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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Bread Show. Let's get you hotep a
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ticketmaster dot com for all shows running December thirtieth through
January third, and March sixth through the twenty eighth. Friend's
Biggest Stories of the Day. There are a bunch of examples.
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I guess prison Break was one. People are saying they
light high Town. Someone's saying that they kept their Star
subscription only for high Town. And then so there was
the one person who watched it. They listened to us too.
Cobra Kai Netflix bought that from YouTube. Netflix did that
with Manifest, but they have asked it. I rested development
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got New Life. Lucifer was another example. Okay, so it
does happen where a show doesn't necessarily do as well
the first time around, and then it gets popular on
Netflix and then they make more episodes. They should make
more episodes of this show. A little cheesy, like I
couldn't tell you ever watch a show and you're like,
sometimes I'm like, this is really really well done, and
then then I'm like, okay, but that was a lot
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of fake blood, you.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Like I'm like, I am like, hold on, no, wait
a minute. Did the same person direct this episode that
directed the other way? Like I'm like, wow, this is
phenomenal acting like at times and then the other time
like this is really bad. But I watched it. I
watched him, but I was very sad to learn. Or
have you ever had the disappointment of watching a series
and you didn't realize that you were on the last
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episode and then it's just over. Yes, that's devastating. It's devastating.
So now I look to see the only problem with
looking to see how many episodes are left is then
you kind then you kind of know that they're about
to wrap up the story or like the screen grab
is something that's a spoiler. I hate when they do that.
Oh that's not good either. Yeah, but I've done that
where I'm like, okay, good, you know whatever, and I'm
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watching it. I'm having a nice time, and I'll get
a bunch of episodes. I'm into this show, like I
know what I'm gonna do the next couple of days,
and then oh we're out of episodes. That was it,
and then in this case, there won't be anymore. It's
very upsetting. Anyway, I'm going to start a high town.
We're gonna have like a little group and we're gonna
maybe we'll do like a discord or something, and we're
gonna all get in there and it probably already is one,
and we're going to talk about all of our theories
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of what could have happened and what would have happened.
And then I'm going to look up all the actors
on social media and I'm going to DM them and
ask them what they think should have happened. It's gonna
be great. What's a discord? I don't I don't actually know.
I think it's a chat room. I see people talk
about it. I'm not a member of any disc I
think it's like a private chat room kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
You have to get an invite to joining people's discords,
and then it's like you can make different subject titles,
so like you could talk about like what you like eating,
what you're watching, like whatever.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
But no, no, it's free, but you had to be
like invited in kind of so I'd take a little
chat room kind of thing. But I thought, you know,
I thought that was it seemed like the right time
to use the discord. Yeah, no, I think you used
it right. I just don't get it. But to get
in there headlines, guys, I got a couple sad ones
to start. Unfortunately, a gunman killed at least four people
in a Manhattan office building on Monday evening. One of
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them was an off duty New York City Police officers,
shot while exchanging fire with the shooter in the lobby.
The suspect then disappeared into the skyscraper and was found
later with the self inflicted gunshot wound. The Park Avenue
building houses the offices of some major financial firms, as
well as the National Football League. Security footage showed a
gunman walking outside the building carrying a long gun before
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the shooting began. And for our Chicago fans and for
baseball fans everywhere on Monday, the Cubs lost one of
its all time great sports icons. The Chicago community did too.
Chicago Cubs legend Ryan Samberg. He passed away at the
age of sixty five. According to the franchise, he died
in hospice care following copulation complications in his ongoing battle
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with prostate cancer. The news comes after Samberg announced his
prostate cancer had relapsed and spread throughout his body in
December of twenty twenty four. That guy was all over
all over town, very involved with the Cubs and all
kinds of different organizations, an amazing ambassador for the Cubs
and for the city and for baseball and the NFL
legend and University of Colorado football coach Dean Sanders. This
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is a little bit better news. He said he beat
cancer after undergoing the full removal of his bladder in May.
He said that he will continue to coach to Seize him,
including the season opener against Georgia Tech. The fifty seven
year old former NFL and college star appeared yesterday in
a press conference with this doctor who said they removed
the bladder and worked on the insertion of a new bladder,
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and I am pleased to report that the results in
the surgery are that he has cured from cancer. He
said that he was diagnosed with bladder cancer during a
health checkup. This spring to everybody, at least with the
story number two, number three. Go to the doctor and
get checked on regularly so you can catch this stuff early.
Hopefully this is for you, Paulina. The death of Hulk
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Hogan might mean the death of Hooters. Wait, wait, the
two things are connected. As if Hulk Hogan's passing wasn't
wasn't shocking and sad enough. Now you're talking about how
he could have saved Hooters and it may not happen now.
A few months before his death, wrestling icon Hulk Hogan's
beer brand, Real American Beer, was in talks to acquire
Hooters intellectual property as part of the change Chapter eleven
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bankruptcy restructuring. Rather than taking over the restaurants, he aimed
to license the Hooters name for branded products, digital content, gaming,
and consumer experiences. The deal was seen as a way
to preserve and modernize the beloved American brand while expanding
Hogan's growing lifestyle portfolio. However, legal and financial hurdles, including
liquor laws barring alcohol brands from owning restaurants and potential
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resistance from Hooters creditors, made the acquisition uncertain. Paulina, this
is where you step in with all of your millions
that you got from being the biggest to invest in
Eloye and iHeartRadio.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Well my free tells for the business, and the one.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Step as this way you step in right now now
is the time you can save Hooters. You can do it.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
I've been thinking about it because someone's got to do it.
And if it's not me, then who you know? And
he's the thing too. Like everyone talks about nostalgia, all
these things, they want to just soak up in it.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Why don't we just do that with Hooters.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Why don't we all collectively come to gather society and
save Hooters because that'll save us.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Let's save Hooters and then all go there and watch
the new seasons of high Town that are going to
be made, because I'm going to say that, Chris, this
is amazing, this is amazing. We can collab. We've done it.
So this is a strange story Las Vegas and a
lot of sports stories this morning. But Las Vegas Raiders
star Christian Wilkins was released from the team after an
unfortunate kissing incident in the team's locker room. Witness said
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that the kiss was on the head. It was playful,
but the unnamed recipient took offense to the act and
then reported him to human resources. So NFL players are
subject to human resources, which is a little while. I mean,
of course they are their employees and it's an organization,
But okay. Esping clarified that the football players release from
the team was not entirely due to the kiss. A
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foot injury from last October also held the defensive tackler back.
The dispute stem from the Raiders team requiring him to
undergo a second surgery for his injury, but he failed
to do so. He joined the team in twenty twenty four,
signed a four year contract one hundred and ten million
dollars eighty four million guaranteed. Parting from the team has
cost him the remainder of his contract, with about thirty
five point two effectively voided. But he'll be okay. But
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he kissed a guy on the head and got fired
from the NFL. Wow, I didn't. I honestly didn't know
you could do that, believe it or not, based on
everything I know about you know, the stories in the
NFL over the past few years, I didn't realize that
your behavior would actually get you kicked off the team.
Of all of all the things that have happened a
lot of things. You kissed someone on the forehead, you
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get kicked off the team. But the other stuff you
can do, you can do a lot of stuff you're
not supposed to do. Famous Yetti's pet said Wisconsin mistakenly
used t EHD infused cooking oil last October and it
left eighty five diners ages one to ninety one, buzz
dizzy and hallucinating. Three people went to the hospital. Police
seemed it an accident, and the shop has since titan
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storage and apologized. I don't know what they got to
hold vat of THHD cooking oil for, and I guess
I'm surprised you don't get in more trouble for that.
But can you imagine if you didn't know that you
were consuming THHD and then you got high, Like if
you knew then I guess you might, you would expect it,
but if you're ninety one years old, like, is this
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the end?
Speaker 5 (08:33):
Is this?
Speaker 6 (08:33):
It?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Is it happening now right this second? And a fifty
four year old Texas man named Fritz. He mocked law
enforcement on Facebook, calling outstanding arrest warrants the adult version
of hide and seek. And less than ten days later,
what do you think happened? They raided his house, found
him and arrested him on charges of fraud and theft.
No word and if he tagged his location in the post,
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This guy Fritz over here reminds me a little bit
of like if my mom tried to taunt police on
face Book or Instagram. I love my mom and she's
a very smart lady, but I'm finding that her tech
skills are really sort of slipping and she doesn't really
know who she's dming or who she's commenting on and
if it's public or private. So I would encourage, you know,
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some of you who may not be as sharp technically,
you know, as it comes to new technology, don't mock
the police using social media because it turns out, whether
you tag yourself or not, they can probably go deep
to dig in there and do whatever they gotta do,
you know, or maybe look at your background and you
the sign, you know, or like with your address on
it or something, and they're like, hmm, I bet he's
at his house. But isn't this a tale so old
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as time? People taunt the police on the internet and
then they get arrested days later. Further warns were issued
after evidence was found during the search. He is currently
being held in jail on twelve thousand dollars bond. It's
National Chicken Wing Day. There you go, save Hooters. Today's
the day, Yes, National Lusanna Day. Today is well. The
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entertainment of port is next. This is the Bread Show.
Let's get you Hotel a trip for tud to see
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twenty six, at the Coliseum at Caesar's Palace dext Palace
to three seven three three seven right now for a
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at two Night Hotel Day March twelve through the fourteenth
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or Go hard Kelly. Good morning to Kelly. How you doing,
Welcome to the program, Kelly, So you are you're a
married woman. Congratulation. Congratulations for being a married woman. I
don't know if you've made it. Have you been married
for a while, a couple of years, something like that.
That's a big accomplishment.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
Have been together a long time?
Speaker 1 (11:03):
I'm serious. I feel like being married for any period
of time like past maybe, I don't know. Twenty four
months is impressive for me. I've been being with someone
longer than six months is impressive. But anyway, nonetheless, this
is about kids, though, So what's going on with you
and your husband?
Speaker 6 (11:20):
Well?
Speaker 7 (11:20):
Okay, so you know, when we were younger, we both
agreed we just didn't want children, and so that was
our thing. But we've gotten a little older, and unfortunately
I'm one of the people that they kind of talk
about that I've changed my mind and I want kids.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Okay, so you you guys have this conversation. This is
and this is a very fundamental thing to talk about. Here,
I am talking about relationships like I've ever been successful
in one. But nonetheless I have I can, I can observe,
I give great advice, I give excellent advice, and I
have great perspective. I just myself cannot really seem to
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find very much success. But you have this conversation ahead
of time. Hey kids, no kids. I think talking about
money ahead of time. I think talking about you know, love,
languages and that kind of thing. I think there's all
stuff to get ironed out before you get married, so
that you're on the same page, that you don't commit
to each other for life legally, and then decide one
person's like I want to spend all of our money
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and the other person like I want to save all
of our money. Or I want to have kids and
I don't want to have kids, or you know, these
fundamental things. And now you guys are latched together and
you're going to be unhappy because you view things differently.
So you guys had the conversation before you got married.
No kids, that was what you determined.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
Oh yeah, we definitely had this conversation, and I mean
I definitely didn't want them, and he didn't either. But
it's just gotten older and I have changed my mind,
and I went and told them, though I, of course
we are really communicative, this is this is just one
of our busses. But I told them that I had
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a change of heart, and he he was like, you know,
I appreciate you telling me, but I don't My mind
hasn't changed. So anyway, he still doesn't want kids, but
he did have a compromise.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Well, a compromise that's exciting. What was it? Yeah, what
is it?
Speaker 7 (13:19):
Well, well, he said that if I wanted a kid
bad enough, he said, he would obviously contribute financially. But
he's not doing diapers, he's not doing feedings, like waking
up in the middle of the night, warming bottles, all
of the thing. I'm going to be doing all of them.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
So he'll help you make the kid, but you get
to raise it. And he's just he's and he'll give you,
he'll pread a couple of bucks towards it, but he's
not going to be involved in like the hard work.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
I mean, you're right, But I want to make.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Sure I have this right.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I'm not. I'm not.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I mean, I think that's that's a wild take, But
I want to make sure I have this right. So
he's not telling you you're fine, we can have a kid.
I'm just not going to do the hard stuff. Yeah
he's not.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
He's exactly.
Speaker 7 (14:03):
Yeah, he's not going to do any of that if
I want, if we're going to do this, how.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Does that make you feel?
Speaker 7 (14:09):
Change my mind?
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Well, and that's fair, But how does that make you feel?
Because you're allowed to change your mind now, I mean,
it's it's a pretty significant thing to to then say, well,
now I want to add a human to our sort
of existence. Now, I mean, but you also have every
right to change your mind. I suppose he has every
right to say. But we talked about this and I've
never wanted kids, and I don't want them now. I
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think that's a weird compromise. But how does this all
make you feel?
Speaker 7 (14:35):
I mean, at first it was like that is, but
I mean again, I'm the one that made this decision
in my head. I changed my mind. And if he's
going to he's not going anywhere. He's going to be
financially supporting. I mean, plus, you know, what's the difference
between like having a kid on your own. You know,
there's plenty of single moms that do it every day.
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And I'm thinking he's going to change his mind over time,
you know, And so I don't know. I don't know.
What do I do?
Speaker 6 (15:03):
I don't know?
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I mean, what are the options?
Speaker 5 (15:09):
Right?
Speaker 1 (15:09):
The options are you you do it this way? You know,
you have your kid with your partner who you love,
and he's just not involved very much. Somebody tells me
he'll be okay. Maybe he'd be okay with like some
of the upside, but doesn't sound like he doesn't want
to be up in the middle of the night changing diapers.
He doesn't want to do right, he doesn't want to
hear you're the nurturing part of it. Maybe okay, you
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could not have a kid, which means then that you're
not fulfilled in this way because this is what you
want and that's a big deal. Or you could divorce
him and then go find somebody who does want to
have a kid. Am I missing any options here? And
I know this all studs cut and dry and like
very simplified, But am I missing anything.
Speaker 7 (15:54):
Noll, that's it.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Yeah, I don't really like this very much.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
And I only say that. And you can totally have
a kid on your own, that is not.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Even the issue.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
But I feel like because you are married to somebody
and that person you know, is quote okay with this
idea and kind of treating it like almost like you're
bringing home a puppy or something like he's like, you
know what I mean, he's like, oh, I'm not gonna
get up the middle of the night and do this
and that like that's that's a single married mom in
my opinion, And I don't really like that. If you're
gonna do it on your own, I would just say
do it fully on your own and like not even
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like truly I have to leave this man because also
too so you're gonna bring him a baby and there's
gonna be a man living there, but he's not involved.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
But he's a dad, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
It's like, who's that man walking in the hallway?
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Like you know what I mean? How involved does he
think he's gonna be?
Speaker 4 (16:36):
Like you're the father and you also live here, and.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
I suppose he might change his mind once the kid's
there and he sees you working hard and doing all this,
he might decide, well, maybe I should be involved. It's
my offspring too. I guess there's a chance of that.
I just from the jump, I just don't like the
way that feels, you know, like, hey, yeah, you can
have the kid, but like I'll just I'm just sort
of here, don't don't, don't, don't inconvenience me with it.
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But for the people who are texting saying this guy's
a jerk, that that is a jerk, that's kind of
a jerky response by all means. But he did say
from the beginning his truth was I don't want kids, right,
So that does not make him a bad guy. He
was very clear about that. So I mean, for the
people who are like, this guy's terrible, I don't know.
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I don't know if he's his response is not great,
but he's allowed to be a person who doesn't want
to have kids, like that's not And and you guys
didn't talk about it and agree on that initially.
Speaker 7 (17:33):
Yes, And I understand where he's at. That's why, because
we were hard knows, so I get where he's at.
So you know, that's why I'm struggling with this.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
And.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
You're going to resent him.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
You're going to resent him when the baby's there middle
of the night. You're the one changing diapers, You're the
one doing all these things.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
I feel like it's a terrible idea and you're allowed
to change your mind. And Fred was right about that.
Like you guys were very clear in the beginning. You guys,
you know, grew in your marriage. Whatever you want different
things now. I think, I hate to say it, doesn't
that call for like some form of like I don't know, separation,
going your own ways, then living your life on your terms,
both of you doing what you both want.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
My crazy, I.
Speaker 7 (18:13):
Think this is bigger than oh god, someone, this is
even bigger than the baby.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Someone texting have the baby and then divorce him. Do
not do that, ye, do not do that. That is
the that's the worst. I love you, but that is
the worst advice. Because you're still tied to the guy. No,
this is what you do either. You may have to
leave this dude. If you really want a kid, you
deserve a supportive partner who's in it with you. It
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also wants the kid. Maybe give him a little bit
of time to marinate on this, but you I don't
think it's unfair. If this is really your calling and
really what you're drawn to do, and you feel very
strongly about it, you have one life. You deserve a
supportive partner with whom to do this. You may have
to go to shay him and say, look, I love you,
but we are now fractured. We are fundamentally on different
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sides of this, and I don't want to do this
with somebody who's going to be absent minded. And maybe
if you have that conversation, he comes around because he
loves you, and maybe he can see it, and maybe
he does it. I actually know a couple. This is
a real story. I know a couple that had this
very thing happen. They decided no kids, no kids. And
I'm not going to get into too many details because
these people might know who I'm talking about. I don't
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know people might know who I'm talking about. But let's
just say that he was willing to take on some
other responsibilities, but he did not want kids. He never did,
but he loved her. They got married. She says, you know,
in somewhere in years into the marriage, I want kids,
and he's like I don't want kid. I told you
I really don't like I have my whole life planned out,
and I told you this, And at some point the
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conversation was, if you need to leave me, I would
be heartbroken. But I understand. I'm not going to stand
in your way, but I'm not one hundred percent in this.
They wound up staying together and having a kid, and
everything is wonderful. But it wasn't the plan. It wasn't
it kind of all it didn't happen in order or
as you know. It kind of just happened, and that's
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a different story. But nonetheless, everything works out fine, everyone's happy,
and it turns out I think this guy would tell
you that it's the greatest thing that ever happened to him.
But if a guy's telling you right now, I don't
want it and I'm not going to be involved, that
is bad. Right like that, I can't imagine starting that way.
Speaker 7 (20:24):
You know, do you really think I could do it
on my own?
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Of course you can. At least someone wants to know
how old you are. By the way, how old are
you in your thirties?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I'm in my thirties.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Okay, Yeah, you absolutely can do it. On your own.
I mean, here's what I'll say. I don't know you
people can do it on their own, and I believe
you're you're probably very capable of it. But I don't
think this is going to work. And it's it's heartbreaking.
But eight five, five, five, nine, one one three five,
the text are going crazy. I would love to know
what people have to say about this though. I hate
to say this, but I think you you know, have
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to have a very and it's not a mean conversation.
It's not you know, there's no lack of love. I
don't think it's spiteful or hateful. This guy didn't lie
to you. He told you the truth. But I think
it may it may be the kind of conversation where
you have to just say, look, I gotta do this
and so and I want to do it with somebody
who either either is going to be an active participant
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who wants to be there, or I'd rather do it
on my own. I know people who've done that too. Well, Kelly,
let me take some calls and have the radio one
and thank you for sharing this. I know it's very
personal and good luck to you.
Speaker 7 (21:30):
Well, thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Yeah, you got it, we appreciate you. I mean, yeah,
I don't know. I think she's got to probably leave
this guy.
Speaker 3 (21:38):
Yeah, from his perspective too, like he came into this
relationship like thinking one thing, and now yeah, she gets
to choose her what she wants to do. But in
a way, is also like blowing up his life, you know,
like now he may lose his marriage because of it.
And he had the same intentions from the jump.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Yeah, I don't like his response, but I don't disagree
with with him having a set and in this and
having a vote and having a desire for his life too.
I mean again the whole I'll well, I'll knock you
up and then just be here. I don't like that.
But I also for the people, like this guy's such
a d I he didn't have to want this, you know,
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he didn't have to wun the jump. This is what
I want. She's the one switching up with Yeah, she
can do. But it's sad, but it happens.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
I think in marriages people just outgrow each other, not
because of Kay's but other things too, right, And I
think it's sad and it blows up everyone's life.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
And now you know, you're divorced, but it is what
it is. Autumn. Good morning, Hi, welcome.
Speaker 8 (22:35):
Hi, I'm your fourteenth color.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
Just so you guys know, Oh you're the fourteenth. You
know why.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
That's impossible And we only have thirteen listeners, will only
ever have thirteen listeners? Right when we think we got fourteen,
someone moves to somewhere where they don't have the Internet yet.
It's crazy. Anyway, what do you think?
Speaker 5 (22:51):
So?
Speaker 8 (22:51):
I just I'm thinking about the child. My that's always
my number one is do you really want to raise
a child or have it even a peoplesh chance of
like this child not having the father being around like
in their life. So I just think that that's that's
what I would think about. I'd leave. I for sure, leave,
especially if she really wants a baby, because you don't
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know for sure if he's going to want to be around,
and you don't want to do that to the baby either,
you know.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Yeah, I agree, And and you know what it could
be like my friend who had a kid that he
wasn't expecting and and loves that kid more than anything
and it changed his life. If you're here right now,
he would tell you it's the greatest thing. That ever
happened to you. I know he'd say that, but he didn't
see it. But you're taking a risk. You're taking a risk.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
He's an exception, He's not the rule. Right, isn't a movie.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
And I can't I can't with much confidence, uh, engage
in that agreement, you know what I mean? Like that's
that doesn't feel good. My partner is gonna My partner
is willing to sleep with me, and you know whatever.
But but but he's not really willing to do this
with me.
Speaker 8 (23:56):
So sometimes you grow apart like that just is you'd
want different things and you grow in different directions and
that's okay, and she shouldn't feel ashamed about that, But
if she doesn't want the same things, then I mean
it might be time to part ways.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Yeah, maybe so thank you autumn listener number. You say
fourteen and you're still thirteen. But HI, have a good day.
Speaker 8 (24:15):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I love you mean it. Hi, Kelly, good morning, Kelly. Hello, Hi,
Hi Kelly. What do you want to say?
Speaker 5 (24:26):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (24:26):
I want to say that she needs to go.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
This is so selfish.
Speaker 7 (24:31):
She should not bring a child into this world knowing
that their father wants nothing to do with it.
Speaker 8 (24:37):
It's so cool.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Yeah, yeah, I don't think it's going to work under
the current arrangement, and I think it's a risk if
you do it within these with the confides of this relationship,
because he's telling you he doesn't want to do it.
But thank you, Kelly, I'm glad you called. Have a
great day, you two, and thank you for listening. Brandon,
So you say stay, Why.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Stayed? Because he was honest from the very beginning. He
told her exactly what the situation was. While there's a
good chance that his mind will change when he sees
that precious young one and he holds it in his hands. However,
there's so many fathers who never were honest from the beginning,
(25:22):
who have adjusted, who actually never told their wives that,
oh no, I'll do everything, but then never do anything,
who are married now but never take care of the
child in any way, who perhaps live from the beginning.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I think we're talking about it. He told two different things, Brandon.
Then we're talking about dead bee dad. We're talking about
people who want a kid but don't want to work
for it. This guy, and you don't find that out
until after the fact. This guy's telling you, he's telling
you right now. Hey, he's calling a shot, like, hey,
just heads up, I don't want to do this Like
that's I think that's a little bit different because it's
bad enough if you have a kid and then yeah, yeah,
(26:00):
yeah kid, and then you don't want to raise it.
I mean, that's a different I think it's a different problem.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
That's true. But however, he is willing to take care
of in every way. But the amount of single moms
out there who have zero support whatsoever have to do
it all on their own.
Speaker 9 (26:14):
Well, not every way, not the emotional part. You know,
he's saying, I want to be like a hands offstitute.
So I wonder, okay, if she goes to a sperm
make and the kid doesn't hack quote unquote have a dad,
is that less painful than having a dad that's like
one foot in, one foot out the door, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
And it's on the risk that he's somehow going to
buy in after the fact. But Brandon, I appreciate you, man,
thank you so much for calling Katie. Katie you say, go,
she's got to go.
Speaker 8 (26:39):
Yes, I do.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Well.
Speaker 8 (26:41):
I think if they can find a compromise, great, But
I think the idea at hands is a bad idea,
and if that's the only idea, she should go.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, So we got to vote for go.
Thank you, Katie. Yeah, Larry, vote for stay. Hi, Larry.
Hell over there, Larry. You can say why.
Speaker 5 (27:03):
So the reason why is that and I don't know
this gentleman's circumstances, but depending if he was an only
child or something like that, I had the same thing
with my folks. So when my folks got married, my
dad wanted to have kids. But until we were like,
I don't know, seven or eight years old, he didn't
really He wasn't involved in our in our you know,
(27:24):
raising us and what have you. Thus he would do
is probably wipe a butt every now and then, but
other than that, he didn't do much. But as we
got older, he got more involved and active. And I
think that has a lot to do with it. Since
we don't know the gentleman's circumstances here and what his
upbringing is, I think that it's the same thing that
(27:45):
maybe once this child gets older, he may get more involved.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
And we love Larry, but Larry, no, I hear what
you're saying. That's a risk. I mean, I hear what
you're saying, does a chance he buys in over time,
right or warms up to the idea, But that now
you have another human involved, and I think we have
to consider not only her needs, his needs, as Jason
pointed out, but also like, how's this how's this kid
(28:10):
going to feel if dad is truly detached from the process.
Sample Jenny, good morning, Hey, good morning. I'm gonna let
you have the final say here, what do you think?
Speaker 4 (28:21):
So?
Speaker 6 (28:21):
I think they both should try to work it out,
only because it's a little different. But I had a
friend or I have a friend who they both got married.
In all their lives, they said, you know, we don't
want kids. Both when she turned forty I think forty one,
she accidentally got pregnant. They baby, and now they're in
love with this little boy fell I think eight years old.
(28:44):
And he says it's the best thing that's ever happened
to their lives.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, I mean it's very possible.
Speaker 6 (28:51):
Yeah, once the baby's here, he could easily change his mind.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
You never know, it's possible.
Speaker 6 (28:56):
Yeah, I don't know, but yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
It's a risk. I mean that's a risk. Yeah, that's
that's a big risk, because you know, he's telling you
his truth. It's almost like when people show you who
they are, you should believe them kind of thing. I mean,
I know that applies to different scenarios, but it's like
he's telling you so. Then in when when the kid's
five years old and he's like, I told you I
don't want any I don't want to do this, you
(29:20):
can't be mad at him, I guess because he's as
messed up as that is. He told you that. So
I don't know, Jenny, but thank you, thanks for calling.
You have a good day. Okay, Well I don't think
we solved their problem, but anyway,
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I guess prison Break was one. People are saying they
light high Town. Someone's saying that they kept their Star
subscription only for high Town. And then so there was
the one person who watched it. They listened to us too.
Cobra Kai Netflix bought that from YouTube. Netflix did that
with Manifest, but they have asked it. I rested development
(01:05):
got New Life. Lucifer was another example. Okay, so it
does happen where a show doesn't necessarily do as well
the first time around, and then it gets popular on
Netflix and then they make more episodes. They should make
more episodes of this show. A little cheesy, like I
couldn't tell you ever watch a show and you're like,
sometimes I'm like, this is really really well done, and
then then I'm like, okay, but that was a lot
(01:27):
of fake blood, you.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Like I'm like, I am like, hold on, no, wait
a minute. Did the same person direct this episode that
directed the other way? Like I'm like, wow, this is
phenomenal acting like at times and then the other time
like this is really bad. But I watched it. I
watched him, but I was very sad to learn. Or
have you ever had the disappointment of watching a series
and you didn't realize that you were on the last
(01:50):
episode and then it's just over. Yes, that's devastating. It's devastating.
So now I look to see the only problem with
looking to see how many episodes are left is then
you kind then you kind of know that they're about
to wrap up the story or like the screen grab
is something that's a spoiler. I hate when they do that.
Oh that's not good either. Yeah, but I've done that
where I'm like, okay, good, you know whatever, and I'm
(02:11):
watching it. I'm having a nice time, and I'll get
a bunch of episodes. I'm into this show, like I
know what I'm gonna do the next couple of days,
and then oh we're out of episodes. That was it,
and then in this case, there won't be anymore. It's
very upsetting. Anyway, I'm going to start a high town.
We're gonna have like a little group and we're gonna
maybe we'll do like a discord or something, and we're
gonna all get in there and it probably already is one,
and we're going to talk about all of our theories
(02:33):
of what could have happened and what would have happened.
And then I'm going to look up all the actors
on social media and I'm going to DM them and
ask them what they think should have happened. It's gonna
be great. What's a discord? I don't I don't actually know.
I think it's a chat room. I see people talk
about it. I'm not a member of any disc I
think it's like a private chat room kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
You have to get an invite to joining people's discords,
and then it's like you can make different subject titles,
so like you could talk about like what you like eating,
what you're watching, like whatever.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
But no, no, it's free, but you had to be
like invited in kind of so I'd take a little
chat room kind of thing. But I thought, you know,
I thought that was it seemed like the right time
to use the discord. Yeah, no, I think you used
it right. I just don't get it. But to get
in there headlines, guys, I got a couple sad ones
to start. Unfortunately, a gunman killed at least four people
in a Manhattan office building on Monday evening. One of
(03:21):
them was an off duty New York City Police officers,
shot while exchanging fire with the shooter in the lobby.
The suspect then disappeared into the skyscraper and was found
later with the self inflicted gunshot wound. The Park Avenue
building houses the offices of some major financial firms, as
well as the National Football League. Security footage showed a
gunman walking outside the building carrying a long gun before
(03:42):
the shooting began. And for our Chicago fans and for
baseball fans everywhere on Monday, the Cubs lost one of
its all time great sports icons. The Chicago community did too.
Chicago Cubs legend Ryan Samberg. He passed away at the
age of sixty five. According to the franchise, he died
in hospice care following copulation complications in his ongoing battle
(04:04):
with prostate cancer. The news comes after Samberg announced his
prostate cancer had relapsed and spread throughout his body in
December of twenty twenty four. That guy was all over
all over town, very involved with the Cubs and all
kinds of different organizations, an amazing ambassador for the Cubs
and for the city and for baseball and the NFL
legend and University of Colorado football coach Dean Sanders. This
(04:25):
is a little bit better news. He said he beat
cancer after undergoing the full removal of his bladder in May.
He said that he will continue to coach to Seize him,
including the season opener against Georgia Tech. The fifty seven
year old former NFL and college star appeared yesterday in
a press conference with this doctor who said they removed
the bladder and worked on the insertion of a new bladder,
(04:47):
and I am pleased to report that the results in
the surgery are that he has cured from cancer. He
said that he was diagnosed with bladder cancer during a
health checkup. This spring to everybody, at least with the
story number two, number three. Go to the doctor and
get checked on regularly so you can catch this stuff early.
Hopefully this is for you, Paulina. The death of Hulk
(05:08):
Hogan might mean the death of Hooters. Wait, wait, the
two things are connected. As if Hulk Hogan's passing wasn't
wasn't shocking and sad enough. Now you're talking about how
he could have saved Hooters and it may not happen now.
A few months before his death, wrestling icon Hulk Hogan's
beer brand, Real American Beer, was in talks to acquire
Hooters intellectual property as part of the change Chapter eleven
(05:29):
bankruptcy restructuring. Rather than taking over the restaurants, he aimed
to license the Hooters name for branded products, digital content, gaming,
and consumer experiences. The deal was seen as a way
to preserve and modernize the beloved American brand while expanding
Hogan's growing lifestyle portfolio. However, legal and financial hurdles, including
liquor laws barring alcohol brands from owning restaurants and potential
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resistance from Hooters creditors, made the acquisition uncertain. Paulina, this
is where you step in with all of your millions
that you got from being the biggest to invest in
Eloye and iHeartRadio.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Well my free tells for the business, and the one.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Step as this way you step in right now now
is the time you can save Hooters. You can do it.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
I've been thinking about it because someone's got to do it.
And if it's not me, then who you know? And
he's the thing too. Like everyone talks about nostalgia, all
these things, they want to just soak up in it.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Why don't we just do that with Hooters.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Why don't we all collectively come to gather society and
save Hooters because that'll save us.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Let's save Hooters and then all go there and watch
the new seasons of high Town that are going to
be made, because I'm going to say that, Chris, this
is amazing, this is amazing. We can collab. We've done it.
So this is a strange story Las Vegas and a
lot of sports stories this morning. But Las Vegas Raiders
star Christian Wilkins was released from the team after an
unfortunate kissing incident in the team's locker room. Witness said
(06:43):
that the kiss was on the head. It was playful,
but the unnamed recipient took offense to the act and
then reported him to human resources. So NFL players are
subject to human resources, which is a little while. I mean,
of course they are their employees and it's an organization,
But okay. Esping clarified that the football players release from
the team was not entirely due to the kiss. A
(07:06):
foot injury from last October also held the defensive tackler back.
The dispute stem from the Raiders team requiring him to
undergo a second surgery for his injury, but he failed
to do so. He joined the team in twenty twenty four,
signed a four year contract one hundred and ten million
dollars eighty four million guaranteed. Parting from the team has
cost him the remainder of his contract, with about thirty
five point two effectively voided. But he'll be okay. But
(07:30):
he kissed a guy on the head and got fired
from the NFL. Wow, I didn't. I honestly didn't know
you could do that, believe it or not, based on
everything I know about you know, the stories in the
NFL over the past few years, I didn't realize that
your behavior would actually get you kicked off the team.
Of all of all the things that have happened a
lot of things. You kissed someone on the forehead, you
(07:51):
get kicked off the team. But the other stuff you
can do, you can do a lot of stuff you're
not supposed to do. Famous Yetti's pet said Wisconsin mistakenly
used t EHD infused cooking oil last October and it
left eighty five diners ages one to ninety one, buzz
dizzy and hallucinating. Three people went to the hospital. Police
seemed it an accident, and the shop has since titan
(08:12):
storage and apologized. I don't know what they got to
hold vat of THHD cooking oil for, and I guess
I'm surprised you don't get in more trouble for that.
But can you imagine if you didn't know that you
were consuming THHD and then you got high, Like if
you knew then I guess you might, you would expect it,
but if you're ninety one years old, like, is this
(08:33):
the end?
Speaker 5 (08:33):
Is this?
Speaker 6 (08:33):
It?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Is it happening now right this second? And a fifty
four year old Texas man named Fritz. He mocked law
enforcement on Facebook, calling outstanding arrest warrants the adult version
of hide and seek. And less than ten days later,
what do you think happened? They raided his house, found
him and arrested him on charges of fraud and theft.
No word and if he tagged his location in the post,
(08:55):
This guy Fritz over here reminds me a little bit
of like if my mom tried to taunt police on
face Book or Instagram. I love my mom and she's
a very smart lady, but I'm finding that her tech
skills are really sort of slipping and she doesn't really
know who she's dming or who she's commenting on and
if it's public or private. So I would encourage, you know,
(09:15):
some of you who may not be as sharp technically,
you know, as it comes to new technology, don't mock
the police using social media because it turns out, whether
you tag yourself or not, they can probably go deep
to dig in there and do whatever they gotta do,
you know, or maybe look at your background and you
the sign, you know, or like with your address on
it or something, and they're like, hmm, I bet he's
at his house. But isn't this a tale so old
(09:37):
as time? People taunt the police on the internet and
then they get arrested days later. Further warns were issued
after evidence was found during the search. He is currently
being held in jail on twelve thousand dollars bond. It's
National Chicken Wing Day. There you go, save Hooters. Today's
the day, Yes, National Lusanna Day. Today is well. The
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(10:41):
or Go hard Kelly. Good morning to Kelly. How you doing,
Welcome to the program, Kelly, So you are you're a
married woman. Congratulation. Congratulations for being a married woman. I
don't know if you've made it. Have you been married
for a while, a couple of years, something like that.
That's a big accomplishment.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
Have been together a long time?
Speaker 1 (11:03):
I'm serious. I feel like being married for any period
of time like past maybe, I don't know. Twenty four
months is impressive for me. I've been being with someone
longer than six months is impressive. But anyway, nonetheless, this
is about kids, though, So what's going on with you
and your husband?
Speaker 6 (11:20):
Well?
Speaker 7 (11:20):
Okay, so you know, when we were younger, we both
agreed we just didn't want children, and so that was
our thing. But we've gotten a little older, and unfortunately
I'm one of the people that they kind of talk
about that I've changed my mind and I want kids.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Okay, so you you guys have this conversation. This is
and this is a very fundamental thing to talk about. Here,
I am talking about relationships like I've ever been successful
in one. But nonetheless I have I can, I can observe,
I give great advice, I give excellent advice, and I
have great perspective. I just myself cannot really seem to
(11:59):
find very much success. But you have this conversation ahead
of time. Hey kids, no kids. I think talking about
money ahead of time. I think talking about you know, love,
languages and that kind of thing. I think there's all
stuff to get ironed out before you get married, so
that you're on the same page, that you don't commit
to each other for life legally, and then decide one
person's like I want to spend all of our money
(12:20):
and the other person like I want to save all
of our money. Or I want to have kids and
I don't want to have kids, or you know, these
fundamental things. And now you guys are latched together and
you're going to be unhappy because you view things differently.
So you guys had the conversation before you got married.
No kids, that was what you determined.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
Oh yeah, we definitely had this conversation, and I mean
I definitely didn't want them, and he didn't either. But
it's just gotten older and I have changed my mind,
and I went and told them, though I, of course
we are really communicative, this is this is just one
of our busses. But I told them that I had
(12:58):
a change of heart, and he he was like, you know,
I appreciate you telling me, but I don't My mind
hasn't changed. So anyway, he still doesn't want kids, but
he did have a compromise.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Well, a compromise that's exciting. What was it? Yeah, what
is it?
Speaker 7 (13:19):
Well, well, he said that if I wanted a kid
bad enough, he said, he would obviously contribute financially. But
he's not doing diapers, he's not doing feedings, like waking
up in the middle of the night, warming bottles, all
of the thing. I'm going to be doing all of them.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
So he'll help you make the kid, but you get
to raise it. And he's just he's and he'll give you,
he'll pread a couple of bucks towards it, but he's
not going to be involved in like the hard work.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
I mean, you're right, But I want to make.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Sure I have this right.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I'm not. I'm not.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I mean, I think that's that's a wild take, But
I want to make sure I have this right. So
he's not telling you you're fine, we can have a kid.
I'm just not going to do the hard stuff. Yeah
he's not.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
He's exactly.
Speaker 7 (14:03):
Yeah, he's not going to do any of that if
I want, if we're going to do this, how.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Does that make you feel?
Speaker 7 (14:09):
Change my mind?
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Well, and that's fair, But how does that make you feel?
Because you're allowed to change your mind now, I mean,
it's it's a pretty significant thing to to then say, well,
now I want to add a human to our sort
of existence. Now, I mean, but you also have every
right to change your mind. I suppose he has every
right to say. But we talked about this and I've
never wanted kids, and I don't want them now. I
(14:31):
think that's a weird compromise. But how does this all
make you feel?
Speaker 7 (14:35):
I mean, at first it was like that is, but
I mean again, I'm the one that made this decision
in my head. I changed my mind. And if he's
going to he's not going anywhere. He's going to be
financially supporting. I mean, plus, you know, what's the difference
between like having a kid on your own. You know,
there's plenty of single moms that do it every day.
(14:56):
And I'm thinking he's going to change his mind over time,
you know, And so I don't know. I don't know.
What do I do?
Speaker 6 (15:03):
I don't know?
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I mean, what are the options?
Speaker 5 (15:09):
Right?
Speaker 1 (15:09):
The options are you you do it this way? You know,
you have your kid with your partner who you love,
and he's just not involved very much. Somebody tells me
he'll be okay. Maybe he'd be okay with like some
of the upside, but doesn't sound like he doesn't want
to be up in the middle of the night changing diapers.
He doesn't want to do right, he doesn't want to
hear you're the nurturing part of it. Maybe okay, you
(15:33):
could not have a kid, which means then that you're
not fulfilled in this way because this is what you
want and that's a big deal. Or you could divorce
him and then go find somebody who does want to
have a kid. Am I missing any options here? And
I know this all studs cut and dry and like
very simplified, But am I missing anything.
Speaker 7 (15:54):
Noll, that's it.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Yeah, I don't really like this very much.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
And I only say that. And you can totally have
a kid on your own, that is not.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Even the issue.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
But I feel like because you are married to somebody
and that person you know, is quote okay with this
idea and kind of treating it like almost like you're
bringing home a puppy or something like he's like, you
know what I mean, he's like, oh, I'm not gonna
get up the middle of the night and do this
and that like that's that's a single married mom in
my opinion, And I don't really like that. If you're
gonna do it on your own, I would just say
do it fully on your own and like not even
(16:24):
like truly I have to leave this man because also
too so you're gonna bring him a baby and there's
gonna be a man living there, but he's not involved.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
But he's a dad, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
It's like, who's that man walking in the hallway?
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Like you know what I mean? How involved does he
think he's gonna be?
Speaker 4 (16:36):
Like you're the father and you also live here, and.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
I suppose he might change his mind once the kid's
there and he sees you working hard and doing all this,
he might decide, well, maybe I should be involved. It's
my offspring too. I guess there's a chance of that.
I just from the jump, I just don't like the
way that feels, you know, like, hey, yeah, you can
have the kid, but like I'll just I'm just sort
of here, don't don't, don't, don't inconvenience me with it.
(17:00):
But for the people who are texting saying this guy's
a jerk, that that is a jerk, that's kind of
a jerky response by all means. But he did say
from the beginning his truth was I don't want kids, right,
So that does not make him a bad guy. He
was very clear about that. So I mean, for the
people who are like, this guy's terrible, I don't know.
(17:23):
I don't know if he's his response is not great,
but he's allowed to be a person who doesn't want
to have kids, like that's not And and you guys
didn't talk about it and agree on that initially.
Speaker 7 (17:33):
Yes, And I understand where he's at. That's why, because
we were hard knows, so I get where he's at.
So you know, that's why I'm struggling with this.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
And.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
You're going to resent him.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
You're going to resent him when the baby's there middle
of the night. You're the one changing diapers, You're the
one doing all these things.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
I feel like it's a terrible idea and you're allowed
to change your mind. And Fred was right about that.
Like you guys were very clear in the beginning. You guys,
you know, grew in your marriage. Whatever you want different
things now. I think, I hate to say it, doesn't
that call for like some form of like I don't know, separation,
going your own ways, then living your life on your terms,
both of you doing what you both want.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
My crazy, I.
Speaker 7 (18:13):
Think this is bigger than oh god, someone, this is
even bigger than the baby.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Someone texting have the baby and then divorce him. Do
not do that, ye, do not do that. That is
the that's the worst. I love you, but that is
the worst advice. Because you're still tied to the guy. No,
this is what you do either. You may have to
leave this dude. If you really want a kid, you
deserve a supportive partner who's in it with you. It
(18:38):
also wants the kid. Maybe give him a little bit
of time to marinate on this, but you I don't
think it's unfair. If this is really your calling and
really what you're drawn to do, and you feel very
strongly about it, you have one life. You deserve a
supportive partner with whom to do this. You may have
to go to shay him and say, look, I love you,
but we are now fractured. We are fundamentally on different
(19:00):
sides of this, and I don't want to do this
with somebody who's going to be absent minded. And maybe
if you have that conversation, he comes around because he
loves you, and maybe he can see it, and maybe
he does it. I actually know a couple. This is
a real story. I know a couple that had this
very thing happen. They decided no kids, no kids. And
I'm not going to get into too many details because
these people might know who I'm talking about. I don't
(19:21):
know people might know who I'm talking about. But let's
just say that he was willing to take on some
other responsibilities, but he did not want kids. He never did,
but he loved her. They got married. She says, you know,
in somewhere in years into the marriage, I want kids,
and he's like I don't want kid. I told you
I really don't like I have my whole life planned out,
and I told you this, And at some point the
(19:43):
conversation was, if you need to leave me, I would
be heartbroken. But I understand. I'm not going to stand
in your way, but I'm not one hundred percent in this.
They wound up staying together and having a kid, and
everything is wonderful. But it wasn't the plan. It wasn't
it kind of all it didn't happen in order or
as you know. It kind of just happened, and that's
(20:04):
a different story. But nonetheless, everything works out fine, everyone's happy,
and it turns out I think this guy would tell
you that it's the greatest thing that ever happened to him.
But if a guy's telling you right now, I don't
want it and I'm not going to be involved, that
is bad. Right like that, I can't imagine starting that way.
Speaker 7 (20:24):
You know, do you really think I could do it
on my own?
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Of course you can. At least someone wants to know
how old you are. By the way, how old are
you in your thirties?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I'm in my thirties.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Okay, Yeah, you absolutely can do it. On your own.
I mean, here's what I'll say. I don't know you
people can do it on their own, and I believe
you're you're probably very capable of it. But I don't
think this is going to work. And it's it's heartbreaking.
But eight five, five, five, nine, one one three five,
the text are going crazy. I would love to know
what people have to say about this though. I hate
to say this, but I think you you know, have
(20:55):
to have a very and it's not a mean conversation.
It's not you know, there's no lack of love. I
don't think it's spiteful or hateful. This guy didn't lie
to you. He told you the truth. But I think
it may it may be the kind of conversation where
you have to just say, look, I gotta do this
and so and I want to do it with somebody
who either either is going to be an active participant
(21:16):
who wants to be there, or I'd rather do it
on my own. I know people who've done that too. Well, Kelly,
let me take some calls and have the radio one
and thank you for sharing this. I know it's very
personal and good luck to you.
Speaker 7 (21:30):
Well, thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Yeah, you got it, we appreciate you. I mean, yeah,
I don't know. I think she's got to probably leave
this guy.
Speaker 3 (21:38):
Yeah, from his perspective too, like he came into this
relationship like thinking one thing, and now yeah, she gets
to choose her what she wants to do. But in
a way, is also like blowing up his life, you know,
like now he may lose his marriage because of it.
And he had the same intentions from the jump.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Yeah, I don't like his response, but I don't disagree
with with him having a set and in this and
having a vote and having a desire for his life too.
I mean again the whole I'll well, I'll knock you
up and then just be here. I don't like that.
But I also for the people, like this guy's such
a d I he didn't have to want this, you know,
(22:17):
he didn't have to wun the jump. This is what
I want. She's the one switching up with Yeah, she
can do. But it's sad, but it happens.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
I think in marriages people just outgrow each other, not
because of Kay's but other things too, right, And I
think it's sad and it blows up everyone's life.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
And now you know, you're divorced, but it is what
it is. Autumn. Good morning, Hi, welcome.
Speaker 8 (22:35):
Hi, I'm your fourteenth color.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
Just so you guys know, Oh you're the fourteenth. You
know why.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
That's impossible And we only have thirteen listeners, will only
ever have thirteen listeners? Right when we think we got fourteen,
someone moves to somewhere where they don't have the Internet yet.
It's crazy. Anyway, what do you think?
Speaker 5 (22:51):
So?
Speaker 8 (22:51):
I just I'm thinking about the child. My that's always
my number one is do you really want to raise
a child or have it even a peoplesh chance of
like this child not having the father being around like
in their life. So I just think that that's that's
what I would think about. I'd leave. I for sure, leave,
especially if she really wants a baby, because you don't
(23:13):
know for sure if he's going to want to be around,
and you don't want to do that to the baby either,
you know.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Yeah, I agree, And and you know what it could
be like my friend who had a kid that he
wasn't expecting and and loves that kid more than anything
and it changed his life. If you're here right now,
he would tell you it's the greatest thing. That ever
happened to you. I know he'd say that, but he didn't
see it. But you're taking a risk. You're taking a risk.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
He's an exception, He's not the rule. Right, isn't a movie.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
And I can't I can't with much confidence, uh, engage
in that agreement, you know what I mean? Like that's
that doesn't feel good. My partner is gonna My partner
is willing to sleep with me, and you know whatever.
But but but he's not really willing to do this
with me.
Speaker 8 (23:56):
So sometimes you grow apart like that just is you'd
want different things and you grow in different directions and
that's okay, and she shouldn't feel ashamed about that, But
if she doesn't want the same things, then I mean
it might be time to part ways.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Yeah, maybe so thank you autumn listener number. You say
fourteen and you're still thirteen. But HI, have a good day.
Speaker 8 (24:15):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I love you mean it. Hi, Kelly, good morning, Kelly. Hello, Hi,
Hi Kelly. What do you want to say?
Speaker 5 (24:26):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (24:26):
I want to say that she needs to go.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
This is so selfish.
Speaker 7 (24:31):
She should not bring a child into this world knowing
that their father wants nothing to do with it.
Speaker 8 (24:37):
It's so cool.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Yeah, yeah, I don't think it's going to work under
the current arrangement, and I think it's a risk if
you do it within these with the confides of this relationship,
because he's telling you he doesn't want to do it.
But thank you, Kelly, I'm glad you called. Have a
great day, you two, and thank you for listening. Brandon,
So you say stay, Why.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Stayed? Because he was honest from the very beginning. He
told her exactly what the situation was. While there's a
good chance that his mind will change when he sees
that precious young one and he holds it in his hands. However,
there's so many fathers who never were honest from the beginning,
(25:22):
who have adjusted, who actually never told their wives that,
oh no, I'll do everything, but then never do anything,
who are married now but never take care of the
child in any way, who perhaps live from the beginning.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I think we're talking about it. He told two different things, Brandon.
Then we're talking about dead bee dad. We're talking about
people who want a kid but don't want to work
for it. This guy, and you don't find that out
until after the fact. This guy's telling you, he's telling
you right now. Hey, he's calling a shot, like, hey,
just heads up, I don't want to do this Like
that's I think that's a little bit different because it's
bad enough if you have a kid and then yeah, yeah,
(26:00):
yeah kid, and then you don't want to raise it.
I mean, that's a different I think it's a different problem.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
That's true. But however, he is willing to take care
of in every way. But the amount of single moms
out there who have zero support whatsoever have to do
it all on their own.
Speaker 9 (26:14):
Well, not every way, not the emotional part. You know,
he's saying, I want to be like a hands offstitute.
So I wonder, okay, if she goes to a sperm
make and the kid doesn't hack quote unquote have a dad,
is that less painful than having a dad that's like
one foot in, one foot out the door, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
And it's on the risk that he's somehow going to
buy in after the fact. But Brandon, I appreciate you, man,
thank you so much for calling Katie. Katie you say, go,
she's got to go.
Speaker 8 (26:39):
Yes, I do.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Well.
Speaker 8 (26:41):
I think if they can find a compromise, great, But
I think the idea at hands is a bad idea,
and if that's the only idea, she should go.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, So we got to vote for go.
Thank you, Katie. Yeah, Larry, vote for stay. Hi, Larry.
Hell over there, Larry. You can say why.
Speaker 5 (27:03):
So the reason why is that and I don't know
this gentleman's circumstances, but depending if he was an only
child or something like that, I had the same thing
with my folks. So when my folks got married, my
dad wanted to have kids. But until we were like,
I don't know, seven or eight years old, he didn't
really He wasn't involved in our in our you know,
(27:24):
raising us and what have you. Thus he would do
is probably wipe a butt every now and then, but
other than that, he didn't do much. But as we
got older, he got more involved and active. And I
think that has a lot to do with it. Since
we don't know the gentleman's circumstances here and what his
upbringing is, I think that it's the same thing that
(27:45):
maybe once this child gets older, he may get more involved.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
And we love Larry, but Larry, no, I hear what
you're saying. That's a risk. I mean, I hear what
you're saying, does a chance he buys in over time,
right or warms up to the idea, But that now
you have another human involved, and I think we have
to consider not only her needs, his needs, as Jason
pointed out, but also like, how's this how's this kid
(28:10):
going to feel if dad is truly detached from the process.
Sample Jenny, good morning, Hey, good morning. I'm gonna let
you have the final say here, what do you think?
Speaker 4 (28:21):
So?
Speaker 6 (28:21):
I think they both should try to work it out,
only because it's a little different. But I had a
friend or I have a friend who they both got married.
In all their lives, they said, you know, we don't
want kids. Both when she turned forty I think forty one,
she accidentally got pregnant. They baby, and now they're in
love with this little boy fell I think eight years old.
(28:44):
And he says it's the best thing that's ever happened
to their lives.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, I mean it's very possible.
Speaker 6 (28:51):
Yeah, once the baby's here, he could easily change his mind.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
You never know, it's possible.
Speaker 6 (28:56):
Yeah, I don't know, but yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
It's a risk. I mean that's a risk. Yeah, that's
that's a big risk, because you know, he's telling you
his truth. It's almost like when people show you who
they are, you should believe them kind of thing. I mean,
I know that applies to different scenarios, but it's like
he's telling you so. Then in when when the kid's
five years old and he's like, I told you I
don't want any I don't want to do this, you
(29:20):
can't be mad at him, I guess because he's as
messed up as that is. He told you that. So
I don't know, Jenny, but thank you, thanks for calling.
You have a good day. Okay, Well I don't think
we solved their problem, but anyway,
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