sex drives, is obviously still normal and healthy. So
that that makes it very hard to kind of process everything.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Yeah, yeah, thank you, have a good dake God you called.
Speaker 10 (28:21):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Well, I'm not trying to be vague, but you know,
I'm a pilot and there's a whole list of things
we're not allowed to take as pilots. And I didn't
know that much younger in my life, and so I
don't anymore. But I may have and I have been
in relationships for people basically have said to me, stop
taking it because I need that.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Oh, and I can. I'll be honest with you.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
It was the end of the relationship when that happened,
because what you're saying to me is I don't care
about your quality of life. I need to feel wanted
more and you're not. And you're so not only are
you not fulfilling me, but I'm not concerned with your
well being. Is what the person saying to you, whether
they mean it or not. And again, I'm sorry that
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people feel that way when someone's not feeling well or
going through a bodily transition or a life transition, or
they're taking medicine and had side effects. That sucks. I'm sorry,
But isn't that sort of the nature of a relationship.
Is that if I'm working to try and fix it
and I am trying my best to make you feel wanted,
don't you want what's best for me?
Speaker 1 (29:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 10 (29:20):
Yeah, But I do think as partners we do have
to have a plan in place, because my feelings matter too.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
And I just I'm getting this from the text.
Speaker 10 (29:26):
Somebody said that they were in this situation and it's
been five years that they haven't really been intimate because
of the same reason, and she's like, well, how much
longer should I wait? That's the real thing, And as
a partner, you have to work together so you know,
put his mental health first right now, but you know,
come together for a game plan in the future to
kind of figure out how you can please your partner,
because five years.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Five years no intimacy. And by the way, I don't
know that we're talking about no intimacy. I hope. I mean,
I think we're talking about different intimacy or more limited
or some of the things we've talked about. No intimacy,
intimacy in five years.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
That's tough.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Yeah, that is, that's really different. You're gonna have to
I would agree. You got to figure out some kind
of work around. Hey Jamie, Hi, guys, Hi, good morning.
What do you want to say this to a woman
who we basically we wound up calling the guy that
we're talking about right now, and then we pretended that
we were a telemarketer and we starts speaking at less right,
And so basically, though, this guy is on some medication
(30:20):
that's affecting his libido, and this woman's upset about it,
and she said, I don't feel as attractive anymore, even
though I know he's on the meds, And like, I
don't know what to do.
Speaker 12 (30:27):
What do you think, Well, I've been on anxiety medicine
for a long time, and this was an issue for
me to lower text drive, and of course it was
brought up and I was really offended and hurt, and
it was an issue for a while, and then thankfully
I switched medicine so I could get pregnant. And now
(30:51):
this medicine is the right one for me because everything
has returned to normal. But she definitely needs to give him,
like timed to figure that out and face to breathe
and just feel good for a while before this becomes
an issue that she would leave him over.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
Yeah, I agree, I agree. Thank you, Jamie, have a
great day. Thanks for listening too. Appreciate you sharing people
have texted. Birth control can do this too. I've actually
read about women changing birth control and becoming essentially resistant
to their partner, like all of a sudden, they don't
smell good or they don't like going off.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
It can do that too. Some of my friends have
experienced that.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
Like we're all of a sudden there, it's like they're
somehow revolted by the very same thing they were attracted
to prior and because of pheromones or hormones or something,
and it's like that's a problem, right, we got to
work through that somehow, But I mean to say, like, well,
you better take those hormones to make me feel I
mean again, five years, that's a long time. But from
my reaction to be initially, I don't care what's best
(31:52):
for you or your body because I don't feel wanted.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
That's not the way to approach it.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I don't think, Hey, Cassandra, Hi, so you're coming at
this from the perspective of a mental health therapist.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
What do you think?
Speaker 11 (32:05):
Yeah, so I've actually worked with clients, and I have
parental experience. I used to be on anti anxiety medication
and depression medication before.
Speaker 8 (32:16):
I think she is.
Speaker 11 (32:17):
Being incredibly selfish in the situation, and I know that
sounds very harsh. However, I believe she needs to do
some self exploration as to like why this is making
her feel so insecure. And the beautiful thing about like
medication and therapy is that it could be done like
in tandem, so he could potentially get to the point
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like if he goes to therapy, he gets the coping
skills for his anxiety and depression, and he gets to
the point where I'm like where he's like, hey, like
I feel like I don't need to be on medication anymore,
there's very much a possibility, but that work needs to
be done prior to that happening. So that way he
has that foundation in place, he has all those tools
(32:57):
in place to help him with his data day life.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Yeah, Cassandra, thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
Yeah, I love you too.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
Again, I don't mean to make it seem like her
needs don't matter, but again, I think when you from
personal experience, when you approach somebody with Okay, well, this
isn't working for me, even though it's best for you.
And we're talking about your health and your and your
quality of life. We're not talking about, uh, you know,
whether you cut your all your hair off or shaved
your beard off, or change your job or you know.
(33:29):
We're not talking about things that are I'm not going
to call them trivial, but things that can be adjusted
or there's compromise. I mean, again, do you want me
to live this way forever? If I need this, or
do you want to or do you need me to
reinforce that? I like you, I'm with you, I want
to be here, I want to do those And I
think by by taking that perspective, you're also not giving
(33:51):
any consideration to this person and how they probably feel
about that, because trust me, it's not fun. It's not
fun to do the deal and not get the deal
at the end the deal and then.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
Not the deal. Familiar with both deals. I want the deal,
you need the deal, the deal. How do you think
I feel? How are you getting the deal? That would
be that's torture.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
Like yeah, when I was like, you know, twenty and
a strong wind would come by and and it, you know,
was over, I really would have I would have dreamed
for that scenario.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
You're right over there. She's crying, get the deal man.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Well, no, I get the deal. This is this is
this is old news. The deal has been I got
the dough. I found the deal. No, I don't say
I found out I wasn't supposed to be doing that.
I'm not doing that, And I figured out other ways.
I did therapy and whatever else. Excuse me, professional coaching.
I mean, I go to professional coaching.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
You've got a lot of rules and regulations. I'm just
I don't know. I'm gonna. I'm just here so I
don't get fined.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
Let's see the entertainment report next in two minutes, Shelley,
if you want to take her on five hundred bucks?
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Is the price?
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Eight five five five three five Call now we'll play
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