June 5, 2025 • 19 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
They're calling it an't I like the world they're calling it.
The Internet's calling it poor people habits.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Now I don't like.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
I don't like to see it that way, because there
are very wealthy people who are doing some of these things.
Let's call it frugality. Let's call it frugal. Okay, maybe
you have money and you still do this stuff. But
what is something that you do? Maybe maybe you came
from humble beginnings and now you're wildly wealthy. Maybe you
came from humble beginning to now you can just afford
to pay your bills.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Maybe not.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
You could be very rich and do this, you could
still not have a lot of money. Eight five five
five five. What is something that you realize that you
do cheap? I go with cheap install I think the
word cheap is better to me than poor. Yeah, for example,
but my house plastic container and then this is not
my house, my mom. Plastic containers from almost anywhere tend
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to get watched and reused on a regular basis, So
you don't have to buy tupperware. I wouldn't say that.
I wouldn't it's poor, I mean maybe, but cheap, like
it's you You could go and you get on Amazon,
if for not very much money, get yourself a couple
of containers. Right, No, not in our house. There was
a time when when cups that some might believe should
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have been thrown away disposable cups.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Were being washed and reused.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
There was a time. There was a time.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Now I would have thought that it was a kind
of solo cup that just sort of that you had
in college. It just kind of goes away. But no,
it was viewed by some in our home growing up
as something that could be washed and reused. There's nothing
wrong with that at all. Can you guys think of
anything that you do and it's probably it's probably from
your parents, it's probably from childhood.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
I own a dishwasher, and like most people do in
their home, and I never use it.
Speaker 5 (01:39):
I never like, it never comes to me to do it.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
My body like rejects turning to put it in the dishwashing.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, because you think it's too expensive to run it
or something.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
I just never used one growing up.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
So I think it's more efficient than washing it yourself.
It is.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I should be using it, like that's what it's there for,
and I just don't like to load it and then
and maybe a little lazy but like I like to
load it unloaded all that.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
But also I'm like, no, like put the dishes in
the sink.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
I'm gonna get my little sponge, the sponge that I
have to use until it like fall apart, and I'll
just scrub things myself.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
I can't use a dishwasher.
Speaker 6 (02:09):
It's so hard for me. It's trauma thing. We had
one in our house growing up, but we were not allowed.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
To touch it.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I know some people use it as a like another cabinet, yeah,
like and some people would seek the storage. Yeah, this
is another place in store pots and pans, but we
don't actually turn it off.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
People did that you could never use it.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
And it wasn't a money thing in her mind.
Speaker 6 (02:27):
I think it was, But I also think she just
wanted us to do some work around the house because
the one time I did sneak and try to use it,
I use dish detergent and it was bubbles.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
All over the house.
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Yes, so ever since that moment, I don't use my
dishwasher either.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
It's I'm like scared of it. It's weird, so scared
of it. But from sheep stuff.
Speaker 6 (02:46):
I mean, it's you just got to take some napkins
wherever I need extra napkins where I am.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
For the car, I do not like.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, that's why Subway gives you the napkins so they
don't leave. They don't leave it out there for you.
Imagine how much they save. I'm sure someone's done the
math on this, because everybody grabs five times more napkins
than they need, and most of the time that stuff
winds up in the trash. But at Subway, no, they
give you like a little you can use your receipt
if you want to wipe your face off, that's what
that's what you got. And then but then there's not
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a bunch of wasted napkins. I bet you they get
ten times more out of their napkins supply than everybody
and any other.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Fast food chain does, oh for sure, for this reason.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Okay, so some examples were to use every single drop
from products, squeezing the life out of toothpaste. Here's how
I do that, mainly because I usually don't have a backup,
and I'm a little too lazy to go get one.
But I'll tell you something, when my brain tells me
I need a backup, it's amazing how I can get
two more weeks out of that little thing by just
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contorting it into different positions.
Speaker 7 (03:47):
Oh, I cut it and stick my toothbrush like literally
every inch.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
What we don't want you doing that?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now, nice tougher out here, but they're not that tough.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
No, I need real less job. I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
But it goes to show that normally when I would say, okay,
I need a new toothpast thing. Maybe I should get
on Amazon or go to Target or whatever. I can
throw this away now, No, two weeks later, I'm still
using it somehow. I mean every I don't know why
I got this thing. I've rolled it one way, I've
rolled it the other. At some point the I pushed
the toothpaste container through the I don't know. It has
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nothing to do with frugality. It's because I'm lazy and
I never have a backup. It seems like, I mean,
this is always checking the clearance section at clothing stories.
That's not I don't think that's frugal or cheap. I
think that people looking for a deal.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
In fact, sometimes you go to the clearance eyele and
you wind up spending money that you didn't intend to
spend because well it was such a good deal.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Yeah, target heads and figure it out.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yeah, keeping leftover screws, nuts and bolts from furniture, kids
and old broken appliances.
Speaker 5 (04:51):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Except when do you ever wind up using? Very rarely?
But it's like, I can't throw this away. It's still
Allen Wrench. It gave me an Alan rerench. I can't
throw this away. Well, how many of those do you
have to have before? It's like I have never used
this thing twice because everything comes with the new Allen wrench.
Never wasting food again. This is like this is a
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list from the internet like that people have put together
from all of the comments. Okay, using grocery bags as
trash bags, Oh yes, oh.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yeah I do that. Yeah you have to.
Speaker 7 (05:20):
And I also use them to like pack my shoes,
Like I'll keep that plastic bags and then if I pack,
I'll put my shoes in them and I'll use them
over and over again.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Okay. Checking restaurant prices before looking at the menu. I mean,
well you would like go online and yeah, like so
someone's like, hey, we're going to outback this weekend and
you're like, okay, so you go to the to see
how much you're going to have to spend.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I've done that before.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Usually if there's an accent mark in the restaurant or
for a different language, and someone invites me, that's when
I will usually go on the internet and go how
much is it gonna send?
Speaker 5 (05:52):
How many money signs?
Speaker 7 (05:53):
Right?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Right?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
One, two, three exactly.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
If it's like I'm away, I'm a you know, some
kind of like or if it's called like tads, you know,
or like if it's a one word restaurant, then I
know that some dude who has a James Beard Award
opened the thing up and he's you know, he's serving
mushrooms that taste like oranges somehow, and you're like, this
is eighty seven dollars. Let me see here collecting all
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the complimentary soaps and products at hotels. Well, that used
to be a thing, but now they just have that
little communal thing, which scares me because it's supposed to
be locked in a way that only the housekeepers can access.
But most of the time I can lift that thing
right up, which means you could do you could some
nasty person could just do anything to this soap. Is
that it's grosser. Let me see what else here? Fixing
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things your side. I wish I could fix things myself.
Turning off lights when leaving a room, yes, yeah, walking everywhere,
hand washing zip blocked Yeah, this is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Hand washing ziplocked bags.
Speaker 8 (06:57):
Mike's mom does this, and when I first saw for
the first time, I was like, what are you doing?
I will use it, wash it, and then leave it
on the disc track like upside down to dry.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
And I'm like, wow, okay, Like I'm.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Confused about this because some of this is just being responsible,
like walking when you don't have to uber or or
looking for deals on stuff or whatever, eating all your
food like that. I think most people should be less wasteful, right,
But washing a zip lock bag that's intended to be
disposed of, now that's another level.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I was like, wow, that's like Kaylin and the soup pass.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, yeah, what.
Speaker 7 (07:32):
About like.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
I do it all.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
My mom has a cabinet in her house that's like
any any wrapping paper or usually it's tissue paper that
was like in a bag.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Yeah, so it wasn't ripped or anything.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
There's a little stack of flattened tissue paper and re
and gift bags, which I mean, wait.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Yeah, I do that too.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Sometimes I'll get the gift back bag that I put
something in. All I'll be like, oh this, I bought this,
so that's cool. I mean, but it's a gift bags
ten box or eight bucks or whatever, and yes, I
guess cheap. Maybe they see here licking yogurt tops to
maximize value.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Oh that's I'm hungry.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Yeah, that's because I'm a fan of you. Has nothing
to do with it.
Speaker 5 (08:14):
Yeah, everything clean, my play.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
A bunch of texture.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
I watched plastic baggies and reuse dilute or dilute shampoo
and dish detergent, make my own jams, and grow my
own veggies.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I only watch free TV.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I never eat out, go to free summer concerts, thrift
shop for everything, or go to the buy nothing groups
on Facebook. And this person will probably die with eight
million dollars too. This is going to be that librarian
that you read about that was a librarian for fifty
years and then graduate or then dies after retirement and
gives eight million dollars to the college because they did
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all of this. But then you have to ask yourself,
so you save a ton of money. What do you
do with the money, Because sometimes I feel like for
some people, I feel like the flex is to say
the money, but then you die. I'm not saying this
person is gonna die, but you know what I mean.
Like it it's balance, right, Like maybe I maybe I
don't watch the baggies sometimes and maybe I go out
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to eat sometimes and I let somebody else cut my
veggies and then sometimes I eat the veggies from the yard.
Speaker 5 (09:15):
Some do it with airplane miles.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Okay, you know that's a different that's a different conversation.
You want to start something with me today? No, are
you coming from me? A lot of people agree with
me on the airline mouth. I just had a conver Yeah, so.
Speaker 5 (09:30):
You're gonna die with your airplane.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
You're right, I am, But I'm not gonna go coach
to the Zimbabwe for a million miles.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I refuse. Okay, that's a whole different time. No, you
done did it?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Now? My grandpa tried to rewash paper plates, paper plates.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
My aunt washes aluminum foil.
Speaker 5 (09:55):
Oh no, no.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
My god.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Someone said that they like they're there, who says their grandma?
There's somebody grandfather A friend of mine washes the styrofoam
trays that meat comes in.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Oh, that cannot be sanitary.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
There's got to be something like just seeps into that
that you can never possibly get out.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
No, and you know what I just remembered. I also do.
Speaker 7 (10:16):
I freeze a lot of food if I don't want
to eat it right away, Like I'll freeze my Jet's
pizza and like eat it later.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
That's why you're able to pay off them student loans.
We need to learn from.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
It's like, hey, Jet's pizza. We have Jets pizza at home.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
It's just a little off from the original, but it's
still good.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I didn't know you.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I know you could freeze already made pizza my aunt.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
That's gross.
Speaker 5 (10:42):
It's that bad.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
I mean, I guess in a pinch or whatever. And
sons like why are you paying ten bucks for a
gift bag? Like what you ever heard of dollar tree?
Someone said, I'm like yeah, except like that's that's when
you stock up on stuff, like oh, I have it.
I Oh, I'm gonna need gift bags some days, so
I get them. That's never how it goes. It's like
I'm on my way to something, I'm like, oh my god,
I got to bring a gift yep, and I'm running
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to Walgreens or CBS or Target, and they're, you know,
there it is on the you know, glowing from the
you know, from the rich people section, you know, eleven
dollars or whatever. And it's like, ah, same with cards,
like you know, it never never fails.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
The cards are all corny.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
And then there's the one that's like fourteen dollars that
like lights up and fireworks come out of it and whatever,
like that's the one I wind up with because it's
the only one that doesn't say anything stupid on it. Yes,
and then before long I spent more on the on
the car than and the and the bag. I should
have just handed you fifty bucks instead of a twenty
five dollars gift card and twenty five dollars worth of wrapping.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
But yeah, see, some people like they they would go
to the.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Dollar store and say, Okay, I know that coming up,
I'm going in my life, I'm going to need paper,
and I'm going to need pencils, and I'm gonna need
this and that, and so you stock up on it.
That's not I'm a bachelor. I don't have that saying
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certainly hope. So Jason, let's do a blog.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Take it away? Thank you? So much pressure because I'm
on YouTube live right now. I know it's like there
are seven people.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I don't even if there's a seven, and several of
them are already in this room watching ourselves.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
So never mind, we don't heard many people.
Speaker 8 (12:45):
Yeah that's yeah, that's harder. So deer blog. So I have,
as we always do. We have a crazy June. Right
there's a million things happening. It's Pride month. There's just
a million events we have to do. In the middle
of all of it, I am a fitiating my first
wedding in like a little over two weeks from now,
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so I'm like trying to rep my head around, like
how to work this out. So last Friday, Mike and
I had dinner with his nephew and his fiance. Who
are the couple that I am whose wedding I'm officiating for?
And of course we went to our favorite Mexican restaurant
and it's your church. Yes, right, you would go all right?
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I tried to talk them into actually having the ceremony there. Yeah,
like me up there with.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
A clergy, right, I assume you went through the arduous
process of the Universal Life Church.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Yes, it's very hard. I have the badge, I have
this certificate kit Well depends which kitchen.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Did you get the deluxe kit that comes with the hospital.
Speaker 8 (13:47):
Everything? I got like the top tier. I got a
whole packet of stuff. I didn't even go through it.
There's like a magazine in it, Like I don't know
what it is, but I.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Know he conducts Mass on Friday nights at his favorite
Mexican restaurant. And instead of the chalice of your Catholic
instead of the jealous of wine.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, yes, that is the altar that I worship at.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
And then he wipes it and turns it and then
you know, you get your turn anyway. Sorry, sorry, sorry,
I digress exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
That sounds like a great Friday night.
Speaker 8 (14:12):
So we had dinner and I brought and I found
a script that I was like sort of tweaking and
like working off of. So I was like kind of
going section by section and they were like, no, we
don't want that, we want to skip that, we don't
want to do that. And then so I'm like okay,
like I'm taking notes like whatever. They don't want to
shout out their dead relatives, got it?
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Okay? Cool, so right, like you know, pour one out.
Speaker 8 (14:31):
So then we're going through and then Mike starts chiming in,
who has vehemently said since the beginning of this process
that he doesn't want to have a role, like he
wants to be a bystander, right like he doesn't want
to have to rehearse how to walk, or he didn't
want to be an usher.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
He just wants to sit. They he doesn't like that, right,
So but all of a sudden he's.
Speaker 8 (14:53):
Got an opinion about like what I should be doing, right, So,
like He's like, well, it better be funny, like it
better be your her to entertain. I'm I'm not here
to entertain, Like I'm not here to be so I'm like,
does your whole family think that I'm going to be
up here? Like def jam comedy Hour, Like that's not
what I was planning. I was gonna throw a little
you know, pizzazz in it. I wasn't gonna like go
full priest, but like.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
You know, it's fun and I've done many of these,
and I this isn't my idea. A few different people
can't talk I can't talk this. Why don't do them anymore?
A few different people gave me this idea. But I
can give you a questionnaire. An'swer a two page questionnaire
that you give to each person, and it's like how
did you meet? And it's a bunch of different things,
and then you give it to both the same question
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to both of them, and then you take the information
that they fill out and integrate that into what you're saying.
But you can ask funny questions like I don't know
about memories, like what was your first kiss?
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Where was your first kiss? And you could even play
off with the.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Fact that they won't get the answers right, like, it'll
be like, well this so they met here and they
thought it happened like this. So you get like personal
tidbits that you can then inject into the thing.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I can give you my little script too. I got
a little script. Yes, I'll take you out. You know,
I'm a veteran of the three Lesbian couples at once.
Speaker 8 (16:05):
You were there, yeah, because I were there be trained,
you know, and learn from greatness.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
But I was also well done.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
If you want greatness, then we'll get you quickly something.
But like I can give you, like just to get
you through it. I'll take what I can get.
Speaker 8 (16:17):
What I was also thinking was finding people that like
weren't giving speeches that were really close to them and
so if it's like their family or whatever, and talking
to them at maybe getting like a couple one liners
from them, right like so they have a little bit
of presence in there.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
But I don't know, I'm like.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Don't try like put funny things in it, but don't
try and be funny. That's the biggest like wedding speech
gaff that I see from people is that they write
jokes right and they're not comedians and they're not speakers,
and there's no fault of their own, but they go
up there and they're nervous already and then they lay
out a joke that they were sure was going to
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kill and then when it's like then you've got eight
more minutes of speaking to do, and you feel deflated,
So like, don't write jokes. Maybe put stuff in there
that's cute or funny, but then if you don't hit it,
then you know what I mean that way, you will
feel bad, Yeah, because it's like you're right because we're
not Chris Rock up here and Dave Chappelle. So yeah, okay,
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this is gonna be the icebreaker. I'm gonna say it.
Within the first minute. Everyone's gonna laugh, and then I'm
gonna relax and I'm gonna set the mood and then
you then you do it. And if it doesn't get
the response that you if it's not like hysterical laughing,
like like Showtime with the Apollo, if everyone stands up
in the front row and they can hardly control themselves,
then then you feel bad about yourself.
Speaker 8 (17:32):
And then it that's how you start, so exactly the
exactly so I don't know I'm getting really nervous, but
you got this. I'll take any and all suggestions and
resources that you might have.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
You got this when I think of preacher, when I
think of priests. You know, a man of the word,
Jason Brown, That's how you got That's.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
What Mike he's like. You know, you need to have
a handheld. Mike may be walking around.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Either involved or you get out Mike the mechanics. You
find some rolling here, you know, either you change out
their carburetor or something in the middle of this thing,
or you can have a seat and then stay out.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Of it, right like you don't have to get up
and do anything like I have. Oh my gosh. So yeah,
I'm a little nervous, but we'll see how it goes.
You're gonna be fine. Thanks, You're gonna be great. You're
gonna be great.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Now you're gonna wear like a full like you're gonna
have like a chalice and you're gonna wear like a
full robe.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
I wanted to give Popolo like, that's what I wanted to, but.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
With the white hat, I think they wouldn't let me.
But really that's mainly because it's like religious. But other
than that, never mind.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Oh, we gotta hit at church.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
So I remember when we married the uh it was
when gay marriage became legal in Illinois, and we paid
for and we married three lesbian couples at once. And
I remember we did the rehearsal and the people, like
the parents were like not into it because they didn't
think I was gonna take it seriously. They were like,
this is some kind of joke for you. And I
remember at the end of it, one of the mothers
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of the bride, it was not nice to me.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
She was rude to me the whole time.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Wow, because I think she thought it was a joke.
I think she thought I thought it was a joke
and I did not. I took it very seriously. Yeah,
And at the end of it she was like, wow,
like I couldn't believe how heartfelt that was. Like you
really take it seriously, and like, yes, I take other
people's love very seriously.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
I do. I take other people's lifelong commitment seriously. My
own not really
They're calling it an't I like the world they're calling it.
The Internet's calling it poor people habits.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Now I don't like.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
I don't like to see it that way, because there
are very wealthy people who are doing some of these things.
Let's call it frugality. Let's call it frugal. Okay, maybe
you have money and you still do this stuff. But
what is something that you do? Maybe maybe you came
from humble beginnings and now you're wildly wealthy. Maybe you
came from humble beginning to now you can just afford
to pay your bills.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Maybe not.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
You could be very rich and do this, you could
still not have a lot of money. Eight five five
five five. What is something that you realize that you
do cheap? I go with cheap install I think the
word cheap is better to me than poor. Yeah, for example,
but my house plastic container and then this is not
my house, my mom. Plastic containers from almost anywhere tend
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to get watched and reused on a regular basis, So
you don't have to buy tupperware. I wouldn't say that.
I wouldn't it's poor, I mean maybe, but cheap, like
it's you You could go and you get on Amazon,
if for not very much money, get yourself a couple
of containers. Right, No, not in our house. There was
a time when when cups that some might believe should
(01:13):
have been thrown away disposable cups.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Were being washed and reused.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
There was a time. There was a time.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Now I would have thought that it was a kind
of solo cup that just sort of that you had
in college. It just kind of goes away. But no,
it was viewed by some in our home growing up
as something that could be washed and reused. There's nothing
wrong with that at all. Can you guys think of
anything that you do and it's probably it's probably from
your parents, it's probably from childhood.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
I own a dishwasher, and like most people do in
their home, and I never use it.
Speaker 5 (01:39):
I never like, it never comes to me to do it.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
My body like rejects turning to put it in the dishwashing.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, because you think it's too expensive to run it
or something.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
I just never used one growing up.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
So I think it's more efficient than washing it yourself.
It is.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I should be using it, like that's what it's there for,
and I just don't like to load it and then
and maybe a little lazy but like I like to
load it unloaded all that.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
But also I'm like, no, like put the dishes in
the sink.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
I'm gonna get my little sponge, the sponge that I
have to use until it like fall apart, and I'll
just scrub things myself.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
I can't use a dishwasher.
Speaker 6 (02:09):
It's so hard for me. It's trauma thing. We had
one in our house growing up, but we were not allowed.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
To touch it.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I know some people use it as a like another cabinet, yeah,
like and some people would seek the storage. Yeah, this
is another place in store pots and pans, but we
don't actually turn it off.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
People did that you could never use it.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
And it wasn't a money thing in her mind.
Speaker 6 (02:27):
I think it was, But I also think she just
wanted us to do some work around the house because
the one time I did sneak and try to use it,
I use dish detergent and it was bubbles.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
All over the house.
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Yes, so ever since that moment, I don't use my
dishwasher either.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
It's I'm like scared of it. It's weird, so scared
of it. But from sheep stuff.
Speaker 6 (02:46):
I mean, it's you just got to take some napkins
wherever I need extra napkins where I am.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
For the car, I do not like.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, that's why Subway gives you the napkins so they
don't leave. They don't leave it out there for you.
Imagine how much they save. I'm sure someone's done the
math on this, because everybody grabs five times more napkins
than they need, and most of the time that stuff
winds up in the trash. But at Subway, no, they
give you like a little you can use your receipt
if you want to wipe your face off, that's what
that's what you got. And then but then there's not
(03:16):
a bunch of wasted napkins. I bet you they get
ten times more out of their napkins supply than everybody
and any other.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Fast food chain does, oh for sure, for this reason.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Okay, so some examples were to use every single drop
from products, squeezing the life out of toothpaste. Here's how
I do that, mainly because I usually don't have a backup,
and I'm a little too lazy to go get one.
But I'll tell you something, when my brain tells me
I need a backup, it's amazing how I can get
two more weeks out of that little thing by just
(03:46):
contorting it into different positions.
Speaker 7 (03:47):
Oh, I cut it and stick my toothbrush like literally
every inch.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
What we don't want you doing that?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now, nice tougher out here, but they're not that tough.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
No, I need real less job. I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
But it goes to show that normally when I would say, okay,
I need a new toothpast thing. Maybe I should get
on Amazon or go to Target or whatever. I can
throw this away now, No, two weeks later, I'm still
using it somehow. I mean every I don't know why
I got this thing. I've rolled it one way, I've
rolled it the other. At some point the I pushed
the toothpaste container through the I don't know. It has
(04:21):
nothing to do with frugality. It's because I'm lazy and
I never have a backup. It seems like, I mean,
this is always checking the clearance section at clothing stories.
That's not I don't think that's frugal or cheap. I
think that people looking for a deal.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
In fact, sometimes you go to the clearance eyele and
you wind up spending money that you didn't intend to
spend because well it was such a good deal.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Yeah, target heads and figure it out.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yeah, keeping leftover screws, nuts and bolts from furniture, kids
and old broken appliances.
Speaker 5 (04:51):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Except when do you ever wind up using? Very rarely?
But it's like, I can't throw this away. It's still
Allen Wrench. It gave me an Alan rerench. I can't
throw this away. Well, how many of those do you
have to have before? It's like I have never used
this thing twice because everything comes with the new Allen wrench.
Never wasting food again. This is like this is a
(05:12):
list from the internet like that people have put together
from all of the comments. Okay, using grocery bags as
trash bags, Oh yes, oh.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yeah I do that. Yeah you have to.
Speaker 7 (05:20):
And I also use them to like pack my shoes,
Like I'll keep that plastic bags and then if I pack,
I'll put my shoes in them and I'll use them
over and over again.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Okay. Checking restaurant prices before looking at the menu. I mean,
well you would like go online and yeah, like so
someone's like, hey, we're going to outback this weekend and
you're like, okay, so you go to the to see
how much you're going to have to spend.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I've done that before.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Usually if there's an accent mark in the restaurant or
for a different language, and someone invites me, that's when
I will usually go on the internet and go how
much is it gonna send?
Speaker 5 (05:52):
How many money signs?
Speaker 7 (05:53):
Right?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Right?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
One, two, three exactly.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
If it's like I'm away, I'm a you know, some
kind of like or if it's called like tads, you know,
or like if it's a one word restaurant, then I
know that some dude who has a James Beard Award
opened the thing up and he's you know, he's serving
mushrooms that taste like oranges somehow, and you're like, this
is eighty seven dollars. Let me see here collecting all
(06:17):
the complimentary soaps and products at hotels. Well, that used
to be a thing, but now they just have that
little communal thing, which scares me because it's supposed to
be locked in a way that only the housekeepers can access.
But most of the time I can lift that thing
right up, which means you could do you could some
nasty person could just do anything to this soap. Is
that it's grosser. Let me see what else here? Fixing
(06:44):
things your side. I wish I could fix things myself.
Turning off lights when leaving a room, yes, yeah, walking everywhere,
hand washing zip blocked Yeah, this is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Hand washing ziplocked bags.
Speaker 8 (06:57):
Mike's mom does this, and when I first saw for
the first time, I was like, what are you doing?
I will use it, wash it, and then leave it
on the disc track like upside down to dry.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
And I'm like, wow, okay, Like I'm.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Confused about this because some of this is just being responsible,
like walking when you don't have to uber or or
looking for deals on stuff or whatever, eating all your
food like that. I think most people should be less wasteful, right,
But washing a zip lock bag that's intended to be
disposed of, now that's another level.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I was like, wow, that's like Kaylin and the soup pass.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, yeah, what.
Speaker 7 (07:32):
About like.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
I do it all.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
My mom has a cabinet in her house that's like
any any wrapping paper or usually it's tissue paper that
was like in a bag.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Yeah, so it wasn't ripped or anything.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
There's a little stack of flattened tissue paper and re
and gift bags, which I mean, wait.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Yeah, I do that too.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Sometimes I'll get the gift back bag that I put
something in. All I'll be like, oh this, I bought this,
so that's cool. I mean, but it's a gift bags
ten box or eight bucks or whatever, and yes, I
guess cheap. Maybe they see here licking yogurt tops to
maximize value.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Oh that's I'm hungry.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Yeah, that's because I'm a fan of you. Has nothing
to do with it.
Speaker 5 (08:14):
Yeah, everything clean, my play.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
A bunch of texture.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
I watched plastic baggies and reuse dilute or dilute shampoo
and dish detergent, make my own jams, and grow my
own veggies.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I only watch free TV.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I never eat out, go to free summer concerts, thrift
shop for everything, or go to the buy nothing groups
on Facebook. And this person will probably die with eight
million dollars too. This is going to be that librarian
that you read about that was a librarian for fifty
years and then graduate or then dies after retirement and
gives eight million dollars to the college because they did
(08:49):
all of this. But then you have to ask yourself,
so you save a ton of money. What do you
do with the money, Because sometimes I feel like for
some people, I feel like the flex is to say
the money, but then you die. I'm not saying this
person is gonna die, but you know what I mean.
Like it it's balance, right, Like maybe I maybe I
don't watch the baggies sometimes and maybe I go out
(09:10):
to eat sometimes and I let somebody else cut my
veggies and then sometimes I eat the veggies from the yard.
Speaker 5 (09:15):
Some do it with airplane miles.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Okay, you know that's a different that's a different conversation.
You want to start something with me today? No, are
you coming from me? A lot of people agree with
me on the airline mouth. I just had a conver Yeah, so.
Speaker 5 (09:30):
You're gonna die with your airplane.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
You're right, I am, But I'm not gonna go coach
to the Zimbabwe for a million miles.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I refuse. Okay, that's a whole different time. No, you
done did it?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Now? My grandpa tried to rewash paper plates, paper plates.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
My aunt washes aluminum foil.
Speaker 5 (09:55):
Oh no, no.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
My god.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Someone said that they like they're there, who says their grandma?
There's somebody grandfather A friend of mine washes the styrofoam
trays that meat comes in.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Oh, that cannot be sanitary.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
There's got to be something like just seeps into that
that you can never possibly get out.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
No, and you know what I just remembered. I also do.
Speaker 7 (10:16):
I freeze a lot of food if I don't want
to eat it right away, Like I'll freeze my Jet's
pizza and like eat it later.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
That's why you're able to pay off them student loans.
We need to learn from.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
It's like, hey, Jet's pizza. We have Jets pizza at home.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
It's just a little off from the original, but it's
still good.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I didn't know you.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I know you could freeze already made pizza my aunt.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
That's gross.
Speaker 5 (10:42):
It's that bad.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
I mean, I guess in a pinch or whatever. And
sons like why are you paying ten bucks for a
gift bag? Like what you ever heard of dollar tree?
Someone said, I'm like yeah, except like that's that's when
you stock up on stuff, like oh, I have it.
I Oh, I'm gonna need gift bags some days, so
I get them. That's never how it goes. It's like
I'm on my way to something, I'm like, oh my god,
I got to bring a gift yep, and I'm running
(11:04):
to Walgreens or CBS or Target, and they're, you know,
there it is on the you know, glowing from the
you know, from the rich people section, you know, eleven
dollars or whatever. And it's like, ah, same with cards,
like you know, it never never fails.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
The cards are all corny.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
And then there's the one that's like fourteen dollars that
like lights up and fireworks come out of it and whatever,
like that's the one I wind up with because it's
the only one that doesn't say anything stupid on it. Yes,
and then before long I spent more on the on
the car than and the and the bag. I should
have just handed you fifty bucks instead of a twenty
five dollars gift card and twenty five dollars worth of wrapping.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
But yeah, see, some people like they they would go
to the.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Dollar store and say, Okay, I know that coming up,
I'm going in my life, I'm going to need paper,
and I'm going to need pencils, and I'm gonna need
this and that, and so you stock up on it.
That's not I'm a bachelor. I don't have that saying
I don't get we'll say see exactly. Blogs waiting by
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certainly hope. So Jason, let's do a blog.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
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on YouTube live right now. I know it's like there
are seven people.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I don't even if there's a seven, and several of
them are already in this room watching ourselves.
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So never mind, we don't heard many people.
Speaker 8 (12:45):
Yeah that's yeah, that's harder. So deer blog. So I have,
as we always do. We have a crazy June. Right
there's a million things happening. It's Pride month. There's just
a million events we have to do. In the middle
of all of it, I am a fitiating my first
wedding in like a little over two weeks from now,
(13:05):
so I'm like trying to rep my head around, like
how to work this out. So last Friday, Mike and
I had dinner with his nephew and his fiance. Who
are the couple that I am whose wedding I'm officiating for?
And of course we went to our favorite Mexican restaurant
and it's your church. Yes, right, you would go all right?
(13:27):
I tried to talk them into actually having the ceremony there. Yeah,
like me up there with.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
A clergy, right, I assume you went through the arduous
process of the Universal Life Church.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Yes, it's very hard. I have the badge, I have
this certificate kit Well depends which kitchen.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Did you get the deluxe kit that comes with the hospital.
Speaker 8 (13:47):
Everything? I got like the top tier. I got a
whole packet of stuff. I didn't even go through it.
There's like a magazine in it, Like I don't know
what it is, but I.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Know he conducts Mass on Friday nights at his favorite
Mexican restaurant. And instead of the chalice of your Catholic
instead of the jealous of wine.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, yes, that is the altar that I worship at.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
And then he wipes it and turns it and then
you know, you get your turn anyway. Sorry, sorry, sorry,
I digress exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
That sounds like a great Friday night.
Speaker 8 (14:12):
So we had dinner and I brought and I found
a script that I was like sort of tweaking and
like working off of. So I was like kind of
going section by section and they were like, no, we
don't want that, we want to skip that, we don't
want to do that. And then so I'm like okay,
like I'm taking notes like whatever. They don't want to
shout out their dead relatives, got it?
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Okay? Cool, so right, like you know, pour one out.
Speaker 8 (14:31):
So then we're going through and then Mike starts chiming in,
who has vehemently said since the beginning of this process
that he doesn't want to have a role, like he
wants to be a bystander, right like he doesn't want
to have to rehearse how to walk, or he didn't
want to be an usher.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
He just wants to sit. They he doesn't like that, right,
So but all of a sudden he's.
Speaker 8 (14:53):
Got an opinion about like what I should be doing, right, So,
like He's like, well, it better be funny, like it
better be your her to entertain. I'm I'm not here
to entertain, Like I'm not here to be so I'm like,
does your whole family think that I'm going to be
up here? Like def jam comedy Hour, Like that's not
what I was planning. I was gonna throw a little
you know, pizzazz in it. I wasn't gonna like go
full priest, but like.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
You know, it's fun and I've done many of these,
and I this isn't my idea. A few different people
can't talk I can't talk this. Why don't do them anymore?
A few different people gave me this idea. But I
can give you a questionnaire. An'swer a two page questionnaire
that you give to each person, and it's like how
did you meet? And it's a bunch of different things,
and then you give it to both the same question
(15:34):
to both of them, and then you take the information
that they fill out and integrate that into what you're saying.
But you can ask funny questions like I don't know
about memories, like what was your first kiss?
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Where was your first kiss? And you could even play
off with the.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Fact that they won't get the answers right, like, it'll
be like, well this so they met here and they
thought it happened like this. So you get like personal
tidbits that you can then inject into the thing.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I can give you my little script too. I got
a little script. Yes, I'll take you out. You know,
I'm a veteran of the three Lesbian couples at once.
Speaker 8 (16:05):
You were there, yeah, because I were there be trained,
you know, and learn from greatness.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
But I was also well done.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
If you want greatness, then we'll get you quickly something.
But like I can give you, like just to get
you through it. I'll take what I can get.
Speaker 8 (16:17):
What I was also thinking was finding people that like
weren't giving speeches that were really close to them and
so if it's like their family or whatever, and talking
to them at maybe getting like a couple one liners
from them, right like so they have a little bit
of presence in there.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
But I don't know, I'm like.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Don't try like put funny things in it, but don't
try and be funny. That's the biggest like wedding speech
gaff that I see from people is that they write
jokes right and they're not comedians and they're not speakers,
and there's no fault of their own, but they go
up there and they're nervous already and then they lay
out a joke that they were sure was going to
(16:50):
kill and then when it's like then you've got eight
more minutes of speaking to do, and you feel deflated,
So like, don't write jokes. Maybe put stuff in there
that's cute or funny, but then if you don't hit it,
then you know what I mean that way, you will
feel bad, Yeah, because it's like you're right because we're
not Chris Rock up here and Dave Chappelle. So yeah, okay,
(17:13):
this is gonna be the icebreaker. I'm gonna say it.
Within the first minute. Everyone's gonna laugh, and then I'm
gonna relax and I'm gonna set the mood and then
you then you do it. And if it doesn't get
the response that you if it's not like hysterical laughing,
like like Showtime with the Apollo, if everyone stands up
in the front row and they can hardly control themselves,
then then you feel bad about yourself.
Speaker 8 (17:32):
And then it that's how you start, so exactly the
exactly so I don't know I'm getting really nervous, but
you got this. I'll take any and all suggestions and
resources that you might have.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
You got this when I think of preacher, when I
think of priests. You know, a man of the word,
Jason Brown, That's how you got That's.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
What Mike he's like. You know, you need to have
a handheld. Mike may be walking around.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Either involved or you get out Mike the mechanics. You
find some rolling here, you know, either you change out
their carburetor or something in the middle of this thing,
or you can have a seat and then stay out.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Of it, right like you don't have to get up
and do anything like I have. Oh my gosh. So yeah,
I'm a little nervous, but we'll see how it goes.
You're gonna be fine. Thanks, You're gonna be great. You're
gonna be great.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Now you're gonna wear like a full like you're gonna
have like a chalice and you're gonna wear like a
full robe.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
I wanted to give Popolo like, that's what I wanted to, but.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
With the white hat, I think they wouldn't let me.
But really that's mainly because it's like religious. But other
than that, never mind.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Oh, we gotta hit at church.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
So I remember when we married the uh it was
when gay marriage became legal in Illinois, and we paid
for and we married three lesbian couples at once. And
I remember we did the rehearsal and the people, like
the parents were like not into it because they didn't
think I was gonna take it seriously. They were like,
this is some kind of joke for you. And I
remember at the end of it, one of the mothers
(18:57):
of the bride, it was not nice to me.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
She was rude to me the whole time.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Wow, because I think she thought it was a joke.
I think she thought I thought it was a joke
and I did not. I took it very seriously. Yeah,
And at the end of it she was like, wow,
like I couldn't believe how heartfelt that was. Like you
really take it seriously, and like, yes, I take other
people's love very seriously.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
I do. I take other people's lifelong commitment seriously. My
own not really
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