August 7, 2025 • 14 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Is there any part of your childhood, like any sort
of blankie or or bear or I don't know what
it could be, anything that you, as a grown up
you still have and that it's still maybe part of
the repertoire, you know, maybe it's still in the bed.
Maybe you still sleep with the blanket, Maybe you still
sleep with the bear. Maybe maybe you're a dude and
(00:22):
you're you know me, Mall gave you a bear back
in the day and you've kept it, and no matter what,
it has to be in the bedroom, it.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Has to be looking at you at all times.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I bring this up because there's a psychological trend out
of China that is now appearing in TikTok videos worldwide.
Stressed adults using overside oversized pacifiers to sleep, calm anxiety,
and even quit smoking. So adults using pacifiers now advocates
believe in the nostalgic comfort, but dentists and psychologists worn
(00:52):
of the dental damage, jawstrain, and the risk of suffocation,
experts a pacifiers may provide temporary relief, but real risks
and don't replace healthier long term stress tools. But yes,
you go to someone's house and they have a pacifier,
and you'd be like, what is that? Like, I everyone
to bed now, good night, and some people might you know,
they might put in there on visit line, and some
(01:13):
people might put on I don't know, a face mask
of some kind, or some sort of apparatus on your
hair or something, I don't know what you headband or something,
but no pacifier. But to any of you guys, hang
on to anything from your childhood minimal judgment commentary with
no judgment.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
We are right. I don't think I don't believe you.
You don't believe me that no judgment.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
I'm not the worst culprit at all. You're probably worse
than me anyway.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Yeah, So anyway, tell me about the blanket that you
still sleep with that.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
I know I don't have anything. I don't think I
think you're deflecting right now. Well yeah, but no, I
don't think I have anything.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Nothing.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
I mean, I dated a guy who had his baby blanket.
I've told the story, and I washed it and he
got very ticked off. He said only his mom could
wash it the right way.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Yeah. Yeah, it was a little baby blanket with balloons
on it. Oh yeah it was. I guess it's almost
less about the blanket. Is it is about the commentary
about this?
Speaker 5 (02:09):
There was a whole yea, you know, it was a
whole moment that I.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Took one that could wash it.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Yeah, it was giving.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
It was giving.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
We went back in time.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I was like, okay, yeah, can you imagine like activities
are happening and then they're over and you're like, oh
here and then you.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
No, not that, not that, I don't know. We can't
use that.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
We didn't do that with that, But activity did happen
with that in the bed. I mean it was there
all the time.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Wow, And hey, mommy, can you come over cale and
use my blanket for something?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Like it was dirty?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
And he didn't like that.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Oh no, that was I mean I know that by
There was a blanket that I had as a child
that still exists. I mean, I know it's in the house.
I don't not my OUs and in my parents' house.
I mean it was this little yellow blanket. I know
it still exists. My sister had a U she called
it soggy, but it was like, well that's because it
was driven in spit all the time. But yeah, but
(03:00):
it was, uh, it was like a little square blanket thing.
I don't know what it was. It was not a
blanket because it wasn't that big. It was like a
little square kind of patch and it had a little
tag on the corner, and she'd stick her finger through
the tag and then put her finger in her mouth,
you know, like like missus. You know, she was like
eighteen nineteen when this happened.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
But he missed that. Okay, I'm talking to myself.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Anyway, she was, she was two, and and it was
always wet because the spit would just you know, you guys,
just let that one just go right over anywhere.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I thought it was hysterical, but I actually I was
just testing to see if anybody was listening to me.
But but she knew, she knew the soggy though, like
she knew the wow. Yes, you know, she knew these
specific one because my mom had several of them, and
like if something because god, it was a total meltdown
if something happened to soggy, you know it. So there
were multiple soggies, but and they were all the same color.
(03:54):
But she would know, like if we gave her a
new one out of the box, she'd be like, that's
not soggy. Yeah, it's like, no, nobody did. Definitely is
it's the same brand, It's in the same place.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Is what the name?
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Because I don't know you she was chewing you.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Did you not have like anything as a child that
you called something because that was the only word that
you could say.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I mean I just had a blankye, but that that
was it? So blank. He's better than soggy hockey is
a gross word. I hate that word. I mean, she
was too. I don't know when she came up with it.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Well, this sucking your thumb count someone texting my forty
five year old wife. Oh man, maybe we're calling this person.
I want to talk to this. Well, I need to
understand it.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
For too long too. You didn't hear a secret here, Leonard?
Your wife such a.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Suck your thumb still to this day, I mean, are
we talking like full on thumb, big old thumb in mouth,
fists in the air.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
That moved the whole thing. No, shame to it. She
don't care who is it called in the public. It's
still to this day.
Speaker 6 (04:53):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Wow, Wow, her teeth messed up? No, she has pretty
because i'm your little gap in there. But it's still cute.
Does she stick the thumb in the gap, careful free,
I said the thumb. Brother, I didn't know. Okay, all right,
I gotta this is getting the.
Speaker 7 (05:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I guess it comforts her so she she'll get yourself
sleeping or just out of the blue.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I guess it's her calmness. So look at this guy,
that Leonard, he's in love.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
I want to know what Leonard does that this is
just okay at the house, like it's what it comes
home her thumb.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I want to know what she's hiding about you, Leonard.
I'm an open book. Okay, all right, man, have a
good day. I'm glad you called.
Speaker 7 (05:43):
All right.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I mean, yeah, you get her a pacifier.
Speaker 6 (05:46):
Though, no, no, no, no, that should have been cut
from like age two, Like every day I think about that.
I'm like, I ask my baby's pacifiers soon because I
don't want her to be so relying on it, you know,
I want her to like self sooth and stuff.
Speaker 8 (05:58):
Jason, I'm sorry, but I think that was the problem.
I think my parents took my passifire away too early,
and then that caused me.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
That's that's how this all happened. I changed transfer to one.
I just said too.
Speaker 8 (06:12):
Long, like still I'm too old, right, how old ground
school age?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I was still sucking my transfer of addiction.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
You're not listening to me.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
You both spoke at the same time. No, no, I'm sorry.
I heard sucking and transfer of addiction. I'm sorry. It
took me completely off course.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
It had to be in private, like you would go
in your room and shut the door and then you'd
like secret.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
It would be just like a time thing. It was
this corner of like the sheet like I still position.
But it's so gross. I'm sorry. You thought the same thing.
I looked at you. You had the same look at you.
I'm sorry, it's fine.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I'm not sure enough for this conversation.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Trying you guys. That's not chasing my parents.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
My Parris shook my passifier away, and that's how this happened.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
We are so.
Speaker 7 (07:08):
You thought the same thing, don't you. I look at Polya,
you thought the same thing. So shut up, God, Jason, Okay,
that's some fight. No, there's nothing wrong with what happened.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
It would just explain a lot of There was a prong.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Absolutely, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, Jason. But but
that would be a scientific discovery if that's how this
all went down. If you take your kids pass away,
they gotta fight something.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Don't take early. Yeah, they talk better than they tell me.
These are the radio blocks on the Fred Show, like.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
For running in our diaries, except we say them aloud.
We call them blogs kinky go.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Yes, okay, so deer blog. I know we've been down
this road before.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
But I have a wedding coming up for a friend
and you know, the friend group is tight. So everybody
has gotten their invites rs vps are rolling the in.
But there's some controversy because not everyone on the invite.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
List received a plus one.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
So I got a call that said, hey, you girl,
are you going to you know so and so's wedding?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I say yes. They said, did Big Tim get an
invite too?
Speaker 4 (08:22):
And I said yes, and they're like, hmmm, well that's
funny because my husband didn't get invited and you all
aren't even married. I said, oh, no, hold on it.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I didn't make the invite.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Right, But I was like, hmm, that's interesting. And so
it made me.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Think of the question, like, when you're whole, you know,
doing a whole wedding, should every person inviteed get a
plus one option?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I didn't realize if you were married, that you could
invite just one of the people, right, Yeah, I thought
it was just kind of assumed that if I, if
I'm married, that my wife could come with.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Me, Like I didn't.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
I guess I figured that was a given. Like when
you invited me, you know it was gonna be like, honey,
I'm going to Toledo for a wedding this week, so
I gotta go. You know, Sorry, you have a good weekend,
Like whose wedding is? And I'm so I know them too, Yeah,
I know you weren't invited, like right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I guess the only time that I would. I don't
know what the etiquette is, but the only time that
I would, I would. It's a little gray of a
gray area for me because I typically am not dating anyone,
and even if I were, I'm not married to them,
So like I sometimes will ask, and I know people
think that's rude, but it's like, I don't know. Am
I expected to show up by myself? Maybe I am,
but I guess I would. And people have said to
(09:37):
me before, like, oh, it's rude to ask. I'm like,
but I just tell me no, Like can I bring
someone or not. And if the answer is no, then no.
But I guess it's the etiquette would say it's based
on the way that the invitation's written, right.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
I guess so.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
And I just I just thought, if you have a
wedding and every person you invite, you just give them
a plus one, Whether they take a person or not,
you just offer it because maybe they want to bring,
you know, their bestie to hang with them tonight or may.
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Everybody wants somebody to kiss the some that a wedding,
you know, always sorry girl.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Yeah, weddings are a little weird to go to by yourself,
especially if you maybe don't know the person as well,
Like if it's a family wedding or something, that's one thing,
but I don't know, And I get that it would
be rude to put someone in the spot to like,
hey can I bring someone? But I also know about
situations where people have just brought or RSVP plus one
and they didn't have one and they didn't know. So
I guess I would rather just clarify, like, hey, are
(10:27):
you expecting me or expect can I bring someone? And
if you say like oh no, I've had people say
no it was just you, And it's fine because I
also would understand somebody who's like, I don't need to
pay I don't need some random at my wedding, you
know what I mean, Like, I don't don't go on
like hinge and I wouldn't do this, but like, don't
go get a dating app, you know, don't go match
with somebody and then bring that what I got to
pay for that I even know them, so I get that,
(10:49):
like in the dating world that can be a little
bit weird. But I did not know that you could
invite one half of a married couple and not.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
The other right, and then here you go, you got
your technically single ran over here with Hartman, and now
everybody's looking like, well, why didn't I get an invite?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
And I'm just like, I don't know the proper way
to do this.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
I just if it was me, I think I would
just invite whoever I want to invite and they would
get a plus one. Whatever you do with your plus
one is up to you. But you know, I don't
want to single anybody out. That's how I think.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
That's the easiest way to do this, because then you
don't have this situation where it's like, well, Kiky's boyfriend
got invited, but my wife didn't or my husband didn't,
and I think that's more important than a boyfriend. And
then you get into all that, and then you could
also make the argument, I don't care what you think,
it's my wedding. Well that part, but I also think
if it's your wedding, you're gonna you might alienate yourself
from people by doing it this way. True, you know
(11:41):
what I mean, Like, your friend might be irritated with you,
And I'm not saying it's there right because again it's
your day, but like, why would you leave my husband
out of this right?
Speaker 4 (11:50):
In this particular friend, she says she did not RSVP.
She's like, I'm just not because it's only from me.
And I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
I think married or long term someone should get a
plus one. I understand if someone's single, you're not giving
them one if things are tight money or space, but
I think it shouldn't matter married or long term you've
been dating to him forever.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
I think you both should have plus ones.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
Not going as wild right, I was like, oh.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Boy, I'm with you though about it, just kind of
assuming that people are going to bring a plus one
because you're going to invite couples and you're going to
invite singles, and some of the couples won't come right
because I get when you invite people, you're thinking in
your head, well, three quarters of these people are going
to RSVP, and then because you know how many people
you can, you're going to pay for and whatever. I
guess I figure it kind of all shakes out.
Speaker 5 (12:36):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
I was just like, I don't want to be in
the middle of this. I don't want to be I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Someone texted me.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
I was a maid of honor and I found out
three days before her wedding that my spouse was not
invited of honor.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Your spouse wasn't.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Invited to brides or people? Just do this.
Speaker 6 (12:53):
I don't get it. You're already doing the wedding and
doing the whole circus. Like, just pay that little hundred
dollars plate, let's up. I don't get it, Like what
why are you trying to like me? This big shot
of like your husband can't call, or you're a boy
or whatever. I give plus a right, gibb. I've given
a plus one when I got married because I was like, well,
just bring whoever. Like Caylen didn't bring a significant other.
(13:13):
She brought a good friend and that was okay with that.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Yeah, she told her boyfriend at the time, you don't get.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
No kid exactly, she don't get to come.
Speaker 6 (13:19):
No.
Speaker 5 (13:19):
I asked your permission because I know obviously, like I
don't want you to have to pay for just someone
who's just a friend. But I also don't want to
bring a random if I'm single, I think that's disrespectful.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
So I'd rather bring a girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Yeah, I would as a single person, even if I
absolutely ask. Just to be clear, I love it about
you know, if it's cool depending on the status. And again,
you have every right to tell me no, like no,
like we were just planning on you and you're paying
for it.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
To your day.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
It's fine, we're getting married next year and we're finishing
up our list. But every name on it has either
the partner we know or it will say plus one.
I think it's proper etiquette, and I guess it's how
Danita Listener number one texted that it does have to
do with what the invitation says. Typically it'll say mister
and missus, or it'll say mister, or it'll say and guest.
(14:05):
But I've also had a plus one where it didn't
say that, so I don't know.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
And I'm not married and never I never have.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
A girlfriend, so I'm always in this position, so I
don't know. Jesse Lope, this is what I've been saying,
This is what I've been saying, waiting on the phone.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Will do more. Fredshell next
Is there any part of your childhood, like any sort
of blankie or or bear or I don't know what
it could be, anything that you, as a grown up
you still have and that it's still maybe part of
the repertoire, you know, maybe it's still in the bed.
Maybe you still sleep with the blanket, Maybe you still
sleep with the bear. Maybe maybe you're a dude and
(00:22):
you're you know me, Mall gave you a bear back
in the day and you've kept it, and no matter what,
it has to be in the bedroom, it.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Has to be looking at you at all times.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I bring this up because there's a psychological trend out
of China that is now appearing in TikTok videos worldwide.
Stressed adults using overside oversized pacifiers to sleep, calm anxiety,
and even quit smoking. So adults using pacifiers now advocates
believe in the nostalgic comfort, but dentists and psychologists worn
(00:52):
of the dental damage, jawstrain, and the risk of suffocation,
experts a pacifiers may provide temporary relief, but real risks
and don't replace healthier long term stress tools. But yes,
you go to someone's house and they have a pacifier,
and you'd be like, what is that? Like, I everyone
to bed now, good night, and some people might you know,
they might put in there on visit line, and some
(01:13):
people might put on I don't know, a face mask
of some kind, or some sort of apparatus on your
hair or something, I don't know what you headband or something,
but no pacifier. But to any of you guys, hang
on to anything from your childhood minimal judgment commentary with
no judgment.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
We are right. I don't think I don't believe you.
You don't believe me that no judgment.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
I'm not the worst culprit at all. You're probably worse
than me anyway.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Yeah, So anyway, tell me about the blanket that you
still sleep with that.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
I know I don't have anything. I don't think I
think you're deflecting right now. Well yeah, but no, I
don't think I have anything.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Nothing.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
I mean, I dated a guy who had his baby blanket.
I've told the story, and I washed it and he
got very ticked off. He said only his mom could
wash it the right way.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Yeah. Yeah, it was a little baby blanket with balloons
on it. Oh yeah it was. I guess it's almost
less about the blanket. Is it is about the commentary
about this?
Speaker 5 (02:09):
There was a whole yea, you know, it was a
whole moment that I.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Took one that could wash it.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Yeah, it was giving.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
It was giving.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
We went back in time.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I was like, okay, yeah, can you imagine like activities
are happening and then they're over and you're like, oh
here and then you.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
No, not that, not that, I don't know. We can't
use that.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
We didn't do that with that, But activity did happen
with that in the bed. I mean it was there
all the time.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Wow, And hey, mommy, can you come over cale and
use my blanket for something?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Like it was dirty?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
And he didn't like that.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Oh no, that was I mean I know that by
There was a blanket that I had as a child
that still exists. I mean, I know it's in the house.
I don't not my OUs and in my parents' house.
I mean it was this little yellow blanket. I know
it still exists. My sister had a U she called
it soggy, but it was like, well that's because it
was driven in spit all the time. But yeah, but
(03:00):
it was, uh, it was like a little square blanket thing.
I don't know what it was. It was not a
blanket because it wasn't that big. It was like a
little square kind of patch and it had a little
tag on the corner, and she'd stick her finger through
the tag and then put her finger in her mouth,
you know, like like missus. You know, she was like
eighteen nineteen when this happened.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
But he missed that. Okay, I'm talking to myself.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Anyway, she was, she was two, and and it was
always wet because the spit would just you know, you guys,
just let that one just go right over anywhere.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I thought it was hysterical, but I actually I was
just testing to see if anybody was listening to me.
But but she knew, she knew the soggy though, like
she knew the wow. Yes, you know, she knew these
specific one because my mom had several of them, and
like if something because god, it was a total meltdown
if something happened to soggy, you know it. So there
were multiple soggies, but and they were all the same color.
(03:54):
But she would know, like if we gave her a
new one out of the box, she'd be like, that's
not soggy. Yeah, it's like, no, nobody did. Definitely is
it's the same brand, It's in the same place.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Is what the name?
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Because I don't know you she was chewing you.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Did you not have like anything as a child that
you called something because that was the only word that
you could say.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I mean I just had a blankye, but that that
was it? So blank. He's better than soggy hockey is
a gross word. I hate that word. I mean, she
was too. I don't know when she came up with it.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Well, this sucking your thumb count someone texting my forty
five year old wife. Oh man, maybe we're calling this person.
I want to talk to this. Well, I need to
understand it.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
For too long too. You didn't hear a secret here, Leonard?
Your wife such a.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Suck your thumb still to this day, I mean, are
we talking like full on thumb, big old thumb in mouth,
fists in the air.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
That moved the whole thing. No, shame to it. She
don't care who is it called in the public. It's
still to this day.
Speaker 6 (04:53):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Wow, Wow, her teeth messed up? No, she has pretty
because i'm your little gap in there. But it's still cute.
Does she stick the thumb in the gap, careful free,
I said the thumb. Brother, I didn't know. Okay, all right,
I gotta this is getting the.
Speaker 7 (05:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I guess it comforts her so she she'll get yourself
sleeping or just out of the blue.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I guess it's her calmness. So look at this guy,
that Leonard, he's in love.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
I want to know what Leonard does that this is
just okay at the house, like it's what it comes
home her thumb.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I want to know what she's hiding about you, Leonard.
I'm an open book. Okay, all right, man, have a
good day. I'm glad you called.
Speaker 7 (05:43):
All right.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I mean, yeah, you get her a pacifier.
Speaker 6 (05:46):
Though, no, no, no, no, that should have been cut
from like age two, Like every day I think about that.
I'm like, I ask my baby's pacifiers soon because I
don't want her to be so relying on it, you know,
I want her to like self sooth and stuff.
Speaker 8 (05:58):
Jason, I'm sorry, but I think that was the problem.
I think my parents took my passifire away too early,
and then that caused me.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
That's that's how this all happened. I changed transfer to one.
I just said too.
Speaker 8 (06:12):
Long, like still I'm too old, right, how old ground
school age?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I was still sucking my transfer of addiction.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
You're not listening to me.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
You both spoke at the same time. No, no, I'm sorry.
I heard sucking and transfer of addiction. I'm sorry. It
took me completely off course.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
It had to be in private, like you would go
in your room and shut the door and then you'd
like secret.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
It would be just like a time thing. It was
this corner of like the sheet like I still position.
But it's so gross. I'm sorry. You thought the same thing.
I looked at you. You had the same look at you.
I'm sorry, it's fine.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I'm not sure enough for this conversation.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Trying you guys. That's not chasing my parents.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
My Parris shook my passifier away, and that's how this happened.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
We are so.
Speaker 7 (07:08):
You thought the same thing, don't you. I look at Polya,
you thought the same thing. So shut up, God, Jason, Okay,
that's some fight. No, there's nothing wrong with what happened.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
It would just explain a lot of There was a prong.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Absolutely, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, Jason. But but
that would be a scientific discovery if that's how this
all went down. If you take your kids pass away,
they gotta fight something.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Don't take early. Yeah, they talk better than they tell me.
These are the radio blocks on the Fred Show, like.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
For running in our diaries, except we say them aloud.
We call them blogs kinky go.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Yes, okay, so deer blog. I know we've been down
this road before.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
But I have a wedding coming up for a friend
and you know, the friend group is tight. So everybody
has gotten their invites rs vps are rolling the in.
But there's some controversy because not everyone on the invite.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
List received a plus one.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
So I got a call that said, hey, you girl,
are you going to you know so and so's wedding?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I say yes. They said, did Big Tim get an
invite too?
Speaker 4 (08:22):
And I said yes, and they're like, hmmm, well that's
funny because my husband didn't get invited and you all
aren't even married. I said, oh, no, hold on it.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I didn't make the invite.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Right, But I was like, hmm, that's interesting. And so
it made me.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Think of the question, like, when you're whole, you know,
doing a whole wedding, should every person inviteed get a
plus one option?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I didn't realize if you were married, that you could
invite just one of the people, right, Yeah, I thought
it was just kind of assumed that if I, if
I'm married, that my wife could come with.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Me, Like I didn't.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
I guess I figured that was a given. Like when
you invited me, you know it was gonna be like, honey,
I'm going to Toledo for a wedding this week, so
I gotta go. You know, Sorry, you have a good weekend,
Like whose wedding is? And I'm so I know them too, Yeah,
I know you weren't invited, like right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I guess the only time that I would. I don't
know what the etiquette is, but the only time that
I would, I would. It's a little gray of a
gray area for me because I typically am not dating anyone,
and even if I were, I'm not married to them,
So like I sometimes will ask, and I know people
think that's rude, but it's like, I don't know. Am
I expected to show up by myself? Maybe I am,
but I guess I would. And people have said to
(09:37):
me before, like, oh, it's rude to ask. I'm like,
but I just tell me no, Like can I bring
someone or not. And if the answer is no, then no.
But I guess it's the etiquette would say it's based
on the way that the invitation's written, right.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
I guess so.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
And I just I just thought, if you have a
wedding and every person you invite, you just give them
a plus one, Whether they take a person or not,
you just offer it because maybe they want to bring,
you know, their bestie to hang with them tonight or may.
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Everybody wants somebody to kiss the some that a wedding,
you know, always sorry girl.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Yeah, weddings are a little weird to go to by yourself,
especially if you maybe don't know the person as well,
Like if it's a family wedding or something, that's one thing,
but I don't know, And I get that it would
be rude to put someone in the spot to like,
hey can I bring someone? But I also know about
situations where people have just brought or RSVP plus one
and they didn't have one and they didn't know. So
I guess I would rather just clarify, like, hey, are
(10:27):
you expecting me or expect can I bring someone? And
if you say like oh no, I've had people say
no it was just you, And it's fine because I
also would understand somebody who's like, I don't need to
pay I don't need some random at my wedding, you
know what I mean, Like, I don't don't go on
like hinge and I wouldn't do this, but like, don't
go get a dating app, you know, don't go match
with somebody and then bring that what I got to
pay for that I even know them, so I get that,
(10:49):
like in the dating world that can be a little
bit weird. But I did not know that you could
invite one half of a married couple and not.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
The other right, and then here you go, you got
your technically single ran over here with Hartman, and now
everybody's looking like, well, why didn't I get an invite?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
And I'm just like, I don't know the proper way
to do this.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
I just if it was me, I think I would
just invite whoever I want to invite and they would
get a plus one. Whatever you do with your plus
one is up to you. But you know, I don't
want to single anybody out. That's how I think.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
That's the easiest way to do this, because then you
don't have this situation where it's like, well, Kiky's boyfriend
got invited, but my wife didn't or my husband didn't,
and I think that's more important than a boyfriend. And
then you get into all that, and then you could
also make the argument, I don't care what you think,
it's my wedding. Well that part, but I also think
if it's your wedding, you're gonna you might alienate yourself
from people by doing it this way. True, you know
(11:41):
what I mean, Like, your friend might be irritated with you,
And I'm not saying it's there right because again it's
your day, but like, why would you leave my husband
out of this right?
Speaker 4 (11:50):
In this particular friend, she says she did not RSVP.
She's like, I'm just not because it's only from me.
And I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
I think married or long term someone should get a
plus one. I understand if someone's single, you're not giving
them one if things are tight money or space, but
I think it shouldn't matter married or long term you've
been dating to him forever.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
I think you both should have plus ones.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
Not going as wild right, I was like, oh.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Boy, I'm with you though about it, just kind of
assuming that people are going to bring a plus one
because you're going to invite couples and you're going to
invite singles, and some of the couples won't come right
because I get when you invite people, you're thinking in
your head, well, three quarters of these people are going
to RSVP, and then because you know how many people
you can, you're going to pay for and whatever. I
guess I figure it kind of all shakes out.
Speaker 5 (12:36):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
I was just like, I don't want to be in
the middle of this. I don't want to be I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Someone texted me.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
I was a maid of honor and I found out
three days before her wedding that my spouse was not
invited of honor.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Your spouse wasn't.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Invited to brides or people? Just do this.
Speaker 6 (12:53):
I don't get it. You're already doing the wedding and
doing the whole circus. Like, just pay that little hundred
dollars plate, let's up. I don't get it, Like what
why are you trying to like me? This big shot
of like your husband can't call, or you're a boy
or whatever. I give plus a right, gibb. I've given
a plus one when I got married because I was like, well,
just bring whoever. Like Caylen didn't bring a significant other.
(13:13):
She brought a good friend and that was okay with that.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Yeah, she told her boyfriend at the time, you don't get.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
No kid exactly, she don't get to come.
Speaker 6 (13:19):
No.
Speaker 5 (13:19):
I asked your permission because I know obviously, like I
don't want you to have to pay for just someone
who's just a friend. But I also don't want to
bring a random if I'm single, I think that's disrespectful.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
So I'd rather bring a girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Yeah, I would as a single person, even if I
absolutely ask. Just to be clear, I love it about
you know, if it's cool depending on the status. And again,
you have every right to tell me no, like no,
like we were just planning on you and you're paying
for it.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
To your day.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
It's fine, we're getting married next year and we're finishing
up our list. But every name on it has either
the partner we know or it will say plus one.
I think it's proper etiquette, and I guess it's how
Danita Listener number one texted that it does have to
do with what the invitation says. Typically it'll say mister
and missus, or it'll say mister, or it'll say and guest.
(14:05):
But I've also had a plus one where it didn't
say that, so I don't know.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
And I'm not married and never I never have.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
A girlfriend, so I'm always in this position, so I
don't know. Jesse Lope, this is what I've been saying,
This is what I've been saying, waiting on the phone.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Will do more. Fredshell next
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