May 13, 2025 • 28 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Fred's Show is on Fred's Biggest Stories of the Day.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
If someone texted it, we should look up bed parties
for college. It's madness. Oh I'm assuming they tuned in
a little late. But that's how that all started with
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to be a fire hazard, that pyrotechnics. Bed parties, you
know what all started with, Like, Oh my gosh, honey,
you got into college and it was like a pillow
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on the bed, exciting, you know, and then and now
it's who knows, It's like a new house. You get
a new house for the bed in it, and it's, oh,
you're going to Alabama, congratulations, you know, the biggest.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Stories of the day.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Ticketmaster has ruled out it's new all in pricing initiative,
and that means that you'll now see the full ticket
price upfront, including all the pesky service fees before you
hit the checkout, but no more surprises at the end.
This change comes change comes in response to the Federal
Trade Commissions new regulations banning hidden junk fees, aiming to
make pricing more transparent across various industries. While this movie
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is forward, it's worth, noting that local Texas and delivery
fees will still appear at checkouts. So it's like all
the tickets tw hundred bucks, and he clicked it's like
seven hundred. Like wait, where did all this come from?
It's like how hotels that have become advertised it. You know,
I don't want to two hundred bucks a night or
whatever it is, and then you're like, oh, okay, cool,
and then by the time you check out, it's eight
hundred bucks. I didn't go to the gym. Do I
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look like somebody who went to the gym while I
was here? Like I stuffed my face the entire time.
You guys know that I've been skeptical. I'm not currently
medically licensed. We're going to get it back, but you
know that I've been skeptical of of OZEMPK and these
weight loss drugs that people are taking it. And look,
if you need it for whatever health reason, and your
doctor says you should have it, then you should have it.
(01:40):
What do I know? Don't take medical advice from me.
But for some people that are taking it because it
helps them lose weight, and maybe they have other means
that they could lose weight, they just don't want to
do it. I'm still convinced, like, are you sure you
want to do that? Because you might grow a tail.
And it turns out there are now side effects that
people are talking about, lots of them. A new side
effect is done ohmic mouth. It's making the rounds, especially
(02:02):
among some celebrities. This condition involves rapid facial fat loss,
leading to sagging skin and pronounced wrinkles around the mouth,
giving an unexpectedly aged appearance.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
And then there's thosempic tongue.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Well.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Doctor's now warning about how your taste in food could
also dramatically shift. It's not just about feeling less hungry.
New York based obesity specialist doctor Daniel Rosen has seen
avid meat eaters go off of steak, sausages and other
favorite cuts because they report a metallic taste.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
So you might lose weight.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
But you've got to be aware about all the potential
side effects and then consult with a healthcare professional before
starting any kind of new medication.
Speaker 5 (02:40):
Okay, I still don't see the issue as far. I
don't well think about it. Okay, if that medication can.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Help me not eat steak sausages and I don't know
pastries I'm okay with it. And the Olympic face thing, yeah,
it probably sucks because you look like, you know, eighty
when you're what forty? But I would rather have that
somebody with a very large face with my cheeks. I
would so much rather someone be like, wow, look at
that face.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
If you need the.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Medicine, and this is the side effect, and this is
just the way that you're going to be healthier, and
this is the way you're gonna lose weight. I mean,
there are a lot of examples and amazing, but if
you don't need it, then why would you want things
to start tasting bad? And why do they taste bad?
Like what is going on inside of me that? You
know what I mean?
Speaker 7 (03:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
How much to eat fewer sausages, you know, but they
still taste good when I would like to have a sausage.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
That's what I'm saying. That's tempting the sausage.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Well, I don't know. I'm skeptical. I'm skeptic.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I'm skeptical, and I for no reason, but I'm skeptical
of anything that seems too easy. When it seems too easy,
I'm like, now hold on a minute, yeah again, don't
ap me I'm not talking about the people who need
it for health reasons. I'm talking about the people who
need it for vanity reasons. The vanity thing correct. The
you Go, once considered the worst car in history, is
making a comeback. A German professor now leads the Yugo
brand and plans to revive it where they drift up
(03:52):
a prototype by twenty twenty seven. So if it's the
worst car ever, why we're bringing it back. It was
made in Yugoslavia, It died out nearly two years ago,
and it was considered one of the worst cards due
to its poor build quality, reliability issues, and questionable safety standards.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
They promise that the.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Subcompact hatchback will be true to the band, the brand's
budget minded buyer, So we can have a you Go. Now,
what would you say is the optimal number of beers
to drink in one sitting?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
Because this story has been on every website this morning.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I didn't eve think I was going to do it
until I saw it for the fourth time, and someone's
taking it upon themselves to figure out the optimal number
of beers. I would think that this would vary depending
on size and the kind of beer. You're drinking and
all kinds of different stuff. But the perfect number of
beers in one.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
Sitting optimal being just for the best feeling.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Yeah, I guess so, just best all around experience, like
four five three, oh, this guy says three. According to
a recent article from a website called mass Live, the
beer Nut, the sweet spot is three beers. This trio
allows you to savor the flavors and enjoy the buzz
and keep things in moderation. The piece emphasizes, while beer
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is a delightful companion, it's best enjoyed responsibly.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
Well, I order a beer in a shot.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
That's good to know.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Yeah, well, that would seed up the process. Yeah. And
a delivery driver from Amazon was fired after she was
caught on video pooping on a customer's porch in Los Angeles.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
When you gotta go, you gotta go. I wonder this
all the time.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
If you're an Amazon driver or a Doordasce driver, if
you have a second eight five five five three five,
where do you go to the bathroom?
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Do you go home?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Or do if you find yourself far away from the house,
do you go to like a I don't know, fast
food restaurant or something? And do you order something and
use it or did you just go in and use it?
Jason company. When you were doordass driver, Jason, I thought
Bello was back. Why do you have to come and.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Go there are issues? Are you serious again? What are
the issues? Why are there issues? There's issues every day?
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Stop with the issues. Would you go to the bathroom
when you were a door dess driver.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I would s up at like gas stations or the
restaurants that I was picking up from, Like if I
had a couple minutes to wait for the food, I
would go there.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And they never gave you any trouble about it. No, No,
because I mean, I guess somebody was buying something. It
wasn't you.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
But yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
A delivery driver for Amazon was fired after she was
caught on video pooping on a customer's portion in Los Angeles. Now,
we could have picked the spot a little better, right,
because it was right on their front doorstep. A driver
was seen on security cameras pulling up her pants while
the bowel movement was left behind on the bottom of
a set of outdoor stairs. A neighbor also checked their
security camera caught the same driver urinating inside a wooden gate.
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I mean, this person had some issues. Amazon unofficials said
that the incident happened on Sunday. The driver was fired
immediately after they were given the footage. It's not known
that the driver will face any charges. So we got
to remember, everyone's got cameras everywhere. Now, they got the
cameras in their floodlights, they got the cameras at the door,
they got cameras everywhere.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
So we got to pick a better spot.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Yeah, and I think Amazon's probably harder because like, you're
not going into businesses, You're just going home to home
to home to home. But still, like you have to
pass somewhere that has a bathroom, right at some point
during going to a.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Gas station, go into a fest food restaurant, you would.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Think and at least pick it up. Don't leave it
on my door.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Snow, Like, come on, man, that's true. Get a doggy bay.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I mean, ay, if it was an emergency or whatever,
like hose it off something, I would have.
Speaker 8 (07:18):
Took one of the boxes. You know, I'll drop off
your snacks and open up the ball.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Just leave an unboxed snacks Like, I guess that's better.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
I'd rather have unboxed snacks than a pile of me,
but like, why were you peeing on one person's yard?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And then I mean, like, oh wait, hold on, this
is going to develop into something a little more. I mean,
what is going on? Like if you're not sure, you know,
maybe I don't know. It's actual apple pie Day today,
which that's super appetizing. The Entertainer Report is next, will
do blogs after that? Stay or Go? Debate some relationship drama,
paying bills and eight hundred bucks in the showdown. All
(07:53):
coming up, Fred Show Freads show is on. It's Stay
or Go. It's gone too far, Bella, It's gone too far.
We obtained an actual photograph of bellahamine our intern who
if you missed it a few minutes ago. She believes
that she should be honored as the first daughter of
her hometown in California because her dad is the part
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time mayor. And if you go to our instagram Fred
Show Radio, you're gonna see that this is an image
that she posted herself. This is unbelievable. She had a
full on photo shoot and everything. The haters are going
to say it's photoshop because of the hands, but she
has manley hands.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
She has manly hand and shoulders and she's part black,
which a lot of people didn't know. I didn't know
that about it.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
But man talk about taking his shine away from her dad,
who's doing the hard work. This is crazy, this image
Fred Show radio. It was like last week werew on
this esteemed panel for this international radio conference. They flew
us to Toronto. We're on this panel, and this dude
has been listening. We said, more than a dude, he's
a big he too, is an esteemed European radio manager.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Yeah right, big, big time guy.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
And apparently he'd been listening to our show for weeks
and like picking out moments and then use it for
this this slideshow kind of presentation thing and question and
answer in front of all these radio people from all
over the world. And one of the images he found
was of Keiki's cord and Kiki has three hands. In
the image, she has three hands and one's white or
(09:28):
two might be white. I'm not even sure. But okay,
here we are. You know, it's like, miss you should know.
You know, if you came, you're thinking you were gonna
get secrets. The secret is we don't have any money
for a graphic designer.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
That's the secret. We don't have to say something, we
can we do what we.
Speaker 8 (09:45):
Can photographers, none of the videographers.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
But I had to just say it.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I had to say just I had to get it
out of the way and say, guys, we're aware that
Kiki has three hands in this that's that's what we're
working with in the United States. Guys, Hey, Amanda, good morning.
Well hi Aman, welcome to the show. Welcome to Stay
or Go. We appreciate your note. What's going on with
this boyfriend of yours?
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Is his name?
Speaker 2 (10:09):
Well, what I'm gonna say his name? But he's been
around for six months? This boyfriend, Yes, yeah.
Speaker 9 (10:17):
We've been dating for about six months. And you know,
as a disclaimer, he's not a heavy drinker like whatsoever.
But you know, he does like to go out over
the weekend on his days off, and he does usually
getting he gets really drunk.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Okay, so what okay, So the guy, this guy even dating,
he doesn't drink, like so what is like not during
the week he doesn't drink, but then when he goes
out he beings drinks.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Is that the story?
Speaker 10 (10:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (10:50):
I mean, well, the thing is that he just turns
into a different person when he starts drinking and he's
you know, he really is such a kind and considerate boyfriend,
but you know, on the weekends when he drinks, he's
just not as sweet and he starts like picking fights
with me and even like just people around in the bar.
(11:12):
It's just really weird. Like he gets like overly protective,
Like he like he thinks that guys are flirting with
me when they're not.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
He's a tough guy, what he's drinking.
Speaker 9 (11:27):
I mean, that's the thing is, like I know him
as this big softy, but you know there are times
like where he's even like left me at the bar
and he's gone home like without me, without telling me,
and it seems like he's he found a reason to
be like really mad. I don't know, but the whole
thing is that he doesn't even remember leaving me, you know,
(11:51):
Like I did talk to him about it. It's just
that he explained that he I don't know if this
is an excuse or not, but he said but that
he probably did that because he knows his limits and
he was getting too drunk.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Yeah, but that's you know, you would say that. I mean,
you're you're his partner.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
So if that were the case, and I realized when
you're drinking, you're not necessarily in your right mind. But
that's something you would say to your partner. You wouldn't
leave your partner somewhere. I mean, that's something. I'm the
king of the iris exit when I have met a
little bit too much or whatever, when it's time, I
usually to sneak out, but I don't have anybody with me.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
I don't leave anybody where we were.
Speaker 9 (12:27):
You can't do that, right, Like, at least let me
know that you know, you need to go home or something,
because I know he would be so madified did that
to him, you know, But like I said, I mean,
he he it's not just about like checking off boxes.
But he really is such a great boyfriend outside of
when he drinks. He's like it seems like he's perfect
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for me other than that, and I don't know, it's
just it's not like I would say he's class right
having a huge drinking problem because he only drinks like
once or twice a weekend.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yeah, but if he's drinking and again not an alcohol
substance abuse counselor, but if he's drinking to that level
once or twice a week, that's still a problem. I mean,
the problem isn't necessarily And again, someone who's welcome to
call and correct me on this eight five five, five
nine one oh three five.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
I don't think it's the frequency.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
I don't think it's if you drink every day or
if you just get hammered twice a week. It sounds
like he may have a problem with alcohol. And I
think the question is, I mean, have you have you
said to him? And again, I don't know that I'm
qualified to give this advice, but I'm going to try.
I mean, have you said you have you had this
conversation with him? Hey, I'm concerned about your drinking. I'm
concerned about your behavior when you drink. I mean, have
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you have you had like a like a kind sort
of constructive conversation about that.
Speaker 7 (13:52):
I have I've had.
Speaker 9 (13:54):
I would say, yeah, like a few very light conversations
around it. And I think, you know, he gets a
little bit defensive, like I'm attacking him for all like
the good things that he does do for me, And
so I don't think he really like understands how it
affects me and like other people, because he doesn't remember,
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you know. So yeah, it's kind of like tricky.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Yeah, I hate to say this, but my gut tells
me you got to go. My gut tells me that
it's it's you're early in this relationship. It's going to
be a difficult thing. It's going to be a difficult thing
to to mitigate. I don't know if it's your job
to save this guy. You know, he gets to I
mean you, I think you can tell him, you know,
in a caring, loving way. Hey, this this concerns me.
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I care about you. I like you, you know, but
you don't seem to be acknowledging what is a serious
problem here. And someone texted that Ben's drinking is a
form of alcoholism. I mean, I think again, it's I
don't think you have to get hammered every day to
be to have a problem. I think you can get
If you're getting hammered consistently in any frequency, that's probably
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an issue, especially if he's doing it to to sort
of mask other issues, insecurities or whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I mean, this could be something you deal with the
entire length of your relationship. This may never go away.
Speaker 9 (15:23):
Yeah, that would really think, because I really like him
so much and I really care for him, So it's
it's really hard to end it just like that, you know.
But yeah, I totally hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
I've dealt with this a little bit in my life,
and all I can tell you is that this is
a decision that the person using the substance.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
They have to make that decision.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Like, you can beg him, you can, you can, you know, ultimatums,
you can do all this different stuff, But ultimately, I
think it's just going to cause a divide. I feel
like if you're saying to him, look, I really care
about you and you are a lot of things that
I want, but this he is a problem. And in
order for this relationship to continue, you're going to need
to manage this somehow. And he's telling you all I
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don't know, or he's used it making excuse you why
to remember? Okay, well, then don't drink as much you might,
you know what I mean? I think the only real
option here is for him to stop drinking or manage
the drinking, or get some help or do something if
he wants to save the relationship. If he's not willing
to do any of that, then I don't know that
this changes, right, I.
Speaker 9 (16:27):
Mean, what do you think if you know, he says,
you know, change doesn't happen overnight, like you have to
just like trust me with it, like let me, you know,
take care of it. And then it kind of it's
like a ball, it seems like a ball. Then is
in my court to like let him deal with it
and try not to like micromanage these actions.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
When you bring it up.
Speaker 8 (16:54):
If he's getting defensive when you bring it up, it
doesn't even sound like he's really acknowledging that there's an issue.
Speaker 9 (17:02):
Yeah, I feel like he I feel like he knows
he I think he's like it feels vulnerable.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Okay, But again, I mean this this is going to
affect your life too. And so if he's serious about
this relationship and it's and it really is becoming a problem,
whether it's the way he acts, it's about the way
he treats you or leaving you places of it about
your safety. You know, again, I think you're in you
have You have every right to communicate your concern. You
have every right to wish of him that he changes
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his behavior. You can offer him help, you can offer
him support. But I mean, if he's not going to
do any of that and deny it I don't know,
he may not be as perfect as you think. And
I'm again I'm not I'm not advocating you just dump
the guy and leave him. But I mean, if you
express your care and you express your concern, ultimately he
has to make the decision. If he's telling you he
doesn't have a problem, that's I think that says a lot.
Speaker 9 (17:51):
Yep, yeah, no, you have a point there, especially with
like leaving me and stuff, It's like becomes more of
a safety issue.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
I mean, the text is blowing up, it's overwhelmingly You've
got to go run a lot of people, you know,
sharing their personal experience. I mean, it's hundreds of texts already. Unfortunately,
this is something that I think affects a lot of people.
But let me take some phone calls. Maybe there are
some people more qualify, anyone's more qualified than me to
be giving you advice on this, because again, this is
not something to play with. You know, this is a
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this could be a disease, this could be you know,
a dependency that he needs real help with. And I
don't I don't want to say anything that you know
I shouldn't say because I'm certainly not an expert. But
let me take some calls and and see people have
to say and keep the radio one and man, I
wish you the best. Thank you for sharing that with us.
Good luck, yeah, yeah, eight five five five N one
one oh three five. Nick, you're a you're a mental
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health therapist.
Speaker 11 (18:45):
I am, I am.
Speaker 12 (18:47):
How's everybody doing today?
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Good morning? So you hear this story, well, what what
comes to mind?
Speaker 11 (18:52):
What comes to mind is.
Speaker 10 (18:54):
Not immediately like leaves. Obviously he is like struggling, and
what he's struggle with is impacting their relationship, and he
clearly needs some form of therapy to address these concerns.
Because Fred, I agree with you, it's not necessarily.
Speaker 11 (19:10):
About a frequency. It's also about like how much you're
drinking in that two day period that he's getting blackout drunk.
That could qualify as like a potential binge eating or
binge drinking disorder, and that definitely needs to be addressed.
So I think maybe putting the relationship on like a
probation and saying, hey, if within this six month time
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period you don't seek help or make any changes, and
we don't communicate what you're doing to make these changes,
then I can't be with you anymore, this has become unsafe.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
Yeah, man, good advice. Thank you Nick, thanks for listening.
Speaker 9 (19:46):
Have a good day anytime you guys to love you.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
Yeah, I love you too.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
I mean, it's said, you don't want to leave someone
who care about, who you think has all these qualities, right,
we don't want.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
To just leave them.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
But again, if I know anything about this, and sadly
it's in my fami and it's been part of my life. Unfortunately,
it's the kind of thing where the person having the
issue and I don't mean to I don't mean to
isolate that person, but that person, in my experience, has
to make the decision that they want that for their
life and that people that they matter and that the
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people around them matter enough. But like again, you can threaten,
you might threaten your whole relationship. Yep, I'm gonna leave
you if well, guess what If you don't leave, then
then then your threats don't mean anything anymore. Oh yeah,
you know, ultimatums aren't going to work. And if you're
going to leave, then leave, you know what I mean?
And you can offer so much support, but then if
they don't want to take the support, this could be
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an issue. For a very long time. Hey Bianca, Yeah, Hi, Hi,
good morning. So this resonates with you, this story.
Speaker 7 (20:45):
Oh, yes, I've been in a seventeen year relationship. I
have a child, blended family. He's a great guy. I mean,
don't get mean, he's a family guy. But seventeen years
weekend drinker doesn't get better. Definitely need some kind of
therapy there. You know, it's just it's a hard situation.
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You're six months and you know you have your whole
life ahead of you. It's sometimes it's not worth it.
Now it's gotten better through the years, but you don't
want to wait seventeen years for it to get better,
you know what I mean. Like he's like he has
really calmed down through the years, but you know it
was hardy, nothing but heartache and heartbreak and coming and
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going into the house, and then when you have children,
it just makes it even worse because it's just like
you just feel stuck. And I'm a product of a divorce,
you know, divorce parents, and you know I've been through
relationships and whatnot, and it's just it's a hard you
want to make up. I say, Oh, he's a teddy bear,
He's this He's a family guy. He does great things,
(21:53):
very successful, very this, very that. But it's you know,
you're willing to spend the rest of your time with
somebody who just constantly drinks on the weekend. It's it's
never going to change, and they're never going to change,
and you know there's deeper issues there. There's deeper, deeper
issues there, Beyonca.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
You what you're saying resonates with me a little bit.
And I think probably other people in the room who
are the product of a divorced family, because because I
know Caitlin Is, I am Paulina was. It's like, I
think if I were married and I had kids, I
can tell you that I would and I think in
some ways it maybe is preventive of me getting into
a serious relationship. I don't want to be to someone
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else what my parents were to each other at that time,
you know, I mean, like, I don't want to. I
don't want I don't want to be in a situation
where I get divorced. I don't want to be in
a situation where I have kids and I break up
the family or the family is broken up by my
actions are someone else's, And so I think I would
be inclined to stick with things and behaviors and mannerisms
that are unhealthy, and I think this is a trap
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that a lot of people fall into, where it's like, wow,
I don't want to break up for the kids, I
don't want to divorcely, but it's like, hey, how long
can you live like that?
Speaker 9 (23:02):
You know?
Speaker 7 (23:03):
Yeah, it's very hard.
Speaker 9 (23:04):
You know.
Speaker 7 (23:05):
I cheer her in my own head here and there.
It's kind of like, but I stuck around this long? Yeah,
why am I going to leave now?
Speaker 9 (23:12):
You know?
Speaker 7 (23:12):
But I mean, like I said, through the years, that
has gotten a lot better. But you know, you do
suffer through I suffer through a lot of years in
between where I'm like, hey, you know, what the heck
am I doing? You know, like this is not right
and it's not and it's not fair if you're bringing
you know, other little people into the world and they
see that.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Yeah, yeah, you know, well they see that mom or
dad isn't happy, and I know you think you're doing
the right thing, but sadly, you know, this stuff does permeate.
And look, I thank you for sharing. Very brave of you, Bianca,
and I appreciate you calling and for offering your perspective.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Have a good morning, thank you too. Yeah. Sadly this
is I mean a lot of these calls are the same.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
It's almost universally go yeah, so yeah, Molly, Hi.
Speaker 3 (23:53):
Good morning. Hi. How are you hey?
Speaker 2 (23:56):
You say good? Thanks for calling for listening. So just
said recap and stair go.
Speaker 10 (23:59):
Here.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
This woman and she's been with the guy for six months.
She thinks he's perfect in every way except and these
are my words, but he binge drinks on the weekend,
and he gets combative, not with her, but with other people.
He leaves her places, doesn't communicate well when he's reached
his limits, and you know, she's wondering, is this something
that I need to overlook or that I can overlook?
And I mean overwhelmingly people are saying no.
Speaker 12 (24:24):
Right, she absolutely needs to go. So my reasoning is
that since they've only been together for six months, if
the relationship does get any longer, and let's say they
have kids, or they get married, or something happens at
his job and then there's more stressors or his life,
he might start drinking more and with the if he's
already being mister macho man at the bar, like he's
(24:47):
probably going to be physically abusive towards her and she
definitely does not need that in her life.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yeah, and I hate that she feels that he's perfect
in every way except for this. And I don't know
the guy, but that's a big this, you know what
I mean. He's perfect in every way except he's a
binge drinker and he and it seems like it's somebody
that he wants to deny and and doesn't. Isn't going
to be able to adjust easily that that Unfortunately, that
means you might deserve more.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
He might not be as perfect as you think.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
Yeah, oh that's a big issue.
Speaker 8 (25:16):
And then if you bring children into the mix, A
lot of people are saying, you know, they stay for
the kids. The worst thing you can do is say
these situations for your kids.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
I agree.
Speaker 8 (25:24):
The kids are traumatized because they're scared of dad on
the weekend.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Yeah, I agree, I agree.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
You know, it's a it's as serious and it's a
sad situation, but you know, six months might be it
might be more than enough to know that this is
what you're up against and it's sad. Thank you, Mollie,
thanks for calling, have a good day.
Speaker 12 (25:41):
Thanks Love you guys.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I love you too. I only got time for one more. Sophia,
you're a therapist as well. Good morning.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Hi. Yes, I'm so glad that I got through because
I'm never a caller in for the radio, but I
felt like I needed to because I actually have I
am a therapist. But I also have firsthand experience within
my family of this happening where my brother in law
became somebody that was a drinker and unfortunately he took
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it out on my sister and he became physically abusive
and it is very sad situation. One night he drank
too much, he became abusive, and she almost died because
of the situation. So this is just like in my gut,
like you need to go, Like there is no waiting
for them to get help. You're you're so new in
(26:30):
the relationship, you're going to find another guy that texts
every box and there is no this that you have
to kind.
Speaker 9 (26:37):
Of roll out.
Speaker 4 (26:39):
But it's just it's the beginning signs of abuse. If
he's already doing it in public, just when he's get home,
it's going to become even worse because there's no audience.
She needs to go.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Yeah, yeah, Sophia, thank you have a good day. Thank
you for calling. I hate to say them, and in
my personal experience too, I think sometimes people need to
hit rock bottom. They sometimes they need to either stand
to lose or lose everything absolutely before they can come
to the Sadly, some people that that's not enough either.
But you know, again, the threats aren't going to do
anything unless you actually follow through with it. And the
(27:11):
truth is if if he feels for you what you
feel for him, then maybe he looks in the mirror
and says, this is a change I need to make
if I want to be with this person. And if
he doesn't make that change, I think that you then
learned in six months what you didn't need to take
ten years to learn.
Speaker 9 (27:25):
Right.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Absolutely, Yes, he.
Speaker 5 (27:27):
Has to want something more than he wants to drink.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, it sounds like it.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
And thanks for the actual professionals for calling, because I
mean it's unfortunately we've all lived many of us in
this room have lived there. Yes, but at the same time,
I don't claim to you know, know exactly the path
to take.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
But all right, we'll get back to smut.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
The Entertainer Report is up next and eight hundred bucks
show Bizkiki in the showdown thirty and four is uh,
how do you say love Rena Junior? How do you
say junior? Levanade Jugnor. Because Shelley is Lavena, we'll go
with that show. I think he just called her a hoe,
But anyway, it's like, we'll play next. Fred show is
(28:08):
a
Fred's Show is on Fred's Biggest Stories of the Day.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
If someone texted it, we should look up bed parties
for college. It's madness. Oh I'm assuming they tuned in
a little late. But that's how that all started with
bed parties for college. The pyrotechnics are wild. That's got
to be a fire hazard, that pyrotechnics. Bed parties, you
know what all started with, Like, Oh my gosh, honey,
you got into college and it was like a pillow
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on the bed, exciting, you know, and then and now
it's who knows, It's like a new house. You get
a new house for the bed in it, and it's, oh,
you're going to Alabama, congratulations, you know, the biggest.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Stories of the day.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Ticketmaster has ruled out it's new all in pricing initiative,
and that means that you'll now see the full ticket
price upfront, including all the pesky service fees before you
hit the checkout, but no more surprises at the end.
This change comes change comes in response to the Federal
Trade Commissions new regulations banning hidden junk fees, aiming to
make pricing more transparent across various industries. While this movie
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is forward, it's worth, noting that local Texas and delivery
fees will still appear at checkouts. So it's like all
the tickets tw hundred bucks, and he clicked it's like
seven hundred. Like wait, where did all this come from?
It's like how hotels that have become advertised it. You know,
I don't want to two hundred bucks a night or
whatever it is, and then you're like, oh, okay, cool,
and then by the time you check out, it's eight
hundred bucks. I didn't go to the gym. Do I
(01:20):
look like somebody who went to the gym while I
was here? Like I stuffed my face the entire time.
You guys know that I've been skeptical. I'm not currently
medically licensed. We're going to get it back, but you
know that I've been skeptical of of OZEMPK and these
weight loss drugs that people are taking it. And look,
if you need it for whatever health reason, and your
doctor says you should have it, then you should have it.
(01:40):
What do I know? Don't take medical advice from me.
But for some people that are taking it because it
helps them lose weight, and maybe they have other means
that they could lose weight, they just don't want to
do it. I'm still convinced, like, are you sure you
want to do that? Because you might grow a tail.
And it turns out there are now side effects that
people are talking about, lots of them. A new side
effect is done ohmic mouth. It's making the rounds, especially
(02:02):
among some celebrities. This condition involves rapid facial fat loss,
leading to sagging skin and pronounced wrinkles around the mouth,
giving an unexpectedly aged appearance.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
And then there's thosempic tongue.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Well.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Doctor's now warning about how your taste in food could
also dramatically shift. It's not just about feeling less hungry.
New York based obesity specialist doctor Daniel Rosen has seen
avid meat eaters go off of steak, sausages and other
favorite cuts because they report a metallic taste.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
So you might lose weight.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
But you've got to be aware about all the potential
side effects and then consult with a healthcare professional before
starting any kind of new medication.
Speaker 5 (02:40):
Okay, I still don't see the issue as far. I
don't well think about it. Okay, if that medication can.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Help me not eat steak sausages and I don't know
pastries I'm okay with it. And the Olympic face thing, yeah,
it probably sucks because you look like, you know, eighty
when you're what forty? But I would rather have that
somebody with a very large face with my cheeks. I
would so much rather someone be like, wow, look at
that face.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
If you need the.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Medicine, and this is the side effect, and this is
just the way that you're going to be healthier, and
this is the way you're gonna lose weight. I mean,
there are a lot of examples and amazing, but if
you don't need it, then why would you want things
to start tasting bad? And why do they taste bad?
Like what is going on inside of me that? You
know what I mean?
Speaker 7 (03:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
How much to eat fewer sausages, you know, but they
still taste good when I would like to have a sausage.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
That's what I'm saying. That's tempting the sausage.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Well, I don't know. I'm skeptical. I'm skeptic.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I'm skeptical, and I for no reason, but I'm skeptical
of anything that seems too easy. When it seems too easy,
I'm like, now hold on a minute, yeah again, don't
ap me I'm not talking about the people who need
it for health reasons. I'm talking about the people who
need it for vanity reasons. The vanity thing correct. The
you Go, once considered the worst car in history, is
making a comeback. A German professor now leads the Yugo
brand and plans to revive it where they drift up
(03:52):
a prototype by twenty twenty seven. So if it's the
worst car ever, why we're bringing it back. It was
made in Yugoslavia, It died out nearly two years ago,
and it was considered one of the worst cards due
to its poor build quality, reliability issues, and questionable safety standards.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
They promise that the.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Subcompact hatchback will be true to the band, the brand's
budget minded buyer, So we can have a you Go. Now,
what would you say is the optimal number of beers
to drink in one sitting?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
Because this story has been on every website this morning.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I didn't eve think I was going to do it
until I saw it for the fourth time, and someone's
taking it upon themselves to figure out the optimal number
of beers. I would think that this would vary depending
on size and the kind of beer. You're drinking and
all kinds of different stuff. But the perfect number of
beers in one.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
Sitting optimal being just for the best feeling.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Yeah, I guess so, just best all around experience, like
four five three, oh, this guy says three. According to
a recent article from a website called mass Live, the
beer Nut, the sweet spot is three beers. This trio
allows you to savor the flavors and enjoy the buzz
and keep things in moderation. The piece emphasizes, while beer
(05:00):
is a delightful companion, it's best enjoyed responsibly.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
Well, I order a beer in a shot.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
That's good to know.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Yeah, well, that would seed up the process. Yeah. And
a delivery driver from Amazon was fired after she was
caught on video pooping on a customer's porch in Los Angeles.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
When you gotta go, you gotta go. I wonder this
all the time.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
If you're an Amazon driver or a Doordasce driver, if
you have a second eight five five five three five,
where do you go to the bathroom?
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Do you go home?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Or do if you find yourself far away from the house,
do you go to like a I don't know, fast
food restaurant or something? And do you order something and
use it or did you just go in and use it?
Jason company. When you were doordass driver, Jason, I thought
Bello was back. Why do you have to come and.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Go there are issues? Are you serious again? What are
the issues? Why are there issues? There's issues every day?
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Stop with the issues. Would you go to the bathroom
when you were a door dess driver.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I would s up at like gas stations or the
restaurants that I was picking up from, Like if I
had a couple minutes to wait for the food, I
would go there.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And they never gave you any trouble about it. No, No,
because I mean, I guess somebody was buying something. It
wasn't you.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
But yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
A delivery driver for Amazon was fired after she was
caught on video pooping on a customer's portion in Los Angeles. Now,
we could have picked the spot a little better, right,
because it was right on their front doorstep. A driver
was seen on security cameras pulling up her pants while
the bowel movement was left behind on the bottom of
a set of outdoor stairs. A neighbor also checked their
security camera caught the same driver urinating inside a wooden gate.
(06:32):
I mean, this person had some issues. Amazon unofficials said
that the incident happened on Sunday. The driver was fired
immediately after they were given the footage. It's not known
that the driver will face any charges. So we got
to remember, everyone's got cameras everywhere. Now, they got the
cameras in their floodlights, they got the cameras at the door,
they got cameras everywhere.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
So we got to pick a better spot.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Yeah, and I think Amazon's probably harder because like, you're
not going into businesses, You're just going home to home
to home to home. But still, like you have to
pass somewhere that has a bathroom, right at some point
during going to a.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Gas station, go into a fest food restaurant, you would.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Think and at least pick it up. Don't leave it
on my door.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Snow, Like, come on, man, that's true. Get a doggy bay.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I mean, ay, if it was an emergency or whatever,
like hose it off something, I would have.
Speaker 8 (07:18):
Took one of the boxes. You know, I'll drop off
your snacks and open up the ball.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Just leave an unboxed snacks Like, I guess that's better.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
I'd rather have unboxed snacks than a pile of me,
but like, why were you peeing on one person's yard?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And then I mean, like, oh wait, hold on, this
is going to develop into something a little more. I mean,
what is going on? Like if you're not sure, you know,
maybe I don't know. It's actual apple pie Day today,
which that's super appetizing. The Entertainer Report is next, will
do blogs after that? Stay or Go? Debate some relationship drama,
paying bills and eight hundred bucks in the showdown. All
(07:53):
coming up, Fred Show Freads show is on. It's Stay
or Go. It's gone too far, Bella, It's gone too far.
We obtained an actual photograph of bellahamine our intern who
if you missed it a few minutes ago. She believes
that she should be honored as the first daughter of
her hometown in California because her dad is the part
(08:14):
time mayor. And if you go to our instagram Fred
Show Radio, you're gonna see that this is an image
that she posted herself. This is unbelievable. She had a
full on photo shoot and everything. The haters are going
to say it's photoshop because of the hands, but she
has manley hands.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
She has manly hand and shoulders and she's part black,
which a lot of people didn't know. I didn't know
that about it.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
But man talk about taking his shine away from her dad,
who's doing the hard work. This is crazy, this image
Fred Show radio. It was like last week werew on
this esteemed panel for this international radio conference. They flew
us to Toronto. We're on this panel, and this dude
has been listening. We said, more than a dude, he's
a big he too, is an esteemed European radio manager.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Yeah right, big, big time guy.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
And apparently he'd been listening to our show for weeks
and like picking out moments and then use it for
this this slideshow kind of presentation thing and question and
answer in front of all these radio people from all
over the world. And one of the images he found
was of Keiki's cord and Kiki has three hands. In
the image, she has three hands and one's white or
(09:28):
two might be white. I'm not even sure. But okay,
here we are. You know, it's like, miss you should know.
You know, if you came, you're thinking you were gonna
get secrets. The secret is we don't have any money
for a graphic designer.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
That's the secret. We don't have to say something, we
can we do what we.
Speaker 8 (09:45):
Can photographers, none of the videographers.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
But I had to just say it.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I had to say just I had to get it
out of the way and say, guys, we're aware that
Kiki has three hands in this that's that's what we're
working with in the United States. Guys, Hey, Amanda, good morning.
Well hi Aman, welcome to the show. Welcome to Stay
or Go. We appreciate your note. What's going on with
this boyfriend of yours?
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Is his name?
Speaker 2 (10:09):
Well, what I'm gonna say his name? But he's been
around for six months? This boyfriend, Yes, yeah.
Speaker 9 (10:17):
We've been dating for about six months. And you know,
as a disclaimer, he's not a heavy drinker like whatsoever.
But you know, he does like to go out over
the weekend on his days off, and he does usually
getting he gets really drunk.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Okay, so what okay, So the guy, this guy even dating,
he doesn't drink, like so what is like not during
the week he doesn't drink, but then when he goes
out he beings drinks.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Is that the story?
Speaker 10 (10:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (10:50):
I mean, well, the thing is that he just turns
into a different person when he starts drinking and he's
you know, he really is such a kind and considerate boyfriend,
but you know, on the weekends when he drinks, he's
just not as sweet and he starts like picking fights
with me and even like just people around in the bar.
(11:12):
It's just really weird. Like he gets like overly protective,
Like he like he thinks that guys are flirting with
me when they're not.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
He's a tough guy, what he's drinking.
Speaker 9 (11:27):
I mean, that's the thing is, like I know him
as this big softy, but you know there are times
like where he's even like left me at the bar
and he's gone home like without me, without telling me,
and it seems like he's he found a reason to
be like really mad. I don't know, but the whole
thing is that he doesn't even remember leaving me, you know,
(11:51):
Like I did talk to him about it. It's just
that he explained that he I don't know if this
is an excuse or not, but he said but that
he probably did that because he knows his limits and
he was getting too drunk.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Yeah, but that's you know, you would say that. I mean,
you're you're his partner.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
So if that were the case, and I realized when
you're drinking, you're not necessarily in your right mind. But
that's something you would say to your partner. You wouldn't
leave your partner somewhere. I mean, that's something. I'm the
king of the iris exit when I have met a
little bit too much or whatever, when it's time, I
usually to sneak out, but I don't have anybody with me.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
I don't leave anybody where we were.
Speaker 9 (12:27):
You can't do that, right, Like, at least let me
know that you know, you need to go home or something,
because I know he would be so madified did that
to him, you know, But like I said, I mean,
he he it's not just about like checking off boxes.
But he really is such a great boyfriend outside of
when he drinks. He's like it seems like he's perfect
(12:52):
for me other than that, and I don't know, it's
just it's not like I would say he's class right
having a huge drinking problem because he only drinks like
once or twice a weekend.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yeah, but if he's drinking and again not an alcohol
substance abuse counselor, but if he's drinking to that level
once or twice a week, that's still a problem. I mean,
the problem isn't necessarily And again, someone who's welcome to
call and correct me on this eight five five, five
nine one oh three five.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
I don't think it's the frequency.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
I don't think it's if you drink every day or
if you just get hammered twice a week. It sounds
like he may have a problem with alcohol. And I
think the question is, I mean, have you have you
said to him? And again, I don't know that I'm
qualified to give this advice, but I'm going to try.
I mean, have you said you have you had this
conversation with him? Hey, I'm concerned about your drinking. I'm
concerned about your behavior when you drink. I mean, have
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you have you had like a like a kind sort
of constructive conversation about that.
Speaker 7 (13:52):
I have I've had.
Speaker 9 (13:54):
I would say, yeah, like a few very light conversations
around it. And I think, you know, he gets a
little bit defensive, like I'm attacking him for all like
the good things that he does do for me, And
so I don't think he really like understands how it
affects me and like other people, because he doesn't remember,
(14:16):
you know. So yeah, it's kind of like tricky.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Yeah, I hate to say this, but my gut tells
me you got to go. My gut tells me that
it's it's you're early in this relationship. It's going to
be a difficult thing. It's going to be a difficult thing
to to mitigate. I don't know if it's your job
to save this guy. You know, he gets to I
mean you, I think you can tell him, you know,
in a caring, loving way. Hey, this this concerns me.
(14:45):
I care about you. I like you, you know, but
you don't seem to be acknowledging what is a serious
problem here. And someone texted that Ben's drinking is a
form of alcoholism. I mean, I think again, it's I
don't think you have to get hammered every day to
be to have a problem. I think you can get
If you're getting hammered consistently in any frequency, that's probably
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an issue, especially if he's doing it to to sort
of mask other issues, insecurities or whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I mean, this could be something you deal with the
entire length of your relationship. This may never go away.
Speaker 9 (15:23):
Yeah, that would really think, because I really like him
so much and I really care for him, So it's
it's really hard to end it just like that, you know.
But yeah, I totally hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
I've dealt with this a little bit in my life,
and all I can tell you is that this is
a decision that the person using the substance.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
They have to make that decision.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Like, you can beg him, you can, you can, you know, ultimatums,
you can do all this different stuff, But ultimately, I
think it's just going to cause a divide. I feel
like if you're saying to him, look, I really care
about you and you are a lot of things that
I want, but this he is a problem. And in
order for this relationship to continue, you're going to need
to manage this somehow. And he's telling you all I
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don't know, or he's used it making excuse you why
to remember? Okay, well, then don't drink as much you might,
you know what I mean? I think the only real
option here is for him to stop drinking or manage
the drinking, or get some help or do something if
he wants to save the relationship. If he's not willing
to do any of that, then I don't know that
this changes, right, I.
Speaker 9 (16:27):
Mean, what do you think if you know, he says,
you know, change doesn't happen overnight, like you have to
just like trust me with it, like let me, you know,
take care of it. And then it kind of it's
like a ball, it seems like a ball. Then is
in my court to like let him deal with it
and try not to like micromanage these actions.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
When you bring it up.
Speaker 8 (16:54):
If he's getting defensive when you bring it up, it
doesn't even sound like he's really acknowledging that there's an issue.
Speaker 9 (17:02):
Yeah, I feel like he I feel like he knows
he I think he's like it feels vulnerable.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Okay, But again, I mean this this is going to
affect your life too. And so if he's serious about
this relationship and it's and it really is becoming a problem,
whether it's the way he acts, it's about the way
he treats you or leaving you places of it about
your safety. You know, again, I think you're in you
have You have every right to communicate your concern. You
have every right to wish of him that he changes
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his behavior. You can offer him help, you can offer
him support. But I mean, if he's not going to
do any of that and deny it I don't know,
he may not be as perfect as you think. And
I'm again I'm not I'm not advocating you just dump
the guy and leave him. But I mean, if you
express your care and you express your concern, ultimately he
has to make the decision. If he's telling you he
doesn't have a problem, that's I think that says a lot.
Speaker 9 (17:51):
Yep, yeah, no, you have a point there, especially with
like leaving me and stuff, It's like becomes more of
a safety issue.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
I mean, the text is blowing up, it's overwhelmingly You've
got to go run a lot of people, you know,
sharing their personal experience. I mean, it's hundreds of texts already. Unfortunately,
this is something that I think affects a lot of people.
But let me take some phone calls. Maybe there are
some people more qualify, anyone's more qualified than me to
be giving you advice on this, because again, this is
not something to play with. You know, this is a
(18:23):
this could be a disease, this could be you know,
a dependency that he needs real help with. And I
don't I don't want to say anything that you know
I shouldn't say because I'm certainly not an expert. But
let me take some calls and and see people have
to say and keep the radio one and man, I
wish you the best. Thank you for sharing that with us.
Good luck, yeah, yeah, eight five five five N one
one oh three five. Nick, you're a you're a mental
(18:44):
health therapist.
Speaker 11 (18:45):
I am, I am.
Speaker 12 (18:47):
How's everybody doing today?
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Good morning? So you hear this story, well, what what
comes to mind?
Speaker 11 (18:52):
What comes to mind is.
Speaker 10 (18:54):
Not immediately like leaves. Obviously he is like struggling, and
what he's struggle with is impacting their relationship, and he
clearly needs some form of therapy to address these concerns.
Because Fred, I agree with you, it's not necessarily.
Speaker 11 (19:10):
About a frequency. It's also about like how much you're
drinking in that two day period that he's getting blackout drunk.
That could qualify as like a potential binge eating or
binge drinking disorder, and that definitely needs to be addressed.
So I think maybe putting the relationship on like a
probation and saying, hey, if within this six month time
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period you don't seek help or make any changes, and
we don't communicate what you're doing to make these changes,
then I can't be with you anymore, this has become unsafe.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
Yeah, man, good advice. Thank you Nick, thanks for listening.
Speaker 9 (19:46):
Have a good day anytime you guys to love you.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
Yeah, I love you too.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
I mean, it's said, you don't want to leave someone
who care about, who you think has all these qualities, right,
we don't want.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
To just leave them.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
But again, if I know anything about this, and sadly
it's in my fami and it's been part of my life. Unfortunately,
it's the kind of thing where the person having the
issue and I don't mean to I don't mean to
isolate that person, but that person, in my experience, has
to make the decision that they want that for their
life and that people that they matter and that the
(20:17):
people around them matter enough. But like again, you can threaten,
you might threaten your whole relationship. Yep, I'm gonna leave
you if well, guess what If you don't leave, then
then then your threats don't mean anything anymore. Oh yeah,
you know, ultimatums aren't going to work. And if you're
going to leave, then leave, you know what I mean?
And you can offer so much support, but then if
they don't want to take the support, this could be
(20:39):
an issue. For a very long time. Hey Bianca, Yeah, Hi, Hi,
good morning. So this resonates with you, this story.
Speaker 7 (20:45):
Oh, yes, I've been in a seventeen year relationship. I
have a child, blended family. He's a great guy. I mean,
don't get mean, he's a family guy. But seventeen years
weekend drinker doesn't get better. Definitely need some kind of
therapy there. You know, it's just it's a hard situation.
(21:07):
You're six months and you know you have your whole
life ahead of you. It's sometimes it's not worth it.
Now it's gotten better through the years, but you don't
want to wait seventeen years for it to get better,
you know what I mean. Like he's like he has
really calmed down through the years, but you know it
was hardy, nothing but heartache and heartbreak and coming and
(21:31):
going into the house, and then when you have children,
it just makes it even worse because it's just like
you just feel stuck. And I'm a product of a divorce,
you know, divorce parents, and you know I've been through
relationships and whatnot, and it's just it's a hard you
want to make up. I say, Oh, he's a teddy bear,
He's this He's a family guy. He does great things,
(21:53):
very successful, very this, very that. But it's you know,
you're willing to spend the rest of your time with
somebody who just constantly drinks on the weekend. It's it's
never going to change, and they're never going to change,
and you know there's deeper issues there. There's deeper, deeper
issues there, Beyonca.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
You what you're saying resonates with me a little bit.
And I think probably other people in the room who
are the product of a divorced family, because because I
know Caitlin Is, I am Paulina was. It's like, I
think if I were married and I had kids, I
can tell you that I would and I think in
some ways it maybe is preventive of me getting into
a serious relationship. I don't want to be to someone
(22:34):
else what my parents were to each other at that time,
you know, I mean, like, I don't want to. I
don't want I don't want to be in a situation
where I get divorced. I don't want to be in
a situation where I have kids and I break up
the family or the family is broken up by my
actions are someone else's, And so I think I would
be inclined to stick with things and behaviors and mannerisms
that are unhealthy, and I think this is a trap
(22:55):
that a lot of people fall into, where it's like, wow,
I don't want to break up for the kids, I
don't want to divorcely, but it's like, hey, how long
can you live like that?
Speaker 9 (23:02):
You know?
Speaker 7 (23:03):
Yeah, it's very hard.
Speaker 9 (23:04):
You know.
Speaker 7 (23:05):
I cheer her in my own head here and there.
It's kind of like, but I stuck around this long? Yeah,
why am I going to leave now?
Speaker 9 (23:12):
You know?
Speaker 7 (23:12):
But I mean, like I said, through the years, that
has gotten a lot better. But you know, you do
suffer through I suffer through a lot of years in
between where I'm like, hey, you know, what the heck
am I doing? You know, like this is not right
and it's not and it's not fair if you're bringing
you know, other little people into the world and they
see that.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Yeah, yeah, you know, well they see that mom or
dad isn't happy, and I know you think you're doing
the right thing, but sadly, you know, this stuff does permeate.
And look, I thank you for sharing. Very brave of you, Bianca,
and I appreciate you calling and for offering your perspective.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Have a good morning, thank you too. Yeah. Sadly this
is I mean a lot of these calls are the same.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
It's almost universally go yeah, so yeah, Molly, Hi.
Speaker 3 (23:53):
Good morning. Hi. How are you hey?
Speaker 2 (23:56):
You say good? Thanks for calling for listening. So just
said recap and stair go.
Speaker 10 (23:59):
Here.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
This woman and she's been with the guy for six months.
She thinks he's perfect in every way except and these
are my words, but he binge drinks on the weekend,
and he gets combative, not with her, but with other people.
He leaves her places, doesn't communicate well when he's reached
his limits, and you know, she's wondering, is this something
that I need to overlook or that I can overlook?
And I mean overwhelmingly people are saying no.
Speaker 12 (24:24):
Right, she absolutely needs to go. So my reasoning is
that since they've only been together for six months, if
the relationship does get any longer, and let's say they
have kids, or they get married, or something happens at
his job and then there's more stressors or his life,
he might start drinking more and with the if he's
already being mister macho man at the bar, like he's
(24:47):
probably going to be physically abusive towards her and she
definitely does not need that in her life.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yeah, and I hate that she feels that he's perfect
in every way except for this. And I don't know
the guy, but that's a big this, you know what
I mean. He's perfect in every way except he's a
binge drinker and he and it seems like it's somebody
that he wants to deny and and doesn't. Isn't going
to be able to adjust easily that that Unfortunately, that
means you might deserve more.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
He might not be as perfect as you think.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
Yeah, oh that's a big issue.
Speaker 8 (25:16):
And then if you bring children into the mix, A
lot of people are saying, you know, they stay for
the kids. The worst thing you can do is say
these situations for your kids.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
I agree.
Speaker 8 (25:24):
The kids are traumatized because they're scared of dad on
the weekend.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Yeah, I agree, I agree.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
You know, it's a it's as serious and it's a
sad situation, but you know, six months might be it
might be more than enough to know that this is
what you're up against and it's sad. Thank you, Mollie,
thanks for calling, have a good day.
Speaker 12 (25:41):
Thanks Love you guys.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I love you too. I only got time for one more. Sophia,
you're a therapist as well. Good morning.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Hi. Yes, I'm so glad that I got through because
I'm never a caller in for the radio, but I
felt like I needed to because I actually have I
am a therapist. But I also have firsthand experience within
my family of this happening where my brother in law
became somebody that was a drinker and unfortunately he took
(26:10):
it out on my sister and he became physically abusive
and it is very sad situation. One night he drank
too much, he became abusive, and she almost died because
of the situation. So this is just like in my gut,
like you need to go, Like there is no waiting
for them to get help. You're you're so new in
(26:30):
the relationship, you're going to find another guy that texts
every box and there is no this that you have
to kind.
Speaker 9 (26:37):
Of roll out.
Speaker 4 (26:39):
But it's just it's the beginning signs of abuse. If
he's already doing it in public, just when he's get home,
it's going to become even worse because there's no audience.
She needs to go.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Yeah, yeah, Sophia, thank you have a good day. Thank
you for calling. I hate to say them, and in
my personal experience too, I think sometimes people need to
hit rock bottom. They sometimes they need to either stand
to lose or lose everything absolutely before they can come
to the Sadly, some people that that's not enough either.
But you know, again, the threats aren't going to do
anything unless you actually follow through with it. And the
(27:11):
truth is if if he feels for you what you
feel for him, then maybe he looks in the mirror
and says, this is a change I need to make
if I want to be with this person. And if
he doesn't make that change, I think that you then
learned in six months what you didn't need to take
ten years to learn.
Speaker 9 (27:25):
Right.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Absolutely, Yes, he.
Speaker 5 (27:27):
Has to want something more than he wants to drink.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, it sounds like it.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
And thanks for the actual professionals for calling, because I
mean it's unfortunately we've all lived many of us in
this room have lived there. Yes, but at the same time,
I don't claim to you know, know exactly the path
to take.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
But all right, we'll get back to smut.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
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