June 27, 2025 • 18 mins
Would you tell your friend if they were ugly? Keke would, listen to the crew debate! And Jason get's his first MRI and he was unware of the procedure!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:02):
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Speaker 1 (00:28):
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Speaker 2 (00:31):
Here we go morality Monday on a Friday, which soon
to be heard somewhere else.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
I'm sure.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
So this is from a nineteen year old female. My
friend downloaded dating apps like Tinder and Hinge for the
first time about a week ago for reference. She's the
type that always says she wants a boyfriend, wants to
do couples things, feels lonely, win single, et cetera. She's also,
in my opinion, at least very normal and average looks wise,
(00:58):
not ugly, not super high, just all right. Since then,
she's been complaining to me that almost all of the
men are ugly, short, etc. And that she doesn't match
with anybody who's hot. I asked to see the people
that she was calling ugly, and she showed me her likes,
and it showed people that were particularly sort of within
(01:18):
her league, also moderately attractive people, moderately attractive men. I
told her that these guys were all in her league
and that she should give some of them a chance,
since she always complains about wanting to be in a relationship.
She denied that she's in the same league as them,
and said that she's much more attractive than they are.
I've pointed out in her own words she doesn't match
(01:41):
with any of the guys that she does find attractive,
so she's not in their league. She said, I'm an
ahle am. I So if your friend comes to you
and says, all these ugly guys only ugly guys want
to go out with me, but you find those ugly
guys to be just normal looking guys and you find
(02:03):
your friend to be normal looking, just sounds terrible, but like, honestly,
like if you have a friend who has unreasonable expectations
for and you can dream for whatever you want. But
let's face it, I mean maybe the guy that she
envisions may not be interested in her. Maybe, but let's
and again this sounds bad, but like, let's just be realistic,
(02:25):
right that that maybe she wants to go out with
a supermodel, and and maybe there's a supermodel that would
want to go out with her, but maybe per capita,
she would have a better chance going out with men
who are a little bit more less supermodeling. Is that
a fair thing to say to your friend eight five
five five three five or is that an awful thing
(02:45):
to say because you're kind of helping that that. I mean,
you don't have to call your friend ugly, But you
could say, like, hey, you say you want all these
here's another way you could say that, I think is nicer.
You say you want all these things, right, you want companionship,
you want you want a partner, you feel lonely, you
want to do couples things. Maybe your expectations are a
(03:08):
little high, you know, maybe the things that you're looking
for a little high. Maybe, but you also want the
hottest guy on the internet. So maybe maybe we should
be looking a little more internally, or maybe maybe our
expectations and goals are a little beyond what's reasonable because
we all know the person who will only date one
kind of person, and then that really limits your opportunity
(03:31):
to get the other things that you want. Right, So maybe,
and then also I'm trying to make this sound good,
but basically she says her friend is average and should
find average people, right, which maybe is fair advice. But
we all have probably dated that the person that looks
the way we want them to, but they don't have
any of the other qualities that we want. Maybe they're
not even good people. We've probably also dated ugly people
(03:52):
who aren't good people, or ugly people who are very
great people and provide all the other things. They love
you and they're they're loyal to you and whatever. So
I guess my thing is if you're only looking for
people who you think are super hot, then you're probably
missing a lot of other things.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Oh, yes, that's the way you say it, right.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Well, I mean I would just say it.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
You would, So you would you would say to your
friend Kiki, you, I'm sorry, but you your expectations are
too high and maybe you should bring it back to work.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Yeah, I would say, girl. So we all have strengths
and weak strengths and weaknesses Okay, strengths, and I would say,
you know, you are really strong in the friendship department.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
In the personality, oh damn.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
If anybody calls me struck, if anyone says strengths and weaknesses,
I'm very strong in the personality department.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
You knock it out the park when it comes to personality.
But on the looks, I ain't going you. We could
do a little work, and so I think you should
give another type of guy a chance. And you know,
because or type of guy is down, you're setting your
friends up for failure. Like you're setting a friend up
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and feel you're telling her that she can go get
a hot guy and you know she's ugly, Like, come on.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Be for real. You don't think any of your friends
are ugly?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Do you?
Speaker 5 (05:08):
No?
Speaker 4 (05:08):
But I don't, Okay, I don't think my friends know.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
What they should go for.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
You and I know what I can go for. You know,
like you could have anything you want.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I'm sure, Kaylee wen't want to get real that we've
all probably watched our friends struggle with dating and they
and they gravitate towards something that isn't necessarily the most productive,
whether it's toxic guys or girls, or whether it's rich
guys or guys with a boat which seems to be
a themale dating or or I don't know, maybe they're
just they're not prioritizing the right qualities. So maybe that's
(05:43):
how you say it. It's like, look, you're really focused
on looks, and that's fair. Nobody wants to be with
an ugly person. Maybe you don't even make it about
their appearance. You just say like, but maybe we should
start looking into other qualities because there's more out there.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You can never tell your friend that they are not attraction.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
You cannot say that to someone you love in any circle.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
That's what I mean though, But I'm saying, so fus
focus on the other stuff.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
La, Hi, La, How you doing?
Speaker 5 (06:12):
Ray Breed?
Speaker 4 (06:13):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Guys?
Speaker 5 (06:14):
I love all of you.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
First off, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
What do you tell your friend If your friend is
really focused on looks and they're not necessarily bull of
the same caliber.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Of what they're seeking.
Speaker 5 (06:28):
This is crazy because I mean, I like I text
that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, So
it depends on what you're looking for in beauty. When
you say beauty, do you want to beat the full heart.
Do you want a kind heart? Do you want someone
to takes care of you? Or do you want to
six foot seven fine something, something that is full of
the bad words. So it's just the chance, and it
(06:50):
will be hard to tell a friend. But if you're
a real friend, I would be super honest. I would
be super honest. I want to tell her that she
was ugly, you know, but I would be like, you,
guys are compatible. Look at him, look at you. It
just depends on what you're looking.
Speaker 6 (07:05):
At him, and.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Look at you, with all due respect, look at him
and look at you. It's not that's.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Not the approach. Look at him, look at you.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
I got to think that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, hey, we're just whiteboarding here and no bad ideas.
Thank you, La, have a good day. I love you,
call anytime. Hey, Mandy, how you doing, Mandy? Good morning?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Look at him and look at you.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Make a cute baby.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
That's how you got to say it, because you know
they say ugly people make you baby.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Jesus yea make a great baby.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Negative positive? Don't you remember that?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Going What do you say to your friend who's shooting
for the stars from a dating perspective and not hitting
because maybe they should be a little bit more reasonable, realistic.
Speaker 7 (08:08):
Well, there's a way that you can say things to
your friend without being a jerk. So like when you're
at work you want someone to do something for you,
instead of saying, you know, ordering them around to do it,
say you know, can you help me? Or you know,
when you're talking to your friend, you tell your friend, hey,
you know, maybe this guy doesn't look that good, but
(08:29):
you know, maybe there is something about him.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Okay, so you're saying point out, you know, sort of
like nothing to see here, like kind of point out. Uh,
just find the positives and elevate them.
Speaker 7 (08:41):
Yeah, but when you're talking to your friend and you
know your friend maybe not be in the same link
as the hot people, then maybe you tell them, I
don't know, there's many fish in the sea.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Oh God, is not getting better?
Speaker 7 (08:55):
Just mine for you?
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Oh boy.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Hey, there's a site for people that look like you
and it's not this one.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
It's called normal people dot com.
Speaker 7 (09:04):
Hey, there's just a way to say it without being
mean about it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Mandy, with all the respect, I don't think it's any
of the ways. Yeah, yeah, thank you, you have a
great day, all right. I know it's a tough one, right,
because you want your friend to find what they're looking for.
But if they're only obsessed with appearance, and then maybe
that's not going to work. Hey, Roberta, Roberta, how you doing?
(09:31):
What do you think I'm.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Going to you?
Speaker 6 (09:33):
So I think that's a friend that needs to go
outside and touch the grass? Yeah, lower for expectations. I
wouldn't be a good friend if I would like to
my friend like that, because look, I'm gonna be honest
with you.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Like you look questionable too, So.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Understanding, now I have found people, I gotta be honest
with you.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
You look questionable too.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Look what you've done to these Roberta.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Hey, can I ask you, Roberta, do you have any friends?
Speaker 8 (10:01):
You know what?
Speaker 6 (10:02):
You actually have friends? I mean I approached him and
I told him, I'm like, look, I am brutally honest.
I don't sit here, and I don't beat it around
the bush.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Don't beat it around the bush.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Your own never beat it around the bush, Roberta. Just
so you never get yourself in trouble with any of
the of the authorities. It's beat around the bush. No
one's beating anything. But anyway, I'm just trying to help you.
I'll being really honestly with you.
Speaker 6 (10:30):
Yeah, let me give you an example. Okay, me, I'm
a heavier, said girl, but I have a really pretty face.
My husband, he is not the type. He was very vain.
He likes skinny girls, you know, with colored eyes and
all this other stuff, and I am the complete opposite.
We had been married for almost seven years and we
met on the apps.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
So now you know what I think.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
That's actually I think it's an excellent example. Right, Maybe
you're so hyper focused on body type, and and maybe
if you were a little bit you know what, we're
entitled to like what we like, but maybe if we
were a little less focused on just appearance, because again,
we've all dated people who look great and aren't great.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Right, So there's got to be a way to say this.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Without being like, no, no, no, you need you could
never be with someone like that.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Well, that's not how to do it.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Maybe it's just, hey, you're looking for a lot of
different qualities, but we're only focused on one.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
So let's start looking.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Maybe we start looking a little bit less and a
little bit less of how they look and a little
bit more the kind of people they are, and then
maybe you'll you know, we can cure the loneliness thing
and the companionship thing and the other aspects of a relationship, right.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
Yeah, and I would also recommend the therapist.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
So so yeah, so you ain't it, you ain't hitting,
and you're kind of crazy.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
You should probably see it. Roberta.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
I know, I know you're trying to help, but man,
ice friend.
Speaker 6 (11:54):
You're the last coc in the desert, Like, come on.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
The last coca in the desert.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Where are these phrases coming?
Speaker 1 (12:02):
What you're saying, Roberta.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
You take a you take your pretty face and go
beat it around the bush.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
All I love you?
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
No, that was a good point though, Yes, no, because
I have friends when they were dating.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Most of my friends are married now.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
But it was like, oh, it's gotta be oh they
gotta be tall, skinny brunette. And I'm going you've dated
five of them and then they either weren't nice, or
they weren't interesting to you or you to them, or
you're so focused on the type. And so maybe like
we brought in our horizons a little beyond that, like
what if it's a what if she's not tall and
skinny and was in sports, illustrated or something that's.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Different than friend You're ugly, Well, that's what we've been
working on. More freadshell. Next, this is the Fred Show.
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day July thirty first to August second at the Blamingo,
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Speaker 1 (13:23):
Yeah they talk better than the excited tell me. These
are the radio blogs on the Fresh Show. We're running
in our diaries, except we say them aloud. We call
it blogs.
Speaker 8 (13:32):
Jason Brown, Yes, ready, I am go dear blogs. So
there are just some skills in life that I feel
like maybe I just don't know, or experiences I haven't
had that just lead me down to some really awkward situations,
And this is an example of it. So I had
to get an MRI for an issue that I'm having
with my knee. I have a torn meniscus. But before
I knew that, I had to get an MRI. So
(13:54):
I've never had an MRI before. Not sure if that's
super common for people to do. But like I go
there and like the woman is not really giving instructions.
She's just kind of like, I don't know. She opened
the door to the dressing room and like literally like
threw a gown on the thing, and I was like, Okay,
do I have to put that on?
Speaker 3 (14:12):
And she's like, no, you're in shorts. You don't have to.
Speaker 8 (14:14):
I'm like, okay, then, like why did you give me this?
Because I would have done if I wouldn't have asked,
would just put it on. And here I am bought out,
ready for my MRI.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Right, yes, he took you in your underwear off anyway, Yeah,
I was just waiting there. I'm just looking at your knee.
But okay, absolutely, like ready for my MRI. Right, let's
just be wax top to bottom for this thing.
Speaker 8 (14:35):
I needed to get in the way of you getting
a good picture, you know what I'm saying. So then
we like walk in so she's like, oh, you have
to leave like everything in your pockets in the little locker.
I'm like, okay, cool, got that, Thank you for that instruction.
So they walk into the room with the big old machine, right,
I'm like, okay, cool, And there's like the little table
thing that you like lay down on, Like Grey's anatomy
is probably like the best source of knowledge I have
(14:56):
for anything medical. So every time I see they go
in head first right, Like they're kind of like laying
on their back head first, right.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
So I'm like, ould, maybe because they're looking at their head.
Maybe I don't know, but.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Maybe your whole body's got to go into this thing.
I don't know, right. So she's like, all right, just
lay down. I'm like okay, cool. So I lay down,
ready to.
Speaker 8 (15:15):
Go head first, right, and she's like, no, you need
to turn around, like we're getting your knee.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I'm like, oh, you need tell me what to do exactly.
Speaker 8 (15:25):
I don't know how to MRI Okay, I don't have
one of these at home.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
Okay, I don't have scrubs.
Speaker 8 (15:31):
I don't know how to work the machine, like, I
don't know how to do that right, like, and it
was scary, Like I'm not claustrophobic.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
But I would not have fit if I was gonna.
Speaker 8 (15:42):
Go, like they would have had to like whatever, Like
I got really close and like I would have had
to have like my arms over my head in order
to like fit through this whole thing. Like terrifying because
I had to go like basically to like my I guess,
like I don't know like my elbows like in in
this machine or whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
But it was scary.
Speaker 8 (15:59):
And then like she comes out, She's like, I'm gonna
burn you a CD. I'm like, okay, Like what do
I do with this CD?
Speaker 7 (16:05):
Right?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Like like whatever on there?
Speaker 3 (16:10):
Like using back there with like lime wire.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
This.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
I know you're trying to come on to me, but
first of all, you're not my type, and second of all,
like I don't have a device for this.
Speaker 8 (16:23):
We just met, Like what are you putting on this CD?
So then I'm like do I give this to my doctor?
And she's like yeah. Then I called my doctor and
like we don't take CDs. We have to wait for
it to be So I was like, okay, what is
going on? Like why does no one give clear instructions
on how.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
I need to do this?
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Yeah, they don't teach you in elementary school how to
m RI.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Right, No, I don't know how to m RI.
Speaker 8 (16:40):
I don't even think I still know how to MRI
and I just did it. I don't know just like
give instructions on that type of stuff, because I know
you do it every day. But like I don't, like
I wouldn't have somebody come in here just expect to
know how to put us on the radio.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Well, we don't know how.
Speaker 8 (16:53):
We all had to teach ourselves.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Well we can't get that right either. I put my
hand in the thing and it's but you're me, I
don't know that's whatever.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Right, I'm trying to go head first, like girl.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Know the other thing about the imaging stuff, like whether
it's an ultrasound or an MRI or scan or whatever is.
And I know why, right, Like the nurses and the
people who do this all day are looking at these
images and they probably after enough time, know what they see,
but they're not doctors, so they can't tell you what
they see. The doctor has to look at it, and
(17:25):
then the doctor has to do But like I had
an ultrasound once on my on my neck, and like
you know, she's doing it whatever, and then like really
kind of honing it in on one spot and I'm like,
what are you seeing there, Girul. She's like, ah, nothing,
it is nothing. I wouldn't be able to read this,
you know. Even if I could, I wouldn't be able
(17:45):
to tell you. And then she leaves the room and
then comes back and goes right back to the same spot.
I'm like, okay, you found something.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
What do you see girl?
Speaker 2 (17:53):
And you went in to ask the doctor and they said,
go do more of that. I'm like, where is the
man behind the curtain? Who's where is the wizard of right? Like,
let this man tell me were woman what exactly? And
it would turn out it was nothing they thought maybe,
but like they got real in there. These people know
and they can't tell you. And I know why when
I'm like, hey, like brought you a gift card to Starbucks?
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Like what what are we? What are we? What are
we working with here? Right?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Like rank with your left eye if I'm gonna die,
like just if you wouldn't mind, But because they know
when you're walking out, and then you got to wait
a week for someone to read it and then make
the appointment or whatever, and then
Speaker 8 (18:33):
The no and it's just it's just anxiety so confusing,
like I don't know clear instructions, I would follow them,
Just give them to me.
This is the Fred Show.
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brand new residency studio Sessions Live at the Coliseum at
Caesar's Palace on August first. Text Live to three seven
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July thirty first to August second at the Blamingo, Las
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sent standard message to data rates apply.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
All thanks to the Live Nation.
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Here we go morality Monday on a Friday, which soon
to be heard somewhere else.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
I'm sure.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
So this is from a nineteen year old female. My
friend downloaded dating apps like Tinder and Hinge for the
first time about a week ago for reference. She's the
type that always says she wants a boyfriend, wants to
do couples things, feels lonely, win single, et cetera. She's also,
in my opinion, at least very normal and average looks wise,
(00:58):
not ugly, not super high, just all right. Since then,
she's been complaining to me that almost all of the
men are ugly, short, etc. And that she doesn't match
with anybody who's hot. I asked to see the people
that she was calling ugly, and she showed me her likes,
and it showed people that were particularly sort of within
(01:18):
her league, also moderately attractive people, moderately attractive men. I
told her that these guys were all in her league
and that she should give some of them a chance,
since she always complains about wanting to be in a relationship.
She denied that she's in the same league as them,
and said that she's much more attractive than they are.
I've pointed out in her own words she doesn't match
(01:41):
with any of the guys that she does find attractive,
so she's not in their league. She said, I'm an
ahle am. I So if your friend comes to you
and says, all these ugly guys only ugly guys want
to go out with me, but you find those ugly
guys to be just normal looking guys and you find
(02:03):
your friend to be normal looking, just sounds terrible, but like, honestly,
like if you have a friend who has unreasonable expectations
for and you can dream for whatever you want. But
let's face it, I mean maybe the guy that she
envisions may not be interested in her. Maybe, but let's
and again this sounds bad, but like, let's just be realistic,
(02:25):
right that that maybe she wants to go out with
a supermodel, and and maybe there's a supermodel that would
want to go out with her, but maybe per capita,
she would have a better chance going out with men
who are a little bit more less supermodeling. Is that
a fair thing to say to your friend eight five
five five three five or is that an awful thing
(02:45):
to say because you're kind of helping that that. I mean,
you don't have to call your friend ugly, But you
could say, like, hey, you say you want all these
here's another way you could say that, I think is nicer.
You say you want all these things, right, you want companionship,
you want you want a partner, you feel lonely, you
want to do couples things. Maybe your expectations are a
(03:08):
little high, you know, maybe the things that you're looking
for a little high. Maybe, but you also want the
hottest guy on the internet. So maybe maybe we should
be looking a little more internally, or maybe maybe our
expectations and goals are a little beyond what's reasonable because
we all know the person who will only date one
kind of person, and then that really limits your opportunity
(03:31):
to get the other things that you want. Right, So maybe,
and then also I'm trying to make this sound good,
but basically she says her friend is average and should
find average people, right, which maybe is fair advice. But
we all have probably dated that the person that looks
the way we want them to, but they don't have
any of the other qualities that we want. Maybe they're
not even good people. We've probably also dated ugly people
(03:52):
who aren't good people, or ugly people who are very
great people and provide all the other things. They love
you and they're they're loyal to you and whatever. So
I guess my thing is if you're only looking for
people who you think are super hot, then you're probably
missing a lot of other things.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Oh, yes, that's the way you say it, right.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Well, I mean I would just say it.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
You would, So you would you would say to your
friend Kiki, you, I'm sorry, but you your expectations are
too high and maybe you should bring it back to work.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Yeah, I would say, girl. So we all have strengths
and weak strengths and weaknesses Okay, strengths, and I would say,
you know, you are really strong in the friendship department.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
In the personality, oh damn.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
If anybody calls me struck, if anyone says strengths and weaknesses,
I'm very strong in the personality department.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
You knock it out the park when it comes to personality.
But on the looks, I ain't going you. We could
do a little work, and so I think you should
give another type of guy a chance. And you know,
because or type of guy is down, you're setting your
friends up for failure. Like you're setting a friend up
(05:00):
and feel you're telling her that she can go get
a hot guy and you know she's ugly, Like, come on.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Be for real. You don't think any of your friends
are ugly?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Do you?
Speaker 5 (05:08):
No?
Speaker 4 (05:08):
But I don't, Okay, I don't think my friends know.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
What they should go for.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
You and I know what I can go for. You know,
like you could have anything you want.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I'm sure, Kaylee wen't want to get real that we've
all probably watched our friends struggle with dating and they
and they gravitate towards something that isn't necessarily the most productive,
whether it's toxic guys or girls, or whether it's rich
guys or guys with a boat which seems to be
a themale dating or or I don't know, maybe they're
just they're not prioritizing the right qualities. So maybe that's
(05:43):
how you say it. It's like, look, you're really focused
on looks, and that's fair. Nobody wants to be with
an ugly person. Maybe you don't even make it about
their appearance. You just say like, but maybe we should
start looking into other qualities because there's more out there.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You can never tell your friend that they are not attraction.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
You cannot say that to someone you love in any circle.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
That's what I mean though, But I'm saying, so fus
focus on the other stuff.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
La, Hi, La, How you doing?
Speaker 5 (06:12):
Ray Breed?
Speaker 4 (06:13):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Guys?
Speaker 5 (06:14):
I love all of you.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
First off, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
What do you tell your friend If your friend is
really focused on looks and they're not necessarily bull of
the same caliber.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Of what they're seeking.
Speaker 5 (06:28):
This is crazy because I mean, I like I text
that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, So
it depends on what you're looking for in beauty. When
you say beauty, do you want to beat the full heart.
Do you want a kind heart? Do you want someone
to takes care of you? Or do you want to
six foot seven fine something, something that is full of
the bad words. So it's just the chance, and it
(06:50):
will be hard to tell a friend. But if you're
a real friend, I would be super honest. I would
be super honest. I want to tell her that she
was ugly, you know, but I would be like, you,
guys are compatible. Look at him, look at you. It
just depends on what you're looking.
Speaker 6 (07:05):
At him, and.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Look at you, with all due respect, look at him
and look at you. It's not that's.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Not the approach. Look at him, look at you.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
I got to think that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, hey, we're just whiteboarding here and no bad ideas.
Thank you, La, have a good day. I love you,
call anytime. Hey, Mandy, how you doing, Mandy? Good morning?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Look at him and look at you.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Make a cute baby.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
That's how you got to say it, because you know
they say ugly people make you baby.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Jesus yea make a great baby.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Negative positive? Don't you remember that?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Going What do you say to your friend who's shooting
for the stars from a dating perspective and not hitting
because maybe they should be a little bit more reasonable, realistic.
Speaker 7 (08:08):
Well, there's a way that you can say things to
your friend without being a jerk. So like when you're
at work you want someone to do something for you,
instead of saying, you know, ordering them around to do it,
say you know, can you help me? Or you know,
when you're talking to your friend, you tell your friend, hey,
you know, maybe this guy doesn't look that good, but
(08:29):
you know, maybe there is something about him.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Okay, so you're saying point out, you know, sort of
like nothing to see here, like kind of point out. Uh,
just find the positives and elevate them.
Speaker 7 (08:41):
Yeah, but when you're talking to your friend and you
know your friend maybe not be in the same link
as the hot people, then maybe you tell them, I
don't know, there's many fish in the sea.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Oh God, is not getting better?
Speaker 7 (08:55):
Just mine for you?
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Oh boy.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Hey, there's a site for people that look like you
and it's not this one.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
It's called normal people dot com.
Speaker 7 (09:04):
Hey, there's just a way to say it without being
mean about it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Mandy, with all the respect, I don't think it's any
of the ways. Yeah, yeah, thank you, you have a
great day, all right. I know it's a tough one, right,
because you want your friend to find what they're looking for.
But if they're only obsessed with appearance, and then maybe
that's not going to work. Hey, Roberta, Roberta, how you doing?
(09:31):
What do you think I'm.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Going to you?
Speaker 6 (09:33):
So I think that's a friend that needs to go
outside and touch the grass? Yeah, lower for expectations. I
wouldn't be a good friend if I would like to
my friend like that, because look, I'm gonna be honest
with you.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Like you look questionable too, So.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Understanding, now I have found people, I gotta be honest
with you.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
You look questionable too.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Look what you've done to these Roberta.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Hey, can I ask you, Roberta, do you have any friends?
Speaker 8 (10:01):
You know what?
Speaker 6 (10:02):
You actually have friends? I mean I approached him and
I told him, I'm like, look, I am brutally honest.
I don't sit here, and I don't beat it around
the bush.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Don't beat it around the bush.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Your own never beat it around the bush, Roberta. Just
so you never get yourself in trouble with any of
the of the authorities. It's beat around the bush. No
one's beating anything. But anyway, I'm just trying to help you.
I'll being really honestly with you.
Speaker 6 (10:30):
Yeah, let me give you an example. Okay, me, I'm
a heavier, said girl, but I have a really pretty face.
My husband, he is not the type. He was very vain.
He likes skinny girls, you know, with colored eyes and
all this other stuff, and I am the complete opposite.
We had been married for almost seven years and we
met on the apps.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
So now you know what I think.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
That's actually I think it's an excellent example. Right, Maybe
you're so hyper focused on body type, and and maybe
if you were a little bit you know what, we're
entitled to like what we like, but maybe if we
were a little less focused on just appearance, because again,
we've all dated people who look great and aren't great.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Right, So there's got to be a way to say this.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Without being like, no, no, no, you need you could
never be with someone like that.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Well, that's not how to do it.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Maybe it's just, hey, you're looking for a lot of
different qualities, but we're only focused on one.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
So let's start looking.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Maybe we start looking a little bit less and a
little bit less of how they look and a little
bit more the kind of people they are, and then
maybe you'll you know, we can cure the loneliness thing
and the companionship thing and the other aspects of a relationship, right.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
Yeah, and I would also recommend the therapist.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
So so yeah, so you ain't it, you ain't hitting,
and you're kind of crazy.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
You should probably see it. Roberta.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
I know, I know you're trying to help, but man,
ice friend.
Speaker 6 (11:54):
You're the last coc in the desert, Like, come on.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
The last coca in the desert.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Where are these phrases coming?
Speaker 1 (12:02):
What you're saying, Roberta.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
You take a you take your pretty face and go
beat it around the bush.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
All I love you?
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
No, that was a good point though, Yes, no, because
I have friends when they were dating.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Most of my friends are married now.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
But it was like, oh, it's gotta be oh they
gotta be tall, skinny brunette. And I'm going you've dated
five of them and then they either weren't nice, or
they weren't interesting to you or you to them, or
you're so focused on the type. And so maybe like
we brought in our horizons a little beyond that, like
what if it's a what if she's not tall and
skinny and was in sports, illustrated or something that's.
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are the radio blogs on the Fresh Show. We're running
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it blogs.
Speaker 8 (13:32):
Jason Brown, Yes, ready, I am go dear blogs. So
there are just some skills in life that I feel
like maybe I just don't know, or experiences I haven't
had that just lead me down to some really awkward situations,
And this is an example of it. So I had
to get an MRI for an issue that I'm having
with my knee. I have a torn meniscus. But before
I knew that, I had to get an MRI. So
(13:54):
I've never had an MRI before. Not sure if that's
super common for people to do. But like I go
there and like the woman is not really giving instructions.
She's just kind of like, I don't know. She opened
the door to the dressing room and like literally like
threw a gown on the thing, and I was like, Okay,
do I have to put that on?
Speaker 3 (14:12):
And she's like, no, you're in shorts. You don't have to.
Speaker 8 (14:14):
I'm like, okay, then, like why did you give me this?
Because I would have done if I wouldn't have asked,
would just put it on. And here I am bought out,
ready for my MRI.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Right, yes, he took you in your underwear off anyway, Yeah,
I was just waiting there. I'm just looking at your knee.
But okay, absolutely, like ready for my MRI. Right, let's
just be wax top to bottom for this thing.
Speaker 8 (14:35):
I needed to get in the way of you getting
a good picture, you know what I'm saying. So then
we like walk in so she's like, oh, you have
to leave like everything in your pockets in the little locker.
I'm like, okay, cool, got that, Thank you for that instruction.
So they walk into the room with the big old machine, right,
I'm like, okay, cool, And there's like the little table
thing that you like lay down on, Like Grey's anatomy
is probably like the best source of knowledge I have
(14:56):
for anything medical. So every time I see they go
in head first right, Like they're kind of like laying
on their back head first, right.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
So I'm like, ould, maybe because they're looking at their head.
Maybe I don't know, but.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Maybe your whole body's got to go into this thing.
I don't know, right. So she's like, all right, just
lay down. I'm like okay, cool. So I lay down,
ready to.
Speaker 8 (15:15):
Go head first, right, and she's like, no, you need
to turn around, like we're getting your knee.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I'm like, oh, you need tell me what to do exactly.
Speaker 8 (15:25):
I don't know how to MRI Okay, I don't have
one of these at home.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
Okay, I don't have scrubs.
Speaker 8 (15:31):
I don't know how to work the machine, like, I
don't know how to do that right, like, and it
was scary, Like I'm not claustrophobic.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
But I would not have fit if I was gonna.
Speaker 8 (15:42):
Go, like they would have had to like whatever, Like
I got really close and like I would have had
to have like my arms over my head in order
to like fit through this whole thing. Like terrifying because
I had to go like basically to like my I guess,
like I don't know like my elbows like in in
this machine or whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
But it was scary.
Speaker 8 (15:59):
And then like she comes out, She's like, I'm gonna
burn you a CD. I'm like, okay, Like what do
I do with this CD?
Speaker 7 (16:05):
Right?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Like like whatever on there?
Speaker 3 (16:10):
Like using back there with like lime wire.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
This.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
I know you're trying to come on to me, but
first of all, you're not my type, and second of all,
like I don't have a device for this.
Speaker 8 (16:23):
We just met, Like what are you putting on this CD?
So then I'm like do I give this to my doctor?
And she's like yeah. Then I called my doctor and
like we don't take CDs. We have to wait for
it to be So I was like, okay, what is
going on? Like why does no one give clear instructions
on how.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
I need to do this?
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Yeah, they don't teach you in elementary school how to
m RI.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Right, No, I don't know how to m RI.
Speaker 8 (16:40):
I don't even think I still know how to MRI
and I just did it. I don't know just like
give instructions on that type of stuff, because I know
you do it every day. But like I don't, like
I wouldn't have somebody come in here just expect to
know how to put us on the radio.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Well, we don't know how.
Speaker 8 (16:53):
We all had to teach ourselves.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Well we can't get that right either. I put my
hand in the thing and it's but you're me, I
don't know that's whatever.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Right, I'm trying to go head first, like girl.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Know the other thing about the imaging stuff, like whether
it's an ultrasound or an MRI or scan or whatever is.
And I know why, right, Like the nurses and the
people who do this all day are looking at these
images and they probably after enough time, know what they see,
but they're not doctors, so they can't tell you what
they see. The doctor has to look at it, and
(17:25):
then the doctor has to do But like I had
an ultrasound once on my on my neck, and like
you know, she's doing it whatever, and then like really
kind of honing it in on one spot and I'm like,
what are you seeing there, Girul. She's like, ah, nothing,
it is nothing. I wouldn't be able to read this,
you know. Even if I could, I wouldn't be able
(17:45):
to tell you. And then she leaves the room and
then comes back and goes right back to the same spot.
I'm like, okay, you found something.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
What do you see girl?
Speaker 2 (17:53):
And you went in to ask the doctor and they said,
go do more of that. I'm like, where is the
man behind the curtain? Who's where is the wizard of right? Like,
let this man tell me were woman what exactly? And
it would turn out it was nothing they thought maybe,
but like they got real in there. These people know
and they can't tell you. And I know why when
I'm like, hey, like brought you a gift card to Starbucks?
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Like what what are we? What are we? What are
we working with here? Right?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Like rank with your left eye if I'm gonna die,
like just if you wouldn't mind, But because they know
when you're walking out, and then you got to wait
a week for someone to read it and then make
the appointment or whatever, and then
Speaker 8 (18:33):
The no and it's just it's just anxiety so confusing,
like I don't know clear instructions, I would follow them,
Just give them to me.
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